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Toke Makinwa’s Vlog: No Competition

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Toke Makinwa presents an all new episode of her vlog – Competition.

The Nigerian media personality speaks on a post she found on Instagram – “You can’t compete with the woman a man can’t leave alone”.

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38 Comments

  1. ZK

    August 28, 2014 at 1:09 am

    Confused Much! Thumbs down

    • Love

      August 28, 2014 at 2:23 am

      Double thumbs down!
      Um hunny jealousy is a trait that most human have and when it comes to competing for men among women, it is more pronounced. Toke is talking like she has never felt an ounce of jealousy before in her life.

      I simply think jealousy is natural and normal and most people get over it with time. I’m not saying they completely get over it but it gets better with time. Life is about learning and evolving yourself as a person. You might look back in your life and ever wondered why you were jealousy of a certain person- it’s because you grew up and realized your jealousy had no bases.

      And why do I feel like Toke is advocating for women that sleeps around and still get wifed up?

    • Di

      August 28, 2014 at 4:36 am

      Jealousy is natural & normal ?!??
      Shit like this is why I rarely have female friends and just hang with the guys! Women are twisted as fluck! I’ve never been jealous of another woman, don’t bleeping care who believes or not. I get curious about the ex-girlfriends or whatever but never jealous, heck sometimes I have a low key admiration for some. I never speak ill of another woman to a man that loves her, pride won’t let me, that’s sheer shamelessness.
      Women crying they need a man but most are fucking twisted with deep rooted issue.
      Nothing normal nor natural about jealousy which steams from comparison and hate.

    • Love

      August 28, 2014 at 1:28 pm

      @DI- Ok its great you don’t have any ounce of jealousy/envy in your life. Maybe you haven’t met a guy that can bring out that kind of emotion in your life. But what is the meaning of the curiosity that you get? You essentially snoop around on the ex-girlfriends to see what they’re all about- Why do you do that?

    • Di

      August 28, 2014 at 3:11 pm

      @Love: I’m a grown woman and I’ve had my fair share of love wahala. Yes, when there is another woman butting into the picture, I feel anger not jealousy/envy. And all that anger is always directed to the man; the more I love the man, the longer the anger would last. The curiosity is the same curiosity you would have about anything your man likes. In this case, I try to demystify this woman and taunt him with my findings. When you gather some information and start dribbling it out little by little daily, he gets worried about what you know and spills more story. Either way am mad at the man not the woman. If the woman is innocent, I feel nothing towards her; if she is deliberating trying to woo my man, I’ll always look at her condescendingly, none of all that comparison & jealousy. If the woman is a thirst bucket that has the whole town’s body fluid on her, am I suppose to compare and be jealous of that?
      Admiration or Disgust, no catty jealousy.

    • Love

      August 28, 2014 at 6:15 pm

      @DI- like I said earlier, it is great that you don’t feel any jealousy /envy.

      I still stand by my earlier comment that jealousy is natural. Human beings are capable of bring emotions they thought they never had.
      Let us look at violence for example- mostly everyone you meet will say they can never be violent. What about the dad that killed a drunk driver because the driver’s drunkenness killed his two children?

      Everything in life is situational – Some women will meet men that will bring out emotions they thought they never had

  2. Baby

    August 28, 2014 at 1:49 am

    Pure truth

  3. married

    August 28, 2014 at 2:01 am

    love you toks but i’m kinda confused on this one. Are you saying a married woman should leave her husband for the chick outside? In my opinion there is nothing wrong with those prayers infact its the best and the most effective weapon out there. You entered into a covenant with God and your husband and another human being wants to break/destroy that covenant…. the bible says suffer not a witch to leave…., the violent taketh it by force… whatsover you bind on earth shall be bound in heaven. so wifies on your knees FAST! after that (or simultaneously) you should sit down and tell yourself the truth of what you need to stop or start doing, your attitude, physical appearance, whatever. I always suggest read books on marriage there is so much knowledge to be gained. After all then relax and watch God fight that battle for you….ohhhHHH knowing your authority in Christ is just a great great thing!

    • chimamanda's Main Squeeze

      August 28, 2014 at 5:00 am

      Having a side chick is a problem in itself but yes, one should be able to leave a marriage if it is not serving them to progress anymore. Whether he leaves you for side chick or because you’re abusive, he’s leaving. Chikena.

