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Ese Walter Opens Up about Losing Her Sex Drive Post-Pregnancy



Ese Walter-Benny-Ark-Pregnant 2New mothers are now sharing more and more topics that used to be taboo. Just recently, Tiwa Savage talked about losing her hair after she delivered Jamil.

Ese Walter of Femina Speaks recently went even deeper as she openly narrated how she lost her sex drive after having her baby, to encourage other new mums who may be going through the same thing. Now, one year later, she says all her intimacy worries are gone.

Read her tweets below *descriptions are graphic*


  1. DIddy

    February 23, 2016 at 12:28 am

    Shey na talk be this? Abi the dollar exchange rate dey cause this wahala

    • Lagos is my home

      February 23, 2016 at 3:51 am

      She talks …….. way too much

      Now known in d media for sex related issues .zzzz

    • seyi

      February 23, 2016 at 11:42 am

      Pls keep quiet!! In here in my bathroom reading this and almost crying cos I just realised I’m not alone!! Its helpful to me and some others and if it’s not to you, Waka pass and stop insulting. Mtchew

    • Toke

      February 25, 2016 at 10:23 pm

      I follow this podcast and the ladies discuss the issue of sex in marriage. many women feel this way.

    • Ibie

      March 9, 2016 at 9:44 pm

      Lmaooo… Diddy you’re just a fowl!!! Lol

    • Ngozi

      April 9, 2016 at 9:47 pm

      Too much talk. Na wa o. We don’t need to know everything and for those who have issues, I expect that you have spoken to your doctor or checked online already. Too much talk about sex please.

  2. Royal Queen

    February 23, 2016 at 1:01 am

    This information is really helpful, especially to we singles, planning to get married but hw will her husband feel if he reads abt their bedroom secrets kn the news.
    It wuld av made more sense if she kept her identity hidden.
    My opinion.

    • Latifa

      February 23, 2016 at 7:25 am

      That her hubby that likes attention i am sure he is the one who encouraged her…..ahe talks way too much

    • jummai

      February 23, 2016 at 9:19 am

      Do u live in their house.

    • @MerDroits

      February 23, 2016 at 8:34 pm

      Ese was a guest host on our program #MerDroits60. Her husband had nothing to do with it.

  3. Mr. Egghead

    February 23, 2016 at 1:12 am

    The things that you used to be discussed in secret are now shouted from rooftops

    • Ada Nnewi

      February 23, 2016 at 2:26 am

      Uncle egghead aka isi okpo, it is important that this information is disseminated…You’re a man so no worries for you..having children does not require a shift in your whole anatomy…. common surgery I underwent some weeks back gave me a UTC from just wearing a catheter for 24 hours while some women after childbirth get torn from their cervix down and out almost towards their ass holes…. alot of women are unprepared for the physical and emotional changes of pregnancy and childbirth and I’m finally glad some women are being totally honest with their experiences so people like me know what to expect when the time comes…thanks ese for being open and honest…I for one appreciate it….

    • Ada Nnewi

      February 23, 2016 at 2:27 am


    • seyi

      February 23, 2016 at 11:43 am

      God bless you jare!!

    • Ann

      February 24, 2016 at 1:56 pm

      When after childbirth you do not recognize your own down below again…smh

    • Ada Nnewi

      February 23, 2016 at 9:01 am

      Bella naija where is my comment….

  4. PD Young Billionaire

    February 23, 2016 at 1:52 am

    Now we know all that’s happening in your bedroom.Thanks for the info.

  5. Olu

    February 23, 2016 at 2:32 am

    Pray. Ask for another level of grace

    • Minka

      February 24, 2016 at 2:10 pm

      Hahahaha… I guess we all forgot about that ‘level of grace’ for a bit

  6. ElessarisElendil

    February 23, 2016 at 2:34 am

    Well………………………….isn’t everything.

    *Matrix drift*

  7. na

    February 23, 2016 at 2:57 am

    please abeeg.. go away! no one asked you about your experience… why not just deal with whatever issues you’re facing in private!!!!

