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Exclusive: Izuchukwu Ehiemere, Father of Alleged “Kidnapped by Grandma” 2 Year Old Nigerian UK Girl Tells BN his Side of the Story

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Izu 1.BellaNaija

Liya’s 1st Christmas

There are two sides to every story.

When we published the story of the UK mum looking for her 2 year old daughter, Liya, who was allegedly kidnapped by her paternal grandmother, we hoped our post would at the very least help the mother locate her ‘missing’ child.

We all rejoiced when Liya was found, although there seemed to be missing pieces in the story.

Now Izuchukwu Ehiemere, Liya’s father has come forward to share his side of the story, amidst allegations of abandonment, kidnap and more.

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Here’s Izu’s account:

“My name is Izuchukwu Ehiemere and I am the biological father of Miss Liya Tinuke Temidun Ehiemere. To be frank, I met Miss Moronke Fadoju (Liya’s mother) at the University of Hertfordshire, United Kingdom and we began a casual friendship at the time. We were not in a “binding” relationship, it was purely casual. This relationship/friendship did not last up to three months of which I was informed by her that she was pregnant with my child.

Izu 3.BellaNaija

Liya’s 1st Christmas

Naturally, I was surprised and in doubt but before I could make proper verifications, she had already informed everybody both domestically and internationally that myself and her were having a baby together. Furious at the time, admittedly I must have said some harsh things with which I regret till date but I accepted my responsibility and worked towards welcoming Liya into the world. I went as far as accommodating Moronke for some months as she had been evicted from her house. This idea didn’t go down well with my friends at the time but it was the right thing to do, up until my landlord discovered.

To cut that story short, I remained actively involved even when she got a new place because the baby was fast approaching. I helped with the baby shower party, purchasing the baby cot, baby essentials etc. as well as transporting her to the hospital to give birth, and thankfully I witnessed the birth of Liya. I remained a key figure from Day 1 helping Moronke run errands since she was so weak after birth. I could go on and on about how actively involved I was but the point drew near when I had to return to Nigeria for my NYSC some months after Liya’s 1st birthday. I am sorry if going to serve my country portrayed me as an absent father. It does hurt a lot when Moronke says I never wanted Liya and I have never been there for her. If I was never there for Liya, she had the right to name Liya whatever she deemed fit and deny me parental responsibility. There is a reason why her surname is Ehiemere.

Izu 2.BellaNaija

Feeding Liya

Given that I have PR (Editor’s Note: Parental Rights) to Liya, I share equal responsibility over Liya unless Moronke has a court order stating otherwise. During the period of my return to Nigeria, we had an agreement that the best way to help Moronke as a new mother, was by both mothers from the maternal and paternal side taking intervals to travel to the UK to babysit Liya and enable Moronke go back to University. An agreement both families as well as Moronke were very receptive to.

Izu 4.BellaNaija

Liya & her father, Izu

Labelling my mother as a squatter who relied on her assistance was very wrong. My mother handled every expenditure in Moronke’s household within her stay there and assisted to the best of her ability. (Bank Statements available as proof to that effect). My mother did not have to come to the UK but she did purely out of love, twice as a matter of fact.

Izu 5.BellaNaija

During her stay, things did not pan out well as my mother observed a lot of traits and behavioural patterns that could be of potential harm to the proper development of Liya. For good reasons, confidential information would not be disclosed here, but there is adequate evidence to prove our genuine concern for Liya’s welfare and wellbeing in the UK. Social Services were also involved and would know best. As a result of the potential risks to Liya’s welfare and wellbeing discovered, I granted my mother Power of Attorney to act on my behalf with matters regarding the welfare of Liya as I was not happy with the situation at hand and the best outcome was for Liya to be brought to Nigeria. Ronke’s family was informed that same day Liya arrived Nigeria including our exact location. Putting up that Instagram post on missing child was not called for, as they were duly informed. It seemed like a deliberate act to sabotage the good name of my family and indirectly hurt my mother.

Abduction BellaNaija

Moronke’s Viral Instagram Post

Kidnap is a harsh allegation and it was uncalled for in this regards. The blogs and messages were put up to generate undue sympathy and rage. They were too erratic. She remained in contact with Liya too, therefore I do not understand her claims of not being allowed to speak with Liya.

Phone Conversation on Same Day of Arrival as Moronke's Mother 07/10/14

Phone Conversation on Same Day of Arrival as Moronke’s Mother 07/10/14

Every decision that was taken was in the best interest of my daughter, Liya. She knows her father just as well as her mother, and I am not a stranger to her. Liya was never traumatized during her stay here, as a matter of fact, she was extremely happy to be reunited with her father in a cleaner and stable environment. There have never been issues between both families and the stories portrayed do not justify that. We remain as diplomatic as possible and would not result to name calling or war of words because we want peace to exist. I have no doubt with the events that have taken place and the publicity generated, more watchful eyes would be placed on Liya and her welfare going forward. This is all, we as a family have always wanted.”

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We’re grateful to Izu for sharing his side of the story with BN.

We do hope the family works towards healing the wounds created by this rift, especially for Liya’s sake.

209 Comments

  1. saint tracy

    October 16, 2014 at 9:13 pm

    was the mother informed before taking liya to NIGERIA? Did she give her consent?

    • Keke

      October 16, 2014 at 10:43 pm

      We have heard… but what your mother did was wrong. All this one you are writing is long story. If you want your child, do the right thing, get a lawyer.

    • Pepsin

      October 17, 2014 at 9:24 am

      Do the right thing by getting married to this girl. She is already a second hand because of you. When you were taking her without prevention what were you thinking. As long as she stays unmarried know she will be a trouble to you all your life.

    • jaybird

      October 17, 2014 at 5:36 am

      Please show us a pic of when she was a new born wt u

    • tea

      October 17, 2014 at 10:20 am

      Mr Izu u should have told us how the environment was un-conducive. Was it drugs? were men coming to your baby mama? Otherwise there will be no justification for taking her away without informing her mom.

    • iba

      October 17, 2014 at 1:55 pm

      This must have been embarrassing and simply upsetting for Izu’s family same as Temmy but Mr Izu truth be told if your mother felt Liya was in harm, taking her out of the UK WITHOUT TEMMY’S consent was wrong. If it was that bad, the correct thing was to have informed the UK authorities not running off with the child. Now you’ve made things harder for yourself. How can you have alone time with your kid; you would have loads of work to do. Unless u are a citizen of the UK even to get visa now go hard you and your mama. While i sympathise with you, i felt worse for Temmy during that time and i feel even more for Liya. She didn’t ask to be born into all that drama; she is only a kid.

      Goodluck to you all. Keep things civil with Temmy for the sake of Liya. I hope many more young men and women learn from your story.

      Bella Naija thanks for reaching out to him, its refreshing to get his take on the whole drama and know he was there as much as possible in the early days. These pictures will mean soooo much to Liya.

    • ak

      October 17, 2014 at 2:02 pm

      Lol

      This man is an idiot.. I vote we send him to Aragon’s Biafra

  2. Fols

    October 16, 2014 at 9:19 pm

    Erm…sorry, but notice is not enough justification to take a child away from a co-parent; their CONSENT is required, unless overruled by the appropriate authority (court / govt) who must first be convinced that the co-parent has lost or given up their rights. If the guy felt Moronke was being a bad mother, the right thing to do would have been to report her to the Child Welfare Office and follow the course of law, not just carry the child to Nigeria.

  3. blah blah

    October 16, 2014 at 9:20 pm

    Some Tyler perry stuff right here!
    I really wish people would keep their affairs private. Every single thing ends up on twitter or instagram. Close your nyashes people!

  4. nene

    October 16, 2014 at 9:21 pm

    university of hertforshire…that school has the highest level of low lives/ unserious nigerians, who have no business being in school. either the girls are prostitutes/escorts or the boys are fraudulent. no offence to the alumni society.

    • Zizieko

      October 17, 2014 at 3:41 am

      What does this have to do with the issue at hand?

    • herts

      October 22, 2014 at 9:42 pm

      Hey. Fack off really.

  5. Heeba

    October 16, 2014 at 9:22 pm

    Mr Izu or waterer u call yourself since u claim both of you have rights to the child y did you decide to remove the child without the mothers consent?.?? If it was that bad y did u not call social services in the uk where mother and child lived? They wud have been in a better position to make sure your child is in a secure environment. My friend you and your mother decision is KIDNAP.

  6. tish

    October 16, 2014 at 9:24 pm

    I don’t see any where he wrote that the mother of the child knew the child was being whisked away to Nigeria though. Why not do things properly? Una with this una ‘casual ‘ relationships sha. Smh

  7. Benny

    October 16, 2014 at 9:27 pm

    he did mention social services were aware/involved. There is something called implied consent dear readers and I personally think it was the case in his decision considering the fact that both families were aware of the intent to take lil Liya to Niger, but I guess you have learned your lessons with this experience. Before decisions as grave as this has to be made, then you need to get dem paperwork rolling brah

    • slice

      October 16, 2014 at 10:27 pm

      there was no implied consent

    • Ona

      October 16, 2014 at 10:50 pm

      What do u mean by “implied Consent” ? How about an outright INFORMED consent?! How can he be implying that wants to take their child away instead of informing her and getting proper consent? Please don’t even try to justify this ish….. he tried to garnish this story…dancing around the issue but never mentioned that the mother was informed or that she agreed with the decision for liya to be taken away. Informing her family AFTER u people kidnapped the baby is bullocks! This is totally wrong and unacceptable….and if she lays down strict rules during ur future visitations, its all on u. Do things the proper way next time. If u think she’s an unfit parent, take it up with the law. This aint Nigeria where people can do whatever the hell they want and get away with it. I still can’t wrap my head around this ish!

    • Stori stori

      October 21, 2014 at 6:21 am

      There is no such thing as implied consent in the eyes of the law when taking children out of the country without the other parents consent. Especially if they both have parental responsibility as he so claims. Also mr how can u say there is a reason why ur daughter has ur surnam?! The only reason is because it was ur sperm that made her do not confuse fathering a child with being someone’s actual dad.

  8. nene

    October 16, 2014 at 9:29 pm

    now on to the parties involved. his ex girlfriend was just trying to get back at him. you got pregnant for a boy after less than 3 months of casual friendship (friends with benefits), nawa for you oh, is that what they sent you to do in school? obviously the boy reacted how any young boy who isn’t planning on fatherhood/marriage would react, he was angry and said horrible things. now he wants his child but doesn’t want you, and you go and spread rubbish. women, when will you learn to be honest with yourselves? the boy is unserious and out to have fun, you just opened your legs and got pregnant for him. hian. abeg you both should sort yourselves out and give that baby love and attention, cuz she never asked for this.

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    • Fran

      October 16, 2014 at 10:31 pm

      And you think the boy should not b held responsible to ‘close his own legs ‘ They both had unprotected sex and are equally responsible. The idea that she is more to blame because she is a woman is really irritating and honestly an ignorant way to perceived the situation.

    • www.lifeasvira.blogspot.com

      October 16, 2014 at 10:53 pm

      Thank you!!!!

    • Lady D

      October 17, 2014 at 6:30 am

      I totally agree.

    • Trina

      October 17, 2014 at 9:50 am

      Fran, you don’t know Nene is the Senior Advocate of Nonsense?

