Connect with us

News

Read Emir of Kano Sanusi’s Response to #ChildNotBride Critics of Marriage to 18 Year Old Princess

BellaNaija.com

Published

 on

Sa’adatu Barkindo-MusdafaI am sure NC members all have their views and have kept quiet out of (appropriate) deference to our right to make our individual choice. Obviously I do not need to explain anything to anyone in a purely personal matter but a few points are worthy of note:

  1. The lady in question is 18 and therefore legally of age to marry under all laws and certainly under Muslim law.
  2. She is proceeding for her undergraduate education in the UK in January. She had an A in computer science in her O levels and plans to get a degree in computer science.
  3. Each and every one of my wives is a university graduate and some have worked and then stopped and in each case the choice was purely theirs.
  4. It is a tradition in Kano that emirs and princes in choosing wives consider issues beyond the individual. The family is in every sense a social unit. My predecessor was married to princesses from Ilorin, Katsina and Sokoto.
  5. The relationship between the late Lamido of Adamawa Aliyu Musdafa the father of the current Lamido is well known. Lamido Aliyu was the first emir turbaned after emir Sanusi I and they remained close until Sanusi’s death.
  6. My own relationship with the current Lamido dates back to 1981 when he was Ciroma and commissioner for works. By the way the Lamido and I are not illiterates we know what we are doing and he does have a PhD in Engineering.
  7. My own mother was married in Adamawa and lived there for more than two decades and I have eight younger brothers and sisters from there.
  8. It is therefore natural that if I choose to marry from another kingdom Adamawa would be the first choice for me and I am extremely happy to strengthen these long historical bonds.
  9. The young lady in question gave her free consent and even after the contract the wedding will not happen for a few years. By then she may be 21. If she freely consents to this I do not know on what moral grounds anyone has a grouse. She is an adult, she gave her consent, and her education is not being in anyway interrupted.
  10. The real issue is that people do not accept cultural difference. And you can see it in the approach to these issues. I am supposed to be urbane and western educated. Yes but I am not European. I am a northern Nigerian Fulani Muslim brought up in a setting exactly like the one my children are being brought up in.
    If you read this and it improves your understanding of this issue that is fine. If it does not just remember it is not your life, it is not your daughter and you are not my wife therefore it is not your business.

I obviously cannot stoop to the level of responding publicly to these kinds of articles. I have always been an advocate of girls marrying after maturing. I personally like the minimum age of 18 even though I understand those who say 16 is fine and indeed this is the law in most so called advanced countries.

Is this something that I expect a European or western trained or feminist mind to appreciate or endorse? Not at all. But has any American been bothered about my views on men marrying men or women marrying women who frankly I find primitive and bestial? No and my views do not matter. These are cultural issues.

Even in Nigeria I have heard all this stuff as in Pius article about “north” and northerners. Again it is a failure to respect difference. There are parts of this country where parents expect their daughters to live with their boyfriends for years and actually get pregnant before they marry. It has become culture. We do not have that in the north and if your daughter gets pregnant before marriage she brings nothing but shame to the name. But we do not issue condemnations. We agree that this is how they choose to live. And I can give many other examples.

When people use the term libido they do themselves injustice. First of all it shows how they view women and marriage. Women are nothing but the object of sexual desire. Marriage is nothing but sexual gratification. Well I am sorry but in my tradition it is not. Beauty and attraction rank third after religion and lineage in the choice of a wife.

They see an 18 year old young lady. I see a princess of noble birth whose mother is also a princess, and who has been brought up in a good Muslim home. This is the kind of woman that is prepared for giving birth to princes and bringing them up for the role expected of them in society.

Marriage is both social and political. Expanding the links of Kano which have already been established by my predecessors through inter-marriage with Katsina, Sokoto, Ilorin, Katagum, Ningi, Bauchi etc to Adamawa is an important and significant step and this is obvious to anyone with a sense of how royal families work and Ibn Khaldun’s sociological concept of Asabiyyah.

When the Emir of Kano marries it has to be something beyond what he personally desires to what is appropriate for that position and the expectations of the people he represents. You don’t just pick up any girl on the street. And by the way, for those who shout libido, sex is cheap and available everywhere in all shapes and sizes and all colours if that is what they want. And all ages too. Marriage is a very different proposition. The mother of your children has to be something other than, not at least much more than a mere object of sexual fantasy. But if you do not know that you need to buy yourself a brain.

I have daughters. And they know they can only marry from certain backgrounds. I always prefer family. When my daughter wanted to marry Mouftah Baba Ahmed’s son and she asked me, knowing my views on family, I told her Mouftah is family. And this is not about me and Mouftah or me an Hakeem or Nafiu. No. It goes back to Baba Ahmed and Emirs Sanusi and Bayero. And the same rule applies to my sons. And it applied to me as well.

It is, I am sure, very strange that I should even bother to comment on this. But it would be hypocritical for me to just keep quiet so long as these things are being posted and commented upon explicitly or in a snide manner. There was no secrecy in the marriage fatiha. The date was fixed and it was to be done in the central mosque after Friday prayers.

The day before we had a tragedy in Saudi Arabia and decided the fatiha must be very low key as a mark of respect for the dead. All traditional rulers in Adamawa were there, as were governors and commissioners, members of my own emirate council and Adamawa people. There is nothing here to hide or be apologetic about.

The emirs of Adamawa have shown love to my parents and grandparents and it is a sign of my appreciation of their love that i marry their daughter. This is the highest statement of friendship and loyalty on both sides.

Again if you understand this this is fine. If you do not, buy yourself a brain, A la Pius.

In any event this is my one and final and only comment on this. And I am making it out of respect for NC members.

MSII

Photo Credit: Maigaskiya Photography

175 Comments

  1. Dee baby

    September 30, 2015 at 2:11 am

    Loool. You should not have bothered with this epistle! Silence is Golden

    • Damilola

      September 30, 2015 at 5:05 am

      Sanusi, don’t use grammar, history lessons to justify your action and confuse us. Your conscience is fighting you, to see the need to explain your action. It was just shocking, to hear an educated, exposed old man like yourself will marry a girl his daughter’s age. You confirmed it, education or exposure doesn’t change Muslim laws or individual choices. And guess what, you will freely give your own daughter away to another old man. That’s how it goes.
      Northern Muslim girls have no problem with it. It’s their life. But that doesn’t stop me from expressing my opinion. That’s the world we live in.

    • Wasn't there an older princess?

      September 30, 2015 at 8:48 am

      I just have one question. Does the Adamawa king not have older daughters?

    • madamsofo

      September 30, 2015 at 11:23 am

      Northern this, northern that., what about sade okoya and her husband Razaq Okoya. aristo and runs girl. sade was 18/19 when she married that old man and she is doing very well now. i see nothing wrong with this if the girl is happy. some girls actually love grandpas. 18 is an adult and he said the marriage rite won’t be completed till she is 21. cut him some slack

    • Ada Nnewi

      September 30, 2015 at 12:07 pm

      Joseph was in his 90’s when Mary mother of Jesus was betrothed to him at 12…Mary got pregnant for Jesus at the age of 14….Please stop making this about religion….Sanusi can marry any lady he wants that is 18 or above once she consents to the marriage and is not under any duress to marry him…Live and let live people….The babe is happy, SLS is happy…Why are you taking paracetamol to cure a headache that is not your own….

    • Sunshiney

      August 27, 2018 at 3:56 pm

      When was Joseph 90? Are you dumb?

    • Peace

      September 24, 2018 at 4:05 pm

      I’m shocked to see this o… Joseph 90 ke! Where did the madam see that

    • Glo

      September 30, 2015 at 12:09 pm

      My Dear, Read it again and be properly educated….you allowed to use a dictionary or google words that you consider “grammar”. …no shame in that..

    • gabi

      September 30, 2015 at 12:38 pm

      Keep quiet sade okoya got married at 23

    • Leila

      September 30, 2015 at 6:09 pm

      Damilola, you said it all!
      What I want to know is why many are assuming it is okay just because the girl has reached the age of consent? so people in this day and age see nothing wrong with a 54 year old man finding an 18 year old girl attractive? Am I missing something here or are those of us who find his behaviour deeply concerning the ones with the problem?
      He says It is not about sex but he will have sex with the girl at some point, will he not? even If he waits till she is 21, he will be 57, will he not? Northern, Southern, Yoruba, Igbo, Hausa, Nigerian, American, English, Middle Eastern, it does not matter. What is wrong is wrong in all the differing contexts and situations. For those who spoke about Sade Okoya and her ilk, I find their marriages just as concerning and deeply unpalatable. I find the girls at universities who are with older men for money just as concerning. Neither is better than the other.
      One has to question the character and morality of the men (I say the men because they are more mature and should know better than their teenage or very young counterparts) who engage in this kind of behaviour. If women did the same (as I know some older women do), ie decided to take on young boys in the same manner, I would question their morality and character also.
      Sanusi says it is his culture and he is doing this to strengthen bonds but not everything that is allowed is best for you. Nobility and royalty are not just about tradition and culture but involve propriety and morality as well. He should not only act in a proper manner but should be seen to be proper as well. That is the mark of a true leader. I am deeply embarrassed not only by his actions but by his response as well.
      To those saying, mind your own business. This is our business. He is a public figure, he is a King of a Nigerian ‘kingdom’, he is a former CBN governor and his behaviour goes a long way to determining how Nigeria and Nigerians are perceived in the international community. It is 2015 not 1940, Sanusi should know and do better. Shame on him!
      We are not all christians but this verse in the bible says it all- ‘All things may be lawful, but not all things are helpful, all things may be lawful, but not everything edifies (builds up)- 1Cor. 10:23.

    • Leila

      September 30, 2015 at 6:15 pm

      @Ada Nnewi, are you suggesting that because Joseph and Mary got married at those disparate ages over 2000 years ago, that we should do the same now? Not sure I understand why something that happened centuries ago is relevant in 2015. The point is that we have evolved past the norms of that time. We know better about the disadvantages of this type of family set up and these relationships, so we should do better.

    • Bruness

      October 1, 2015 at 12:27 am

      @ Leila End of Discussion!!!!!

