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WATCH Uwanma Odefa’s Controversial Tips on Getting Even with a Cheating Partner



UwanmaAccording to media personality Uwanma, about 80% of men will cheat at least once in a relationship.

In it she describes the different ‘creative’ things that can be done to get even with a man who has been cheating.

In the description of the video she writes ‘When you find out your man is cheating on you, what do you do? Cry? Pour out your pain to your girlfriends over ice cream and wine? Go after the other woman? Or do you get even? If you choose to get even, here are creative ways to get vengeance!’

Watch the vlog and share your thoughts below.


  1. adadioramma

    August 28, 2015 at 3:23 pm

    U are a killer. Lol

    • Uwanma

      August 28, 2015 at 8:30 pm

      lol! All in good fun!


    August 28, 2015 at 3:29 pm

    LOL I love this. I don’t think I would try any of these as I find it easier to just walk away but Uwanma is bringing something differnt to the table. For the first time, I tried a revenge tactic earlier this year, his anger should have been gratifying but I found it just prolonged an unpleasant experience that I couldn’t wait to be over and done with.

    • Uwanma

      August 28, 2015 at 8:31 pm

      Yup! Sometimes it’s less draining to walk away. But other times you just want to get back. Why not make it fun while you’re at it??

  3. anon

    August 28, 2015 at 3:33 pm

    so how about if the other woman comes after you? see ehn,nobody’s got time for revenge o. If you cannot handle the heat, please carry your leg and jejely waka out of the kitchen.
    I know this is harder for the married ones, if its the first time and he is truly remorseful, i will recommend you work on it but if its a norm, then you decide what works for you.
    In my own case,hubby’s side chick came after me when it went sour between them and he came back with apologies. i just ignored her and I felt we could just move on but mehn its the hardest thing ever. Women that are used to cheating husbands, i wonder how they cope o. Its been over a year i found out, i still don’t trust him, i can never look at him the way i did before, he tries his best i cannot lie but its like i’m stuck in the past.
    Can you imagine that i now feel like I am the one holding us back and living in unforgiveness. Crazy thing is i still love him and i know leaving will be a mistake. He is a good husband and father but the past still haunts like mad…….can you truly forget the past and live like it never happened? Time will tell

    Forgive my long essay


      August 28, 2015 at 4:14 pm

      Hello Anon!

      I read your essay* but What is the essence of forgiveness if it’s not forgotten? Well, I’m sorry for your husband cheating on you but there’s still something there.

      Stop leaving in the past and open up your heart like you once did. He’s been trying. He deserves a second chance. He apologised so, why not give him a second chance?

      You still have love and kids….So? Why not? Please do this for me. It’s hard but please open up to him again. I am a stranger and I’m asking you to do me this favor. Thanks in advance!

    • anon

      August 28, 2015 at 5:46 pm

      Hello, thank you. I am working on it but I still have those days when it all comes back.
      I checked out your blog, nice one

    • Tari

      August 28, 2015 at 6:00 pm

      Unforgiveness kills faster than cheating.

    • Iris

      August 28, 2015 at 6:30 pm

      Don’t blame yourself that it’s taking over a year to let it go. I’m not married but I strongly believe it is harder for some than others to forgive such a thing and that’s okay. I find it hard to trust people, so if I do and they betray it, it will be hard to forget. We know people are human but there’s a difference between knowing it in theory and actually reacting the way you wish you could. I hope you can get to the point where you both are happy again since you love him still and have decided to stay.
      Please, I don’t completely understand this other woman growing balls phenomenon. You try sha. There’s only a limit to which I can plead to Jesus for patience. Unless she didn’t know he was married, the side chick showing her dirty face could be the difference between concentrating my anger on my husband and flipping out to rearrange that heifer’s dentition.

    • I no send

      August 28, 2015 at 8:00 pm

      @ anon I understand how you feel..its very tough to forgive a betrayal. But time heals pain..

