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A Pastor & His Congregant! Writer & Radio Personality Ese Walter Writes About Her Alleged Affair with Popular Nigerian Pastor

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Last night, lawyer, radio personality and writer Ese Walter wrote a piece titled “My Affair With Pastor Biodun Fatoyinbo of COZA“. {click on the link to read more} Common Wealth of Zion Assembly {COZA} is a church based in Abuja, Nigeria and story is about an alleged affair with the head pastor.

After we read this piece, we have tried to reach out to the pastors at COZA to get their side of the story. We haven’t gotten a feedback from them but we assure you that we will keep you updated as soon as we can.

In the piece by Ese Walter, she alleged that she was seduced by her pastor and she admitted to having an affair with him. Ese stated that she has since been plagued with guilt and an extremely heavy heart as she constantly sees her pastor preaching.

She stated that she felt honored as she had been chosen by the pastor to be a part of the work force, and she felt it was a privilege to have been called upon by the pastor to help.

Here is are some  excerpts from the Ese’s blog post.

The cab guy was there to get him the next day and when he arrived, he called to ask why I didn’t accompany the cab to pick him up (again, this was strange but I stopped my mind from overanalyzing the situation as I knew I had no business with his visit to London) About two hours later, he called me and said he would like to see me. When I arrived his hotel, I called from the reception but he asked that I come upstairs. I got to the room and tried to stop my mind from thinking why I was going to his room. As he opened the door and invited me in, I had to speak to my heart to stop its palpitations. My better judgment asked me not to go into the room but the kind of reverence I had for Pasotr Biodun Fatoyinbo bordered on fear and I steeped into that room.

“Care for a drink?” Asked Pastor Biodun Fatoyinbo.

“No sir,” I said.

“You don’t have to be shy Ese, even if it’s alcohol, feel free and order what you want.” I wasn’t sure I heard my pastor asking me to order alcohol. I imagined it was a test and ignored the voice inside that was saying, “I’d have henny and coke please.” He proceeded to ask how I had been coping in London and if I was a committed member of any church. He also said he thought there was something special about me and wanted to know that I had not strayed from my faith. I really thought he had heard I was doing something I shouldn’t while in London but tried my best to focus on the conversation instead of my straying thoughts. He kept telling me to relax and feel comfortable with talking to him. After a few minutes, he asked that we go to the roof of the hotel as his room was a pent suite and had a connecting door to the roof.

While there, he sat on a reclining chair and asked me to come sit on his laps. This was a bit awkward for me and I froze for a moment as I asked why. He said he had told me to feel free with him and loosen up. I found myself strolling to sit on his laps. At that moment, I felt like a little girl who was experiencing something her mind couldn’t fathom. He asked me to kiss him and all I could think about was seeing him preach on the pulpit back in COZA Abuja, Nigeria, which was my home church. He again said ‘feel free Ese.’ And asked again, that I kiss him.

A few hours later, let’s just say, we were rolling under the sheets. It felt as though my mind had paused. I am not saying I was jazzed, (although it’s possible I was in some trancelike state and didn’t know it but I just was so afraid that I couldn’t say or think otherwise.) That was the beginning of this affair. A sexual affair that went on for a little over a week, DAILY!

On how feelings after the affair commenced, she said:

What I couldn’t reconcile the whole time, was how the same person who preached against the very things we were doing (i.e drinking in pubs, fornicating, committing adultery) was the same person endorsing and encouraging it.

At some point, I got really confused about what Pastor Biodun Fatoyinbo and I were doing that I had to ask how he handles it. I will never forget what he said to me. He said and I quote, “I will teach you a level of grace that you don’t understand.” My mind couldn’t fathom that somehow grace was enough covering for not just fornication on my path, adultery on his path and the many lies that was bound to follow what we were doing that was clearly abominable. I somehow dealt with the thoughts and fears that followed on my path. He had said to me that he wanted me to be his girlfriend and he would take me around the world and spoil me with money and things. Somehow, money had never been one of the things that motivated me (I am from a home where all my needs have been adequately met) In all my ‘badness’ through finding myself, I never did things I did for money but more of rebellion against rules and authority.

“Fast-forward a few months later, I was back in Nigeria and my church had become uncomfortable. Anytime I sat in church and listened to Pastor Biodun preach, I felt shame. I finally sent him a message saying I wasn’t comfortable anymore. I was confused and needed to talk about what had happened. He said I should meet him to talk and I did. It was a really weird meeting for me especially when he tried to kiss me at our meeting. I finally realized at this point that he couldn’t help me. I thought God was angry with me and I couldn’t pray so I decided to withdraw completely from COZA. This was the beginning of my mental torture. I couldn’t talk to my family because already, I was the only one attending a different church and somehow my mom never liked the idea. As the days went by I tried to use drinking and smoking to cover up the deep shame and guilt I was battling with. But as soon as the high was over, the thoughts came back and I felt stuck like I couldn’t move forward.”

Ese reports that she tried to speak to another pastor in the Lagos branch of the church.

“I got a chance to talk to Pastor Folarin of COZA Lagos Chapter, popularly called Pastor flo about everything. I made an effort to reach out to him because I realized the right thing to do was talk to an elder in the church and seek some sort of remedy to a wrong I believed had been done me. Instead, Pastor Flo said, Pastor Biodun had confessed to him and they had ‘talked’ about it and somehow that was supposed to be Ok. He asked what it was I wanted coming to talk to him about it when I did, I told him I realized what happened between Pastor Biodun Fatoyinbo and I was wrong and not just that I felt abused and manipulated. I also said I thought it was wrong for Pastor Biodun to go on preaching without taking time to deal with his personal character flaws. I said I thought he was danger to all the young women that attended the church.”

At BellaNaija, we found this story very intriguing. We have tried to reach out to both parties to get a more direct report on the subject. We take issues like this one very serious as we believe that if this allegation is true, then it is indeed an abuse of power. A lot of people have castigated Ese for writing about it. Some have lauded her for standing up for what she believes in.

What are your thoughts. We’d love to hear from you.

479 Comments

  1. Joan

    August 23, 2013 at 4:15 pm

    I do not condone adultery or manipulation or abuse or whatever else allegedly took place, anyone who does any of those things needs to bury their head in shame.
    But as someone said on Twitter, if it had been some random/regular married dude giving her the D for a week, we would never have heard THAT story and it would not have been termed “manipulation” or “abuse” because telling us would have meant that she was calling herself a willing fornicator. But no, it’s a well-known pastor, so she has our attention. Hi Ese, you are famous now…
    Having said that, there are always two sides to a story…so we dey here dey wait. I will certainly wake up early to watch COZA online this Sunday, that’s for sure!!! 🙂

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    • CarliforniaBawler

      August 23, 2013 at 4:46 pm

      You know, that was the exact thought that was on my mind!! We have elevated all these pastors to godlike positions of power thats why she’s going on about being in a trance-like, abusive and manipulative ordeal. However in the same vain, maybe it’s the whole being seduced by someone ‘in the position of power’, sha. I guess she would have felt abused if it were the CEO of a big company or a politician or even a lecturer…add some religious mumbo-jumbo to it and voila!! you have raised the feeling to the power of a thousand.
      I don’t think she did this for attention, which kain attention be that? I think she did it to purge herself and I wonder if she feels that relief she obviously wants so badly now.
      Na wah sha…Na why I don find myself a correct church wey no get pastor, everybody na omo-ijo only elders that help organize the church services, shebi the goal na to congregate with saints??

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    • Joan

      August 23, 2013 at 5:21 pm

      My dear, I do agree with you about the elevation of pastors in this our time o. It is this elevation that causes the fear and intimidation that causes situations like the one above. Adultery is adultery, end of! 🙂 And like you said, I hope she’s relieved now…

    • nathalie

      August 24, 2013 at 7:15 pm

      ABEG my sister wich church be dat? i no mind attend too.

    • Mz Socially Awkward...

      August 23, 2013 at 5:29 pm

      I hear what you’re saying… BUT. It’s the very same reason why Monica Lewinsky, all those women that Tiger Woods cheated with, General Petaeus’ side piece, etc. etc. etc all enjoyed their 15mins of fame. And that’s not because they did the nasty with some regular joe who the public doesn’t give a damn about.

      And ain’t it always the same tale, though? Someone highly respected just throws it all away by getting caught with his pants down… there must be something about being in a position of power and getting away with it that makes the sex electric … And this Ese chick went in hard, sha. Naming names and er’thang. Someone pass the mic to COZA…

    • Lizzie

      August 23, 2013 at 7:21 pm

      Lool, was waiting on my BN people to comment on this story. Linda’s blog didnt help, wanted objective reasoning. she is as guilty as the dude she’s trying to bring down. Am pained sha, Pastor why? which Grace allows this kinda thing?

    • j

      August 23, 2013 at 11:11 pm

      General petraeus.

    • plix plix

      August 23, 2013 at 6:56 pm

      I think y’all should click the link and read her full story before making some of your comments. May be you’ll understand… She isnt looking for publicity, if anything she’s most likely to be worse off in this situation. It bad enough that women are always blamed in such situations, its worse now that the man in question is a ‘man of God’

    • Christy Love

      August 23, 2013 at 9:02 pm

      1000 likes

    • olalere

      August 24, 2013 at 10:35 am

      Interesting and probable post. very touching and eye opening.. now street sense will now call for objective analysis… we need to balance the story and hear from the other side too most likely engage a press briefing or what is necessary. but from this side that we have heard…

      There are contradictions and vagueness is parts of the report. She posted in her comments that she dint anywhere say intimate abuse o..let me quote from Ese’s post earlier today.
      “esewalter
      August 23, 2013 at 8:31 am
      First off, good morning fellow Nigerians, Christians and who ever else is dissing or supporting on this blog. I want to state first and foremost that I never used the term “intimate abuse” in this post. I have never been sexually abused my entire life. However, I have been on about researching abuse generally because I started to realize the reason I had been how I was was because I didn’t have confidence in myself as a human being and I struggled with self esteem for as long as I can remember.”…

      Going to the main post Ese stated..

      “A few hours later, let’s just say, we were rolling under the sheets. It felt as though my mind had paused. I am not saying I was jazzed, (although it’s possible I was in some trancelike state and didn’t know it but I just was so afraid that I couldn’t say or think otherwise.) That was the beginning of this affair. A intimate affair that went on for a little over a week, DAILY!”

      Ese please clear the air on that..

      ___________________________________________________________________________
      There is a very good peculiarity of women, they master dates and time& none of these appeared in the rendition…
      I have not known any issue of this sort to stay silent even in the public world for more than 2months…rumours should’ve spread…or what do you think? Pastor Flo must be a good keeper of secrets.. abi?

      It is interesting to note that the writer’s Facebook posts as well as Blog posts have shown obsession with the abuse topic for a long time as that has been the core of her radio&blog programs… i think there has to be some timing and date synchronization to the reported incidence to take us closer to the feel of what actually happened

      Well.. I don’t know Ese personally o but a holes exist in her presentation- that has no reference names of her friends neither did they have letters written to the likes of mummy Adejumo (and pastors respected Mentors/preachers). The post even betrays her intelligence,boldness& her”mind of my own” spirit that is exhibited in her profile& walls on social media.(So she doesn’t know about letters that you will write and copy a chain of respected individuals)

      my mind asks…is she trying to breed an Oprah Winfrey type of status or what? This is Africa. give us real facts and we head towards the right channel..

      Also,We don’t think it an insult, that she never mentioned her “loving” parents&family being aware of the situation& are they going to learn of it through the blog toohuh Cos from the look of her father-(courtesy of Facebook photos), he will take it up with the church, in confrontations& litigation… or is the family going to react the same way?

      It will be good to hear from the Pastors corner too, so as to get a balanced angle on things

      but more details will be needed o….
      Street credibility demands it… these things happen and in each case, lets get more burden of your mind, Ese. Just cede the details and other angles to it so it wont be a typical African movie that films the start actor from start to finish without the relationship of his environment

      .. waiting jare… Ese lets get to the crust of this

    • Amara

      August 23, 2013 at 7:40 pm

      but he isn’t a random man, he is a pastor that was going to teach her another level of grace…I dunno if it is jazz but some pastors seem to have an inexplicable hold on members who revere them more than they do God. if a pastor has exalted himself to that position, he has a fiduciary duty not to abuse it… I have heard of cases where so called men of God use deliverance to do sex… I have never seen cos that one, i will not hesitate to give the guy a resounding slap (1) to drive the demon speaking through him (2) if he is bold he should tell people why i slapped him

    • Christy Love

      August 23, 2013 at 9:04 pm

      Agree.

    • Christy Love

      August 23, 2013 at 9:05 pm

      Agree with Amara

    • chi

      August 23, 2013 at 11:57 pm

      I know who you are

    • olad

      August 24, 2013 at 10:31 am

      Interesting and probable post. very touching and eye opening.. now street sense will now call for objective analysis… we need to balance the story and hear from the other side too most likely engage a press briefing or what is necessary. but from this side that we have heard…

      There are contradictions and vagueness is parts of the report. She posted in her comments that she dint anywhere say intimate abuse o..let me quote from Ese’s post earlier today.
      “esewalter
      August 23, 2013 at 8:31 am
      First off, good morning fellow Nigerians, Christians and who ever else is dissing or supporting on this blog. I want to state first and foremost that I never used the term “intimate abuse” in this post. I have never been sexually abused my entire life. However, I have been on about researching abuse generally because I started to realize the reason I had been how I was was because I didn’t have confidence in myself as a human being and I struggled with self esteem for as long as I can remember.”…

      Going to the main post Ese stated..

      “A few hours later, let’s just say, we were rolling under the sheets. It felt as though my mind had paused. I am not saying I was jazzed, (although it’s possible I was in some trancelike state and didn’t know it but I just was so afraid that I couldn’t say or think otherwise.) That was the beginning of this affair. A intimate affair that went on for a little over a week, DAILY!”

      Ese please clear the air on that..

      ___________________________________________________________________________
      There is a very good peculiarity of women, they master dates and time& none of these appeared in the rendition…
      I have not known any issue of this sort to stay silent even in the public world for more than 2months…rumours should’ve spread…or what do you think? Pastor Flo must be a good keeper of secrets.. abi?

      It is interesting to note that the writer’s Facebook posts as well as Blog posts have shown obsession with the abuse topic for a long time as that has been the core of her radio&blog programs… i think there has to be some timing and date synchronization to the reported incidence to take us closer to the feel of what actually happened

      Well.. I don’t know Ese personally o but a holes exist in her presentation- that has no reference names of her friends neither did they have letters written to the likes of mummy Adejumo (and pastors respected Mentors/preachers). The post even betrays her intelligence,boldness& her”mind of my own” spirit that is exhibited in her profile& walls on social media.(So she doesn’t know about letters that you will write and copy a chain of respected individuals)

      my mind asks…is she trying to breed an Oprah Winfrey type of status or what? This is Africa. give us real facts and we head towards the right channel..

      Also,We don’t think it an insult, that she never mentioned her “loving” parents&family being aware of the situation& are they going to learn of it through the blog toohuh Cos from the look of her father-(courtesy of Facebook photos), he will take it up with the church, in confrontations& litigation… or is the family going to react the same way?

      It will be good to hear from the Pastors corner too, so as to get a balanced angle on things

      but more details will be needed o….
      Street credibility demands it… these things happen and in each case, lets get more burden of your mind, Ese. Just cede the details and other angles to it so it wont be a typical African movie that films the start actor from start to finish without the relationship of his environment

      .. waiting jare… Ese lets get to the crust of this

    • kema

      August 25, 2013 at 11:18 am

      With all due respect what u just said doesn’t make any sense at at all

    • me

      August 23, 2013 at 7:53 pm

      good thing she came out, afterall the senior pastors tried to sweep this under the carpet. Its one of the reasons i hate new generation churches! no accountability…yes he is human and he can fall but he is not allowed to carry on with business as usual

      The comments here hating the girl are just sad! thats why victims of anyform of abuse find it hard to come out in Nigeria. God will really need to deliver us from this mentality of pretending all is well when it is not

    • Christy Love

      August 23, 2013 at 9:07 pm

      me like!

    • D

      August 23, 2013 at 11:37 pm

      but she wasnt abused tho, she had a sexual affair with him, nobody forced her to do it. I agree that she must have been manipulated but most men manipulate girls to sleep with them, thats how they get sex. Its just like a girl saying someone like wizkid manipulated her to have sex with him because of his position of power. She just was feeling guilty about the affair but please she shouldnt call it abuse, calling it abuse is trivializing actual sexual abuse

    • Karen

      August 24, 2013 at 5:57 pm

      Abegi! Old generation churches are full of homosexuals and scandal too…so they are not immune to this!

    • Ibi

      August 23, 2013 at 8:19 pm

      Sometimes we need to remember we worship God not the Pastor. At the end of the day they are mere men. Well maybe not ‘mere’ but a man is a man. Many at times Pastors are also divorced from reality as a result of all the adulation from the congregation. Its time to wake up

    • Christy Love

      August 23, 2013 at 9:08 pm

      another likey!

    • jcsgrl

      August 23, 2013 at 9:41 pm

      Joan don’t be silly! You truly believe this girl put herself out there for fame? Oh puhleeze. Go and read her blog and you will see the full story. Apparently this man has been spreading his seed from Ilorin to Abuja. Touch not my anointed my ass! I bet that’s the same crap Saul was feeding to David when the anointing had left him. I could say Pst B should go confess and repent blah blah but I tell you the man is past gone. Conscience has been seared. He’s a super power. The sickening and most shameful thing is his wife will support him. Stand by him and curse every spirit of jezebel that is trying to bring her husband down. I also learnt she is very aware of his philandering ways but wetin woman go do. Is it to leave all this pomp and pageantry and start as nobdy from the bottom because of a radio chic? Mbanu! God forbid. They will just mellow these under the carpet, cry bloody murder that devil is trying to bring them down at the height of their breakthrough, the church will fast and pray and few months after things will return back to normal.
      But I tell you Ese you have made a daint in his heart. B4 he thinks of the next affair again, he will think twice. He might not stop but he will reduce that is until either God gets him well well or he’s damned. Either way I applaud you girl! And I encourage other women to courageously come up and tell ur stories even if you don’t want to name names so that some of us will run as fast as our legs can carry us and warn our daughters and sisters from these predators masquerading as people of the cloth. VERY LONG HISSSSS!

    • nene

      August 24, 2013 at 12:44 am

      i love this comment. this ese girl has a conscience and feels guilty. this is a cry for help, not a cry for fame. i believe she needs counselling and she needs to be reassured that God has forgiven her and he loves her. it will take a while for her to heal properly, but Ese YOU ARE BRAVE and my prayers are with you. what a randy man, he cannot even be called a pastor, a ma with no conscience, he could not advice this girl or intercede on her behalf. God will judge all these fake men that abuse his name.

    • NAINI

      August 24, 2013 at 3:49 am

      You are fond of making retarded comments on here and I hope this will be your last! I wonder who lets people like you use the internet.
      So you have concluded that her story is true and that the man in question is an adulterer, and that his wife will support him. See your life??? No evidence at all but a blog post! This is why people get burnt alive in Nigeria. Geez.

      Then you go so far as to say she definitely NOT doing this for fame. You are a dumb as those who say she is doing for fame. She may be doing for someone else and will get paid handsomely afterwards. She may be retarded and have just come up with a fictitious story. She may have experienced every single thing accounted here, WE DO NOT KNOW. And I KNOW YOU DO NOT KNOW. My advise to you is, you might think you’re anonymous but if your comments are some sort of reflection of your real self, you need to get help, and fast!

      JUNGLE JUSTICE WILL PERISH NIGERIA. THINK BEFORE YOU SPEAK!

    • richard

      August 25, 2013 at 6:15 pm

      What abuse is she talking about???? Two consenting adults get into an “illicit affair”, and you call that abuse??? For all you talking about manipulation, please check the dictionary for the meaning. To have repeated intercourse with a married man, enjoyed every bit of it (obviously because she kept going, so much so that she even paid the hotel bill at a point from what she said) you call that manipulation???? Oh puleaseee! Am not saying what the pastor did ( if he actually did it) is right, all am saying is that this is not a case of abuse or manipulation. She is not a victim, she is a co- partaker in adultery and as such she is as guilty as the pastor (if her claims are true). i know her type, she would finally regret this her juvenile approach to such a sensitive matter which she played a major role in. no apologies from me to Ese. my apology goes to the pastor’s wife who was blind to another woman filling her role. lastly, why is she just speaking up now???? She probably isnt getting his attention anymore because the pastor has repented or does not find her attractive any more, and she think its time to bring him down? shame on you Ese! i stopped been sentimental ever since i left Nigeria. i think and analyse issues based on their merit and not based on emotions. If you call it psychological abuse like Ese called it, she should see a psychologist.

    • sophie

      August 31, 2013 at 11:24 am

      niceee post jcsgrl…..we have all forgotten REV KING who manipulated his members to do all sorts, even sleeping with people’s wives, remember the saying that goes” religion is the sigh of the oppressed, the soul of a soulless world, religious is the opium of the masses” so nobody should really castigate the lady because if u ve ever been abused in anyway you’ll knw wat this is….definitely not for fame, becos it comes with a stigma.

    • Anonymous

      August 24, 2013 at 7:07 am

      If it was a regular married jo it wouldn’t be manipulation or abuse because the person isn’t in a position of power. The accused is a trusted person who guides a congregation. Lots of young girls and women will have contact with him. If you read the comments on her blog there is a comment from someone who wasn’t as bold as Ese to write her own name who claims to have experienced such from this same pastor whilst he was still in Ilorin. She was 16 at the time. So what makes this form of confession a necessary and well applauded one is the role this pastor plays in society. We need to start holding this people accountable. these things have to be addressed and the way we handle this determines whether other people who have been similarly manipulated will be given the courage to speak up.

    • bambi

      August 24, 2013 at 9:20 am

      Hi Ese,we all do feel for you strongly.
      we all make mistakes in life and even pastors do,its a big mistake only God can forgive and heal.

      But i pray you do find the peace you plan to have,IS HE THE ONLY MARRIED MAN you have slept with or dated?, or you just decided to focus on him—-? coz i hope you realise you have just let the dogs out now,

      Why won’t you name all the married men you have made mistakes with(so you can have inner peace) ,DEF your so called friends will help you mention them (or you think nobody knows) and then be ready for the big blow out from wives of men that will be mentioned.(but then the message you trying to pass across to women in COZA, will then be misunderstood,knowing you have been seeing other married men and the man of God was just one of them) how do you intend to handle that?

      Also what about the other sins you have committed,or you just chose this because its fornication with a Man of God? you could also teach women a lot by sharing as you have shared this.
      “he who has no sins should cast the first stone” and you have just done.

      So since you have gone social media route,i do pray you are ready.
      But if truly God asked you to go this way then surely he will help you.
      And surely God is love,he will surely forgive us all our sins including Men of God.

      Also Ese Think about your future and the end of the matter,you plan to marry and have a good job and a peaceful life,but as niaja your country (you know better)— you will certainly need God after all these and ENSURE you live a completely holy life else the same social media helping you now will mess you up again.So really i hope you have a well planned out future map.

      As for the pastor involved his human and we all do care about him as we care for you,am sure his prepared for this !

    • Lu

      August 24, 2013 at 11:26 am

      Hey bambi,sure, its because the Church ought to be the light of the world, not the quencher of the light in the world. If u read thru Ese’s story well, u’ll also find out she confessed to doing some other bad stuffs, but thats not the point here, the point is why cover up sin and lie just to protect the image of the pastor who says its the level of grace that permits him to fornicate; lying in the name of the Lord!
      Come off this! I applaud Ese for opening up her own sins which she felt terrible about.

    • atoloye folahan

      August 24, 2013 at 9:58 am

      please send me the internet site for COZA

    • olalere

      August 24, 2013 at 10:36 am

      Interesting and probable post. very touching and eye opening.. now street sense will now call for objective analysis… we need to balance the story and hear from the other side too most likely engage a press briefing or what is necessary. but from this side that we have heard…

      There are contradictions and vagueness is parts of the report. She posted in her comments that she dint anywhere say intimate abuse o..let me quote from Ese’s post earlier today.
      “esewalter
      August 23, 2013 at 8:31 am
      First off, good morning fellow Nigerians, Christians and who ever else is dissing or supporting on this blog. I want to state first and foremost that I never used the term “intimate abuse” in this post. I have never been sexually abused my entire life. However, I have been on about researching abuse generally because I started to realize the reason I had been how I was was because I didn’t have confidence in myself as a human being and I struggled with self esteem for as long as I can remember.”…

      Going to the main post Ese stated..

      “A few hours later, let’s just say, we were rolling under the sheets. It felt as though my mind had paused. I am not saying I was jazzed, (although it’s possible I was in some trancelike state and didn’t know it but I just was so afraid that I couldn’t say or think otherwise.) That was the beginning of this affair. A intimate affair that went on for a little over a week, DAILY!”

      Ese please clear the air on that..

      ___________________________________________________________________________
      There is a very good peculiarity of women, they master dates and time& none of these appeared in the rendition…
      I have not known any issue of this sort to stay silent even in the public world for more than 2months…rumours should’ve spread…or what do you think? Pastor Flo must be a good keeper of secrets.. abi?

      It is interesting to note that the writer’s Facebook posts as well as Blog posts have shown obsession with the abuse topic for a long time as that has been the core of her radio&blog programs… i think there has to be some timing and date synchronization to the reported incidence to take us closer to the feel of what actually happened

      Well.. I don’t know Ese personally o but a holes exist in her presentation- that has no reference names of her friends neither did they have letters written to the likes of mummy Adejumo (and pastors respected Mentors/preachers). The post even betrays her intelligence,boldness& her”mind of my own” spirit that is exhibited in her profile& walls on social media.(So she doesn’t know about letters that you will write and copy a chain of respected individuals)

      my mind asks…is she trying to breed an Oprah Winfrey type of status or what? This is Africa. give us real facts and we head towards the right channel..

      Also,We don’t think it an insult, that she never mentioned her “loving” parents&family being aware of the situation& are they going to learn of it through the blog toohuh Cos from the look of her father-(courtesy of Facebook photos), he will take it up with the church, in confrontations& litigation… or is the family going to react the same way?

      It will be good to hear from the Pastors corner too, so as to get a balanced angle on things

      but more details will be needed o….
      Street credibility demands it… these things happen and in each case, lets get more burden of your mind, Ese. Just cede the details and other angles to it so it wont be a typical African movie that films the start actor from start to finish without the relationship of his environment

      .. waiting jare… Ese lets get to the crust of this

    • uzaw

      August 24, 2013 at 11:25 am

      I will join you as well Joan

    • Don'tBeAnAssHat

      August 24, 2013 at 12:26 pm

      Don’t be an asshat. You do realize that a reason for speaking out is to exemplify forms of abuse that you might otherwise have overlooked. I don’t think having any affair is wrong in itself, but people (like pastors and teachers) should be careful not to take advantage of the respected status that other people have accorded them

    • Mathew Onwenu

      August 24, 2013 at 4:53 pm

      I thought of this yesterday but beyond this,she sounded too saint,holy and faultless. She never admitted any fault of hers in what transpired. Soldiers do fall! And they rise again. A Pastor is a human being and that does not portray him as a saint who can’t sin but much is expected of a man God. The God that called him will cleanse him. Those who stand should be careful so that they won’t fall. And to bloggers, becareful how you write things because God has not made you a judge. Even if you fair a Pastor, as she said, and he asked you to kiss him, but you didn’t have the intention of doing it, would you have done it? Bible says when the children of God gathered, satan came among them. Every Christian should be careful he that will come will soon come.

    • toks

      August 25, 2013 at 3:31 pm

      The pastor does have some level of power/authority…he is a leader and therefore has the ability to manipulate this woman which why is it called “abuse or whatever”. The lack of authority a “normal guy would have over her makes the dynamics of the relationship a little different. I would be careful and not dismiss the power religious leaders have over their congregation and the ability to abuse it.

    • Amina Yahaya

      August 29, 2013 at 10:18 pm

      Lol.

      This girl had a one night stand and then felt bad…. No it was only 2 nights ( because he told her to come back as she forgot her phone…. No em sorry it was 3 night stand only (because she liked the sermon and it was cold in London anyway) …. My sincere apologies it was 4 times !…. Ah Ah it was 5.. then…….6……7. …. Gosh there was something sweeeeet she was determined to keep forever going here o!

      But I guess the fine man had to get back to his wifey !!!! SO SHE WENT MAD WITH ENVY AND HATRED. .. London Big Girl there are many other single blokes in town. PLS GO FIND YOUR MATE!!!

    • ignorantyou

      April 7, 2016 at 12:46 pm

      You are a fool for posting this. I have experienced a similar thing and the person was also related. I tried to commit suicide twice. It’s called hypnotism. I was even a virgin. I know what she feels exactly. Its called seduction and manipulation. Its an abuse of power you know you have over your victim.

  2. AAO

    August 23, 2013 at 4:18 pm

    I think this is cheap publicity. If you have healed and you truly want to help him this is certainly not the right way. Pastor Biodun is first a man before a Pastor. Everyone makes mistake but I will still say he didn’t force you into anything you didn’t want to do. keep your story to yourself. Two consenting adults and that’s it .what you really need is counseling or wholeness therapy not Social media popularity. Its not a popularity contest darling. don’t forget people know you and am one of those people and I know what you can do but this time girl you went too far

    • Leah

      August 23, 2013 at 5:19 pm

      Thank you! This reeks of cheap publicity. I don’t go to church and I am not affiliated with any religion, but I fail to see what the problem here is. You slept with the pastor, so what do you want a cookie? This was an adult consentual relationship period. There was not force or abuse here. The pastor was cheating on his wife and you were sleeping with a married man. There was no crime committed, and I don’t know why people hold these snake old salesmen to a higher moral ground than the rest of us. The man is running a business (a racket in my opinion) targeted at the desperated and the gullible, and it would be naive to expect any thing short of human behavior from him. You on the other hand woman, should close your legs to married men and learn to take responsibility for your actions. No news here, move along.

    • Iris

      August 23, 2013 at 5:54 pm

      I see your point about how the story only broke because he’s a pastor but at the same time that’s exactly the point. He is in a position of leadership and if this is true then he has abused the power he has and needs to be exposed so that people at the church (if they are not in denial) know what they are dealing with. This is not an affair between two members of congregation. This is an affair between a church member and a person who is supposed to be a spiritual leader and guide, a person who binds people in marriage and stands at a pulpit to call it a holy institution and probably preaches against fornication, and is in the position to influence how people practise Christianity. Honestly when it comes to church matters, people’s common sense flies out the window. I just hope other women learn from this to be cautious. Any rational man who is married won’t ask you up to his hotel room. He’ll even be scared that you may falsely accuse him of rape. So if any one, spiritual counsellor or not wants to see you in his hotel room, RUN FOR YOUR LIFE.

    • me

      August 23, 2013 at 7:37 pm

      but she has met the top pastors in the church and they all tried to sweep it under the carpet so what should she do? me thinks its brave coming out, she has helped saved one or two souls

    • Yemisi

      August 23, 2013 at 8:48 pm

      You forget that she needed closure and he didn’t grant her the opportunity for closure, he should have addressed the matter with her and ended it!

    • Laurie

      August 24, 2013 at 2:56 am

      I agree with AAO. What kind of abuse could possibly be given to a lawyer for one whole week?! Bring this matter before a judge and you will probably be disbarred. This is a story of an emotionally sick girl.

  3. Olulu

    August 23, 2013 at 4:18 pm

    Hmmmmmmmmm, not a new or strange thing, na only God know who dey truly serve Him. May God help us all.

  4. Fashionista

    August 23, 2013 at 4:20 pm

    My mouth is still open from the cocktail of feelings I am experiencing after reading this piece! For some reason, this Ese strikes me as one who is trying to come across all goody goody and that it was infact this pastor Biodun that “forced” himself on her. From what I read above, girl you weren’t forced oh and neither were you raped; you were an adult who despite the alarm bells ringing in your ahead went ahead and did what you did. Your pastor asks you to sit on his lap, you too you siddon, then he asks for a kiss and you too you “felt free”.

    Pastors and men of God are not GOD! they fall short sometimes just like regular human beings and while I don’t condone it because they have been put in authority, I find it quite irresponsible of Ese to now publish such a personal story for all to read all because you have a hard time dealing with your guilt. Next time, learn to be responsible for your actions rather than publishing a free show here, impacting families, congregations and even other pastors that aren’t directly involved in the matter. kai! she now even posed for picture!

    • Person

      August 23, 2013 at 5:12 pm

      You, my dear, are not just ok. .Pardon me o, but it is just my opinion. From what you have written. Irresponsible? Impacting? Congregation? Taloni congregation were? (I will translate: Who owns the assembly of mad people?) Did she not report to another Pastor in the church? Didn’t that Pastor say, “we’ve talked?’ Errm, she the young boy Albert Odulele abused should not have made it public too? Please have several seats!

    • me

      August 23, 2013 at 7:39 pm

      thank you ojare

    • Sage

      August 24, 2013 at 5:30 am

      May God bless you.

    • lush

      August 23, 2013 at 5:23 pm

      Thank you ma. Very well said!

    • Omon

      August 23, 2013 at 6:06 pm

      This is already very ugly and disgraceful, but to come up here and make it public makes it even more shameful!….Ese or whatever you call yourself, I seriously think you made a big mistake for choosing this approach…You have to change your ways bcos it seem obvious to me that you are in the habit of sleeping with married men…Reflect!

    • Iris

      August 23, 2013 at 8:33 pm

      And which approach should she have chosen? Did you read this at all?What did she not try to do before going public? She is in the habit of sleeping with married men because she slept with one married man abi? With your reasoning the pastor must be in the habit of sleeping around with multiple girls himself. It is because of people like you that girls who are raped will never come out to talk *hiss* She alone should change her ways, meanwhile there were two people were under the sheets. Nonsense. Please don’t let me get uncivil here.

    • Easy now!

      August 23, 2013 at 9:13 pm

      Thank you so much dear. I tot d same. I’m a woman nd seriously I kind of don’t ve sympathy for this lady if these allegations r true. However, if she was raped or jazzed or underage I would ve had sympathy for her nd say so many condemning words to the pastor alone. But dear Ese from ur story, u r did those things willing. When u kept on sleeping with him in London, we no hear o. From telling u to come to his hotel room is no 1 red flag, u should ve known dear that something is fishing. Ok, that doesn’t seem like a red flag, k. He told to sit on his lap, haba that one nah spiritual too? *Smh* I don’t think u r innocent neither is he. Personally dear I don’t think u will heal or ve a closure by doing this, because the social media is going to bastardise d whole issue nd news like this spread like wildfire. As 4 d pastor hmmn, only God knws what the world is turning too. Like my mumsi used to tell me, “just be a neutral church member, pay ur tithe, pay ur offering, go 4 evangelism nd win souls, but never try to get close to the authority of the church becos if u do, u r looking 4 trouble”. Churches these days r questionable.

    • As myself

      August 24, 2013 at 3:08 am

      From a write up you can ascertain her xter.
      Pls unless you have been in her shoes, I suggest you don’t speak.
      En n power tend to use their power to manipulate young women, emotionally abuse them.
      I ve been a victim of this and it was a padtor in city of David, so yes I understand ese.