    • #Get it together

      October 25, 2015 at 4:30 am

      IT IS AN EPISTLE TO THOSE WHO HAVE NOT BEEN PROPERLY EDUCATED – He’s a decent man to have bothered to reply…
      What can I say! –
      1. She is 18 years
      2. She consented
      3. Focus on the alliance between the families and areas — and not on your mind’s usual destination
      4. It is very possible that most people moaning and groaning lost their virginity by 18 years…
      5. If you can have a romantic boyfriend at 18 years, you can have a husband at 18 years
      6. Don’t be a hypocrite; don’t be a bigot
      7. POVERTY IS CAUSING A LOT OF JEALOUSY AT HOME…. IT WOULD SEEM THAT THIS POVERTY IN CONJUNCTION WITH THE OVEN TEMPRATURE WHICH PREVAILS IN NIGERIA, RESULTS IN PROFOUND LOW IQ

      #GET IT TOGETHER*
      #FOCUS ON YOUR LIFE***

    • FasholasLover

      September 30, 2015 at 9:58 am

      Hehehehe. This one na Gobe. Original Gobe. Ayakata!!!! Who is NC? Soo, members of the NC too felt “somehow”???

      Ole. Barawo!. Flippant Emir ever!! This is what imposition causes!!!

      If public outcry did not get to him, he wouldn’t have responded. Whether our biznis or not, SLS responded. He is worried even if it does n0t change a thing.

      I did not hear about LOVE in this his long epistle. Like someone said yesterday, some young blood should just come and steal this girls heart while in the UK when she would have had the opportunity to be 18 and live like an 18 year old. SLS’s humiliation would then be complete.

      Claptrap from an Emir. SLS, buy yourself a brain. (Today is good jare)

    • Icrossmyheart

      September 30, 2015 at 12:29 pm

      His response is not well-written and well-articluated. It reads as though he was forced to defend himself after being caught commiting a bad act: defensive and childish.

      While it is his right and hers to marry when they will, he could have written a more mature response. This is why people question the level of maturity of many Northerners in power. Even while exposed and educated and experienced, MANY of the men are not mature and emotionally intelligent. Take a look at a president who wants to be minister of petroleum because he is the only educated man of integrity there is in the whole of Nigeria. Not to ignore that most Northerners are probably the MOST corrupt seeing as they marry four wives and have hundred children. On what salary can most of them feed their ever- expanding family? Family expansion that continues until the man is even dead. You see 90 year olds marrying 10 year olds. And yet they quote Allah even the one Allah did not say. Allah favors men as He does women. But in the Islam that is practiced, they only need women to give birth to PRINCES, woman be damned.

      Furthermore, the interesting thing is why dont they give boys as gifts or to secure contracts. Why are girls given as gifts like cattle or ram? That is my only issue with their culture and in all African cultures and religions. It is one sided when it comes to marriage. Women pay the price.

      Also Northern men LOVE SLEEPING AROUND WITH NON-NORTHERN WOMEN. THEY WIPE MOUTH AND START SHOUTING OUR CULTURES ARE DIFFERENT. But it is the same when it comes to sex abi. Sex is as social and political as marriage, so why limit marriage choices to certain families, but expand sexual choices to others? Yet if you condemn them, they are quick to call you a tribalist. E dey.

      No culture is better than the other. But Northerners love claiming that theirs is superior when it is not. It is as good and as bad as other cultures in Nigeria. At the end of the day, it is STILL women who suffer..

    • Joyce

      October 1, 2015 at 8:52 am

      I was also amazed that love wasn’t mentioned! I thought that was the main reason people got married..

    • gee

      September 30, 2015 at 4:32 pm

      I concur

    • Icrossmyheart

      September 30, 2015 at 7:13 pm

      Why didnt his daughter ask him if it was ok to marry Mouftah Baba Ahmed himself instead of his son. Hahahahahhaha. Because the girl knows it is wrong to marry grand pa, family or not. Rubbish!

      Also, to cement family ties, USE children. Not an old man and a young girl. He could have used his own son and the girl to link their so called social and political relationship.

      Muslim people forgot that sense was given to all mankind. They want to use sense to scatter our minds.

      They do not want to be Europeans and desperately want to separate themselves from Europeans but they are the ones who carry ipad, iphone, macbook, chanel, fendi, and rolex watch pass. They are the ones who buy houses in Europe and live and dine like the Europeans but when it suits them, they are not Europeans, especially when it comes to girls punani. Buharis daughter is she going to school in the North or in the Uk? They must think they are talking to fools. Where is his wife going to school? University of Adamawa or Adamawa School of what? No be the same UK? You want Western education but you use primitive brain to analyze questions and you wonder why we are stuck in this country.

      You are as much a European as the European is African. We are consequence and byproducts of the West.

    • Kemi

      October 6, 2015 at 3:35 pm

      @Icrossmyheart, Kindly refrain from generalisation in trying to make your opinion known. what do you mean by MUSLIM PEOPLE in your paragraph 3?

    • J

      October 1, 2015 at 8:43 pm

      Exactly. ..and for a blue blood as he says he is. Emir Ado Bayero would never have reaponded.

    • #Get it together

      October 25, 2015 at 4:29 am

      IT IS AN EPISTLE TO THOSE WHO HAVE NOT BEEN PROPERLY EDUCATED – He’s a decent man to have bothered to reply…
      What can I say! –
      1. She is 18 years
      2. She consented
      3. Focus on the alliance between the families and areas — and not on your mind’s usual destination
      4. It is very possible that most people moaning and groaning lost their virginity by 18 years…
      5. If you can have a romantic boyfriend at 18 years, you can have a husband at 18 years
      6. Don’t be a hypocrite; don’t be a bigot
      7. POVERTY IS CAUSING A LOT OF JEALOUSY AT HOME…. IT WOULD SEEM THAT THIS POVERTY IN CONJUNCTION WITH THE OVEN TEMPRATURE WHICH PREVAILS IN NIGERIA, RESULTS IN PROFOUND LOW IQ

      #GET IT TOGETHER*
      #FOCUS ON YOUR LIFE

  2. Dee baby

    September 30, 2015 at 2:14 am

    Looool. You should not have bothered with this epistle! Silence is Golden especially if you were going to come up with an explanation phrased like this Emir . Says a lot about his persona

  3. ATL's finest

    September 30, 2015 at 2:14 am

    Hahaha wahaala!!! This one na Original Gobe.. See history and biography mix together.. Ok well said but Ermm one thing he said that I don’t think is true is that ” some part of other Countries must allow their girls leave with their bfs, get pregnant before their wedding” hmmmm I know people do that based on their own beliefs & not a cultural thing. Or if there’s any Country like that, I wanna know abeg. So basically, Ur children can only marry certain ones ( family) not just anybody ok.. If at all his trying to be loyal to the family, Isn’t there any other child in that FAM older than 18??? Well I’m not from the North, I’m not a Muslim/Fulani, & I don’t think this article will help me understand their culture in 5secs so may Allah bless both of them It’s their life, their biz, & cold cup of Kunu drink.

    • ATL's finest

      September 30, 2015 at 2:15 am

      *live* Typos

    • Tosin

      September 30, 2015 at 6:32 am

      yeah, i didn’t like that part “children can only marry certain ones ( family) not just anybody”

      he think say na only him get stubborn head shey? one of his cute children (probably his favourite) will show him. 😀 he should be there forming blue blood in 2015. SLS (the Emir) will soon have Australian, Ibibio, homosexual, and rags-to-riches children-in-law. And he would have to love them. Watch. 😀

    • Dr. P

      September 30, 2015 at 8:02 am

      You have to realize that most of the desirable girls from a Northern royal family are already married by 21. Some Prince Charles/Lady D type paroles.
      He’s an arrogant one tho.

    • nene+

      September 30, 2015 at 9:47 am

      and your law support @buy your self a brain or you pick what suits you from your traditional law?

      A natural randy man will fulfill the 4 wives law to satisfy his orgies. + (plus)concubines
      Another polished gentleman will stick to a wife. Like Yaradua,like Babangida even Abacha read Quran and where Muslims.

      SLS if you didn’t marry this girl will the sky fall? NO

      That Islams permits you is not the issue but that you do what is DECENT is another.

      If an educated man and a light in the North has been admiring, smiling,spoiling,hugging…….. only God knows an under-aged girl all along and married her at barely 18 then what do we say to the uneducated alamagiris with 4 wives?

      ……..at the end of the day Its her life and his life but that will not stop the obvious truth.

    • Umar Awwal

      March 31, 2016 at 10:57 pm

      All you Bible quoting “ignorant”, “Hippocrates”. My words in inverted commas are not insults but factual descriptions of what you are and i’ll substantiate that in a minute. How can you hold on to your holy book so dearly and yet be so ignorant of it? The most of you suffer from a sort of identity crisis not being able to even differentiate your religion from western culture. How old was Abraham when he married Hagar and bore Ishmeal of whom God said i shall make a great nation? Is there any verse in the Bible banning the practice of older men taking younger wives so long as there’s consent from both without any coercion? Some of you talk about morality and immorality, what is immoral in what the emir has engaged in. I am willing to bet the bunch of you criticising the emir are ” serial fornicators”, well what does morality and the bible say about that? Western culture which dictates to most of you says it is illegal for a responsible Adult male to engage a teenager in matrimony, honouring her, protecting her and giving a way to bear legitimate children, but when teenage males her age come around her with all sorts of sexual promiscuity, the same law says its okay because its just “juvenile delinquency “. Hence basters a begotten by the thousands and abortions are embraced and accepted as norms. Imaging a girl whos anatomy and physiology has for many years been showing that shes fit to take in, 16, 17 18…..19 and a responsible male, be he twice her age, capable and dedicated to ensuring her rights comes to seek her hand. The greatest honour and protection you can give such a girl is to approve the marriage. There is absolutely noting wrong with that. I intend to marry off many daughters young and early to whom ever, fit, whether they be twice or thrice their age so Long as there’s consent and capability on both sides.

  4. Anon

    September 30, 2015 at 2:15 am

    Ha!

  5. Author Unknown

    September 30, 2015 at 2:27 am

    He should have just stopped at #1. That’s all the explanation there is and should be, really. Much as I don’t agree with his move, it’s not about me or any of us on Bellanaija.

  6. basirat

    September 30, 2015 at 2:33 am

    Toor!