    • Angel

      August 29, 2015 at 2:17 pm

      Hi anon, let me just chirp this in, hope it helps. Forgiveness is something you actually do for yourself and not the person who wronged you, because when you forgive, you release yourself from that hurt, pain or whatever. So forgive your husband wholeheartedly, you may not be able to forget or trust him again, I’m not asking you to, but take him back in your heart in love and make your home a loving environment that it should be cos these things affect kids you know, just have something on the side, some financial security. Then flip your hair back and enjoy life, believe me nobody is worth holding yourself down in depression, bitterness, regrets…… if you do it right, years to come when you look back and remember, you will just laugh, I pray God gives you grace to overcome.

  4. lee

    August 28, 2015 at 3:37 pm

    Very creative ideas. You know what they say, all is fair in love and war. I prefer the non violent approach myself and believe in making money. I would so sell his stuff, even the car.

  5. Naomi

    August 28, 2015 at 3:39 pm

    Who is this person please?? ‘assident’ ??

  6. Fabulicious

    August 28, 2015 at 3:42 pm

    You are really an expert at this, Madam Uwanma, idikwa sure n’uwa gi maramma…hahahahaha. Make una no listen to her ooooo.Because some of you will find your selves back in your parents houses.

  7. Lady G

    August 28, 2015 at 3:49 pm

    Dang. I pitty the man that cheats on her!

  8. Sugar

    August 28, 2015 at 3:51 pm

    Destructive spirit! I bind you in Jesus name. Life is too short to be soooo mean.

    • normal guy

      August 28, 2015 at 11:01 pm

      llllmmmaaaooooo… right on point…

  9. iyke

    August 28, 2015 at 4:03 pm

    Media Personality??? See as you dey fool yourself! Make Buhari kukuma create jobs make all these girls go get busy!

    • nene

      August 28, 2015 at 10:50 pm


    • Ekereobong

      August 29, 2015 at 10:32 am

      She has a job, loser!!!

  10. jide

    August 28, 2015 at 4:06 pm

    Big girls don’t cry, they get even. After my revenge I now started sympathizing with the fool. “Chai? Who is the prodigal son that slashed all your 4 tires” and scratched up your Pathfinder”? Pele. I have learned to be execute revenge without visible display of anger.

  11. Kaylee

    August 28, 2015 at 4:07 pm

    I certainly had a good laugh but wouldn’t it be easier to dust urself up n bounce once u find out since forgiving him and continuing the relationship isn’t an option??

  12. p

    August 28, 2015 at 4:14 pm

    ahn ahn maddam i like you!!! your taking over with this vloging thing…. lmao…


    August 28, 2015 at 4:16 pm

    I find this Vlog so funny! Well, I could use that. Lol…can’t wait to see his reaction when his stuffs, even his apartment is up on OLX.

    I might put him up too. lol… for maybe…ummm….10,000 naira. So CHEAP!

  14. Anon

    August 28, 2015 at 4:21 pm

    Is it just me who finds this to be extremely immature?

    • Joey

      August 28, 2015 at 5:01 pm

      Seriously I find this very immature too. Getting back at your partner solves nothing. Our choice of partner is a reflection of our decision power. Just crazy how too much ITK is leaving our girls single.

    • jide

      August 28, 2015 at 5:11 pm

      It’s just you

  15. Lady

    August 28, 2015 at 4:34 pm

    Hummmm, Cheacting is a serious matter ohhh. Dont even know what to make of it. Been suspecting my hubby for sometime how, I know he is seeing one girl like that, want to confront him but i dont know how cos he always delete their chat and they call each other every day. Also I suspect he goes to pick her in the morning to work and maybe drops her off. Trying to come up with all sort of thing so he wont know I have been checking his phone like saying a friend told me that he goes to pick a girl and all sort, but I dont think that will change him or stop him. I just want to have my piece of mind and get it off my chest. This life ehhh people dey go through all sort ohhh, no be small matter ohhh

    • anon

      August 28, 2015 at 5:45 pm

      Me when i started suspecting my husband, i went into FBI mode(middle of the night things),i checked his phone at night and will tap him to put password when he was almost sleeping, he was also deleting his chat but he left one mistakenly and i saw it. You know him better,he will definitely slip up no matter how smooth he is. Ignorance is not bliss o,gather correct evidence and talk to him about it. My hubby denied it at first even with evidence but the side chick came to harass me o,that was when the whole thing blew up in his face. Imagine somebody insulting you on top your husband o and she knew from the start that he was married.
      There are so many diseases out there that condom does not totally protect one from. BEWARE

    • natu

      August 28, 2015 at 9:37 pm

      Na wow oo. You would think Nigerian men are good the way y’all are always praying for marriage.

