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Betty Irabor says ‘Blame social media for the break up of celebrity marriages’

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betty irabor 1Veteran journalist and founder of Genevieve Magazine Betty Irabor shared a series of tweets recently; talking about the fact that social media takes a toll on celebrity marriages.

She first visited this topic a few months ago (click here if you missed it).

According to her, the meddlesomeness of social media and it’s over sensationalism of lovers tiffs is more often the reason marriages have issues.

See her tweets below.

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35 Comments

  1. Benita

    July 3, 2015 at 10:53 am

    My sentiments exactly. This is what messed up toke makinwa marriage. She kept on talking about her “perfect” marriage on the vlogs. She kept going for all sorts of parties so as to appear on same social media. Instead of her to cool her head, go behind closed doors and sort her family out she is all over Instagram and still talking Bout how it isn’t her fault someone slept with her hubby in same social media. During our parents days, no one knew what happened in respective marriages. Now if UR husband kisses u , u post it on Facebook. Foolishness!!!! E-marriage people. A word is enough for the wise.

    • Summer

      July 3, 2015 at 7:58 pm

      Shame on you! Wetin Toke do you? Is she the first person whose marriage will end? Pls. let the girl be.

  2. ik

    July 3, 2015 at 11:02 am

    Gracias ma. I wonder why our parents who had lesser opportunities’ than us were able to celebrate 30years of marriage but PhD and Masters degree holders cannot hold down a union for 1year.
    Until people come to understand that there should be boundaries then this sacred institution will continue be threatened.

    • eniola

      July 3, 2015 at 11:41 am

      Why do you have to bring in PhD and masters degree holders as if having those qualifications automatically ruins your marriage? How about those without PhD’s and masters whose marriages have ended? Please don’t turn educated people into villains. Stay blessed 🙂

    • chichi

      July 3, 2015 at 1:31 pm

      *facepalm* Eniola pls read IK’s comment again.

    • Meme

      July 3, 2015 at 2:41 pm

      Eni darling you did not read IK’s comment properly.. or perhaps you read but did not understand it.

    • eniola

      July 3, 2015 at 6:37 pm

      I think IK’s comment can be easily misconstrued. I read and understood it one way but it seems that there’s another way of looking at it.

  3. jummai

    July 3, 2015 at 11:02 am

    Tell them ma, pls tell them I hope they listen.

  4. Passerby

    July 3, 2015 at 11:11 am

    Madam, I totally disagree with your opinion. Celebrities who are victims of broken marriages did not find themselves there because off social media, the marriages failed bcos they did not care and perhaps their was no understanding between both parties. If you love something or someone, you will do your best to keep them or it, making them happy and feeling blessed that they have you in their lives. Don’t come blaming the public for failed marriages that as never our fault.

    I do agree that the public can be over intrusive sometimes, but we are not the cause of failed celebrity marriages. The public did not cause Monalisa to breakup from her ex-husband, neither did we force Kate henshaw, nor Chika Ike…. biko nu

    • chy

      July 3, 2015 at 12:08 pm

      thank u dear.u hv said it all

    • VK

      July 3, 2015 at 2:17 pm

      To add to what @passerby said isn’t Betty Irabor’s Genevieve Magazine on social media publishing celebe

    • VK

      July 3, 2015 at 2:19 pm

      (to continue)- publishing celebrity weddings and so forth? I think that too is part of the problem.

  5. annie Mbz

    July 3, 2015 at 11:12 am

    Word!!!! you said it all ma’am

  6. yellow sissy

    July 3, 2015 at 11:35 am

    @Benita,Must you mention name,why Toke?

  7. bruno FIERCE

    July 3, 2015 at 11:51 am

    straight people cant stay married nowadays. what is the matter? u heterosexuals are always hungry for divorce, its appalling to say the least.

    unrelated news: bellanaija I cant believe u are not covering the whole sherri sheppard gold digging ex husband, unwanted baby scandal. so messy. you heteros are very messy human beings. tufia for una.