  7. Fashola's real mistress

    September 30, 2015 at 2:37 am

    1st of all who are ds “NC members”?
    2ndly Sir, I wonder why u are apologising since its historically ur Tradition and who am I 2question u? Bcs I won’t accept any1 questioning my own Religion or Culture. And u didn’t hide like Senator Yerima but u did it in d Open, with d girl and her dad another Emirs’ consent.

    3.) So for me I don’t see a problem here since my own President Buhari married his present wife who was born in 1971 in 1989, today she’s 44yrs with 5 children and a degree and an MSc.

    Am not a Northerner but I admire how they uphold their Culture and Tradition.
    To some of us in d South we act like ds “age thing” it’s all Stranger and Weird but fact is that it happens all around anyway

    • ATL's finest

      September 30, 2015 at 3:41 am

      Yes who are the NC members or whatever that means

    • ZH

      September 30, 2015 at 9:18 am

      Lol!!! Isn’t it hilarious how people type ‘sir’ like he’s really going to read their comment on bellanaija! Haha. Cute!

  8. Our Business?

    September 30, 2015 at 2:52 am

    By law in Nigeria(marriage act adopted by states), two things are required before a marriage can be legal – Age of parties – 18 and above, and CONSENT! consent is also required by Islam.

    I haven’t read anywhere that the bride did not consent to this union. I may disagree with age difference just like some people disagree with the age difference btw my husband and I (10 years – 25 -35) but it is no one’s business.

    Growing up in the north, I know that most Hausa girls and their parents would rather be married that fornicating or committing adultery. They are legally married by Law and in the eyes of God.

    I have also learnt that traditionally, Emirs “gift” their children to other “Emirs” which would be an huge issue for me if consent was not acquired, but it doesn’t seem so in this case (I can’t know for sure but she looks happy plus she has opportunities available to her if she did not want it). It is considered disrespectful in their tradition to reject such wife from an Emir.

    Going by his explanation, he doesn’t seem in a hurry to consummate the marriage either and the girl seems to be getting what she wants. I have lived in the north, believe me when I say “a lot” (not to generalize) northern girls rich or poor dream to be married early especially to an influential family.

    Like he said, in summary, It is no one’s business. We are better off fight for underage married girls who are forced into this kind of union. Age of consent for sex in North America ranges from 13-18 years old. Would you rather her have an aristo older than SLS or legally married.

    It is not a culture or tradition I agree with but it must be respected.

    I should also add that on the issue of polygamy, it is not completely an Islamic thing – some Muslim countries have ban polygamy (Turkey & Tunisia) while others have strict restrictions on them (India, Iran, Iraq, Bangladesh, Algeria, Lebanon, Morocco, Jordan, and Kuwait, Iran and Pakistan). This is more an African or Nigerian thing. Saudi Arabia has the lowest amount of Polygamy.

    • Me

      September 30, 2015 at 3:36 am

      Please where did you meet your husband :)…. I want me a 10 years older than me man… I’m serious oh, please advice.. Tehehehee

      PS… Shey I told you people ranting before that the chick is probably very happy about the marriage, anyway to each their own. Make una mind una business

      #AHausaChickInToronto

    • Abby

      September 30, 2015 at 9:11 am

      Hausa chick in Toronto, why are you in Toronto? Why are you not in some village in Borno being married off when 16 or 18. Easy for you to spout off nonsense when you are safely in Toronto. Abeg pity those who have no empowerment and can’t speak for themselves.

    • ATL's finest

      October 1, 2015 at 4:33 am

      @ Me/HausachickinToronto don’t worry na only 10yrs of age u want? Just follow the footsteps of LS’s wife and marry older man 10yrs too small for u abeg

    • Michael Olowu Obafemi

      October 1, 2015 at 6:13 am

      Hi, let’s be friends……..

    • Bess

      September 30, 2015 at 10:55 am

      come to where i work na the hausa babes runz N fornicate pass..smh…people like sanusi use religion and culture to deceive nigerians..when it comes to where it doesnt favour him?them, their religion and culture, u will see n hear his loud mouth!.. what exactly is he doing by trying to help the menace called boko haram?? PLSSS IF U R READING THIS NIGERIANS WANT TO HEAR and know.. or is bokoharam now part of ur religion and culture?

  9. CB

    September 30, 2015 at 2:54 am

    Toh mandela!
    See, I never had a problem with her age. It’s just that since there’s a child bride problem in the north, he should have tried to pick an older child or princess or whatever he chooses to call her. You can’t play at the FRINGES of a problem and then confidently take a stand against it!
    I’m in no way doubtful the chick is happy. I had Hausa/Fulani friends who would have been ecstatic to marry him at 15. Its their culture, they are trained to think this way….until the consequences of being a child bride slaps them across the face.

    As the elite that we all know and love Lamido to be, he should be in the fore front of this struggle, so others can see and appreciate the beauty of the Hausa/Fulani culture. Or of what use is a wonderful culture that everyone else is constantly side-eyeing and associating with pedophilia?
    Anyways, BN should do quick and restore hope by posting another one of those their Hausa BNWeddings featuring two ADULTS.

    • Dr. P

      September 30, 2015 at 8:09 am

      I agree with your POV. The only thing is there might be very slim pickings with the Adamawa royal family when you consider girls over 21. I wonder what they’ll talk about. LoL

    • Abeeee

      September 30, 2015 at 9:28 am

      LMAO Sanusi is a clown. As if girls marrying early can stop a certain former CBN governor from nacking them. STFU! didn’t you nack both married women and single ladies. He should have stopped at #1 really. Our societies both north and south are messed up and we keep deceiving ourselves. That’s how some people on here were attacking that COZA girl and supporting the pastor.
      I’m glad it’s not MAN that will do the judging on judgement day. That’s what keeps me going.

  10. nnenne

    September 30, 2015 at 3:18 am

    For those asking if we would rather have her married or be an aristo…sleep around.
    My question to all of you is,” Are those two the only alternatives?
    There are so many women who don’t fall into those two categories.
    BTW polygamy is cultural to all of Sub Sahara Africa but over time our life styles have changed. Most people changed with it. Example, our forefathers needed a lot of hand in the farm. They didn’t need schools, jobs, electricity, pipe borne water and vacations.

    Do what makes you happy Emir.. Don’t blame us for expecting some reform from you due to your exposure and education. . Culture is ever evolving.

    • CB

      September 30, 2015 at 6:49 am

      .

      He mentioned that while we see an 18yr old, he sees a princess, blah blah blah….oga! Isn’t that the same rationale your cohorts who cradle rob use? An 8yr old egyptian child is not a child anymore cos she’s a princess. Maybe you should start seeing girls for their age and not as gifts and/or commodities that you put on layaway until they are ripe enough to eat. In trying to give an intelligent response, he exposes how institutionalized this whole thing is.

      Your last line is EVERYTHING!! We would have been proud of Yerima if he married an 18yr old! This his epistle confirms that he had a choice. Surely, there’s a 21yr old Adamawa princess out there…or maybe they’ve all been given out as friendship stamps at age 8 and up so this is the only female left in the family

      If Sanusi doesn’t see and understand our disappointment in him then he is the one who needs to buy a brain.

  11. Hazel

    September 30, 2015 at 3:25 am

    Exactly!!!!! People need to understand that there are difference’s in culture. If your cultural values and traditions don’t align with mine, why make it an issue. That’s how some girl was ranting about this #ChildNotBride issue.. and i kept telling her.. “the girl is 18, she’s NOT a child. In-fact in the North, she’s considered a woman” I know a lot of people whose fathers or grandfathers married their wives at 16,17,18.. So why complain if the Emir picks a young bride???
    And those people who call us from the north “illiterates” because we still value our culture and practice it, they are the real illiterates. Why would one who claims to be “literate” wake up and call another literate just because he/she’s action doesn’t sit right with you??
    That’s whats killing us as Nigerians!
    Until we begin to respect each others beliefs, religion, traditions,etc.. We would never get it right.
    Well.. I’s love to talk more but then… what do i know.. If i talk now they’ll say another “Illiterate” 18 year old is talking.

  12. Hazel

    September 30, 2015 at 3:26 am

    I’d

  13. Kili

    September 30, 2015 at 3:30 am

    Marriage is both social and POLITICAL !!!!!!! ????. Why is this man so smart. Lol
    Can we all rest now??

    I also like how they aged the lady with makeup- eku use gan ni.

    It’s nobody’s business truly but then again, a family is the smallest unit of the society.
    However we wanted to be sure the young lady wasn’t bullied into marrying you. It’s a good thing you replied, it shows you were shaken up a bit. Wishing you both a happy married life.

    • Joyce

      October 1, 2015 at 9:20 am

      Judging based on the restrictive and constricted upbringing most northern women get, I believe she really didn’t have a choice but to give her concent.

  14. Ebere

    September 30, 2015 at 3:34 am

    Mehn!!!!!Mehn!!!!!!!!Mehn!!!!!!!!!Sanusi you’re too low, the respect I had for you just depreciated to level ZERO. If you know that your taking a CHILD for a BRIDE was okay, you need not write a sermon on the mountain to prove yourself. With all due respect to the Emir of Kano (Sanusi), I just lost all respect for you…………Silence is GOLDEN most times.

  15. jide

    September 30, 2015 at 4:05 am

    The Pedophile and his epistle.

    • Ebere

      September 30, 2015 at 12:31 pm

      That actually should be the name of this movie……

  16. Chinny

    September 30, 2015 at 4:09 am

    See all you ashawos who start fxxxing at age 15 or 16; to hundred men before they get married at 35 (that is if they get married at all) , sitting behind your computer with your Freddie Kruger fingers critiquing this man. I am not from north, but I respect cultures. She’s 18 legal age and getting her education so I am 100% in support, unlike the older men marrying 10; 11 etc. The is a huge difference, so please don’t compare. Oyall fornicators please shut the eff up, your opinion does not count. Were you a Virgin like this 18yr old before you married, then shut up. Let’s just say she is avoiding your kind of fornication and marrying early. Emir has educated me a lot with his long epistle and I am 100% in support. USA (almighty Sidon and gomorah) and other Western countries better dare not critique him as men are fkling men, women to women, and then to dogs. Mark this on the wall Beastiality will be made legal in america in less than 10 yrs. It has started already,

    • nerve

      September 30, 2015 at 10:26 am

      @Chinny, what brand of Igbo did you smoke this early morning to have typed this? This epistle educated you? Why am l even surprised.

