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Fola Daniel Adelesi: Why Are You Still Doing This?

Fola Daniel Adelesi

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As we try to succeed in life we will meet people in different places who look at us and they tend to pity us more than we pity ourselves. They are the ones who seem to keep records of how many times we have tried something and it did not work. Rather than encourage us so that we can do it better and eventually succeed, they ask us why we are still doing what is not working and proffer a solution to us.

Usually their solutions suggest that we leave that thing we are doing and go for something else. They want us to have a great life and they give us the regular path that they know and also refer to as greatness.

In my own case, it was ridiculous for years to say that you wanted to be a public speaker or a motivational speaker. People just did not understand why a brilliant child who can easily get a job and think about rising to the top of the organisation will say he simply wants to be talking in different places.

‘How will you make money from that?’ is what some people asked me. I remember having to fill some forms in some organisations and when I write ‘Public Speaker’ as occupation the person receiving the form would look up and say, ‘how can you say you are a public speaker? Is that a job?’ To make the matters worse, I told a pastor that one of the things I would love to be doing is being a Master of Ceremony! He didn’t say anything to me. Days later he was talking to someone very close to me and he said, ‘how can he say he wants to be doing MC? What is that?’

At those times, I thought I was still really young and I just did not know how to convince them to believe that what I felt in my mind was the right thing for me to do. Unfortunately I also did not know all these famous public speakers that we now know today who have made several millions from speaking. So when the arguments came up, there was no one I could pick out as a point of reference for them to believe I can also make it in that field.

I just looked to them like someone who was struggling with what is not working. None of them seemed to consider that when you start something, there is a trying period.

I guess you might also be in your trying phase right now and people are not giving you that chance of success. Instead of encouraging you they are asking you to quit what is not working. They think you are just wasting your time.

For me, I was told to get a pensionable job. They talked about how life would be great and I would have something to fall back on when I retire. Although I could not prove what I believed in and how wealthy I would become but I knew so well that their solution was not for me. You may also be doing something right now and your own people are calling you ‘jobless’ because what you are doing does not look like a job to them. For years, after I started speaking and writing, my mum would meet some people and still say to them that ‘my son is looking for a job’.

She told people to go and counsel me but at the time, they were all focused on what was not yet working for me. They did not focus on the potentials or possibilities. If anyone comes back to me today and asks me questions about doing those things I believe in, even when there is no result to show, I will simply tell them it is what I want to do.

When they ask me why I still want to do what does not seem to be working, I will tell them I am preparing for my greatness. I guess you should do the same. When you understand the potentials and possibilities in what you are doing and others cannot see any result, just tell them you are preparing for your greatness.

When a seed goes into the ground no one sees anything. So you may have nothing to show today but when your harvest shows up, trust me, they will envy you.

In all this, I have a note of warning for you. Before you stick to something that is not yielding instant results, be sure it is what you want to do in life. Be certain that it is what you are wired to do. Seek counsel and when you can see that all your skills point in that direction, carry on with no worries because you are preparing for greatness.

Just do it right.

Photo Credit: Dreamstime| David Gilder

Fola Daniel Adelesi is a professional public speaker who also trains other speakers. He's an highly engaging training facilitator and he holds his large audience spell bound when speaking at gatherings. He's an author, business consultant and highly skilled master of ceremony with excellent poise and diction. He was on the Debaters TV reality show season 1, he presented 'You Can' on Radio Continental in 2011 and he did motivational segments on Galaxy TV from Dec 2008 to August 2009. Fola Daniel has authored 3 books including Writing Business Proposals. He currently talks about Social Media on Info.com - An ICT Show on Lagos Television. Fola Daniel trained as a communications professional, works as a business consultant and was also trained at Lagos Business School in collaboration with Google as a Digital Business Manager.

16 Comments

  1. jenny

    September 18, 2014 at 8:56 am

    TIis was so inspiring

  2. Daisy

    September 18, 2014 at 9:01 am

    Thank you for this article! It is absolutely timely.

    • hi

      September 18, 2014 at 9:30 am

      AS IN!!!

      Thank you fir being personal, Fola. Much success.

  3. hi

    September 18, 2014 at 9:19 am

    Aww, you will be fine.

  4. hi

    September 18, 2014 at 9:19 am

    fine

  5. efe

    September 18, 2014 at 9:30 am

    Well spoken!!!!!!!!

  6. Suwa

    September 18, 2014 at 10:15 am

    Well said! the truth I realised too is a lot of people see potential and try to discourage you because they are afraid you will surpass them and they have no clue of their bearings! They just have a one way traffic life! I have learnt not to talk to people about my plans except my family and keep focused! They are so worried about your job and others for you like you ask them for pocket money or they feed u! phew…they are the ones who will still attack your greatness when it comes

  7. Hordunayor

    September 18, 2014 at 12:12 pm

    Smiles……This is very apt! Find your Voice,Follow a Path, Live your DREAMS!!! but friends and family don’t seems to understand this most times.

  8. Aibee

    September 18, 2014 at 12:28 pm

    But wait oh, is “Public Speaker” a job? Shouldn’t one first of all have a job/area of expertise on which you will then speak? MC is a job, I agree but public speaker? Asking for a friend.

    … Off topic, Reminds of a convo on twitter last week about a 25 year old who referred to himself as a “life coach”. Abeg which life has he seen to be coaching about? Odiegwu.

    • Fola Daniel Adelesi

      Fola Daniel Adelesi

      September 18, 2014 at 2:21 pm

      Public Speaking is purely a job. Though there different jobs under public speaking. Some may require you gain experience before starting out but some others only need a combination of inspiration, skill and research.

    • www.thelmathinks.blogspot.com

      September 18, 2014 at 2:30 pm

      I think you need to know what a public speaker is and what a public speaker does. It seems you don’t.

    • MC

      September 19, 2014 at 2:35 pm

      …you do a course to become a life coach (in case you didnt know)

  9. esin jacob

    September 18, 2014 at 12:36 pm

    i really love this article so inspiring

  10. omobola

    September 18, 2014 at 1:36 pm

    very well said and true SP.

  11. Sheri

    September 18, 2014 at 6:38 pm

    Thank you once again Mr Adelesi! Wise words as always!

  12. Born to shine

    September 19, 2014 at 5:57 am

    Thankyou for this article. it just came in at the right time when i really needed to hear that. so timely. right now i’m caught in a web as per my career and am not sure am making the right choices. i feel like years are going by and i haven’t achieved anything yet despite making a first class. its so bad that sometimes i wonder if making a first class is a boon or bane. i see people who pity me more than i do for myself, wondering if i am out of my mind. my peers are either working or r moving on fast but am somewhat stuck in career choices. anyway i wont be depressed. i’ll just keep doing something everyday and eventually a breakthru will come by God’s grace.

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