    • marriage

      August 28, 2014 at 7:02 pm

      except your relationship had deep issues from the onset (or during ur relationship) I want to believe you were happy to be getting married to your husband and you hoped that it would last till death do you apart. So if your marriage doesnt seem to be walking in that expected part are you just GOING TO DUMP IT? and start looking elsewhere for love lool? as though you’re still an unmarried person?I believe in fixing something when it is bad and not tossing it away. I believe a married woman should fix it in prayers whether the prayer is to displace the side chick o or its to transform her husbands heart or its to do both by all means God can and will fix it if you trust him to. Its so sad when i see women giving up so easily and ofcourse things gets uglier from one chick the man graduates to 5 all under their nose. why wait so long? get on your knees woman! and take corrective physical actions if there is need to.

    • Ruth

      August 28, 2014 at 8:16 am

      My dear i totally i agree wit what u said oh… To b honest when i saw d heading ‘no competition’ i tot she was gonna tlk abt how gurls compete with thrselves fr even d littlest things and u knw tlk abt how dts nt how we r females re supposed to bhave , we shud b able to rise above competition n envy n hate , nt pulling each other dwn buh b loving and encouraging and all see ourselves as sistas…. Buh ds her post today i dnt gt , i blv dt prayer is d key to evry solution, n yes jealousy comz naturally to humans n as we begin to mature it leaves us naturally mayb nt all of us, buh she sayin it lik she nvr felt jealous in her life. Hmmm

    • Anne

      August 28, 2014 at 10:13 am

      And did this woman enter that covenant with you and your husband? People like you delude yourself with a confused and twisted version of the bible. What Toke is simply saying, is channel your energy towards the man/husband and NOT make it about the other woman

    • married

      August 28, 2014 at 7:28 pm

      What do you care if she channels her energy to both the side chick and her husband how does that affect you or anyone? And i’m hoping by channelling her energy to her husband you dont mean she should start nagging her husband, trailing him and what not, that is obviously an unwise thing to do. a MARRIED WOMAN SHOULD CHANNEL HER ENERGY IN PRAYERS CONCERNING HER HUSBAND AND THIS OTHER WOMAN.

    • Olorunnimbe

      August 28, 2014 at 8:40 pm

      @married. This is spiritual wisdom you have shared with your girls here. You have posted about the most sensible and intelligent response. I am a married man and sometimes I laugh at all these ladies who lack wisdom and understanding that is why most of them have marital issues. Nobody says it will be easy but you have to fight for everything in life, most especially your marriage. Pray without season, identify what your husband loves/likes and try to do it. No Man listens to a nagging wife, so if you do, stop it. If you can’t stop it on your own, pray to God to help you get rid of it.

    • Hairmillionaire

      August 29, 2014 at 11:18 pm

      God Bless you!

  4. Gorgeous

    August 28, 2014 at 4:07 am

    She’s very right. I really wonder and the pathetic ways of being the other girlfriend. I have never put myself in such a situation, thank God. And the moment I smell a boyfriend is doing such, I leave him alone for his second option. That is when the real drama begins and I just sit back and laugh. For married women though, she’s right. Pls squarely face the imbecile who married you. Most women refuse to because they understand the terms and conditions with which they got married out of desperation. Because, why would you expect a girl that owes you absolutely nothing to leave where your husband is buttering her bread with money that could improve your kids and their future.

  5. Ona

    August 28, 2014 at 4:48 am

    LMAO @ God let her die!!!

  6. papermoon

    August 28, 2014 at 7:48 am

    *after that (or simultaneously) you should sit down and tell yourself the truth of what you need to stop or start doing, your attitude, physical appearance, whatever.*

    Seriously, another advice that blame women for promiscuity in men. really…

    • TexasHausaGirl

      August 28, 2014 at 8:52 am

      Thanks @ Papermoon, some women are apt he reasons men cheat. Instead of accepting the fact that in most cases it’s their husband, who’s a douchebag, they start blaming their sister or mother-in-law in the village for their husband’s promiscuity

  7. mama ovie

    August 28, 2014 at 8:16 am

    why are you trying to make toke see your point
    for her her greatest achievement is marrying ayida and nothing else
    why cant our women think of something else than marriage , children toke discuss something else either than MAN,MAN,MAN
    haba talk about God, Your Bible, A new Meal , something
    Haba

    • TexasHausaGirl

      August 28, 2014 at 8:55 am

      You’re right.

