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Uti Nwachukwu Writes: You’ll Never Grow Unless…



Nigerian model, actor and TV personality Uti Nwachukwu has written a new piece exclusively for BN.

The 32-year-old who recently celebrated his birthday in South Africa, previously penned an article about not carrying vultures into your new life.

In “You’ll Never Grow Unless…”, he talks about moving to a place of success and more.

Yeah, the headline caught your attention didn’t it?

Sounds like the curse of an angry relative, spouse, friend, abi?

The truth is…you will never grow unless you show that you are ready for the blessings by rising above your current situation.

Sitting at a popular lounge in Lagos, I watch a group of girls all well dressed chatting, laughing, toasting to life and saying “we run this town” even breaking into the Rihanna chorus. Now that’s a LOL moment.

Not far off is also a group of young men in designer apparel throwing it up with 10 buckets of champagne and shouting “where ya me ya rozay (rosé)”.
1.) Fiction: Wow! These peeps are living the life and their dreams
2.) Fact: Na only one person dey pay all the bills while others are follow follow, pose pose
3.) Worst Case Scenario: They finish partying, have no money to pay and leave their phones or car keys behind till they settle their bills.

Permit me to laugh out loud at this point : bwaaaaahahahahahahahahahahahahahhaah.

Okay that’s done….

It amazes me how people with crowd mentality are constantly waiting for that super natural blessing to come and take them out of their current situation. Comparing themselves with the leader of the group while they wait to covet.

Really, you are praying and fasting? And then you go back to your clique to pretend to pop rosé and run this town? Wake Up!

Especially the young generation today, are you kidding me?

Okay, let’s say you get a blessing, how are you going to handle it? How will you cater for it?

The same you that will say “Ah I won’t go through this or that or suffer ‘cos God will not give me something I cant handle”. Exactly!

If you show God that you are an irresponsible little pretentious spoiled brat, how do you expect him to load you with blessings fit for a king?

Just imagine leaving your only child in the care of a baby sitter that allowed 6 puppies to die under her care. Your answer is as good as mine.

Then there is the clique mentality. Show me one HUGELY SUCCESSFUL man that became successful while being part of a clique?

Show me one that became successful, then joined or started a clique and remained or became more successful? (Even music bands split and only 1 becomes the star).

Names anyone? Talk Nah? Oh your still thinking abi? Ponder some more while I go on.

To succeed, you have to rise above the clique. In my other article, I said to rise you have to die a little on the inside, you have to be broken…alone! Yes no man is an island I know I know, I’m not saying be a recluse o. Not at all.

But I’m saying you cannot move and live in a clique constantly. Have times you set out for friends.Don’t make it a lifestyle.

Do you know only one person can cause you chronic delay? (Remember Abraham and Lot?…. Your eyes are opening now ba?)

If you are in a clique now. Think of how much progress (legit) you have gotten with your so called ”hommies and babes”. Yeah your starting to realize?

Success, failure and stagnancy are highly infectious! How many people will sit and watch you make it out of the clique and leave them behind? You are dreaming, if you think it’s a reality.

I Uti Nwachukwu have been on both sides. And for every time a new chapter was to begin, I often found myself in a place where not a lot of people are around me, a time where the things that excite the juvenile become boring, a time where spending time with God became deeper, and then BOOM! New blessings! New Doors, My new Chapter.

You cannot be irresponsible and expect God to give you the responsibility that comes with being blessed. If you do not know how to manage yourself at NOTHING, then SOMETHING will never come to past in your life.

You will see that you will continue to live the false life of complacency and the false hope of the lazy man.

It’s time to rise up! Rise above the life of cliques! Start doing something no matter how small, sober up.

Take the bull by the horns. Stop being a liability to people and move on to the new friends till they too get tired of you.

Start being a provider and cater for your own self and your family and be a helper to someone.

I’m no pastor or shrink, I’m just a man who learns from everyday experiences and shares with the lives of people whom God has decided to use me to touch.

A word is enough for the wise. Start now before it gets too late. Try it and see how once again you shall rise like the Phoenix from the ashes of your past mistakes with the lessons as the wind with which you shall glide upon with the help of God.

And remember…
It always begins with a choice.


  1. Tony

    August 16, 2014 at 5:50 am

    Thanks Sir Uti. This message should enlighten not only teens but also adults. Some people have misplaced priorities and turn to focus more on group objectives ignoring the fact that each individual should set out goals and work towards those goals. Most cliques place importance on drinking and clubbing, womanising and cheap talk.

    No one is truly an island but its vital to keep the right crowd. Trusting the wrong crowd is like EBOLA.

