Rachel Pederson innocently put up a photo of her rings on her Facebook page, not knowing it would draw so many comments and criticism.
In response to all the drama surrounding her ‘small ring’, she wrote a post about it which went viral.
The consultant (she works with small companies to improve their social media) has now come out to say she doesn’t judge people with bigger rings on Huffington Post Weddings – My Response to Women With Big Diamonds.
Yes, I know that my wedding ring is small.
Friends and family often ask me when I’m going to have it “upgraded”…. After all, it doesn’t represent the level of success we are achieving.
I’ve even had one person say “you could wear a bigger ring for important events, so people don’t think you’re not successful.”
Wait a minute…. Since when did the size of someone’s ring become an indication of success?!
For me, the ring is SO much more.
My ring symbolizes a whirlwind, storybook, “make you sick” love story…. It reminds me of how my husband and I met and fell at in love in one night at a Perkin’s diner. He worked as a window washer, and I was a single mother.
One short week later, and we professed our love to one another, him leading the conversation.
We couldn’t stop dreaming of our future, so excited to have a baby, buy a house, and fall asleep together every night.
We couldn’t wait for the future. So we didn’t.
13 days after meeting, we eloped. I didn’t even THINK about a ring until my husband surprised me before the ceremony. He drained his savings to gift me with a small token of his love.
I say small, only because it pales in comparison with how big his love is, even now, after years of marriage.
That, my friends, is success to me.
To women with big diamonds.
Here is my response to women with big diamonds:
I don’t think you’re shallow.
I don’t assume you’re insecure.
I don’t expect that your marriage is unhappy or doomed.
I think your ring is beautiful.
I believe that your love is bigger than your ring.
And I’m happy for you.
The success and happiness of your marriage and your life are about so much more than the ring on your finger, regardless of the size. Your husband had the funds available to buy something incredibly precious for you, as a token of his love for you.
My original statement still stands, and is completely applicable to you as well, “Wait a minute…. Since when did the size of someone’s ring become an indication of success?!”
It is my hope that you never let anyone talk down to you because your ring is big. Don’t ever waste a day being embarrassed or ashamed of your beautiful rock. Your ring tells a story of a beautiful love that changed your life forever.
My original point remains. Ring size doesn’t matter. Your love is all that matters.
I welcome you to share your own love story in the comments.
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