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    • Toyinfabs

      August 24, 2013 at 8:09 am

      Talk is cheap. It’s easy to speak big English when you have not been a victim. Forget that she is an adult, forget that she is a lawyer. get to Google and research what abuse really means and then you will understand. It is not until someone rapes you, it’s not until you are underage. This thing happen to several women everyday. It’s probably happening to you. That boss that will squeeze your shoulder when he is passing just because he knows you wont slap his hands off, the boss that will assign you to a project he directly supervises just to have access to you. It will take an entire blog post to address this. But I will suggest you read this article ( http://moskeda.wordpress.com/2013/08/23/he-also-asked-me-to-sit-on-his-laps-what-people-dont-want-to-hear-or-say-about-their-pastors/). I have tried to see this situation in a what if scenario. What if Ese is someone that was struggling with sexual sin. Someone who was a bit addicted to sex, someone who found it hard to say NO to men. What if it was her search to be a better person that led her to church. She was in church, she had a shepherd, she felt safe and secure. What if at the point of entering the hotel room, her old nature couldn’t resist the temptation. Imagine the environment, the handsome man, the suave, eloquent, charismatic man and then she couldn’t help it and got into it and then kept going back for more. what if afterwards she realised she was wrong, she was hurt, she felt used, she felt betrayed. This was someone she trusted to guide her, someone who when she had a bout of conscience told her he will teach her a level of grace that she can’t understand. She feels vandalised, she needs closure, she doesn’t get it.
      I totally understand Ese. she goes through this emotional upheaval desperate for healing but there is none forthcoming. She makes effort to see the pastor, it’s obvious that he is unrepentant, he even tries to kiss her.! What would you do in her shoes? Keep quiet so the unrepentant predator can continue?

    • ROYALHOTTIE

      August 24, 2013 at 8:16 am

      i have been in her shoes before. i was serving as P.A to a bishop’s wife and was asked to serve a snr. pastor in church tea and cookies after service which i did . on my way out this man called me back to give him a kiss and iwas at first shocked then repiled in yoruba’se ko se pe e tin ya were'( hope u r not running mad) banged the door and left. he wud call me severally at odd hours and i wud switch off my phone. am not saying am a super gal butshe had the right and opportunity to walk out or not to step into the hotel room. like she said, whenever i see this pastor preach in my church at that time, i wud quietly walk out cos as far as i am concerned there is nothing for me to hear from such a man.
      having said that, i still maintain that coming public after a long while does not make sense. if she had any conscience, she wud have felt this so called guilt after the first night but no she went in for more and even paid for the room once. which kain yeye abuse be dat? abegiiiii. she kept quiet after the whole show until she came back to naija, then the guilt surfaced abi? shior! they are both guilty! if he had any guilt troubling she should first confess to God and the pastor’s wife am sure this wud heal her.

    • madman

      August 24, 2013 at 12:23 pm

      Pls tell us more about the pastor at city of David in Lagos? The church for fornicating youths. I would love to hear your story.

    • Jamce

      August 25, 2013 at 10:21 am

      As an adult you have a choice, so stop playing victim here

  5. t.c

    August 23, 2013 at 4:23 pm

    I’m nt surprised it happened. Im jst surprised she talked. Datz brave!

    • Mz Socially Awkward...

      August 23, 2013 at 5:35 pm

      AND put her picture up there. Because you just know that her family, her friends, her neighbours, maybe people she works with (if she’s got a job, or else people she goes to school with) and a whole lotta strangers now know her and all her bizwax…

    • Just saying...

      August 23, 2013 at 7:38 pm

      Abi o @ picture
      Why put ur picture if u aint lookin ‘to be known’
      Y d picture?, just answer me!

  6. Vanessa

    August 23, 2013 at 4:24 pm

    I refuse to comment until I hear the pastor’s version.

  7. Vanessa

    August 23, 2013 at 4:31 pm

    By the way, why were you so bothered about the guilt? Didn’t you have other things occupying your mind?Secondly, you didn’t sound coaxed. After the first time, you should have stopped but you didn’t. Writing this is not very wise because you are trying to destroy the man. He didn’t destroy you. He didn’t rape you. He only allowed you “to feel free”.

    • ryanne

      August 24, 2013 at 12:04 am

      she is just jobless and can u imagine her posing for pics when she should be hiding her face in shame. now that you have written to the world about about it, Ese, what do u stand to achieve?

  8. Concerned_Boyfriend

    August 23, 2013 at 4:35 pm

    Wowzer!!!… God bless you Ese for sharing your story. The first step to redemption is confession. You’ve done that. It shall be well with you.

  9. Odine

    August 23, 2013 at 4:35 pm

    Being the Nigerians we are, we will be more tilted to bash this girl than empathise with her and see things from her side. I’m not saying we see her through rose tinted glasses because she in fact was very clear at not painting herself as a ‘goody-two-shoes’. The cycle and manipulation of abuse, sexual or otherwise is a lot more serious than we all think. Who in their right minds will open themselves up to people to haul insults at them all in the same of fame or what? While many people will attack this girl and call her all the horrible names in the book but it really wouldn’t matter because she has not claimed to be blameless but admitted her participation, guilt and shame. There is too much of these evils being perpetuated in churches, to children and its constantly being shrouded in the veil of secrecy or that abused phrase of screaming blasphemy or ‘touch not my anointed’. The greater sin for me is the sin we commit in the name of God. For what it is worth, I chose to understand where she is coming from and I struggle to keep an open mind at all times, not something many people can do. So Ese, you’ve done right by your conscience, by God and by your peace of mind.

    • Chimea

      August 23, 2013 at 4:43 pm

      Awesome & objective response. Confession is good for the soul. While she admitted to mea culpa she felt it was right for the people to know. Powerful men can have that mesmerizing pull on some women. This is a purported man of God, that’s what makes this egregious!

    • kemio

      August 23, 2013 at 5:14 pm

      i totally agree with you

    • jcsgrl

      August 23, 2013 at 5:39 pm

      Thank you at Odine. And we wonder why women choose to die and suffer in silence when they are abused. This is why women don’t talk. Bcos her fellow woman will accuse her, why did you go to the hotel? why did you kiss him? Perhaps you led him on. Rubbish! Rubbish! As for me, sorry I believe her. I lived in Abuja and was never comfy with the church or that man. Unfortunately, these are the breed of superstar pastors we are seeing these days.
      My dear Ese, I wish I could give you a hug cos this must have taken guts to expose your self to the acidic tongue of Nigerians. You have been forgiven and I pray you find wholeness again.
      As for the Pastor, please leave him. Move on with your life. Let God deal with him in his own time. Rebuild your life and find another church. But here’s my caution to you and to all women: Please okwa ihure ihe bible si to flee (shebi you see wetin bible talk say to flee). Pls don’t sit or stand there trying to make sense of what is going on. take of your shoes and run like a mad woman as if someone is chasing you. I did it before and looked like a mad woman. I no fit shout! Any situation that is uncomfortable for you, pls give an excuse and run fast without looking back. It is well

    • chichi

      August 23, 2013 at 6:24 pm

      @ odine and jcsgrl, i could give yall a kiss right now

    • Iris

      August 23, 2013 at 7:37 pm

      Dazall. We are our own worst enemies. Plus there are bigger issues here. The way people view pastors in churches is scary. There are people on this website saying “Pastors are not God, they have weaknesses too.” Does that mean their sins should not be pointed out so that they too can ask for forgiveness? When some pastors speak harshly about people and act judgemental nobody remembers they are not God then. When a story broke a few years ago about a Nigerian pastor in London who sexually insulted an under-age boy, someone’s comment was “Touch not the Lord’s anointed. Pastors make mistakes.” So in his / her eyes that one was still anointed. Nobody was talking about the victim. Today it’s an adult female. Tomorrow it could be an under-age one from another church.

    • Thatgidigirl

      August 23, 2013 at 9:51 pm

      @jcsgrl thank you oooo! I can understand what this girl is going through a bit, being that I was almost taken advantage of by a pastor in a well known church I reverred as a teenager. Started with same lines, sit on my leg, kiss me, etc. The scales kinda fell when he tried to take it further, I stopped my volunteer job at church office and just avoided him even after he called to apologize. Looking back now, I believe I am just one of many victims and Lord knows how many went the whole 9 yards with him.

    • zsa zsa

      August 24, 2013 at 4:11 am

      Well said @jcsgrl and Odine. Someone was just gisting me about this COZA church some weeks ago o, before that i had never heard of it….lord have mercy!!!
      I understand exactly what she must have gone through before going public but i am way too tired to tell long stories.
      From what i understand, this lady owned up to her part in the affair…does not claim to be a saint even before joining the church. She strikes me as someone who had struggled in the past and was searching for a relationship with God when she started attending the church.
      For people asking why she is speaking out, how she was not raped and how this is supposed to help….do you know how many other ladies might be in the same position but are too scared or carried away to leave? he conveniently reminded her of “touch not my anointed” to keep her quiet and intimidate her, and even promised to show “her a special kind of grace”
      Some people do not understand the sheer power that comes with being a pastor, president, CEO etc. You can manipulate and bring people to their knees.
      I have witnessed a pastor exercise such control over an entire family…it’s easy, they speak to your very insecurities and once they have you were they want you they start to control you. A certain spiritual leader in Nigeria wrecked my fathers family starting from my grandfather, drove the family apart, people died in the process, i suffered personally because of this. We are still coping with the aftermath. Now tell me if a pastor could manipulate a whole family, how much more a single lady? the effects would be overwhelming no doubt.
      All the same, lets hear what pastor has to say.

    • Noni

      August 23, 2013 at 6:53 pm

      Thanks. Couldn’t have been better put.

    • miri

      August 23, 2013 at 8:43 pm

      I worked with women who experienced rape and sexual violence and I am sure they would appreciate people like you and comments like yours Odine. Thank you.

    • Christy Love

      August 23, 2013 at 9:13 pm

      3 gbosa for this comment Odine!

  10. jane

    August 23, 2013 at 4:38 pm

    My own is from her story,this was CONSENSUAL sex. Pastor did not force her but she chose to obey. Doesn’t she have a mind of her own? The pastor is DEAD wrong obviously,(if this story is even true) BUT she should not make it seem as if its the pastor’s fault. From her story,he did not force her. So why is she now forming holy holy and calling it abuse. Nothing like that. To me,this is a cheap publicity stunt that will get her NOWHERE but only drag her name in the mud. Why kiss and tell? if you feel guilty,go on a holiday and let it out or something. NOT this?!

  11. Jfk

    August 23, 2013 at 4:38 pm

    She did wrong in fucking a married man but she didnt do wrong in telling the world. Its her choice and people should respect that.

  12. Concerned_Boyfriend

    August 23, 2013 at 4:41 pm

    @Joan, SHUT UP!!!. Anyone with a mandate to lead, be it a Pastor, a Manager, a President are held with a higher standard. It is an abuse when people in a leadership role manipulate their subjects for his/her personal gains/satisfaction. The key word here is leadership and manipulation.

    She confessed and owned up to her part of the scandal. We are waiting on your Pastor to do the same.

    • Joan

      August 23, 2013 at 4:52 pm

      You’ll be alright o…keep calm and read carefully before using certain words on others, okay? Calm down…it is never that serious 🙂

    • chichi

      August 23, 2013 at 6:06 pm

      actually joan, C boyfriend is right. Im usually the first person to use that line “its not that serious” but in this case it is very serious. Im with C boyfriend on this. You need to shut up and stop spreading your ignorance. it is because of ppl like you that girls who have been abused are afraid to come out and speak on their abuse…You are suggesting she did this for publicity but i guess you are not looking at the bigger picture here. If you actually read her story carefully, you will see that she tried to resolve this issue within her church. She said she spoke to a pastor in their lagos branch about the situation. They were obviously more interested in avoiding scandal than the spiritual welfare of their flock. I dont know this chick called Ese but i believe every single word this girl she wrote and i am so proud of her for speaking up because i am sure she is not the only girl this man has manipulated. Hopefully parents in that church get to read this and know how to protect their children. And you have the guts to say she is famous now. Can you please tell me what she stands to gain now?? I swear women are their own worst enemies…For those of you waiting for the pastor’s side of the story, are yall really that gullible??..

    • Joan

      August 23, 2013 at 6:29 pm

      @Chichi, you too keep calm abeg…my reference to seriousness was in relation to the fact that we do not know each other so no need for all the shut ups. I was in no way referring to the issue at hand which is very serious and needs to be handled as such. So take it easy nne, no need to say unkind things…we are not fighting!

  13. jbk

    August 23, 2013 at 4:43 pm

    Ese,u are not a victim neither r u a child. Forget the fact he’s a pastor, he’s a man with blood flow to his dick.Why didn’t u walk out on him when he asked u to sit on his laps and kiss him? You wanted it! U r pained cos he used you and dumped you for another gullible church member. Let’s all wait till judgement day!

    • freethinker

      August 23, 2013 at 5:18 pm

      true talk my dear

    • tee-y

      August 23, 2013 at 8:37 pm

      its unfortunate that most of you are criticizing this Lady rather harshly,you are all missing the point ,even if Ese Walter had refused the Pastor ,the fact still remains that the Pastor made a pass at her,so even if she did partake in this sinful act she would have still exposed it to the whole world,this is not something new frankly i am not suprised, the society today has become tolerant of such malpractices in Churches today <they just want to sweep it all under the carpet it so sad ,only God knows who is truly serving him

    • ryanne

      August 24, 2013 at 12:12 am

      God bless u for this comment. i will see what she stands to gain from all this. They both had sex and now she wants him to apologise to her or does she want the church closed down becos she had sex with the pastor. i will say, she is just feeling dumped.

  14. Anon

    August 23, 2013 at 4:44 pm

    I’m hearing of this Church for the first time. She made herself a willing tool. All these women who worship their Pastors, take heed. This is like TO’s story only that she was married. Grow some brains women and learn to say no.

  15. Concerned_Boyfriend

    August 23, 2013 at 4:45 pm

    Folks take time to read her blog. Those of your insinuating rape, I’m not sure where that is coming from. If your Pastor used a bible verse (“Touch not my anointed and do my prophet no harm”) to scare you from confessing, don’t you think it’s a form of abuse ?. Comprehension is a problem for some of you.

  16. Omo1

    August 23, 2013 at 4:46 pm

    Hmm..so now we are criticizing her on trying to be famous cos the person involved is a so called man of God???? I have had an encounter with a well respected so called man of god, but I wasn’t as flimsy headed as Ese. What kills some of these church followers is the thought that they will be offending a man of god so they feel mesmerized or awed with such advances(whatever)

    Yes we are all humans, and no one is above sin but when a person sins with such intent, not like it was an act that happened by chance or accidentally, and was not knowingly repeated, such persons will definitely face judgment. And if it really happened, or Ese is just making up stories?! that we will leave to GOD!

  17. sam

    August 23, 2013 at 4:50 pm

    Dear every1,
    Could we just wait and hear from Pastor Himself. Ese ! You have said your own. Make we hear the other side. Every coin has two sides. Thanks.

  18. Yemisi

    August 23, 2013 at 4:52 pm

    I have a friend who attends COZA and practically worships Pastor Biodun. I’m forwarding this story to her, even though I suspect she is already aware of it. These things happen far too often, and they’re swept under the carpet quickly. I hope many young women learn something from this.

  19. lilz

    August 23, 2013 at 4:53 pm

    Please please please you guys should not just start blaming her..if you’ve never been in her shoes.. and please do not defend the pastor in anyway.. If its true what she has said then its ABSOLUTELY WRONG. and nobody should say ‘TOUCH NOT MY ANOINTED” and all that crap.

    i have been a victim of such from a pastor and i know exactly how it feels. My mum even wanted to beat me ontop the matter because she’s the one that took us to the pastor. When you are in such a position especially when you have been a victim of some form of sexual abuse you become kind of numb.. you are surprised and there’s this strange feeling.. you dont even know yourself anymore, you wont even know how to say NO. Its like you are in a dream or a cage or something..i cant even explain the feeling.
    he picked me up from school then and camped me in a “brother’s” house. said i had issues. it was a two bedroom apartment so i stayed in the guest room and he claimed he was going to sleep in the sitting room. at night i found him on the bed and he asked me to touch him long story short.. i was there for 2 nights and he did it

    i felt charmed..i could not scream, i could not say a word till i finally managed to escape from the house.. told my friend who eventually told my parents…

    i became the bad child.. meanwhile he had told my folks rubbish about ,me before then, they cut my allowance and stuff..it was after it happened that i heard all the things he said… its a long story..

    im a better christian now, and i’ve let it go.. these things happen.. there are pastor and there are PASTORS. Theres no justification whatsoever for such an act from someone who boldly condemns it. PRACTICE WHAT YOU PREACH. A pastor is to lead people to Christ not drive people away and cause them to have disturbing thoughts about God.
    Truth is if they dont repent they will wroth in the deepest part of HELL.

    • Mz Socially Awkward...

      August 23, 2013 at 5:53 pm

      Oh my word, what evil is this? And which God was he serving when he was raping you during those two days???

      Is he still preaching? My luv, as much as I really applaud your ability to forgive… Please, I beg you. Name the church and shame him. Even if you don’t go full hog like Ese, name the pastor. I beg you. Write anonymously to the church or something, print out copies of your experience; even if some won’t believe it, it could help a young girl who’s currently going through or being threatened with what you’ve suffered.

      And it must have been terrible for you. I pray that God will send the fullness of His Love that truly heals, to complete your restoration in every way. Have you forgiven your family? That’s another difficult one to process.

    • zsa zsa

      August 24, 2013 at 5:27 am

      Yes o! Please name the bastard and shame him…you just might save someone else!
      This is exactly what i was trying to stress in my earlier comment.Families just open themselves up for manipulation by so called men of God…imagine pastor picking you up from school and keeping you for 2 days and your parents did not raise alarm!!!!! I just can’t comprehend my peoples obsession with pastors and all things spiritual. May God heal you, i know exactly what you went through. Sometimes it is not enough to just say “let God judge” when there is something we as humans can do…speaking up is a great way to prevent such atrocities from happening over and over again. It is damaging to the soul! Then we’ll just end of with a generation of abused, damaged souls. God cannot come down and solve ALL our problems…..ugh!!

  20. Blessmyheart

    August 23, 2013 at 4:53 pm

    Wow! This is quite a story. If this is true, I commend her for the courage to speak out. I would love to get reactions from the church mentioned. Also, I think she should present whatever evidence she has to avoid all doubt. If her account is true, she didn’t publish this out of spite, she gave the Pastor opportunity to deal with his weaknesses to no avail.
    The truth is the gift and calling of God is without repentance thus; the fact that a man is performing miracles or touching lives does not mean he has a right standing with God. I fear for some ‘men of God’.
    And as the Bible says,”work out your own salvation with fear and trembling”. Pastors are not Jesus and should not replace your Bible and personal relationship with God.
    In the end, the foundation of the Lord standeth sure! and no unjustified attack against a real man of God will stand.

  21. Hurperyermie

    August 23, 2013 at 4:54 pm

    If it is true or not instead of insulting this man of God take your time to pray for him he is a human being like you who has blood running through his veins and flesh on his body, the devil is after them seriously, before man there is God making it MAN OF GOD they are not spirits and all we need to do is to pray for them (if it is true o) and do you know you need to start praying for your own pastor too so that his story will not be the next? Yes u need to so that you will not have to start defending him and thinking of leaving the church or staying and as for the sister did God tell you to expose this to the world? You’ve told one or two persons and you’ve confessed to God I think that is enough if one has the spirit of God in him or her you won’t fall cheaply for anybody, sister pls go and ask for forgiveness becos this man knows how to settle with God and the anointing on him will not go down (God will depart surely) but signs and wonders will still happen, pple will still repent unda his ministry so if it is true or not then God is watching hmmm

    NB: am not a COZA member but am a child of God tanks

  22. Person

    August 23, 2013 at 4:55 pm

    Yup! Nigerians bashing the victim. How nice. Awon oniranu jatijati. Won ti fi ori yin gba paaro all on top of religion.

    Whether or not she’s looking for fame, it was consensual, blah blah blah, it seems like a lot of people are forgetting the real question: why should Pastor Biodun engage in extra-marital affair with the flock he was commanded to take care of? When Jesus was commissioning the disciples in John 21 and He asked Peter to “Feed My lamb”, “Tend My Sheep”, “Feed my flock”, shey “Abuse my flock” was part of that commissioning? “Trying to destroy the Pastor” Errm, no. The Pastor destroyed himself by having an affair and from the look of things, not once but several times. She has admitted her share of the blame and guilt for participation, but Pastor wants to keep pastoring like nothing happened. LMAO. God will forgive Pastor Biodun if it is true, but he must NEVER again be put in a position where he has any sort of influence over women. Yup, that means RESIGNATION. Not that I trust any Nigerian pastor to have any sort of shame to do anything like that. Pity his poor wife.

    • tbaby

      August 23, 2013 at 5:32 pm

      am sorry for you, were u there when it happened. the bible says find ou all things to be sure they are true. if it is true God will be the judge but dont ever open your mouth and insult any body that says he is a man of God unless you can prove otherwise. because if it is not true, you have committed a great sin. remember mariam and moses in the bible, please read your bible very well. dont be a fool

    • Person

      August 23, 2013 at 6:31 pm

      Sorry for yourself my dear! You are the one living in delusion. I should not open my mouth against “anyone that calls himself a man of God”? So I should not talk because someone ‘says’ he is a man of God? What stupid man of God is that? Ori e gbale times 2!!! Instead of you COZA people to go and find the truth about your Pastor, you are all here trying to defend him. No statement since morning. Just damning silence.

    • Toyinfabs

      August 24, 2013 at 8:25 am

      Talk is cheap. It’s easy to speak big English when you have not been a victim. Forget that she is an adult, forget that she is a lawyer. get to Google and research what abuse really means and then you will understand. It is not until someone rapes you, it’s not until you are underage. This thing happen to several women everyday. It’s probably happening to you. That boss that will squeeze your shoulder when he is passing just because he knows you wont slap his hands off, the boss that will assign you to a project he directly supervises just to have access to you. It will take an entire blog post to address this. But I will suggest you read this article ( http://moskeda.wordpress.com/2013/08/23/he-also-asked-me-to-sit-on-his-laps-what-people-dont-want-to-hear-or-say-about-their-pastors/). I have tried to see this situation in a what if scenario. What if Ese is someone that was struggling with sexual sin. Someone who was a bit addicted to sex, someone who found it hard to say NO to men. What if it was her search to be a better person that led her to church. She was in church, she had a shepherd, she felt safe and secure. What if at the point of entering the hotel room, her old nature couldn’t resist the temptation. Imagine the environment, the handsome man, the suave, eloquent, charismatic man and then she couldn’t help it and got into it and then kept going back for more. what if afterwards she realised she was wrong, she was hurt, she felt used, she felt betrayed. This was someone she trusted to guide her, someone who when she had a bout of conscience told her he will teach her a level of grace that she can’t understand. She feels vandalised, she needs closure, she doesn’t get it.
      I totally understand Ese. she goes through this emotional upheaval desperate for healing but there is none forthcoming. She makes effort to see the pastor, it’s obvious that he is unrepentant, he even tries to kiss her.! What would you do in her shoes? Keep quiet so the unrepentant predator can continue?

    • Dodo

      August 24, 2013 at 8:30 pm

      Who command him?

  23. Lola

    August 23, 2013 at 5:00 pm

    If this story is true…God have mercy. If it is false…God have mercy.
    However, this is MY opinion, as Christians we need to uphold Jesus as our standard and not a man of God because that is what he is…a man! David fell a million times yet he was “a man after God’s heart”. Men of God are not perfect but they should be more responsible because they are held to a higher standard and have the power of influence over people which can be a very dangerous weapon if abused. However, I have put myself in Ese’s shoes and the truth is when you respect someone to the point where you reverence them, it becomes easier to compromise your standards just to please them. However this is not to say what she did was right.
    IF the story is true they are both guilty and should both seek the face of God but we need to stop judging them!!! If Ese is looking for fame and fortune by slandering a man of God then she has a bigger force to contend with than brutal comments on social media platforms. If the man of God is guilty of manipulation and abuse of power then he has a bigger force to contend with.
    Let each member of the church decide for themselves what they want to do. The Bible says we should work out OUR own salvation not anyone else’s. Even if your pastor slips occasionally it doesn’t mean he cannot be a blessing to you, God never said he wanted perfect people to work for Him otherwise He’d have no one including you and I.
    If the story is true she definitely did the right thing by coming out, this story might just save some people walking down this path.

  24. Vics

    August 23, 2013 at 5:01 pm

    Hmmm…interesting. It’s a natural law that whatever we sow we shall reap. If she’s lying she will definitely face the consequence and if she’s not I must say that the Pastor has started facing the consequences of his actions as we speak.

  25. Jaycee

    August 23, 2013 at 5:02 pm

    U said he came to the UK and called u to his hotel room,how did he get u number in the first place,are u the only member of his church in the UK? He didn’t call any other person and u kept going to the hotel to meet to him for over a week your mental didn’t torture that time,now u’re talking about mental torture causing u to write this,well whether he is a Pstor or not it doesn’t change the fact that doing this with him is a matter of choice. So this one u’re doing is not the right thing for u to do,don’t allow the devil to use u in destroying his ministry. If all u’ve said is true which I don’t believe amend ur ways btw u n ur God,leave him to God and allow him to dig his own grave.

    • Omo1

      August 23, 2013 at 5:25 pm

      Read the story again ma’m. she said she was selected to join his work force (tho i totally have no idea what that entails) with that i believe the pastor might have her contact details!

    • moph

      August 23, 2013 at 6:08 pm

      This is a silly response, she spoke for herself and not for other people who may have been involved with the pastor…if no one else has come to her with their own story, will she share theirs with her own….some of us just don’t think. we women hate ourselves…..

    • Okechukwu Ofili

      August 24, 2013 at 12:17 am

      Another wtf response “don’t allow the devil to use u in destroying his ministry” huh?

      Is this primary school. And “leave it to God” the classic way to say “let’s not do shit about anything.”

      O your hand is broken…leave it to God. Teacher rape you…leave it to God. LASTMA collect your money…leave it to God. Nigeria….leaving it to God for years and blaming the devil for everything.

  26. Curious Cat

    August 23, 2013 at 5:05 pm

    hmm how do i start, ese i had a similar experience the only thing was i was 17 teen , he even aborted my first pregnancy, he help me financially after a while i hated it cos i couldn’t stand before him in church, i hated my mom for it cos she introduced me to the pastor, am 27 years now about getting married in a months time and i run from so called holy brothers or pastors
    i feel sad cos you are financially independent what else do you need? i bet if you were not financially OK may be if he was your major source of finance like the predicament of most Nigerian girls am sure we wouldn’t be reading this but the favorite Nigerian Line WHO AM I TO JUDGE to each his own may God forgive us for all our sins you might think you are freeing your self but you are killing other people faith thereby turning people away from Christ

    • Okechukwu Ofili

      August 24, 2013 at 12:07 am

      “you are freeing your self but you are killing other people faith thereby turning people away from Christ”

      abegi joor…people just be twisting religion to justify nonsense. Which wan is you are freeing yourself but turning people away from Christ? If pastor rape you are you to keep quiet so that he can continue raping other people and converting souls for christ??? Abegi Ese thanks for speaking out….hang in there.

  27. grace donner

    August 23, 2013 at 5:08 pm

    im sorry ese.you went about it in a wrong way.if you really felt hurt and you are repentant ,you will have at the back of your mind thousands of believers who backslide.you could have pursued a private meeting afterall all the deeds were in private.besides you stand to loose all.wether pastor biodun apologisise or denies he still has his wife and kids and thousands of girls still willing to have a flick of him .but you all men go dey dodge you.na wa.

    • Diseye

      August 24, 2013 at 10:52 pm

      You are the low level of grace the ‘MOG’ was mentioning. I really don’t have anything to say to you. so she would have just swept it under the carpet abi? Did you read the part where she said she tried to talk to him and tried to talk to other elders in the church.

    • grace donner

      August 25, 2013 at 7:54 am

      couldnt she go to the pastors wife,father,mother or family.she never mentioned she got financial gratification.all she wants is to destroy the man.if she had got married after those escapades she would have kept quiet am sure.she just wants a revenge and that shows the kind of person she is

  28. Olaoluwa

    August 23, 2013 at 5:09 pm

    This is not a confession,its a revenge.The bible made me realise there are fake pastors but sincerely you just shared your goodies out…It takes two madam; it takes two to tango…..did he inject you with drugs or used juju on you?….I blame both of you…..that’s what happens when you fail to study your bible and know what God says instead,you follow pastors up and down now you are crying fowl…

    He didnt rape you.And you know hes married.Still you didnt stay clear.

    I think you are a liar, you wanted it and now you got it…..i know i am a woman and most women/adult women like you are quite inquisitive,you saw the signs and you didnt back out,you followed up through n through now you are crying……he manipulated you because you made urself available . ……..the bible says flee flee and flee, not walk or crawl or catwalk….fleeee from every appearance of evil….You saw the signs and you failed to heed.

    Infact i dont think you really feel guilty you just want a pity party. Because if this happens to me and am deeply feeling guilty, i will seek the face to God alone in my closet, there’s a reason Catholics made a confession box….for just you and your God,not the face of Nigerians.No every one knows,dick and harry,knows you slept with your pastor.

    • CarliforniaBawler

      August 23, 2013 at 6:56 pm

      Haaa!!! are you serious? she wanted it??? really?? OMG!!!! I’ll be copying and posting your comment on my Facebook page to show the world what the poster-child for woman on woman violence and bias looks like!! I swear all the things you wrote are things I thought were cliches about people blaming the victim as opposed the abuser. I feel bad for the kids you may have and the people in your life, you judgmental bum.
      And did you really use the catholic confession box to buttress your ignorance?? (with all due respect to catholics out there, but homegirl brought this on)….the same catholic church where young altar boys have been molested and the molestation continued for years because of the shrouded secrecy??
      I’m not one to get person and use bad language especially on social media but this your comment makes me think “Ori e o pe at all”!!!

    • Olaoluwa

      August 23, 2013 at 7:50 pm

      …@carliforniabawler……..I believe you are referring to yourself . Everyone is entitled to their opinion and I stand by mine……if u insult or curse me in anyway…..I wish you back a million times…..did he hypnotise her…the fake pastor will be judged heavily and will she….even if the pastor has no control over himself….she should have had control and said no and fleee. …..what exactly does she want Nigerians to do with the news….to curse the man or kill him….it’s a pity!!!!

    • zoomzoomzoom

      August 23, 2013 at 8:11 pm

      Dear, I don’t see the need to cuss someone out on top third party problem. From my point of view, she wasn’t a minor when this happened, she was having a swell time – her Pastor’s holy -.Both of them are responsible for their actions.Even if the Pastor was interested in committing adultery, does she have to be a willing party? What ever happened to ‘flee from all appearances of evil’? Both of them are onisekuse! The Pastor is an adulterer& she is a fornicator! Using God’s standards, there is no big or little sin, SIN IS SIN before God!

    • CarliforniaBawler

      August 23, 2013 at 9:20 pm

      Just like you stand by your opinion, I have cussed you out and I stand by my cussing…..(God forgive me).
      There’s no rationalizing your comment.You messed up big on that one, It’s okay to judge a woman but not the man abi?? You must have a problem with women, even though you are one. I bet you would go ahead and take abuse and say its your fault….in fact at this point i’m starting to feel sorry for you. I’m not saying she was abused and I’m not absolving her of blame/fault neither am I even for judging the pastor guy, he is just any other man, and if he really did commit adultery, he is in a position of power and so as with his perverted predecessors he has to face the music. Just that next time, you should learn to give an objective opinion about a situation so you don’t come across as a misogynistic self-righteous person….

    • Olaoluwa

      August 24, 2013 at 6:15 am

      …….I believe from the cusses flowing out of your mouth….you are a cussed soul already so I don’t need to say anything more.Did you actually read my comment, I advise you to read it again n again n again….n understand. I don’t think you understood what I wrote before you open ur mouth to cuss yourself……to summarise what I wrote…..she could have said no and flee ……that pastor is also a man with flesh n blood,he s not a saint and should not be worshipped and pastors like this will always be in this world, you can’t eradicate them…..it’s left for you to guard yourself against such knowing you will be at the receiving end. Isn’t she at the receiving end? As she allowed herself to be used…..so many ladies out there expericed such and ran for their life at the first sign. I know what am saying,….my pastor who is also an archdeacon once said he wanted to see me and I saw the signs that he was trying to get me alone with himself… n anytime he asks me to see him….I go there with my younger brother and he doesn’t even say anything meaningful….and that’s how he stopped asking me to see him. There will always be pastors like this in this world n there’s nothing you can do about it,it’s left for you to guard ur self from falling into their trap……..this too shall pass….bro you need to learn to have constructive discussions and not cussing people at the slightest irritation. Cussing is a very unrefined n crude attitude for classless people.

    • Ara-oke

      August 23, 2013 at 7:31 pm

      Shut the F**K up! That is why Nigeria very backward rationalizing abomination in favor of the pastor, anyone who attackes the lady…may thier daughters and sisters find themselves in her shoes….what rubbish…even women are speaking like this….small time they say men are abusing them, husbands beating them….no be so e dey start? how many of you have taken time to find out who the pastor is and how he started his ‘Ministry’, how he left Rhema Chapel and why he moved to abuja from Ilorin,….I bet you all new COZA pikins dont know any of that…lots of Pinping going on in that church…with everyone dressed like onions every sunday(not saying dressing well is bad)…..that place smells of fake!…how can anyone miss it, how many people over 40 years attend that church? who are the ‘financial sponsors’ of the church….I don’t have anything personal against the church but when a church, just like a nation goes astray….people, abegi lets speak out…..aile soro nibere oriburuku!

    • Person

      August 23, 2013 at 9:15 pm

      Thank you o! Ogbon inu e o ni baje laye laye! Fuckery on all sorts of levels. Victim blaming and bashing. So typical of Nigerians.

    • Ytunde

      August 23, 2013 at 11:25 pm

      Olaoluwa u r very dumb for ur comment…wait till your daughter is a victim

    • Olaoluwa

      August 24, 2013 at 5:23 am

      You are the one that is dumb…..and your children shall be victims. I wish you that back a million times…..everyone is entitled to their opinion. And that’s mine,it doesn’t have to go down well with people n I don’t care….she could have said no…..and flee.

    • CarliforniaBawler

      August 24, 2013 at 3:58 pm

      Ooto oro….omo iya isoskuso ni…(true-talk and misyarn are siblings)….I have said the truth and now you are trying to wiggle out of your first comment….what more is there to understand?? you said she wanted it, you said she should have done like the catholics and found a confession box instead of speaking out…Iwo lo mo! I have called you out on your judgmental self-righteous comment and now it is peppering you!! I hope you are all the better for it sha….and that you’d get to treat the peeps in your life with a little more tact than you applied in this case. Yes it is classless to cuss peeps out…who told you I was classy? (or because I have internet access?? I be correct omo-ita..hehehe) on a serious note, I am not one hold back the truth…and in the case of your original comment, all I could infer was that there was a high probability that ori e o pe…simpu!

  29. Orator

    August 23, 2013 at 5:14 pm

    No talk for now, till the Pastor comes out with his own story.Hoping isnt true.i need to hear the gist from my COZA friends,Amaka and co

  30. Robin Hood

    August 23, 2013 at 5:16 pm

    You never talk true. What were you expecting when you sat on his laps? that you were daddy’s little girl? Him resemble your papa? and spare us that ” maybe you were jazzed” crap. You knew what you were expecting when you went up to his room and even “rolled in the sheets with him”.
    That is the problem wit naija chicks. they do something willingly and blame the guy of taking advantage of them. foreign girls know what they want and stand by it. If you did not want anything, why did you not scream for help or fight him off. Maybe the pastor is tired of you(being as cheap as you were) and has seen a new “catch”.
    Your way ain’t straight. If it was some hard working dude who called you up, you would be playing miss high and mighty. Now you have been played by a player.
    I am not defending the pastor- god knows over 70% of them are fake. But abeg make we hear word.