    • Jaj

      February 23, 2016 at 4:22 am

      You are so ignorant and thats why you will never learn anything

    • lean

      February 23, 2016 at 10:56 am

      I’m not my dear!!! if you need to say something say it without name calling okay!!!

  8. ...just saying

    February 23, 2016 at 4:27 am

    LOL! Apparently mot of the comments above are from the same COZA member. I applaud you for speaking up Ese

  9. Md

    February 23, 2016 at 5:05 am

    What is happening to women of nowadays,they will do anything for attention in the name of advice, who ARe they advising,Is nothing private anymore even our grand mother knows all this. I swear social media is the worst thing that happen to black people especially women

    • Cindy

      February 23, 2016 at 9:55 am

      I didn’t know this?

    • Adonis

      February 24, 2016 at 7:15 am

      i’m just hearing this, most of our mothers, grandmothers do not discuss this

    • Amaka

      April 9, 2016 at 10:08 pm

      Thank you Md. My cousin’s mum though uneducated gave her a satin bed sheet after she got married. Young girls, don’t ever assume that those old, so called bush women knew nothing, they are very smart, they just did not air it all out. If you go to them personally and ask questions, you’ll be surprised they know more than your doctors. They know how to combine the right herbs in the most natural manner When I was pregnant, my doctor told me that he does not stress too much about a particular tribe in Niger whenever the women get pregnant because they eat loads of vegetables naturally. My point is this, those old women have experience but will not voluntarily expose stuff like this in public but if you go to ask them questions privately, they will give you more information than you bargained for, in fact you will wonder how they got to know more than your professor self.

  10. Ona

    February 23, 2016 at 5:26 am

    Na wah for u pple. This is why people suffer in silence and have no hope that things will look up. Experiences like these are good to share with pregnant women and single women alike so that when it happens to them they wont freak out and atleast know that its likely a phase. I know its not easy to share something so personal so i appreciate her candidness.

    Pregnancy scares me to be honest so the more i know beforehand the better prepared i’ll be.

  11. Theophilus Jacob.

    February 23, 2016 at 5:47 am

    It worked for her and hubby was or is the patient type. What if your hubby can’t wait or is not patient enough to go through all that? People should learn to see a blessing in every experience. She is legally married and has right to sex. What do you say about people who are not married and talk about their sexual experience like its a feast?

  12. thatgidigirl

    February 23, 2016 at 6:53 am

    This is why Nigerian women are dying of silence. why did you open the article if you weren’t interested.. Thank you Ese for shinning some light on this issue. A lot of women think they are abnormal and blame themselves when they experience these things like postpartum depression, loss of sex drive, loss of affection for their child or spouse. You are not alone. It gets better with time.

    • Thatgidigirl

      February 23, 2016 at 9:28 am

      Sister pls do another christening and naming ceremony for ya self. It is not a fight, I’m actually begging you plix plix plix ejoor o. There can only be one Thatgidigirl, tainkyu.

    • Thatgidigirl

      February 23, 2016 at 3:32 pm

      Lol Na wah. I swear I am neither the original Thatgidigirl nor the fake thatgidigirl. I am just playing around. Seriously though will the real Thatgidigirl stand up please?

  13. King Bey

    February 23, 2016 at 7:28 am

    I think say she be smart b4, but from all she just said something is wrong somewhere…social media is making people thirst for more

  14. IJS

    February 23, 2016 at 7:31 am

    Nigerians…u guys r a bunch of hypocrites sha..if u give birth and have the same issues u will quickly go online and read foreigners talk about their of yours is talking n you’re shutting her down..Dont critisize others for living the life you’re too scared to live.

  15. pagxy

    February 23, 2016 at 7:48 am

    The same thing happened to me too and NO nobody should bottle up n keep quiet about issues too pregnancy does a lot of crazy things to u I hated having sex at six months gestation up till three months after I gave birth n then there is the lose of memory I couldn’t remember a lot of things I will send my housemaid n still call her to send her on the same thing again it was crazy after my second child I knew I had to rest well n psychologicallybefore getting pregnant again and yes the article makes you realise that you r not alone so thanks Ese.