    • Ona

      October 16, 2014 at 10:58 pm

      This nene, i thought u had sense o, mana ofu mkpuru sense inweho. IDGAF how loose she was. The point is that they are both COPARENTS and one doesn’t have the right to just take away the child without the consent of the other! U’re over there running ur sanctimonious mouth because she had a baby out of a casual relationship. If it was a divorced couple would u have thought differently? One thing that annoys me about alot of Nigerians is how they think very irrationally and emotionally esp over issues they think threatens their religious beliefs. Think logically and unbiased sometimes saint nene.

    • BlueEyed

      October 17, 2014 at 6:20 am

      Pls do not make any “young boy” excuse for this guy, if you feel you are old enough to engage in unprotected sex, then you are old enough for whatever implications it may bear, so my dear, the horrible things he said or did with which you excuse him for is pointless.
      Young man should man up and take responsibilities, hiding under your mother or coming at his baby mama in this manner is not it. Fix it like a man will, find lawyers, follow the proper channel, if you feel the baby mama is not handling your baby well. even the decision to involve both parents is foolish, you my dear baby daddy should make this visits to your child, check the state and condition and man up (grand parents will take an emotional angle and probably exaggerate), at this stage make the conclusion for yourself what will benefit the baby and don’t lurk behind the shadows of your mother.

    • Feyi

      October 17, 2014 at 10:09 am

      @nene

      How could you say such? The guy is very much full of BS” he said they had a casual relationship yet he was unprotected intercity rise , regardless less if the mom was unfit and trust soocial services was involve the child would have been removed from the mom care

  9. S!

    October 16, 2014 at 9:33 pm

    You said, & I quote “Ronke’s family was informed that same day Liya arrived Nigeria including our exact location.”
    Was the mom or her family aware before you took her? Or after the mom had gone on Instagram to share the story of the kidnap?
    Sharing your phone log is easy. You can easily change someone’s name to Ronke’s mom for all I care.

    • slice

      October 16, 2014 at 10:33 pm

      he’s trying to explain that she lied to us when she said she didn’t know where her child was. if they called and told her, then she knew and she’s a liar. i don’t like liars

    • MC

      October 17, 2014 at 9:30 am

      Not that it even makes a difference (because its still kidnap)….Maybe she wasnt lying! It’s a 6 hour flight from London to Nigeria (not to mention travelling to a from the airports). So it could have been a good 8 hours plus! before she was notified of her daughters whereabouts. Enough time for her to panic and go in search for her daughter.

    • slice

      October 17, 2014 at 6:23 pm

      no, she continued posting long after that flight occurred.

    • corolla

      October 16, 2014 at 10:36 pm

      Exactly o! Stories for the gods! The fact remains that the child was taken to another country without her mother’s consent. In any sane country, it is called kidnap. If Ronke’s parenting was so bad, why hadnt child services removed the little girl from the home.

  10. Changing Faces

    October 16, 2014 at 9:36 pm

    see this one! for starters you’d known a girl for 3 months, obviously slept with her without protection, then you were shocked when she told you she was pregnant? Then your kind mother went to help her, and didn’t like what she saw and decided to take the baby to Nigeria? You gave your mother power of attorney over what? your chattel? She KIDNAPPED the child… now consult google for the dictionary meaning of kidnap Mr. University of Hertfordshire graduate…

    why didn’t you include complete photo album? so these 5 pictures should convince us you are better suited to raise the child… save that one for custody battle in court, but in the meantime stop sending your mother to do your dirty work

    hmmmm… rant over

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    • Ona

      October 16, 2014 at 11:01 pm

      Gbamest!

  11. *Real* Nice Anon

    October 16, 2014 at 9:36 pm

    Why are you explaining to a bunch of strangers on the internet? The decision to take the girl to Nigeria wasn’t one the mother of the child agreed to so it is called kidnapping in the western world.

    Also, we couldn’t really care about how casual the relationship you had with her was. Keep these things to yourself. There’s really no reason to explain a family matter to people on the internet. Not every time open your behind outside.. sometimes settle it in your tent at home.

    • Neena

      October 16, 2014 at 10:03 pm

      U knw the girl started it right? I’m sure she’s just looking for public attention.

    • slice

      October 16, 2014 at 10:30 pm

      the girl did start it

    • corolla

      October 16, 2014 at 10:39 pm

      Wait until someone kidnaps your child, sogbo?

  12. Olivia

    October 16, 2014 at 9:45 pm

    Didn’t see anything about a paternity test sir Izu. Please have one done if you haven’t already; before her “links” get you.

  13. jforjudith

    October 16, 2014 at 9:47 pm

    Guy! Na English you dey Speak. Mother na Mother make I tell you. Did you inform and agree with the mother to take the child to Nigeria???

  14. Onye

    October 16, 2014 at 9:49 pm

    He was also surprised that the lady got pregnant. Was it immaculate conception or was he not dipping his thing as and when he liked. His mother should have taught him that if you have sex there is a likelihood of pregnancy occurring. Idiot.

  15. baboushka

    October 16, 2014 at 9:52 pm

    Story! If the mother did not have consent and was not informed that her child was being taken out of the country that was kidnap! Why did your mother creep around with the birth certificate and sneak out when Ronke was in school? Don’ try to make us think that salt is now sugar abegi.

  16. Black Coffee

    October 16, 2014 at 9:54 pm

    Lovely pictures of daughter and daddy but sorry, what power of attorney did he give his mother and why would a grandmother accept such? At her level, her skin should be too thin for insults so why put herself in a position to receive them? There are errands they try to send you and you must decline. He too should have gotten the court order he said his babymama doesn’t have. Hiss. Casual friendship for 3 months? Women sleeping with a man who hasn’t done the right thing by them, then get pregnant and blame the man for freaking out but honestly, did he send you? As for him, he wasn’t using condoms with a casual friend? Now dragging themselves and this innocent baby through the blogs. It would be sad if no good comes out this.

    • slice

      October 16, 2014 at 10:29 pm

      the power of attorney allowed a non-parent get the child on a plane.

  17. starr

    October 16, 2014 at 9:57 pm

    Izu said his mum noticed some traits, I see wgen she gave birth to you. Did her own mother in law notice any trait. How dare you give your num power of attorney or wateva to sneak a child away from a country. Not even same states. Pls the issue is not if you love your child or not the issue is you shouls have gone yourself to check out your mothers story. Stop playing the victim. Things did not work out as you planned. I hope you are reading the commenns cos you dropped ur story here.

  18. Neena

    October 16, 2014 at 10:00 pm

    The girl started a battle online that wasn’t necessary. She’s a bad mother clearly, she has a lot to learn. Her business is everywhere now. The guy will definitely move on, but the stigma will remain on her. Think before u act next time Moronke. You need to grow up. Women don’t air dirty laundry in public.

    • corolla

      October 16, 2014 at 10:46 pm

      This is 2014, the girl will move on and will not be bloody stigmatized. its women like you that victimize others and won’t let people seek social justice . A woman comes back from school and her child is missing and you expect her to calmly wait and do nothing? You are a joker and clearly not yet a mother.

    • Keke

      October 16, 2014 at 10:57 pm

      You are very silly for calling her a bad mother when you don’t even know her. And why would the stigma remain with her and not him? Because she’s a woman? Your comment is so stupid I feel so sorry for women like you. You Clearly have no respect for yourself as woman and you think being a man is the ultimate. Let’s face it, what his mother did was wrong and he knows it.

    • Open Sesame

      October 16, 2014 at 11:03 pm

      Please be objective Neena. Assuming the girl didn’t know where her child was at the time, she would want to pull out all the stops immediately to find her INCLUDING using the Internet. What if these phone calls to her family were made after her instagram post?

      It’s possible she panicked and posted it online but if that’s what it took to get her baby back, well done Moronke.

      No stigma will remain on her. I’m so tired of people making girls feel inferior with their silly biased pronouncements. She can move on just as fast as the guy can move on.

      If they both put an end to the public display now that’d be good cos anymore would be unnecessary.

    • Ona

      October 16, 2014 at 11:05 pm

      Izu welcome o. Carry chair enh and read the REAL comments…maybe…just maybe u and ur mama will get some sense!

    • Dee

      October 17, 2014 at 12:46 am

      Neena you and your family should stop trying to bully the girl. No stigma will remain with, she’s proven that she’s a good woman who loves her child. If you like comment 10times it doesn’t change the fact that she was in the right

    • Black Coffee

      October 17, 2014 at 8:48 am

      Are you for real, Neena? To those who think, the stigma on a man who conspired with his mother to kidnap a child is much worse than the stigma on a girl who had a child out of wedlock and had to endure having her child missing. A woman marrying Izu will think twice now that she knows how judgmental, critical and easily used by her immature son the mother is.

    • Toby

      October 17, 2014 at 11:49 am

      MADAM, YOU ARE SPITTING A LOAD OF THE CRAPPEST CRAP I’VE EVER HEARD IN MY ENTIRE LIFE.. I am a mother and if any mother inlaw from any goddamn place comes and KIDNAPS my child I will do worse than Moronke did If Moronke had not “aired her dirty laundry” in the public, would she have gotten the child back? in all the Moronke said on social media, she just explained what happened, never did she even the mother inlaw anywhere or the useless-power-of-attorney-giving- father sef. she just BEGGED people to help her locate her daughter. So please, if you are not a mother, if you have never been in her position, KINDLY do us all a favour and stop spitting nonsense.

    • Daisy

      October 18, 2014 at 11:44 pm

      Call me biased but the mere fact that he decided to ‘share his story’ makes her look even more sincere. All i could deduce was a guy trying to shield his Mom’s wrong deeds and shifting blame. No way im believing that crap story

  19. Queneen

    October 16, 2014 at 10:01 pm

    Nene you’re quite pathetic. Sounding so confident while displaying so much stupidity. O ma se o.
    As for you Uncle Izu, this story is so typical. Make her out to be a bad mother so you can gain public sympathy. Trash. Did your mother inform the child’s mom before she removed the child from the UK? No? Then your mother is a kidnapper and you’re an accomplice. So what if your phone logs show Moronke’s mom’s number on the day she arrived? Duh she would have called you because Moronke had told her Liya had disappeared with your mom.
    Look Mr Man, you need to respect the mother of your child and not tell the world trash about how you were with her for three months and you were surprised she got pregnant. What did you expect when you had unprotected sex with her? What? Man just shut up and hide your head. We dint believe you. You need more people.

    • blessed

      October 16, 2014 at 10:41 pm

      excellent! my first thought was, ” why tell everyone the circumstances by which the little one was conceived? of course, he knows that the society will always deal harshly with ladies whom they deem “wayward” and hardly say anything about the guy. that opening paragraph no make sense at all and it throws a lot of doubt into his personality.

      he sounds like someone having something upstairs although its a pity they are both in this mess but his mother didnt do the right thing if she took that child without the full go ahead of the biological mother.

      as much as i want to sympathize with both parties, all these drama should and could have been avoided by doing the right thing the first time.

      we all fall but some fall harder than others. they have fallen really hard but they must rise also. it might be quite challenging because of the social media involvement but there is always hope.

      it is well!!

    • bukky

      October 16, 2014 at 11:42 pm

      GBAM! Making her look wayward is his only defense, but we are not fools here. If are trying to convince us that she is wayward, then you too are wayward. After all she didnt have sex by herself and get herself pregnant. I hate when men try to pull this crap! The same men that will be begging you to “just put the tip”.Mcheww

    • Nancy

      October 16, 2014 at 10:50 pm

      U shutup! What do u even know… It’s like moronke is ur relation… Ur just talking without sense! Please flush!