    • Mz Socially Awkward...

      August 23, 2013 at 6:16 pm

      This line you wrote “That is the problem wit naija chicks. they do something willingly and blame the guy of taking advantage of them. foreign girls know what they want and stand by it.”

      I can tell you now that it’s completely false. I can also point you in the direction of HM Prisons Aberdeen where certain Nigerian young men are serving various sentences for rape due to their assumption that “foreign girls know what they want”. Most popular scenario is the offender taking some drunk oyibo chick home from the club, assuming that because she was falling all over him in her drunken state and scantily dressed, she wants “it”. She wakes up naked in his bed the next day and calls the police.

      The plain fact is that a lot of Nigerian men will take sex any way they can get it. With money, manipulation or force. Especially Nigerian men in power. This woman may not have been raped but please don’t be categorizing every other woman who may have been taken advantage of as having spread her legs “willingly”.

  31. Noninie

    August 23, 2013 at 5:20 pm

    The enemy is soo mad at the amount of young people brought to Christ through Coza’s teachings., he’d do anything to bring the ministry down. Ese your story has holes.. But I pray that you would get through this.

    • Sere

      August 23, 2013 at 8:03 pm

      Your comment seems to imply that ‘the enemy’ is using Ese to bring COZA down. Well that is one way to think about it. There are other ways to look at it.
      May be God is using her to steer other people away from falling into temptation.
      May be God is using her to get the attention of a pastor He loves because it will be a shame to save souls for Christ and end up damned. Yes, God called David out when he commited adultery with another man’s wife and got the man killed because he loved him hence the psalm 51 we say today. I have not said your pastor is guilty. My point is, it is not only the devil that has motives, God does too.

    • Titi

      August 23, 2013 at 8:14 pm

      Are you really serious? What amount of young people brought to his church?!!! Have ived in abuja for years and havent even heard about the church!

  32. DOROTHY DANDRIDGE

    August 23, 2013 at 5:21 pm

    She’s not a victim. What the pastor did was terrible and should not be condoned but this girl is trying to paint herself as an abused victim that she is not. I’ve seen this way too many times. Women idolising their pastors, treating them as demi-gods, falling over themselves trying to cater to the pastor, giving the wife subtle attitude, fantasiing about the pastor… If indeed she was an adult when this happened and she wasnt raped, then she was a willing party in this sick, twisted relationship. As a christian, i’m sure she is well aware of what the bible says about fornicatin and adultery but all that went through the window because she was flattered her pastor, a man of influence and power made a pass at her. and now i’m supposed to feel sorry for her? please! She’s just as terrible as the pastor. Neither have any self respect nor any respect nor regard for the pastor’s wife or GOD. And even she suddenly developed a serious case of guilty conscience, is putting up on social media really the best way to go about it? Looks like a sick, twisted publicity stunt. No regard for the man’s family or even the God you claim to love so much. You’re so blind to your own flaws that you’d rather convince yourself that you were manipulated and abused. It’s easy to paint the pastor as the predator and you a helpless prey but you’re just as as the pastor and equally in need of serious help; and yes, God is angry with you and the pastor for what you guys did! you aint sleek and you aint fooling God or anyone for that matter. I thinj you and your pastor need to be prayed for and delivered cos guess what, if it’s not your married pastor, it’ll be your married boss or some other married guy and you keep playing the victim, the ‘damsel in distress’ that ‘marauding married males’ enjoy ‘taking advantage of’. Seek help

    • natty

      August 23, 2013 at 7:44 pm

      …. as terrible as the pastor ?, with no regard for the pastor’s wife. Sorry you got it wrong there; the pastor not Ese took a vow before God to love , honour and cherish his wife . If the man can’t respect his vows how e take concern Ese

    • Ib

      August 24, 2013 at 4:12 am

      So that makes it right for her to sleep with another woman’s husband abi?Abeg,lets put the whole church thing aside…cos we all now know that this is no man of God. The two of them are WRONG.He cheated on his wife.She slept with a married man. Shikena! All this talk about victimization is beginning to piss me off.There is no victim here.After all she isnt the first person to publicize an affair with a married man and she wont be the last.

    • Rena

      August 24, 2013 at 11:45 am

      “she is not a victim”? are you deranged? do you know the meaning of the word? Please go to her blog and read the full post you behave like an ignorant creature.. its people like you that are “wrong with the world” !

  33. DOROTHY DANDRIDGE

    August 23, 2013 at 5:23 pm

    excuse my innumerable typos

  34. Aderonke

    August 23, 2013 at 5:23 pm

    @Hyperyermie- Well said.
    I also think she should have just confessed to God and remember that Pastor Biodun is a man and we all are too. But telling the world rather than telling God doesn’t guarantee that we will have true peace. Only God truly forgives and gives peace. Do not let the devil destroy Pastor Biodun nor you more and more , allow true repentance come by only confessing to God and God alone. I think she should have just put an article up to warn pastors generally rather than been specific if she truly wanted to help these men of God.
    Remember, people that live in glass houses do not throw stones

  35. Daniella

    August 23, 2013 at 5:24 pm

    Going to Ese’s blog, she took time to point out that nowhere in her story did she claim she was sexually abused and takes full responsibility for her part in the affair. However i find it appalling that readers are quick to bash her but no one is talking about the pastor who is meant to uphold the moral and spiritual values he preaches. After all he should be accountable to the members of his congregation for the way he lives his life. Feelers i got from comments on other blogs also suggest that this has been a pattern with this pastor, with a former member of his church claiming that his victims are over 30 but each one is scared of going public with the info. Of course we all know that men of God are all human, hence susceptible to temptation but from Ese’s account, you do not see any sign of remorse on the part of the pastor which says a lot if the story is actually true. It shows that this may be something he may have been doing for a while and is accustomed to getting away with it. I definitely look forward to hearing the pastor’s own side of this story but it will not be out of place for him to temporarily step aside and deal with his issues before returning to the pulpit. A lot of people feel Ese is doing this just to gain cheap popularity but i think it takes a lot of courage to bring this out in the open, knowing the kind of backlash it could trigger. May God help us as Christians not to place men of God on a pedestal as though they are infallible because at the end of the day, they are still human. Let us all look up to Jesus, the Author and Finisher of our faith who will never fail us.

    • Chic

      August 23, 2013 at 5:44 pm

      Well said!

    • DOROTHY DANDRIDGE

      August 23, 2013 at 6:03 pm

      nobody is exnorating the pator from any blame. at least i know i’m not. I dont believe in ‘touch not annointed’ if said annointed has no respect for God. The pastor should be repimanded and asked to step down but unless those women are underaged, raped and/or jazzed, they were all willing participants. I used to be an usher in church and you’d be utterly disgusted if you saw firsthand how a lot of female church members idolize the pastor and flirt with him. a lot know what they’re getting into when the randy rats give them special invitations. despicable, i tell you!

    • Jamce

      August 25, 2013 at 12:59 pm

      @ Dorothy, you speak the truth. Ese has reconstructed and twisted her story in a her bid to “manipulate” the public to think that she is a “manipulated” victim. She failed woefully. She is not in any way repentant. The truth is that she lost her place in Oga Pastor’s bed and she’s is on a revenge mission and nothing else.

    • Christy Love

      August 23, 2013 at 9:33 pm

      Like your comment Daniella.

  36. alzee

    August 23, 2013 at 5:24 pm

    was a victim of similar circumstance when i was about 15 yrs by my senior pastor. true things as this happen everyday. i cant point fingers though but lets just learn to say no to an abuse no matter frm who.

    • DOROTHY DANDRIDGE

      August 23, 2013 at 5:56 pm

      you were only 15 and you were a victim and i’m sorry you had to go through that. I hope you’ve sought counselling

  37. tbaby

    August 23, 2013 at 5:26 pm

    This is a lie. firstly, u slept with a married man and then the next thing youre telling every one about it. who does that? sisters think, if u had an affair with an influencial married man and he leaves u would u think of media? this lady is either trying to be popular or being used by a third party to blackmail the pastor and destroy his identity. this kind of thing happens to almost all pastors. but God will vindicate him. and for the Efe chic, if youre lieing about this,u have incured all the curses of this world on your self and your generation and you will not go scot free. God takes this kind of things very serious. and as for you guys already judging the pastor withou knowing if it is true or not you will be held accountable for your words. and trust me it wont be palatable . may God have mercy on us all. lest i forget i dont attend COZA

    • DOROTHY DANDRIDGE

      August 23, 2013 at 5:55 pm

      God will not vindicate him if indeed he slept with ese. He made a mockery of God and there’s a high price for low living. I could be wrong but i dont think ese made this story up. If she did, then she has serious issues. I doubt she did sha

  38. PRIMEPERSONA

    August 23, 2013 at 5:31 pm

    I totally agree with you Lola. When you reverence a person so much you can lower your standards even when it’s clearly obvious you have a high standing. I am not exonerating Ese, but she has done well to acknowledge her sins and whichever medium she chooses to make amends or atone is totally up to her. I have a feeling that this story is entirely true, these things happen. Let us not be so engrossed with judging Ese for coming public and forget that a priest, supposedly sanctified and placed to lead Christ’s church is neck deep in adultery because no one has cautioned him. He is a model and should set good standards. May the Lord open our eyes to know and see Jesus as the only standard for assessing our Christianity. Touching story I must say!

    • DOROTHY DANDRIDGE

      August 23, 2013 at 5:52 pm

      she hasnt acknowledged anything. she claims she was ‘manipulated’,’ wronged’ and ‘abused’ by the pastor. homegirl sees herself as an unwilling victim when everything about her story says otherwise

  39. omoibo

    August 23, 2013 at 5:33 pm

    Reading some of the comments & seeing how Nigerians are quick to castigate & vilify the lady in question is sad. Until Nigerians stop the attitude of HERO worshiping i.e pastors, politicians etc and begin to see these individuals as fellow humans nothing more nothing less. What a lot of Nigerians forget is that the so called men/ woman of God are humans & are face the exact same demons we all deal.
    Sure, the lady has her flaws & which of us doesn’t? But from what she has written, here is a man in a position or authority & trust that has abused these privileges.
    Before you bible slingers come out blazing please know that this ladies confession whether you agree with it or not, in my opinion is not for you to judge but rather for her & her creator.
    If saddens me to read comments whenever something is written about religion & how Nigerians react, being religious should NOT replace your critical thinking abilities!!! ssh ……”My people perish for a lack of vision”…….

    • DOROTHY DANDRIDGE

      August 23, 2013 at 5:49 pm

      you dont want us to jugde her yet Ese had no problem judging and executing her pastor. if the pastor can be judged then ese should be judged as well. afterall they were both willing particiants

    • omoibo

      August 23, 2013 at 6:54 pm

      Go ahead and knock yourself out pal, nobody is stopping you from being the judge! Do whatever floats your boat…

    • Christy Love

      August 23, 2013 at 9:37 pm

      Agree with your comment Omoibo.

  40. honeymix

    August 23, 2013 at 5:35 pm

    There are 2 sides to this story. Lets just sit down and hear the side of the pastor. Even if this story were true, i’m not happy that she had to come out and tell the whole world na, more os less like she purposely wantedto drag the pastor’s name in mud. I hope she feels relieved with the story she has said. Another thing i picked out from this story is that,some people worship their pastors more than God himself. Would I call this manipulation by the pastor, Nay because it did not happen once. Both sides I think are guilty. May God have MERCY.

  41. ForeverYoung

    August 23, 2013 at 5:40 pm

    *Sigh*….. What I don’t understand is the sort of double standard used in evaluating these so called pastors. When they supposedly do things extraordinary to the common man, they are quickly referred to as “The anointed” or “Men of god”. On the flip side, when allegations such as these come out (or some story of ignoble act), they are quickly identified as “Man” with blood flowing through their veins. I will not bother to address this lady in order not to take away from the enormity of this allegation if it were true. Neither am I here to castigate the person of the pastor, I believe he strongly needs help. With that said I will address a couple of things. First and foremost, the pastor is in a place of authority, he is supposed to be leading a flock. Second, he is married, he not her, made a commitment to a woman in the presence of witnesses. I believe this should be a clarion call to put a stop to abuse of power/authority by so called leaders (especially in the church) and also to seek help for the pastor as I believe he is truly sick. Even though the lady in question was a consenting adult, what happened can be termed “abuse” because the pastor is supposedly in a position of authority, PERIOD. When you lead a congregation and are married, you have made a commitment to your congregation and your wife, therefore authority has been bestowed on you. A pastor should know better, ideally you are in that position because you have knowledge some don’t have. We would all find it absurd if a doctor dying of cancer told us that he has the cure for cancer. Do not ridicule God in front of men; God is not to be mocked. This kind of behavior is a mockery of God and Christianity. I believe he needs to step down as a pastor and go seek healing for himself and his family (of course that is if this allegation is true). The congregation too has a part in this, when your pastor falls short, you are not helping him by turning a blind eye and blaming the devil. Acknowledge his wrong doing and seek help on his behalf. Cursing and bad-mouthing the lady would not help either. Let us call a spade a spade, what is wrong is wrong, and if this were to be true, the pastor has brought shame to his flock and Christianity. Moves should be made to seek God’s mercy. Good luck.

    • Christy Love

      August 23, 2013 at 9:40 pm

      Another 3 gbosa ForeverYoung.

    • nancy

      August 23, 2013 at 10:09 pm

      Well said.

  42. DOROTHY DANDRIDGE

    August 23, 2013 at 5:42 pm

    you even have some nerve even trying to decide what punishment someone else deserves for allegedly ‘wronging’ you when your own sins are staring you right in the eye! child,please. have a sit. no one’s perfect.you’re not perfect and i’m not either but trying to justify one’s shortcomings never helped anyone. you’ve got to be mature enough to admit when you’ve made wrong choices in life, own them and then God can forgive and give you grace to overcome. but if you keep living in denial talking ’bout being ‘manipulated’, ‘abused’ and ‘wronged’, pray tell, how are you going get better in life? how are you going to grow in your walk with Christ if you cant even admit your own character flaws without laying the blame on someone else? falling for a married man can happen to the best of us and that’s why the bible warns to steer clear of every appearance of evil. He knows how tricky the flesh can be and how it can want what it wants, how it wants and when it wants. yet you went willingly and now you’ve convinced yourself and are trying to convince everyone else that you were somehow coerced into committing adultery with your married pastor. i mean, common gurl.

    • A.E.I

      August 23, 2013 at 6:21 pm

      Madam, with all due respect you need to bloody SHUT THE F**K UP!!!! You’re clearly in awe of Pastor Biodun, so much so that you refuse to see the truth staring you in the face! While i am not condemning the Pastor, if from what i have read today, he has a track record of manipulating his female congregation and sleeping with them, then he should take come time away from the pulpit and sort out his flaws! Nobody is perfect but that cannot be an excuse for blatant promiscuity, especially by a ‘man of God’! Please have several seats!

    • A.E.I

      August 23, 2013 at 6:22 pm

      Madam, with all due respect you need to bloody SHUT THE – UP!!!! You’re clearly in awe of Pastor Biodun, so much so that you refuse to see the truth staring you in the face! While i am not condemning the Pastor, if from what i have read today, he has a track record of manipulating his female congregation and sleeping with them, then he should take come time away from the pulpit and sort out his flaws! Nobody is perfect but that cannot be an excuse for blatant promiscuity, especially by a ‘man of God’! Please have several seats!

      *some time

    • DOROTHY DANDRIDGE

      August 23, 2013 at 6:44 pm

      If this response was directed at me, then clearly reading comprehension is a big problem for you. go back and read my posts. this time, slowly. and fyi, i dont even know the pastor biodun and never heard about the colza church until today

  43. shallie's Purple Beehive

    August 23, 2013 at 5:43 pm

    hmmm.. GOD is able!
    anyways BN north west don finally comot for house ohhh make una see her picture here.. ermmm for the tush people that simply means North west’s picture has been revealed..ehen hen..

    http://aomosale.blogspot.co.uk/2013/08/photo-kim-and-kanyes-daughter-north.html

  44. Chic

    August 23, 2013 at 5:43 pm

    People need to go and read the story on Ese’s blog from the comment it appears she was not the first and that church elders knew about their pastors indiscretions. Way to go Ese very bold for speaking up very bold

  45. henry

    August 23, 2013 at 5:45 pm

    o! Lord, help me to survive this sin of immorality. God please, i need your grace to make heaven, o! my God do not let me down.

  46. Gbemmy

    August 23, 2013 at 5:45 pm

    We have the power to say Yes or No ..lets learn to say No and flee from such ..a man of God is a Man flesh and blood like us afterall we should learn not to worship pastors and co but respect them
    Loads of girls sleep with married men daily and they flaunt so she is the one bringing all these on herself so dear ese you want closure or whatever so live with it ..

  47. Joanna

    August 23, 2013 at 5:46 pm

    Good job Ese for speaking out! Consensual or not, it is important for other young women to be aware that there is a sexual predator in their church so they are not fooled. May God bless you and help you to move on. Pastors of today are true ravenous wolves in sheep’s clothing!

    • Okechukwu Ofili

      August 24, 2013 at 12:45 am

      Not all Pastors are bad…there are legit pastors out there. The issue are the bad ones…the ones that are victimizing people and getting away with it under the guise of spirituality.

  48. damepenelope

    August 23, 2013 at 5:50 pm

    As sad as this is,the truth is, believers will backslide when they read this. Lady,I understand that you were overwhelmed because he is/was your Pastor.I don´t think you seduced him and I know you are hurting right now,but trust me,this is not the way to go about it.Please don´t put this man up for the world to judge.

    • Okechukwu Ofili

      August 23, 2013 at 6:23 pm

      emm…don’t you think it is kind of late?

    • tbaby

      August 29, 2013 at 2:31 pm

      any believer wey backslide because of this is an irresponsible christian and is not grounded. the salvation of your pastor wont take you to heaven. and it will suprise you that person will burn in hell while the pastor, if this is true wull ask Gods mercy and will make heaaven. it is idilizing pastors that makes u leave a church if they fuck up, are you going to church for pastors or God. who told you your next pastor wont do smthing worse. Advise, know where youre planted and stay there.

  49. bimbubbles

    August 23, 2013 at 5:51 pm

    hmmm….
    i’m maniacally bewildered… God dey

    • bimbubbles

      August 23, 2013 at 6:03 pm

      Lol

  50. LC

    August 23, 2013 at 5:52 pm

    I am a fan of bella naija, i have never commented on anything but this issue has really forced me to come out of my nut shell. A well known pastor in Ghana once approached me and said we start a relationship but i didn’t dare. 1. because i was afraid God might even strike me dead; if i dare fornicate, i will never do it with a pastor (married/unmarried), he constantly pressurized me to the extent of calling my aunty in the UK to convince me. He promised me heaven on earth but i never gave in. Thank God he helped me stood my grounds, is just by grace. Today i still attend his church, i see him preach on the pulpit, i still respect the anointing on this life and consider his approach a temptation by the devil. Glad i didn’t dance to the devil’s tunes. I have kept this to myself (10 years ago) Oneday i will share it.

    • Olaoluwa

      August 23, 2013 at 8:06 pm

      ……..God bless you sister….and I thank God for your life…..taking that stand!!!!

    • Jamce

      August 25, 2013 at 1:12 pm

      @ Dorothy, you speak the truth. Ese has reconstructed and twisted her story in a her bid to “manipulate” the public to think that she is a “manipulated” victim. She failed woefully. She is not in any way repentant. The truth is that she lost her place in Oga Pastor’s bed and she’s is on a revenge mission and nothing else.

  51. didi

    August 23, 2013 at 5:56 pm

    I do not attend COZA, neither do I condemn Ese. But with this story, several things come to mind.
    a) How will coming out like this affect this pastors’ family, whether true or not? If not for his spouse, at least his children.
    b) Apart from seeking help from other COZA pastors, was there any other attempt to seek elderly, more matured Christians – outside of COZA – to talk to the pastor?
    c) I believe strongly that this could have been handled in a better manner, with less collateral damage even to Ese herself.

    All in all, the foundation of the Lord standeth sure, the LORD knoweth those that are his; and let him that stand take heed, lest he fall.
    God bless us all.

    • 'Mide

      August 23, 2013 at 8:05 pm

      She wanted to take her pound of flesh. And she has done it by impairing her goodwill for life . Now we must ask which man go one carry wahala for house? She dumped church to be smoking and drinking, eh? No wonder she ended up singing Eminem at X-factor. The pastor has been had big time! Anyway na the thing wey pay the pastor be dat. My concern is for the people that never asked to be part of the affair like the wife and kids of the man.

  52. bimbubbles

    August 23, 2013 at 6:03 pm

    some people have totally lost the plot #lovinglifethemore #thankful #lipsaeled.
    God be wv you ese, pastor of coza & clan.

    NEXT PLS..

  53. osa

    August 23, 2013 at 6:05 pm

    Well if the story is true(though not recent); the pastor owes it to himself and calling to make peace with God; to his wife at repairing a breach of trust; and to his congregation to give them a brief and honest report.That said, there are no scandals in the Church, except it involves Jesus Christ Himself.The best of humans are still humans.David did worse and still reconciled with God.As for the lady, she still seems to be undergoing intense pangs of guilt and is angry that the pastor seems to have easily resolved his issues.As we docs know in clinical and behavioural psychology, this form of catharsis is therapeutic and not altruistically a mea culpa, it is more or less a venting of some sorts, a call to the court of opinion to determine who really was guilty.The conversation with the Lagos pastor bout the head pastor needing to resign to protect others and she feeling abused and manipulated is a feeble attempt to play the victim’s card and advocate’s card.She is not seeking fame, she is seeking closure by gaining sympathy as a victim and support as a moral crusader (which is why she is not content with private confession, the true beaten path to personal redemption).However, it is a dangerous gamble, because the moment the Mrs says she has forgiven him, the blogger would be viewed as a home wrecker, and that would be most unfortunate.Which is exactly why kiss-and-tell is generally counter-intuitive.The only parties that needed to hear the true confession are God(who is the only true Judge), the Mrs(who is best told by the Mr), and some elders who have influence over the pastor ; if she intended remaining there.Otherwise leave the church, and serve God with your conscience.For the records, this reported incident was facilitated by a power structure but only as an advantage not as an abuse or manipulation.In stating it as such, she has done gross disservice and damage to the many who have truly been abused and manipulated.

    • Joan

      August 23, 2013 at 6:09 pm

      Your head is there!

    • jane

      August 23, 2013 at 6:45 pm

      GBAM!!! you get it!

    • Olaoluwa

      August 23, 2013 at 8:00 pm

      ……..well said jare. …may God help us women!!!

    • T-gurl

      August 23, 2013 at 8:04 pm

      Osa, May your well of wisdom never dry. You are the only one who has made sense o!
      Yes – Men of God should know better but we all seem to block our ears and eyes then come back and play victim. In the end you will be held responsible for your soul and action. Let this be a lesson to everyone.
      If you are a leader and you are tempted, talk to someone you can be real with, and bear in mind that if you do that which you are tempted to do, you have sought for trouble. and you will find it.
      If you are a follower, catch yourself and stop being in ‘awe’ of a human being just like you. How humbling would it have been for him if you had firmly said ‘No’ and walked away. no be fight. Next if u must see him, don’t go alone. If you were entranced and fell once, you shouldn’t fall for a whole week. Catch yourself. With these few words of mine…….

    • CarliforniaBawler

      August 23, 2013 at 8:55 pm

      “That said, there are no scandals in the Church, except it involves Jesus Christ Himself.The best of humans are still humans…”
      wow wow wow!!! I wish every believer realize this

    • Mizz

      August 23, 2013 at 9:53 pm

      This would make perfect sense except for one thing. Many church leaders help their congregation to perpetuate the image of them being put on a pedestal. And something else just occurred to me. It may seem daft but think about this really well. What if this had been an extra-marital affair between a pastor and a man? Before anyone jumps down my throat with screams of blasphemy, just think about it because there are gay people in Nigeria whether or not we will admit it. If the man went public with it, would people still feel so charitable towards the pastor? I don’t think so. I myself am not homophobic but for many people, this is a sin. Adultery is also a sin. The issue that should really be addressed is the underlying hypocrisy of it all. Whether or not she did this for closure, he still needs to be brought to book publicly because it’s clear from her story he didn’t have a conscience about it. If I went to a church where this kind of thing came out and the pastor had the grace to own up to it, there would be nothing stopping me from going to that church the next week. But people are more interested in preserving their congregational numbers like it’s a contest.

  54. Jojo

    August 23, 2013 at 6:06 pm

    Abuse …. WAs she abused, yes. Will this make her whole No. Is she having her ‘revenge’ while alerting people yes. Is she badly damaged, yes. Ese you need counseling and a lot or prayers. Your psyche is badly damaged. A lot of questions, you left your first church because you were bored and needed excictment of some sort. Would you have had this level of patience with it? It was a near impossible thing you were trying to do. Stay in a man domain and get him to apologize while still remaining in his domain. I hope you have finally left that establishment for a healthier environment and not another church of the same type wearing a different coat. You do need therapy. It might be time to go back to the basics, the place that left you bored but VERY healthy.
    Good luck with your life
    One, this happens a lot when your poster, boss etc is treated like a celebrity/personality and demi god.

  55. Eugenia

    August 23, 2013 at 6:07 pm

    lady in concern, though u have been hurt…..i think d first thing is to go to God in prayers. then try to forgive urself, Just d way christ forgave our sins. and then move-on. let God do his own judgement. coming to d world thru internet is not d solution to you and d pastor in concern. in all i just want u to know dat JESUS loves beyond whatever dat has happened to u dearie.

  56. Okechukwu Ofili

    August 23, 2013 at 6:22 pm

    RT @eggheader Those who find @esewalter’s story unbelievable are the same ones who shouted ‘Alleluia, Jesus is Lord’ to Lola’s angelic visitations.

    • Noni

      August 23, 2013 at 7:17 pm

      Lol. I feel you dude. 🙂

    • bnigerian

      August 23, 2013 at 8:27 pm

      You don’t know that Lola was lying or saying the truth. Where you there?

    • Okechukwu Ofili

      August 23, 2013 at 11:40 pm

      …in heaven with Lola at 3am…I don’t think so.

    • Mz Socially Awkward...

      August 23, 2013 at 8:51 pm

      Dude, some of those who cast no aspersions on Lola’s story could turn your table right back around and say all the castigation on this page is obviously coming from people who’ll jump at any chance to find fault with Christianity and the Church. But it doesn’t always work that way so I find there’s no need to go there…

    • The girl

      August 25, 2013 at 12:07 am

      Of ili since dec u got a credit of 400naira in ur account and u ve refused to return it back to d owner. U re here now sounding all intelligible and good.better credit me back my money if u don’t want to offer d service u advertised. Nigerians and hypocrisy!

  57. Ima

    August 23, 2013 at 6:25 pm

    I just came from their site. Ese, you are lucky. You probably got of easy. Now stop flirting with them looking for justice there. Chuck it up to a bad horrific experience and get some counseling. You need it. Have a long chat with your mother, she knows a lot more than you think and stay away from such people and such razzmatazz. Stay blessed

  58. Alex

    August 23, 2013 at 6:30 pm

    She is an adulterous – and thats all to it. The pastor probably promised her many things that he failed to fulfill and hence the spill! Pastor – why didn’tnu pay up or did she ask u to leave ur wife??

    I am very sure she tempted u and won’t be surprised if u contributed handsomely to her UK sojourn. She book hotel and say she no know say she go – bastard woman!

    • tinkerbell

      August 25, 2013 at 3:40 am

      thunder fire your head!….so now everything is her fault bah..spoken like a true he Goat

  59. tito

    August 23, 2013 at 6:33 pm

    NA WA LONG EPISTLE

  60. bianca

    August 23, 2013 at 6:34 pm

    …..But aawhy didn’t she run too….HIAN
    That means she wanted to do the man of God . Hmmmmm she could have given him one excuse or the other to escape from the situation. ####

  61. bianca

    August 23, 2013 at 6:35 pm

    but aaa..Lol sorry silly typo

  62. Meshida

    August 23, 2013 at 6:35 pm

    Reading this story, I cant judge the girl and sometimes, if you have never been in this situation, you will never know how messed up the individual feels. Once, I was rear-ended to a door by my pastor in his office, while a service still went on outside..I was so much i shock..the only thing I could do was to raise my hands to cover myself ( mentally seeking protection), he was pawing me..All I could do was stand still..I was so numb. Got home, called an older friend, and he told me to report. he was scared for me, especially how the church protects its own. With his support and that of my boyfriend, I reported to a superior officer in the church cadre…who begged me, asked my forgiveness..asked me not to leave the church as i was sort of the youth pastor. For the one year i was there before leaving the city, all I felt was intense anger..and pain because i cant seem to give voice to the pain. But later, I confronted him and he apologised. Now, i stopped going to church for a month, as the pastor here to is starting some emotional manipulations, but I have learnt my lesson..I stay away and given where i live, its difficult finding a Nigerian/english speaking church..so I resort to online messages. Having been sexually abused since childhood by a family member, and now by clergy in a place that should bring succour..It is too much. Dont judge Ese harshly…I feel sorry for her because she would still bear the brunt of this scandal. But one thing is sure…she is helping people like me heal…her courage. I am still a christian, fully committed to God, and have a wonderful relationship with my fiance..However, the emotional damage of abuse is something i am still healing from.

    • chichi

      August 23, 2013 at 7:28 pm

      aww Meshida, your story sure made me tear up. You are indeed a strong woman and you have everything to live for. Congrats on your engagement and may God continue to bless you girl..

  63. nancy

    August 23, 2013 at 6:36 pm

    Ese I believe you and i undestand that trans-like feeling. Nigerians stop worshiping your pastors. They are human beings thus are not immune to mistakes. I feel so bad for ese.

  64. 2blunt

    August 23, 2013 at 6:45 pm

    na u dey open pastor nyash like dis,
    well, babe, wen u do the thing, shey e no sweet u?, me i fit beat my hand for chest talk say na wen pastor tell u say him don tire for ur punana u felt hurt or he was just not giving u attention anymore, and u felt u were used, all dis ladies with emotional baggage, pls get a life! and as for pastor, hmmmm, my bible talk say make i no judge, but bros, all the comments wey don fly online show say no be only dis ese gal u do, hmmmmm, hmmmmmm, hmmmmmm, i reserve my comment,

  65. Alex

    August 23, 2013 at 6:47 pm

    She is an adulterous woman and that is all to it……

    • Bukky Adeyemi

      August 23, 2013 at 7:38 pm

      Ode. O lo ri buruku

    • Person

      August 23, 2013 at 7:40 pm

      Errm. No. She is not married., so she isn’t adulterous. The man is an ADULTERER though.

    • Africhic

      August 23, 2013 at 8:24 pm

      It takes 2 to commit adultery. #takes2totango

  66. Anonymous

    August 23, 2013 at 6:56 pm

    I wish i could say my own story, people would scream,unfortunately, i am not that brave. i am happy Ese was bold enough to say it. i was a victim, this same Pastor Biodun… i believe he uses other means to lure his victims because i almost fell.

    maybe if i was a wicked girl, i would have taken his photos because it happened in my own house, he took off his clothes to have sex with me..
    well to cut a long story short… i left the church afterwards because i could not stand seeing him preach.
    I am not the first and Ese wont be the last.

    He is into sleeping with his female members!

    • chichi

      August 23, 2013 at 7:57 pm

      thanks for sharing..my suspicions exactly.. I hope yall defending this pig are reading about him…Parents, hide and protect your girls..oh and boys too cos you never know

    • Mz Socially Awkward...

      August 23, 2013 at 9:49 pm

      @Anonymous, I would have paid good money to see those photos published. Thank you for sharing, even as an unknown face from behind a computer.

      @The people who may ask the question of why he was in your apartment in the first place (‘cos I can see exactly what direction responses to the comment above could end up going)… It may have been for any number of reasons, some easy to swallow and others not so much. REGARDLESS. Whatever those reasons were, I would never consider any of them enough license for any human being to take advantage of a vulnerable situation. (Note – “taking advantage”, meaning one person hasn’t embraced the advances of the other).

  67. Sere

    August 23, 2013 at 7:19 pm

    I dont think Ese is seeking 15 minutes of fame, she definately isnt trying to start a reality show. From her side of the story, it seems to me that she seeks liberation from the secret shame that has kept her shackled and some sort of justice for every person who has been misled or manipulated by a man of God they held in awe. May God heal her.
    Let us tell ourselves the truth, these things happen in churches. I will not say the pastor is guilty because we have only heard her story. However, that she did not conceal anyone’s identity shows that she believes what she has said to be the truth. That said, may God also grant the pastor in question the wisdom and grace to handle this situation. God himself will lead his people who put their trust in him. Let us pray for the people who shepherd God’s flock in whatever capacity that their feet will not stray and that if they do they will find their way back to him. Shame or glory on earth will pass away but eternity stands. May all concerned parties and his COZA find salvation and redemption in Christ and be counted among the living after this earthly race is over. Amen.

  68. DOROTHY DANDRIDGE

    August 23, 2013 at 7:20 pm

    i dont get it. how do grown women end up in situations like these? how in the world did he end up alone in your appartment?

    • Olaoluwa

      August 23, 2013 at 7:51 pm

      …@carliforniabawler……..I believe you are referring to yourself . Everyone is entitled to their opinion and I stand by mine……if u insult or curse me in anyway…..I wish you back a million times…..did he hypnotise her…the fake pastor will be judged heavily and will she….even if the pastor has no control over himself….she should have had control and said no and fleee. …..what exactly does she want Nigerians to do with the news….to curse the man or kill him….it’s a pity!!!!

  69. ady

    August 23, 2013 at 7:23 pm

    Why is every1 surprised that the so called COZA pastor slept with Ese. Number 1 he is not a man of God but a business man,they are all litered everywhr posing as pastors…from the way they allow their members come to church scantily dresssed should tell u who they are….pls these are business men not pastors….and come why is every1 insulting just ESE whr is d man she committed the adultery with? Why r we so easy to judge her…God honours public confession than d one u hide in ur room to confess….all d women here hve slept with men old enuf to be their grandfathers n are mute abt it…yes its a big deal that she’s talking about it because a real man of God is not supposed to sleep with his member yes even if he’s also human…they also get tempted buh fighting d temptation is every xtians job especially a pastor…pls take several seats

    • jolaoluwa

      August 23, 2013 at 7:34 pm

      ady she could have prevented it from happening……men are weaker than women in situations like that. i believe. They are both to blame for the incidence

    • lola

      August 23, 2013 at 8:15 pm

      ori e ti daru!!! Men are weaker? SO men are now animals that lack self control? I dont understand your logic

    • CarliforniaBawler

      August 23, 2013 at 11:43 pm

      [email protected]…..thanks for joining my train of going all in!!! I tell you sometimes there nothing else to do but to shepe for these people!!!

  70. omoibo

    August 23, 2013 at 7:34 pm

    Ese, all the Jane Doe’s in Naija that have suffered in silence due to shame & fear thank you very much for giving them a voice they would ordinarily not have to speak out!
    Let’s stop deceiving ourselves like ish like this doesn’t happen in the various religious organizations!
    It’s not synonymous to Nigeria alone, it happens all over. But in order to move forward, we need to address this issue & hold people accountable to help checkmate such from continuing to happen unchecked….