  16. Just the beginning

    February 23, 2016 at 8:19 am

    Touch not my anointed and do my prophets no harm ??

    • Adele

      February 23, 2016 at 10:28 am

      mumu thsts what you are which anointed

    • nikky

      February 23, 2016 at 11:09 am

      COZA member alert!!! what is happening to her is natural and happens to a lot of women,Ese (I’m not even a fan of hers FYI) is just a bold and outspoken person and that’s why she’s writing about it… this has nothing, I repeat NOTHING to do with her “exposure” of your “anointed” man of God… Geez!!! una can like to worship man ehn!!! tufia

    • Iris

      February 23, 2016 at 3:07 pm

      Please please please tell me you are not in some kind of way implying that this is some kind of punishment for the COZA drama. If it is I don’t even know what to say to you – whether that your ignorance is a spiritual something or that you must be under 15 and as such should not be on a blog for grown ups.
      By the way go and look for that verse you quoted and read it in context. You will see that the reference is not to church leaders.

  17. pinkysmart

    February 23, 2016 at 8:21 am

    I don’t blame her d man needs it so dat is Gud for two of dem but let dat gene don’t pass to their son.two of Dem need orientation but let dem ask for Gods grace.

  18. jhennique

    February 23, 2016 at 8:35 am

    Nigerian people ur mentality kills me! Just look at all your mouths talking bout how she talks too much. You people just love to put someone down, If you have nothing nice to say pls SAY NOTHING AT ALL.

  19. Enn

    February 23, 2016 at 8:38 am

    I dunno why u’re all complaining if u found it offensive why did u take the time to read thru the whole thing only to complain…SMH
    I found this really helpful sha.

  20. Enn

    February 23, 2016 at 8:40 am

    This has just reinforced my decision to wait a year before having kids when i get married.

    • Cindy

      February 23, 2016 at 10:27 am

      2 years for me

    • Laila

      February 24, 2016 at 1:37 am

      I waited 3yrs and enjoyed every minute of it. Children will change your married life as you know it so enjoy well well before they arrive on the scene.

  21. Catherine

    February 23, 2016 at 8:50 am

    Thanks for sharing dear; it is not easy putting your personal business out there, so I am really grateful for this insight; I pray you and your husband continue to enjoy a great sexual experience. xx

  22. yummymummy

    February 23, 2016 at 8:56 am

    My dear child bearing can really change some one sex life, imagining yourself been that lady that your hubby cant wait to come home after work just to have one sharp hot blow because of your tactics. but after birth everything disappear. sometime It feels like to start afresh with him. I really understand my dear is not easy atal.

  23. ms deraa

    February 23, 2016 at 9:01 am

    Hmmmm madam leave private matters private.

  24. Chica

    February 23, 2016 at 9:07 am

    Now we know why your hubby is always about town in this small town Abuja. Help us keep his willy in check.

    • huh

      February 23, 2016 at 9:39 am

      We can assume you are one of those keeping his willy in check, right? Side chicking is not honorable babe!

  25. Lila Amuzu

    February 23, 2016 at 9:24 am

    To those who have ears should hear, Stop condemning her. Ese tanx for sharing your experience with us.

  26. Is it me or......

    February 23, 2016 at 9:30 am

    …do certain posts on Bellanaija attract the razzest comments from the people with the most atrocious spelling and grammar? I had to do a double take, reading most of the comments on this article – was wondering if I clicked on a link and went to some razz blog.

    I any case, I feel the Ese lady on her struggles post-partum. Glad you are past that bit dear.

  27. Ella

    February 23, 2016 at 9:38 am

    Not all women can do dis, but its not bad

  28. Miss Fine

    February 23, 2016 at 9:41 am

    Dear Ese, thank you for sharing your experience. You have helped a lot of women by opening up. I pray God continues to bless your union.