    • aaewhy

      July 3, 2015 at 3:15 pm

      Biko Bruno take several seats and stop shoving your homosexuality down our throats and into every topic

    • eniola

      July 3, 2015 at 6:47 pm

      Bruno, you love all the attention you get on here don’t you? You constantly attack heterosexuals in order to uphold your own views. If your lifestyle of choice is so perfect and not prone to error, why not focus on living it out to the best of your ability instead of trying to bring others down? Your comments only show how insecure you are about the choices you’ve made. You’ve built this persona “Bruno FIERCE’ on this platform but at the end of the day, you are just a man hiding behind his computer.

    • Amira

      July 8, 2015 at 2:36 pm

      heterosexuals are always hungry for divorce because they are seeking for the anuses of homosexuals. Idiotic talk. Omo oshi like you too is a product of heterosexual sex sadly

  8. Beeeee

    July 3, 2015 at 12:00 pm

    I don’t agree totally. She has raised valid points but all marriages are not equal. It’s about the people involved being mature adults. There are people who live and breathe social media and flood people’s timelines with their marriage happenings. When the marital issues arise, we hear nothing about it. Because they are mature enough to deal with those issues privately. There are also people who do not put anything about their marriages on social media but when something negative happens, it’s all over Facebook and Twitter and stuff. My grandparents were divorced before I was born. Do we blame social media for that? Blame social media for the breakup of celebrity marriages. Seriously? I do not think that is a fair assessment. The fact that you are supposedly doing well in your marriage and keeping it off social media does not make you an authority on it. You can offer advice and talk about your experiences. Several celebrities have divorced without the help of social media. I get where she is going but marriage is not a “one size fits all” thing.

  9. chy

    July 3, 2015 at 12:07 pm

    i dnt totally agree with you anty betty.omotola is always seen with the husband and media carry the news same with a whole lot of them who flaunts their husbands and partners.it depends on how u handle ur home.some took their job as their topmost priority instead of their home.charity begins at home,impress the home before u impress the streets

  10. Tunmi

    July 3, 2015 at 12:32 pm

    Why do people like referring to how our grandparents lived? Granted, some had enriching marriages. But do you know how many also suffered? And NO, social media didn’t ruin anyone’s marriage, it was the two people in the marriage. The divorce rate is high because women realise they can financially survive without the woman. Toke’s husband cheated, but that was social media’s fault. Ini Edo’s husband nko? Funje Akindele’s husband nko? Or the celebs who were able to get out of abusive marriages nko?? Woman, get to know your fellow celebs. Besides, no one knows how YOU are living.

    Life does not end after divorce. You only have one life abeg. Rather than advocating personal happiness and fulfillment, she’s lambasting people. Shior

    • Mohammad

      July 4, 2015 at 2:59 am

      Why do I love you so?!

  11. husband/boyfy

    July 3, 2015 at 12:37 pm

    1. Wifey/gf sees a picture of her friend on instagram/facebook doing PDA, comes back home to say hubby/boyfy isnt romantic enough therefore she wanna explore as the hubby/bofy no dey too romantic.

    Not knowing that you only see the good side on fACEBOOK/INSTAGRAM. The day they quarrel, you never see it

    2. Wifey/gf sees porn on the media, sees the man having sex with the girl for 3hours non stop, comes back home to tell hubby/boyfy that your dick is too small and you cant last for 3hours straight. I wanna break up and explore.

    Not knowing that those guys are on drugs, the whole movie are into acts and scenes; many cuts and joins.

    3. Wifey/gf sees naijagirlskilling it on instagram or some girls flying private jets, comes back home to tell hubby/boyfy that you are too lazy. Your colleagues are flying their wives/gfs on private jet, shopping all over the world and you are here saying “it will soon be well”
    I want to break up/divorce.

