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In 2012, politician and Onion Crunch creator Nick Loeb proposed to Modern Family actress Sofia Vergara.

He planned the proposal in style, by whisking her, her son, her costars from the hit ABC show, including 107 friends to Mexico for her 40th birthday.

They were one of the most loved couples on the red carpet. There were numerous designers sending her sketches for a wedding dress. But 2 years later in May 2014, the couple split.

Fast forward to 2015, news broke out that in 2013 Sofia and Nick planned to have children, so they decided on an assisted reproduction method – the use of embryos (her eggs and his sperm).

The couple agreed that the frozen embryos will be destroyed if one party dies, but did not consider their options if they split up.

Nick claims that since Sofia has moved on and is engaged to actor Joe Manganiello, she wants to destroy the embryos.

Her rep released a statement to People Magazine that Sofia has no plans to destroy the embryos but wants to freeze them indefinitely.

“The claims made against Sofia Vergara by Nick Loeb are uncredible and hold no merit,” Sofia’s attorney, Fred Silberberg, said in a statement. “Vergara has never wanted to destroy her embryos.

The agreement signed by Vergara and Loeb in November 2013 when the embryos were created states that no unilateral action can be taken with regard to the embryos unless both parties consent.

Furthermore, Vergara has never suggested that she wished to have the embryos destroyed. She has always maintained that they be kept frozen, a fact of which Loeb and his counsel have always been aware, despite Loeb’s statements to the contrary.

Vergara, who has happily moved on with her life, is content to leave the embryos frozen indefinitely as she has no desire to have children with her ex, which should be understandable given the circumstances.”

Nick then released a statement to US Magazine today;

“I have always strongly believed that life begins at fertilization and that every embryo is a life on the journey towards birth. I created these two female embryos with the purpose of taking them to term and not destruction, because I have always dreamed of being a father.

I have previously offered to waive any parental or financial responsibilities or obligations on the part of my ex, and to even give her the opportunity to be involved with the child in the future, should she change her mind. I take the responsibility and obligation of being a parent very seriously.

Creating an embryo in the natural way can lead to parenthood obligations, even where a man doesn’t want to become a father. Where a man does want to become a father, and wants to impose no obligations on the other party, he should have that corresponding right. However life comes to be created, it should have no determination on either the rights of wanting to be or the requirements of having to be a parent.”

The ongoing discussion about the situation is that people think that Nick has a right to those embryos just as much as Sofia because his DNA is involved, and Sofia should have made sure documents were put in place if they split in the future. Nick is a Republican and believes that life begins at conception.

Another side of the discussion is that people think Sofia has moved on and is engaged to Joe, and Nick is just trying to hurt her with the story of the frozen embryos.

What’s your take? How should it have been handled? Let’s Talk About It!

Photo Credit: Sofia Vergara’s Who Say Page

36 Comments

  1. precy

    April 21, 2015 at 11:01 pm

    I think he still loves her. Wanting to keep the embryos and having the kids is a sign that he doesn’t want her completely out of his life. And if sofia really wants to keep them too,then she still has some sort of feelings for him. Else, why would a woman/man (considering the way they do things) want to keep embryos he/she made with an ex.
    But again she might really want to keep them as a back up plan just incase. She is close to menopause you know. Lol..

    • Wale

      April 22, 2015 at 10:56 am

      A wise man in the bible once asked to split a baby to settle a fight, I wonder if the same man would suggest splitting the embryos or separating them…I am sure technology has advanced to that stage.

  2. @edDREAMZ

    April 21, 2015 at 11:09 pm

    a.k.a EDWIN CHINEDU AZUBUKO said…
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    Everything sounded weired i swear….
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    ***CURRENTLY IN JUPITER***

  3. Steph

    April 21, 2015 at 11:19 pm

    What happened to just having sex and making babies? Lol

    • Nia

      April 22, 2015 at 12:51 am

      Sometimes age is not babies friendly so na to freeze embryo remain

    • BlueEyed

      April 22, 2015 at 4:52 am

      @Steph How old are you cos u sure sound like an uninformed teenager. I bet when you hear of couples trying to have kids for long and now try the scientific way you think they are not having enough sex. #EducateYourself

    • nene

      April 22, 2015 at 6:51 pm

      i dunk oh. oyinbo people and their wahala. people abuse science, walahi!

  4. tish

    April 21, 2015 at 11:20 pm

    I’m confused!

  5. Bide

    April 21, 2015 at 11:26 pm

    Nawa o

  6. daisy

    April 21, 2015 at 11:29 pm

    I think its just wrong for someone to use an embryo that has your ex’ egg in it. Its weird and super creepy. And this Nick dude needs to chill and take life easy. Imagine getting married to another man and your ex makes a baby from your frozen embryo together. Infact these people are the cause of their own issues. Why didn’t they freeze their eggs and sperm separately?