  29. Cee

    February 23, 2016 at 9:54 am

    Ese has been very brave and forthcoming with sharing her experience. A lot of people go through similar things and believe they are alone. For all those that wish to suffer in silence ?

  30. Udegbunam Chukwudi

    February 23, 2016 at 10:05 am

    Nigerians and their love for DYING IN SILENCE. Mscheeew. People go through these things and it sure feels better when they know that they are not alone.

    Ese carry on biko. Kudos

  31. Niyoola

    February 23, 2016 at 10:37 am

    Look at you all shaming ese, but when you are experiencing the EXACT same thing, you will go and be reading oyinbo’s experience on Babycentre, What to expect, Momtastic.
    I love her for talking about her difficulty. This is where having a sensible partner comes in.
    Breastfeeding is a libido killer. Messes up your hormones. You also feel self conscious abut your body. All the while DH is trying to warm you up, your ears are acting as antenna to be sure baby isn’t crying.
    Some husbands will now start throwing tantrums on top sex. Impatient Nympho lots.

    That’s how my friend’s husband insisted on sex when she was on her period. Babe was like I CANT have sex on my period, I’m not one of those people that’s cool with that. The guy kept malice for 1 week. Imagine what that sort of person will be like when his wife can’t have sex from 3rd trimester till like 3-6 months postpartum.

    Ese welldone.
    All hem COZA people up there bashing Ese, we see you. We are still awaiting robust response.

    • Ada Nnewi

      February 23, 2016 at 11:45 am

      I like sex on my period. It helps with the pain and PMS…

    • huh

      February 23, 2016 at 12:45 pm

      There are other things that can totally wipe the PMS and pain.

    • Niyoola

      February 23, 2016 at 2:02 pm

      No problem. You like it.
      My friend does not like it.

    • meme

      February 23, 2016 at 5:47 pm

      i suggested this to my bf because… long distance. (thank you mother nature!) . one thrust and that was it for us lol.. it felt weird and his penis just shrivelled up fast lol..we won’t be doing that again mbok.

    • Vivadrew

      February 23, 2016 at 1:12 pm

      Breastfeeding is a libido killer. Messes up your hormones. You also feel self conscious abut your body. All the while DH is trying to warm you up, your ears are acting as antenna to be sure baby isn’t crying.
      Some husbands will now start throwing tantrums on top sex.

      So me…chai!

  32. MamaTwinz

    February 23, 2016 at 11:19 am

    Thanks 4 sharing jor……my twins wud b 7 months soon and sex is still almost non-existent. It feels like my sex drive just vanished, I still cnt understand it cos we had sex up until I was 34 weeks and braxton hicks contractions stopped us….lol! We were always like rabbits in heat. 8 weeks post-delivery,all I cud think of was my severely wrinkled n flabby stomach, hubby had to stop halfway cos I started crying n holding on to my tummy to keep it from jiggling about. Now things are a bit better but btw caring for the kids n running the house there’s almost no room for sex, all I can manage is a cool bath at midnight and a huge cup of cold Milo. God bless the guy, he’s been terribly patient.

    • Teju TJ

      February 23, 2016 at 4:33 pm

      You are such a lucky woman. My husband throws tantrums when i am exhausted after dealing with work for 8 hours and coming home to play with baby then put her to sleep. I don’t think sex is the first thing on my mind. I just want to sleep!

      I don’t understand why one should be throwing tantrums about that. It is so annoying. These men are all about the better, no worse at all.

    • Nneka

      April 9, 2016 at 10:16 pm

      You better thank God that your husband is still attracted to you. If na some husbands, if you like work for 10hours,they won’t even move near you because they already got it out there before they got home. Better tie your belt. Marriage comes with responsibilities. I know the world is being ruled by a different order. In the Kingdom I belong to, we do not deny each other. We respect, love and understand each other. Yes we exercise self-control because we also need to fast. Some women can be selfish also, they just want to keep husbands so the society can respect them not because they also want the best for the man. Such women just want to make progress in career, have outstanding children and keep the man to feel complete and relevant in society.