  71. jcsgrl

    August 23, 2013 at 7:36 pm

    My God shame on all of you thinking about the pastor’s reputation and people who will fall from faith bcos of this story than the tons of girls that have been abused and scorned by so called men of God particularly this cozite one. He’s accomplishments have been traced back to his Ilorin days and his wife knows about it. Shame on you!!! I’m not going to curse but I will leave God to judge you. So she should continue to cover the man’s sins while he goes on and on to abuse other girls okwa ya? Don’t worry….I wont say what I really want to say.

  72. maxwell

    August 23, 2013 at 7:42 pm

    Hmmmm! I wonder how some people can get so gullible. To a very large extent, I know COZA and I know how the church workers operate, they are very fond of the church and post on all the social networks they belong to about COZA. However,this ESE girl that claims to be on the pastoral unit of the church has no post or tagged picture with COZA from my. Research and she claims to be on the pastoral unit. I will like to implore u all, instead of talking negatively about the pastor when you don’t have proofs, why not just keep mute. Remember,the only woman that was recorded barren in the bible got a curse because she spoke wrongly about David ans with all the sins David committed, Gos still called him a man after his own heart. I hope u all don’t put a curse on your heads and that of your generation, Remember, these people are men of God not God of men and they are human. CHOOSE YOUR WORDS CAREFULLY!!!

    • Nike

      August 23, 2013 at 11:02 pm

      RUBBISH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  73. oluwadara

    August 23, 2013 at 7:50 pm

    Alex u are a dumb ass. I dnt abuse people but I will abuse you. I was once a pastor when I ws in law school and the whole thing looking back is messed up because all dese spiricoc are – self righteous. Even wen I ws in d uni 1 so called ebun olowu called mumsy scrwed me up because I confided in her anor preson,’s secret I couldn’t cope with. Moral of the story have aa personal relationship with GOD. Study his words and commune with him daily and dnt hold any pastor in awe.

  74. anna

    August 23, 2013 at 7:52 pm

    Ese and Pastor Biodun need to take full responsibility of their actions. Ese, you could have walked out of that hotel and never go back but you did and that was a choice you made. You could have avoided his calls, it wouldn’t have killed you. Did you seek advise from other pastors in other churches? Didn’t you have friends or family members to talk to? I don’t care if you tell everyone the story but I am worried at the fact that you do not want to accept any responsibility. I have been in positions where my CEO chased me round his office to have his way, I resigned immediately, people in different positions of authority have tried but I said no…not because I am perfect, but there are things that you know is wrong. If I have consensual sex with my boss or pastor, I will take responsibility for falling. A pastor is not God and you could have said No easily. The pastor isn’t God over your life but you probably were too weak to understand that. I would like you to know that you were not abused or manipulated, your heart desired part of what you were doing since you claim you weren’t doing it for money. The rush was probably exciting and giving you some form of thrill. People who have gone through real abuse and manipulation will cringe. I was abused when I was 12 by my cousin so I know the difference. I pray you can find peace somehow and I also pray that we realize that God is King and no man can ever take his place.

  75. spareme

    August 23, 2013 at 7:57 pm

    I have some golden rules I follow, when it comes to church and pastors:

    1. Never, ever, ever say more than hello to your pastor.
    2. Never go to your pastor for counselling or prayers! NEVER. Call UCB or CBN.
    3.Never ever take ANY of your “personal business” into the church. Pray and leave!
    4. if any of this very strict rules can not be adhered to CHANGE CHURCH.
    BTW, it is a gross form of abuse for any Pastor to sleep with members of their congregation. People stop worshipping your pastors PLEASE!!!!!!!!!

  76. 'Mide

    August 23, 2013 at 7:57 pm

    Ese , abeg take responsibility for your actions. Sex is no big deal o !. You were played and you should have sucked it up like an adult and moved on. Pastor or no pastor, he used his common male jive to enter you pants and you gladly took them off to be nacked nastly position to hoodwink you and you wanted it so badly you spread your legs yakata. Stupid gal ! Na you going to town with some story wey go affect others not involved in your affair. The pastor’s relatives, his kids, if he has any. And you future husband and children. This was a stupid move. You should have let it slide. If you didn’t want it you would not have been going back to be bunked for a complete week. You wanted some spiritual bonding and bunking and you got it. Now you dey hala, haba!

    • Ibi

      August 23, 2013 at 8:22 pm

      Doesn’t make what happened right.

    • 'Mide

      August 24, 2013 at 12:13 am

      Nah. It shows that as human beings we are flawed. And it shows further that we wrestle continually with our moral selves. These are the situations and stories that novels tell – I mean our human conditions and fragile nature. The question is what does she want, and does anyone think is justice? Not really. She has resolved to damage him irreparably. Talk about collateral damage. What seems strange is that the damage extends beyond the parties whose poor judgement resulted in consensual sex. I think the pastor is weak, needs help and clearly an unsatisfied man using church as a front. This girl in my opinion still needs a lot of well. And in my opinion, she is a train that has careened of its tracks and ready to wreck everything in its sight. God help her and her victims!

  77. enkay

    August 23, 2013 at 7:58 pm

    People need to understand that the reason why some of these Pastors attract huge followership is because they are in fact sociopaths – very manipulative and domineering, highly charismatic, extremely intelligent and have this inate ability to wield their charm and lies as tools to deceive their conregation ond fellow Church elders. I can see how she could have been spell bound by his larger-than-life personality and may have been one of those “my pastor is a demi-God” thinking church goer. It does no exnomerat her form her wrong which she clearly confessed, but I can see how a man of this nature can charm his way into the nethers of unsuspecting, impressible young ladies from his congregation.

    • Jubaolwua

      August 23, 2013 at 8:44 pm

      Enkay, you are one intelligent soul and I Agree with your comment. Sociopathism, egoism and naricissism all combined, you have a person who feels the rules of the world do not apply to them. You have compulsive liars and manipulative individuals who use this characteristics to herd a bunch of people who lack objectivity and free will to questin basic things such as ” why do I obey and rever mere mortals.

  78. Ayomipo Oladapo

    August 23, 2013 at 8:00 pm

    I belive ese’s story and I do not understand why people are judging her. A pastor is suppose to live an exemplary life so that people can emulate in order to inherit the kingdom of GOD. Who told u guys d pastor dint manipulate her by using some of jazz like gbanko, afose and things that will seem it happened naturally and a lot of over spiritual people that holds their pastor in awe will find it out to say no in such situation except some1 that doesn’t worship “men of GOD”. I’m not saying she did not consent to it but the pastor is a bad example and such acts amongs so called men of GOD is rampant because they are all self ordained and they are always very fetish. See a lot of things happen that you people don’t understand. Ese I pray you find peace in your heart and I pray other ladies in Coza with the same encounter voice out. GOD is bringing down un worthy ministries, alleluia.

  79. Sugar mama

    August 23, 2013 at 8:14 pm

    Poor girl, believe it or not this things do happen , I was a victim as well on two different occasions and with two different pastors from two different churches ,except that I was able to escape sharp sharp, (if I hear say one useless pastor fit brain wash me hiss!). Truth is people will never listen to her even if she is right, Nigerians sabi worship pastors ehn!, sometimes I ask myself is it the pastor or . God people dey worship self . I could not even tell anybody my own self , nobody will believe. All I did was report it to . God . I feel this babe mehn.

  80. Ayomipo Oladapo

    August 23, 2013 at 8:24 pm

    PEOPLE READ ANONYMOUS @ 6: 56 pm. She is also a victim of pastor biodun ooo so you will stop judging Ese Walter. Ese gan ni oo

  81. madman

    August 23, 2013 at 8:29 pm

    Too many fake pastors in Nigeria. They all have sex with their congregants.

  82. Ayomipo Oladapo

    August 23, 2013 at 8:31 pm

    Maxwell take several seats and remin deaf and dumb for the rest of your life. A pastor manipulating his female church members into having sex with him because they are in awe of him his abuse. David wasn’t a man of GOD he was someone GOD loved and chose, two different stories and the woman that went barren was because she mocked David when he was dancing and praising GOD and not when he committed adultery or murder and maxwell come to think of it, David prayed for forgiveness about his act but GOD did not give him grace to build his temple because his hands were full of blood. Please understand the bible with wisdom before using it for exoneration. Thank you.

  83. flip

    August 23, 2013 at 8:32 pm

    I believe this girl is a devil who just want attention, I know the church and was in the work force for years before leaving because i had to come to Lagos and later the US. I’m not saying the man is perfect but i think this girl decided to pick a successful, good looking man of God to slander his name and increase her publicity. i went through her blog esewalter.wordpress.com and realized that it has been about different things except for the topic of this “her illicit affair with the man of God” was it a coincidence she gave no hint on how she felt on her own blog until a day ago? or was she just waiting for a good time to release a story that would catapult her to instant fame. Don’t get me wrong, i do not see pastor Biodun as a man without faults but i’m sure this story is designed for to help her rise to stardom like Kim Kardashian

    • Person

      August 24, 2013 at 12:49 am

      So she didn’t find anybody else ehn? She just randomly picked Pastor Biodun. How about Pastor Flo? And other ’eminent’ men of God? Eyin eniyan se ponu bayi na?

    • Okechukwu Ofili

      August 24, 2013 at 1:13 am

      “I’m not saying the man is perfect but i think this girl decided to pick a successful, good looking man of God to slander his name and increase her publicity.”

      wtf! What about successful and ugly men of God? “good looking man of God” so if you are good looking and successful you are allowed to manipulate people sexually.

    • Sere

      August 24, 2013 at 7:17 am

      But why are you people always quick to say such thing? Please is exposing your wrong-doing and shame to the world the sort of publicity that can take anybody anywhere in naija? would she spite herself this much just to shame your ex-pastor? When such a story comes to light, you just believe that the devil is at work as if it’s only the devil that has an agenda. What if God wants to save other people from erring? can’t you imagine it thay way? What if God wants to call an errant pastor back to himself because may be is neck deep in iniquity that will damn him forever and he has not heeded private counsel? The possibilities are endless so its not for you to just pull out a ‘devil at work’ and everybody hides their head. My dear, the issue is wether or not the person leadinng the flock is ravishing them so leave all this devil and ruining a ministry talk. From the bible that I read I understand that the soul of any 1 individual is more important to God than the ‘prosperity’ of a ministry. And anyway what will it profit a pastor to lead souls to Christ and himself be lost? Let the church be bold enough to come out with their own version of the truth o! and let it be God’s truth please. If this is going on in that church, it should not be covered up. Ministry is not more important than the congregants abeg.

  84. madman

    August 23, 2013 at 8:34 pm

    I know one Pastor right now at City of David (RCCG) who is shagging at least three of his female congregants….. let the church say – Amen! #secrets. God sees all things and he will pay each and everyone of us accordingly.

    • lola

      August 23, 2013 at 9:20 pm

      please oh. I hope its not my uncle. Hian!

    • madman

      August 23, 2013 at 10:41 pm

      Is your uncle in Lagos? If not, it doesn’t apply.

    • pd

      August 23, 2013 at 11:37 pm

      Lol…..u dis lola no go kee me with laugh!

    • lola

      August 24, 2013 at 3:01 am

      @madman. Biko. My uncle is in lagos oh! He is tall and kinda handsome.

    • madman

      August 24, 2013 at 12:11 pm

      Why “kind of”? There is no in between for fineness na. Teeth needs some dental work? But Kitkat, loves the kitty kat even at Redemption camp. Kitkat wants some kittykat. God sees all things. He will judge accordingly. “Touch not his anointed.” one day sha, fowl yansh go open.

    • Madman

      August 24, 2013 at 1:12 pm

      My use of the words kinkykat, kittykat, “Kitkat” “K” is purposeful.

    • Madman

      August 27, 2013 at 12:21 pm

      I answered your question to uncle k….. You never came back.

  85. Concerned_Boyfriend

    August 23, 2013 at 8:49 pm

    Here’s the accused !

    cozanigeria.org.ng/rev-biodun-fatoyinbo

  86. kind anon

    August 23, 2013 at 8:56 pm

    16 years old doing deliverance/special program overnight and a pastor came on to me. We are all free to deal with these issues however we feel but the truth is, whether u choose silence or u choose to make a scandal, NONE of it would happen if men of God, put in a position of trust, were doing what they should be doing. Stop acting like the woman is the only one who could have prevented this from happening!

  87. Concerned_Boyfriend

    August 23, 2013 at 8:57 pm

    @Man, abeg name the RCCG parish. Sexual immoralities are very rampant in RCCG…Thank God I don’t do Nigerian churches.

    • madman

      August 23, 2013 at 10:40 pm

      good for you. Well, Sexual Immorality is rampant because of the dominant patriarchal structure in Nigerian culture. A man is permitted to get away with many things.

  88. ForeverYoung

    August 23, 2013 at 8:59 pm

    Well looks like we have a sex addicted , sick and twisted randy man on our hands …… a comment from another blog….would love to see this lady release the evidence if she truly has it…..

    Franca said…

    This story is true. I was introduced to the church in Abuja by my childhood friend, who moved to Abuja from Calabar two years before I did. When I joined, she was also a PCU worker. I really felt welcome in the church up until my friend started having problems with other women. She told me it was because Pastor Biodun trusted her with so many official things even above workers that were there before her. I believed her until the day she had an misunderstanding with another worker who called her ‘Ashewo Mary Magdalene’ in the church. After that, her enthusiasm for church started waning while mine was getting stronger till the day she told me she was leaving the church and shortly after she left. By that time, Pastor Biodun had developed an interest in counseling me and then started telling me to take my friends place as a PCU worker. I was reluctant because I didnt feel like coming to church early and leaving late but Pastor Zbiodun assured me that his personal driver will pick me and drop me off and so I agreed. I started work as arranged but after a while, I noticed that the pastor did not respect personal space when talking to me when we were alone. He would stand soooooo close and rub my upper arms or my back which made me very uncomfortable. The final straw was when he said I should go with him to Lagos to take notes and transfer same online immediately for some Pentacostal thing he was attending and he knew I was very computer literate. I was excited till we reached Lagos and I realized that only one room was booked at the Wheatbaker Hotel, Ikoyi. Of course I complaint and the Pastor called the front desk ( or pretended to) to demand for another room. He said they would call back when the room was ready. He then told me to help massage his back becos he has back ache from sitting on the flight. I said I was tired since it was already after 8. He then insisted I lay down on the bed to rest while waiting. I said I preferred to sit at the desk and he laughed saying that I was acting like a small girl or a village uneducated girl. He then went in to take a shower. I then called the front desk to remind then about the extra room. I wasn’t surprised when I was told that they had vacant rooms and that nobody had requested for an extra room. By this time, I knew what was up and was ready for the fool. I opened his pouch and saw his wallet which had his lisence. Took a picture of the wallet and the Lisence on the pillow on the bed with my head in the shot. I opened the door and took several pictures of myself, the wallet and the Lisence with the room number. Came back in, once I heard the shower stop, I started audio recording on my BB. He came out with a towel around his waist and started telling me how attracted he was to me. He said many deregatory things about his wife, calling her a postcard…pretty on the outside but flat and empty upstairs. He said sex with her was like having sex with a cold dead fish…he tried to kiss me and I stood up, picked up my travelling bag, moved to the door, opened it and quickly took a picture of him, standing with a towel around him. He started begging. I called him all sorts of names and insisted he give me money for a separate room or I would scream ‘rape’. To cut a long story short, he asked me to shut the door, I refused, he brought out 2 bundles of N1000 and asked me to delete before he gives me the money. I told him he was in no position to negotiate. Got the money, left the Randy goat with a deflated erection and checked into another room. First thing the next morning, I left for ABJ. By the way, remember my childhood friend that introduced me toCOZA? I narrated my experience to her and she confessed that she was sleeping with Biodun for over a year, even on his marital bed when his wife travelled. Oga Pastor, try and deny my story publicly and see American wonder….I still have the pictures and our conversation on tape. Thank God for technology!!!!!! Franca E.

    • chichi

      August 23, 2013 at 9:52 pm

      wow wow..obviously a disgusting pig…i just love a sharp girl…are yall defending this fool reading??

    • jcsgrl

      August 23, 2013 at 10:01 pm

      Jesus Christ!!

    • Cynthia

      August 23, 2013 at 10:57 pm

      Ewooooooooo oooooooooo, chimo, shivers down my spine on your confession abt him, you are a smart girl I must say, na wa for wa, I’m shocked .

    • Person

      August 24, 2013 at 12:44 am

      Wow! Babe Franca, sharpness is your name o! Please release those pictures and recording! Tori Olorun!

    • Proud Osogbo Chick

      August 24, 2013 at 11:02 am

      Franka you be sharp babe…….see ass opening kai

    • Kia

      August 24, 2013 at 1:23 pm

      Na wah oh! Attented coza for over 2 years . Still can’t believe this. I grew so much in that church and can’t believe Pst B is capable of this. God have mercy.

    • Blessmyheart

      August 24, 2013 at 3:05 pm

      Please and please, if you really do have evidence, now is the time to release it. God bless you

  89. Simplybecause

    August 23, 2013 at 9:11 pm

    All these people should just carry their wahala and go abeg. Pastor get girlfriend, church worker open leg for pastor, pastor dumped her, she seeks revenge… WHAT IS NOW OUR BUSINESS INSIDE?? Please she can keep her drama for her church fellowship abi vigil. We really don’t want to see them air their dirty linen on every corner of the interwebs. Abeg.

  90. :-

    August 23, 2013 at 9:15 pm

    I am allowed to judge here -: God will punish some people and their room/space/hole in hell will not have window.

  91. Concerned9ja

    August 23, 2013 at 9:17 pm

    You cannot put a 9ja man at the helm of anything they bound to abuse it…yes most men abuse their position but 9ja men take it to the extreme..
    From Pastors..Lecturers..Judges..Bank Managers..CEO…Govt Officials..the list is endless in their tiny brain they see their “exalted” position as an avenue to endless flow of puntang!!

  92. :-

    August 23, 2013 at 9:21 pm

    God is indeed patient. all this “PASTORS” hmmm

  93. SASA

    August 23, 2013 at 9:24 pm

    I BET U R A BLOODY COZA MEMBER

  94. maxwell

    August 23, 2013 at 9:25 pm

    Now oladapo, u are of men miserable, and the way you talk so confidently as if u witnessed the whole thing, you are so dumb and foolish to belive what the poor girl said, how can u be that foolish? Damn, u brain is so below the ground,u need to get ur facts right before opening that hole u call mouth in ur weak head and say rubbish. David ws loved and called by God and when did u become God’s PA or secretary that u knw those he loves and called from those that called themselves that u think pastor Fatoyinbo isn’t loved and called by God.. Just a word for any reasonable fellow to abstain from saying rubbish since there are no proofs for it yet. I’m not saying the pastor didn’t do all Ese said, but what if its a lie, its a 50/50 thing and par adventure its a lie, u can imagine the curses and more curses and more more curses u have placed on ur head, ur house and and possibly ur unborn children

  95. where is DJ Xclusive ohh?? lol

    August 23, 2013 at 9:28 pm

    what shall it profit a man to gain the whole world and loose his soul?

  96. Real

    August 23, 2013 at 9:29 pm

    May the good lord forgive all, both the pastor and Ese.

    My thoughts and prayers are with the pastor’s wife and children, this will surely hurt and break their heart.

  97. Ayomipo Oladapo

    August 23, 2013 at 9:30 pm

    Madman u always know secrets I can’t forget ur newyork discovery #biggrin#

    • madman

      August 23, 2013 at 11:44 pm

      My love, I wish I could say ooo …. but man, it’s sad. I’ve lost faith in some people. We as a people should stop negotiating our credibility and morals.

  98. nicki fey

    August 23, 2013 at 9:33 pm

    What she did is called restitution. Only few people in the world have the nerve to do such. And inasmuch as christianity involves working out your own salvation personally, at some point we need someone to act as a mentor to us. Even if Ese’s relationship with pastor biodun was consensual or whatever..I still think self esteem had a part to play. No one should blame her for speaking out(I still can’t understand how someone would say she’s trying to wreck the pastor’s ministry when that’s all the pastor has done) she admitted her guilt already. Pls let God be the judge and let us be wiser. P.S the judgment of God doesn’t consider the personality of man.

  99. mimi said

    August 23, 2013 at 9:36 pm

    thats it i give up…stupid narrow minded nigerians that is why u people will never progress in life..when u see black and call it white…that is why thousands if not millions of women die in silence because there own worst enemies are there so called women and people… atleast da idiotic pastor should ve steped down or shown a remorseful attitude maybe she wouldnt ve gone dis far but no he decided to play it his way and felt he was untouchable..and useless nigerians we have fell for his ways…who the hell do u think u are to judge dis girl.. to whom much is given much is expected am sure nobody forced him to become wateva he became so he shuld ve respected not only his post but family she shuld ve too.but in dis situation who shuld ve bn the wiser ?.. ode oshi…dear ese nobody is condoning wat u did and nobody should open der gutters and make dis lady feel unworthy,@ odine and jcsgrl, i could give yall a kiss right now..

  100. timi

    August 23, 2013 at 9:44 pm

    shut up girl!! He is not the first you have been with and certainly not the last you will be with.

  101. where is DJ Xclusive ohh?? lol

    August 23, 2013 at 9:45 pm

    @Forever Young are you for real? I wish i had that much energy.,lol bloggers are trying i am so gonna miss bn wen i stp hahaha.. forever young i wanna be……… cheers 🙂

  102. Anonymous

    August 23, 2013 at 9:47 pm

    I can’t judge Ese or the gentleman involved as only God sits that high. But I do believe that this piece illustrates an inherent problem in a high percentage of our church-going public. We place our church leaders on a pedestal equivalent to a deity to the point where everything they do and say is expected to be perfect. Pastors are not without sin and we should all learn to accept it and I think the pastors would do better to message this out to their congregation. Let’s hear it for the pastor whose next message is along the lines of ‘I am a human being just like you and while I am here to guide you, please do not hold me to a standard that is equivalent to the Most High, because I am nowhere near perfection to the God I serve’.

  103. API

    August 23, 2013 at 9:48 pm

    Well well, this story has two sides; Esa did the right by letting what is distrubing her mind and ask for mercy from God.

    Also she gave in after Knowing the intension of the pastor, she still agreed to deal. She’ s used to that level and kind of transaction. The pastor failed completely and needs God’s mercy.

  104. Emmy

    August 23, 2013 at 9:48 pm

    Hmmm… this matter is very serious! I fear for this babe’s life and wellbeing after this ‘stepping out of the closet’. Very bold indeed! Her Facebook page has even gone ‘off air’. #Sitting, watching and praying.

  105. Stephen Paul

    August 23, 2013 at 9:52 pm

    This girl is so fake!!! she wanted the affair to happen. She’s gotten what she wanted, and now she writes about it?! Mehn!!!! some girls really do lack class. Babe you lack class. You think explaining what happened between you and the pastor makes it ok? Nah babe, nah.

    You shouldn’t even show yourself on social media, have u no shame? now this is why I don’t date Nigerian girls. You – up!!! deal with it and stop telling the world. Damn!!! honestly I couldn’t care less. What worries me though, is how on earth you got the nerve to put your story on social media with a smile on it.

    You better buy some class, because you lack it. No class!!!

    • Sere

      August 23, 2013 at 10:51 pm

      Ermmm, so your thoughts concerning this issue are about fakeness, class and the fact that you don’t date Nigerian girls. Dude seriously? you seem so real right now.

    • Okechukwu Ofili

      August 24, 2013 at 12:53 am

      And the Pastor has class? no wait…he has swag. #smh

    • RA

      August 24, 2013 at 3:09 am

      mr stephen paul ur fakeness knows no boundaries and from your comment i can perceive your stupidity. nigerian girls don’t even want to date two faced bastards like you. run away with your tail between your legs. you are a child. go to madagascar or zimbabwe u will get a hoe there, thats if you dont live with or arent engaged to one. knut

    • missNk

      August 24, 2013 at 11:47 am

      Right! She wanted the affair to happen. You my dear are one of the reasons many nigerian females get raped and do not report because they are scared that judgmental fellows like you will somehow try to make it about her and what she did and did not do, conveniently leaving the man out. nonsense

  106. Truth be told...

    August 23, 2013 at 9:55 pm

    Humbly speaking : I don’t have much energy to contend with YOU people, because i know YOUR type, so sorry YOU did not meet me at home. Stick to what or WHOM you have full details about and say or talk to er however you want. ash

    • Truth be told...

      August 23, 2013 at 10:04 pm

      this is for one of the bn commentators. ese and pastor biodun should pray for forgiveness and God will definitely forgive them but they should stay away from it (SIN). And God said anything that will make you SIn be it your eyes, pluck it out. They should just keep the distance as wide as possible. #shikena

    • Okechukwu Ofili

      August 23, 2013 at 11:55 pm

      make pastor pluck em prick commot? maka gini?

    • Lmao

      August 24, 2013 at 10:54 am

      Dead!!!

  107. Active Pharmaceutical Ingredients....

    August 23, 2013 at 10:00 pm

    Oloshi People………. Gosh I Hate AnyOne or Anything that doesn’t bring out the Best in Me.

    • Anon

      August 23, 2013 at 11:22 pm

      Same as truth be told. Dumb!

  108. Julie M.

    August 23, 2013 at 10:08 pm

    What is this world turning into???? This babe willingly had an affair with a married man and now she wants closure? Ese Walter,spare a thought for Mrs Fatoyinbo. And your claim that this alleged affair lasted for just about a week is a blatant lie-the last paragraph of your blog contradicts that. You girl will not have peace because the wrath of God will be more on you for luring a man of God to your bed-cos u must have sent some ok signals to him.Repent!!!!!!!

    • Okechukwu Ofili

      August 23, 2013 at 11:47 pm

      yawn…the Pastor should be the one repenting.

    • zsa zsa

      August 24, 2013 at 4:23 am

      LOL, nah so nah……women blaming women.

    • missNk

      August 24, 2013 at 11:49 am

      ahh women are their worst enemies. why should we spare a thought for his wife? That should have been his problem.

  109. Lolla

    August 23, 2013 at 10:09 pm

    if this is really a true story then it’s not time to start passing judgement but to look for a solution how to prevent a reoccurence of such. My opinion is that if Pastor Biodun were to be your brother how will you feel and also on the other hand if Ese walter was your daughter what will you do?if we all look at this issue this way then solution will be the topmost agenda on our heart and not passing judgement or shifting blame. What would Jesus do in this situation should be the focus, pls the kingdom of God must keep marching on and the gates of hades must not prevail.God bless.

  110. Ayomipo Oladapo

    August 23, 2013 at 10:21 pm

    @maxwell I will only say ur brain is filled with dead decomposed worms lol #biggestgrin# Hope u av read accounts of 2 oda ladies confirming ur pastor’s acts because I know u attend COZA dats y u dnt av indept knowledge of the bible especially David’s account. and I’m sure if u had d oppourtinuty to take a woman for granted u did do it.

  111. nk

    August 23, 2013 at 10:28 pm

    dont know if she is telling the truth bout the affair,but the truth is these things happen. mine was by a catholic priest that tried to kiss me,n i immediately got up,as i wanted to leave he said “are you not a big girl? and u are catholic”. Like me being catholic gave him the right to do what ever with me. A friend was even actively sleeping with a priest and this was when we were in 100 level at 18yrs,remember feeling all guilty and praying bout it, took her time before she could even breakoff her relationship with the priest,and it was because she threatened to tell her mother. Then during my service year a corps member was leaving with a priest in the village where we served,cooking for him and warming his bed, d chic took it very seriously like a relationship sef. These things happen just that people dont really talk about it,i remember watching these priests serve mass and i just kept wondering how they could live with themselves…

  112. Olaoluwa

    August 23, 2013 at 10:48 pm

    If I were Ese Walters and I needed closure…….I would go to this mans wife and confess everything to her and ask for her forgiveness. Settle with my God and live a new life with peace of mind.Temptation comes in different forms,it’s either you are tempted or you are the temptation. This just confirms that pastors are human beings too and we should be careful not to tempt them in anyway or allow ourselves to be their object of temptation.1 Corinthians 8;12. Please single ladies should be careful in all you do……take time to read n study the bible and strive to do what it’s says than what my pastors says…..by that when the devil brings temptations….you will see clearly n flee…..May God forgive the pastor and hold his wife and children…..and Ese.You have learnt your lesson in a hard way.Move on babe.

    • the gak

      August 25, 2013 at 9:23 am

      Its. Really pissing me off thatyou are stylishliy removin Pastor prick from this mix. Shehas no business confessing to the mans wife as aahe isn’t married to her. You are obviously a MIsOgYnisT

  113. Word

    August 23, 2013 at 10:58 pm

    I am a COZA member and have been richly blessed by God through Pastor Biodun, He is a true teacher, gifted with The Word and my life has been made better for this. Having said that, one thing we often forget is that men of God are merely vessels! In the Bible, God spoke through a donkey; He also said that He could raise dry bones to worship Him!! My point is that the key to serving God as a member of a congregation is to fix your eyes on the God you are serving and not on the vessel through which He is blessing you. If members can remember this, a lot of these issues would be avoided (my opinion). I am in no position to believe or disbelieve this claim, but I just plead that Christians who have heard The Word through this man (and read this comment) remember that it is the vessel, which may be flawed, but the God you serve is a holy and righteous God. Please do not allow this shake your faith in, and commitment to God, even if all Pastors ‘fall”, Our God is true, do continue to follow Him and seek Him with all your heart and at the end of the race, YOU will receive YOUR crown of glory, not your pastor, not your parents but you. May God grant us strength!

    • CarliforniaBawler

      August 24, 2013 at 12:59 am

      My dear, I hear your gist but as someone mentioned earlier, these guys are the ones that set themselves up to be held to such high standards….
      Also on the other hand, before the death and resurrection of Christ bringing on the dispensation of grace, the Spirit of the Lord visited the prophets, worked through them and left. However, now we have the indwelling of the spirit, we need to realize we are no longer just vessels through which the Spirit flows but IN which the Lord also resides. The standards are higher now than for prophets of old, and not for pastors but for all Spirit-filled Christians.

    • Kia

      August 24, 2013 at 1:43 pm

      I agree with you. Pst B is an anointed teacher of the word, there is no doubt about that. I just can’t reconcile what I am hearing with the man I see on the pulpit. I am not saying he is perfect but this is too much. A lot of people have been blessed by his ministry and its unfortunate that this character flaw will destroy what God has used him to do. If it is true I pray that he repents, God restores him and continues to use him. We have so few pastors in Nigeria that actually teach the word. As for ese, sorry for what happened to you. I pray u can move on. I feel this is less about abuse than revenge. I have been around victims of abuse and at no point in this situation where u ever not in control. You could have walked away, most abuse victims can’t. This is a really sad situation.

  114. MoD

    August 23, 2013 at 11:01 pm

    My people perish for lack of knowledge…. Get wisdom and in all your getting, get understanding… Study to show yourself approved…all paraphrased (ish) but from the bible. If Ese knew her bible wella, all that nonsense that she was being told about touch not my prophet…would have been water off a duck’s back. She wanted closure, but I doubt she’s got it now….

  115. DXX

    August 23, 2013 at 11:05 pm

    I do not want to believe this happened,we have only heard one side of the story, no one is supposed to take sides until you hear from both sides. questions are: Does Pastor not have protocols in London that will arrange his Hotel and movement from the Airport or was it an unofficial vacation to London because of Ese. I also feel that the fact of going to the Hotel room the first day and sleeping with the Pastor does not follow a natural sequence on the side of Ese unless there has been intentions in the heart(especially when you said you respect and trust him) No one out of trust will fall into an ocean because the person you respect asked you to do so. I struggle not to take sides but we all have to be very careful to pass judgement until we hear the other side of the story. For those already condemning the Pastor, beware! That King David slept with Uriah’s wife did not prevent him from being a man after God’s heart,if a man makes a mistake and God forgives him, it is no longer our business. For Sister Ese,if your story is true and you had genuinely asked God for forgiveness,he will forgive you and the guilt will go away, making it public is to punish the pastor and the church and not because of the guilt. If this story is true the stigma will be on both Ese and Coza but for a while. This is God’s business, let’s be cautious with our words in this matter

  116. Prime

    August 23, 2013 at 11:25 pm

    Objectively speaking, This was consentual btwin adults and I saw no form of abuse. Ohk, psycological mind games, yes but who doesnt use reverse psychology.
    Both of them are wrong as I dont condone Adultery. But putting the blame on one person onli is not fair, CONSENTUAL!!!
    I’m sure there are ladies who rejected the pastor at some point in time so she shouldnt use trance and play us. I also understand Y U would indulge in such partakings and That there is more to the story dan wat U wrote. I shall however rebuke U for mentioning ur frnds name, Eniola I tink, U culd av left him out.
    While I dont doubt ur story, I however question ur motives for posting online bcuz Der are lots of ways to get it off your chest without putting it online.
    I guess it was all bout driving traffic to ur blog.

  117. D

    August 23, 2013 at 11:43 pm

    but she wasnt abused tho, she had a sexual affair with him, nobody forced her to do it. I agree that she must have been manipulated but most men manipulate girls to sleep with them, thats how they get sex, thats where the girl either decides to do it or not, no one would have beaten her up if she walked out of the hotel room. Its just like a girl saying someone like wizkid manipulated her to have sex with him because of his celebrity statu, as far as he didnt physically or mentally force you then she had a choice. She just was feeling guilty about the affair but please she shouldnt call it abuse, calling it abuse is trivializing actual sexual abuse

  118. Wanday

    August 23, 2013 at 11:51 pm

    I am finding it hard to empathise with Eze because I am appalled by the way/ manner she chose to address the issue. Although she claims that she is not trying to play a victim here, she is definitely trying to get people to empathise with her. If she was a naïve child or an adult that was sexually abused, I would be more sympathetic towards her. Come on, you had enough flags to leave the scene but you chose to stay there. Your Pastor beckons for you to sit on his laps, and you oblige. He kisses you, and you kiss him back and then he sleeps with you. You were a consenting adult. You could have backed out after one night but you continued. Yes, you feel guilty, but you do not strike me as a repentant person. You claim that you don’t understand how your pastor can go on the pulpit and preach against fornication when he is doing just that but you fail to see the log in your eye. You are just as guilty because you are painting the other person black without failing to admit to your mistakes. You should have had more respect for the pastor’s family. I can’t imagine what they are going through now. A personal issue has now being turned to a viral sensation. It’s sad. Her approach was just wrong. To be honest, I just feel like the pastor told eze he couldn’t see her anymore and she decided to pay him back. Seems like she just wants attention. If indeed, she was truly repentant, she would be sober and be pleading for mercy and God’s forgiveness. Eze claims that the reason why she wrote this article is to look out for the interest of other sisters in the church but I don’t buy it. Go and ask God for forgiveness and mercy. Yes, God says we should confess our sins but my dear, I don’t think this is how God would have liked you to do so. Your guilt is just remorse, a truly repentant person will not act in this manner.

    As Christians, we should learn to make Christ our standard and not our pastors and ensure that the actions/preaching of our pastors are in line with God’s word. Idolizing a man of God is wrong. If indeed, the man of God did this, He will definitely pay the price and have to deal with the consequences of his actions. What I know for certain is that everything done in secret will be revealed in the open and God is the ultimate judge. Pastors need to lead by example. If indeed you are preaching against fornication and you are doing just that, there is a big issue and the church authorities need to take appropriate measures. I feel for the wife and kids. How will they be able to face the church. Well, let’s wait to hear the other side of the story

    • Easy now!

