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Over Exposure on Social Media might Ruin your Relationship – Basketmouth

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Basketmouth Relationship adviceAce comedian, Basketmouth on Sunday dished relationship advice via his Instagram Page.

He advised people to keep their relationships away from social media to avoid ruining it.

He said:

No matter how perfect and cute you think your relationship is, over exposure on social media might ruin it.

If you think you you’ve found a good thing, keep it between you, him or her, family, close friends and God. It becomes a drag when PDA is excessive, keeping your relationship mysterious is more exciting.
But then again….what do I even know? I just might be totally wrong.

33 Comments

  1. UNCLE GWE GWE GWE

    December 4, 2016 at 6:25 pm

    OVER EXPOSURE= HEART ATTACK = DIVORCE

  2. Anonymous

    December 4, 2016 at 6:47 pm

    U are totally right. Don’t get me wrong, i love seeing happy relationships and marriages o, but if anything, overexposure takes away that intimate feeling of ” just the two of u ” thing and trust me, that matters a lot. Talkless of this 21st century that you can’t even tell your best friend about your man without her going behind you to try to get the guy and you now bring it online where “different” sets of people you don’t know are seeing everything. After it doesn’t work out then you start hiding or seeking e-sympathy. Everyone beware of flashing relstionships and marriage online too much o…..bad bellessss everywhere.

  3. Spunky

    December 4, 2016 at 7:00 pm

    Truth? Sampling goodies on sm(relationship inclusive) is very contagious and kinda addictive. Everyone shows off in one form or another. I get his point though but most people no dey hear word. I. Say let them show…whether you lock up your affection in a jar or click the keypad 24/7, it will crack if the foundation isn’t strong enough to hold.

  4. Candy

    December 4, 2016 at 7:11 pm

    I hope their colleague Blossom Chukwujekwu and his choki wife are listening!

  5. Marlvina

    December 4, 2016 at 7:26 pm

    My dear tell them o! Dey no dey hear. Frankly, I feel it’s even more exciting when people dunno what’s going on around you. The monitoring spirits would peep, search, scratch head, looking for ways to get any information or gist about you, but they can’t. They end up getting frustrated. E better like that. Privacy is key!

  6. TeeS

    December 4, 2016 at 7:29 pm

    The strength of a relationship( friendship, marriage) isn’t based off social media. If the foundation has been shaky from the get go. O pari Na ni. People been having issues before social media ……my parents are prime examples! horrible foundation.

  7. TeeS

    December 4, 2016 at 7:30 pm

    The strength of a relationship( friendship, marriage) isn’t off social media. If the foundation has been shaky from the get go. O pari Na ni. People been having issues before social media ……my parents are prime examples! horrible foundation.

  8. truthie

    December 4, 2016 at 7:33 pm

    Overexposure kills relationships in Nig mainly because the men are often cheats & untrustworthy. They prefer you don’t show their face so they can cheat in secrecy and comfort. The truth is: its the cheating that ruins, not the exposure. The only thing the exposure may cause is the shame, and I tell women, lose your shame. Let the partner who cheats bear the burden of whatever shame there is, not the person who sincerely loved.. Don’t bear the shame of a cheating husband as the society expects u to, but don’t put up appearances of a lovey relationship that doesn’t exist.

    For the unmarried, don’t cower in shame for a relationship that didn’t work out. You may delete the pics if you want but you don’t have to. Yes we have a terrible culture of shame, and its your fellow women that will laugh at the love gone sour, shouting, well he didn’t marry you in the end. But then, you didn’t marry him too. Thats why its called a breakup. Every relationship – good or bad, is a part of your life. Move on, but look at the pictures and smile for the lessons u learned.