  7. shady

    April 21, 2015 at 11:35 pm

    Nick wants to be a father but has Sofia really moved on?

  8. fleur

    April 21, 2015 at 11:40 pm

    No be Small. If this is not “I must have you by all means” I dont Know what is. Lesson for all these hi tech people these days. fReeze your eggs, Not embryos. In fact creating embryos implicitly means some unspoken agreement to be bound to each other 4 ever. Men’s sperm is good till they die. In fact think of the torture those embryonic lives have gone through staying in stasis in a freezer, against a natural time clock that Started ticking when the embryos formed. They put 2 Kids in a freezer for years. SAD!

  9. jumii

    April 21, 2015 at 11:41 pm

    He does have the right to those embryos, but it seems like he’s trying to hold on to a part of Sofia by all means. If he really wants to be a father there are other ways with less hassle to go about it. He should leave those embryos as they are and pick this battle the day Sofia wants to destroy them. Look for happiness man, you have your whole life ahead, don’t waste it in court!

  10. Zelafrica

    April 22, 2015 at 12:02 am

    They {Nick & Sofia} can sit down and decide on destroying the Embryos permanently, and move on quietly to enjoy thier respective new found Love.

  11. aarya stark

    April 22, 2015 at 12:25 am

    Has he run out of sperm? Why won’t he hook up with another woman and have a baby?…The guy is thirsty.

  12. Person

    April 22, 2015 at 12:44 am

    A woman’s eggs alone never did an embryo make 😉 He has just as much rights to the embryos as she does, especially since they were conceived outside of her body. If she got pregnant the ‘natural way’, I’ll say it’s her body and she can do whatever she wants, but embryos are not in her body. I’m firmly #teamprochoice, especially for those in non-marital relationships. Let’s just say the courts will have a field day with this one.

  13. uju

    April 22, 2015 at 4:32 am

    Rich people problems. Dude wants sexy Sophia looking kids…lol

  14. Teetee

    April 22, 2015 at 6:48 am

    In my opinion,this is not much of an issue. If Nick wants to be a father, those embryos aren’t his only hope. How about moving on with someone else and having kids with dt person.Agreed he also has rights to the embryos but does he want a reminder of ‘love gone sour” all the days of his life?He clearly wants to hold on to something ‘Sofia’ or he just wants to pour sand in Sofia’s garri.

  15. chy

    April 22, 2015 at 7:43 am

    this dude needs to sit still. he doesn’t love her but wants to make her life a living hell, he’s angry that she’s happy and he’s not. how does he expect her to watch him create a child from her DNA without her approval and her say so. Imbecilic attitude. he should impregnate a girl and have as many kids as he wants.

  16. me

    April 22, 2015 at 7:57 am

    Yes he has rights, and yes the egg is fertilized but technically there’s no heartbeat so there is no life.
    My prediction – The courts will actually destroy the embryo’s because if they give effect to Nicks wishes then they are basically forcing Sofia Vegara to be a mum, then from the beginning they are going to subject the child to a home where the parents are separated and so family law will have to deal with child support issues, residence issues, surrogacy issues and all of that before the child even forms a heartbeat so the courts will probably stop it now before it creates a ripple effect. Again the courts will consider the fact that he can have other children.
    Another line of argument is what if she was pregnant for Nick and decided to have an abortion, he believes life starts at conception and he was the father of the pregnancy but if she says she doesn’t want to have his baby any more she can terminate it. If she is able to terminate the pregnancy in her, she should be able to have the embryo’s destroyed. Its her baby either way.

  17. purplish

    April 22, 2015 at 8:02 am

    I think nick still loves her is the bottom of this matter.

  18. Ayishaa

    April 22, 2015 at 8:22 am

    First and foremost this is a 5 to 7 week pregnancy meaning the kids have already been formed. What I don’t get is y they didn’t freeze her eggs. My own take is if Sofia was pregnant and they didn’t go thru with the wedding, will he ask her to abort the pregnancy? He should let things be for now, if the embryo’s get to full term, he will be their dad and no one will take that away from him.

  19. JAYNNE

    April 22, 2015 at 8:29 am

    THIS STORY IS WEIRD BUT I THINK HE HAS AS MUCH RIGHT TO THE EMBRYO AS SOPHIA

  20. suin

    April 22, 2015 at 9:04 am

    to me ooo, na r both not serious! they both know they wont last y agree to such thing in the first place.

  21. heeba

    April 22, 2015 at 10:03 am

    My take is that they are CRAZY!!!!