      August 24, 2013 at 12:51 am

      @Wanday, God bless you. You are absolutely correct.

  119. Ola Ola

    August 23, 2013 at 11:51 pm

    Ese is just telling cheap lies ; why did she return to the hotel room constantly for 1 week; ? A single occurrence cld be regarded as a mistake or was she in trance for a week riding the pastor …………………………an idiot tryn to fool everyone she was innocent.

  120. paulmirabilis

    August 23, 2013 at 11:58 pm

    I will never defend any pastor because I, for one,have been a strong critic of blind religiosity.However, having read through this story of hers, it’s very obvious she did not even refuse the pastor’s advances, atleast from her own account of the saga.With that in mind, there’s no other name that fits anybody that displays such cheapness than a “-“. She also kept using the word “abuse” and that surprises me a lot because the last time i checked, what transpired between her and the pastor cannot be described as abuse.Yes, what the pastor did was wrong because he’s supposed to be a “man of God” and not an adulterer but it’s very clear that this – is trying to be popular as a self-professed feminist!

    • Easy now!

      August 24, 2013 at 12:42 am

      @paulmirabilis, thank you so much, you brought the word out of my mouth.

  121. Née

    August 24, 2013 at 12:16 am

    I love to share this piece I read on koye’s blog. It was a perfect analysis of the whole event
    I must start by saying this is not a response to Ms. Walter’s exposé of her short-lived affair with Pastor Biodun Fatoyinbo of COZA. What follows is a collection of random thoughts and beliefs, some of which I have held for years – and have now decided to share. You will find that not all of them are directly correlated to the situation Ms. Walter describes.

    Let’s go:

    1.    At their very best, Pastors are only MEN of God. There is no simpler way to convey this truth. Your Pastor, no matter how holy he behaves and how many times a day he says “God bless you”, is only a man. His ‘Pastoral calling’ does not grant him immunity to the temptations and fallings that befall other men. Guys, even Jesus was a man! (I Tim. 2: 5). He grew hungry, thirsty, and was equally tempted by the devil!

    2.    We are ALL the anointed of God. The verse which says in part “…touch not my anointed, and do my Prophets no harm” is often quoted out of context. A while back I was reading about a Pastor who sexually molested a 2-year old, and someone in the comments section was taking everyone else to the cleaners – arguing that they were “touching God’s anointed”. Chimo! If you would make time to read I Chron. 16: 16-22, you would see that the phrase “my anointed” referred to the people of Israel! All of them, and now ALL OF US!

    3.    It is okay to correct church leaders when they slip up. Yes! I said that, and I’ll say it again. Church leaders sometimes make mistakes, and it is totally okay to correct them – so long as it is done in love. Do you guys remember Peter? Remember how he became de-facto head of the church after Jesus’s ascension to heaven? Okay. Now do you remember Paul? Remember how he was travelling around persecuting Christians while Peter’s shadow was healing the sick (Acts 5: 12-16)? It might interest you to know that Paul corrected Peter “to his face” in Antioch “because he (Peter) was clearly in the wrong”. (Gal. 2: 11-21, NIV). It might also interest you to know Jesus regularly corrected the Pharisees and Sadducees (leaders of the religious institution of the time) in public.

    4.    A man who does not answer to any higher authority is a disaster waiting to happen. When female friends call to tell me they are entering into ‘maritally-intended’ relationships, I often ask them if their partners have mentors or people they hold in high esteem. (Males rarely call to ‘announce’). Times come when men make mistakes (some of them honest and sincere), and their families need to cry for outside help as a last resort. Woe betide her who marries a man without mentors/role models/father figures in his life. No man is reasonable 100% of the time. Accountability is important! Very important!

    5.    If you ever need to ‘report’ your Pastor, ‘report’ him to his mentor – not to his protégés. In I. Peter 5: 5, young men are exhorted to submit to those who are older. Spiritual authority is taken very seriously amongst Pastors and their protégés, and it is foolhardy to expect a protégé to correct his ‘Senior Pastor’. If you ever run into an issue with your Pastor that needs to be discussed with a third party – find his mentor; not a subordinate!

    6.    We need to help our Pastors, not worship them! I have been to churches where members fawned over their pastors, seeming to worship the ground they walked on. Kai! That is idolatry o! We should respect our Pastors and leaders, but NOT WORSHIP THEM! I have heard testimonies where people gave thanks to “Papa”, blessed “Papa” for interpreting their dreams and praying for them, and asked the congregation to rise and clap their hands for “Papa”. Ewe! Guys!! What is the place of God in all that when you ascribe all the glory to “Papa”?

    Pastors and leaders need help o! My one year as General Secretary (I was not even a Pastor o) of OAU’s University Joint Christian Mission (UJCM) was one of my toughest! Believe me when I say I experienced temptation in a new dimension entirely – and ask Busola or P Soj for details if you don’t. I could only wonder what people like Pastors Olumide and Kolapo, and fine-boy Pastors like Ayotunde Ilesanmi of CASOR were facing on a daily basis.

    If Pastor asks you to come to the hotel, do him a favor and DON’T GO! If he asks you to sit on his laps, kick off your shoes and run!! If he asks you to wait behind after two or three consecutive services for extra counselling, tell him you prefer to speak to his wife!!! Help Pastor!!!

    7.    You MUST know God for yourself! This is the most important of all these thoughts, and I have saved it for last. One of the greatest things that happened to Christianity was the ‘democratization’ of the Bible. Read your Bible, and get to know YOUR God for YOURself! When we stand before God, we will all stand by ourselves for ourselves! There will be no singing and dancing “awa egbe SCM, aa de!” No! Pastor will not be able to say something in your defense on that day!

    A number of ‘commenters’ on Ms. Walter’s post have asked her to take it down because it might hurt other people’s belief in God. Frankly, this is balderdash. I understand that we hold some men in higher esteem than others, but if your belief in God can be hurt by your Pastors shortcomings, then maybe you need to lose this ‘belief’ and rediscover God for yourself.

    Draw near to God, and He will draw near to you!

    PS:
    Please feel free to disagree with any of the thoughts/beliefs expressed in this post. Use the comments section below so that we can all learn and grow as iron sharpens iron. Thanks!
    In the event that Ms. Walter’s side of the story is the true one, I am very happy for her. She seems to have found healing,

    • DOROTHY DANDRIDGE

      August 24, 2013 at 9:21 am

      WELL SAID!!

    • Kia

      August 24, 2013 at 1:53 pm

      I agree with totally

  122. Olori dee

    August 24, 2013 at 12:20 am

    wats with this guilty thing shes hiding under. I think theres more to this story. why is she making it public? though she had spoken to another pastor about it. i think shes just trying to get at the man. may be they had a fall out or something, this is certainly not guilt.

  123. MLK

    August 24, 2013 at 12:31 am

    I’v heard these stories about this Pastor abt 2yrs ago when I was in A.It’s also well-known,even by COZA members(some are my friends) that guy was a cultist in UniIlorin b4 he turned bornagain.So rest assured,this kind of failing is piece of cake for him to handle.

    • NAINI

      August 24, 2013 at 3:53 am

      WOW, so it is a crime for a Pastor to do his restitution and share his past so that people can give glory to God and have hope? If he hid his past now, una go talk. I’m just sick of retards like you.

  124. Oaken

    August 24, 2013 at 12:46 am

    I’m still not sure why she went to meet a pastor in a hotel. that coupled with the fact all the writings on the wall, the moment she set foot into the hotel, vividly indicated that the visit was unlikely to end well.

  125. maxwell

    August 24, 2013 at 12:52 am

    OMG!!! Will all these pastor Fatoyibo’s victims get done with all these claims and get proofs? @ foreerayoung, I realy hope franka comes out eith the pictures. He’s been exposed already soif you are for real, bring out the pictures and let’s have a confirmation. Oladapo with the basket brain, its so pathetic, that dumb skull u call brain can’t sieve words before digesting them, you just talk trash without thinking, get a life u hopeless jerk, I think the Ese girl she had a voice record with a pastor in lagos.how come she didn’t release that with her stupid story? Mcteeeeeeeew.

  126. Oma

    August 24, 2013 at 1:02 am

    As a woman and as someone who is privileged to work directly with other women, I encourage women to share their stories, both the good and the not-so-pleasant ones, because even when we don’t know it, we just might be helping someone else.
    As so many people have pointed out, and very rightly so, societal attitudes to these kind of stories, the negative reaction/bad press it always receives is one of the strongest reason a lot of women go through life marred, wounded, broken and without the possibility of finding healing or getting retribution after going through any kind of abuse. A lot of women learn to live with it and even consider it as normal or think that they’re to be blamed. Some people are blessed to find healing and peace miraculously at the feet of Jesus, but for that to happen, you must be in a good place as regards your faith. I say miraculously because after going through such ordeal, questioning God and the authenticity of Christianity comes more easily to a lot of people.
    Sharing it with the world might help Ese, but Closure can only come if she goes back to her faith and humbly bow at the feet of Jesus. I want to think that for her own good that she’s done that.
    Now for the very unfortunate incident, we can choose to blame them both or blame one or the other, it really doesn’t make any difference. It was wrong!!! On all counts!!!
    When a female member seduces a man of God, it is considered abominable, but a man of God hits on a female member, the same rule seems not to apply.
    When a man of God misbehaves like a mere man, he should also learn the art of apologizing and trying to make amends, just like the rest of us, otherwise it becomes a case of deception and blasphemy. They might not be above misdeeds, because no one is, but when they believe themselves to be entitled to “a special grace” when it concerns sinful behavior, when they forget how to be remorseful, when they forget how to accept responsibility and apologize for wrongdoings, then I think that even God Himself will not only frown on them, but might just hasten their fall.
    What can I say, I have respect for most men of God, but above that, I have respect for God and for myself, afterall, my body is considered the temple of God.
    Regarding her picture on this blogpost, I don’t think she put up that picture,given that she used real names in her narration, it’s easy to dig up pictures of her.
    Ese dear, may you find the healing and restoration you need. And may the pastor learn a much needed lesson in humility and sanctity.

    • DOROTHY DANDRIDGE

      August 24, 2013 at 9:15 am

      I APOLOGISE FOR TYPING IN CAPITAL LETTERS, BUT I REALLY THINK IT’S NEEDED. PEOPLE REALLY NEED TO TAKE TIME AND READ TO UNDERSTAND BEFORE COMMENTING. NOBODY HAS SAID THAT WHAT THE CHARLATAN ( YEAH, HE’S DEFINITELY NOT A MAN OF GOD) DID IS EXCUSABLE. IT IS NOT ACCEPTABLE AND HE CLEARLY NEEDS HELP.

      THE PROBLEM IS WITH ESE AND SOME OF THE OTHER COMMENTERS HERE WHO’VE HAD PHONE SEX, VAGINAL SEX AND WHATEVER OTHER KIND OF SEX OF THEIR OWN VOLITION. ESE WAS NOT RAPED OR DRUGGED. NO ONE PUT A GUN TO HER TEMPLE OR THREATENED TO ANIHILATE HER FAMILY BEFORE THE SEX THAT HAPPENED DAILY FOR A WEEK WITH THE MARRIED CHARLATAN. SHE WENT TO HIS HOTEL ROOM ALONE. SHE SAT ON HIS LAP( DID SHE THINK THE BODE GUY WAS JUST TRYING TO BLOW OUT DIRT FROM HER EYE?). SHE FELT ‘FREE’ TO KISS THE MARRIED MAN AND EVEN ‘FREER’ TO ROLL IN THE HAY WITH HIM. SHE WAS A WILLING PARTICIPANT NOT A ‘WRONGED VICTIM’ .

      THE REAL VICTIM IS THE COMMENTER WHO WAS RAPED . THE REAL VICTIM IS THE COMMENTER WHO WAS LOCKED UP IN A ROOM AND RAPED FOR TWO DAYS. THE REAL VICTIM IS THE COMMENTER WHO WAS PINNED TO THE WALL BECAUSE SOME PERVERT WANTED TO HAVE HIS WAY WITH HER. ESE IS NOT A VICTIM. WOMEN REALLY NEED TO STOP THIS WHOLE VICTIM MENTALITY WHEN IT DOES NOT APPLY TO THEIR SITUTAION. IT MAKES IT REALLY HARD FOR THE REAL VICTIMS

      IT’S A LOT EASIER TO ACT LIKE A DAMSEL-IN-DISTRESS THAN TO TAKE A COUPLA STEPS BACK AND REFLECT AND ASK YOURSELF WHY YOU THOUGHT IT RIGHT TO SLEEP WITH YOURMARRIED ‘PASTOR’ BECAUSE IF IT’S NOT HIM, IT WILL BE YOUR MARRIED DEACON OR YOUR MARRIED COACH OR YOUR MARRIED COLLEAGUE AND YOU WILL KEEP ASSUMING THE ROLE OF THE VICTIM. YOU NEED TO THINK AND REFLECT ON YOUR LIFE, ESE. BUT THEN AGAIN, THAT MIGHT BE TOO MUCH TOO ASK SEEING HOW MUCH NIGERIANS HATE ANY KIND OF SELF REFLECTION. IT’S ALWAYS SOMEONE ELSE’S FAULT.

  127. Emma

    August 24, 2013 at 1:10 am

    Well, I think this “Lady” is either a non existing personality or a very good writer who thinks she is too smart to brainwash everyone. Though i stand the opinion that Pastor Biodun is Human not an angel or holier than Jesus Himself, but i really need “Ese” to feed us with facts and statistics for this kind of allegation. Facts Like What date did you join COZA, What is the Name of The Hotel he lodged, The Name of the School where you are studying for your master program, the name of your parents,your facebook User name, the name of the Airline you claimed trying to book for him, and alot more relevant statistics so that we can make proper findings if not you are just another possessed noise maker.

    • Person

      August 24, 2013 at 2:26 am

      She was at Nigerian Law School, Abuja in the year that I was there. Iyen tun ko? Please go and sit down jare if your brain cells are on vacation.

  128. Her royal freshness

    August 24, 2013 at 1:16 am

    Abeg I need to ask, na underage she be? Pastor say come sit don for my lap, u carry your two leg go sit don, dey tie your hand or dey cover your eye? Sowi sha hmmmm

  129. Her royal freshness

    August 24, 2013 at 1:31 am

    And hope say u think of the man wife and children?

  130. Benny

    August 24, 2013 at 1:45 am

    My Dear Sister, I remember you confessed to someone close to me about your affairs with your Pastor which you were counseled on this case about Three or Two years ago in Abuja. No one who fear God will support what happened between you people but truly your analysis then didnt show any form of manipulation or deception but the fact that you cooperated with him. I am not sure prayers had been said on his behalf since then to help him from his weakness, a man of God is still human who is trying to attain perfection like Jesus said. No blame anyway but remember that whoever has not done this should cast the first stone said Jesus and also, this is not the best way of coming back to God infact now you have made yourself more prone to attack but you have the mercy of God. I’m sure you have discussed this issue with few people and thats the best thing to do. We dont need to display our dirty linen in the public before we wash it clean. Pls lets lift our spiritual leaders up in prayers everytime cos the kingdom of hell is not happy with their work of salvation and deliverance, so he uses any slightest weakness of theirs to bring them down. God Bless you Ese. God Bless Biodun Fatoyinbo. God Bless COZA. My opinion.

  131. Tunmi

    August 24, 2013 at 2:00 am

    He abused his position and frankly this is not his first and it won’t be his last because those who have been victims would rather stay quiet and suffer silently….and I cannot blame them. But at some point, we have to (as a society) stop protecting these monsters

  132. Cozamember

    August 24, 2013 at 2:14 am

    Now truth be told PB as he’s fondly called is a sex addict.I was a worker in that church for 6yrears b4 I left in 2011.This 6 yrs(included Ilorin +Abuja).in my 6 years I know a number of ladies that served directly with the pastorate that have left the church without the pastor or is yes boys go after them to find out why they left.They are Maria,Bisola,Lara,Alice& some i can’t think of at the moment.For your information these ladies r doing well in the city of Abuja but they have refused to come back to the church.And they always never talked about why they left the church.Pls can you guys stop talking Ese down cos she spoke?Can you guys wait till Sunday to here what the pastor has to say?At there workers meeting last night they told all there workers to put up good things that have happened to them thru there service in the church.Summarily ,they’ve been taught that there pastor is a Demi god who has never & cannot commit sexual sin.Remember I left Ilorin for Abuja.It was this same rumor that was going round when he left Ilorin.My fellow BN members hope you know there is no smoke without fire.If a lie goes for years one day the truth will speak for itself.Dnt forget pastor Albert Odulele of London.Men of God are also men of men.They also sin o even worse than a normal Christian.God bless you

  133. RA

    August 24, 2013 at 2:55 am

    this is becoming greatly irritating

  134. RA

    August 24, 2013 at 2:58 am

    She should have settles it quietly, no need for all this public scenario. I’m pissed. FAKE PASTORS.

  135. RA

    August 24, 2013 at 3:01 am

    settled*

  136. Timmy tim

    August 24, 2013 at 3:27 am

    I was almost a victim of one few years ago but mine stopped at having phone sex with him. A renowned man of God who’s married, has a church in Nigeria and travels around the world to preach. I met in the states when he came to my church. Long story short I felt hypnotized but i snapped back into my senses after the phone sex. I avoided got to his hotel room after invitations and later allerged him of trying to fornicate with me. He immediately turned the table around and took me off his fb page. May God help us and when I say he performs miracles hmmm its an eye saw only God will understand this so call pastors.

  137. Timmy tim

    August 24, 2013 at 3:29 am

    pardon the typos pls….

  138. vee

    August 24, 2013 at 4:25 am

    God deliver us all from these fake pastors. Many people have been victims, and are not bold enough to tell their stories. However, Ese would have snapped out of it like Franca did, she not only slept with a pastor, but also a married man. I have never been in support of Pastor worshippers, we as humans are so fake and want to be close to pastors as if they are the next thing to God. We fail to look at the author and finisher of our life who is God, but rather look upon and worship these pastors who are just mere men like you and I. As much as I blame this pastor, I still blame Ese for succumbing, walking into that room, and jumping into that bed………., not just a day, but for one week every blessed day, common sense would have told you better Ese. Like one of the earlier comments noted, IT TAKES 2 TO TANGO!. That Pastor should repent for real and rededicate his life to God, and should step down as a pastor

  139. sisieko

    August 24, 2013 at 7:08 am

    A word of caution to christian folks out there-please WE should try and cultivate a personal relationship with God so that you might get to know him for YOURSELF.This is increasingly important in this last days to avoid deception.With that being said,I will defer judgement on this case to God because I was not present when everything took place.It is a case of he/she said…

  140. adanna

    August 24, 2013 at 7:54 am

    As women,we have power over our bodies and must decide what we would like to do with it. The pastor makes passes at you,if you were strong willed,you would have easily said no. I am a christian but I will not sleep with a pastor. They have come with different messages, teachingd healing signs but I always run.Adultery is what it is whether with a pastor or not.Every man will manipulate you for sex be it a pastor or not and since he didn’t rape you,I don’t think we have any case here.Both of you were wrong on all account.You will say the same thing if your MD sleeps with you and forget that it is your decision and being over 25 years old,you are fully responsible for your actions. I also don’t think social media is the right platform to express your guilt,it is just an attention seeking platform that has caused more hurt. I pray you sincerely find the face of God after all the brouhaha and I hope men can learn never to associate themselves with people who have nothing to lose.

  141. Kenny

    August 24, 2013 at 8:08 am

    They had sex the first day, she enjoyed it. For her to go do it again, the pastor must have impressed well with a powerful dick and was very good at the banging… It thrilled her so much that she altered her schedules for the entire week and kept on opening her legs for more poundings… I also imagine they got too used to it that at some point she initiated they had some rounds more. For young people like them, blow jobs and giving of head also happened… What a week! Now all we hear sounds so mild on paper…. Well, both of them had fun while it lasted, I am just worried about the effect on the Church. Let God show us mercy.

  142. Eve82

    August 24, 2013 at 8:36 am

    This is the first time I am saying this after 4 years. I came close to being abused by a catholic priest…and I’m not even catholic. I was visiting a close friend who was staying with inlaws. So called priest came to visit that evening. I missed my flight which was the last flight that evening, and had to pick an early morning Monday flight. Because I was preparing for an exam, I stayed up a little bit late that night reviewing my notes in the computer downstairs. How about this man walk downstairs, the lights were out, and it was just the computer screen on. Everyone else had gone to sleep, and I assumed he was looking for someone, so I told him I was the only one down there. He said that was okay, that he wanted to say something to me. He took my hands, and made me get up from the chair where I was seated. Innocently, I let him because in my mind I’m saying to myself this is a reverend father, don’t think like that. Next thing I know, he is going for a hug, and his face is coming down directly on mine. I very quickly swerved my face, and his lips landed on my cheeks. I was mortified and asked him what he was trying to do? He said it didn’t matter, and no one else would know. I was so upset, and told him I was not that kind of person, and he should not try it with me. I left him standing there and walked upstairs to bed. The whole time the next day, I thought about it and felt so ashamed and could not tell anyone because I was sure no one would believe me bc this so called reverend father was highly thought of, and it would be his word against mine. I put that experience at the back of my mind and never mentioned it again to anybody until now.

    If this really happened Ese, I applaud you for coming out, and hope more people will be bold as you are.

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  143. Her royal freshness

    August 24, 2013 at 8:54 am

    Still need to ask, hope she taught of what the wife and children will be going through, cos of this her story, before publishing it, because truthfully speaking it will be hell for the family and children now, if you really loved God and was not a pastor pleaser(men pleaser) I believed after the first time you would have stopped but you kept on going SISTER ESE and in the story, I was expecting the rape part, but I nor see am, so he didn’t rape and you are old enough to know what is right an wrong, and least I forget, u would have spoken to the wife first na abah chai! Infact mscheeeew

  144. see

    August 24, 2013 at 9:02 am

    I sympathize with you Ese for your own self inflated ordeal. but must point out that you were seeking frame of some sort in your own way or aggrieve of something yet untold to the world in your story. why seek a more senior pastor to cry to for help if you felt abuse or manipulated by a pastor, were are your parent or your friend who introduce you to the church? firstly you were warned by a friend but ignore the warning, secondly you willingly gave your consent to an adulterous act with your pastor who never came to your home to ask you for sex, as a adult you proceed to meeting a pastor without having anyone accompany you to his hotel room and stay on for a week? and claim to be abuse and manipulated only after your return back to Nigeria? if this truly was the case why didn’t you report to the British authority you were in London studying for your master degree and not A levels, what were you thinking when you decided to meet with him? you even stated you had evidence of paid bill and emails clearly you were involved in a relationship with your pastor. as a adult you are responsible for your actions especially when you are not Raped. this story should be a warning to all jumping from one church to another in bid of salvation or claiming to be in a boring church which you could have help to be more interesting . I hope you and your pastor has both learn your lessons and seek God repentance, Christianity is from the heart and the church of God is a motivation of our spiritual believe not a Pastor who also is a fresh and prone to Sin like u and me. for all you know the pastor may have needed your help to fight his sexual addiction if you had done the right thing but you contributed by given in to Sin.

  145. èlla

    August 24, 2013 at 9:12 am

    hmmmmmmmmmm. Ese but why nar….pastor didn’t rape you. both of you are two consenting adults…My hand no dey….I no dey put mouth for pastor matter. Let God be the judge…Pastor is not super human, na blood dey run inside his vein oooooo.ýou for confess to his wifey nar, not this public ridicule. I don talk my own oooooo, my hand no dey, let he who is without sin cast the first stone abi no bible talk am.

  146. Her royal freshness

    August 24, 2013 at 9:22 am

    Reading this story again and I’m so pissed, she was not raped, she’s an adult, she did not repent after the first time,she continue going after the first time and hope you thought of the man’s wife and children before doing this, and if you wanted true repentance you would have confessed to the wife.

    • Dena

      August 24, 2013 at 10:44 am

      Pastor Biodun is the one that broke his vows – the marital vows he made before God and man, he is the one that owes his wife repentance and an apology. Not Ese. Why can women never support and love each other? Why do we condemn one another and place men on a pedestal they do not deserve? So sad.

    • truth hurts

      August 24, 2013 at 1:17 pm

      I guess ese was being supportivr when she had sex with another woman’s husband

    • Easy now!

      August 24, 2013 at 1:34 pm

      Dena so Her Royal Freshness should support what Ese has done willing becos she is a woman. Me self be woman I can’t support Ese or the pastor. Both of them be sinners. If she was underage, raped or jazzed ehenehen we can start d supporting galore. Like Her royal freshness has said after d first day, Ese continued haba? What kind of support or sympathy can I give to that? Mtchewww. And pple that are saying that pple r bashing her, yes they will bash her because nah she tell her story to the whole world nd from d story self she is guilty nd she is justifying herself and non-repentant. D pastor in question dey mute nd neva talk, so nah she sell herself to the media, so she should get ready 4 d constructive criticism, destructive criticism, hateful/hurtful criticism nd even pity comments, and loving comments. I wonder how she going to heal with all these? I think she just revenging because all these won’t help her.

    • Dena

      August 24, 2013 at 9:18 pm

      Just to clarify I am not suggesting that anyone should support Ese’s *actions*… I don’t support her actions either, she was *absolutely wrong* to do what she did when she knowingly engaged in an affair with a married man. But there were two wrong parties here, and so far only *one* has acknowledged and confessed her sinful actions. I think that she was brave in doing so, opening herself up to all this scrutiny – knowing fully the consequences, and she needs moral support to help her find true healing. Throwing all kinds of accusations at her helps no one. As far as PB’s wife is concerned, again it is *her husband* first and foremost that owed her fidelity, broke his vows to her and now needs to seek her forgiveness. What Ese did was wrong, but the pastor was wrong too, especially as someone sitting in the role of a spiritual father and advisor, and it’s just sad to see so many women flinging stones at Ese while ignoring the pastor’s role in what happened.

  147. Bose

    August 24, 2013 at 9:26 am

    So many rabid, judgemental comments here! Many of the people commenting here know nothing about Ese or Biodun Fatoyinbo but it’s amazing that most people on all the blogs where this article has been published have insulted Ese and called her all kinds of unprintable names with the focus being on the impact this story will have on the Pastor’s family, his reputation and ‘ministry’ and the ‘faith’ of his congregation. I would at least have expecetd that the insults would be distributed evenly and Ese’s feelings would have been given some consideration. I guess people read the post with their own biases and prejudices and only translated these to their comments. There is just too much anger and vitriol in many of these comments. Regardless of whether Ese is telling the truth or not this just demonstrates why few women who have been abused or taken advantage of ever share their stories, especially with other women. The focus is always to pick the stories apart and determine if the girl could have somehow been smarter or sharper and less gullible. It would be interesting to find out why other women tend to be the least compassionate in these situations. Also, it would be interesting to see how some of these comments might shift if other women who have found themselves in a smilar situation with this Pastor step up with their stories. My guess is that very few positions will shift because of deeply ingrained prejudices against so called weak and immoral women.

  148. Arike

    August 24, 2013 at 9:39 am

    Just last Sunday I went to watch ‘the illicit affair’, the story of how David made a wrong decision after being at the wrong place at the wrong time. This was David who God had helped kill the lion, the bear, Goliath…David the shepherd boy who God had crowned King of Israel. Same David committed adultery, plotted and killed an innocent man. He realized what he had done, asked God to forgive him and God did forgive him (I must mention there were consequences for David’s actions that he could not escape). I heard read the story over and over, but watching it, I realized how we can get so lost for the stupidest reasons, because it’s when it’s all done you realize, it wasn’t worth it.

    I guess what am trying to say is, we all have at some point or another made some ‘not so great decisions’. Whether this story is true or not is not what anyone should dwell on, let’s just always remember to always ask for strength from God to do the right thing in difficult situations.

    Let him who is without sin cast the first stone…
    Therefore let anyone who thinks that he stands take heed lest he fall

    I pray we all find strength in time of adversity. And I also pray at those times our foolishness gets the better of us, God shows us great mercy

  149. DeeDee

    August 24, 2013 at 9:51 am

    Please Ese go for HIV test. Jesus will see you through………Palapala ilu apala, nonsense.

  150. trae_z

    August 24, 2013 at 10:00 am

    Fact; Pastoral work is an occupation like any other. Brings in the money and even a step ahead of entertainment celebrity hustle as “your worshipers” tag you infallible. Nothing new in Pastor Biodun Fatoyinbo Of COZA screwing Ese Walter. Just the normal zombie groupie thing that comes with show biz. If she was agnostic she wouldn’t have fell for this shit. Anyways she’s getting her 15 minutes of fame and Pastor Biodun Fatoyinbo will be back on the pulpit soonest making his mulla. Make them enjoy; Nigeria we hail thee!

    • Toyinfabs

      August 24, 2013 at 10:21 am

      Fifteen minutes of fame? Guess you think she is enjoying this. You are so pathetic and I actually feel some pity for you. Have you ever heard of depression? Why do you think this girl went into alcohol and smoking during the period she was neck deep in the guilt? You think she is happy? You can’t sense that this girl is damaged and desperate for healing. I have gone through other posts on her blog and I can sense “a cry for help”. I can sense a girl who feels her life is worth nothing, someone who wishes she could start life anew. someone who wishes she could undo the past but is rational enough to know that’s not to be. Can you imagine what it takes to do something like this? Come out and open her nakedness this way, leaving herself bare for judgemental folks like you to ridicule. Do you know what this might cost her, especially in a society like ours? and you call it looking for fame. You need help and a lesson in empathy.

    • the gak

      August 25, 2013 at 9:42 am

      Finally………a person that gets it…………….thank you jare

    • Amina Yahaya

      August 30, 2013 at 12:15 am

      Lol.

      A LAWYER, OVER

      This girl had a one night stand and then felt bad…. No it was only 2 nights ( because he told her to come back as she forgot her phone…. No em sorry it was 3 night stand only (because she liked the sermon and it was cold in London anyway) …. My sincere apologies it was 4 times !…. Ah Ah it was 5.. then…….6……7. …. Gosh there was something sweeeeet she was determined to keep forever going here o!

      But I guess the fine man had to get back to his wifey !!!! SO SHE WENT MAD WITH ENVY AND HATRED. .. London Big Girl there are many other single blokes in town. PLS GO FIND YOUR MATE!!!

    • Okechukwu Ofili

      August 24, 2013 at 11:42 am

      Like DANA airline pastor Fatoyinbo would be back to active duty in a matter of days.

  151. Ifeanyi

    August 24, 2013 at 10:24 am

    This is Cheap Blackmail…and nothing more. Why do I say this? to answer that question, I have another question for you to ponder, ‘Why did Ese decide to come to the Public when she could have as well talked to a Psychologist and a friend (assuming the reason for the write up is to ease her guilt and shame). No doubt, the Pastor is wrong. We are already clear on that. We need to Crucify Him with our Words if needs be! However, Ese Walter is the real Culprit. Keep in mind how Kim Kardanshan got her fame, How bevely osu is getting hers and how Ese Walter also hopes to get hers. Here is how the game is played. Find a Big Personality or Brand (Bevely using BBA), associate sex with it, stir up controversy and you are well on your way to stardom. Also, keep in mind, this person involved is a Big name in Church Circle…She chose her time, her person for this Big Show! Its more like reading a heading with the title, ‘SEX with the POPE’

    ‘Now, let me paraphrase the Story and we read between the lines. Before I do that, we need to be aware that we are all responsible for our actions, whether good or bad. She is as well as the pastor. He liked her, told her to come into his work force and then had sex with her in London. She gets back from London and says she feels guilt and shame. First, we need to be clear this wasn’t rape, not manipulation and not even coercion. This was two people deciding to have sex willing. Secondly, she painted a picture of going into his hotel room not knowing what would happen. I have three sisters. If a guy likes you, you know already from a distance…you don’t need a soothsayer to inform you…he asked someone to call you from the congregation, asked you to book an hotel for him, paid for taxi and later tells you to come to his hotel room. Now, remember Ese knows he was married…Just keep that in mind.

    Fast-forwarding, he had sex with her and returns to Nigeria and claims she feels shame and guilt. She talked with a couple of people and that wasn’t enough until she came to the Public. Let me tell you what really happened that she has refused to tell us. On her return to Nigeria, the Pastor had moved on…maybe to conquer other preys. She felt cheap, used and taken as a slut/bitch. She tried to get his attention. Then, she decided to do the unthinkable…smear his name in the public waters, tell what exactly happened…and you get him to pay for his sins. I really would love to hear the pastor side of the story anyway.

    • Toyinfabs

      August 24, 2013 at 1:04 pm

      spoken like a true misogynist. It has to be blackmail. Some part of your brain did not tell you that perhaps she did it because she was sick of the hypocrisy and the cover up that goes on in some churches. It didn’t occur to you that perhaps she did it so people can know that Wolves in Sheep clothing are on the loose. It has to be about blackmail and fame. What else could it be about? Isnt that the only thing women do best? Sleep with men willingly and then cry foul to get fame. Jisiike

  152. ibiteee

    August 24, 2013 at 10:42 am

    One simple question. Where are the Josephs. of today?

  153. Oma

    August 24, 2013 at 10:45 am

    Just like a lot of people following this story, I think this is becoming insanely irritating! The way people are quick to pass judgments, make excuses, take sides and tag the people involved with all kinds of labels is really unfathomable.
    First, none of us know or will ever know what Ese went through. The ones who have gone through similar experiences may only imagine, but even at that, they still don’t know how she felt, her fears, her guilt, nor the baggage she had to carry.
    On the other hand no one knows what the man involved is going through, (that is assuming that he has humbled himself from his “special grace” to seek repentance). We don’t know what this has done to his wife and children.
    Everyone is entitled to their opinion and I believe Ese knew that there will be diverse opinions on this issue and she still went ahead with publishing it.
    Like I said in a previous post, the deed or better still, misdeed, is done. It should be a lesson both for congregants and pastors alike.
    If you’ve no words of encouragement, of healing and succor for the people involved, please, just zip it!
    Stop the hate! Stop the name callings! Stop the holier-than thou attitudes! Just stop!!!
    Remember the saying, “Never say never”.
    Don’t tell us what she should have done, don’t tell us what you’d have done if you were her. Don’t assume you know her, or what her motives are.
    Just pray it never happens to you or to one of your own.
    Pray that the men of God under whom you serve God, (if you do) will remain humble enough to lead right.
    Remember the saying, “Never say never.

  154. ola

    August 24, 2013 at 10:54 am

    For those of you doubting the amount of influence a so called pastor can wield on his people especially when he has changed to the devils corner please read on
    bbc.co.uk/onthisday/hi/dates/stories/april/19/…/2489769.stm‎

    en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Guyana_Tragedy:_The_Story_of_Jim_Jones‎

    thenationonlineng.net/archive2/tblnews_Detail.php?id=80129‎

    independent.co.uk › News › UK › Crime‎

  155. Yt

    August 24, 2013 at 11:15 am

    A woman’s greatest enemy is a fellow woman. Most of those castigating and cussing her are also women. She was abused by someone she held in so much reverence and she decided to speak up…..BRAVO! Many women have had similar experiences but would rather die in silence, I applaud her boldness,she has no fame or publicity to gain from this.
    Ese sought what many of us go to gatherings(social and religious alike) for;a sense of belonging and acceptance. She needed a place where she could be herself and still belong, where she could worship and still have fun. COZA offered her this, and being a worker was just the icing on the cake. And truly, the workers in COZA are like the special breed, people hustle to belong. If you aren’t one, you almost feel discontented.
    As for, PB……….I might not have believed if I didn’t know that many of his flock “idolize” him and literarily worship the ground he walks on(both male and female).
    This should just serve as a lesson to us all…….worship God personally, not through man.