    • Colour Purple

      October 17, 2014 at 3:56 am

      Is Mr Izu your own relation? See pot calling kettle black. KMT!

    • Jennifer

      October 17, 2014 at 8:39 am

      You that you are talking with sense, is Mr Izu your relation?

  20. @edDREAMZ

    October 16, 2014 at 10:02 pm

    a.k.a EDWIN CHINEDU AZUBUKO said…
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    Am just feeling for the little angel but the dude should have inform the mum b4 taking the kid….. Well nobody is perfect…
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    ***CURRENTLY IN JUPITER***

  21. Ijeoma

    October 16, 2014 at 10:08 pm

    So you will carry my child to another country, then inform my family that you have the child. And that’s not kidnapping? We have heard. As long the mother didn’t know you were taking the child, bros. It’s kidnapping. Leave this story for the gods. If social services was aware, why didn’t they take the child from her?

  22. Nancy

    October 16, 2014 at 10:11 pm

    Well said mr izu!

    • Ada nnewi

      October 17, 2014 at 12:07 am

      I’m sure you’re definitely not a mother for the garbage you are spewing in izu’s defence…when u have a child let a relative of your partner, husband, bf or whoever you decide to breed with, come and take your child from you without following due process and let me see whether u will not sleep in CNN waiting for them to carry your story…

  23. Fifi

    October 16, 2014 at 10:11 pm

    Haaainnn story for the gods…your mother kidnapped a child and you rant and try and justify her actions…may God not let me encounter a mother inlaw like her..

  24. Henry

    October 16, 2014 at 10:16 pm

    So you would rather social service took the child before he reacts.arent you smart?listen,they are not married.she doesn’t have sole custody,if he was uk based,it won’t have been a crime,consent or not!so taking the child to its country of origin shld not be either.it was/is a civil matter.Free that rubbish mother consent talk.

    • slice

      October 16, 2014 at 10:27 pm

      it’s criminal. not civil. in fact it’s a very serious crime.

    • Ck

      October 16, 2014 at 10:35 pm

      Yea you work with social services… That’s what you do. Or do you prefer he kidnaps the child, then she too kidnaps n they continue going back n forth? Think!!!!
      And yes if he was uk based it would still be kidnap if he felt she wasn’t a good enough mother and decided to just take the child away from her house so she could start living with him instead – all without his consent.

    • Keke

      October 16, 2014 at 11:07 pm

      Henry do you live in the uk please? Cos if you did you will know what you are saying is nonsense. They aren’t married abi? That’s the more reason why he has no say over the child. If social services have not taken the child away, then Izu has no right too, unless he takes her to court. No one has the right to take a child from the mum ( unless the mother is unfit )

    • Sue

      October 16, 2014 at 11:23 pm

      The fact that she birthed the child does not give her higher authority over the child’s affairs. It’s equal for both parents until the courts states otherwise. He is the FATHER not uncle.

    • judy

      October 17, 2014 at 3:07 am

      Olodo rabata. As they are not married he has no say over the child but she probably tries to get child support money from him. Women women, the real issue here is that we are pained that a fellow woman once got “played”. Make better decisions fellow women oh, it ain’t that hard.

    • Ona

      October 16, 2014 at 11:08 pm

      U obviously live in a bush, so sit down there and hush!

    • corolla

      October 16, 2014 at 11:31 pm

      @Henry, read your comment again and ask yourself if you are smart. its amazing how people are justifying this act. Riddle me this, if as a toddler, your paternal grandma whisked you away to the village without your mother’s knowledge and consent, will your mother fold her arms and act like nothing happened?

    • Black Coffee

      October 17, 2014 at 9:10 am

      Henry, it is a crime. Get an education.

    • Observer

      October 18, 2014 at 10:25 am

      I’ve come to the realisation that Henry, nene, nnena and sue are all izu’s ‘relations’. No sense whatsoever!

    • jay

      October 18, 2014 at 1:44 pm

      As a qualified child protection Social worker in the UK i can confidently say if the unmarried mother allowed the father’s name to be put on the child’s birth certificate, he is then given the same parental and legal rights as the mother including decided where the child lives.

      He should have exercised courtesy and moral kindness and informed the mother, however as is the case with a number of cases, fathers can n do take their children without their mothers knowledge nor consent. Its funny how people don’t get so upset when mothers do the same.

      Its not a ‘crime’ unless the mother has serious concerns that the child would be hurt in their fathers care, in that case she would need to go to civil court and have the child ordered back. Also social services don’t simply remove children it requires a court order or police powers,

  25. Dee

    October 16, 2014 at 10:21 pm

    Dude you have no point, you and your mother had no right to remove a child from her primary care giver and take her to another Country without consent .

  26. Tae

    October 16, 2014 at 10:27 pm

    This is what happens when you hook up with a mummy’s boy, he looks like he still drinks milk sef…hisss. Your Mum noticed some traits, you have no evidence to prove anything to social services so you decide to just take the child!then you think it’s okay once you tell her after the child is already in Nigeria. What manner of wickedness is this? Why do these mothers do things to other peoples daughters that they would never want done to their own child!

  27. Lisa

    October 16, 2014 at 10:29 pm

    See Nigerians talking about mother’s consent, loool. Hypocrites oo. The guy is clearly a nice guy for even accepting the pregnancy. The so called Moronke aka “-” wasn’t good enough for the guy. Can’t imagine what that little girl was suffering in her care? Izu u tried. Forget about the bad publicity ish. Some girls are -.

    • bukky

      October 16, 2014 at 11:46 pm

      @Lisa, you just set women’s rights back to 1920. We should be glad that he accepted the pregnancy abi? Sigh! You are the kind that your husband will slap, and you will thank him for hitting you. May God deliver u.s from retrogressive creatures like you.

    • Ada nnewi

      October 17, 2014 at 12:09 am

      Using your own words, you are clearly one of the girls that are ________, from your ill-conceived statement.

    • Jennifer

      October 17, 2014 at 1:49 am

      People like you are very stupid. “The guy is even nice for accepting the pregnancy”. You need sense, lots of it. Of course, when you get someone pregnant, it’s yours. Whether you accept it or not. Too many shallow people in the world today. Your comment isn’t only illogical but annoying.

    • Black Coffee

      October 17, 2014 at 9:13 am

      Lisa, what if your daughter gets pregnant out of wedlock? I’m sure you’re so perfect but most people are not. Mind you don’t have to eat those harsh words in the future.

  28. i no send

    October 16, 2014 at 10:40 pm

    this all started when mr izu would not use a condom and madam casual sex just decided to be giving it without any thought about the consequence…..mr and mrs casual sex ..mtchwwww

  29. Carliforniabawlar

    October 16, 2014 at 10:42 pm

    Are we all going to ignore the fact that homegirl LIED. I’m sorry, but that brings her entire character into question. She told us that the guy had never met his daughter, played on emotions to get attention and make the story more sensational. Yes, maybe she decided to do all that to get her daughter back, but abeg, lie na lie. If she had told us her side of THIS story (‘cos IMO this is an entirely different story), the public would have still helped, seeing as no matter what, they do not have the right to take the kid away from her, especially not to another country.
    I always felt it in my gut that something was dodgy about her story sha. Young girls of these days don’t just bring a random strange grandma from Naija to come live with them FOC for months. She made them look psychopathic!! people were even insinuating ritualistic sef. The tweets about having ‘connects’ after she found her baby was a general turn off and just sealed the case for me. Who brags about who they know after a traumatic experience like loosing your child in a country with no social security system in place like Naija and somebody can vanish??
    It’s obvious all involved are not normal,lol, only God knows what that woman saw that made her think she had to take the child away without proper measures in place (I see he used style to hint us on the hygienic conditions when he said the baby was happy to be in a clean place).
    I guess the embarrassment the girl sent their way would be a lesson for Nigerians and their patriarchal mindset say na them get pikin.
    Anyways like BN said, hope they can all grow up and let the little girl grow up sane…

    • blessed

      October 16, 2014 at 10:55 pm

      while i did not read anywhere she said the guy has never met her daughter, i do agree her bragging about connections was really awkward. it got me sitting up in my chair.
      [email protected] the embarrassment, it will definitely pass, thankfully.

    • Ife

      October 17, 2014 at 9:39 am

      I’m telling you the having network thing she talked about leaves a sour taste in the mouth . It says a lot about her character .

    • Open Sesame

      October 16, 2014 at 11:12 pm

      @ Carliforniabawlar…I missed the bit where she said the dad had never met the baby. Please share where you got that from.

    • Chacha

      October 16, 2014 at 11:30 pm

      Where in the world did u read that one? She said that he denied the baby when she got preggo (which he admitted to) and that she raised the child by herself. Where did she say that he never saw the child? I went back to the original post and didn’t see such. Y not verify first before talking.

    • Jennifer

      October 17, 2014 at 1:51 am

      She never said the guy never met his daughter. She said he wasn’t in support of her keeping the pregnancy. Not sure where you got that bit of information from.

    • Reverse

      October 17, 2014 at 5:56 am

      So these 5 pictures equate to being in your daughter’s life? What is different in his story? His mother took the child without her mother’s permission and fled the country, that is kidnap! How did she arrange travel documents? How was she allowed out of the country if she did not lie and forge documents to satisfy the consent required by immigration? You can’t give power of attorney for the commission of a crime. They thought they could get away with it based on the patriarchal nature of the Nigerian society; they didn’t expect the young mother to employ the almighty social media. The girl may have her faults like we all do, but I’d do same if in her shoes!

  30. NNENNE

    October 16, 2014 at 10:45 pm

    Izu, what gave you the right to take the girl away? Did you marry her mother?
    A baby is a father’s may be and a mother’s baby.
    Lessons: Boys, if you are not ready to settle down, wear protection. Girls, please protect yourself if you must have premarital sex. You are worth more than a baby mama.

    • judy

      October 17, 2014 at 3:03 am

      But he doesn’t want to marry her mother now, is it by force. Women, forever angry and pained. If Ronke made wise decisions earlier this won’t have happened.

    • Ife

      October 17, 2014 at 9:42 am

      Thank you oh Judy. Some gals be trying to trap guys down by getting pregnant . If you get pregnant outside of wedlock you have to be ready for the consequences . This also goes for people who actively involve in marital sex without condom.

    • Ife

      October 17, 2014 at 9:43 am

      *Premarital sex I mean

  31. SS

    October 16, 2014 at 10:45 pm

    story story ,your mum did the wrong thing, just accept and bury your heads in shame, put your elder sister or younger sister in ronke’s shoes and see the way you idiot uzi would react ,the question is go about it the proper way, she said she doesn’t mind you going through custody battle but stealing without her consent is NOT ACCEPTABLE, infact all you just goofed the more, instead of justifying this criminal act, you should have just tendered apology and accept to go through custody battle the right way,shikena

  32. www.lifeasvira.blogspot.com

    October 16, 2014 at 10:54 pm

    Thank you!!!

  33. Henry

    October 16, 2014 at 10:54 pm

    From my understanding she stated Izu has never been there for the child,she created an image of a father who has never been involved,but this is the complete opposite.why lie!why portray him as irresponsible.your clearly a witch!face your books!all your mates have finished from uni.keep procreating

    • Ada nnewi

      October 17, 2014 at 12:13 am

      Izu was not there period…all this “serve my fatherland story” is absolute wash, abi is it because he posed beside the child eating?…A good father is available all the time, not just once a week, or once a month. A good father is not one that just sends money, No! A good father is fully involved in the lives of his kids. This izu’s story is serious b.s.