    • Hian!

      August 29, 2015 at 12:23 am

      @natu. Shee kosi? Wetin Nigerians do u wey u dey always attack Nigerians for your comments . If u no like naija’s kosi wahala. Which one be dis one wey u dey try speak pigin by fire by force. Which one be ” na wow oo” LOL. It is na wa o. Stay for your lane make me stay for our own.

  16. Yve

    August 28, 2015 at 4:42 pm

    Lol… Enjoyed the video. Funny. In real life I advice if it hurts too bad, it’s classier to just bounce. No one is worth all that drama.

  17. June

    August 28, 2015 at 4:48 pm

    Hmmmm ….. A bit scary. Or you could just let it all go , take a deep breathe and move on. Revenge is not always worth it.

  18. l

    August 28, 2015 at 4:54 pm

    no no no you guys!!! dont do as she says this is all for publicity stunt……

  19. JADE

    August 28, 2015 at 4:58 pm

    I love how she finds her dry jokes funny,

  20. Swizzle

    August 28, 2015 at 5:06 pm

    This is shocking and childish at the same time… tufiakwa

  21. el patron

    August 28, 2015 at 5:22 pm

    evil genius…how can you conjure so much evil in one sitting! I can’t deal..

  22. Nahum

    August 28, 2015 at 5:37 pm

    My cousin did the revenge tactic and she got kicked out of the house and her kids taken away from her. Ladies all jokes aside, HIV is real and bi*ch ain’t got no friends. If you know you value your life, walk away. Revenge will not make him stop. He will get angry and deal with you. You only option when it comes to cheating is accepting it or walking away. The decision is yours.

  23. charles

    August 28, 2015 at 5:41 pm

    about 80% of men will cheat at least once in a relationship, with what? goats or rats?

    • Pat

      August 29, 2015 at 12:27 am

      Don”t be silly LOL

  24. Meleske ministry

    August 28, 2015 at 5:49 pm

    Thank you, I just learnt several ways of knowing when she has found out courtesy of you. “open the back of his designer wristwatch and pour super glue… “lol sorry to say Uwanma you are pure evil.!!!! I can see you are a genius at this.

  25. Nahum

    August 28, 2015 at 6:20 pm

    Ladies, this cheating thing is very dangerous and we have to start telling ourselves the truth. Ask yourself, even though our mothers stayed, how many of them lost babies due to complications from STDs like syphillis and gonorrhoea? How many of our mothers are dealing with blood pressure issues because of the anger and hurt they have held inside all these years? Cheating only hurts one person, YOU!! So you have to ask yourself if you deserve happiness and peace of mind. Also, will your kids prefer a dead mother, an angry and bitter mother or a divorced, healthy and happy mother. Choose your path ladies. Cause bros ain’t thinking about you and he is enjoying his life.

    • Annalise Keating

      August 28, 2015 at 9:26 pm

      Not all divorcees are happy. Most will transfer aggression to the children. You can only be happy if you make up your mind to move on. Different people have different formulas for moving on. It could be a new passion, your kids or a new relationship/affair. It’s better you leave a cheating man/dysfunctional relationship before you have kids for him. You’re tied to him for life if kids are involved. If you decide to stay make sure you have something on the side. It could be a secret project, business or just any kind of backup.

      A former neighbour of mine lost her husband to her own very young cousin who was staying with them. She left the house for them. The next time I saw her, she was in this tear rubber range rover and I heard she built an hotel outside town. The husband was a big politician so somehow she was able to keep something at the side.