  2. Omotola

    August 16, 2014 at 6:07 am

    Very well said bro… I have read about a few successful people and most of them often say they have a few friends or none just acquaintances . The truth is no matter how a person cares about you, they can never love you more than themselves.

  3. Ohmine

    August 16, 2014 at 6:07 am

    Uti, u make some valid points here. On a lighter note, I have also knew there was something that stands out and unique about u while u were in the big brother house. You will go places if u remain focused and many more blessings to come.

  4. vivian

    August 16, 2014 at 6:17 am

    Hmmmm, Uti…dis is higly inspirational. Just as my father in faith (Bsp Oyedepo) will always say, God doesn’t bless groups, he blesses individuals. To succeed, you got to be highly individualistic.
    You dnt have to be a pastor to know this.

  5. chee

    August 16, 2014 at 6:21 am

    Never knew he could be this deep! Welldone uti!

  6. torialondon

    August 16, 2014 at 7:21 am

    Awesome…….inspired and blessed

  7. bruno

    August 16, 2014 at 7:34 am

    All you small small boys, driving your mother’s car, and bragging about it, warn ur selves oh.

  8. Busarni

    August 16, 2014 at 7:40 am

    Why do I always feel dude is referring to someborriii, lolz.

  9. stephanie

    August 16, 2014 at 7:51 am

    Nice writeup dear, this is d exact thing I had in mind,lets be responsible abeg,it never hurts. I’m a young girl who decided to pick up a job before nysc cos I cudnt afford to sit at home nd be d Devil’s workshop,depend on no one.let ur so called friends talk,look at where u are going nd be thankful that u are growing…thank you again Uti

  10. temidayo

    August 16, 2014 at 8:16 am

    Uti u just changed a life thank you and God bless you

  11. Rayz

    August 16, 2014 at 8:23 am

    Weldone Uti…. You spoke unadulterated truth!

  12. African Barbie

    August 16, 2014 at 8:39 am

    You are so on point with this here sir UTI. Love this peice. Deep in my thoughts now……..*sigh*

  13. Leo

    August 16, 2014 at 8:55 am

    His quote “(Even music bands split and only 1 becomes the star)” touched me the most.
    Very inspiring article!

  14. Lerato

    August 16, 2014 at 9:15 am


  15. @edDREAMZ

    August 16, 2014 at 9:27 am

    This article is just on point and i never knew this uti is this talented in writing….

  16. bangold

    August 16, 2014 at 10:30 am

    Hmmmm! I learnt my lessons d hard way ur friends will never love u more than themselves. And always remember to keep ur ideas to yourself

  17. Rachel

    August 16, 2014 at 11:18 am

    Dis is spectacular…….i knew Uti always had alot of intelligence……keep doing da great job man…cliques re most peoples downfall but dey fail to c……

  18. arit asuquo

    August 16, 2014 at 11:23 am

    Well said Brov,really inspiring piece

  19. Jo!

    August 16, 2014 at 11:27 am

    please, catch your sub…

  20. nene

    August 16, 2014 at 11:50 am

    he must’ve been hurt so much by people close to him. experience is the best teacher.

  21. UFC

    August 16, 2014 at 1:04 pm

    As usual this guy talks & writes sensibly. Your advice to the general populace is true. I’m also glad that though you are young and in the limelight,you don’t let it get into your head. I see you making greater positive waves in the future. Well done & good luck

  22. JT

    August 16, 2014 at 2:07 pm

    Well said! There is a common saying that wealthy/successful people are boring because they are far too consumed with acquiring more wealth. Comparatively, it takes 10000 hours to become an expert in anything. Do the math and you will understand why wealthy/successful people may appear boring. Conclusion – you do not get to where you want to go without devoting the necessary time and energy to achieve said goal/wealth. So in essence this leaves little to no time doing mindless activities such as the ones described in this article. While one or two social activities here and there is good for the soul to refresh and recharge, consistent partying will leave you void with nothing to claim in the future! ##foodforthought

    • Que

      August 16, 2014 at 4:35 pm

      Dear JT,

      I kid you not when I say that I just picked a calculator and started doing the maths….loll! I have always heard this, but just really focused on it now…. my 10000hrs already kicked off, but now I’m getting strategic about it biko! Thanks!

    • toluh

      August 16, 2014 at 10:17 pm

      wow! well said, i need people like you around me. God bless you and Uti

  23. abebe

    August 16, 2014 at 2:50 pm

    yeah… well said…. (sober deep….)helps in self realization.

  24. Ms B

    August 16, 2014 at 2:51 pm

    Quiet inspirational! I,m really blessed with this write-up. Thanks a million Uti!!

  25. Http://

    August 16, 2014 at 2:55 pm

    Nice one… Truly inspirational.