    • Ck

      October 17, 2014 at 7:32 am

      Erm so those 5 pics immediately shows you that he’s involved? Wow at your ignorance

    • judy

      October 17, 2014 at 8:20 am

      My dear this your story is wash oh. I am a lawyer and know that MANY women actively pursue court proceedings to stop father’s from having access to kids. Look up father’s for justice Ehn. Let’s all stop painting men as evil and devils. He has played a part in his child”s life period. And yes I am a Feminist and at the same time an objective one.

    • judy

      October 17, 2014 at 8:21 am

      But madam she said he was not involved now. At least the 5 pictures show she embellished her story. Or do you want Bella to upload all the pictures he has?

  34. neena

    October 16, 2014 at 11:00 pm

    When I become a mother, it would be in my husband’s house for starters not on the streets. Would you have preferred the child be taken into the foster system? The guy tried to save his child but it didn’t work out. It’s as simple as that. The responsibility of motherhood requires maturity. The lady Ronke does not sound mature at all. She seems very wayward and irresponsible. I hope the little girl gets the best. All of this drama should not have happend for her sake.

    • Chacha

      October 16, 2014 at 11:23 pm

      Saint Neena! Please go back to you village hut with your archaic, porous brain!

    • bukky

      October 16, 2014 at 11:50 pm

      @Neena, your comments are simply moronic.

    • Ada nnewi

      October 17, 2014 at 12:14 am

      She seems very wayward…Hmmmm madam saint, God help you in your self righteousness…

    • Keke

      October 17, 2014 at 12:15 am

      Neena or whatever you call yourself, if they find the mother unfit to care for the baby, the next step is to look for the father. So far, they haven’t so stop talking shit. Let’s hope your mother law won’t think you can’t take care of your kids and take them away from you. Who the hell is his mum to think she can do what she did and get away with it?

    • Reverse

      October 17, 2014 at 5:35 am

      Obviously Izus current girlfriend jumping up and down the story shaming the girl! Better use protection because your own story go soon reach Bella naija

    • tensy

      October 17, 2014 at 11:18 am

      Neena is obviously the current girlfriend! Her name is nneoma @zizzibee on twitter. She’s been attacking temmy for days. Serious mumu

    • Ck

      October 17, 2014 at 7:34 am

      And you know she’s wayward cos she has Brazilian hair? Do u even know her? And how do u know the guy isn’t wayward? N no she won’t go into foster home if he does go about it the right way

    • Ife

      October 17, 2014 at 9:45 am

      God bless you Neena!

    • Observer

      October 18, 2014 at 10:31 am

      I see izu’s ‘relations’ have started using yoruba names to make comments now..

  35. Debbie

    October 16, 2014 at 11:07 pm

    I knew they were gonna play the ” she wasn’t taking care of child /irresponsible” card. fact is your mum took Liya without her mother’s consent

    • Mothers you are the peace keepers

      October 17, 2014 at 4:39 am

      I believe that the mother and the father needs to leave this to court and sort it out there. The way this is going, and if it continues they might run the risk of losing this child to the system, so please be careful. Anyways from what am gathering from both sides, the mother did this to punish the boy( she doesnt like his mother and feels jilted). Young woman you should be happy this man wants to be an intricate part of the child’s life, unlike most absentee fathers. Dont push him away with accusations. Most women are blinded by revenge that they end up keeping the child from the father. Please lets stop this. The understanding is that they have equal custody and since he is serving nysc it is understandable that during his turn of the co-parenting that his mother is his representative ( i think that is what he means by giving her legal right which he can do in the interest of the child while away). I believe most people, especially her friends and yes also moronike have come on here being emotional. It is know that moronike does not give the paternal grandmother the respect that our nigerian culture, even common elderly respect atones, especially “mother inlaws” ( i know they are not married) expect. She is westernized, and thats okay, but a woman is the peace keeper in her family, especially for the child’s sake. It is wrong if the child’s grandmother took her without consent from the mother, but if she notified the mother of where she was, then its not kidnapping, because the grandmother, who is paying their bills and taking care of them in place of her son, has the same right as the other parent. Am sure when she takes the child out she doesnt take the father’s representatives permission. In all I believe that a father should have the same equal right as the mother. This woman put this in the public because she want to hurt this family, and its sad when the woman has been good to her. No nigerian want to lose their right to come and go from uk as they please, or even be marked a criminal on purpose lol; kidnapping is a grievous accusation and can get someone years in jail. The fact is that information was given before the travel and even once they landed in nigeria and after a few screaming matches between grandmother and the mother about the stay agreement, she wanted her child back and seeked for revenge. Young mothers, be careful what you do, do not use your child to punish a man. You are hurting that child more than you are helping. The man can leave you, but dont force him to leave his child.

    • Ck

      October 17, 2014 at 7:41 am

      If she was truly punishing the man, Izu would have said “but moronke gave us the passport why then is she [email protected] if he didn’t say that then believe me it’s all a lie. He didn’t even refute the part where she said the grandma stole the passport.

    • Ck

      October 17, 2014 at 7:43 am

      And uk rent isn’t cheap so if she gave the mother free accommodation for 5 months, that’s minimum £500 x 5 she saved the mother. There’s no way the mother spent up to that taking care of people who were already taking care of themselves before she showed up

    • C'est moi

      October 17, 2014 at 1:26 pm

      Childcare fees aren’t cheap either. She got free full-time childcare for that 5 month period. That alone would have cost well over £500/month.

  36. OO7

    October 16, 2014 at 11:17 pm

    To be honest I don’t know why most people feel the need to do their laundry in public these days. Like what is wrong with this generation??? Everyone seeking 15 minutes of fame on social networks. This should have been a private matter to be handled between both families. Temmy or Ronke as she is known is a wildcat but still she birthed that child and her consent should have been sought before taking the child out of the country. There was no need for her raising alarm on Instagram like she couldn’t reach her mother in law over the phone or call her family in Nigeria. I understand she is an illegal resident in the country currently and as such could not travel to “find” her missing daughter. All these narratives by both of them are totally uncalled for biko. Sort yourselves out away from the public eye please there is a child involved here.

    • fifi

      October 17, 2014 at 9:04 am

      Whether she’s legal or illegal,wayward or a saint that doesn’t give izu and his mother any right to kidnap the child,if social welfare has been involved in the matter why didn’t they deport her and her child since,or how come she’s in Uni if she’s illegal or u think universities don’t verify before they collect ur school fees and admit,please if u don’t have anytin sensible to say I suggest u continue living in ignorance

  37. Ona

    October 16, 2014 at 11:18 pm

    Izu, none believes u…u need more people boo. Ur mother kidnapped that child and u are an accomplice…end of! If u like garnish ur story with spe-spe words…it still doesn’t change a darn thing. U and ur mother had absolutely no right to take that child away without the mother’s consent! If she was indeed a bad mom, u guys would’ve informed social services and they woulda given u full custody, so ur accusations are bull. That picture of ur phone log; na today? Like we don’t know such can be doctored. Furthermore, thanks for telling the world and ur daughter(as this will forever be online) that her mother was just a fling. Casual relationship and u didn’t have the decency to use condom?? How are my supposed to believe that u guys weren’t a real item and u’re just talking all this one for sympathy….and if indeed a fling, then u are just as disgusting for having sex w/o protection all willy nilly. Hope u know that u just made ur future visitations stringent with this stupid action y’all pulled.

  38. tensy

    October 16, 2014 at 11:29 pm

    Your mum is still WRONG for taking the child period. kidnap is kidnap. This hasn’t redeemed your family in anyway. Hope this gets sorted xx

  39. Eileen

    October 17, 2014 at 12:01 am

    Casual relationship abi?? Wat happen to comdom since it’s a casual relationship.guys r so insensitive enhh..long story u can’t take a child away from her mum without her aproval period.u should have reported to d authorities if u wanted to do d rite tin.

  40. Steph

    October 17, 2014 at 12:05 am

    So it took you three days to come up with a brilliantly made up spicy story?? lmao bravo!!

  41. khaleesi

    October 17, 2014 at 12:10 am

    this guy is a fool! his mother kidnapped the baby jare. he confirmed what we all knew…the mother was not advised PRIOR to action being taken, therefore his mother still kidnapped the little girl

    he should GTFO jare!

  42. Dola

    October 17, 2014 at 12:12 am

    Look at her instagram, temmy007, she resemble child wey dey suffer?

  43. Animal Doctor

    October 17, 2014 at 12:14 am

    thotgang supporting one of their own with full gusto; i don’t expect any less.

    Y’all are the baddest…keep banging lol

  44. the generous economist

    October 17, 2014 at 12:15 am

    I agree @californiabawler… though it doesn’t justify the in-laws rash reaction,, Ronke’s story was really off.. how many ppl cn accommodate the mother of the man that is an absentee dad for that long just on “niceness basis”.. also his reference to how liya was conceived seems to be in defense of this image…he’s trying to state the reasons why he displayed his initial feelings of shock and denial.. and he shown that both families r very involved in raising the child

  45. Animal Doctor

    October 17, 2014 at 12:36 am

    Why do heauxs like to support the wrong thing? Supporting one of your own I guess…i respect the loyalty lol

    #thotgang
    #thotloyalty

  46. motola

    October 17, 2014 at 1:17 am

    Guys sha .. so u slept with a lady without protecting yourself now you are making her look like trash / someone u can’t be seen with.
    May God have mercy on u. “Casual Relationship ” He wrote that part like she got herself pregnant..

  47. pd young billionaire

    October 17, 2014 at 1:19 am

    Izu,you and Moronke should have made a proper arrangement such that your daughter is able to spend sometime with both of you in Nigeria and in the UK. Moronke may have her faults but the fact that your mum took her away without her consent does not speak well of your family.
    For the sake of your child,i think going forward, you guys should have a proper arrangement.You both have equal rights to the child.
    I want to believe you have learnt your lessons never to be involved with a woman you don’t love.Situations like these create unnecessary issues.

  48. Chidinma

    October 17, 2014 at 1:54 am

    This whole story is so ridiculous. What is wrong with this generation. Isn’t anything private?
    Doesn’t anyone have shame?

    This story has no business being dragged out on Bella Naija.

  49. Girlie O

    October 17, 2014 at 2:28 am

    Hmmmmmmm!!! Story for the Gods *In Olamide’s voice*

  50. judy

    October 17, 2014 at 3:01 am

    Women are funny, when will y’all stop feeling angry over issues caused by your own poor judgments?
    The man has a right to his child just like the girl does. What if the situation at Ronkes house was so bad the grandma feared for her safety?

  51. Iris

    October 17, 2014 at 3:28 am

    Was this so-called Power of Attorney a legal document or was it word of mouth? Is there paper to show he is legally her father? Is his name on her birth certificate? It is easy to come and start claiming you were there for her – as easy as it is to informally reject her. Either way she was taken from her legal home without parental consent. She was kidnapped, full stop.

    • Sue

      October 17, 2014 at 8:42 am

      Are u ok? U think the dude would stay there and be claiming fatherhood stupidly? He must ve done a paternity test since. Her name is Ehiemere genius.

  52. Author Unknown

    October 17, 2014 at 3:39 am

    “My name is Izuchukwu Ehiemere and I am the biological father of Miss Liya Tinuke Temidun Ehiemere.”