      The ring and respect of being in a man’s house is what is keeping many women from walking away. Another silly excuse is the children. You must make up your mind what to do before you even enter a man’s house, if he cheats. Many women have found love again with a new man after walking away. Try to find time to socialise during marriage. 2 face’s baby mama doesn’t have 2 heads now, see her correct pastor husband. Or Angelina Jolie. Or Fani Kayodes first wife. Some of us, our grandma had kids for more than one man and all her children speak well of her. That ring bullshit is vanity.

  26. onetallgirl

    August 28, 2015 at 7:10 pm

    Did anyone get a little scared of her when her was laughing at your revenge tactics? Just be the bigger person and just the man alone, karma always comes back around.

  27. onetallgirl

    August 28, 2015 at 7:10 pm


  28. Zandyzay

    August 28, 2015 at 7:24 pm

    So when u ‘advertise’ ur hubby has STD on social media, what do you say about yourself? Will you ever raise your head high beside him in public places? What legacy are you laying for your kids and how do u want them to see their father (and you) as irresponsible I guess? why not just leave! You would be dazed that your kids will see you as the evil one cos they may not know or comprehend what your hubby has done


    August 28, 2015 at 7:55 pm

    A man will only cheat on his wife or girlfriend when another lady accepts to date him knowing that he is married or in a relationship.

    If we decide as women to have each other back and not date other peoples husband or BF it will go along way in reducing the rate of cheating partners.(just saying)

    I can’t say i haven’t been attracted to a married man/BF or I don’t have them asking me out but i try to do the following to help myself.

    I will not add you up on BBM, I will not follow you on any social media site.

    No picking of calls during odd hours. No long calls during working hour.No daily check up calls.

    I will not go on a private date with you knowing that you are married.

    You will not visit me because I stay alone. I don’t want to start blaming the

    Every Lady should have a way of dealing with a married man especially in this Lagos because you see a lot of them. Hmm. God help us.

    • WarriBabe

      August 31, 2015 at 9:43 am

      Good write up ,but your statement about a lady always knowing a man is married/in a relationship is WRONG!
      Many men pose as single bacelors and deceive and blindside innocent girls. I’m sure many girls on BN have been approached by man that swore he was single/divorced/separated only to discover that the man was lying.
      However, when you find out a man is married, the above mentioned comment applies. Do unto others what you want others to do unto you. #simple

    • WarriBabe

      August 31, 2015 at 9:44 am


  30. blueberry

    August 28, 2015 at 9:31 pm

    I kinda understand women who react madly towards their cheating partners. I mean the anger that fuels into your brain the moment you find out/confirm your suspicions thoroughly blinds your sense of good judgement. You don’t think right anymore. You have just one thing in mind…deal with the fool. It requires devine intervention to certain extent for you not to commit murder. Hell hath no fury like a woman’s scorn.
    However, I don’t encourage that though. It takes enormous strength to forgive…and forget. Some women have this strength. Others just don’t. Likewise it may work, just like it may never work if your husband is just a dog.
    Our neighbour back in the days was the best example of a womanizer. That guy changed side chics like he changed his underwears. It reached the peak, when his wife caught him with another one day, having sex in the marital bed. Both joined forces to beat her mercilessly.

  31. natu

    August 28, 2015 at 9:32 pm

    It is never that deep. Just move on!!

  32. blueberry

    August 28, 2015 at 9:38 pm

    Oh forgot to add that she gave him a sleeping pill months after the matter had died down, beat him like a snake and left the house like nothing happened. Eventually when the guy woke up from his sleep in pains and was rushed to the hospital, his wife came later with one of these psychotic smiles and told him she would do worse the next time he and his chics touchef her again. Imagine our shock. What did she mean by worse?
    That is how bad it can get. And in the end the kids are those whobsuffer the consequences most.

    • Pat

      August 29, 2015 at 12:34 am

      LOL at the sleeping pills and beatings.