    Not knowing all hands are not equal; not knowing some have been working for ages b4 they attained that level; not knowing some have privileged parents; not knowing some are into runs; not knowing some are into charms….

    4. Wifey/gf comes on Bella naija where the other girls say it is fire for fire. If your Man/bf says 1, reply with 1,2,3,4. She gets home, hubby/bf says 1, she says no i cant take it anymore. Lets break up/bivorce

    Not knowing many live a 2 faced life. they say one thing online but do the other in physical; not knowing many have allergies for anything man….

    5. GF sees BN wedding, tells boyfy if you cant impress me or do beyond that, no need planning again. Let us call it bluff…

    Many dont have a mind of their own
    Many live by the set standards of others
    Many live by the dictates/advice of people they have never seen in their life on social media

    Social Media and Relationships!
    Social Media and Relationships!
    Social Media and Relationships!

    • new bride

      July 3, 2015 at 2:01 pm

      God bless you for this epistle!

    • ThatAbiribaBae

      July 3, 2015 at 2:23 pm

      I guess this is from a man’s perspective dear @husband/boyfy

    • Mz Socially Awkward...

      July 3, 2015 at 2:39 pm

      Let me be real honest with you and Betty I. Even though I’ll give some credit to the advice to keep your relationship away from social media as much as possible, you can’t blame anyone else but the two parties involved for what happens in their marriage.

      Before social media, there was tatafo in other forms, which still thrived very well in the community and threatened marital unions. August meeting in my village was enough cause for men to develop high blood pressure between the months of March and July because your Mrs. must stunt na, what do you mean? Her wrapped better be in the upper range of whatever was trending and her ride? Make we no talk go that side…??

      Competition, gossip and meddlesome people will continue to exist among us and after social media (eventually) stops being the media to flex on, another forum will arise. The only real defense a marriage needs is strength of character, both parties have to be mature enough to know what’s important to their union. Otherwise, blaming social media is akin to me deciding to pursue a career in “runz” and using the excuse that I was sitting and minding my own business when someone’s post on the ‘Gram forced me to sleep with my father’s age mates. We need to own up to our own insecurities which has given social media this much influence over our lives.

    • The real D

      July 4, 2015 at 3:44 am

      Amen!!!!

    • Tunmi

      July 3, 2015 at 4:16 pm

      Chaleeee why na, why do you hate women so much. So according to you, all na woman fault ehn??

    • Californiabawlar

      July 3, 2015 at 6:06 pm

      No now, he only gave a man’s perspective of when it’s a woman’s fault(via social media vices). Nothing more or less.

      It’s hard to believe these things happen but they probably do…

  12. Arin

    July 3, 2015 at 2:47 pm

    And very annoying. So from your epistle it is wify /gf fault marriages and relationships don’t work. #beingafemaleinNigeria. Men should learn to take responsibility. It is called a “partnership” for a reason.

  13. Ladybird

    July 3, 2015 at 2:55 pm

    I disagree with you..social media is part of her job…n its not like she shares everything going on in her life ..just a photo here and there.Toke is not responsible for keeping her husband in check…her husband too needs to do his duty as a responsible husband…even thing else is irrelevant….n what’s wrong with sharing pda…n affection on social media???!!!.for most people it’s a happy occasion they want to share with their family and friends..if you don’t like it move along….lastly if her husband truly loved and respected her (as he should)… he would have been faithful to her…its not the woman’s fault

  14. Tari

    July 3, 2015 at 3:53 pm

    I struggle to see past her botoxed face.

  15. taller

    July 3, 2015 at 4:25 pm

    Pls someone help me with a unique place to buy CURTAINS. Pls nt tejuosho or yaba abeg

  16. PD Young Billionaire

    July 4, 2015 at 4:05 am

    A marriage that will be successful will surely be,regardless of social media.

  17. akissi

    July 5, 2015 at 7:22 pm

    @ taller… your random comment actually made me burst out laughing! LMAO!!! Na really who wear shoe know where e dey pain am

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