  156. Her royal freshness

    August 24, 2013 at 11:15 am

    Aunty Bose if u read the article very well u will see she was not raped, she went there after the first time with her two legs she was not pushed yes the man committed adultery very very bad of him but still, sis ESE had enough sense to know it was bad after the first time, please I need to ask her why she still carry herself still dey go, i tire for the girl sha mscheeew and need to know if she put the man’s wife and children into consideration before doing dis

  157. Lafunky

    August 24, 2013 at 11:15 am

    The scripture says that..God is no respecter of persons. The Lord knows the hidden and the secret things. He knows if the Pastor did it or not. I personally do not condone hiding people’s sins but I am aware that, some Nigerians are scared to speak out about ‘men of God’ when they sin. If the story is not true, the Pastor would have issued a public statement-he may still issue a public statement sha. If the story is true, I really doubt he would issue a public statement to apologise. I’m aware when similar things happened in London, Pastor Albert Odulele denied it to his church people and the leadership wanted to cover it up, the members were also in denial until the police got involved. Only God knows the truth in this case, all I know is that, people still err regardless of their positions, and we individuals must take notes and there are lessons for us all. Don’t worship people in position of authority, worship God, fear God, and protect your children and protect yourself from people. Anybody can fall..we can all fall. If the story is true, I commend the young lady for speaking out, as I know that people will mock her for speaking out, at the same time..the Lord is there to comfort and be with her. I’m just trying to put myself in the girl’s shoes. God knows the best. I have a feeling that there are people reading this article who maybe experiencing sexual abuse from someone in a position of authority and they feel if they speak out, they may be condemned. The Lord sees and knows all things…all sins will be punished..there are also consequences for our sins…shame, guilt, God’s punishment, etc. Let us all put our pastors in our prayers as they seldom tell their members about the issues that they are going through and because of how we see them, they don’t share their struggles. Remember your Pastor in your prayer.

    • Lafunky

      August 24, 2013 at 11:16 am

      Please publish this one. I have edited it. Thank you BN.

  158. HOT GEESS

    August 24, 2013 at 11:31 am

    i wont judge both parties, they are both humans and people make mistakes , he is human but my only concern is it is clear this pastors feels no remorse even still wanting to kiss her after she has said shes not feeling right, it looks like this act has eaten deep into him, shes not the first and she wont be the last with him, its a normal act for him, so now this is where my concern comes in this church and man who leads a church . and if he gets to feel remorseful now it is bcos it has come out open to the public….

  159. Ayekooto

    August 24, 2013 at 11:47 am

    I am surprised at some of the comments posted here especially the ones misquoting scriptures to exonerates the Pastor. Ordinarily, I would not comment directly on this without hearing the other side, but so far, it seems many have already formed their opinion on the incidence and would never find it necessary to address the Pastor’s side which is more critical.
    God holds leaders of any form to higher standard and responsibility because of the power they possess. That is why God is against putting just any man in position of authority as his misuse of the power has great repercussion on the people he leads. In the bible, the sins of mere political leaders alone often lead to the dead of many innocent people. Remember when the Devil caused David to number Israel against God’s instruction? And Satan stood up against Israel, and provoked David to number – Israel 2 Sam. 24.1. The result, God smote Israel. When David committed adultery and murder, he was forgiven, but he lost the baby from the unholy union and years later, David’s own son – Absalom revolted and caused many deaths both within the family and among the people. He even slept in public with his father’s concubines as foretold by Nathan when he delivered God’s judgement to David years before (2nd Sam 12:11).
    Look at history, when leaders failed, innocent people suffered. In modern times, Hitler’s wicked decisions alone lead to death of about 60 million people in WWII. How about Hiroshima, Iran, etc, In Nigeria, our leader’s greed, corruption and lack of self-control has lead to the death of many and responsible for the sufferings of many today. The bottom line is this, leaders are critical, and because they have great influence on the lives of their people, they must be held accountable and to an higher standard. To whom much is given, more is required.
    Spiritually, it is the same and even more critical. That is why God judges leaders harshly when they mess up even though He forgives them, because they temporarily and legally exposed their sheep to Satanic attacks. When Achan disobeyed God in the bible and picked what he should not after the battle in Jericho, Israel suffered, losing even smaller battles until the sin was exposed and the offender punished. But not after some people have died needlessly because of Achan’s greed and lack of self-control.
    It is a spiritual principle many do not understand. God forgives but He chastises, and sometimes His chastisement could be very heavy depending on the gravity of sin and the position of the sinner. That is why one needs to be careful which church and shepherd you put your head under as covering. Sadly, if leaders decide to hide their sins and fail to forsake it or confess to their congregation as the scripture demands (1 Timothy 5:20 (NIV) “…but those elders who are sinning you are to reprove before everyone, so that the others may take warning”), the congregation would be exposed legally to all sorts of attacks because their covering is full of holes. That is why many Christians have problems in Nigeria, because their covering is no covering at all and their shepherds cannot protect their sheep.
    If this story is true, then COZA members better do something fast to save themselves all sort of problems. Ese’s exposure might eventually be a blessing in disguise. The Pastor needs to confess openly to his people and then step aside for God to heal him. He must submit to an oversight who would determine with the help of God how long that would take. You may want to read this article on a recent case in the US: http://www.charismanews.com/opinion/40596-an-overseer-s-response-to-sam-hinn-s-re-ordination-and-the-restoration-of-other-fallen-leaders.
    As for those singling Ese out for blame and quoting Jesus words – cast the first stones…, they fail to see one of the reasons Jesus acted the way he did. Are not two people involved in adultery? According to the law of Moses they claimed, are the two people not supposed to be judged and stoned. Why did they (the accuser) bring only the woman? Your guess is as good as mine. Jesus saw their hypocrisy and in His wisdom, showed the accusers up themselves for their hypocrisy.
    Finally, we are encouraged to always pray for our spiritual leaders. But sadly, many flocks don’t even do that or do it well. Partly because their Pastor don’t value and teach it. They value their flock’s money instead, and partly because the flocks are not bothered about spiritual things. They just only wanna get blessed.

  160. Ayekooto

    August 24, 2013 at 11:54 am

    In addition, many of our pastors do not qualify to be pastors and they don’t qualify. What happens when you put an unqualified person at the helms of affair – disaster. People will die and many would suffer. Same goes for spiritual things. I say again, watch where you go as you more or less hand your lives over to them. Tim 3:1-7 says:
    1. This is a true saying, If a man desire the office of a bishop, he desireth a good work.
    2 A bishop then must be blameless, the husband of one wife, vigilant, sober, of good behavior, given to hospitality, apt to teach;
    3 not given to wine, no striker, not greedy of filthy lucre; but patient, not a brawler, not covetous;
    4 one that ruleth well his own house, having his children in subjection with all gravity;
    5 (for if a man know not how to rule his own house, how shall he take care of the church of God?)
    6 not a novice, lest being lifted up with pride he fall into the condemnation of the devil.

    • Chiny chin chin

      August 26, 2013 at 10:11 pm

      Wwow! Such wisdom! I can’t add or subtract from what you have said.

  161. Anonymous

    August 24, 2013 at 12:20 pm

    I have carefully read Ese’s story even on her blog and some of the comments. First, I must say if this story is true then I do not condune adultery, it doesn’t matter between who and who, whether a pastor, elder, president, footballer, mechanic, hawker, driver etc. and this is one point that should be noted, men have the same struggles; women, sex, power, money, visuals etc. Being a pastor doesn’t make you immune to the struggles. Same time women have their struggles as well. Everybody must be responsible enough to take responsibility for his/her actions.

    Having said this, I’m still trying to understand the actual reason for Ese’s publication. You went into a sexual affair with a married man (I’m going to forget he is a pastor, because he is first of all a man before a pastor and a married man at that) not forcefully but with your complete senses in order. What this story refused to tell us is the wooing before the act itself, I’m quite sure he is didn’t just jump on you that day, you had been in telephone conversations with him for a while and I believe those conversations wouldn’t all be holy. When a man wants a woman he goes all out, it’s not a day’s job, he will woo you, give you signs, sweet talk you whatever it takes he will do it because men are hunters. So you certainly can’t tell us you didn’t see all of these coming or were you all the time in a trance like state for as long as it took for him to get you to finally come face to face with him? Women know when a man is hitting on them, and what the man is looking for most of these time is a green light to go all the way.
    Finally, he gets you to visit his hotel room, you are an adult na, hapa were you also in a trance when he asked you to come up to his room? Did he blow powder in your face to charm you as soon as you walked into the room that from then on you consented to whatever he told you to do?
    You didn’t quite tell us what happened after the one week of bliss, did you remain his mistress in London for the two years you spent studying there so that you guys always hooked up each time he visited London? You know there are a lot of clauses left out in your story. Did you come back to Nigeria and suddenly realized that this is a married man and the scales fell off your eyes, or did you discover that there was another girl here you feed his needs and he probably didn’t have much time for you any more? That’s maybe the closure you didn’t get, and that upset you and it suddenly began to darn on you that this affair is over and you have been dumbed and now you are angry and bitter about it and to get at him, you decide to go viral. I’m just wondering because there many questions unanswered in your story.
    I’m yet to see how publishing this will bring healing to you or even closure as you put it or help others struggling with the same situation or even restore your lost self esteem. A counselling session is what you need for the healing you want and maybe starting your own counseling sessions too for young women having the same issues.
    This is an abuse you brought on yourself and even causing more harm on yourself by doing this. Did you read Franca’s story, she walked away. Just like some time past some married man i was supposed to be discussing business with asked me to come to a hotel to discuss business, i told him if we cannot discuss in an open place he can forget it. A man would use what appeals to you to get at you. I’m surprised at some comments here trying to justify her so called boldness in writing this story; if this was some affair with a married road side mechanic are we going to be reading about it today? Let me even ask, if it was some ugly broke pastor that was hitting on you, will you even give him face or the so called reverence you had for him? You will even abuse him on top. Girls like fine, loaded men, so you gave him attention.
    Christianity is a singular race, no man will lead you to heaven you have to discover God for yourself and if you attend foundation classes as a young Christian you claim to be trying to find your feet, you would have been taught that you will have to develop a relationship with God by yourself not looking at any man. Wolves are in the church just as they are every where so don’t pick up a fight with Christianity because of your own mistakes. Both you and Biodun are in the wrong and need repentance. Don’t come here to tell us stories, when you enjoying it we no hear now that it’s over and he refused to see you again, we are now reading story and breaking our heads over it. What are you looking for, popularity, sympathy? What exactly? Na like this people who are going through the same thing go take heal? Abegi!

  162. Isoken

    August 24, 2013 at 12:22 pm

    I have lived all my life in religious circles, I have been a victim of abuse. Not trying to take anything away from people’s opinions but this is what I feel
    1. Truly if you haven’t been in a persons situation you truly cannot fully understand the choices they made. Yes Ese went back for a week but we can’t really say why, we can only guess. There are women on here who have been in consensual relationships that they eventually regretted. When I experienced this I was a teenager and the pastor in question was very nice and understanding, he would always listen to whatever troubles I had, he bought me gifts and made me feel special. He inspired me a lot, and I would call him anytime I had issues and he would always respond. When he suggested that I go and see him it felt natural like I was going to see a friend, he didn’t jump me the first time I got there, infancy he didn’t jump me at all it was slow and subtle. We had ‘consensual’ sex. I did feel like it was wrong because the reason why I was looking for counsel in the first place was because my uncle had been abusing me since I was 5. But he convinced me that since he loved me it was okay. Luckily for me I confided in a friend who set me straight and I told one of the ministers in church. I was immediately accused of seducing him, because he was a very ‘annointed’ man of God who everyone loved. He had done great things with the teenage church and he was being groomed for greater things. I was accused of having a seductive spirit, it was a horrible experience. But as soon as the senior pastor found out, I was called for a meeting and the senior pastor apologised personally to me. I was made to understand that the pastor in question SHOULD have known better. He was older and more experienced and I came looking for help and he took advantage of that fact. He was removed but reinstated after a year. People still point fingers at me for what happened. I accept that I made wrong choices but I was looking for help and this man was giving it, but he also took advantage of the situation. My point is Ese might have been getting some gratification but that doesn’t make it right.

    2. People always quote the story of David and Bathsheba, forgetting that when David was confronted with what he did, he immediately showed remorse and went into mourning. If this story is true this man should not be on the pulpit. In every case of a man and woman committing sin in the Bible God held the man responsible. Adam should not have collected the fruit, David shouldn’t have slept with Bathsheba, Ahab was not supposed to marry Jezebel let alone allow her influence him, Samson should not have been with Delilah. The church needs to show that it holds it’s shepherds accountable. God forgives us but He also makes us face up to and accept our mistakes.

    I still deal with the fallout of my experience even today, it is horrible when the people you trust see your weaknesses and exploit them. I feel that is the point of this story, this Pastor saw a weak spot, Ese fell for temptation and tried to dust it off, but when the leadership has refused to hold the other person accountable what else could she do?

    • Diseye

      August 25, 2013 at 12:22 am

      God bless you Isoken.

  163. eny

    August 24, 2013 at 12:23 pm

    This is a time of sober reflection for everybody and not a time to cast blames and play the holier that thou card bcos nobody holy pass…. We should all work out our salvation with fear and trembling and put on the whole armour of God so we can withstand the wiles of d evil one. The end times are surely here and we must not be ignorant of the devil’s devices. Further more we need to ask for mercy for all the parties concerned and pray for all our leaders more.don’t forget that God chastises those He loves…. Why don’t we all look inward and deal with our personalty flaws?surely we all have one thng or d other we r battling with.. May God have mercy on us all. Let’s not judge anybody,this just teaches us that we should not make anybody the standard for our walk with God but we should all focus on Jesus Christ the author and finisher of our faith

  164. Mizz

    August 24, 2013 at 12:32 pm

    For anyone who cares to know, I have just read 1st Chronicles 16 from verse 1 and made an amazing discovery. Verse 22’s touch not my anointed’ is in reference to the children of Israel, not to God’s prophets. We are ALL the anointed ones. Nna, education is key

    • Toyinfabs

      August 24, 2013 at 1:09 pm

      spoken like a true misogynist. It has to be blackmail. Some part of your brain did not tell you that perhaps she did it because she was sick of the hypocrisy and the cover up that goes on in some churches. It didn’t occur to you that perhaps she did it so people can know that Wolves in Sheep clothing are on the loose. It has to be about blackmail and fame. What else could it be about? Isnt that the only thing women do best? Sleep with men willingly and then cry foul to get fame. Jisiike

  165. mok 4.

    August 24, 2013 at 1:05 pm

    Scripture says, sons and daughters are the heritage of the Lord. They are designed to answer the enemy at the gates. therefore I charge you to Arise son and daughter of God planted in COZA and answer this enemies at the gate. We must answer for Our Father. We must answer for Our Father,take over Vision. Now is not time to be quiet or in hiding, Lest the enemy take advantage of us for we are not ignorant of his devices. We must resist Him and his dastard cohorts steadfastly in the faith. I take a stand today as a Son, who has been richly blessed by God through this Great spiritual father and mentor to say to Satan and his Cohorts: “Try as hard as you may Devil, Me and my house will not stop following, we will not stop serving, we will not stop supporting the Oil and grace of God upon COZA through the instrument of our beloved Pastor and Father. We know it will turn out in praise but we want you and your cohorts to know you can’t have our faith too even Now. For we have overcome the World cos the greater one is on our inside. My Name is Maxwell Oladapo Kunrunmi and I am bonafide, never backing down child of God planted in the House of God -COZA. Good Morning! #TakeAStand #ProudlyCOZA #COZAROCKS

    • Toyinfabs

      August 24, 2013 at 1:19 pm

      `Halleluyah Somebody! Preach it and sing “Onward Coza Soldiers while you are at it”. Mtschewwww….brainwashed human being. I pray for you today to be released from the hypnotised state where you are operating. The enemy are at the gates indeed. Bro Kurunmi, the real enemy is in the house. Keep deluding yourself.

    • chichi

      August 24, 2013 at 1:20 pm

      lmao..pure buffonery…the only devil here is that unrepentant philandering pig you call your spiritual father.yall are so blind its ridiculous..

    • Person

      August 24, 2013 at 2:20 pm

      O de ni e. Ode times 20. God will punish ALL of you propping up this man who has not denied the allegations against him.

    • Jubaoluwa

      August 24, 2013 at 2:32 pm

      Pure phuckery

    • Sere

      August 25, 2013 at 4:14 am

      Mr Maxwell, it is good to take a stand. Please let your church take a stand for God by honouring Him and telling the truth. If this is true about your pastor, fight the enemy by calling him to order and leading him to repentance. But why do you people feel God will uphold a ‘ministry’ and overlook the people on an individual basis? If this story is true let your church take it as a call to repentance o! The devil is the enemy of a man’s soul, so no need to be trying to hide sins in order for a ‘ministry’ to appear glorious. Please even David that everyone uses as an example in such situations did not emerge without shame for his acts, the important thing is that he repented. While challenging Satan on this issue, dont forget to honour God. If the story is false, God will vindicate. Let your church seek the truth that is what will really shame the devil.

  166. adeolu

    August 24, 2013 at 1:10 pm

    Signs of end time..

  167. otalima

    August 24, 2013 at 1:11 pm

    Having read all d comments, I am not surprised.bn that we r Nigerians, acid form our tongue.ese am sorry if ur story is true,
    God will heal ur broken spirit.we all know that pastor fatoyibo is a man n not a spirit, abi? When Sarah asked father Abraham to sleep wit her maid did he refuse? Y didn’t he say no wifey am a man of God o…but he went into her giving to his lustful nature, how much more, mere humans, pastors etc dat are children of Abraham, my point is no one knows d truth only God can judge, les not judge pastor b…n even if he did have an affair with her, he didn’t jazz her n didnt force her, she consented to sex with him, n enjoyed feelling free for whole week..if she was, guilty, n wanted closures, she knew his wife , y didn’t she go to her to confess, she came public Becos feeling free was over n she needed attention, this same pastor, I can’t say anything bad against him, becos, I have learnt from his teaching n he didn’t lead me astray..is he randy? How will I know, but all i can say Is, he is a good teacher, n my lifes bn better,Let God b the judge..

  168. Madman

    August 24, 2013 at 1:14 pm

    God sees everything. May he reward us all accordingly.

  169. coza member 2

    August 24, 2013 at 1:34 pm

    lesson learnt, if you have a mandate to raise a take over generation, please get a rod like moses did. don’t use ur penis like my pastor oooooo.

  170. Joe

    August 24, 2013 at 2:20 pm

    Ese, you do well. When you bring your dirty clothes outside, expect different voices, so no one should complain if you get bashed. I am sure you enjoyed the 7 nights of Pleasure in London. I don’t want to guess or make wild accusations, I believe Men of God should live above board with issues of sex, especially with a wife at home. However, what do you want now? You had sex with Pastor, same way you have had sex with several other men, some married too and some Christian brothers, if we castrate this Pst B now, will you keep your legs closed until you get married? I just hope you will be able to handle this scandal as you progress in life.

  171. adeitan ayobami

    August 24, 2013 at 2:51 pm

    God is spirit and they that worship him do that in spirit..
    judge not so that you will not be judge…with whatever measure u measure unto others, likewise will be unto thee…pressed down, shaking together running over…
    if COZA is of GOD….then it will stand….if not….let GOD have is way…
    never has HE SHARED his glory with man….so i dont think he will now
    If she is true and real…then she has cleared with her conscience, man and God…
    if she is not….i believe it is written, touch not my anointed and do my prophet no harm…

    heavens have provision for all….
    grace is made available, mercy is standing still..
    judgement awaits all men…GOOD OR EVIL…

    The last days have many things to show us…
    let wisdom directs our path…and GOD OUR LIFE

    that in d end after we have serve GOD AND OUR GENERATION with all our strength we may belomg to GOD….

    shalom, peace be with thee all..

    for all men of GOD who is impacting our life positively, lets continually pray for them, cos if they fall, the faith of many may waxed cold..

  172. Anonymous

    August 24, 2013 at 3:03 pm

    Ese is really bold to have come out to reveal her adventures with PB. The emotions I feel towards PB is more of disappointment. Truth is they both had consentual sex cos she’s an adult but I also feel she’s repented of her sin n is only trying to expose the secret life of PB so we can see beyond his swag n teachings as he doesn’t practice what he preaches. I just feel for Pst Modele his wife n kids. It’s really sad eats happening.

  173. mime

    August 24, 2013 at 3:07 pm

    this just shows that we are all humans pastor or no pastor, dont get ese’s point of going to the media bcos she wasnt forced. just like every guy that approaches you, you have a choice to accept the offer or otherwise. dear ese you too had a part to play you encourged him cos am show you aint a baby it takes two to tangle

  174. Cece

    August 24, 2013 at 3:26 pm

    I don’t even know what to make of this story. However, things like this happen every time. A lot of people are carried away by the power men possess. It is time we realize that whether he is a pastor, CEO or award winning artist, he is a human being and we are responsible for whatever we indulge in with these people of power. For Ese and the pastor, there was no rape, no abuse of power because this sexual act happened far away in London and not even the church premises and with the way Ese is sounding, the pastor is not a primary factor in her life so the story of abuse and manipulation worries me. I really don’t care if she exposed the pastor but I don’t understand why she is blaming him for having consensual sex with him. With the authority and power bestowed on him, he is in the position to stop whatever advances and control his urge but this is why he is call MAN first before pastor. He is created to sin, to fall so forget all the talk about perfection they would like us to believe. They are just like you and me and we shouldn’t expect any miracles. Ese since you are the one telling this story, you could have walked away. He didn’t tie your feet to the floor. You could have panicked and run. Lets say you fell the first day, you could have run the 2nd day or the 3rd day. This man is a married man and you didn’t even think of his family and that church for one minute. I hope you have learnt something from this also, you must have the willpower to say NO and if you don’t, you are equally responsible for whatever happens. I pray for the Pastor’s wife, she will be the one suffering the most in all of this. A lot of women cheat with married men, forgetting they have wives at home who are left emotionally and physically bare. A simple NO would have solved all of this and I would have felt better if I was reading your story and it had been about refusing advances made by pastor Biodun. Both of you are really sad and self serving,not thinking of the consequences of your actions to your families, friends and the church.

  175. Ayekooto

    August 24, 2013 at 3:32 pm

    I am sorry for you guys, if your Pastor truly did this and did not confess, repent and forsake his sins before his people, Satan has a direct access to you church members. That is why he is called accuser of the brethren that accuses them before God day and night. In God’s court of law, Satan has been given a good legal ground to steal, kill and destroy and guess what, God is a righteous judge and Satan knows that well enough.
    There are too many deceptions in the church today and many Christians are being fooled. When a person is prone to pilfering money, and he is caught, he has to confess and repent and apologize. And even if he’s forgiven, you don’t leave him in the same place where he would continue to be tempted until he can prove he’s overcome that tendency.
    Whose standard are we talking about anyway? God or men? Touch not my anointed does not include condoning and being an accessory to hiding sin.

  176. anon82

    August 24, 2013 at 3:37 pm

    You all should get some freaking life abeg. You haven’t heard from the pastor and the ese girl haven’t given us a proof? Now this is the deal, if the girl is sayin the truth, cool, shame on the man, but what if she’s lying? She’s cursed for life and not only her but all others that spoke negatively about the man. Any girl can come up with a damn story, make make una watch those loose mouths b4 you get what u deserve. Ese, if its 2ru, I realy feel for u, God will heal ur heart in Jesus name and do quick to publish ur proofs, but if its not, lucky for u, u are not the only one who will shre the wrath of God, you have been able to invite pple to join you in it.

  177. Harvest

    August 24, 2013 at 3:37 pm

    She signed off such a grave and serious issue with: “cheers to the freaking weekend”. thats the part that just kills me; maybe she didnt understand the enormity of her confession. She isnt remorseful of her part in it or anything of that sort. She didnt even acknowledge her guilt or even attempt to take responsibility for her action. How does all these show a woman that is stable? Funny enough, in her search for fame she auditioned in May for the xfactor (youtube.com/watch?v=FLLdKYJexiw) and she did poorly. So how is anyone going to convince me this isnt a search for popularity and fame by a girl who is entering the third decade of her life and has nothing to show for it. That discredits much of her story to me. A young woman of almost 30 or 30 living out her life in such a pathetic way is in itself a red herring. She had nothing to live for; no job, no relationship, no kids; nothing! So she could afford to self-destruct in this fashion. This doesnt make what she did brave; to me it looks like drowning. Her blog shows the poor state of her life and mental health and her struggle with depression and fear of failure. This would serve to correct the ills that men of GoD perpetuate and for that we thank Ese; but Ese is no hero. As it is in the bible “…the good man for the good day and the evil man for the evil day”. Unfortunately she has only being the evil man for the evil day. I would not touch her life after this. She has invariably sacrificed her life for women in such situations all over the world and for that we are grateful.

  178. Gist.

    August 24, 2013 at 4:35 pm

    The bible recorded that if the devil had known he won’t have crucified the God of Glory. This storms is only here to help COZA grow. Pastor Biodun, we love, honour and celebrate you. You can only come out better and brighter. Proverbs 4:18 is at work in ur life. I also pray for you Ese, that the Lord will uphold you and grant you peace and rest. I pray your life finds true meaning and fulfilment. May you find true purpose that will catapult you to greatness, purpose and impact.

    • Person

      August 24, 2013 at 11:27 pm

      Sheeple! Have stopped to ask your Pastor what happened? God knows if it were me, I will be calling him to demand an explanation!

  179. ForeverYoung

    August 24, 2013 at 4:39 pm

    I hope I’m not the only one bothered and disturbed about this issue. It’s no longer about a pastor and his flock vs. the world or Christainity vs the world. It’s about preventing future occurrence on other victims. From what I have heard , this type of allegation is not new to the accused and has been trailing him from Ilorin. If this behavior had been curbed in Ilorin, there would not have been an Ese or Franca. Why do sex offenders get locked up in the western world? Nope, it’s not because prison cells are vacant/they have been condemned by all, it’s to buy the citizens peace of mind that at least the offender does not have easy access to people , which stops him/her from committing another act. Most of these offenders when interviewed are glad they have been put away , because they themselves can’t understand why they do these things.
    I’m so angry that this could have been prevented years ago, and we would not all be on this thread throwing words back and forth if it hadn’t been swept under the carpet. I’m even more angry that some would hide under the covers of religion to defend/support a man who desperately needs help if all these allegations are true. I’m extremely angry and scared that this issue might be swept under the carpet AGAIN, waiting to be unveiled when another appalling incident surfaces about this man. This is no longer a church and its members problem, it has become a societal problem. After all said and done these victims are released into the society damaged and untreated, and with damage you never know what type of evil can be unleashed on the society. Sex addiction is a disease, someone mentioned his family, if he has daughters I will be scared for them. If I have the power, I will make sure the girls don’t hang around him unsupervised. This disease sometimes starts with, oh I love women so much, to I love sex so much, I don’t care if I get it from women or children.
    I’m begging all the church members if you truly love this man, find help for him. This is when you can prove you are truly his friend. I would hate to open a blog in 2yrs to read someone has been raped to death by this man. Before it gets to that point , let’s help this man out of his illness. I just can’t get over the fact that this wouldn’t have happened had Ilorin acted on the rumors when it started from there. This is one gist I could do without when I come online to look for entertainment.

  180. God's Love

    August 24, 2013 at 4:47 pm

    I DON’T UNDERSTAND WHY PEOPLE ARE JUMPING TO CONCLUSIONS HERE OH (ON BOTH SIDES OF THE STORY). PB HAS NOT ACCEPTED OR DENIED ALLEGATIONS. LET US WAIT TO HEAR HIS STORY….HIAN!

  181. Daniella

    August 24, 2013 at 4:48 pm

    But I still can’t understand why everyone is blaming Ese. A number of people have come up to corroborate her story but no one seems to have noticed. Obviously Ese is not the only female member he has slept with, which means it is something he has been doing for years. I think it is wrong to isolate Ese’s case just because she spoke about something he has been doing for a long time and with many others for that matter, because as long as this issue is swept under the carpet, the pastor will continue with his illicit affairs. Of course like i earlier mentioned, he is a human being so he has his flaws; however there is a need for him to admit that this is a weakness that has to be dealt with, or else he has no moral justification telling members of his congregation what to do or not to do. As a pastor he is called to uphold the standards and values of the Bible so i’m sick and tired of people saying “He who is without sin should cast the first stone”. As a pastor you are meant to be an example. David committed worse and was forgiven by God but he still had to deal with the consequences of his actions. I maintain that it is not out of place for Pastor Biodun to take some time off the pulpit to deal with his personal issues.

  182. Anonymous

    August 24, 2013 at 4:53 pm

    Lemme not judge sha but it sounds like fear and excitement rolled into one. Afterwards, guilt has set in. Happens to many, young and not so young

  183. Akunna

    August 24, 2013 at 5:05 pm

    I hope Ese has asked the wife for forgiveness because that is the closure she needs. You cannot sleep with a married man, pastor or not and think posting it up on social media will make it alright. Your article is also self serving. It centers around you being the victim…so what will his wife, children and congregation say? If this really happened, I hope they both sincerely ask the Lord for forgiveness

  184. bullet

    August 24, 2013 at 5:47 pm

    Wow….this thing must have pained you o……chei.You just allowed yourself to be 419ed.Please help me ask her…..was she a virgin before the pastor slept with her. DID, THIS PASTOR STEAL HER VIRGINITY?…..Because if pastor wasn’t the first person to have a taste ….i don’t think.

  185. Vicky

    August 24, 2013 at 5:48 pm

    PB really needs to make a statement in my opinion . I’m a frequent viewer of his teachings online n he really knows how to teach the Word. PB owes it to us his congregation to clear the air so that we all can move past this saga n continue with d ministry of Christ. I have nothing more to say on this issue, let God have his way.

  186. bullet

    August 24, 2013 at 5:55 pm

    Pastors like this will forever abound….as long as there are armed robbers,fornicators,adulterers, ritualists etc….Pastors like this will always be in this world,you cant change anything by doing this, only God can really change such pastors as its reported this is not his first time….its left for you to know how you go waka.Its either you are for God or not,its either you are hot or cold. Do not be lukewarm.

    • Toun

      August 24, 2013 at 8:29 pm

      ‘pastors like this’? Will be wiser to hear both sides if this was ever like what was written. Sensationalism will never die.

  187. Bonaventure

    August 24, 2013 at 6:07 pm

    Some people are just waking up from sleep. I have said it several times that it is better for you to do business with an armed robber than any so called men of God. They sleep with single ladies and dispossess them of their hard earned salaries. You pastor will sleep with your wife if you give him the chance. I have not seen any that is different. It is in the church that leaders emerge without credentials. So a thief would set up a church and claim he has been called by God and the next day thousands of gullible people are pouring their lives and money on them in the name of offering and tithe. The church is marching forward and the gate of hell shall not prevail against it. Nonsense. The worse is on the way. Men of God indeed.

    • Madman

      August 24, 2013 at 8:03 pm

      Well said.

  188. Na wa ooo

    August 24, 2013 at 8:07 pm

  189. Judgement Sure

    August 24, 2013 at 8:56 pm

    Pastors like this are all over the place. You better believe it. Don’t wait till it gets close to home. It could be your sister or daughter. This is the end of time. Think about the so called pastors’ priorities these days. Souls are not important anymore. Fame is, wealth is. They gain the world for less than 120 years and they loose their souls for eternity. The blessed ones get exposed so the can change their ways and make heaven. Whether they deny or affirm, one thing stands sure the heavens will judge one day.

  190. Na wa ooo

    August 24, 2013 at 9:44 pm

    It’s saddening that we Christians easily get swayed by stories (claimed stories of Pastor doing stuffs). We are so eager to hear the next news of one Pastor who been accused of some sort of infidelity or immorality. We are demm! Excited to see the fall of another servant of God. Forgetting the truth that state that at the end time the Devil himself will send some of his agents to the world to torment the Church (most especially his servants). Excuse me, do you think such agents will appear with horns, red and yellow regalia with blood stains in their mouths. No! These said agents’ are individuals like you and me. This young lady has just fulfilled on of such mission, and here we are all claiming to be Jesus people. And am certain some of you are eagerly waiting the nest Pastor Lagbja”s that’s going to appear on Linda Ikeji’s blog. I wonder what would have happened if the scenario where the prostitute who oiled, ribbed and kissed Jesus’s feet was in our time. We would called him all sort of names “pimp” and broadcasted to the world how Jesus only attract only prostitutes to his side. Backing up our allegation against him by recalling how he said one prostitute from being stoned to death. My God forgive us.
    I am a certified psychologist, a Christian and rational thinker, i have read through this story word for word and pls pls pls ….. this story is to all-inclusive to depict the life of someone emotional troubled. This story portrays a lady who’s suffering from Obsessive Love Disorder. This lady is one of such church ladies who are obsessed with their Pastor’s and because their pastors have refused to pay attention to their seductive signals, they maximizes such Pastors interpersonal immunity and fabricated “fornication stories” out of just a platonic hug or a “lust full seduction story” out of a hand shake or like she said a “sexual story” out of an ordinary simple open-door visit to the pastors office or hotel room. And by the way, do you think all men of God are this corrupt? There are a thousand and one men of God out there who still have their integrity intact. Pls not that and don’t jump to conclusion.
    This lady has an unflinching obsession for her pastor and she has just succeeded (with her 2nd scheme to get his attention (well that’s if he has time to respond to such nonsense).
    “let us be sober and vigilant for the devil comes to kill to steal and destroy”
    Daniel Adeniyi said…

    • gist

      August 25, 2013 at 2:43 pm

      God bless u oh. So we still have thinking pple in dis country. Thank you for ur analysis. I wonder why pple feel becos they are not disciplined every other person is not with the excuse of we are all flesh and blood. This same lame excuse is d reason for infidelity in homes and messed up life of young and old pple alike. I bet to say that’s not Gods intention. There is a different btw d TRUTH and FACT. The truth is that we can do all things thru Christ who gives us strength. We are made from the dust of the earth being flesh but born of the spirit. There are pple I know closely who I can vouch for would not indulge in immortality becos the fear of God is in their heart. Pastor Biodun is not one to live the kind of reckless life Ese and Franca described.

    • Educated anonymous

      August 25, 2013 at 7:33 pm

      So you know this because you were in the room with them as the conversed and slept with each other right? That was how you were able to easily thoroughly conduct an analysis on the disorders of the two people in question. You may be a psychologist but you are obviously not a rational thinker. He slept with her, thats what it boils down to. Why? No one really knows because you have not read both sides to conclude. Did she seduce him or was she seduced? You can’t possibly know that since our pastor in question didn’t respond. Before you start saying all these things about her you might want to know the full story first. She didn’t do it for money (or so she said). Either ways a pastor so highly revered should have known how to properly conduct himself, and since he doesn’t he should be admonished for his act. So therefore “na wa for your backwards sense of judgement”.