    This Maury Show type statement alone has implicated this boy. Talking about her last name is not Ehiemere for no reason. Say that to the UK police when they arrest your mother on kidnapping charges, and you as a co-conspirator. Continue talking. You might have good intentions, but have gone about it the wrong way. Interestingly, I can’t blame you because your adult mother who should know better is front and centre. Yeye people you and your baby mama.

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  53. ao

    October 17, 2014 at 3:39 am

    While I agree in theory that the father and paternal grandmother were wrong for removing the child to Nigeria, I have my concerns about the child’s mother because she LIED about material facts. In the initial story on BN, the child’s mother reported that the biological father was never involved with the child and did not take responsibility when she informed him that she was pregnant. These are significant lies and the father’s version coupled with pictures of him engaging with the child is in direct conflict with the mother’s representation that the father was never involved. Credibility is very important here and I find the father more credible than the mother.

    • Shandi

      October 17, 2014 at 1:32 pm

      You find the father more credible just by few essays you read? Someone you don’t know? I’d never understand human beings. Although I’m not surprised as you’re the psychologist of BN. Forever jumping into conclusions, eg Peter Okoye situation, etc. We’re not in their lives so we cannot give evaluations based on what we read.

    • ao

      October 18, 2014 at 2:09 am

      @Shandi, Don’t come for me when I didn’t send for you. Clearly, you’ve been following me around BN comment section and keeping note of what I write. Stalker, my advice to you is to get a life. Seriously. Get a life.

    • ao

      October 18, 2014 at 2:22 am

      @Shandi. You write that I should not give an evaluation on what I read. In that case, Bella Naija and other media outlets should just fold up and stop putting out articles to the general public. In case you were unaware, BN and other media outlets put out articles so that readers can read and give an EVALUATION on what they read. This drives traffic to BN and advertisers are sure to follow. ( I digress.) In fact, everyone that has commented on this article has given an evaluation on what they read by simply commenting. So, why do you want to focus on my comment…or is it personal? There are other comments that are similar to my comment. So, why focus on my comment? Clearly, this is personal for you and has to do with Peter Okoye; otherwise, you would have given other examples, which you did not because there are none. Hence, you used “etc.” Defender of Peter Okoye, please, get a life.

    • Olanma

      October 19, 2014 at 6:25 pm

      LOL @ BN psychologist. That had me in stitches.

    • Shandi

      October 18, 2014 at 10:50 am

      I haven’t been stalking you. Why do I have to stalk you when I see your own evaluations on almost every post? You’re the one who NEEDS to get a life and stop your assumptions on things that you hardly know anything about. Make up evaluations just by things you read, or judge people by their posts on instagram, that shows how “smart” you are. Please take a nap.

    • ao

      October 18, 2014 at 1:19 pm

      @Shandi. This clearly shows how smart you are not. You write that you are not stalking me and yet you seem to be keeping a count on the number of comments that I make on BN posts. Sounds like something a stalker would do. Did you not write that I comment on almost every post? How would you come to that conclusion if you were not trying to keep count on my posts. Stalker. Freak.. Or were you trying to exaggerate to score a cheap point because last I checked, I do not comment on every BN article. But then for you, when someone has an opinion that differs from yours on BN, it means that they are commenting on a every BN article.
      Why must I have to agree with you?

      By the way, were you not the one that gave your own EVALUATION when you wrote the comment (from “Two Year Ol Nigerian Girl Allegedly Kidnapped by Grandmother in UK Has Been Found”):

      “Shandi October 12, 2014 at 1:56 pm
      There’s no story here. Even if the woman were her Mom, you CANNOT take away someone’s child (not to talk of travelling to another country), without the person’s knowledge. Full story or not. One can go to jail for it, if one lives in a developed country. It’s very stupid to say the least. So it irks me when people say “this isn’t the full story”. Do not take away someone’s child without the person’s permission, period. Most of you commenting aren’t Mothers that’s why some of you don’t understand”

      Kettle meet Pot. Is this not an evaluation? Did you know the mother when you wrote that to make such a conclusion/evaluation? I thought your position is that no one should evaluate what they read. Did you even have the father’s side of the story before you wrote this? To borrow from your hero Peter Okoye: “anuofia, go and sleep”.

    • ao

      October 18, 2014 at 2:47 pm

      @SHANDI, please explain this comment/insult you made to a BN commentator where you wrote that “Canadians are usually very stupid” (from “Pregnant LAWMA Worker Killed by Tanker Driver)

      “Shandi May 2, 2014 at 10:23 pm
      I’m not surprised. Canadians are usually very stupid. What’s there not to understand there? It makes total sense! On the other hand, you should refrain from commenting.
      May her soul rest in peace, I saw the post yesterday and decided not to open it. I finally did. I feel terribly sad.”

      You like to insult others on BN, don’t you? Internet bully. Comment police. Who are you to evaluate Canadians as stupid. Do you know personally every Canadian to come to that conclusion that they are stupid, since, for you, knowing an individual personally is a prerequisite to having an opinion on an article on BN. Have you even stepped foot in Canada? As if Canadian embassy would even give you a visa. For the record, I’ve visited there. Who are you to tell anyone when or when not to comment on BN. Get a damn life! Stalker.

    • Exquisite

      October 18, 2014 at 7:38 pm


      Ao:
      ‎Okay. I actually I do not side with the Mom, or Dad or the Grandma or anyone for that matter. They’re some things you see or read that are so sensitive that the best thing to do is not take sides or accuse or blame one person, so I’m taking sides with no one. Frankly, since I read this story, I haven’t been happy.
      You made a comment and that’s your opinion which is okay, but you should realise that none of us can tell who’s credible by what we’ve read. I’m sure there are MANY things we don’t know so it’s wrong for us to make comments about characters of people we don’t know. I just felt you were a little judgemental by the “credible comment”. And that’s just my opinion. 
      Also, I believe most of us here are adults, we can make points without being insulting, at least when I read he/she’s first comment to you, there were no insults. No need for name callings from you, especially not on a post like this. If anything, you’re the one being insulting, cause all you were called was a psychologist, you on the other hand were rude, very.‎ On the contrary you were the one hurling insults. If anything, you started with the name calling but that’s none of my business.
      Besides, anyone who reads these comments between you and the Shandi person will actually refer to you as the stalker, no offense. Summed up briefly, I’m not taking sides with either the Dad or Mom, also I feel this isn’t the post to throw abusive comments. At the end of the day, we agree to disagree. We can disagree politely (lol it’s hard). I don’t agree with your comment but you didn’t see me abusing you or calling you names. Bringing visa into it is totally childish and uncalled for. Besides leaving comments on BN, we don’t know ourselves personally so that comment was absolutely unnecessary.

    • Exquisite

      October 18, 2014 at 12:34 pm

      Ao,
      I understand where he/she is coming from cause when I read your comment, I was like huh. 
      There’s nothing wrong in giving your opinion, of course that’s why there’s a forum, however, yours is different cause you know neither of them and you stated you found the Dad more credible than the Mom just by things you’ve read on the site; that was quite off and unfair. At the end of the day we can give our own opinions but we should bear in mind we don’t know them well enough to know who’s credible or not, responsible or not, sincere or not. And that’s just my 2 cents.
      Also you two need to let it go. This is a sensitive issue, we need to be cautious.

    • ao

      October 18, 2014 at 1:32 pm

      @Exquisite. I am aware based on your comment that you side with the mother and that is fine. However, people like @Shandi need to allow space for a difference of opinion without being insulting and that is my issuewith @Shandi. My issue with @Shandi is not that she disagreed with my position that I find the father more credible. My issue is that she personally attacked me and is trying to bully me and I will not take it from her or anyone else. Period. I don’t know @Shandi from Adam or Eve and yet she hurls insults at me simply because I came to a different conclusion than she did about the alleged kidnapping of a toddler. This is crazy and unacceptable. @Shandi strikes me as a stalker and a freak.

    • Exquisite

      October 18, 2014 at 7:42 pm

      Ao:
      ‎Okay. I actually I do not side with the Mom, or Dad or the Grandma or anyone for that matter. They’re some things you see or read that are so sensitive that the best thing to do is not take sides or accuse or blame one person, so I’m taking sides with no one. Frankly, since I read this story, I haven’t been happy.
      You made a comment and that’s your opinion which is okay, but you should realise that none of us can tell who’s credible by what we’ve read. I’m sure there are MANY things we don’t know so it’s wrong for us to make comments about characters of people we don’t know. I just felt you were a little judgemental by the “credible comment”. And that’s just my opinion. 
      Also, I believe most of us here are adults, we can make points without being insulting, at least when I read he/she’s first comment to you, there were no insults. No need for name callings from you, especially not on a post like this. If anything, you’re the one being insulting, cause all you were called was a psychologist, you on the other hand were rude, very.‎ On the contrary you were the one hurling insults. If anything, you started with the name calling but that’s none of my business.
      Besides, anyone who reads these comments between you and the Shandi person will actually refer to you as the stalker, no offense. Summed up briefly, I’m not taking sides with either the Dad or Mom, also I feel this isn’t the post to throw abusive comments. At the end of the day, we agree to disagree. We can disagree politely (lol it’s hard). I don’t agree with your comment but you didn’t see me abusing you or calling you names. Bringing visa into it is totally childish and uncalled for. Besides leaving comments on BN, we don’t know ourselves personally so that comment was absolutely unnecessary.

    • ao

      October 18, 2014 at 11:23 pm

      @Exquisite. Your comments on the articles on the alleged kidnapping of this child support my conclusion that you side with the mother and that’s okay. As for your comment that “anyone” reading the exchange between me and Shandi would conclude that I am the stalker is laughable. Who started it? Who claimed that I comment on every BN post (and even if I did, which I do not, why is it Shandi’s business). Shandi calling me a “psychologist” was made in the context of insults. It was not done in a vacuum. If Shandi or anyone else on BN does not want to be insulted by me then they should keep a respectful tone when addressing me.

    • Exquisite

      October 19, 2014 at 12:29 pm

      I don’t have time for arguments. I’ve made it clear that I’m not taking sides on the case of the story. Whether you agree or not, that’s your business. You’re not in my mind to know what I believe or not. Maybe that’s why you were even called a psychologist.
      Secondly, you’re the stalker actually and it’s not laughable cause you went to get posts from months ago. If that was done to me, I’d freak out, that’s bizarre.
      I’m done with this conversation, it’s tedious. My initial point was and is still, we cannot conclude on this issue cause we don’t know them personally.
      Take care.

    • ao

      October 19, 2014 at 9:57 pm

      @Exquisite or should I say @Shandi. It’s obvious that “Exquisite” and “Shandi” are one in the same person; otherwise, why keep inserting yourself in drama that does not concern you. “Shandi” said she was done with it and here you are @Exquisite responding responding for her. Take your own advice and stop embarrassing yourself. Bye, Felicia

    • ao

      October 19, 2014 at 10:09 pm

      I thought you wrote that your done with the conversation and that it’s “tedious”. Why then did you even bother responding. If you are done, then stop following the thread.

    • Exquisite

      October 20, 2014 at 12:35 am

      You’re actually more hilarious than I thought ao. I could care less of both you and whoever the commenter is. I replied you cause you’re telling me who I’m taking sides with even after I told you twice I’m taking sides with no one, wth? Why such assumptions?
      That you think I’m the other commenter shows how sad you are. Continue to embarrass yourself, you clearly have issues. You’re such a bitter person and it shows in your comments. I wonder why you guys won’t see a psychologist, but would rather take it out on social media. I hope that helps you really, smh. I don’t want to be abusive like you but you’re clearly a psycho. I expect you to return and continue commenting. Good luck with that.
      Take care!

