Tito Idakula, musician Bez Idakula‘s wife, has recently launched a blog and website to help spread the message of God’s love through a tragic loss.
Most people did not know that Tito & her husband were expecting a baby that they eventually lost, after a full-term pregnancy.
The couple got married in January 2014.
The BN Team has reached out to Tito and she has promised to speak to us in an exclusive video interview soon, but for now please see an excerpt from the blog below – www.mylighthouse.com.ng/features/.
It is so odd, writing about the loss of a child, you fear that the words can never fully express the pain and the gravity of the situation. But I don’t mean to just express my pain and loss. I mean to show God’s power and love even in the darkest days.
I come from a culture of silence, where speaking about certain issues is almost taboo. One of the most kept secrets is when a woman loses a child, no one talks about it and it is almost like it never happened. People only speak about it when the woman has another child or they find out that you have lost a child. I fall in the category of the latter.
I gave birth to my beautiful daughter on the 2nd of March 2015 and she passed away on the 3rd of March 2015, after 42 weeks of pregnancy.”
In the rest of the post, she talks about her 14 hours of labour, her daughter’s extremely rare condition, and how her faith helped her and still does. She ends the post on an optimistic note,
The reason I am sharing this is not because I want a pity party but because I want to share God’s love even in the midst of pain. I want to share His love NOW. A lot of times when we go through difficult moments as Christians, we seem to forget all about God and we just wait until times get good again before sharing our testimonies. We almost forget that it is God that holds us up when we could have broken down. It is God that sustains us and gives us the ability to move forward. I love the quote that says ‘until the doors of blessings open, praise God in the hallway”. A lot of people have marvelled at my husband and I’s ability to move forward so fluidly and so strongly but we are always quick to give God the Praise. My best friends kept asking me the question ‘are you sleeping now’ a few days after and I always laughed because sleep was not a problem.
God told me he expects me to share this with the world and not wait until the next baby dedication. He wants you to know that he remains God even when you are hurting and he is the balm of Gilead. I acknowledge that this was not just by my strength, God sent us so many helpers and they truly built me up during the times when I got so low that I didn’t even know how to pray or read my bible. God really would not give you a challenge you cannot handle. I have complete confidence and peace in my heart and know that greater things are coming, but right now I just want to let the world know that God is ALWAYS good even while you wait. Praise him always!”
We are sending Tito and Bez lots of love through the situation.