    • Educated anonymous

      August 25, 2013 at 7:35 pm

      So you know this because you were in the room with them as they conversed and slept with each other right? That was how you were able to easily and thoroughly conduct an analysis on the disorders of the two people in question. You may be a psychologist but you are obviously not a rational thinker. He slept with her, thats what it boils down to. Why? No one really knows because you have not read both sides to conclude. Did she seduce him or was she seduced? You can’t possibly know that since our pastor in question didn’t respond. Before you start saying all these things about her you might want to know the full story first. She didn’t do it for money (or so she said). Either ways a pastor so highly revered should have known how to properly conduct himself, and since he doesn’t he should be admonished for his act. So therefore “na wa for your backwards sense of judgement”.

  191. Loves SETI

    August 24, 2013 at 9:45 pm

  192. Ayomipo Oladapo

    August 24, 2013 at 10:14 pm

    Bonaventure Thank youu oooo, pls tell them.

  193. Ayomipo Oladapo

    August 24, 2013 at 10:32 pm

    Isoken, GOD bless you. I pray you find strength and be an inspiration to other generations because abuse is not only tru sexual exploitation but sexual harrasment gives the most trauma. As for you maxwell Oladapo kurunmi I will haunt you till you learn not to be partaker of evil and understand the way GOD works, unfortunately no 1 can fully understand the ways of GOD, except differentiating between good and evil and accepting that you are not perfect which ur pastor and a whole lot of so called men of GOD guilty of such have refused to face. Most times when men are tooo randy, there is more to it.

  194. Jamce

    August 25, 2013 at 1:02 am

    Well, a lot of pastors see their church congregations as their farmland from which they pluck to feed their desires (financially and “emotionally”).. While the blame is squarely with the said pastor (if the story is true), I feel this is a case of “sour grapes”. The lady was able to see the permission to drink alcohol as a test but did not see the invitation to sit on the pastor’s laps and to kiss him as a test. Hmmmm. Na wa for abuse and manipulation. And for one week, our dear Ese kept going back to the same hotel room to receive “Annointing” without realising that what she was doing was wrong. Na wa for intelligent liar wey be PCU member wey dey compete to outshine each other in dressing and looks – all of which were targeted to draw Oga Pastor’s attention. Anyway, it appears to me that the Ese girl was given a full week’s “Annointing” and dumped without benefit or hope of continuation of being Oga Pastor’s babe. Best revenge is smear campaign to destroy pastor’s “ministry”. As they say hell has no fury like a woman scorned. But what will my dear Ese get but more shame… Pastor force the Ese go visit am for hotel or stay for a whole week. Dem tie ur leg for bed? Mschweeew.

  195. maxwell okewole

    August 25, 2013 at 2:22 am

    As the media and airwaves got filled in the late hours of Thursday to the early hours of Friday , i read and looked through series of comments, abuses, curses, castigation , condemnations and most of all the call and cry for a press briefing as well as disregarding of a pastors ministry and his pulpit. I sank into my black leather couch starring into my 51inch television but obviously not watching the program being aired or should i say i was actually watching what the future really holds for our youths and our faith as Christians and most of all what is the next for Miss. Ese Walter and for every other person in her shoes or with the same mindset and ideology. Because i can see that most or should i be specific and say over 80% of our youths have the same mindset that have always limited them and will continue to limit them. The mindset that says immediately you have erred or failed you shouldn’t stand up again.

    I am sure you are wandering where i am heading at or what i am up to, but i am sure if you are not in a hurry and decide to be patient you would be wiser by the time you get to the last words and if by then you still are not wiser then you strongly need to be delivered from the POWER OF DARKNESS (understand that darkness necessarily don’t mean EVIL Spirits or Demons but lack of understanding and enlightenment). At every instance we hear accounts and scandal stories about men of God , the next is an excited crowd ready to condemn, castigate and most times screams of crucify him, crucify him, crucify him….and that only brings memories of the Pharisees and Sadducee who were fast to crucify sinners before and during the era of Jesus Christ our LORD, and when Christ himself says “sinner go and sin no more for I do not condemn you” they get angry and believe proper justice was not taken. Now the question is what is the proper justice????

    I chose to pick my enlightenment from the perspective that the allegations about the man of God “Pastor Biodun” are true, at least that’s what most of us are itching to hear, just the same way the hearts and ears of men are always itching to rejoice in evil reports. So i continue let’s accept that Ese and the man of God actually had a relationship after which she confirms it ended after are while (please understand i have not confirmed if the story is true even though i would have loved to meet the man of God and ask him if i knew how and when to get to him. So i as i had said earlier lets accept it was true, i am almost certain the next we will like to hear is that the pastor has come out to accept the story as true and has decided to quit the ministry and step down as a pastor or worst of all go on exile or commit suicide because u believe he is not worthy to preach the gospel of Christ, Like you where the one who called him or gave him the vision. Perhaps i should ask the question

    · Was a donkey worthy to deliver a message to Balaam the prophet of God

    · Is moses a killer worthy to be used by God to deliver his people

    · Is King David a killer and adulterer worthy to be called a man after God’s heart

    · Is Abraham the man who followed his wife’s suggestion to sleep with her maid over God’s direction worthy to be called father of Faith and God’s friend

    · Is peter the one who denied Jesus Christ 3times worthy to be called father and founder of Christianity

    · Is Solomon who was both an adulterer and idolatrous person worthy to be called God’s blessed King

    I am still yet to discover one man chosen by God either in the bible or in our time that is perfect, except Christ who had to be perfect for the Art and Act of remission of sin at the cross. And even the perfect Christ was believed and argued to be imperfect and promoter of sin by the so called scholars and wise men like the numerous people and supposed Christians we have today.

    I say and will continue to repeat NO ONE IS PERFECT, NO ONE IS PERFECT, NO ONE IS PERFECT, I actually feel like opening your head and sliding it in so you would know that NO ONE IS PERFECT neither is there a perfect church, because if you are perfect then you simply don’t need God’s help. But because we are not perfect does not mean we are not righteous or worthy. And as long as you are righteous or worthy you can be the vessel to carry the vision of God….. hmmm , now i am sure someone’s heard is going hot and perhaps feel like slapping me, well if you have your bible with you then kindly open to Proverbs 24:16 and if you don’t have it then i can tell you what it says “Although a righteous person may FALL SEVEN TIMES, he gets up again, but the wicked will be brought down by calamity”.

    Now i am not a pastor but let me explain what that verse means. The person in question was announced to be righteous by God and he wasn’t announced to be righteous by GOD because of his good works nor because he was perfect (for God said let no man say he is perfect except God in heaven), he was actually announced be God because he accepted God (for as many as come to me i will by no means cast out and they shall be called the sons of God), so God made him righteous and the same person is said even if he falls seven times he shall stand again and God still sees him as a righteous man and as such expected to continue his duty, the only advice God gives is sin no more. GOD never says such people should not continue in the duties he has given them. But he says the wicked will be brought down and i know the next question is who is the wicked? But the answer is just right in front of you “The wicked is that person that doesn’t believe in God nor Believes God’s work should continue” God even went ahead to warn in the same bible passage that you should not rejoice or be glad in the fall of your enemy needless of a man of God. But what do we see today??? People ready twit, blog or share the errors of men when the instruction God gave was to go into your room and pray for such people to be stronger in faith and live a better life. What breaks my heart is 90% of those fast to crucify are Christians as well claimed born again believers. No wonder Christ doubted if he will meet faith and love on earth when he comes back, because if you don’t love your fellow brother how do you claim to love God that you don’t see.

    The truth is if Pastor Biodun had or decides asked for forgiveness, God would have or will forgive him and it would never be in God’s record that he ever committed such sin (For if you repent i will blot out your sin and i will throw into the sea of forgetfulness), which means if ese by chance goes to meet God and tells god i had sex with Pastor Biodun , HE will say i can’t remember such thing happening (for GOD is not a man that he should lie). So if God has forgiven and forgotten why do we cry for crucifixion? That’s why i say we are not different from the Pharisees and Sadducee that were screaming for the crucifixion of Christ and his followers.

    Now to Ese Walter, I sincerely hope you have found peace within yourself now as you stated……… even though i don’t know how you will be at peace every time you see your name or picture on the media attached to sex scandals, perhaps if you want to get married and your fiance’s friends or families bring up the story of the sex scandal, or your children grow older and stumble into an article or book that talks about you and sex scandal that rocked the air waves sometime ago. We all have past but causing uproar with it isn’t the smartest way to show repentance or fight guilt or denial.

    Please understand what i have said and not what i did not say, I am not supporting any wrong did neither am i support of sin but all i am saying is you need to learn to allow God direct your every step and decision. I am sure you do not know how many people you have pushed out of the site of God, church or their faith in God and Christianity if truly you have accepted Christ now.

    I drop my pen here and i am really not expecting any applause or accolade from anyone one on this message, but i have spoken the truth has i know it, left for you to accept it.

  196. daniel

    August 25, 2013 at 2:38 am

    Ese Walter, put away the title “pastor” if your story is true, take it or live, what happened between you and pastor was a mutual agreement between two consenting “matured” adult. Stop playing holier than thou…

    Are you more holier than the pastor himself. Sin is sin. You both did it for seven days…as a matter of fact, he did not come to you.. You kept on parading his hotel room for seven days… SEVEN SOLID NIGHTS and more seff. And I bet you enjoying every night you spent with him tapping into the grace like you claimed.

    You are a matured adult and please stop this trance thing.

    Was it just last week you suddenly realised you were in a trance… Common girl. Put you acts together. You were in love (lust) with this man. He was in lust with you, You both did it mutually and erotically and now you suddenly realised “oh! My! I was a bad girl under grace now am a good girl hoping to change other girls” and want all Nigerian’s to celebrate you and give you a path in the back for grandiose act of sleeping with a married man?

    I bet your next action possibly is to start your own ministry. Ese Ministries International. Well that’s won’t be a bad idea.

    Call a spade a spade not a big spoon.

    You claim to have repented after seven hot BANGING! Why didn’t you repent after the first day frenzy? or better still why didn’t you flee from his presence? Why didn’t you compose your epic story immediately the situation happened but waited this long. (You enjoyed the tin abi… And rushed back home hoping to continue the frenzy but found out that the man has moved on (am guessing). And bitter you felt used you should stick out your nose and strike back. And what better medium than to play the holy cat in public using your so called “changing life’s ambitious motives”

    Well you have succeeded in playing demi God by crucifing another man (sinner or no sinner) one down who’s next. I bet you have forgotten that heaven celebrate when one sinner becomes a saints, but guess what happens when one saint becomes a sinner. SMH. Am sure you’ll receive a crown for that act in heaven.. Or do you think you’ve made no one fall back?

    Lady! You have caused more damage than you bargained for. Do you know how many destinies (who have suddenly generalized the situation) & converter themselves from believers to unbelievers cause of your careless act?

    Do you know how may prospective saints who will suddenly plunge back into their sin, with bundles of reason from your story to defend their action?

    Do you know what you have done to the Pastors family, his innocent wife, kids. I bet you didn’t think the outcome will end like this. God forbid, his wife divorces him tomorrow, can you take your words back?

    Will you be there to help her raise he kids… alone?

    Do you know what you have done to the body of Christ and his brand Christianity?

    Remember Christ himself thought us how to forgive and forget. It’s not in our jurisdiction to chastise, crucify or condemn. Its our duty to lift up and not cast down.

    Ese! creating this media buzz will not in anyway stop God from forgiving him and re-instating him back to his position if he repent.
    Many God’s generals have been in worst case and God regenerated them back to righteousness and bliss.

    (An by the way, I hope have you seeked for forgiveness from the pastors innocent wife, his children, for taping into the anointing without permission.)

    Even if your story is true. Ese the right thing to do (if you really felt lead to help others) is to share you experience “frictionally” and “anonymously” not pointing fingers like yours is the cleanest.

    There are many women out there who have expressed their worst experiences in life without shredding other peoples life’s and destinies.

    No one is saying you can’t teach others out of your experience. No! But you should have treated this case with extreme maturity and sensitivity. Act Like Christ.. We know you were hurt, but is it worth it taking others along with you? Knowingly or unknowingly.

    What will Jesus do.

    Jesus won’t go round claiming glory to himself by celebrating another man’s down fall so that he may rise (story of the prostitute)… His words are simple. “Go and sin no more”. “Not hey every body, come over, listen up this woman is an addicted unrepentant sinner, stone her to death.”

    Am sure your audience who are sinners themselves have been waiting to hear the falling story of another pastor… And here they are raising their glass in support of your insensitive actions.

    And for all you holier than thou “commentors” I hope your life’s is as white as snow and clear of logs before removing the pin in pastors eye. MYB….Mind Your Business and appraise yourselves. You just may be the next falling-prey tomorrow… From your place of work to mere encounters on the streets. There are many more Ese’s and Pastor’s out there. Stop giving biased remarks and think rationally “what if it was me”.

    Grace and forgiveness abounds to all. Ese and Pastor inclusive. If there’s one message I’m certain about, it is grace abounds to us all. And forgiveness is open to everyone.
    However Ese you need more grace this time. Grace for your future, your destiny, your life, your future home…..wheeeew. Cause Ese, your name is already a brand, some have tagged it for good and some not to good.

    I’ll advice you to lay low, hold your space and seek your God thoroughly in truth and in spirit. Seek counsel from him alone and stay off this unnecessary media hypes. Ignore all this “herositic” comments. Trust me few months from now all those 500 “comentors” on your page including myself would have forgotten about this scenario. But you will still be there to pick your pieces. And if paradventure this claims are false, this same clan of “comentors” will not hesitate to lash you hook-line-and-sinker.

    And for you ladies who are Pastor Freaks.

    My Pastor! My Pastor!! My Pastor!!!

    Ummmm.

    Pastor, na flesh and blood dey em body.

    Don’t get it twisted. Man is naturally a curious being, we always want varieties. We always want to stop at every “stop” with skirts. We’re are naturally wired to taste and see what the lord has done (lol) and what best way to get that piece of flesh than from those who bring them to us on a platter of Gold.

    My take on Church workers. Well I have never been a fan of “if you’re not a church worker, you are not a full believer”. It’s a personal decision. I belief Christians are ment to serve more outside the church. Ese if you had held your corner, you won’t be in this mess. Am sure you wanted to be one of those Pastor Daughters who walk in and out of pastors office like he’s your temple. You want to be seen around your pastors in order to boost your charismatic “Christianic” ego among the congregation.

    Well I hope you haven’t ruptured your ego.

    And to our Pastor (if this is true) which I really hope is not and want to remain in denial.. Sir you know what to do…do the needful.

    Finally as I prepare to receive my shredding from comments, let me share this.

    God can use any vessel to preach his words, Abraham even at being God’s friend slept with Haggia but God still used him. So also David, his act seff! even produced solomon who became a great king.

    Paul was the worst of all bread but God still use him. I still love my pastor, I still pray for him and I’ll continue to pray for him irrespective all the scenarios. He is my Pastor and it’s my duty to Pray for him like wise everyone else. Keep praying for your pastors, belief it or not, they are our shepard.

    COZA is a church were God dwells. And pls let COZA be. I am a COZA worshiper. I belief in the vision of the ministry. And I can certify that the words from COZA impacted my life than ever. I have served under the teaching of other great men of God but the “words made flesh” from COZA stands out.

    And trust me there are many people like myself (COZA members) who attend COZA to worship el-most-high (pato cranto) God almighty in truth and in spirit and not the Pastor like some other judgmental analyst do. And just like Tiger woods, I belief Pastor Biodun will rise up again. And Ese you’ll also have to stand firm in Gods precedence. God’s gift are unrepentant.

    To my readers have you giving your life to Christ?

    Are you are Christ worshiper or just a Church member?

    Do you know God or just know about him?

    Are you God-righteous or self-righteous.

    Take heed lest you fall.

    (I still want to belief its all false claims)..#thinkingoutload

    • Simplybecause

      August 25, 2013 at 12:09 pm

      Puh-leeeaaaaase. Y’all are soooo brainwashed that even if your beloved Spiritual Father/Serial Fornicator straffs someone on the pulpit in the middle of Sunday Service, you won’t bat an eyelid.

    • ignorantyou

      April 7, 2016 at 1:02 pm

      May God forgive you Daniel. You know not what you say. I was a victim of such too and it wasn’t my fault. I cried and begged him to leave me alone and he said to hell with it. I was scared and I tried to commit suicide twice. May God forgive you for judging

  197. Puleze

    August 25, 2013 at 5:18 am

    Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned. A whole week of consensul sex with a married man, she is an adult; read her story and there is no evidence of abuse so why is she claiming to be a victim? I have had married men hitting on me but decided not to take the bait. She did not have to visit his hotel room for a week! She was having a great time I guess 😉 now that things have turned sour she suddenly develops a conscience. It would have been more dignifying if she walked out and then said he hit on her. Monica Lewinsky is a perfect example of what ends up happening to such women. There are women who are victims of rape and abuse, but this woman is a victim of being dumped. Anyway there are two sides to a story. The story of the two women before Solomon with the dead child comes to mind. Anyway if true the Pastor should be held accountable.

    • ignorantyou

      April 7, 2016 at 12:56 pm

      May you never see the situation that would make you shut up on matters like this. I used to be like you. Confident And judgemental of others who made what I call stupid mistakes till it happened to me. I broke up with my boyfriend cos I learnt he had been married. I was that disciplined. See what happened to ese? Exactly the same thing happened to me and I was innocent. You dont understand what its like to become a mumu for a man of God because you fear the annoiting. At that stage you are as helpless and confused as a child who is being seduced. May your life never go in that direction . It took me months of counselling and encouragement not to attempt suicide anymore.

  198. adanna

    August 25, 2013 at 6:38 am

    When we talk about issues regarding religion we have to be careful, because it is one of the things that fragments our beliefs, our thoughts and our world at large. Much has been destroyed in this world on the basis of religion. Atheism is a form of religion, as is Islam, Christianity, Buddhism, Judaism and a horde of thousands of not-so-widely-known doctrines worldwide.

    You would have read Ese Walter’s open confession on her affair with the senior pastor of COZA, Biodun Fatoyinbo. The matter has been thrown back and forth. Rev. Biodun Fatoyinbo has been flogged severely by comments from people who are thoroughly pissed at him. Ese Walter on the other hands has been reprimanded, comforted and even advised to go for ‘psychoanalysis’ as a particular commenter put it. I didn’t intend to talk about this issue, but I have a thing or two to say on the matter.

    1. ‘Men of God’ are still men:
    However disappointing this may sound, it is sadly true. Being called a pastor does not take the chromosomes in your DNA and mutate you into an angel. A pastor is a title that can be likened to other political titles like Prime Minister, President and Governor. It is an office that you occupy based on your qualifications be it spiritual, academic, political or moral merits. That a ‘man of God’ is alleged to have been involved in a scathing scandal like this does not make him a “fake man of God’. While the Judas was widely known to have betrayed Jesus, his role or deed did not erase his popular office as being one of Jesus 12 disciples. You can’t mention the 12 disciples without mentioning Judas. This did not warrant him ever being called a ‘fake’ disciple. Any acclaimed clergyman can become the subject of a scandal. These people were not born with wings. Discipline is what drives their office and the decisions to be set apart towards the service of God and humanity.

    2. ‘Men of God’ have encouraged people:
    I have witnessed the lives of a lot of people change positively because they have had contact with a ‘man of God’. Drug addicts have become better people. Poor, homeless and destitute people have been helped. Young children have had their education sponsored by these men of God. The ‘unbridled and carefree tendencies’ of humanity have been somewhat checked by majority of these people. Open allegations like this destroy other people’s beliefs and faith.
    3.  Ese Walter was not the abused:

    This is what I believe. How can you call one week of non-stop sex, abuse. Abuse is the improper usage or treatment of an entity, often to unfairly or improperly gain benefit. How can she call it abuse when she willingly consented? I am astound by how this confession has become a thing of sympathy. She must have enjoyed whatever she had and wanted more, so she kept going back. Consensual sex is enjoyable.
    4. He who is without sin should cast the first stone:

    The reason why this is generating so much ire is because he is called a senior pastor of a church. I am forced to wonder if Ese would have made a case on this, if he wasn’t a pastor. If he wasn’t just another rich, married man. I am forced to think about how much she holds marital values and if she had never dated a married man except the pastor. If you’ve never committed fornication before, If you’ve never committed adultery before, if you’ve never cheated on your partner or wife before, cast the first stone.

    5. Pastor Biodun Fatoyinbo abused his office:

    If the allegations are true, then one can say that the ‘man of God’ abused his office, the oath he took and the mantle placed on his hand. He can be said to have used the power of the position for the wrong motives. This has a ripple effect on all other people who occupy the same positions all over the world.

    6. There is more than meets the eye:

    Hey but you only heard a side of the story and you’re quick to judge. Listen to the other side of coin. Are there things Ese isn’t saying? Are there other things that transpired between them that have not been stated in her epistle? This is only how far you can know.

    7. This is not a legal matter:

    This is not a legal issue at all, except was on the grounds of rape. The only person that is expected to make a legal action is his wife, and that would be a case of filing for divorce on grounds of mutual infidelity. Ese enjoyed it thoroughly and regretted her actions

    8. Religious leaders are the victims:

    These are tough times for religious leaders all over the world. They have to watch their speech and thoughts all over the world. If you are a religious leader and you oppose same-sex marriage in America, you are seen as a demented opinionist who needs primary schooling on what human rights are. If you are seen wearing a turban on your head, you are closely watched because you are believed to have affiliations with terrorists all over the world. If you own a large church, you are believed to be deceiving people and using their hard-earned more to ‘live large’. The world believes that religious leaders should take the blow and remain silent even if they are innocent.

    8. Go and sin no more:

    The deed is done. Ese has regretted her actions. The ‘man of God’ involved is getting all the chastisement of his life. Names have been called. It’s time to move on. It’s not time to form a movement. It’s time to move forward for all ministries involved. Ese should move on with her life. The accused should look for ways to amend the damage and move his ministry forward. He will lose members but some will remain with him.

    9. Let the institution be:

    That the leader of COZA has faltered does not make the church an unholy place to worship. We must filter the institutions from the servants in the institutions and let them resolve their conflict as mature people. That a country has leaders who mismanage its funds does not make the all the citizens of the country corrupt. The international society and media do not understand this fact as well.

    10. Wisdom is profitable to direct:

    Just in case there’s another Ese Walter out there who is having an affair with a married man or another ‘man of God’, rather than destroying more than you can create, find ways of resolving the issues or have the courage to move on. What becomes of the Monica Lewinsky’s who try to battle the Clinton’s – nothing. The world moves on. You might be a Dominique Strauss-Kahn for a moment but your shame gets erased someday and tables turn. Whistle-blowing is awesome but you should always do it with wisdom. Wisdom is profitable to direct. Don’t be another Edward Snowden.

    Cheers!

    • ignorantyou

      April 7, 2016 at 12:51 pm

      I marvel at the ignorance of people who never have to go through some things in their lives. It’s so easy to bas someone else because your own life is so comfy. My questions is this, did you read her entire story? Do rape victims also ‘enjoy” it? About paedophiles…some say the kids loved it….do you agree? Think well, do your research on the human mind and speak with reason

  199. Nomy

    August 25, 2013 at 7:39 am

    Nownow that am done reading the epistles, my cpntribution goes likee this “Tufiakwa Pastor Biodun and all other cheating fornicating. Lying Pastors defended by silly blind people misquoting the bible. It will be better that a stone be hung round ur neck and you be cast into the seyou to lead my children to sin! Anyone see that portion of the Bible.? Pastor Biodun my foot!

  200. 'Mide

    August 25, 2013 at 8:43 am

    You people should better stop this. Abeg , stop this nonsense thinking !
    Ese Walters is a lawyer for Christ sake . Does she want to tell us she does not know the law? Does she want to tell us that she was not professionally trained to understand the implications of her action?
    Does it make sense that she jettisoned all the training she received in law school and submitted herself to be abused? Those supporting this shameless woman should be ashamed of themselves because they have not subjected the article of this woman to critical analysis.
    It does not help people that are genuinely and continue to be genuinely abused. Imagine a lawyer that does not know her right from her left and she called herself a lawyer. She ought to be disbarred. She is making other lawyers look ridiculous. Are we now producing illiterate lawyers in Nigeria?

    • whocares

      August 25, 2013 at 11:51 am

      not that i particularly care about the issue, the woman or the pastor.. (what has the eyes not seen in this world?), but I dont see what her profession has to do with her reaction to the issue, and her lack of common sense. yes she is playing the victim and trying to portray herself as more innocent than would appear on proper analysis of the matter, but that relates to her person, and her character, and has absolutely nothing to do with her profession, or the Nigerian School of Law. It is simply ridiculous (a reduction to the absurd) to equate every aspect of a person’s life to their profession isnt it?

    • 'Mide

      August 25, 2013 at 4:13 pm

      I guess you are right. After all said and done, I mean when we are done playing our roles or games whether in our offices or at the pulpit, we are mere people motivated by the emotions and passions encountered in ordinary life. Our training whether it is pastoral or legal should have no bearing on our actions outside the spaces where we practice our careers. Makes sense, abi? God bless us all!

    • ignorantyou

      April 7, 2016 at 12:48 pm

      What are you saying? As a lawyer you cannot be manipulated or what? Seriously? Would it have been easier to believe if she was uneducated ? My God. The things we say

  201. Benny

    August 25, 2013 at 10:55 am

    If this story is true then Ese has the right to publish this and save others. For those who are squealing that Ese wouldn’t have reported this if the guy was a regular Joe, this is what I have to tell you. The guy isn’t just some big CEO. He is a respected pastor who stands on the alter and preaches against the same thing. No wonder our society is the way it is. Too much hypocrisy. I love driving on the streets of Lagos on a Sunday morning because all the armed robbers, kidnappers, ashawo, bad boys and girls and all in church. Cue noon time and they all resume to duty. Even all our politicians, senators and legislators all go to church and resume their looting because our pastors won’t tell them the hard truth. We are doomed as a nation. No wonder many young people are deillusioned and find reprieve in their various clubs and music. The church should wake up and find a reason to be relevant again, because at this rate, it will become extinct in no time

  202. Anonymous

    August 25, 2013 at 12:05 pm

    This is my first comment ever, on this blog. Prior to this ‘s*x scandal’ , I had never heard nor known of the existence of any church, called COZA, nor Pastor Biodun. Thanks to Ese, for the publicity! You know, God works in amazing ways! Well, I made it a point of duty to listen to Pastor Biodun’s live ministration today, Sunday, and, children of God, I stand in awe of God! I listened with an open mind, to the latter part of the message (because, I missed the service start time and only connected online, at about 10.30am), and, I was so glad, that despite the ‘storm’, God still deemed it fit today, to use this Ministry to bring souls into His kingdom – which is God’s main concern anyway ! You needed to see the positive response to the call to salvation, and, not to mention, the number of first timers! Lord, I am in awe of you. Souls were won, and the heaven rejoices! Ese, you may have been hurt, but you could have handled this issue differently. Anyway, you are not entirely innocent in this matter. And, why do I feel that there was an element of seduction from you? Look, truth be told, you needed attention from this man, and when it seemed to you that the game was over, and you could no longer get his attention, then you decided to go this route. I am also woman, and, I, have, fallen victim to these ‘men of God’, ‘born again’ deceivers, so, I know how it feels to be in your shoes, but, I only took it to God in prayers, asked for His forgiveness and also forgave myself! The ability to forgive oneself, is the beginning to self-healing. I bet you have caused more grief to yourself by this public confession. Finally, ‘let him that is without sin, first cast a stone’ and let him that thinketh he stand, take heed, lest he fall. God loves us all. I have made a definite choice in life to forgive all those who have hurt me and may God grant all those i have hurt, the strength to forgive me too.

    • Educated anonymous

      August 25, 2013 at 7:45 pm

      I am baffled by your response. Because the pastor shows obvious signs of great charisma and he has caught your heart, Ese’s story no longer has no grounds. She shouldn’t have wrote about what could possibly be the second side of your wonderful pastor. He has a sweet tongue, sweet enough to mesmerize a whole congregation and that is very important especially if he participates in adultery. From your perspective it is okay for him to defile another persons soul as long as he wins more souls than he defiles right. He is a pastor that stands in front of people to preach, if this story is true then he must be publicly admonished because he is a pastor and as a pastor their are certain things you cannot do. He is a leader and his followers look up to him for guidance, quite frankly with this act he is obviously a broken GPS. He can either be fixed or discarded. God’s anointing does not reside in a corrupt person. Both the pastor and Ese are at fault.

    • Yemi

      August 26, 2013 at 11:12 am

      Typical warped Nigerian mentality and self-delusion. It’s a shame you’re a woman! Rather than advocate that this ‘pastor’ should come clean, you’re trying to exonerate him. This is the reason why Nigeria, eternally, would remain doomed. And, when the time comes, Nigerian church would fall into the same trap that the church in the west hemisphere had fallen into: monumental decay and disrepair—both physically and spiritually! It takes a female who is mentally sick to come to the open to make Ese Walter’s sort of declaration. Considering also Ese’s level of education and exposure, and the consciousness that if this were to be untrue then she’s liable to answer for a libel, she wouldn’t have come to the open without this case being true. I only wished, she had one more round of this amorous liaison with this so-called ‘pastor’, fully audio-visually taped before blowing it all up. This is a call to all Nigerian women who had been (or are still being) abused to come to the open and stop being intimated. This is the 21st century CE. And, this ‘pastor’ is not a one-off. His type exists in all church denominations, and of course within other religions (Islam, African Traditional Religion, etc). But, these, at least do not espouse monogamy. I used to be a Christian and, indeed, a priest. But, once, I discovered the antics of the men of the clothes; once I realised the emptiness of the church; once I realised religion is a scam; once I realised the Hebrew Bible contains nothing but folklore; in short, once I became enlightened, I turned my back on religion, and freed myself from its shackles.

    • Ovie

      August 27, 2013 at 1:09 am

      Awesome.

    • Nekky

      September 2, 2013 at 1:59 pm

      It’s a shame you turned your back on religion cos of everything going on around you.xtianity is a personal walk with God,we all will stand as individuals to give account of our lives,not as a group, church or denomination,so I’d advise you retrace your steps.And as to this issue,two things,God cannot be mocked and the truth always eventually comes out

  203. Ikenna Chijioke

    August 25, 2013 at 1:35 pm

    This is a very delicate matter & from my understanding after reading this post, this is a clear case of his word against hers. My best bet is God will judge whoever accordingly.

  204. he won't be talking

    August 25, 2013 at 3:40 pm

    he won’t deny or accept. mmmm. so for now it’s her word versus his silence. http://lalaini.blogspot.com/2013/08/nigerian-pastor-biodun-fatoyinbos.html

  205. boss

    August 25, 2013 at 4:41 pm

    well, a pastor is the same as any man and have short comings,i think i bliv Ese’s story but i dont get her point on the publicity,i think the pastor should be good enough to apologise ,go for counselling,and move on with Gods work and please she should not use the taking advantage card,it is so irritating.she wanted it and kept on with it consecutively ,she is no baby 2 d sex game apparently,even paying hotels and not to be insulting there is nothing seductive about ese walters,looks like she had a part to play in luring him to the bed.So u think she made her point,we all know her name,and mr pastor get ur act together

  206. Charlotte

    August 25, 2013 at 5:13 pm

    I would advise the good pastor to get Kimberla Lawson Roby’s books that deals with how Men of God ought to deal with temptation in the form of women and how to handle such fall from Grace. There are a lot in the Pastor Curtis Black series, but if he has time he should endeavor to read them all. It follows Pastor Curtis Black as he navigates his way from a womanizing senior pastor of a major church in chicago and his spectacular fall from grace, to when he started a new church in the chicago suburbs, along the way still being tempted by supposed women church members…eventually he found an unprecedented level of grace with God. I would recommend that the Pastor and his wife get these books by Kimberla Lawson Roby as it would help them both in healing and dealing with the emotional turmoil.

  207. Miami

    August 25, 2013 at 5:20 pm

    Ese might want to dole out her evidence, if she has any. I read the article and she claimed to have some. Because its actually her word against his. If she wants to speak out on behalf of others, the, she should go the full mile and redeem her name. This isnt time for half-baked story.
    And if she is lieing, may God give CoZA the grace to carry on after this incident. Amen.

  208. richard

    August 25, 2013 at 5:27 pm

    Dear Ese,
    Lets assume you are saying the truth ( which am now beginning to believe but would wait until Sunday to stream online and see what The pastor has to say), peeps on this blog must understand that you were a consenting adult to this “illicit affair”, and that you knew he was married yet you gave in to his overtures. Am not judging you but am trying to establish a point that this isn’t a case of abuse or manipulation especially because you claim that the affair was not a one-off thing, you kept meeting him and you indulged in it repeatedly.
    Yes you have a right to feel guilty and turn to God for repentance, you could even suffer some psychological trauma especially because the ” act” was committed with someone you held in such spiritual pedestal, however, that doesn’t make you his victim or a victim here. Truth be told, sin could be sweet, you voluntarily participated and enjoyed the affair while it lasted, you not a child. My prayer is that you find peace with God as much as He finds peace with God.
    Stop the pity party!

  209. omoz

    August 25, 2013 at 5:41 pm

    Do we fear God as Individuals?the truth of the matter is that issues like this will continue in the house of God but it is our responsibility as Christians to build a good r/ship with God and fear him.its the little things we do that give pastors audacity to do this things and many more:
    1)you sit when praise&worship is going on but stand to your feet when pastor comes on stage.Who do you fear?
    2)you go to church on sunday not because you want to fellowship with God but because people would say you dint come to church.
    3)you put N200 in your offering envelope because no one can see you but you buy a suite of N50,000 for pastor.who do you fear?
    4)you come out for donations not because you really want to give but because you want to be seen.
    …….and the list goes on and on…if we fear God more and pastors less,read the bible more,listen to the Holy spirit more then we would help build the church of God.
    If the alligations are true,i want to believe the church authority would take apprioprate actions.
    Ese Walters,if you had sex with him only the first day(because as a lady sometimes the shock of someone with such a position making such move can catch us off guide) and ran away for your life and eventually published this story you would have been my hero.If you slept with for only the 1st night and went back to God for forgiveness,you would have found closure by now.Because am too sure that the God i serve would have comforted you,directed you to the right people to report him too for appropriate actions to be taken against him and given you the grace to even pray for him.
    Going back there again and again for seven days shows that you do not fear God or have a r/ship with him and that there is more to this your public”closure”than meet the eyes.
    LET US FEAR GOD AND RESPECT HIM AND THEN NO PASTOR WOULD HAVE THE POWER OR AUDACITY TO MESS US UP……GOD FIRST AND HIS WORD OUR STANDARD.

  210. adelegirl

    August 25, 2013 at 5:49 pm

    Fact – whether or not the Pastor publicly admits this allegation or not is irrelevant to God – what matters to God is his true repentance and the state of his heart after all this. The Pastor is accountable first to God, his family and his congregation. God deals with us differently – there are some (maybe like Ese Walter) whom he tells to publicly confess in public, there are some whom he tells to just take time off to build themselves up again when they have fallen, there are some whom he tells “go and sin no more” and that’s it. And the fantastic thing is that once God has forgiven you, HE FORGETS YOUR SIN and gives you a clean slate as though you never sinned. It’s our conscience that usually keeps reminding us about our past misdeeds not God – that’s just the father’s love. The truth is God does not deal with us on a one size fits all basis. I can’t understand the obsession with wanting the pastor to come out and defend/deny/admit this story in public. Apart from the three classes of people listed above, he owes the public no explanation IMO. For those braying for the Pastor’s public confession, I beg you anytime you sin (whether fornication, adultery, lying, covetousness, hate etc all na sin) please go on your twitter, facebook, BBM, Whatsapp, SDK’s blog or any other social media site, publish your full names and picture and declare your sin to the world otherwise you’ll just be a hypocrite. Remember the thief who was crucified with Jesus? He was a sinner – a thief and probably deserved to be crucified. Yet whilst his accusers, onlookers and maybe some of his victims were braying for his blood shouting “crucify him”, he was working out his salvation quietly with God and in spite of his past misdeeds still ended up in heaven on the right side of the father. Can you imagine the shock of some who were accusing him when they saw him in heaven or those who ended up in hell yet didn’t see him? At the end of the day we are to work out our individual salvation with fear and trembling. Work your own out and at best, pray and counsel others instead of accusing and castigating. I pray that Ese, Pastor Biodun, his wife, family, congregation and all involved in this sorry mess find redemption and peace.