    • Californiabawlar

      December 4, 2016 at 8:59 pm

      Yassss! ALL trifling men I know are never on Social media. In fact some of them no even get. This way how can you accuse them of not posting family pictures? Or even common tagging? I have one brother-in-law that is gallantly parading himself as single in this you people’s Lagos. Husband of course no post pictures. Now wife too, probably in the spirit of ‘no exposure’ sef no post pictures. Bikonu, how will single girls know when they want to do FBI forensic work? A union of 10 years! No online evidence? Biko, I no do! Fact is we live in a digital world now…the evidence of your existence and things that are key to your existence should be online as well.
      I’ve also seen on of my female friends do this. When she decided to ‘stay with’ the guy she’s married to now she deleted her Facebook account so all he won’t go and do mistake tag her in pics and next thing they will spoil show with her side pieces.
      Meanwhile on the flip side…some of the happiest couples I know have the men doing the most on social media. Okay…maybe not the most but you get what I mean.

    • SLA

      December 5, 2016 at 8:38 am

      but he said ‘over-exposure’, that was the keyword. Anybody that will cheat will cheat, despite spamming social media with your ‘mushy’ pictures.

    • Na wah

      December 5, 2016 at 12:25 pm

      Wow bellanaija readers just love to bash Nigerian men, even if it doesn’t make any sense. Just look for how to connect your problems to a man and you get a like, Then connect your problem to a Nigerian man and they will do a head stand for you.

      You have found a way to divert the topic and redirect it to a place you are comfortable with.

      How does “Over exposure on social media MIGHT (not will) ruin your relationship turn out to be Overexposure (kills) relationships in Nig (mainly) because the men are often cheats & untrustworthy.

      Nigerian men are a product of Nigerian women and vice versa. We all exist within the same environment, We condone the same things and partake in the same things.

      Weather you like it or not Men cannot cheat without the help of women and Women cannot cheat without the help of men.

  9. Flexe

    December 4, 2016 at 7:43 pm

    Why do people like ending certain topics that might be controversial with notes like; What do I know, I might be totally wrong. After saying your piece and in your head you believe you are right??? Are you trying to be safe or just come off as harmless?
    Mr BASKETMOUTH, If you are going to give out your advice, words or whatever, be clear, don’t come and start changing tune at the end of the note.

  10. A Real Nigerian

    December 4, 2016 at 7:50 pm

    STFU.
    Why don’t you tell your fellow disgusting, cheating, wife-beating and insecure NIGERIAN MEN to stop with their infidelity?
    Another useless NIGERIAN MAN trying to draw attention from the real cause of broken relationships in this godforsaken country.
    We will not be fooled by the Patriarchy!

    • LostInSpace

      December 5, 2016 at 12:08 pm

      Why are you full of hate? Damn!

    • Truth

      February 8, 2017 at 2:18 am

      But did she lie? Where is the lie? Nigerian men can cheat for Africa. A very good percentage of them. This is a proven fact.

    • Na wah

      December 5, 2016 at 12:10 pm

      Na fight?

    • who are you

      December 5, 2016 at 3:37 pm

      you my dear, are not a real Nigerian…. you’re sooo full of hate.

  11. Chi

    December 4, 2016 at 7:54 pm

    The keyword in this is BALANCE…. lack of finding in in any facet of our living leads to problems. I don’t agree that social media is the cause. It has only aggravated the already existing problem. When we hurt we look for ways to let it out in order to feel better. Unfortunately SM which has become one of the outlets people use is absolutely not an option. Hugs to all who hurt right nowxxxxx

  12. I no send

    December 4, 2016 at 8:27 pm

    @Real Nigeria a.k.a Sugabelly.Do you ever love?Seriously you need a doctor.

    • Weezy

      December 4, 2016 at 9:04 pm

      why you dissing sugabelly here?

    • Leave SB Alone

      December 5, 2016 at 12:42 pm

      Now you know damn well Sugabelly doesn’t need to use an alias.
      If she needs to say something, she says it and owns it, which is more than can be said for you anonymous cowards.

      Better leave her alone.

  13. Jocelyn

    December 4, 2016 at 9:00 pm

    Tell that to amaka the show off queen

  14. Mikki3

    December 4, 2016 at 9:19 pm

    Social media… has made it easier for people to connect, whether it’s an old lover or someone new who finds you attractive… especially if there’s private messages. What I have experienced is, if a man says, I’m a very “private” person, they usually have something to hide. They want to keep you a secret from all the others. On the flip side, if you do announce to your social media world that you’re in a new relationship, all of those you each have talked to will try harder to get your attention, an old love that feels they are being replaced will start poring on the charm… etc.
    Honestly, I’ve seen social media do more harm.than good. What really saddens me is the couples who have been together for a long time, end up leaving spouses for someone they found online and secretly talked to for months, even years without the other even knowing. DEPRESSING thought for anyone with any sort of trust issues. But even.more depressing for those who completely trust and get burned.