    • Joyce

      October 1, 2015 at 9:26 am

      @nerve chinny is trying so hard to land her own hausa /fulani prince/king. She doesn’t realize that the likes of her can give birth or raise a princess or Prince ??

    • Sidon

      September 30, 2015 at 10:42 am

      Sidon?? Hahaha.

    • nnenne

      October 1, 2015 at 12:53 am

      Chinny…please give the Virgin girl to a virgin man, not a man with 3 women. That would be fair! Chastity and morality for all, not just women.

  17. Tilda

    September 30, 2015 at 4:32 am

    You are just a randy old man with a taste for girls as young as your daughters. Shikena.

    • peka

      September 30, 2015 at 10:58 am

      No mind am! He us talking about libido cos he isn’t the woman……..the woman will die in silence if she isn’t satisfied sexually. She dare not cheat but he can have comfort in other women.

  18. forreal

    September 30, 2015 at 4:38 am

    seriously Lamido! you are too educated to act in certain way, and ur explanation are senseless.can you pls tell us part of Nigeria or tribe that allows their daughter to stay with a guy and get pregnant before getting married? if actually she is 18 age of consent why all this freaking explanation? yeah Hausa girls get married in their teen cos they hate western education and adhere to doctrine of Islam, and to some that saying BS about been good to get married in their teen to stay out of prostitution or sleeping around, guess what they are number one prostitute.I don’t have a thing about their religion or culture but he should have been muted..Another child bride or consented child bride on the way very soon. .

  19. Person

    September 30, 2015 at 4:41 am

    Agbaya radarada. #dazall.

  20. kate

    September 30, 2015 at 5:17 am

    i did not see the part where he said “i love her, she is my wife” i just saw “the lady in question”. still tacky. sounds like a contract marriage and a marriage to strengthen political and economic favour.

    • Beeeee

      September 30, 2015 at 11:01 am

      Thats all i saw too….”the lady in question”…lmao… so unromantic

  21. Missy J

    September 30, 2015 at 5:33 am

    Loooool…… Sanusi came hard with this. Ouch! A nerve was racked.
    Seriously, all conditions are right in this marriage so all of you claiming activists on top matter that the suppose victims won’t appreciate you for( I won’t be surprise if the new bride releases a statement insulting you guys, Sanusi just told y’all to buy a brain) should please give it a rest.
    The groom is happy, the bride is happy, family is happy and you you are sad. Can’t you see witches are playing snookers in your brain box?

  22. Me?

    September 30, 2015 at 5:55 am

    ? ? ? ? I really really love this response. People seem to forget that he is now a traditional ruler and must think in the intrest of the throne. Heck even the Prince of England can’t marry a Catholic without abidicating his throne.

    Even in the South where I’m from many parents still prefer their kids marrying into certain families to strengthen bonds.

    It’s tradition and the girl haff gree… So wats the stress.

    Things will definitely change but it needs TIME to evolve naturally… Shikena

  23. Tosin

    September 30, 2015 at 5:57 am

    my guy remains my guy.
    that said, sometimes things need to change e.g. why not a female emir…why not an Ekiti wife to extend an arm of friendship across The Niger too 😉 etc etc
    http://lifelib.blogspot.com.ng/2015/01/three-sisters.html <– still free

  24. another Mimi

    September 30, 2015 at 6:23 am

    What no one seem to note that the wedding right is not complete only the wedding contract was signed e. From what he has said it probably won’t take place until it she is 21. After she has had more time to further develop her opinion

    • Tkum

      September 30, 2015 at 11:04 am

      fine! didnt he know it was gonna cause controversy? n drag his name in mud? why didnt he just wait till she is 21? n prolly just sign the contract n she remains in her father’s house!… believe all u can nigerians, Sanusi will use media propanganda to finish ya’all sentimental nigerians. by the time he goes down into the girl, months or weeks after it has died down, u on bellanaija will know if actually he is keeping to his word by not touching her?

  25. another Mimi

    September 30, 2015 at 6:40 am

    If you are okay with the age of consent but have a problem with the age gap think carefully would she have been better off married to her age mate or someone older than her by a year or two. I think not.

  26. Lol

    September 30, 2015 at 6:48 am

    I’m done with authoritative figures in Nigeria.

    You didn’t have to write 800 word limit essay for us .

    People will still hold their opinions, I think she’s too young but she’s 18 and an adult,so she can do whatever.

    I would say this, you will get cheated on at some ppoint emir, if you marry her , at your age Lets be rrea,you can not satisfy an 18. If you can it will only be for so long. Her life span is greater than yours but okay oh.

    I’m 18 and I just can’t fathom being married at this point. Life is too good and I have so much soul searching to do.

    But to each man his own.

    • Selima

      September 30, 2015 at 10:10 am

      I wrote this the other day and I’ll write it again, not everybody is a size 8. From another 18 year old, listen, because you soul is not complete and you’re still looking for bits and pieces does not apply to every 18 year old inugo. I don’t understand the fixation on her sexual satisfaction besides. Some young people are hypo sexual, while others are hyper and some are just right in the middle. Do you know where the girl or HRH falls on the sexual spectrum? It barely has anything to do with age. I read sometime ago that a 70something year old man divorcing his way younger wife because of no sex. Besides with women marrying older and should I say “wiser” and so called more mature and choosing their husbands for themselves and bla, marriages are falling apart more and more by the sec. Homes are in shambles. So clearly good and wise decision making is not a function of age. I was at unilag the other day to give my elder cousin her headphones she forgot at home, so I just stayed over. In the evening we wanted to get something to eat and not too far from the hostel I remember seeing a girl that was a year younger than I was back in secondary school enter a very old man’s car. I was staring at her so much not because of what she was doing but because I was frantically trying to remeber her first name and last name. My cousin thought I wanted to know the nitty gritty of her life and started telling me how that’s her so called “paymaster” and she has a lot and she’s popular and some other crap like that. Just to clarify, she’s 17! In the next 10, 15 years she would come on blogs and be spewing nonsense of what did I know at 18 and 18 is too young and noise, noise,noise. Do your own soul searching alone. I hope your soul searching does not involve sex or multiple sexual partners and strings of stupid, meaningless relationships, you might ask what’s my business or how it concerns me? Same way Sanusi and his wife are asking you too!

    • nnenne

      October 2, 2015 at 12:41 pm

      @ Selima…It concerns me because population explosion is killing our economy. Having too many children , whether in a monogamous or polygamous relationship is not wise. Our forefathers, couldn’t be bothered because they needed nothing from the government. When the likes of Sanusi and their numerous children take all the jobs, nothing is left for others.
      So many children, little time spent in nurturing them, more Miscreants, more Boko Haram, kidnapping, stealing, corruption, poor amenities, etc, and it means more crimes. Yours faithfully cannot come home in peace.
      Am disappointed that someone like Sanusi could not start a reform.

  27. nikky

    September 30, 2015 at 6:58 am

    An emir marrying an 18 year old as a 3rd or 4th wife is totally legit, religiously and culturally speaking. The bigger picture here is most of our widely accepted cultural and religious practices disproportionately favor men than women. A man can marry 4 wives and defend himself by saying I’m from the north, it’s our culture or I am a Muslim, but a woman cannot do any of these things. If the story here was that a powerful woman in her 50’s married an 18 year old, no one will be saying mind your business.
    At the end of the day if the parties involved are consenting adults they are free to do whatever the hell they want, but Mr. emir we will talk about you as long as you are a public figure so Your Royal Highness just deal with it.

  28. Mo81

    September 30, 2015 at 7:17 am

    Well said, nice response….

  29. Metche

    September 30, 2015 at 7:24 am

    I think guilty conscience is disturbing you if not you don’t need to write this epistle. As a literate man, you should have picked a more matured girl in that family. I am not bothered about your culture, its none of my business. Suite yourself and enjoy d marriage.

  30. H.O

    September 30, 2015 at 7:43 am

    Just as the Emir has said ‘If you understand this then its fine. If you do not, buy yourself a brain,’ @CB, i think you need a brain. So after reading this article…you still have issues with his decision regarding his life and his choice. If someone is happy with whatever decision he/she has made regarding their lives.. i don’t think it is anyone’s business… People like CB will never mind their business. Even if you commit suicide, they will still criticize you. It’s best to ignore people and just live your life. The Emir made a decision to take another wife, the bride gave her consent, both families are okay with it.. how is that anyone’s headache? So because there’s a child bride problem in the North.. he should have picked an older bride… Do you know if an older bride would make him happy?

    • CB

      September 30, 2015 at 3:02 pm

      From someone who doesn’t know how to use a reply button…..I wouldn’t have expected your critical thinking abilities to be anything different from zero to nonexistent.
      I can’t even attempt to raise the non-issues you had with my comment, why waste my time on a supo?

  31. nakomseh

    September 30, 2015 at 7:53 am

    Spoken like a prince! Its a pity that in this age of social media the opinions of the masses count. But they are what they are …………masses.

  32. jayboogie

    September 30, 2015 at 8:02 am

    Lmao , Nigerians sent Sanusi down history lane . Omo see quote and names and who marry who and who did what and what , …lmao ! now i understand the power of internet . hahahahahahah Oga Sanusi, you should have just stopped at no 1. oooo , that was more than enough .

  33. Nne

    September 30, 2015 at 8:04 am

    What if the girl only gives birth to daughters seeing that she is the kind of woman that is prepared for giving birth to princes…Lol I joke… I still think he is too old for her but Happy married life

  34. gabi

    September 30, 2015 at 8:06 am

    Abeg shut up sir

    • Annalise Keating

      September 30, 2015 at 2:29 pm

      You must be a Yoruba lady. Lol @ sir after the shut up.

  35. FP

    September 30, 2015 at 8:20 am

    Polygamy is not exclusive to Islam but a more cultural thing in Africa (at least before the oyinbo man came and gave us their culture and beliefs which included the fact that marriage is only between a man and a woman, but let’s ignore the fact that not only are they not living by most of the ideas they forced on us, we are now exporting the religion they imposed on us back to them).