  22. Jassmine

    April 22, 2015 at 10:07 am

    Well, if they both want the baby together, a surrogate can be contracted cause technically the embryo is an intentional act of creating a ‘Human’ destroying the embryo is like committing a murder (sic). Nevertheless this decision was made while they were together. In a situation whereby they both had a child or children together wouldd they kill ’em cause they are no more in a relationship? Exactly, they can both be in the child’s life without being a couple. ( 1st time commenting on BN)

    • molarah

      April 22, 2015 at 6:40 pm

      First make-sense comment I’ve come across. People please let’s not be sidetracked by technical terms, embryo is just a scientific name for a baby. Will you propose that all the children from a marriage should be killed because the marriage is ending in a divorce? Yes it’s clear the guy is just trying to hang on, because he initially agreed that the embryos should be destroyed if he or Sofia dies, so why the sudden change of heart? Nonetheless I’ll never support the destruction of life at any stage, and even more so when the intent is just to satisfy some selfish desire to “not be inconvenienced”.

  23. honest one

    April 22, 2015 at 10:32 am

    Its sad when you claim to love someone and spend years with that person and when you suddenly break up, your so-called loved one sets out to cause you pain. Sometimes i wonder what happened to true love. Peaceful love. The one where even though you don’t wish your ex the best at least you aren’t vindictive. its so sad that you claim to love someone at some point but you wish them harm once you split.
    This kinda love sucks

  24. Very sad indeed

    April 22, 2015 at 10:55 am

    This is what happens when people try to play God. May God have mercy on the world.
    Medical ethics needs to be reviewed.
    Sofia should have just frozen her eggs….after alist the sperm will always be there.
    Those embryos are LIVES. …and to just destroy them like they are nothing is murder.
    Since they planned to destroy them if one person dies….why do that in the first place?

  25. LotusFlower

    April 22, 2015 at 11:39 am

    What should happen? Nothing. The agreement states that no decision can be taken without agreement from both parties. Although he wants to use the embryo, she is not doing anything wrong (as per their agreement) in not agreeing to it. All he can do know is shame and “convince” her, which is exactly what he is trying to do. She should stand her ground. Let the embryos remain frozen.

  26. Mysteeq

    April 22, 2015 at 11:54 am

    From the narrative I gather there are two embryos and two parties involved….why not just take one each and lets be done with it. although why one would want to have children with an ex “after” breaking up is beyond me..

  27. adelegirl

    April 22, 2015 at 3:01 pm

    I doubt any court will actually go ahead and rule in Mr Loeb’s favour and allow for the embryos to be born, without Sofia Vergara’s express consent. I think it’s slightly creepy on Nick’s part to insist on producing those embryos with Sofia’s eggs especially when she is no longer willing to have children with him. His argument makes absolutely no sense to me and it seems obvious that he is still hurting from the break-up and the fact that Sofia is now engaged and may well go on to have children with Joe naturally- that must be very irksome to him. It’s like raping her woman just to get her pregnant and forcing her to have the child produced from that rape- rather extreme analogy I know, but that’s what comes to mind. Nick needs to move on and find another woman to bear the children he so desires to have. Sofia is not the only woman in the world. At least nature favours him- he is a man and can always do it the old fashioned way and actually fall in love with a woman willing to bear his children (except of course there is something physically preventing him or his sperm from reproducing. Even then, there are other options he may pursue to have his won children (Ask MJ (the pop star not Mercy Johnson o)

  28. ife

    April 22, 2015 at 5:17 pm

    BN please post my comment oh!!!! Any way this guy seems like a psycho…why do you want to hang on to the embryos made with a woman who obviously doesn’t want you anymore. These same embryos you agreed to destroy if one of the contributing parties died. It seems very weird to me. I am sure there are egg banks out there where he can get donor eggs for his baby cause. it is obviously he is just looking for ways to permanently holding on to this woman. God save us from “psycho exes”

  29. Destiny

    April 22, 2015 at 7:41 pm

    What happened to simply having a baby with the woman you are currently in love with, the woman you’ll marry? Does he not know that he is creating future wahala for his future wife?

    • fedup

      May 7, 2015 at 6:50 pm

      what ever happened to first simply getting married and THEN having a baby with your wife, the woman you want to build a life with?

  30. fedup

    May 7, 2015 at 2:26 pm

    this is what happens when things are done out of the natural order, when you play God, and when you convince yourself that all of this technological intervention in the fashioning of babies and families is perfectly normal. it isn’t. it’s a hot sloppy mess. when you need to have contracts drafted and lawyers and courts involved in the crafting of human life, you already know that you are doing something that’s not normal, natural, or ethical. get married, have babies, and if things are just so unbearable that you cannot live together as a couple any longer, despite therapy, get divorced and learn to co-parent.

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