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Monalisa Takes a Stand against Domestic Violence & Reveals She Was Once a Victim

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Nollywood actress Monalisa Chinda is sharing a part of her past what was otherwise unknown to the world.

Using her Twitter account to take a stand against domestic violence, Monalisa Chinda revealed that she was once a victim of domestic violence but she survived and became stronger.

She announced an event and stated that she will be sharing her story with the world through that platform.

22 Comments

  1. bruno

    December 11, 2014 at 4:49 pm

    also no woman has the right to lay a hand on a man.

    why do women portray men as violent. must of the time, is you womwn that cause it. almoat all the time you women are the ones that are at fault.

    go and aak women who have been beaten by their husband/boyfriend, most of them have one thing in common, they dont know when to keep quite and let it go

    a husband and wife get into an argument that lasts up to one hour, the husband is tired and says its okay, u are the winner, let it go, but no, the wife will continue shouting and talking and insulting. the man leaves the parlour and goes to the bedroom, the woman follows him and continues her b!tching, the man leaves the bedroom and goea to the toilet, the woman follows him and continues nagging and shouting, what do u think the husband will do next, is it not to give her a dirty slap, and thats how a fight will start, then the woman will come out and start saying she’s a victim of domestic violence blah blah blah.

    pls no double standards here. solange waa slapping and kicking jay z, nobody said anything, assuming jay z slapped her, we would be calling him woman beater and sorts

    • Listen up

      December 11, 2014 at 6:12 pm

      You need therapy Bruno before u hurt someone….. No excuse to hit anyone. U can leave the house and go for a drive or lock yourself in a room to cool off when there is an argument. The emphasis is greater on men because they are physically stronger ( God gave you stronger bones, more red blood cells for energy and the hormone of aggression testosterone) so you can do more damage. The standards cannot be the same……men don’t carry babies do they? So we were built differently. Better to be wise than to be a potential murderer.

      No one should be unduly aggressive in any situation both male and female but when the poop hits the fan, a real man who knows the potential damage he can cause will show real strength from restraint. Real power comes from controlling yourself and not having someone’s temper control you.

    • Stephanie-feld

      December 11, 2014 at 7:14 pm

      Here is the classic example of the double standards Bruno was talking about. I think you are the one that rather needs the therapy not Bruno. As women, we scream about feminism and wanting equality but when it comes to the front of our door folks like you cry murder. Nobody and I repeat Nobody (female or male) has a right to be laying their hands on anyone.The same restraint and control you ask of men should be asked of us women too. Don’t go laying your filthy hands on a man and come crying that the man has bigger bones when he replies you in kind. Provoking domestic violence happens in every race however, black women are very notorious for that ISH. Just this week there was a Bella post on a guy who has a violent wife and of course some people were asking him to still stay in the marriage. If it was a woman they would tell her to run away. Here is the link: http://www.bellanaija.com/2014/12/09/aunty-bella-mr-violently-abusive-wife/

      Let’s take a look at the Solange elevator fight: A very large percentage of the people who called out Chris Brown when he bruised Rihanna’s face were the same ones making stupid excuses for Solange. It was a terrific gesture that Jay-Z CHOSE not to react in kind, however if had reacted in king Solange would have had absolutely no right at all to complain. If Jay-Z had reacted in kind you will be the same ones coming to cry that he has stronger bones. To people like you it’s ok because it’s a woman doing the hitting. If everyone keeps their hands to themselves then we will not have to deal with whether the other party has stronger or weaker bones. I think every human being has a right to protect themselves if they are getting hit. The standard should be the same for both Men and Women. Everyone (Man and Woman) keep your damn hands to yourself so you don’t have to deal with the after effect.
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    • Miss Jones

      December 12, 2014 at 2:50 am

      Shut up there! Is she your daughter? As long as the lady doesn’t put her hands on you, why should you beat her? Na you born am? If the lady/guy is pissing you off to pieces and you can no longer stand her/him , you never hear of divorce or separation? I don’t even like divorces but once your life is in danger, you take a leap of faith and bounce out.. Don’t let the devil tempt you okay? That’s how one person will end up dead, domestic violence is no joke guys. People are losing parents, sisters, brothers, families and friends to this thing that there is always an ” excuse ” for. It goes from one dirty slap to laying in a morgue. Don’t take It likely. If my husband beats me up ( e no fit happen ) I will walk away.Yes! easier said than done but I gonna do just that! Nothing in this world is by force. Not a damn thing. How can you even be beating up someone you claim to love?Husbands and wives please let’s respect ourselves. You can work things out without behaving like animals and if you try and e no work, WALK AWAY!!!!!!

    • Listen up

      December 12, 2014 at 10:49 pm

      Stefanie read again…..the comment did NOT justify women hitting men but asks him to take responsibility for his own part of the situation…….you can control YOURSELF even if the other person is uncontrollable…..if you end up killing or hurting someone who will lose out or end up in jail?…..what part of “there is no excuse for anyone to hit anyone” didn’t u understand?……and its a fact that men are biologically stronger so they are held liable to higher standards because they can do more harm…….no one should hit anyone

  2. Sonia Paloma

    December 11, 2014 at 4:53 pm

    “No man has the right to lay his hands on you without your permission” Erhmm, so it is okay with his/her permission abi? I don’t think I will give anyone permission to beat me biko lol
    All the same, we get your message 🙂

  3. bruno

    December 11, 2014 at 5:11 pm

    ladies,pls if you hit the man and the man started beating you, you are not a victim of domeatic violence.

    you asked for it, you started it first, and the man retaliated.

    society has brainwashed every man with theses words ” real men don’t hit women” . a woman slaps a man and the man does nothing, that will give the woman more confidence to slap another man in future. ome day she may even slap a nigerian police office and they will shoot her.

    so pls monalisa, teach women to stop slapping men, stop jacking or holding a man shirt or insulting men any how.