    That said, in this my short experience in life, I have witnessed the mess girls between the ages of 12 -16 get themselves into with men old enough to be their fathers 2 times over.(often times they are misguided) The men are not Muslims nor notherners in any way. They mess these girls up and move on to the next one without taking responsibilities.
    I think making a big issue out of this current case is hypocritical. This girl will have the life that most women will dream of and will be protected. The issue goes beyond child marriage but extends to molestation of young girls who are not at the age of consent. This girl is 18, educated, has the best in life and most probably living her dream. Go to akala in mushin and see babies breastfeeding babies, toddlers smoking weed or cigarettes, girls as young as 10 getting raped. I would accept an 18 year old educated young lady (who most probably has been experimenting sexually with God knows who) to be married to a man who would give her the best in life than a 9 yr old girl being rapped, molested or married to a man of any age. Problem with us in this country is that we don’t know how to pick the right battles.

  36. DD

    September 30, 2015 at 8:23 am

    I personally see no problem with it. It certainly wouldn’t be my choice or preference but that has no bearing on the matter. The fact is that she is legally of age to marry. No laws are being broken here. Beyond that, it’s really none of my business.

  37. whoever

    September 30, 2015 at 8:46 am

    All in all, “One Man’s food is another Man’s Poison”. As long as our Choices in Life don’t give us sleepless nights, we are fine and good to go… God Help us all, give us Joy and PEACE. Blessings.

  38. anonymous

    September 30, 2015 at 8:48 am

    u ppl that claim you want to copy the westerners are ignorant of some of deir tradition. i believe everyone has a right to follow their culture. i bet you guys avnt heard of the Gypsies .these group of ppl marry as early as 14 yrs. and its legal nd they do the wedding in the church. its their culture nd no one is bothered about it. why is it that africans just want to have a non existent culture later in future. you ppl don’t know what you are wishing for.

    • Gift?

      September 30, 2015 at 10:37 am

      So gypsies marry 54-year old grandfathers-to-be?
      Mr or Madam anonymous kindly take a seat

  39. epic

    September 30, 2015 at 9:00 am

    Lol @ it is not your life, it is not your daughter and you are not my wife therefore it is not your business.

  40. HerExcellence

    September 30, 2015 at 9:09 am

    ”….they see an 18yr old young lady, i see a princess of noble birth whose mother is also a princess and was brought up in a good muslim home. This is the kind of woman that is prepared for giving birth to princes and prepares them for d roles expected of them in d society” .
    …there this got me. theres something abt royalty,nobility, blue bloods. i respect u Sanusi!
    and that ‘buy urself a brain’ line u kept using…..epic!
    u have a new fan Emir!!!

    • mrs chidukane

      September 30, 2015 at 11:55 am

      Wait oh, so after all the children he has he still wants more? Tsk tsk And Princes for that matter? Princesses no follow I presume. Ultimately it’s their life, I have mine.

  41. Ephi

    September 30, 2015 at 9:09 am

    I really really pity girls born in the North when all you have to look forward to in your life is being given out in marriage at 18 or younger as a GIFT to some randy old man who is probably older than your father. What a culture. It is a shame.

  42. AbujaKenneth

    September 30, 2015 at 9:10 am

    I think NC means Northern Council. One thing is clear for all our acts, it is justifiable. A thief cut with stolen bridge rails can justify it be saying it is because Buhari has not appointed ministers. SL article is not only sectional but divisive in a country like ours. By the way I have not read the article on libido. I will do that before I go get myself a brain since the one Almighty God gave is not liked by SL

  43. Abby

    September 30, 2015 at 9:14 am

    “My own relationship with the current Lamido dates back to 1981 ”

    In 1981, this girl WASN’T even conceived not to mention born. CRADLE SNATCHER Sanusi. Selfish old man. What happens to the girl when you are knocking 90 and she is just in her 40s.

  44. RA

    September 30, 2015 at 9:20 am

    PRECISELY……..Nobodys Business !!!

  45. zeezee

    September 30, 2015 at 9:24 am

    That does not make it wrong or illegal either. Some people marry because they are betrothed. Others out of love. Others for money, companionship etc. The motive of the marriage is not our business nor ours to condemn. The problem here is the age difference so please do not castigate him because of a perceived motive.

  46. Somebody

    September 30, 2015 at 9:25 am

    I haven’t commented on this issue because I don’t understand why Sanusi is being made a scapegoat. This is the same thing Buhari did and y’all have no problem with it and call him Sai Buhari. Nigerians are hypocritical abeg, if you can live with Buhari and the First Lady then I see no reason why Sanusi’s 18 year old wife bothers you so much.

  47. Oluwatoyin

    September 30, 2015 at 9:26 am

    I understand the need for him to respond to this issue but the tone? wow! I find the tone and language of this ‘defence’ rude and inappropriate. Coming from an ‘Educated Emir’. All of the good points he wanted to make is lost in this defensive and brash tone. If you’re speaking to the NC* – I don’t even know what that is, I gather they are a set of people you respect and want to offer an explanation to but you do it as though you’re speaking to simpletons? You could have done better.

    • Miss Tee

      September 30, 2015 at 7:39 pm

      Right! My sentiments exactly. Whatever opinion I or others have on the issue doesn’t even matter because what he’s doing is legal (even if it’s not my cup of tea). It would have been better for him to have remained silent rather than carry on with this bloviating speech riddled with the same condescension, finger pointing and culture bashing he accuses his attackers of. However educated the man is, this write-up is very telling about his character and frankly it’s disappointing to see him stoop to this. Ugh!

  48. COKE

    September 30, 2015 at 9:31 am

    Asides telling you to shut your mouth and mind your business IN A VERY NICE WAY he also said thus:

    When the Emir of Kano marries it has to be something beyond what he personally desires to what is appropriate for that position and the expectations of the people he represents.

    You don’t just pick up any girl on the street. And by the way, for those who shout libido, sex is cheap and available everywhere in all shapes and sizes and all colors if that is what they want. And all ages too. Marriage is a very different proposition. The mother of your children has to be something other than, not at least much more than a mere object of sexual fantasy. But if you do not know that you need to buy yourself a brain.

  49. Lolz

    September 30, 2015 at 9:33 am

    “This is the kind of woman that is prepared for giving birth to princes and bringing them up for the role expected of them in society.”

    But please this guy already has princes and princesses, so what other giving birth to princes does he want this 18 YEAR OLD to do?! Chai. Na wa ooo

  50. The girl who flies planes

    September 30, 2015 at 9:43 am

    Sanusi,You are nothing but a wawa!
    Go and sit down
    Infact, Gerrarahere shitmen youknowwhati’msaying!
    Isi gbakawa gi there! Marrying young girls!

    • shamoudinumar

      December 19, 2015 at 3:47 am

      You are rather the wawa let your western masters continue to brain wash you for thier culture of men marrying men and women marrying women and very soon animals marrying men and women of your type, , and leave the clean emir and his eighteen year old wife to be alone you shit fuck er go and sit down and shut your big mouth or go and eat suit, they say go and buy a brain

  51. papermoon

    September 30, 2015 at 9:44 am

    Tosin, i laughed so hard i cant breath, damn…..

  52. anonymous

    September 30, 2015 at 9:48 am

    Mr. Emir, there is no justification for what u did. You will die very soon and make this girl a widow. when randy old men like you marry all the young girls what will the young men marry? Ur mother? no body is saying gay marriage is better so stop comparing it. am sorry to say this sir, but what will your grown up children call her? (coz am sure you have children that are much older than she is). lol! If I want to thank God for my blessings, I’ll thank Him twice for making me a Christian. Am sorry oo but Northern Women don sofa.. I can imagine the heartbrk the first wife is going tru..

    • Ada Nnewi

      September 30, 2015 at 12:11 pm

      This is not a religion matter, a lot of our fellow christian married brothers are breaking their wife’s hearts by keeping multiple girlfriends, mistresses etc, sleeping with their colleague’s, wife’s relatives, house girls etc and giving their wive’s std’s…a lot of older christian men still marry much younger women especially my eastern brothers that marry their women while still very young undergrads…so what exactly is your point?…A lot of women married to young men still become young widows….

    • anonymous

      September 30, 2015 at 12:43 pm

      I didnt ask for ur coment. Aboki Ada Nnewi.

  53. nira

    September 30, 2015 at 9:49 am

    But really, you guys should leave him alone….as he said, the lady is neither your daughter nor is any of you his wives…each one to his/ her own. Leave them be abeg….

  54. red

    September 30, 2015 at 9:55 am

    mtccheww…yeye dey smell!

  55. Anie

    September 30, 2015 at 9:57 am

    There is everything wrong in this! At 18 years old!! What are basis upon which parents give their children out in marriage? Love or maturity or social status? Is she even sexually mature? In the head of an average 18 year old, marriage is not in any way close to the top of the list. Na wa oo!

    • Selima

      September 30, 2015 at 4:12 pm

      She is not an average 18 year old??

  56. pinkiee lee

    September 30, 2015 at 9:58 am

    If you read this and it improves your understanding of this issue that is fine. If it does not just remember it is not your LIFE, it is not your DAUGHTER and you are not my WIFE therefore it is not your BUSINESS. Well said.

  57. Desire

    September 30, 2015 at 10:02 am

    So my question is if this girl goes to the uk and falls in love with someone,what happens?

    • princess baby

      September 30, 2015 at 1:00 pm

      flex with the yanky guy, and chop baba Emir money. shikenan

    • Selima

      September 30, 2015 at 4:11 pm

      Older married people fall in love with other people everyday! I actually don’t think that question applies to the 18 year old because of her age. It applies to all women and men away from their husbands and wives respectively. When omotola was shooting movies in different locations and her husband was flying cross continents, nobody asked her. When Kano was playing away from his family, nobody asked amarachi. There are women in their mid thirties that married 2 years or3yrs ago and they are away from their husbands and have fallen in love with other people, what do they know abi? Or their poor decision making is valid because they married older or is it that they know what they want now and not 2 yrs ago? Your question applies to every married person spending time away from their spouse. It takes discipline and perseverance, something I bet her parents have instilled in her. 18 years old is not a child. Some Nigerian 18 year olds are done with their undergraduate degree and are serving, some are done with serving. You’re telling me if you have a company and that person is good at what they studied or do, they won’t get a job because he/she is 18 and still a child and their brain doesnt function well enough to deal with the harshness of the workplace? Reasoning and maturity is not a function of age neither do they correlate!