    • @MerDroits

      February 23, 2016 at 8:40 pm

      I’d recommend you seek professional counselling. A trained medical professional will be able to help you and your husband out. Don’t ignore it.

  33. prince

    February 23, 2016 at 11:32 am

    This girl no go rest and Benny Ark dey listen, your wife say she remove your standing ovation to breastfeed, I guess you just have to wank it off that night.
    ESE! ESE!! ESE!!!! REST!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  34. Chu

    February 23, 2016 at 11:37 am

    There is nothing wrong in her sharing this if her husband concurred. And yes we all google baby center and them sites for this information, Isn’t it better to hear it from someone in the same cultural clime as you are? We need more of this, now y’all scare other people from sharing.
    When I was pregnant I did a lot of research, and it would be nice to read more things from naija mums. No one told me breast feeding would be hell, that my baby can reject the milk from 7 weeks, the psychological trauma I went through from being unable to breastfeed my baby, people telling me that I have man breasts, despite how big they are, or that I am not eating properly. We all go through challenges especially FTM,
    God bless you Ese for your courage.

    • @MerDroits

      February 23, 2016 at 8:42 pm

      #MerDroits60 provides that platform. If you wish to host the next event, let us know. There’s an option of hosting anonymously too.

    • Amaka

      April 9, 2016 at 9:55 pm

      I am so surprised some people on this forum felt lonely and helpless. Please don’t make me think that Nigerian doctors are different.

  35. anon

    February 23, 2016 at 12:03 pm

    This stuff is real. I have probably had sex 2/3 times since pregnant and am in my first trimester. In the first trimester, I was so sick it really wasn’t funny. Both hubby and I were afraid to cuz of worry that I will be sick midway through sex. Then in second trimester, our first attempt was so painful (i so so tight it hurt) that hubby stopped cuz he cudnt stand me in pain.

    Guess what, no one told me about loss of sexual appetite was going to be an issue. Not a single person (and I have a sister and friends with kids). With all my pregnancy surprises, no one warned me about them. It is when I speak out that (some) people will start to share that they experienced similar issues. And if you think girls arent talking. Men definitely arent talking about it either. Most men go around blaming their wives thinking she is faking these symptoms.

    • Tyz

      February 23, 2016 at 7:10 pm

      I can relate with your experience dear. I had zero libido while pregnant. I was just not interested. I was really pitying my hubby. I tried a couple of times but it was just like pouring water on a rock. Now after childbirth,dude is stylishly asking when we can bring the ‘bang’ back. I had an episiotomy and down there still hurts a little. This is two months post partum. Right now I am so scared of sex,that I wonder what it will be like when I decide to try. GOD help women

    • Ann

      February 24, 2016 at 2:02 pm

      Fear not, i tried 7weeks postpartum and it was uncomfortable at first but not as bad as i feared…

    • @MerDroits

      February 23, 2016 at 8:44 pm

      Most men don’t know. Reproductive health information is usually channelled to women, thus leaving the men uninformed. It shouldn’t be that way. Life is easier with a woman and her partner is battling through life issues together.

  36. Babym

    February 23, 2016 at 12:03 pm

    God bless u Ese! Too many women need to hear this. I really feel the need to SLAP those of u trying to silence her, as in what manner of foolishness is that? Mscheeeew lol.

  37. Toyin

    February 23, 2016 at 12:20 pm

    Happy to know others are in the same shoes .. Though mine is different .. Am six months gone and since lost interest in sex and am sure no sex for the next 3 months also

  38. Jo

    February 23, 2016 at 12:45 pm

    Why do we feel we must run down a person?! Irrespective of her past this is a cogent issue that should be discussed. African women would continue to die in silence because of the software called ” taboo’ subjects. I am a mother of three and each pregnancy and postpregnancy was different. We all go to the Internet for solutions and answers rather than talking among ourselves. Sex is different after birth no matter the mode of child delivery. Your sex drive can be higher( my case with my last) or nonexistent(the case with my second). Let’s try and help each other please.