    I dont like double standard or partiality.

    • To Bruno

      December 19, 2014 at 4:10 pm

      Hi Bruno, when your mum slaps you, beat her and if the bouncer pushes you, give a kick. Salut’

  4. bruno

    December 11, 2014 at 5:12 pm

    ladies,pls if you hit the man and the man starts beating you, you are not a victim of domestic violence.

    you asked for it, you started it first, and the man retaliated.

    society has brainwashed every man with theses words ” real men don’t hit women” . a woman slaps a man and the man does nothing, that will give the woman more confidence to slap another man in future. ome day she may even slap a nigerian police office and they will shoot her.

    so pls monalisa, teach women to stop slapping men, stop jacking or holding a man shirt or insulting men any how.

    I dont like double standard or partiality.

    • Changing Faces

      December 11, 2014 at 5:52 pm

      You have said the same thing 3 times. We have heard you; we are neither deaf or blind!

  5. jcsgrl

    December 11, 2014 at 5:25 pm

    Good for you hun. More women need to share their stories to help others

  6. Laura

    December 11, 2014 at 7:33 pm

    Have no words for Bruno…pls where is the conference holding?

  7. Laura

    December 11, 2014 at 7:35 pm

    Have no words for Bruno…pls where is the conference holding?bruno I have words actually…ur a fool& U can keep telling yourself dat,ass!

    • bruno

      December 11, 2014 at 8:13 pm

      @laura, I can tell u love to slap men, but u dont want them to slap u back, why? equal rights for all abi.

  8. bruno

    December 11, 2014 at 8:22 pm

    I think we need to thoroughly define what domeatic violence is. cause all of a sudden every nigerian woman is claiming to be a victim of domestic violence.

    if u layed hands on ur husband/boyfriend and they retaliated by beating you back, how are u (the woman) a victim of domestic violence. u started it first.

    u said men are naturally stronger than women. bullcrap (dont let feminists catch u saying that sentence cause they will blast u, men and women are equally) and by the way if a man is naturally stronger than a woman then why are women slapping men when they know the man is stronger and can beat hell out of them.

    • Opinion

      December 13, 2014 at 1:55 am

      Bruno, Majority of domestic violence against women were not preceded by a woman hitting the man……typically its a setting of a control freak, insecurity or excessive jealousy…..yes women do mouth off during arguments but why do u think that warrants physical abuse?……if your boss at work mouths off at you why don’t u slap them? It’s because a coward takes advantage of those whom he feels in control of he is never bold enough to face his match…..if your daughter mouths off to her husband and he beats her to a state of unconsciousness or even death will u stand by your foolish words that’s she deserved it?

  9. Somebody

    December 11, 2014 at 10:52 pm

    Bruno, somewhere in your past I’m sure there was a woman who whopped your tail so bad and made you feel so helpless and emasculated that till this day your never pass on the opportunity to pass on the bile, rage and anger you feel towards her to other women. Who was it? Your aunty, mother, sister, grandma or nanny?

  10. Star

    December 12, 2014 at 12:02 am

    Wow! Just a word for Bruno, the ferocity at which you have attacked the issue of violence mostly from a one sided point of view is a bit scary. It makes me wonder about your person.

    Objectivity is so important in life. It can never be a one size that fits all. It is important to note that a slap from a woman to a man cannot be compared to a slap from a man to a woman, the force is something else.

    I believe that no side should instigate the other, but you should also check the statistics and know that in most societies women bear the brunt of violence (being the weaker subject in terms of physical strength).

    Reading comments on this issue saddens me, because it shows how much of our values that we are losing, Once I saw a man beating up his pregnant wife by the road side. There were a group men, who were simply on-lookers. I screamed at my driver to stop as I rushed to the scene to stop this man. The on-lookers’ excuse was that it is a marital issue. Pray, tell me, how much of what she said or did could ever justify beating her, especially in such a fragile condition. She was sobbing and at some point fell to the floor. These men just kept looking and my rushing to the scene acted as a catalyst for them to restrain the man. I was ready to use my own body to protect the poor lady. PREGNANT, for crying out loud, how did we ever get to this stage!!!!!!!!!!!!

    I have been a victim and truly in most cases, it will come even when you hide away. Once a man raises his hand , he continues whether there is reason or no reason.

    My next question to you Bruno is, do you love your mother? Do you love your sisters?

    ABUSE-VOILENCE is wrong in every ramification whether it is male or female, two wrongs can never make a right.

    Please do not hide behind the wall that she got what she deserved because she instigated it, remember, you decide how you react in every situation.

    May God bless and keep us all safe, Amen,

  11. Rhoda ngulu

    December 12, 2014 at 1:45 am

    Men are bitches!!!

  12. Shimmer diva

    December 12, 2014 at 2:20 am

    NO TO DOMESTIC VIOLENCE. ON BOTH SIDES.. Bruno have a sit you have ranted enough. Ugh it is enough.

  13. lee

    December 12, 2014 at 11:41 am

    please where is Pearls conference ? i need to attend

  14. Esther

    December 12, 2014 at 3:04 pm

    I say NO to any form of violence !

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