  33. Maromec

    August 28, 2015 at 9:48 pm

    What I don’t understand
    So some side chick comes to harass the wife?
    I have never seen it.
    Someone please put me through
    How did the side chick get to know so much about madam and does she really want madam to leave her hubby for her?
    Even if a married man wants to cheat,why give out so much info about your wife to your girl friend?
    I don’t understand,shouldn’t it just be for sex alone?
    Are the side chicks going through the man’s phone?
    That is the highest level of disrespect any man can give to his wife.
    Why give your girl friend so much power to meet your wife and do what I don’t know…
    I have been married for 4 years now and for the few times I picked my hubby’s phone the girls completely drop the phone at the sound of my voice or sometimes they would lie its a wrong number
    I really don’t understand done men sha

    • lala

      August 29, 2015 at 1:05 am

      It’s because a lot of those men are weak and dumb.. and in/after moments of sexual pleasure the men feel very vulnerable and just pour their hearts out without any qualms. yes cheating hurts the main woman most because I’ve even heard of a case where the side chick walked all the way to the man’s house and rang the bell. the wife opened the door and the chick shot Madam in the face. another one tracked the man n his wife because the man had told her he would be going for a vacation with his wife. she went to his house when he wasnt home, kidnapped the wife in her car, stopped in the middle of the highway and shot the wife and herself dead. ladies, pls be very careful with a cheating husband. there is so much at risk apart from your emotions, your health and your life might be as well.

    • Nahum

      August 29, 2015 at 3:27 am

      GBAM!!! Nuf said

  34. Cj

    August 28, 2015 at 11:17 pm

    I see broken homes all around me lately, its quite scary, different from the 80’s and 90’s, what has changed?? Are people getting married to the wrong partners or Social media has brought with it disaster. To think that a married man on same bed with his wife can quickly turn his back the other way, chat up a girl hundreds of miles away, buy flight tickets online, pay hotels bills for her weekend stay, following saturday tells wifey he is off to hang with friends and watch football..

    I’m highly critical of social media and all it has brought with it
    Ashley madison na small

    Oh well

  35. Anon

    August 29, 2015 at 10:32 am

    I just found out my boyfriend of two months has been cheating on me, I confronted him with pictures and he got so angry yelled at me… he has called only twice since then(haven’t answered the calls though) at least I’m happy I found put early enough that he doesn’t love and doesn’t care about me. It’s good riddance to bad rubbish , I don’t have time for revenge.

  36. Kaybee

    August 29, 2015 at 1:48 pm

    This Uwanma chick is a psycho in the making. A grown / mature woman won’t act out in this passive agressive manner. My fellow US residents, selling someone’s property or vandalism of their possessions could land you in legal wahala. Discuss with your partner what constitutes a deal breaker and always have a backup plan for your relationship.

  37. Marguerite

    August 29, 2015 at 3:58 pm

    Chaii! I can’t die in hands of a side chick o. May God help us.

  38. Dinon

    August 29, 2015 at 7:10 pm

    these ideas are from the pit of hell…very immature…

  39. alwayshappy

    August 30, 2015 at 1:47 am

    I really hope no “sane” woman who values her dignity and has children follows any of these childish and silly advise.

    A bitter woman scorned may follow her advise though, so ask yourself are you a woman scorned or bitter.

    engine of the watch? really
    salt does damage to engine?
    replace sugar with washing powder?
    advertise on olx, like say you no get better thing to do?
    announce on std he has small prick or nonsense

    If you consider any of the above as fun and creative, you’ve got too much time on your hands.

    Biko nu, take several seats and no go add criminal record to your profile.

  40. UmmiBee

    August 30, 2015 at 7:42 am

    Heheh! Uwanma! You had me LOLing with you evil laugh. The truth is many men deserve this and much worse for the pain theyput their wives through.

  41. Oj

    August 31, 2015 at 6:22 pm

    Another evil emissary

    Be careful who you listen to… remember faith comes by hearing… by implication, evil can also come by hearing

  42. kristen

    August 31, 2015 at 8:34 pm

    my guy cheated when I findout I was heartbroken, though I love him so much but I left the relationship he is living in regret he had a side chick and is always lying to me I was shock when the lady told me they had a baby girl even “@ that he still deny the baby looks exactly like him because such person can kill she narrated almost all that happen between me and my guy i was shock he told her everything and she was ready to take his cheating habit I leave him with God to judge us.

  43. Peaches77

    August 31, 2015 at 9:15 pm

    Haha, evil child… (Big grin)!
    Be ready to say bye bye to your Bose speakers..

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