    • Ayekooto

      August 26, 2013 at 5:34 pm

      Sorry. Wrong submission about God. You need to consult your bible further …

    • NonnyMan

      September 10, 2013 at 11:13 am

      I agree with u sir.

  211. richard

    August 25, 2013 at 5:57 pm

    What abuse is she talking about???? Two consenting adults get into an “illicit affair”, and you call that abuse??? For all you talking about manipulation, please check the dictionary for the meaning. To have repeated intercourse with a married man, enjoyed every bit of it (obviously because she kept going, so much so that she even paid the hotel bill at a point from what she said) you call that manipulation???? Oh puleaseee! Am not saying what the pastor did ( if he actually did it) is right, all am saying is that this is not a case of abuse or manipulation. She is not a victim, she is a co- partaker in adultery and as such she is as guilty as the pastor (if her claims are true). i know her type, she would finally regret this her juvenile approach to such a sensitive matter which she played a major role in. no apologies from me to Ese. my apology goes to the pastor’s wife who was blind to another woman filling her role. lastly, why is she just speaking up now???? She probably isnt getting his attention anymore because the pastor has repented or does not find her attractive any more, and she think its time to bring him down? shame on you Ese! i stopped been sentimental ever since i left Nigeria. i think and analyse issues based on their merit and not based on emotions. If you call it psychological abuse like Ese called it, she should see a psychologist.

  212. Merit

    August 25, 2013 at 6:05 pm

    Chai! This one pass me abeg………

  213. Educated anonymous

    August 25, 2013 at 7:25 pm

    So she slept with a pastor and for some reason the whole thing gets swept under the rug. She comes out in the open and writes about it and now she’s getting blamed for it. If she were looking for publicity then I must say, thats one hell of a way to get it, but I doubt she really was. To everyone blaming her for trying to sabotage or ridicule a man in power, I must say with all due respect, that you are absolute fools. I don’t advocate their act and until the accused man says his part then you can pass no blame. If he did in fact do it, he should be admonished and punished. Simply because as a man of power in a religious setting, people look up to you and you should know how to carry yourself properly. Granted he is human and prone to error, he should also publicly apologize to his church member for participating in such an act regardless of if he was seduced or if he was the one doing the seducing.

  214. Educated anonymous

    August 25, 2013 at 7:55 pm

    This is a funny yet interesting case. Two consenting adults commit an act that is sinful yet obviously enjoyed. I have read the comments and I must say that some people are just very quick to judge this woman without remembering the fact that two people was involved. The pastor should be blamed and his character should be questioned because he abused his power and didn’t conduct himself properly. While the lady should also be blamed because she shared a bed with a man who she wasn’t married to. It was a sinful act for both parties involved, but no man on this post is innocent. The pastor owes his congregation and wife a public apology since he publicly disrespected and embarrassed them. He also needs to step down from the pulpit for sometime to reconcile with his God. He is a spiritual leader, he took on a very delicate job as a pastor. One that requires him to be extra mindful of his act. This is all assuming he did conduct this act.

  215. nikky brooks

    August 26, 2013 at 12:37 am

    take hid ,every one that has spoken wasnt there when a so called affair happened which am sure will be false so dont forget your not God and will never be God so dont say what will definitely stand against u on d judgment day keep ur comment to ur selfs and let God do what he want to do pls don’t use ur mouths to kill ur destiny what ese claims to have happened u sure where not there so pls lets all stay clear and again let God do or reveal what he wants to reveal “shhhhhs”

  216. Yomi

    August 26, 2013 at 1:49 am

    Ese ,You are an agent of the devil
    Too bad this will noty stop the anointing on his head.
    Any intelligent person knows the game you are playing
    Read about david and saul-it dangerous to work against the anointing

  217. saysaysayt

    August 26, 2013 at 6:30 am

    informationng.com/2013/08/pandoras-box-another-alleged-victim-of-coza-pastor-steps-forward.html

  218. Buteh

    August 26, 2013 at 7:27 am

    It is funny how people can still defend this so called man of God and still let him be a leader…..Well I know the story is true and for those of you who talk down on Ese, you need to have your heads examined…..I guess you are the kind of people who would say Bashar al-Assad(syrian president) and his likes are good just because of some stupid reason….How would you let a congregation be lead by such a man…..what happened with Ese was not the first time he had done that but was something he always does…..You say she seduced him, maybe she did but from her story, I do not see any form of seduction from her path….he left Nigeria to London to see her…..As for the guys who have criticized Ese I am believing you would be fine if it was ur wife or girlfriend this happened to and as for the women who do same I believe its fine if you were in her position….Honestly its a shame people think and reason the way you guys do……

  219. Wemo

    August 26, 2013 at 8:13 am

    THE FACTS;

    (1.) Ese Walter’s story/allegations.
    (2.) Pastor B. Fatoyinbo response.

    ARGUMENTS;

    (1.) WAS ESE WALTER MANIPULATED;
    Yes it is possible for anybody to be manipulated by a mentor or in this case a spiritual leader. We see this every day with Suicide Bombers and also in the case of Jim Jones leading his followers to suicide.

    (2.) DID ESE SEDUCED PASTOR B. FATOYINBO;
    Yes it is also possible for Ese to have seduced the Pastor B. Fatoyinbo but in this case the facts did not say so or did Pastor B. Fatoyinbo said so.

    (3.) WHY DID ESE WALTER CAME OUT WITH HER STORY;
    (a.) It is possible she might have felt jilted by Pastor B. Fatoyinbo.
    (b.) It is possible she might have asked for money and the Pastor refused to give her.
    (c.) It is possible she may want to free herself from the quilt.
    (d.) It is possible she may just want to expose Pastor B. Fatoyinbo.

    (4.) PASTOR B. FATOYINBO’S RESPONSE;
    (a.) Why did he not give a direct answer of YES or NO to Ese’s accusations?
    (b.) Why did he say he’s preparing a ROBUST REPLY at the same time saying God told him not to answer?
    (c.) It is possible that Pastor B. Fatoyinbo is trying to buy time for the allegations to die or also possible that Pastor B. is trying to reach out to Ese for a settlement.

    CONCLUSION;

    It can be said that Pastor B. Fatoyinbo is presumed guilty in the Court Of Public Opinion by his response to Ese Walter’s allegations.

    Ese Walter’s story seem to be well detailed stating events and even scenarios that occurred between her and Pastor B. Fatoyinbo. She also said she was a member of the church COZA Abuja and other members have acknowledged so. She also said she has evidence of Hotel Payment Receipts and Telephone Conversation Recording.

    Pastor B. Fatoyinbo did not or has not said his position on Ese Walter’s Accusation and the proper thing is for Pastor B. Fatoyinbo to state his position on the matter and possibly ask Ese Walter to release her Evidence. Because he is a Role Model to his followers, admirers and more so a Spiritual Leader to many. By not doing so it will mean he is guilty of the accusation and it leave doubt in the mind of his followers even if they say they believe he is not guilty.
    If he is guilty he should come out and apologise to his congregation, he is human and he’s not above sin. By not doing so it will means he is lying to his followers and he’s a fraud. He owes his followers the truth not leaving them in doubt. Further more he should make peace with God and step down for sometime to deal with his problems.

    MY OPINION;

    Ese Walter’s Story should be welcomed because its an eye opener to us Christians. We have sisters, daughters, friends & loved ones who are held up in this kind of bondage and confusion as we speak. Its a good thing for us to know that this kind of things to happen so we can advise our daughters, sisters and loved ones against such Pastors.

    Its is very obvious that this is a very evident thing in churches today but we as Religious people like to live in denial until our daughters, sisters or loved ones fall victim to such.

    PASTOR B. FATOYINBO say your position on the matter or myself and majority of Nigerians will have no choice but to believe ESE WALTER’S STORY!

    ESE WALTER for your own good you have to release your evidence if not this will hunt you for the rest of your life. Even it will hunt your future husband and children. So release your evidence for your own good.

    ESE WALTER AND ALL OTHER LADIES WHO HAVE EVIDENCE SHOULD PLEASE RELEASE IT SO OTHERS CAN BE SAVED FROM FALSE PROPHETS, IF NOT GOD WILL JUDGE YOU FOR ALLOWING THEM TO LEAD HIS CHILDREN ASTRAY!

    May God Save Us From The Hands Of False Prophets.

    Signed;
    Wemo.

  220. Yemi

    August 26, 2013 at 11:21 am

    Typical warped Nigerian mentality and self-delusion. It’s a shame you’re a woman! Rather than advocate that this ‘pastor’ should come clean, you’re trying to exonerate him. This is the reason why Nigeria, eternally, would remain doomed. And, when the time comes, Nigerian church would fall into the same trap that the church in the west hemisphere had fallen into: monumental decay and disrepair—both physically and spiritually! It takes a female who is mentally sick to come to the open to make Ese Walter’s sort of declaration. Considering also Ese’s level of education and exposure, and the consciousness that if this were to be untrue then she’s liable to answer for a libel, she wouldn’t have come to the open without this case being true. I only wished, she had one more round of this amorous liaison with this so-called ‘pastor’, fully audio-visually taped before blowing it all up. This is a call to all Nigerian women who had been (or are still being) abused to come to the open and stop being intimated. This is the 21st century CE. And, this ‘pastor’ is not a one-off. His type exists in all church denominations, and of course within other religions (Islam, African Traditional Religion, etc). But, these, at least do not espouse monogamy. I used to be a Christian and, indeed, a priest. But, once, I discovered the antics of the men of the clothes; once I realised the emptiness of the church; once I realised religion is a scam; once I realised the Hebrew Bible contains nothing but folklore; in short, once I became enlightened, I turned my back on religion, and freed myself from its shackles.

  221. dianne

    August 26, 2013 at 12:25 pm

    Dear Ese, u were nt forced, y didn’t u storm out of his hotel room when he told you to kiss him. Yes, you guys probably had an affair, and you enjoyed it at some point. I can’t blame him, cos whether you take it or not, u allowed the devil use you, so deal with it!

  222. Simple

    August 26, 2013 at 2:24 pm

    Ese seems educated and smart but not wise at all. She may get the quick publicity she desperately wants in the short run for her career but what about the future. Having made a big mistake (if her story is true), why commit a bigger mistake? I appeal to the Pastor to simply ignore her totally. He should truly repent, consentrate on his wife, family and church without responding publicly. Whatever evidence Efe may be parading is worthless because she “consented, participated and enjoyed” it while the shameful affairs lasted. Better repent truly in your own interest and stop trading eternity for this little publicity of your media career.

    • Colour Purple

      August 30, 2013 at 5:45 pm

      You appear to be in bondage, may God deliver you.

  223. Hamilton

    August 26, 2013 at 3:00 pm

    i dont think the story is true cause from the looks of things she has been trying to get a piece of the cake from Pastor Biodun Fatoyinbo….well i don’t have much to say till we hear Pastor Biodun Fatoyinbo’s side of the story,but i feel dat God is the final judge in this situation cos it is only him dat knws who is telling the truth

  224. Sandy

    August 26, 2013 at 3:40 pm

    Do not raise a voice till you’ve walked a mile in her shoes. And don’t act as though the pastor had a right to abuse the trust and power he had even if the opportunity stared him in the eye. God has given us grace and forgiveness but that doesn’t mean we should abuse it..Y’all should stop bashing the lady. Things like this happen, only, not reported. Had my pastor hit on me in the past. I reverenced him in a way…. I was the one who got things(tasks) done effectively. I confided in him after a nasty break up with my boyfriend. He taught me(so well at that) the word of God and gained my trust in the process. He told me to bring some docs to the house, offered me a slightly alcoholic drink, I was a bit tipsy, he had his way with me. It was so surreal; I couldn’t believe it and this was after building my much battered trust in God. This continued awhile(2months)–I knew it was wrong but I did not have the guts to end it. Guilt overwhelmed me and I eventually confided in my sis who was shocked to the bone. She helped me through that time.Though I was wrong for letting it continue, that did not stop me from feeling guilty, worthless and sad… I found out I was pregnant after I broke up with him– had to remove it(couldnt tell my sister this part because I was so scared of being judged). I was only able to move on after leaving the church and finding God all over again… And though I thank God I’m back on track now, I don’t even encourage any form of closeness with male ‘brothers and pastors’. I feel bad about that period and I found closure when he apologized and admitted to using my confidence in him as a tool- he was lucky I was too scared to open up to the church or his wife if not it would have been an ‘ese walter story all over. But I still can’t help but wonder why a spirit filled pastor who was passionate about the things of God could have strayed.

  225. Sandy

    August 26, 2013 at 4:02 pm

    So BN is also on a comment deleting spree. Still trying to believe this. You did not post my earlier comment.

  226. BossLady

    August 26, 2013 at 4:11 pm

    A lot of people here have done worse, fornicated, committed adultery etc but are busy flinging insults left, right and center. Who are we to judge? Truth shall definitely prevail. Daz all

  227. Bosikoko

    August 26, 2013 at 4:25 pm

    The bible tells us not to Judge,the lord who sees what every man does in secret will reward them openly be it good or bad.He is a pastor,do not judge him let God be the Judge.

    • Ayekooto

      August 26, 2013 at 5:36 pm

      Sorry. Wrong submission about God. You need to consult your bible further …

  228. baby

    August 26, 2013 at 6:21 pm

    wow. so much has been written. I won’t bore anyone with writing the same. some thoughts that come to mind.
    – If this is true, Ese may never get healing, but she will make the pastor think 2x before he does it again.. It will make a mother who wants to send her daughter to the pastor alone for counselling think 2x.
    – Those saying her confession will cause Christians to back slide, kindly explain. My faith is in Good not in man. So how is my faith threatened by a man’s actions?
    – There are different forms of abuse. Even if we all agree that Ese was not abused, it is hard to debate that this man abused power giving to him as a pastor. If in doubt, replace pastor with politician, replace sex with embezzlement. You are entrusted to protect something and you knowingly disregard your commitment for personal gain.
    -We are created in the likeness of God. Meaning we are smart, intelligent people. Why should we leave everything to God when we can address some on the stuff here on earth using the tools God has given us
    -Knowing the society we live in, we can all agree that this girl has nothing to gain by lying about this story. She has everything to lose. E go tehhhh for her to find husband, employers go fear to hire her, her friends will run less they be associated as bad flock. Unless she is looking for a way to assist her downfall, i’m not sure what is to be gained.
    -The pastor can say 2 things: Yes I did it, I am sorry or No I did not do it, i will seek legal actions for defamation of character. He has said none. Why?
    – The fact some people can flee from a situation and others don’t have the nerve to is really GRACE. Not because some are better than others, stronger than others, have 10 heads. It is really the GRACE of GOD.
    And on a last note
    – Clinton denied sexual relationship with Monica, after denial evidence popped up to confirm.
    – Eddie Long denied sexual relationships with boys/men in his church, after denial evidence popped up.
    Pastor Odulele had the same faith, denied allegations in jand and evidence came out.
    Catholic priests denied for years and then evidence started to come out.

    Makes me wonder if this pastor is remaining mute (not denying it but not accepting it).

    • Ayekooto

      August 26, 2013 at 8:42 pm

      Takes more than grace o! It also takes having an healthy fear of God and his judgement. When you have that, grace would be available in sufficient measure to help the person flee. When you don’t have it, then grace would not be available in sufficient measure. God gives grace to the humble.

  229. NELSON O.P

    August 26, 2013 at 10:15 pm

    READ BOTH STORY, THE ONE BY FRANCA E AND THE ONE WRITTEN BY SO CALLED ESE WALTERS AND YOU CAN EASILY TELL ITS WRITTEN BY ONE AND THE SAME PERSON….. FOR EXAMPLE NOTICE HOW SHE USES STATEMENTS LIKE MY ” childhood friend” WHY NOT JUST SAY THE PERSONS NAME, AT LEAST THE FIRST NAME IF YOU DONT WANT TO SAY THE FULL NAME. ALSO IN THE SO CALLED ESE’S WRITING SHE TALKED ABOUT HOW HER MALE FRIENDS, GIRL FRIEND ADVISED HER TO TAKE ADVANTAGE OF THE SITUATION TO MAKE MONEY OF THIS PASTOR,.. AND NOW ALL OF SUDDEN A SECOND STORY SURFACES WHERE A SO CALLED FEMALE MEMBER OF THIS CHURCH COULD SO EASILY TAKES ADVANTAGE OF THE PASTOR FINANCILLY BY TAKING PICTURES OF HIM AND THEN GETTING MONEY OFF HIM.. SERIOUSLY THIS IS JUST A POINTER THAT ESE WROTE THIS SECOND STORY JUST TO CONTINUE THE SCANDAL AND FUTHER DEEPEN THE CARNAGE SHE INTENDS TO CAUSE THIS MAN AND POSSIBLE THIS CHURCH FOR REASONS BEST KNOW TO HER. FROM BOTH STORY ITS AMAZING HOW THIS WOMAN OR THESE WOMEN CAN SO EASILY HAVE ACCESS TO A PASTOR OF THIS STATUS ? … WHY NOT ASK QUESTIONS LIKE, WHERE WAS THE PASTORS PERSONAL ASSISTANT (PA), OR HIS OTHER CLOSE ASSOCIATES ? MOST PASTOR OF THIS MANS STATUS WONT TRAVEL ALONE, TALK LESS TRAVEL ALONE WITH A FEMALE. AS FOR ESE’S LONDON STORY.. I WANT HER TO ANSWER THESE SIMPLE QUESTIONS… WHATS THE NAME OF THE HOTEL YOU STATED YOU HAD THESE SEX SESSION WITH THIS PASTOR IN LONDON..? WHAT ARE THE TIMES YOU VISITED THIS HOTEL AND ALSO WHAT WAS THE ROOM NUMBER. IF YOU CAN MAKE THESE DETAILS PUBLIC. MARK MY WORDS, ITS EASY TO APPROACH THAT LOCAL COUNCIL IN LONDON AND SEE CCTV FOOTAGE TO SHOW YOUR PRESENCE IN THAT LOCATION AT THE DAYS CLAIMED..THIS IS ONE OF THE MANY SIMPLE APPROACH TO PUT YOU AND THE PASTOR AT THE SAME LOCATION, ON THE SAME TIMES AND DAY(S) CLAIMED,…….IS IT NOT AMAZING THAT WITH TWO LADIES PUTTING NOTHING BUT JUST ACCUSATIONS VIA THESE WRITE UPS ABOUT THEIR ESCAPADES WITH THIS MAN, THEY HAVE WITHHELD MAKING ANY FORM OF EVIDENCES PUBLIC, DESPITE THE FACT THEY CLAIM TO HAVE HARD /CONCRETE EVIDENCES TO EXPOSE THIS MAN IN THE FULL GLARE. IF YOU WISH TO SAVE PEOPLE FROM HIS PRETENSE /LIES I WOULD HAVE EXPECTED THIS EVIDENCES FIRST IN THE PUBLIC DOMAIN BEFORE WE EVEN SEE ALL THESE WRITE UP IN BLOGS BUT YET IN QUOTE ” THEY” WONT MAKE THESE EVIDENCES PUBLIC, THIS SUGGEST OR POSSIBLY ONLY TELLS ME ONE THING, YOU EITHER DON’T HAVE ANY EVIDENCE OR YOU ARE AS GUILTY AS THE MAN YOU STAND TO ACCUSE………………MY PERSONAL OPINION I BELIEVE THIS IS A GRAND SCHEME AND PLAN… ITS PRE MEDITATED AND TARGETED BY THE ACCUSER , BUT WEATHER THE PASTOR IS GUILTY AS ACCUSED OR INNOCENT I DONT KNOW AND CANT SAY, AND ONE REASON WE WONT KNOW YET IS BECAUSE HE THE ACCUSED IS YET TO MAKE A STATEMENT TO COUNTER OR ACCEPT GUILT..SO THIS LEAVES US WITH ESE’S WRITE UP, OR WRITE UPS AND FROM THE LOADS OF STUFF I HAVE PERSONALLY RESEARCHED FROM HER (ESE’S)TWITTER PAGE AND THE Femina Speaks FACEBOOK PAGE SHE RUNS.THIS YOUNG LADY IS DOING NO GOOD TO HERSELF OR ANYONE BY THESE REVELATION REGARDLESS IF ITS THE TRUTH OR IF ITS A LIE- MISS ESE WALTER YOU NOW CLAIM TO BE SHAKEN IN YOUR FAITH AND DOUBT IF GOD EXIST DUE TO YOUR EXPERIENCES WITH THIS PASTOR AND THE SO CALLED CONSPIRACY FROM OTHER PASTORS AND PEOPLE YOU APPROCHED ? WELL IT LEAVES ME TO WONDER IF YOU EVER , EVER HAD AN FAITH IN GOD AT ANYTIME AT ALL … YOU PAINT A PICTURE OF A VAIN YOUNG WOMAN, BEING FREE SPIRITED AND BEING UNTO YOUR OWN SELF A god.. YOUR PICTURES DEPICTS SOMEONE WITH A SENSUAL PERSONALITY, AND YOU SO EASILY COULD PUT YOUR STORY AND LIFE IN PUBLIC WHEN YOU TALKED ABOUT BEING UNDER THE SHEETS WITH THIS PASTOR OVER A ONE WEEK PERIOD… BUT IF YOU REALLY WANTED TO BE OPEN YOU COULD HAVE TALKED ABOUT YOUR SEX LIFE BEFORE THIS EXPERIENCE WITH THE PASTOR ? OR AT LEAST PAINT A PICTURE OF YOUR REAL SELF … OR WAS YOU A VIRGIN ? AND WAS THAT WHAT THE PASTOR WAS AFTER ? I HAVE NOT REALLY HEARD OF THIS CHURCH UP UNTIL YOUR STORY BROKE AND I DECIDED TO CHECK THEIR WEBSITE, FROM WHAT I SAW ON THE SITE I BET YOU NOT THE MOST ATTRACTIVE YOUNG GIRL IN THAT CHURCH OR ARE YOU ? ..SO MY QUESTION IS THIS , IF YOUR STORY IS TRUE BY EVERY INCH …WHY DID THIS PASTOR PICK ON YOU WHEN HE DID ? COULD IT POSSIBLE BE BECAUSE OF YOUR SO VISIBLY SENSUAL PICTURES OR VAIN REPRESENTATIONS SO AVAILABLE ONLINE…………………….TO THE ACCUSED PASTOR, I DONT KNOW HIM AND WOULD WAIT TO HEAR HIS STORY BUT ONE THING IS SURE, HE CANT KEEP QUITE AND THIS WILL BLOW AWAY, HE WILL HAVE TO DEAL WITH THIS NOW OR LATER… AS FOR ALL YOU COMMENTING AND LUMPING ALL MEN WHO CHOSE TO SERVE GOD IN THE CAPACITY OF A PASTORS AS IF ALL OF THEM BY THIS STORY NOW TURNS OUT TO BE FAKE PASTORS JUST BECAUSE OF THIS ONE STORY WELL KEEP CASTING THE STONES MR AND MRS SAINTS…. IN THE CHRISTIAN FAITH CHRIST IS THE SIGN POST, HIS WORDS SAYS IF I BE LIFTED UP, I WILL DRAW ALL TO MYSELF, AS LONG AS THE STANDARD AND THE LIFE CHRIST LIVED AND DIED AND RESURRECTED CONTINUOUS TO BE THE INFALLIBLE PROOF OF THE CHRISTIAN FAITH. THEN ITS NOT THE ACTUAL FALLING OF ANY MAN BE HIM A PASTOR OR POPE , OR THE ACCUSATION OF ANY PASTOR,PRIEST ETC THAT WILL PREVAIL TO CAUSE CHRISTIAN TO LOSE FAITH IN GOD, OR TO EVEN LOSE FAITH, TRUST AND HOPE IN THE MEN HE HAS PLACED A RESPONSIBILITY THE LEAD AND GUIDE HIS CHURCH…AGREED A MAN CAN FALL, OR MANY MAY FALL… BUT FROM THIS ESE WALTER STORY IS NOT ONE OF SELF REDEMPTION FOR THE WRITER HERSELF BECAUSE WHAT SHE CALLS A CLOSURE IS ONLY THE BEGINNING WEATHER THIS STORY IS TRUE OR A LIE, OR MIXED TRUTHS/LIES – ONE DAY BETWEEN YOU AND THE ONE WHO STANDS ACCUSED THE TRUTH CAN NOT BE KILLED

  230. mike

    August 27, 2013 at 12:36 am

    Please, she is just out for a revenge mission. Wasn’s she in her senses wen she was enjoying herself. It is a well manipulated story to get much sympathy and attention. Only God can say sha .

  231. mike

    August 27, 2013 at 12:40 am

    A question for Ese. She did not say if she enjoyed it or not. Or is that she become a nobody and now seeks attention and revenge?

  232. Blake Pager

    August 27, 2013 at 1:22 am

    Did she CUM.

  233. teejay authentic

    August 27, 2013 at 4:07 am

    @ Ese, I have gone through your write up several times to understand how you have been harassed or manipulated in this situation but I could not lay my finger on any. I have seen the long narration of your promiscuous story more as a revenge on the other party that fail to fulfil his own remaining part of the bargain. You enjoyed sex with the acclaimed pastor everyday (8hours all through the night) for over a week, and you call that manipulation? You did not feel the urge at all? You did not participate in the devilish act, you just laid like wood? Haba biko.
    If you claim that you are confessing, is this the first time you are having sex in your promiscuous life? So, why are you confessing this particular sin instead of submitting the unending list of people that have crossed the border?
    Please let us try to be modest in all we are doing. Though I am not supposed to judge you by your appearance, but you look so wide than to be an innocent. Obviously from your story, the man was not the first to cross the border, and you did not state it in the write up that he hit the bar while trying to cross. So definitely you were not a virgin at the point of you guys enjoying yourself. So I believe as a lady that have tasted all sort, you should know when to say ‘NO’.
    What you have just done is a well written pornographic script that serves the same purpose as the one that has been acted already. I don’t know if God will forgive you and your sex partner for this.
    This is what happens when ladies cannot hold their pants or close their legs. It is so unfortunate.
    In conclusion, I do not have any doubt in your story. I believe all the promiscuous episodes of your story, but above are my reservations.

    @ Biodun Fatoyinbo, it is so unfortunate that this kind of thing is happening. Why dint you react to your partner in crime accusation instead of saying you will react in due time. Okay, you need more time to gather momentum and frame your own part of the story? Too bad.
    As for me, God will judge you. Just because you don’t practice what you preach. (Hypocrite).
    You left the shore of Nigeria to London just to blow that lady without fulfilling all your own part of the bargain. Haba!!! be fair to all concern

  234. chubby

    August 27, 2013 at 7:04 am

    To Ese Walter, when the pastor said he will teach you about grace, it wasn’t in his place to. I think or I know God wanted you to understand what Grace really is, twas a hard lesson but I guess you have learnt and thnk you for sharing. For all those bias mind, tell me how many times you do things that seem right at that point, maybe because you are hooked to it, emotionally. And you get evidence or keep one. And what makes you thnk that it’s only women that seduce, please, grow up.

  235. Ruth

    August 27, 2013 at 9:51 am

    Ese or what do you call yourself you a one of them they usually send to pull down the men working in the vine yard of God but i want to assure you that they will not finish the word of God must go on in this country and in the world you were ashamed the pastor asked you to take alcohol while you are a drug addict, i wonder why people are clapping for you when you suppose to be in rehab because you are crazy and frustrated if you are tired of life kill yourself alone and not someone else, why are you doing this to a man of God who knows how many you have killed you think you are beautiful God made you the way you are for his glory and not for you yo use it against him people prettier than you have done things for God are you like deborah her beauty was used to save the children of isreal, Naomi name them you are proud to stand infront of the world to call yourself a harlot and a seducer you are a failure you have failed as a woman of God you should be and as person, woooo unto you.please answer this question are you preaching the gospel of our lord jesus christ now because your story is not winning any soul for christ please where are you from i guess you are from the pit of hell.your pastor is not a saint we are suppose to pray for our pastors as they pray for us, you are wicked and a selfish woman, that is how you go about looking for men of God to destroy you think God will forgive you were you under duress when you were with him you bad and evil dont woman dont worry i pity any man that will marry you because worst than this will a girl do to him and it will be under your nose, may God deliver you from this mess you have put yourself into for distracting whom God has sent to deliver his message the wroth God awaits you and your generation to come foolish and useless woman you look intelligent and wise but sorry you are just a bag of waste product go and give your life to God before it will be too late for you to do so and ask the pastor to forgive you for what you have done to him, as for the pastor its between him and God that sent him, Ese this is not how to be a super star you have turned yourself into a super harlot shameless woman sorry.

  236. 'Mide

    August 27, 2013 at 2:18 pm

    She knew what she was doing. She is educated enough, smart enough and rebellious enough to follow her own mind. This she has demonstrated by outing Biodun. Nevertheless, she has done Nigerians a great service as I can see that Biodun’s church will crumble. It is a matter of time.

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  237. ibukungeorge

    August 27, 2013 at 7:16 pm

    wow!Wow!wow.Don’t know much about his sexual habits but I do know he’s such a pathetic liar and debtor!Had a business encounter with him few years back in Abuja and I was so pissed as to why a Man of God could be a bold face liar and a debtor.I was at the church once to collect the money he was owing us.While we waited i saw a group of workers holding hands and praying and one of the workers was actually winking across the hall at me.I couldn’t believe my eyes but I was too angry waiting for the’ Onigbese ‘Pastor to come out of which his PA kept lying that he wasn’t around.Am not shocked at all.Yorubas has an adage anybody that lies would steal and also commit adultery.Just saying……

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  238. Blake Pager

    August 28, 2013 at 1:51 am

    Na wao

  239. Remi

    August 28, 2013 at 10:57 am

    bless u OMOZ, your write up was very reasonable….its amazing how this scandal is a chance to have a rethink!

  240. Mike

    August 30, 2013 at 6:40 pm

    Come to think of it, if all the sinners started up Blogs in order to come clean and feel free; we all know the number of blogs we’ll be haviing today. Ese calims to have been studying for masters yet she need to be told that most married men will not compromise their families and careers for anything, not even crap like this. All we all should do (that is if this crap of a story is true) is pray for the pastor to change and for Ese to count her loses and move on. Afterall, when she let the comfort of her apartment and went all the way to a married pastor’s hotel room alone; she did not cry foul. When she was asked to sit on a married pastor’s lap and plant a kiss on him; she did without physical force or coersion. (The pastor was only being a man and she a woman) that your pastor would love to engage in sin does not give you an excuse to follow suit; that’s why we have a head. They are both wrong in their actions and should be forgiven. Ese all you needed to do was ask God for forgiveness in your closet, I’m sure He would have still forgiven all the same and you have still been “FREE.” Well I hope you are now? Ese when you were busy enjoying another woman’s husband, you (being very learned) knew the consequences. My question for you is “who send you go???????”

    • Colour Purple

      September 2, 2013 at 4:00 pm

      The pastor was only being an Man?!!!!!!!!! Oga Mike, you will have daughters who will be ardent church goers and will most probably revere the “man of God” as you most likely do from your comment. They will be appointed leaders in the church and will ask how high if the pastor says jump….Their understanding of the bible will be skewed towards the “pastors” interpretation and then when they are alone together maybe in his office, he will just be a MAN 🙂

  241. Labims

    September 1, 2013 at 10:22 pm

    In all of this I had say Efe you need to really turn to God.i wish u the best.

  242. LYDIA

    September 6, 2013 at 11:45 am

    I am not surprised at the number of comments on this issue as it combines 2 of the 3 elements Nigerians like most, Money, Religion and Sex.
    God knows what really happened, I do not.
    However, I want to contribute what one of my colleagues told me he advised girls/women to do if sexually propositioned by a person in authority – SLAP HIM. Let him now explain to people why you slapped him.

  243. david

    September 19, 2013 at 12:23 pm

    I read Τ̲̅ђε̅ story its a shame that this is happening in Τ̲̅ђε̅ house of God but I put it τ̅☺ you miss Walters that it is. Wrong for you t o go public cause what you did is spiritually scathering Τ̲̅ђε̅ flock which is also a sin before God it is bad that Τ̲̅ђε̅ sin was committed it is sin τ̅☺ in quite scathering Τ̲̅ђε̅ flock. For Τ̲̅ђε̅ pastor Τ̲̅ђε̅ bible says that judgement will start in Τ̲̅ђε̅ house of God and pastor who sinned will be severely delt with God delt with Eli in Τ̲̅ђε̅ bible.and David his. Won’t be an exception. Let that matter be just repent and forgive youself God will walk with you from there. Cos He sees your heart.

  244. notmad

    September 24, 2013 at 10:58 am

    Till today the pastor has not come forward to say YES i did it or NO i did not, God help us all.

  245. lAKANA

    March 11, 2014 at 7:03 am

    Reminds me of Bishop Eddie Long

  246. Funmisco

    March 13, 2014 at 6:40 pm

    WAOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOW ! this story is HOT! lol. If it’s true, it’s a real shame (especially on the man of God, because the book of timothy explicitly talks about how ‘overseers’ in the house of God should not be given to sin ) .. however we’re all sinners, and we need to pray daily for his grace and mercy !
    God bless!

  247. Mary Cole

    July 2, 2014 at 4:30 am

    Mmmmmmh, nigerians, you have a loooooong way to go with your mentality and way of thinking. God help you all. All I know that, God says, though hands join to hands, the wicked shall not go unpunished. His ways are not ours…could take as many years or sooner, God metes out His punishment. The lady involved in this situation, has opened up, you all have judged her ok. If the Pastor feels he’s gotten away with the whole situation, good for him. I know my God, He will hold him accountable, when he’s not expecting it. God says, no one is perfect…acknowledging your sins, being remorseful, taking time off to get yourself back in tune with God, is what God desires. It takes serious humility, to achieve that. So, all you prosecutors, jurors and judges, more grease to your elbows. Nuff said.

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  249. ignorantyou

    April 7, 2016 at 1:08 pm

    This is an old post and I know that a lot has been said already. I am not just a commentator. I experienced the same thing. You will never understand unless it happens to you. I am a tough girlno nonsense and I was straight throughout school. No dating. My pastor did the same thing to me when I travelled. Lied to my parents and took advantage of me. You may say I enjoyed it but it took me months of counselling not to have nightmares anymore or attempt suicide . May God forgive those who say you enjoyed it. May you not have your world destroyed by someone you look up to for guidance thats all. And to Ese. I understand you. Its easy to becomea cuold in the presence of those who lead you spiritually you believe them, let down your guard and open your heart to listen to them. When they abuse this privilege what do you call it. The pastor has his life….though affected now. But what about the victim who cannot forgive herself? Who will not go to church anymore. That sheep who has been lost forever. It’s so easy to let the Men of a God go free cos they have followers but that’s the very reason why they do it. They can get away free.