  39. Vivadrew

    February 23, 2016 at 1:09 pm

    This is my story. Use to think I’m alone in it and it’s beginning to cause issues with hubby. Mom never told me life’s going to change after birth, she never told me sex would be stressful and physically draining. Irritations felt when touched or the mere talk about sex is another story itself. Wasn’t told i’ll be having sore boobs, feel less excited about sex and No I didn’t have an episiotomy neither did labour took long. sometimes I cry, sometimes I pray for strength and other times I pray for the willingness to make hubby happy but then…..phew!

    • @MerDroits

      February 23, 2016 at 5:45 pm

      Ideally, your healthcare provider should offer you comprehensive postpartum counselling during your 6th week visit, and that includes talking to you and your partner about the loss of libido which is actually quick common. It is very important that the partner is included in this conversation, as going through the phase can be lonely for many people if they also have to worry about losing their husbands as a result.

  40. Vivadrew

    February 23, 2016 at 1:11 pm

    And did I add did actually used sex to induced my labour. Oh yes, it was a roller coaster fun all through prengancy until 6 months ago…

  41. Nonye

    February 23, 2016 at 1:28 pm

    Don’t know why you all are so bitter. I really appreciate her for speaking up. A lot of young women don’t know about this. There’s a lot about a females life & older/experienced women should educate younger/inexperienced so life can improved. Do pick the positive information in a piece and don’t be an ignoramus!

  42. sissy

    February 23, 2016 at 1:50 pm

    she could have been a little discreet. All those online forums are faceless and anonymous. Its like an outlet. Commenters on BN are sometimes tell all and nobody complains because you don”t know them like that. If my husband had prostate cancer and he had surgery and all and sex became difficult and he came out to put the business out there like this, it wouldn’t be very nice, She could have also talked in general terms too instead of specific terms. Besides if you go for good pregnancy and what not forums, they give you the 411 and even doctors would help you out, All these is just too much information for a known face.Most women struggle and every struggle is unique in its own way and personal. If everybody talked about their issues like this, then no need for houses or bedrooms again. We can all camp outside and do our business since we don’t want to die in silence.

    • Ada Nnewi

      February 23, 2016 at 2:13 pm

      It helps alot better when people can attach a face to certain issues that apply to them… You’re okay being faceless, ese is fine putting her issues out there. Why are you taking chloroquine for another person’s malaria?

  43. Amirah

    February 23, 2016 at 3:10 pm

    I appluade you Ese for sharing this very important information with the public. God bless you. Only an ignorant human would criticize someone that shares this possibly life changing information. These are issues that women are suffering from in silence, what makes it worse is thinking it happens to you alone. Especially when the husband is not patient and understanding. Out of ignorance alot of marriages have broken and coz pple are not speaking out bout their experiences in whatever situation. Information like this help both husband and wife understand what is going on. A man can be quick to judge his wife when shes going thru something like this and even go as far as threathening to leave her or jump to extramarital affairs, which will plunge a woman deeper into depression. But at least with such info people will get educated and there will be more patiance and understanding between couples. If this information is too much for you to handle ignore the post and dont display your ignorance in the comments section.

  44. bijouxthisbijouthat

    February 23, 2016 at 3:57 pm

    GOSH people are soo bitter!!! I LOVE the fact she is speaking about it. Why try silence her? It really shows that as time changes ,some things never ever would change in African society.
    That is how your children especially the girls would report abuse by a close relative to you and you would shut her up!My God i am truly ashamed of you lot!!

  45. eky

    February 23, 2016 at 4:11 pm

    But people, why do we like pretending…..
    she talks too much,..she loves attention…bla bla bla bla.. oya women answer,,, is there not an element of truth in what she has said.. personally i lost it for sex..after how many kids… i still have not recovered. infact sex is officially overrated!

    Our premarital counselling needs to change.. from theory to reality… but then, everyone’s reality is different,
    o boi!