    • ao

      October 20, 2014 at 4:02 am

      Lol! Why is it, when people on BN no longer have a point to make, they call someone bitter, miserable, etc. These don’t work on me. Try something else. Clearly, you must be as psycho as you say that I am; otherwise, why do you continue commenting long after Shandi exited. Why are you taking Advil for someone else’s headache. This was an exchange between Shandi and me and you inserted yourself unless you are Shandi, By the way, did you not write that this conversation was “tedious” and you were done? So, implement what you wrote and get lost. As for being embarrassed, that is laughable. I can only be embarrassed when the audience actually matters and the likes of you, Shandi, and whomever else that wants to join in do not matter. Zero embarrassment here honey. I don’t need your respect, admiration, or love. So, go and shove it. Bye, Felicia!

    • Shandi

      October 18, 2014 at 7:04 pm

      And you call me a stalker? You really need a life, wow you’re a hopeless stalker! I’m amazed at your foolishness. Girl, I don’t need to stalk you. If one reads BN quite often they’re some people who frequently leave comments and one gets familiar with their usernames. You frequently leave comments and you’re usually biased. There’s a difference between being opinionated about a random thing, and being opinionated about sensitive personal matters. Like you’re usually judgemental for personal and severe matters you know next to nothing about.
      And hey jerk, I’m Cameroonian and I’ve been living in Canada since birth so your comment was quite absurd and makes absolutely no sense. Even my own country, I’m blunt and candid when making comments. Just look at who’s calling someone a stalker? You have so much time on your hands, girl. I promise you, you’d be alright.
      I’m not going to reply you anymore cause clearly you need help. Stop using BN for therapy for your miserable self. BN Psychologist, smh.

    • ao

      October 19, 2014 at 2:15 pm

      Comment police/stalker, breath and exhale. You don’t know my life so you can only ASSUME that it’s miserable like your own in your make believe residence of Canada. Trust and believe, I’ve more going for me in my pinky finger than you have in your whole body. Like I said before, you came for me when I didn’t send for you. Fact. While I may disagree with someone, I don’t go around telling anyone on BN what type of comments to make or initiating insult against them for a comment that has nothing to do with me. You obviously do. Get a damn life. Who died and made you gatekeeper of the comment section of BN, anyway? Comment police. Stalker. Next time, mind your own business and stay off my comment we will have no problems. You came to fight and now you’re running with “I’m not going to reply you anymore” Clearly, you’ve realized that you came for the wrong one. So, heifer, run. It’s obvious you can’t finish what you started. You make accusations about me and yet cannot back it up with anything and continue to flip flop. You started with the accusation that I comment on every BN post and now you have reduced it to I comment “frequently”. Which one is it and who asked you to keep count of my comments? I, on the other hand, have provided examples of you not following your own advice to abstain from commenting on sensitive personal matters. I come from an evidence-based educational background and so, if you accuse me of doing something frequently, be prepared to back it up with lots of examples and not just random statements that I do something a lot. And, fyi, I will continue to comment as I please on BN and you and anyone else that does not like it should build a bridge and get over it. Bye, Comment Police/Stalker. LOL!

    • Exquisite

      October 19, 2014 at 2:36 pm

      Ao,
      You are actually a depressed person. Lol and you’re mad you’re being called a psychologist? You’re telling me what I think after I’ve told you otherwise, and you’re wrong cause only me will know. Someone is telling you where he/she lives and you’re saying otherwise and you’re upset being called a psychologist? I actually think psychic is the best to describe you since you supposedly know all. There’s so much hate in your comments, it’s sad. One would actually think you’re depressed or disturbed. Everything you’ve called the other BN reader is what you are, that’s the amusing thing.
      Who knows maybe this might be a therapeutic exercise for you, abusing people, and what not. Smh. Oh yes and feel very free to abuse me too, that’s your work. You’re not even tired of embarrassing yourself.

    • Uyi

      October 19, 2014 at 4:01 pm

      Na wa o, ao go and fight elsewhere now? For a second I thought I was on LIB.
      Gosh. See lines. I was reading comments regarding this situation only for me to come across this? Oga gan. Just see your kindergarten insults. “They won’t give you visa”. So lame. Girls sha, you lot can be immature.

    • ao

      October 20, 2014 at 4:14 am

      @Exquisite or should I say Shandi’s errand girl or maybe even Shandi herself. I thought you wrote that you were done with this thread and that it’s “tedious”. And here you are still commenting.

    • Anonymous

      October 20, 2014 at 4:00 pm

      I know the Mother of the child personally and it’s a good thing she has a tough skin. BN, You need to stop posting comments from this psychotic individual, ao, and the likes. Though everyone has left their own beliefs, I find hers unbefitting. In fact, some have left inaccurate comments. People need to know that even though the child is back with Moronke, it doesn’t mean things are back to normal. You really should screen comments as you usually do cause although it’s a public issue (due to the viral instagram post), it is still hurting to everyone involved. It’s very difficult for both Izu, Moronke and their families seeing these comments, good/bad, and even more preposterous, people fighting on it. Moronke is still trying to balance being a Mother and a law student. Izu is trying to get his career together, so this is too much for them. I can’t come to terms with people throwing harsh comments for something like this. It’s lamentable. You really have to screen the comments cause the people involved are still young and it’ll affect them even more. Deep down, no one involved is joyous about this, trust me.
      When you guys aren’t supposed to screen comments, you will, when you’re supposed to, you won’t. If you guys were friends or family with them, you’d know it’s not easy for any of the involved parties. I hope none of you experience this, that’s why it’s easy for some to have a critical opinion and pass judgment.

  54. Gbemy

    October 17, 2014 at 4:02 am

    We are always so quick to judge am 100 percent sure no one here really knows what has been going on behind closed doors (I don’t know either) . She might have been a good mother or otherwise .but for the sake of the child it’s better to settle this out of social media I can imagine the baby googling her name in future and all this coming up ..

  55. Yaya Boni

    October 17, 2014 at 4:13 am

    Next time before sleeping with a girl.. know her better… You guys love to go under the panties too quick.. well this is the consequence.. Wishing you and your daughter the best.

    • Ife

      October 17, 2014 at 9:51 am

      True, guys don’t sleep with a girl you can’t wife. There’s no point .

  56. SIR JRN

    October 17, 2014 at 4:14 am

    Am a born Nigerian living in the UK for years now, I know the laws that govern human right. I have read through both stories. Few months ago a friend showed me the story of the lady saying someone took her child. All I said was well we don’t know the real truth behind it because you don’t judge by a saying but if its true the woman did, its very wrong. Here today I read the boy writing his own part to justify himself.
    It is very painful that at this time of in this world people still think backwards, its time we Nigerians have to wake up and change. First of all am so disappointed that the guy lived in the UK for his studies and can actually think what they did is right, so during your time of studies what did you learn if you mind set is still like this? Even if the lady is a prostitute and sleeps with ten men in the presents of the child, you as the father should have the right to report the matter to social service which am sure you know about unless its not the United Kingdom I know. You claimed you lived with the child for sometime, why didn’t you find out the lady’s character? How come is your mum who just stayed few months found out all the bad about her? Even if truly the lady is that bad why didn’t the social service take the child from her earlier before now. The fact is that NO MATTER ANYTHING, NO MATTER WHAT you or your mum has no right to take the child without the mother knowing about it even if the lady’s mother supported you to that’s If truly you are educated as you claim because as a young Nigerian you went back to serve your country which is good but you should be able to make a change in Nigeria not bringing negativity to the country. I actually ask of opinion of young people around me and to my surprise a Nigerian living in the Uk for years now broke into fight with me saying what the guy did is right because he wants a better life for the baby. My question is how are we sure the baby is in safe place? A 2 years child that was born in the Uk, spent her 2 years in Uk was taken all the way to another country where she has never been without the mother and not even with the knowledge of the family, friends, relations or even the law enforcement to know, you say it for betterment of the child? Lets be honesty about this situation in every LAW this is called KIDNAPPING. For the woman to travel with the child just like that shows its a planned work which has been in act sice because she was able to arrange a travel document unless she beat the British Immigration and in that case they should be held responsible for letting too for the act.#Staypositive

    • New

      October 24, 2014 at 4:22 pm

      I do not understand why some people are so shallow in their thinking. Why do people think that because they came to UK, their way of life must change. People talk about the law but your easy above does not show that you know the law. How can you say a child’s father has no right to take the child. Can you tell us which law you are quoting. I heard from a reliable source that Ronke applied for asylum for herself, the baby and her younger sister who is also hiding in the UK since 2013. Now tell me, is it the law that a baby mother should apply for asylum for a baby without the father’s consent. Do you know what asylum status means. By the way, why is Ronke seeking asylum in the UK when she has all the connections she claims. I heard she came to the UK to study in 2008 with one year student visa and has not been able to renew it since then because she has no funds. How is she sustaining herself and the baby without being able to work and earn? It is evident that her family are not capable as she may want people to believe otherwise paying school fees would not have been a problem to her and she would not have been an overstayer since 2010 as I gather. People say why didn’t baby father call the social services. My question is this – is it better for the child to be taken by social services than by the father. Wonders shall never end. Now the baby is a ward of the court instead of a ward of the parents. What does this tell you. Who has the best interest of the baby?? Another question I ask is why is the baby made a ward of the court after she has been given to Ronke’s parents? People may think this order is to take the baby from the father but from where I am standing it is in aid of Ronke’s asylum claim. People should open their eyes and see that this girl is just using the baby to regularise her status. what motehr in her right sinces would do this to a baby. People are meant to believe that baby is British because she was born in Britain. Being born in Britain does not give automatic citizenship since 1st January 1983. Both parents are Nigerians so baby can not be British as she can not have a better status than her parents.
      All these may be part of Ronke’s plan to perfect her asylum claim. Who knows if she did not actually use the grandmother by allowing her take the baby then cry foul. I have tried to analyse her story and it does not make any since. She said she went to Uni on 6th and on return did not see her baby. She even said she was rushing out that morning and could not give baby a kiss. She announced baby kidnapp on the 8th, that is 2 days after she did not see baby and claims she did not know her whereabout. Baby father’s telephone records shows at least that Ronke’s mum was called on 7th. My other worry is, which Uni studies overnight. I understand baby and grandmother travelled on a ight flight!!!!! Where was Ronke from 6th to 8th????
      Pople should know that a child does not belong to one parent unless the other does not have parental responsibility. The fact that baby has been living with mum does not accord mum a higher right over the baby unless a court order says so. People say no matter mum’s character and whatever bad she does in front of the baby her father has no right to take the baby. This is the most ridiculous thing I have ever heard. The baby is not a property of the mother to be treated as she pleased. Babies are taken from birth mothers even from hospital bed to protect the child. What you should look out is the best interest of the child not the feelings of either parents. A lot of sympathy have gone to Ronke because she played on peoples emotion. People should look beyond emotions and see things the way they are. It is a few young men that would seek to take a child born out of wedluck. I believe the baby father has the best interest of the child to put himself in this position. I have good commendation for him. He is brave and he should not let people put him down.