  58. Cynthia

    September 30, 2015 at 10:08 am

    superb…. I do admire his intelligence, his choice of words very good. I respect people’s cultures a lot. I don’t see y pple are getting their self worked up, are d girl family complaining or is d girl herself complaining. .

  59. Ever Green

    September 30, 2015 at 10:13 am

    At FP may God increase your wisdom ojare.

  60. star

    September 30, 2015 at 10:15 am

    Has the girl In question gotten her WAEC result yet? She just finished secondary school three months ago. I don’t have an issue with him marrying a fourth wife. My only concern is that she just turned 18,so she was already handpicked before she turned 18 and that is how predators behave.why could he not marry someone from that family that’s is 25 or so? To me, no one can justify the age gap,it’s way too wide.i am 22 and the thought of having sex with a 54 year old man makes my skin crawl,imagine a girl who just turned 18 has to have sex with him. If that does not gross you out, you are probably are fan of pedophilia or a child predator.

  61. Gift?

    September 30, 2015 at 10:33 am

    — I have also learnt that traditionally, Emirs “gift” their children to other “Emirs” —

    So it is okay to GIFT another human being??? Is she a goat or a ram? This is a person with feelings, emotions, dreams – not an object to be gifted to a grandfather-to-be.

  62. Tkum

    September 30, 2015 at 10:46 am

    imagine the ignoramus and big hypocrite!
    “The real issue is that people do not accept cultural difference. And you can see it in the approach to these issues. I am supposed to be urbane and western educated. Yes but I am not European. I am a northern Nigerian Fulani Muslim brought up in a setting exactly like the one my children are being brought up in.
    If you read this and it improves your understanding of this issue that is fine. If it does not just remember it is not your life, it is not your daughter and you are not my wife therefore it is not your business.”
    ….. oga so when it comes to marriage u are a Nigerian abi…. when u where a CBN governor trying to prove u are for the betterment of Nigeria, u were European shey? Hypocritical man! u wud v allowed CBN operate the typical ‘I am a Nigerian’ style na…Fool the sentimental nigerians who believe anything that comes out of craps in form of leaders like u!

    IF YOU ARE SANITIZING NIGERIA, SANITIZE EVERYTHING!!!!!! ELSE WE WILL KEEP GOING BACK TO THE DRAWING BOARD …LIFE IS DEEP!!!

  63. Tish

    September 30, 2015 at 11:11 am

    All I see is a prejudicial mind that’s shallow & unproductive. If you claim you’re doing the RIGHT thing, why explain yourself??? Don’t you have older sons that can marry the 18year old? You hide behind religion and politics to explain your randy nature!

    You people reduce women to nothing in the North – she is a “gift”. What nonsense! We expected better from one that’s well-educated… you should be fighting off this barbaric acts and not embracing it. #youbuyyourselfabrain. #1man1wife.

  64. victor modo

    September 30, 2015 at 11:19 am

    Personally I have no issue with the marriage, actually I praise him for letting her get to 18 and noting that the wedding would probably be consummated at 21(that’s more than can be said for the girls some people talking now sleep with). However, I must note in this writeup Oga just said if you are not from royal lineage or serious dope ass money, you can’t marry my daughter

  65. Tkum

    September 30, 2015 at 11:25 am

    *this has died down…

    …or when he travels to the UK to visit her at school, u wud know if he still sticks to his word of not touching her. of course, the girl wants it , what does she really know if not only to get married to sanusi.

  66. NG

    September 30, 2015 at 11:38 am

    It is not all about fulfilling expected cultural/social/biological roles surely. What about the human angle? The need for common interests etc? What will they find to talk about in common? Just wondering.

    It is a bad culture, simply put, just like the culture of four wives. Some will however love it and so it a contentious issue, alive to be debated and campaigned against by others. That is life’s reality so lets continue living, allowing each his opinion until the fullness of time for change on these matters. And if they don’t change? No wahala, life continues, opinions too continue. Life is interesting, always. Life is sooooooooo GOOD!

  67. concerned9ja

    September 30, 2015 at 11:47 am

    The girl is a not a child she is what we now term a young adult of marriagble age let’s not forget that.
    I didn’t really understand Hausa culture and I did initially look at it from my own perspective about what seems right or wrong..
    What I now understand is most girls born to Royal families have already been earmarked for some other Royal in order to strenghten for a better word the Fulani Caliphate.
    Which means there’s hardly going to be any 21-25 year old Princess available.
    Princeess Diana and Charles was also an arranged marriage
    Generations gone by the Kings of England did have many wives same story daughters of European kings..
    However they moved on and stopped that practice but hasn’t stopped them having mistresses.
    As I did say it’s about Perspectives..it’s their culture..their way of life…
    And the Western take is important because one might not condone their sexual habits but you dare not oppose it in the open..many have lost their jobs.and livelihood.
    End of the day some 18 year old girl would go Uni..some be a babymama..some married..some lesbians…..some Business Mogul..everyone hasn’t got the same life designs..
    Emir Sanusi always had the choice to say NO though but then the other Royal family might feel degraded..offended..slighted.

    • Biker Chic

      September 30, 2015 at 6:41 pm

      People can like to quote RABBISH! Charles and Diana? How did that contraption end?? It was a bloody façade. Everybody is commenting, l musto comment.

  68. ellen

    September 30, 2015 at 12:41 pm

    Nigerians criticise alot. infact the average nigerian is very insultive. I think people should read, observe and understand properly before commenting. 1st she’s not a child bride because she’s 18year and she’s an adult.. 2ndly it’s their tradition and asides that there are so many girls all over nigeria who got married at 18 and under 18 willingly, presently we have girls under 18 who are sexually active and willingly too. At 18 an individual is old enough to make certain decisions concerning their lives and marriage is one of those decision. He shouldn’t have responded to his critics because sometimes SILENCE IS GOLDEN. You can’t please anyone. very sure if she was 20years people would still call her child bride just because he is Sanusi. Nigerians pretend alot,we enjoy casting stones,pointing fingers and what not forgetting we are all guilty of most of the things we condemn.

  69. KRISSY

    September 30, 2015 at 12:42 pm

    I have daughters. And they know they can only marry from certain backgrounds. I always prefer family. When my daughter wanted to marry Mouftah Baba Ahmed’s son .
    Why didn’t the said daughter marry Ahmed’s father? why marry the son.18×3=54, how ridiculous is that.
    Some are saying the girl gave her consent and is happy-did she tell you that? why speaking for the girl..
    After sleeping with 3 women and other mistresses we are not aware of, what make you think you deserve a virgin, what make you think she doesn’t deserve better as a virgin, instead of an over experienced grand dad like you.

    • oversabi

      October 1, 2015 at 3:11 am

      No be small. the reward for her virginity is a d**k spread too far and wide. Poor girl will be confronted with at least 40 years of various biological cultures from all corners of the Nigerian earth and wherever else it has been. Why does the girl not merit better? I guess she is only a woman.

  70. anonymous

    September 30, 2015 at 12:54 pm

    If am the girl, honestly I’ll find a young bobo in UK that knows the modern style coz this old man no go fit do d thing well.. dis babe is a runs gal joor, I knw she jst want to eat d man’s money and flex in Uk… lol!

  71. bashebony

    September 30, 2015 at 12:55 pm

    for those of you developing BP on another man’s problem, how many of you can swear with the holy books, amadioha or whatever you believe in of being virgins at 18. I hate it when people think they have a say in how one should spend his/her life. most of us know the truth but we still pretend not to. if you think what Sanusi did is a taboo, it means our parents are perpetrators too because my mother was tapped at a young age and so was her mother and mothers before hers and I know the same thing is obtainable in most homes in Nigeria or Africa at large religion aside.. If you don’t know about yours; call your folks and find out.
    just so you know, my husband is 17yrs older than me and he is the captain jack sparrow my ship needs. I’m a Muslim,I’m his second wife and if he decides to add another, I will have no objection as long as it doesn’t stop him from playing his role as my husband.. Don’t push your believes down our throats, it’s a free world and we only live but once, so do whatever rocks your [email protected] BN commentators.

    • Bella

      November 30, 2015 at 9:39 am

      I feel sorry for you. 🙁

  72. Icrossmyheart

    September 30, 2015 at 1:01 pm

    Also seeing as Fulani culture is the most holy, why are their herdsmen killing other Nigerians for their cattle? They do not value the lives of other Nigerians least of all their culture and we are here talking about a nonsensical marriage while Nigerians are kidnapped and killed because of cattle.

    See how they use media to distract us. Tomorrow they condemn the West when they are even worse than the west. Please how should we limit fulani herdmen to only graze their cows in the north seeing as they only choose women from that side? Women equals cattle ( only good as gifts and as baby making) from that area so they should expand their culture to include the grazing of cattle and limiting it to the North!!!!!!!!!!

    Nonesense.

  73. wey d silly northern feminists on BN?

    September 30, 2015 at 1:11 pm

    where are the silly northern girl feminists on BN that joins the bandwagon?

    Like hausa chic in toronto and the likes, you see nothing in Sanusi marrying a 4th wife and a child for that matter but when it comes to feminism, your voice is heard on the roof tops.

    So your arguments for feminism is negated by your arguments for this.

    Forget it, women are still seen as commodities and gifts, especially ones money can buy.
    Why all of una never marry two, three or four husbands to show you are equal to men and can do what a man can do?

    Even at my age, to date an 18yr old, i consider it as child abuse.
    Is it the mental capacity? sexual capacity? psychological capacity? pregnancy capacity?
    what does she know or what has she known about life already?

    Anyway, make d girl chop your money, b4 the girl is 30, the man go don die and d girl will start a new life with one guy wearing jeans

    • Bella

      November 30, 2015 at 9:43 am

      Lollll @ guy wearing jeans…..amen o!

  74. Hawah

    September 30, 2015 at 1:24 pm

    Let HRH be….
    if it worries anyone of you, why not go marry 18……..