  46. Teju TJ

    February 23, 2016 at 4:38 pm

    Ese, I love that you shared this. When i was pregnant, I joined baby bump. I searched and searched for a Nigerian group on there to no avail. Many times during my pregnancy, i felt like the Americans in my group could not relate so I didn’t even bother asking. For example, we Nigerians can like to hide our pregnancy like no man’s business whereas, Americans are over there posting their scan photos which personally, I could not relate with.

    You people should stop being hypocrites. As if you did not google why you are not getting wet. Of which, you were directed to babycenter. Don’t pretend that you did not search and search for related articles on babycenter. Hypocrites – the lots of you!

  47. Aanuolutomiwa

    February 23, 2016 at 4:47 pm

    shame on people trying to silence her, its very nice when u re able to connect with someone of your own race with the same issue, if u cant discuss urs atleast leave people dt can discuss theirs. Holier than thou and bunch of hypocrites.

  48. DAnonymous

    February 23, 2016 at 4:50 pm

    kk, so what are the solutions? how have people coped?
    I will start.
    wank him off,
    not everytime vaginal penetration. sometimes the cliff in between the breasts are great.
    waiting for more

  49. nene

    February 23, 2016 at 5:25 pm

    i think women who go through things like low sex drive, depression, ptsd,etc are women who have had a difficult pregnancy. not everyone has a difficult pregnancy so your body returns to normal except for lack of sleep due to the baby waking up at night. with time, those problems become better a along as u and your husband are patient and understanding.

  50. @MerDroits

    February 23, 2016 at 5:42 pm

    Thank you Bella Naija for handling this tastefully. As much as the tweet event #MerDroits60 isn’t being profiled at present, it is important to say a little bit what the platform aims to achieve and why Ms. Walter’s host duties meant so much to us.

    In Nigeria, the sexual and reproduce needs of young people – particularly those within the ages 15 to 24 – remain vastly and inadequately addressed. This is reflected in the dismal rate in the uptake of available sexual and reproductive health services (our national average is 14%). Mortality and morbidity rates due to sexually transmitted infections and illegally procured abortions are equally unacceptably high. These are very preventable with good sexuality education and timely utilisation of sexual health services. To therefore increase demand for these services, especially among young people, it is important to destigmatise all conversations around sex.

    #MerDroits60, the tweetchat Ms Walter graciously hosted last Friday, is one of the ways the @MerDroits brand is doing this. This Friday, another #MerDroits60 event is taking place with @CheRox talking about birth control. We hope many of you can join us for it. Thank you.

    #MerDroits60 is a SHAME-FREE, JUDGMENT-FREE online community on Twitter that enables young people talk about their sexual and reproductive health and rights needs. #MerDroits60 holds every Friday by 6pm. If you’d like to host the next MerDroits, follow @MerDroits and shoot us a DM. There is platform for those who wish to host anonymously through the @MerDroits_host handle.

  51. Iyaalaje

    February 23, 2016 at 9:24 pm

    Thanks Ese for sharing this and BN for posting. My baby is 9months plus and I am still struggling (though it is getting better). Read this to hubby to let him know I am not weird and it happens to a lot of women. Bless Hubby he had been really supportive.

  52. TheTruth

    February 24, 2016 at 8:39 am

    This is coming from the same ESE that abandoned her son for several months and ran away from home. If you guys believe her sob stories you will believe anything. Truth is Ese needs to see a SHRINK, it is not a familiar option in Nigeria but she needs it desperately. Yes it could have been a case of postpartum depression or abuse from her early days. Her Husband needs to take her to a psychiatrist ASAP before she harms herself or their son. Didn’t you read his tweets? Husband is obviously tired. Depression is a real disease and going about when you haven’t treated yourself will only aggravate this condition. She needs to visit a doctor before it is too LATE.Benny next time you wont leave a solid relationship. After being in a long term relationship with a lady that loved you, dumped her out of the blues for Ese. Oga carry your cross!

    • Ada Nnewi

      February 24, 2016 at 11:22 pm

      You are evil…. he didn’t like you enough to marry you…deal with it and stop spreading falsehood…

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