  26. kike Jay

    August 16, 2014 at 2:56 pm

    Uti, God bless u for this post. I absolutely love it. Its so realistic. U have sense my brother. God bless u once again

  27. @iamknowledge55

    August 16, 2014 at 3:25 pm

    u juz renewed my concept toward life

  28. Flames

    August 16, 2014 at 3:58 pm

    So so inspiring……well done

  29. Ariwa Emmanuel

    August 16, 2014 at 4:21 pm

    Gud talk bro…..let dose dat hv ears listen #welldigest

  30. Que

    August 16, 2014 at 4:31 pm

    How timely…… These two statements largely sum up my big lessons for d year…..
    .  “…. to rise you have to die a little on the inside, you have to be broken…alone! Yes no man is an island I know I know, I’m not saying be a recluse o. Not at all….”

    “…If you do not know how to manage yourself at NOTHING, then SOMETHING will never come to past in your life….”

    #Bygracealonewepushon! Well done Uti.

  31. O g o

    August 16, 2014 at 6:07 pm

    Some are living fake lives to impress others while inside they are dying in Said it all Uti.I’m sure ur colleagues in the industry are reading this, because their live styles na ‘wash’.

  32. Ona

    August 16, 2014 at 6:09 pm

    Ha! Uti for president! Thought Provoking.

  33. Olutomi

    August 16, 2014 at 6:25 pm

    Awesome piece. Well said Sir Uti

  34. Akpo 'Diddie Uyeh

    August 16, 2014 at 7:30 pm


  35. marculey

    August 16, 2014 at 7:34 pm

    Must u remind him of his age BN? What the meaning of ” the 32 year old who recently celebrated his birthday in SA” his not hiding his age neither did he ask u to remind him of his age. Don’t always include their age when posting any article. Don’t like it my opinion oo

  36. Olamide

    August 16, 2014 at 8:46 pm


  37. Chi

    August 16, 2014 at 9:50 pm

    Nice one Uti.
    Great and strong. reminds me of Adokiye words. I always pick sense in your nonsenses.

  38. Uk Gold

    August 16, 2014 at 10:39 pm

    Thanks Bro am really touched.

  39. papermoon

    August 16, 2014 at 11:56 pm

    i must confess, i ve always seen u as some shallow celebrity wannabe, and to my utter shame, never
    credited u with much maturity but sir, these nuggets of wisdom come from a deep place in a profoun mind. i salute u.

  40. FABulousNEYO

    August 17, 2014 at 1:50 am

    Iam not suprised @this because each day I go through your works and articles I find it hard to give up on chasing ma Goals…thanks sir uti for always being there to encourage and keep me going…much love boss…you give me reasons to be perseverance

  41. chizzyforreazy

    August 17, 2014 at 2:42 am

    Nice one bro, thanks for this lil piece .so inspiring, pls never stop writing you wouldn’t want to know how many people are been blessed by it.

  42. Hardy

    August 17, 2014 at 8:46 am

    lol! yeah! tell it… its about Alex leaving u na. smh! clique no pay u or basically u moved with another new clique, Get over it and you are not god. Even if he used u, then u had something in return! if u read this, think about it deep! …..even though, its none of my business lol!

  43. Eniola

    August 17, 2014 at 11:19 am

    I thought I was a failure among my clique cus we hustling together and things seems not working out . I decided to stay alone bossss my life is a testimony got a visa under 5 months, got more certificates..good job, am not bragging but am happy to have made that bold step.

  44. Ola

    August 17, 2014 at 2:29 pm

    Uti, na real truth you write so. Keep it up.

  45. Pauline

    August 17, 2014 at 9:42 pm


  46. quex

    August 17, 2014 at 10:54 pm

    The truth and nothing but the truth

  47. Macdarrow Obiora

    August 18, 2014 at 2:41 am

    Nice post Sir. Real Food For Thought

  48. Ishola oluwafemi

    August 18, 2014 at 8:38 am

    Love this,so much inspiration well done uti well done!!!!

  49. Zaraflychic

    August 18, 2014 at 8:45 am

    So my LOVE for Uti just grew DEEPER after reading this article…I knew he wasnt just this fine boy, he is also awesomely intelligent like that…well done bro! 5* rating…

  50. sum1special

    August 19, 2014 at 9:42 am

    He try.

  51. Janet

    August 28, 2014 at 1:09 pm

    Uti dats a gud 1, am inspired indeed…

  52. Felix Victor

    September 13, 2014 at 1:25 am

    That is a lovely truth there my mentor, no doubt about it, but how can someone who has believe so much in himself but resisted by the challenges of life being able to overcome these hustling world?

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