  75. camo

    September 30, 2015 at 1:26 pm

    The prince Charles and Diane that you talked about was two children of.royal families, although one is remarkably older than the other, Sanusi has. Son who is at least 20, why not betroth them both? If their families must cement? Yimu, if you know Sanusi, you will know he is randy goat, he just wants to be sleeping with a younger woman, for now, he will still jump outside. I subscribe to Jide ‘s comment. “The Pedophile and his Epistle “

  76. bashebony

    September 30, 2015 at 2:32 pm

    Haba bella, with all the effort I used in typing my comment, you refused posting it. nawa o.

  77. Adaada

    September 30, 2015 at 2:39 pm

    18 yrs is the legal age for everything around the world. Weather you have the mind of an adult or not, that’s not anyone’s problems.
    Studies has it that the adult brain doesn’t fully develop until the person is 25! That was the argument the defense put up for the 2013 Boston Marathon Bomber who was less than 21 when his brother influenced him to blow up the marathon using pressure cooker.

    Does that mean that if your 24 yr old daughter wanted to get married you wouldn’t let her? Cus many Nigerian girls get married at 22-23 yrs old! Yes Sanusi is 54…so? What if the bride was 24 and he was 54, would it have made a difference? How old is Oshimole and how is his bride? He is still fit to have a wife. Leave the issue. He was smart enough to choose a legally matured bride. Yerima went for a toddler.

    Don’t let numbers play games on you.
    Nigerians speak from one side of their mouth; what about girls that sleep with older men for money in Nigeria? What’s the difference? Wasn’t that girl ready to become Dangote’s 100th wife? She even converted to Islam! Dangote is in his 60s and she’s in her 20s… Omotola married at 18 and enjoying her marriage!

    Hypocrisy is what Nigerians do best. At least Lamido wants his bride to be educated – and won’t even touch her until she turns 21! That’s a smart man. He’s sending her abroad for studies. How many sugar daddies have ever encouraged their teen prostitutes to go school abroad???

    • Reply to Adaada

      September 30, 2015 at 4:04 pm

      Adaada, it is WHETHER not WEATHER.
      Maybe you should go back to school before writing about Sanusi sending his bride to school

    • Biker Chic

      September 30, 2015 at 7:04 pm

      Hahahahah. Epic response @Reply to AdaAda. Don’t mind AdaAda and her dullard comment.

    • Chimda

      October 1, 2015 at 3:05 am

      Only a typical troll would focus on typographic errors instead of focusing on the context of the blog. If weather and whether is your measuring stick to determine if someone is educated, I guess you need to go back to pre-school. If you have no constructive argument to make, get off posts. It’s childish to attack people meaninglessly. Don’t be a troll. Arsehole.

    • Bella

      November 30, 2015 at 10:33 am

      I think it’s very telling that you are comparing this young girl to a teen prostitute……So those are the only options? Become a teen prostitute OR marry your grandfathers age as 4th wife before you even finish secondary school…….choose!

  78. queenb

    September 30, 2015 at 2:49 pm

    Written like a true pedophile! Smh

    • Adaada

      September 30, 2015 at 3:28 pm

      You sound like an illiterate! What is the meaning of Pedophile? Or do you throw it around out of convinience? Smh.

  79. Anonymous

    September 30, 2015 at 3:05 pm

    My views on the matter are so conflicted .
    I know they don’t matter just want to get them out and this is the platform where I can .

    1. This world is full of walking paradoxes
    2: Everyone is a hypocrite except our Almighty God
    3. We keep separating ourselves , aren’t we all Nigerians ?
    4. Why do we compare everything done in the West as if it’s the right way to go ?
    5. The problem with societies is ethnocentrism .
    6. We don’t respect others cultures .
    7. Just because something is legal does it make it moral ? (slavery was once legal does it make it right )

    It’s so funny you guys keep saying he’s too educated and well traveled, If education was all one needed , Nigeria would be a super power with great infrastructure and no poverty .

    Sometimes we hate what we dont understand . We call things foreign to us weird or stupid . There are some things in cultures we don’t agree with that’s not to say we should bash them . When Europeans first came in contact with American Indians and Africans , they saw them as uncivilized and primitive . Was that the case ? No not at all . So just because northerners do things a certain way does it give us the right to condem them no ?

    I am Christian and from the Niger Delta , I am a sinner and a hypocrite I can admit these things .

  80. Krissy

    September 30, 2015 at 3:07 pm

    BN where is my comment?

  81. Kitay

    September 30, 2015 at 4:55 pm

    This sort of early ‘arranged’ marriage isn’t unique to Muslim families. Indeed it was practiced by so many cultures over the world, generations ago and probably still being practiced. Where as soon as the female child is born, she is ‘groomed’ to accept she will be betrothed and married off to another royal family, so how can she know any better?
    I’m neither a Muslim nor a Northerner; however I’m from an educated family where the choices in life where clearly ingrained in me as a girl child. I was brought up to believe education was key, my parents taught me to be independent, to travel, expand my horizon, see and experience different cultures, not once did they limit my options to ‘either marry at 18 or you’ll be seen as a prostitute’. What about ‘at 18 years, the whole world is your oyster, explore your potentials, travel, get educated?’ After graduating my parents encouraged me to travel abroad to further my education, one thing that stayed with me my whole life and gave me confidence was their belief in me, that the daughter they raised would always have a calm head on her shoulders and make the right choices. At 27, I am now married with two kids (by the way I was a virgin when I got married). My point is this, the lady in question was probably groomed for this all her life, which unfortunately has limited her scope of thinking…that all she can possibly aim to achieve is be someone’s wife at 18 years. The world is changing and I believe cultures can change along with it for the better!

    • T

      October 18, 2015 at 9:49 pm

      It completely ridiculous that people link early marriage to virtue and late marriage to promiscuity. The average woman in Kano has been 4 times married by the age of 30. Now, by South Western standard that is promiscuous and it doesn’t matter if she was a virgin at the time of her first marriage at 13.
      Not all unmarried girls are sleeping around. Devote Christians keep their virginity too. I did until my thirties. Some of my unmarried friends are still virgins in their forties. So there is nothing special about being a virgin at 18 and people should stop implying that girls sleep around when single. By the way, a Virgin should equally desire chastity in a man. You shouldn’t be keeping your body for a man who is busy gallivanting around the globe much less a polygamous one.

  82. I ask again!

    September 30, 2015 at 5:01 pm

    Does the Adamawa king not have older daughters?

  83. 8 and Counting

    September 30, 2015 at 5:22 pm

    See him breeding like a goat. Does he not already have like 7 or 8 children? Yet he is adding an 18+ girl to his harem and intending to increase the number to what 20? If the literate amongst the Hausas are doing this, I can just imagine what the poor man on the street there would do – probably target raising average of 25+ kids. Zero family planning yet poverty is endemic in that region. Now we can all see why the North is where it is!! This one no be culture, na backwardness.

  84. Someonecute

    September 30, 2015 at 7:58 pm

    All I can only imagine is; this naive 18year old girl married to a 54yr old man and studying in the UK , meets a 20yr old cute guy and they fall in love……….. Pt1 and then in Pt2 it turns out to be her husband’s son that he had with a Yoruba woman when he was posted to Work in Lagos at 34………… Then Pt3………

  85. Jamce

    September 30, 2015 at 8:28 pm

    We are still waiting for your response on this publication Alhaji SLS -http://www.premiumtimesng.com/news/137242-exclusive-sanusi-lamido-his-cbn-mistress-and-their-sweetheart-escapades.html

  86. ola

    September 30, 2015 at 10:21 pm

    Did this dumbass really say “man marrying man and woman marrying woman” is primitive and bestian?? It is your culture that’s primitive and bestian. Even more, misogynistic, disgusting, and unkind. You lot limit women because your ancestors did it that way. What you don’t want to realize is that there is meant to be progress. You are not even as smart as your ancestors because the only reason they limited women is because of their own insecurities. Women have more capabilities, they knew it and hated it. But you guys don’t even know why you are still performing these silly traditions. History sucks, tradition sucks, all written by men at the expense of women, progress, and a great future for all mankind. Keep being dumb. Keep risking it all for future generations.

  87. Redcarpetguru

    September 30, 2015 at 10:37 pm

    In SLS’s response to Nigerians he made one thing clear. He says its cultural and accepted by his religion, and we should borrow ourselves some brain and get over ourselves.
    Hence, its okay for him to marry an 18 year old, By the way from my Christian values, the Bible tells the story of King David, when a young maiden was brought to him when he was on old, to keep him warm? In as much as we can’t determine the maidens age, but the bible said she was a virgin and young, hmmm!! ?
    Just saying if at that time these practices were already in place, then how do we judge this matter now?
    In truth an 18 year old is of marriageable age, at least our top celebrity Omotola, got married at 16 and no one is screaming down on Mr. Ekeinde, Kalu Nwankwo married Amara his wife at 18 and trust me there are many more cases.
    So in my opinion judgement on wether I can allow my 18 year old daughter or niece or sister marry an older man is totally up to the affected parents. And this would be judged on cultural values and differences truly.
    For me I would say No, because I want her to be more mature in mind, but in truth as humans we all learn on the job, wether as wives or husbands.
    So if the inevitable like early marriage does happen to a young girl all she needs like the Bible says is guidance from older women. There is a practice gap between Age and maturity and I tell you some 18 year olds are truly mature, perhaps that’s the case of SLS’s new wife. Moreover he says there would be no proper wedding till she is 21, so…… I believe she may be mature in mind before then, from constant education from her mothers and extended family matriarchs. ?

    • T

      October 18, 2015 at 9:35 pm

      t

  88. PIUS AGUNBIADE

    September 30, 2015 at 11:48 pm

    The North & the Northerners, with their primitive answer to society issue is very disturbing. And the like of Lamido Sanusi, did neither help in fighting human injustice to man.

  89. SWAGG1

    October 1, 2015 at 1:19 am

    Having said all that long Englich, one word threw me off in his response. He equates his new marriage as a “contract,” which is quite discturbing. Wishing him a hml anyway

  90. jennietobbie

    October 1, 2015 at 1:49 am

    “Marriage is a very different proposition. The mother of your children has to be something other than, not at least much more than a mere object of sexual fantasy. But if you do not know that you need to buy yourself a brain.”

    Oh laa laaa…the Emir sent us ALL to school!!!!! On a serious note, this was brilliantly written and I absolutely have no problem whatsoever with this union because they are two adults. Period!!