  57. BN lover

    October 17, 2014 at 6:14 am

    Ronke again, I’m sorry your child was taken away from you without your consent….and thank God she’s with you now….i can imagine your pain and anxiety wen u got home from school and your baby was gone…..but again, ur mother inlaw was gone too…..i think your going to the Internet immediately u discovered ur baby’s disappearance tells us the type of mother you are…..sweetheart,there’s something called a family….and in my honest opinion I think u should have thought of that and considered it sincerely before going on the Internet and painting your mother inlaw and baby daddy as devils….your best bet after you discovered and concluded your child was missing was to alert the police, (afterall I hear say America police beta pass naija own….na so film dey tell us) but instead u ran to the net,creating a scene u know…..like deep inside you wasn’t necessary. Again I’m a girl,this child kidnap thing I ve experienced it first hand so I know what I’m saying wen I say Ronke didn’t go about it the right way…….Biko Ronke next time check your words probably before u alter them,a term like kidnap is a very powerful one,this ur wahala is clearly a case of family misunderstanding + don’t always put up all ur business on the Internet for the World please, it doesn’t help rather it builds up drama for you either immediately or afterwards. As for you Mr.Izu u did wat a typical mummy’s boi will do…..but again y did u not use protection? U should be thankful it’s a baby u got and not AIDS.Be careful and love your life a little more ……then immediately take out dat paragraph u r trying to portray Ronke as being wayward.,it is not necessary. Pikin she don born,weda u like it or not, she’s ur baby mama….show her a little respect. I’m convinced it was for love she decided to have a baby out of ur careless escapades. Mama Izu,na wa 4 u oh……shey na service IZU been go….and u ve visited them twice,why didnt u just wait for Izu to round up so he can come clean his mess alone+did u not read dis story, y allow ur son paint a woman in that light…….mama biko train Izu well b4 going to struggle to train Ronke’s child. BS:Biko,i’m sorry 4 d length, just had to rant….Bella pls show a sister love n post oh……gdmng lovelies

  58. Idak

    October 17, 2014 at 6:22 am

    My heart goes out to the gorgeous lovely kid caught up in this mess.
    However, may this serve as a lesson to all those who neglect the use of adequate protection in serial relations outside wedlock. Before you preach about condoms breaking,use am first make we see how many times e go break. The summary of thi guy’s story is that adequate protection would have protected both parties from this mess.
    Ladies and gentlemen, condomize!
    Not just to prevent STDs but also to reduce (if not avoid completely) stories that touch and future kidnap sagas.

  59. Wamzo

    October 17, 2014 at 7:07 am

    This is just a pathetic attempt at sympathy from Izu. Why do we have to know you were ‘friends’ for 3 months before she got pregnant . Did she ever imply you were engaged or the love of her life . Trying to portray her as irresponsible is very childish of you. Who cares that your environment is cleaner.Even sending your story in is pointless because nobody cares. Your mother had no right to take the child without permission. Why didn’t you come yourself. Power of attorney my foot. Please grow up, you didn’t even want the child in the first place , now she’s done all the ground work you want to reap where you didn’t sow.

    • Olori Tari

      October 17, 2014 at 7:42 am

      Lol I hope you are going to use “childish” to describe her too, because She CLEARLY created an image of this guy being an irresponsible man on social media! I’m all for airing your dirty laundry in privacy, but in this case… she dragged it here already, he might as well EXPLAIN his side of the story. At least, now people like me know he isn’t a bum as portrayed earlier (not justifying the taking of the child btw).

  60. Joy

    October 17, 2014 at 7:12 am

    Ronke was too fast to put up on social media,it was a deliberate act,I’m certain if matters were handled privately,liya would have been given back cordially.You painted a horrible image of the family,and you expect the father to stay quiet.made it seem like the mother was homeless and needed you help?why didn’t you let the police handle it fully?im sure they must have informed you to stay silent and probably wait 24hrs but you decided to put up that useless crap.better buckle up as a mother and treat that child well becuz something is clearly wrong with you for them to go to such extremes.

  61. Bright

    October 17, 2014 at 7:29 am

    @wamzo,”ground work”….being illegally in the UK is groundwork abi?the child is with her mother now,if she is so keen on reuniting with the child,enter flight reach 9ja Cary your pikkin go back uk,something dey hold u for uk?there laws to help everybody but if u no get status OYO..not even “links” can help u

  62. Berry Dakara

    October 17, 2014 at 8:20 am

    This is the problem with immature people having children.

  63. Ruby

    October 17, 2014 at 8:55 am

    It’s a lie! I’m sure she was not a bad mother. He just said that to cover up.for taking the child. I bet the mother did not allow her ‘precious son’ marry her either but she want the child.! Igbo mothers are gangster like that! Anyway, to each his own!

  64. waheed

    October 17, 2014 at 9:03 am

    Loooong Story….(yawns) nobody wants to know IZU about the story of your baby mama and how u guys hooked up. FACT is you and your mother kidnap the child without the mother permission. You are officially Kidnappers!!!!!! I hope ppl will keep away from you guys in Nigeria knowing your capabilities

    • Peter

      October 17, 2014 at 9:40 am

      Wake up honey, this is naija. All of these people forming yankee and jand loooool. Stop pretending and acting out here jor. The guy accepted it wasn’t done properly. Yall should just keep quiet and move on. All these naija girls aspiring to be baby mamas, I pity u. Go to school, graduate, be responsible human beings! Na wa for this generation. Too much E! And reality TV affecting these lot.

  65. Gina

    October 17, 2014 at 9:17 am

    Debate of the year! Yes the baby got taken away from her mum. Yea the grandma shouldn’t have. Yea both parents are clearly immature. What should matter now is the baby’s best interest. The baby mama could really have kept her business off the Internet, called her family in naija and the guy’s own as well. They would have come to the same decision of giving Liya back for peace. Trust me, the Internet broadcast has done nothing but cause unnecessary drama. This is not what helped get ur child back! The girl gave her own story, the guy now decided to reply. One one. Moronke grow up and be more cautious. U were there and the grandma plotted under ur nose? What were u doing? Doesn’t this show how careless the girl is sef? Omo just forget the drama and move on, both of u.

    • Ife

      October 17, 2014 at 9:59 am

      Internet doesn’t forget ! She made a huge mistake putting all of this on social media . A simple missing child placement without full disclosure of parties involved would have resolved the issue .

  66. BellaNoire (www.bellanoireshop.com

    October 17, 2014 at 9:30 am

    When it comes to the affairs of a child, you DO NOT send your mother to act like that on your behalf…especially as a MAN. It is plain wrong to just assume that your mother can take the little girl WITHOUT her mother’s consent. If you came and acted appropriately on this issue, this would have been a ‘no story here’ situation. Sending mummy to do that only shows your weakness as a man.
    Now to the child’s mother, it was WRONG to fabricate some lies to paint the father of your child bad. From pictures, it looks like they have a very cordial relationship and he seems to be present in the little girl’s life, so your credibility as an individual and an honest parent is questionable.

    See? this is what happens when adults refuse to grow up. You two should sort it out like civil people for the little girl’s sake.

  67. maryam

    October 17, 2014 at 9:53 am

    Mama’s lil boy.he tinks its naija were mum in laws can com into ur house nd take over..oloshi..serves him rit.u never ever tak a kid witout d mum’s permission cos i cant imagine nt knowing were my kid is for 30mins

  68. Tee

    October 17, 2014 at 9:57 am

    Don’t want to imagine what will go down in my head when I come home to find my child missing and then I hear he/she is in another town, much worse, ANOTHER COUNTRY WITHOUT MY CONSENT!!! MBA NU!

    Hian! I will shout to the roof top and use EVERY MEANS possible.

    Except a woman is mentally unstable (with proof from Yaba Left or their likes), dangerous (by that I mean a proven Psycho) sick or brain dead,

    DO NOT TAKE HER CHILD AWAY WITHOUT HER CONSENT.

  69. Omoté

    October 17, 2014 at 9:58 am

    Lol! Wahala dey oh! See him saying after 3 months she says she’s pregnant…..when u dey ‘skin dive’ u no remember say one of d consequences nah pregnancy???? U two get ur affairs in order n save ur child the embarrassment of seeing this on the internet.

  70. CHUBBY

    October 17, 2014 at 11:32 am

    i find it hard to believe liya was taken without Temmy having an idea that such plot is being planned. My questions are for temmy are : 1.what travel document did grandma use to take liya out of the uk, 2. why will she allow a woman whose son never accepted the child live with her for 5 months, didnt she suspect anything foul to leave liya with her? 3. If all she truly wanted was her child not public pity or settle scores , she knew who and where her child was why go on social media?
    Conclusively, In as much as i do not condone grandma’s action, Temmy isn’t observant, she is a carefree and nonchalant mother.one of her reasons for this public show wound’t be anything short of child tax benefit, child care benefits, single mother claims and other government benefits she is likely to loss if liya is taken from her. MEAL TICKET.

    • Omo1

      October 17, 2014 at 12:48 pm

      I seriously reason with your comment..I beg to differ from the opinion of most of the commentators

  71. Ann

    October 17, 2014 at 11:44 am

    This case is not for me to judge. I feel for both parties and most especially the poor baby. I pray God intervenes.

  72. Jeremy

    October 17, 2014 at 11:59 am

    Firstly, I would like to plead to all readers to kindly refrain from abuse and name calling. I believe we all should indeed air our opinions and as much as possible be objective. Secondly, I would ordinarily have preferred this event to have been kept away from the public, it is indeed a family issue and should have been addressed likewise. Even if help was required I am sure there were other ways Moronke would have sought rather than social media. This is a bit messy.

    To the crux of the matter. Allow me share my thoughts
    Izu’s family did not go about this the right way and their actions could rightly or wrongly be regarded as portrayed by the word ‘Kidnap’. I don’t think we can justify their actions and I understand that any attempt to do this would come on the wrong side of the public and indeed I am not going to justify these action because I believe it wasn’t the best way to have handled it. Taking Liya away in that manner cannot really be justified.

    However, people please pause and lets reason together for a moment. You know sometimes our actions are most likely silly but when intentions and circumstances behind these actions are known we most of the time tend to tamper justice with mercy. This is what I plead for. I again repeat, we cannot justify the actions of Izu’s family but I cannot fault their intentions towards Liya and I am asking the public to have a second thought. Second thought not to justify Izu or the mum for whisking Liya away but second thought not to crucify them and label them as wayward and irresponsible. Second thought not to shy away from the fact that Izu should have made better decisions but second thought in condemning the young man without even knowing him personally. We all make mistakes, I have too but let us try and please isolate the actions from the personalities. A lot of us have made mistakes and imagine if you have been condemned without even a chance to make amends.

    I believe both Moronke and Izu made mistakes and bad choices at varying points of their lives but our tots towards them as they move on their lives journey is to pray that they find their ways and make better decisions going forward. Our tots are to be with Liya and hope that they find a way to give her a fair chance to grow up and be happy. I know Izu and the family personally, they are good people. The mum is hospitable and a good woman. They made a mistake we agree but please lets give them a chance to redeem their image. A good name is worth more than riches and please lets not stigmatize this family. Lets not judge them and put a chain of rocks on their necks. Lets give them a fighting chance to make amends, they deserve a second chance just like every one of us who have made mistakes in time past. Ronke & Izu please enough of this outside, for the sake of the pretty baby kindly resolve this and find a way not to allow your mistakes affect baby Liya’s future. She doesn’t deserve this.