  8. Anonymous

    August 28, 2014 at 8:31 am

    I learned long ago, never to wrestle with a pig. You get dirty, and besides, the pig likes it. George Bernard Shaw

  9. TexasHausaGirl

    August 28, 2014 at 8:36 am

    @Married….. So the wife should pray, cast, bind, dress to please her husband, educate herself on a happy marriage, and what is the husband suppose to do in this case?? Women are their worst enemies. It’s your husband who made a covenant before God to love and cherish you, not the other woman.
    That’s why some men cheat in their women because you give him the ticket to go and “play” outside of your marriage, you make him feel he’s the Victim, and the other woman the adversary. Sometimes, you never know what the man told the other woman. “I’m single” “I’m going through a divorce” e.t.c A man get away with what you let him get away with. He will go sleep around, in most cases come back home with diseases, and baby mama drama while paying to be a victim of voodoo.

    • Gorgeous

      August 28, 2014 at 11:15 am

      Sometimes they even say the wife is dead, is about to die from cancer, has run away, is in a mental home or he wishes she were dead but she won’t go and leave him alone. Yet you will see the way women will be disgracing themselves fighting over such a piece of Oshodi gutter waste.

    • Bella

      August 28, 2014 at 12:09 pm

      Most truth high above ” a man get away with what you let him get away with.” I’ve said my 2 kobo worth!

    • TexasHausaGirl

      August 29, 2014 at 10:16 am

      Thanks Bella

    • married

      August 28, 2014 at 7:20 pm

      dress to please her husband? is this suppose to be a template. would you give paracetamol to someone suffering from diarrhoea? search for the symptoms applicable to you and if there is none to find. looks like prayer is all you got now, isn’t it? or do you want to go and be flogging your husband and his side chick and start becoming a nuisance?
      And to the voodooism statement while its not applicable in every case YES it does exist. wake up and smell the coffee hun!

  10. TexasHausaGirl

    August 28, 2014 at 8:46 am

    It a man don’t love you for who you are, he won’t love you for your Doggy Style. You can give your hubby the best sex on earth, and he will still go outside and cheat. Instead putting all the blame on the other woman, maybe the problem is the man because he can’t stay faithful to his wife. Don’t make your cheating husband feel like he’s been manipulated to sleep around, or he’s under the spell of being a whore. Look closely, sometimes the problem is the man who can’t keep his “wand” to himself.

  11. sum1special

    August 28, 2014 at 9:09 am

    OKAY

  12. lisa

    August 28, 2014 at 9:14 am

    lol @ you are the babe of babes. Anyways i am not a toke fan but i agree with her on this one o there is no need to fight anoda babe cos of man as in you have issues with him and not the babe so just humbly ask the guy and if you guys are not on the same page please respect yaself and walk, it must hurt but trust me its for a matter of time and for the married ones i am not sure i agree with wasting your time and praying as a matter of fact prayer works and as a married man/woman dating oda people outside your marriage does not, can not and will never solve the marital problems addressing it will !

  13. lorlor

    August 28, 2014 at 10:32 am

    Madam dis one dat ur mouth is running like tap I pray u don’t find ursef in such situation ooooo u go fat overnight,

    • awhotu

      August 28, 2014 at 1:47 pm

      of course @lorlor on point toke go kee persen naa.Its easier said than done

  14. ify

    August 28, 2014 at 10:50 am

    lol. i really enjoyed your vlog toke

  15. Pat

    August 28, 2014 at 12:12 pm

    Why would a husband have a girl friend? This is all crap!

    • Doxa

      August 28, 2014 at 3:23 pm

      A husband would have a girlfriend because he lacks self-discipline; because his wife allows him get away with it; because he doesn’t love his wife and his family and because he doesn’t fear God. These are just a few reasons.

  16. Love

    August 28, 2014 at 1:27 pm

    @DI- Ok its great you don’t have any ounce of jealousy/envy in your life. Maybe you haven’t met a guy that can bring out that kind of emotion in your life. But what is the meaning of the curiosity that you get? You essentially snoop around on the ex-girlfriends to see what they’re all about- Why do you do that?

  17. awhotu

    August 28, 2014 at 1:46 pm

    Toke I disagree with this one oh.arghhh arghhh no ways.Do you mean married women should turn the other chick.No ways.I know there is practicall nothing you can do to an insane man who has decided to taste stew outside but I must talk the talk even if it makes no differenc.I cant leave my husband to sum side chicks no way.Toke aint feeling you 2day.

  18. PD Young Billionaire

    August 29, 2014 at 5:33 pm

    I agree with u Toke but not with ur last statement….’that you should leave them because they are meant to be’.This may be the case if you guys are just dating but if u are married,u wont leave ur huzzy because himself and his girlfriend are meant to be.I believe if a woman has a good relationship with her hubby,the side chicks will come and go so they are the ones that will leave for you not the other way round because its ur space.

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