  91. conscience

    October 1, 2015 at 2:05 am

    i find it very interesting reading all comments above…..interestingly…the subject didnt capture my fancy like d arguments…men!!!!!people can argue sha for this country…..everyone trying to outpoint the other…..gbam ma country has an arsenal of faculty….when i see an argument…i say…dats true o!!!then i see anoda opposing one…then i say hmmm….dats true too sha….then a totally different view gets me scratching ma head…….by the way…wetin una get for english for WAEC sef…if no one had an A…then gereaaheahere!!!!!

  92. fleur

    October 1, 2015 at 3:08 am

    Ah, you don find trouble. By his logic, the only bulala that can produce princely children is his own. His sons’ thingies never reach. She has to be ravaged by a 60 year old to produce princes. very soon he will quote science on older sperm and how it is correlated with princely output. He should not have responded. Often it is better when people dont know what is going on in your mind. I find his response more disturbing because he takes us on an unprecedented and totally unexpected journey through a mind not as solid as the academic intellect that is embodied in the same.

  93. momo karbo.

    October 1, 2015 at 3:43 am

    If our traditional beliefs condone the marrying of multiple wives, then why would it not confer the same to our African women? Women also should have the right to marry multiple husbands. What is good for the goose, should also be good for the gander.Are these people even worry about the transmission of all these plethora of deadly sexually transmitted diseases? Lastly, i just want to tell sanusi, that he has a very long way to go, in catching up with the likes of Zuma of south Africa, with 18 wives, and the king of Swaziland, with 96. Having all those young wives, is like an old man, denying his age, by purchasing a brand new expensive car. Nothing more than self aggrandizement.

  94. YIH

    October 1, 2015 at 6:14 am

    We are pouring insults on SLS. How about my Christian brothers that will marry one legal wife and have zillions of concubines and children out of wedlock. The legal wife will only get to know on the day the man dies.

    Most of our parents were betrothed at a young age and they live happily with their husbands. Even with all the courtship,dating and all, the marriage starts to sink the minute its legalized! Northern girls don’t dump babies in the gutter, they dont abort: To curb this menace I think I support early marriage.

    Besides any insult or curse u hurl at me I return it in zillion folds.

  95. gabi

    October 1, 2015 at 9:00 am

    Story story what???who told u nothern girls don’t dump babies in gutters or abort?omg well u don’t know tho,u are so ignorant.the highest rate of prostitution is in d north and where many nothern girls are.forget all dis hijab and all.dis I know very well and people that know know even their men know.

  96. Joyce

    October 1, 2015 at 9:29 am

    @nerve chinny is trying so hard to land her own hausa /fulani prince /king. She doesn’t realize that the likes of her can’t give birth /raise a prince or princess ??. Your blood is not the right shade of blue.

  97. Zee

    October 1, 2015 at 10:40 am

    Lol. this comes down to how women are perceived .
    I can remember this middle aged lecturer at the polytechnic I served who boldly told me he is ENTITLED to four wives as a moslem. I felt sorry for him..
    And no. Not all of Northern young women want to marry young. Some want to explore life.

  98. S.O.Asanimor

    October 1, 2015 at 10:54 am

    The marriage proper will not take place until the bride is probably 21 as she would be studying in the Uk.
    Futhermore,the lady in question did not complain of force.Why this noise?

  99. zainab

    October 1, 2015 at 3:58 pm

    You are pathetic. This man does not for any reason need to explain his actions. The fact that you think he is using the English language to confuse you, is clear sign of your, ignorance illiteracy. You are a hypocrite. That you all think this child abuse.

    Let me tell you what child is. Child abuse is when you guys think it’s ok for a 14 year old to get knocked up by some random boy and she is alone in the delivery rooom experiencing the trauma of child birth that she is not mentally developed enough to cope with. She now has to bring up the child and if it’s a daughter you can rest assured she will also be knocked at the age of 14 . And this is the never ending cycle thst girls go through. But hey that’s not child abuse in your eyes because it was the girls choice to open her legs to a horny randy boy, and it s ok because he is her age.

    Sorry to dissapoint but as northern Muslim and Christian girls alike we are aware from a very young age and know about what those kind of girls through and we would rather not go down that road. We come from a families of wealth and nobility. We we are wise enough at young age to know that we want remain in the comfort and wealth we were brought up with

    You ladies and men alike are just jealous. By the look of things all you girls are too old and we’ll past your sell by date that no one will take a second look at you. Let alone a true king. And as for you guys you couldn’t land such a hot princess if your life depended on it

    • Bella

      November 30, 2015 at 10:58 am

      Zainab honey…..one of the reasons we are advocating for older, more experienced brides, is so they can be free enough to get enough education so they don’t SHELL like you.

      You need to go back to school dear, your English is pretty poor. 🙁

      God bless.

  100. Garbus

    October 1, 2015 at 4:07 pm

    Many comments are rather helping the real issues SLS is diguising. I am a northerner from Kano, and I only see the age difference in marriage as cultural/personal issue and not as repoignant as same sex marriage. However, the real truth that SLS will not say is that such marriages are one of the tools the northern olirgarchy uses to maintain contacts among their solidarity groups. They only marry among themselves, while they sleep around with the children of the other people they consider a lower caste. There is almost no emir or prince, more especially from the same Kano royal family that at one time or the other did not impregnent a girl who he will never agree to marry. While it is only those from the royal background that are for marriage, the children of the “talakawas” are only for sleeping around! Rubbish! I can even cite examples! is that Islamic?

  101. Timmy Tim

    October 1, 2015 at 4:46 pm

    I don’t care how he puts it HE’s a disgusting old man!

  102. Ramsey

    October 2, 2015 at 12:20 am

    Hypocritical Christians! They are the first to cast the first stones, using the bible to cover up their own immorality.

    I read all the comments and one thing seems to be what everyone here argues:

    1. He’s older
    2. He’s shameless
    3. She’s young – at 18
    4. Blah blah

    If I were to research everyone who made a comment here, I’ll find out that majority of you lost their viriginities when they you were less than 15 to a man older than your grand parents!

    Just because you consider something ugly doesn’t make it bad. Learn to accept people’s cultures. And as for most of you debating this post, if you actually read it A-Z, you will see the part that says she has to finish her schooling first! The wedding is in 2 yrs which means that she is only engaged at, to be married at 21! Now tell me what’s wrong with that! Hypocritical Nigerians; you idolize single, older “girls” that humps older men in exchange for expensive trips abroad, endorsements and acting roles. Bunch of hypocrites!

  103. Jamce

    October 2, 2015 at 3:10 pm

    @fluer, grandstanding is not the same thing as intellectual ability. SLS has been a fraud to have claimed to be progressive. He tried very hard to ride on socio-political grandstanding in the mould of Oshiomole & company to be popular. Whereas, beneath that facade is a religious bigot, ethnic jingoist, morally bankrupt and loquacious individual who is self-serving in all his pursuits.

  104. abduLaiLai

    October 2, 2015 at 4:48 pm

    I SMELL JELOUSY. Most of those and limited to those that disagress with SLS are either of the following -unlawfully disvirgin before the age of 18. Unlawfully Disvirgin after the age of 18. Divorcee. Bastards. Baby factory products. Prostitute. Mrs still searching. Lack parental love. Have sugar dadies. Afraid of challenges. Pessimist. Negetive thinkers. Enemy of progress. Illiterate . Still husling for admission. Lack Education spornsor. Have some bad experience with relationship or marraige. Hate anything Northern. Hate Muslims. Hate hausas. Hate royalty. Hate sls. Pro jonathan. Stone minded. Lack reasoning. Have insufficient knowlege of the society. Brainwashed by Western propaganda. Is a gay or lesbian. Have no work to do. Has not travel wide. Only speaks two or less language. Lacks his ancestral history. Has no grand parents etc. If you can’t accomodate Emir Sanusi difference Pls Kindly Go To COURT . DONT GET MAD JUST GET A LAWYER.

  105. afees

    October 4, 2015 at 3:53 pm

    what is age difference btw Kanu kwankwo and amarachi, sade okoya and her hubby. How old was omotola jolade when she got married and how did that affect her carrier?. wailing wailer get yourself brain.

  106. Bella

    November 30, 2015 at 10:49 am

    Sanusi knows this is purely selfish and predatory…. He knows…….You can hear it in this overly long, rambling, highly defensive rant of his indefensible acts……..He KNOWS.

    He knows because he’s educated and exposed. Sophisticated even. But he’s been unable to repress his base instincts on this and he’s gone ahead and done it anyway. That is why he is so painfully defensive here.

    For the love of humanity…. There are physiological reasons why this abusive practice of marrying young girls has been phased out in most leading civilisations in the world….. A young girl’s body needs time to mature enough in order to safely accommodate sex and more importantly, develop enough to cope with child birth. The younger a girl is during child-birth, the higher her chances of dying during the child birth process. This is simple medical fact.

    So monsters (yes, monsters) like the Senator Yerima, who marry children who are barely even teenagers (at 13), show an incredibly selfish disregard for human dignity. And imagine, he has now divorced the old one for a fresh 13 year old. So the ex-wife is now a divorced single girl/woman with a baby………at 17! Mon Dieu! Beyond disgusting.

    18 is not quite as bad as 13, but guess what, it’s still pretty bad, as many commenters have pointed out, if this man truly wanted to cement the relationship with other families, why didn’t he betroth this girl to one if his more appropriately aged sons? The relationship between the families would be just as secure. I’ll tell you why…..because he wanted her for himself. Not because there was no other way.

    Rather, he is going to condemn this fresh young girl to a life as a fourth wife, treated like property and destined to become a young widow. Can someone try to convince me that this young girl would really prefer to marry this old cargo, rather than some handsome young chap close to her age, that can relate to the same hopes, dreams and world view that she has as a young teenager.

    It’s incredibly sad and barbaric. Let’s stop this abusive practise now. Enough is enough.

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.

Get The Pan-Atlantic Advantage

A Full Lifestyle & Entertainment Magazine…We COVET Fashion

Visit www.leadtra.com/conference to Register for the Upcoming Conference

Jokes Alone with guests Mr P, CDQ, & Patrick Salvador!

Star Features

Advertisement
css.php