    To all readers, please lets allow them rebuild their bridges as taking sides and making factions would only further tear them apart and unintentionally affect the pretty baby we all want to protect. Lets leave them alone, I can imagine how both families feel now with their issues in the keen eyes of the public. Except you are the subject we may never understand the feeling. I appeal to all readers, I beg you all with all you hold dear to you, please let them be and lets refrain from abuse.

    We all deserve a second chance. we all do

    Jeremy

    • Jay O.

      October 17, 2014 at 3:39 pm

      Well said dear…well said!!!

    • Ada Nnewi

      October 17, 2014 at 4:33 pm

      Izu’s brother well done oh! Family of saints…..mmmssccchheeww! TELL YOUR PEOPLE KIDNAP IS AGAINST THE LAW! I hope they lock up the people that took Liya the next time they set foot in the UK.

    • Julian

      October 17, 2014 at 5:43 pm

      Is people like you that loves to see people’s download…finally someone get to say something meaningful and you are still blabbing….abeg KMT*** U dont necessarily have to comment if you dont have something tangible to do…its your entire generation they would lock up, ode oshi

    • Oby

      October 17, 2014 at 8:45 pm

      Aunty ada well done o…since you re the typewriter responding to everyone here….apparently you are as jobless as I thought!!! Biko find sth tangible to do. Izuchukwu, relax God who sees in the secret wud reward in open, I know you meant well for your daughter.

      Y’all should better listen to what this jeremy guy has said and leave this family to resolve their issues privately.

  73. www.africanstorytellers.blogspot.com

    October 17, 2014 at 12:09 pm

    africanstorytellers.blogspot.com says thus:
    I like the way Izu ended his narrative. At least the whole episode has pushed the welfare of the young girl to the fore. Society will help put a watch over the trio of father, mother and daughter to see who isn’t holding up to his/her end of the bargain going forward.
    Enough said.

    africanstorytellers.blogspot says so…

  74. babes

    October 17, 2014 at 12:40 pm

    hmmm.ladies need to be more careful.this guys out there all want our waste.have been in Ronkes shoes but mine is different.he am 34 he is 40 both been married before.he claims he was not ready(can u beat that?)at my age u dont need to dangle marriage to get into my pants and i fuck u at my own discreation with or without marriage.he stayed away through out the pregnancy,begged me to have the naming at his parents(which i did cos of my parents)his mum came to stay with me for 6months cos of the baby we got close and she begged me to make sure i reconcile with her son cos she likes me.baby father is out of the country he sends upkeep.his whole family assumes am there wify God knows that is for me to decide.we have a kid together doesnt mean we have to be married.if he calls 7mnts with me just having fun na him sabi but i asked him when u were fucing me did i tell u i had no womb?lol.but have told him its a whole package me him and the kid anything short of that he is on his own.i have all records of the test he sent to reject the baby….if he acts funny i bring him own.but it doesnt change the fact that i was gullible and i accept my mistake but this guy should just shut up if he is dealing with somebody like me he may not see the baby till she is of age to decide if she wants to see daddy.GBAM.

  75. babes

    October 17, 2014 at 12:44 pm

    SO MANY ERROS IN MY WRITE UP…….NA ANGER JARE

  76. Antoinette

    October 17, 2014 at 1:36 pm

    If you’re in a ‘casual relationship’ and ure not ready for babies, USE A DAMN CONDOM. Regardless of the situation she should not have taken that child abruptly, they should have gone about it the right way..child welfare services, the court whatever. Ronke is her mum, she should have been informed. You don’t just take ppls children an travel, whether or not ure the grandparent. Wth!
    And what whr the people at the airport on? Sumn is not quite right.

  77. IOO

    October 17, 2014 at 2:36 pm

    Ronke is obviously still a kid and very immature!!! Exposing innocent little liya to the world was totally uncalled for. How could you have accused an old woman who meant well for your baby of kidnap??? no matured mother in her sane mind wud do what you did if not for anything for the sake of your baby. I still believe there’s even more to this story that we dont know. Mbok, y’all should stop washing your dirty laundries outside, these are private matters and should be treated privately. For christ sakes, this is a family matter and should be treated accordingly. There was no point putting this up on any social media in the first place. If the matter to pain you, you for just go cry for police and all other authorities.

    Izu you have done well telling us your own side of the story, and thankfully you also admitted the way liya was returned to naija wasnt the best of decision.

    Please learn from this.

    • Exquisite

      October 18, 2014 at 11:31 am

      Accused an old lady who meant well for the baby”? When will people reason? How can you mean well by taking someone’s child without telling the person? The fact that she had to secretly do it clearly shows she knew what she was doing wasn’t right. Whether the Grandma had good intentions on not, that wasn’t the way to go about it. Do you know what laboring to have a child means? As a Woman and Mother too, she could’ve been more practical.

  78. Titi_Healthnut

    October 17, 2014 at 3:10 pm

    This is truly a sad case especially for the little girl involved.
    1. Both parents were not prepared to handle the full responsibility of raising a child.
    2. No where in this explanation does the father state that mother had given her full consent to let them take their daughter to Nigeria.
    3. I also find it hard to believe that a country grants a child visa into their country without both parent’s consent. Was the Nigerian Embassy in UK careless with this?
    4. Social Media/Blog is not the right place to address your family problems.
    Overall, it seems both parties have some work to do for the same of their little girl.

    titisule.com

  79. C'est moi

    October 17, 2014 at 3:50 pm

    He was present at birth her & given the child has his surname; it is safe to say he’s probably listed on her birth certificate. In English law, “an unmarried father has parental responsibility if he’s named, or becomes named, on the child’s birth certificate.” The children Act 1989 defines parental responsibility as ‘all rights, duties, powers, responsibilities and authority which by law a parent of a child has in relation to the child and his property.’

    For a third party i.e. grandmother to take the child abroad – she must get permission of someone with parental responsibility, in this case Izu but as he is a co-parent, he also needs the mother’s consent. Likewise Moronke CANNOT take their child abroad without Izu’s consent. This is a case of child abduction not kidnap.

    • Real

      October 17, 2014 at 6:00 pm

      I do not see this as a case of child abduction or kidnap. The law says third party will get authority from a person with parental responsibility. It did not say from all the persons with parental responsibility so the authority of one person with parental responsibility is sufficient to act in the child’s best interest. The grandmother had the authority of a person with parental responsibility so she has not done anything wrong. People are forgetting that it is child’s best interetest that is paramount not the mother’s or father’s feeling. This is just an emotional blackmail. Another question is whether the child is a UK citizen. Being born in the UK does not grant you citizenship. As the mother is not settled in the UK, the Child is full Nigerian so what is the fuse here. The child is taken to her home country to be with her father. Better to be in your home country than be hiding in another man’s country and overstayign your permit. This may be the best thing that has happened to this child. So bad that she has to be placed in the public eye in this way. This could have been resolved without going to online blog in the first place. It is a shame. Why didn’t the mother call the police if she truly believed the child was missing?????
      She also lied about the father’s involvment with the child just to get sympathy. For all we know she could be using the child to archieve some objective here which is unlikely to be in the child’s best interest. I thought the mother could have gone to Nigeria by now to take the child but no. Tells you something is not straight!!!!!!!!

    • ao

      October 18, 2014 at 5:56 pm

      Excellent points.

  80. Julian

    October 17, 2014 at 5:45 pm

    Is people like you that loves to see families fight instead of figure a way in resolving issues…finally someone get to say something meaningful and you are still blabbing….abeg KMT*** U dont necessarily have to comment if you dont have something tangible to do…its your entire generation they would lock up, ode oshi

  81. Hian

    October 17, 2014 at 8:32 pm

    All these children sef. Izu, you should be ashamed of yourself. You and your mama. You are the man so I will come down on you harder (oh sorry, it is not the Naija way…but as I sabi you, I have the right). I don’t blame this lady for doing what she did, I blame you and your mama. You have disgraced us by not acting like you and the lady’s family are cordial. If there were questionable things happening, no be to inform her mama and call a meeting, then take a decision? That would have been too hard to do, you had to flex your I am the man muscle.

    Your child’s mother o, you come on here and narrate how she was a casual fling. You young men know you paint yourselves bad when you try to make a woman look loose right? You slept with a loose girl too so bruh, you are just as guilty.

    Moronke, wise up chic. You be mama now. You can’t be acting anyhow. Be on your toes. No one should be able to call you out as a bad mother. Single mothers bust their behinds and clean up their acts to give their children the world. Do the same, going to Uni is great by the way…good example for baby girl.

    Oga Izu, close your mouth and be a true father. Anyone can “snap” with the baby ok. For your mum to kidnap her, it means you were not so involved. If you are so involved, you would know Moronke has some character flaws that need checking.

    You will remarry and have more kids, please keep your mother out of your home ok. We sabi you and you are a thorough mama’s boy.

  82. Steph

    October 17, 2014 at 9:19 pm

    Ronke’s instagram/twitter
    “Today, My Liya’s return was ordered by the court… More than grateful to God, family& friends who stood by me, all the lies and spicy stories made up to portray me as an irresponsible person was futile. The Uk authorities recognise i’m a great mum, no tainted record whatsoever so shes coming home. I tried to keep things civil b/w himself & i for Liya’s sake but they exploited my kindness, decided to act like illiterates & his mum’s criminal act won’t go unpunished.”
    So the court has ordered for her to go back to her mum, case closed..

  83. steph

    October 17, 2014 at 10:16 pm

    Ronke’s instagram/twitter-
    “Today, My Liya’s return was ordered by the court… More than grateful to God, family& friends who stood by me, all the lies and spicy stories made up to portray me as an irresponsible person was futile. The Uk authorities recognise i’m a great mum, no tainted record whatsoever so shes coming home. I tried to keep things civil b/w himself & i for Liya’s sake but they exploited my kindness, decided to act like illiterates & his mum’s criminal act won’t go unpunished.”
    So the court has ordered for her to go back to her mum, case closed..

    • Steph

      October 18, 2014 at 6:48 pm

      I hate it when people act like know it alls… There would be a court hearing next month and she would be removed from being a ward of court after return, that court order is just to ensure her return. Mr know it all!

  84. James

    October 17, 2014 at 10:22 pm

    Do you know the implication of putting a child under ward of the court.Ronke is so stupid to think this is a good outcome!how could you sell your child to the uk government?without the fathers consent too!u r on path to damaging this child by that move.giving the uk govt parental rights over ur child is same as saying a white family shld take ur kid!remember u r in another mans land. Don’t lose ur child

  85. chi-e-z

    October 17, 2014 at 11:05 pm

    She had to do it to find her baby.If I was the mom I’d Instagram,Facebook,Tumlr,Skype,alert Mohammed,Budda,and Jesus to get my child back in my arms safe.

  86. Miss London

    October 17, 2014 at 11:58 pm

    This is just wrong you can not just take a child out of the country without telling the father its wrong…….. people need to stop doing that rubbish its so bad I would be so mad right now. But what’s shocks me is that its not that easy to take a child out of the county if your name on the pass port is different from yours.

  87. London baby

    October 18, 2014 at 12:07 am

    LOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOL sorry I had to laugh you are very right you hit the nail on the head lmao x

  88. enitan

    October 18, 2014 at 12:37 am

    U did the wrong thing…totally wrong…if am ronke u and your mom will go to jail.,mummys boy

  89. PD Young Billionaire

    October 18, 2014 at 12:51 am

    @ Jeremy….Well said!
    @Ada Nnewi….Try to be reasonable n fair pls!

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