  15. Kemi

    December 4, 2016 at 9:50 pm

    Social media and exposure dont kill a relationship.People do. Social media has made it harder for men to cheat and get away with it.
    I will put my relationship out there so people know. I wont be blaming social media if it fails. If he cheats its because he made that choice.

  16. Zoe

    December 4, 2016 at 10:24 pm

    please know what you are saying or the theory you are backing before you make your comments. Basketmouth’s post has NOTHING to do with patriarchy or Nigerian men. it’s common sense. Those with the most expensive diamonds in the world don’t flaunt it every time because they need to safeguard their treasure. The wave of couples showing off EXTENSIVELY (please note the word) their relationships on social media isn’t safe. this is not even about foundations being strong or weak rather they are putting their relationships up for constant criticism. Do you think because people are your followers on social media they like you? Taaaaa. 90% of them are bad belles who can wait to see something go wrong. The privacy of your Relationship and home will help so much in its growth and unity. Has anyone ever sat down to think of why relationships of many celebrities come crashing? because their private lives are constantly scrutinised and displayed publicly for general criticism even against their will. Its wiser to celebrate what you have mildly and not throw it to the wolves to relish.
    Note Nigeria is not a god forsaken country. don’t take your frustration out on Nigeria.

  17. Ono

    December 4, 2016 at 10:41 pm

    Everyman onto his own………

  18. alwayshappy

    December 4, 2016 at 11:35 pm

    social media is a free for all accessible platform offering real time info sharing to all globally since its conception. Relationships fail due to factors beyond social media, Social media platforms are much like our oyingbo, ketu, alaba market , where there is buying and selling of orisirisi , it is up to the participants to wear rainboots, carry purse for front, #buyer beware #sell ya market #agbero everywhere #badebelle dem plenty for ground . Na by choice and no be only you waka come. Celebrating love is good, healthy and wholesome how you choose to practise this is not a one size fits all, its a his/hers understanding of how much of their friendship, commitment and intimacy they wish to share with the world people.

  19. JocelynSelfYouTooMuch

    December 5, 2016 at 12:14 am

    LOL @Jocelyn

    • Jocelyn

      December 5, 2016 at 5:11 pm

      Ehen now

      is there only one AMAKA on this planet???

      Hian, see me see trouble, 🙂 I know she is reading it and if the cap fit she should wear it.
      Show of Queen. They will show off everything but that her sister will not show off her rapist of a husband in not a single of her wedding photos. What are you hiding, See ya life .

      Abegii

      make i hear word

  20. Warrichic

    December 5, 2016 at 1:57 am

    Relationships were failing before social media and will continue to fail after. It just creates more awareness of the matter and makes the break-up a little more awkward and public.
    Social media the is not the ’cause’ of the break-up but the individuals involved. If someone wants to paint a ‘happy couple’ facade on social media while they are miserable – that’s not social media’s fault. It is not by force!
    With or without social media, relationships that are going to fail will fail. Secrecy does not not save a relationship that is bound to fail.

    • tunmi

      December 5, 2016 at 5:13 pm

      Stop making sense oh.

  21. Enny heart heart

    December 5, 2016 at 3:02 pm

    Oh men, I’m so tempted lately to take snapshots of my ex’s convos with me and post them on fbk for his wife 2 see. MF travelled to continue his degree program n got hitched to a white woman. Then came back early this year yarning sweet nothings. I knew he wasn’t gonna stop buzzing, so I just gave him a long rope n after tangling himself with it, I told him, if you ever talk to me again amma send this convos to her n hang you, seeing as you feeding off of her. Niqqa stop interrupting my progress.

  22. CHINEDU OZULUMBA

    December 5, 2016 at 4:02 pm

    Over exposure is inviting trouble yourself. Trouble sleep, yanga go wake am

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