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HaroldWrites: Kemen’s Disqualification…The #BBNaija Rulebook & Legal Perspective



On Sunday, the 5th of March, 2017, Kemen, a housemate of the Big Brother Naija Reality TV show was disqualified from the show for breaking a House Rule. The decision to disqualify Kemen came as a welcome development to many, but it also came as a surprise to others who felt TBoss was a wiling-cum-leading participant in the act. The latter set of audience also felt Kemen was hard done by the Organisers of the show who ignored a similar incident involving Debbie-Rise. Several questions were also asked on social media, to wit: was Big Brother right to disqualify Kemen? Is Big Brother culpable of selective justice when he ignored a similar incident involving Debbie-Rise’ but punished Kemen for the same thing? Did Kemen sexually assault or harass TBoss, or both? Was TBoss a willing participant and did she lead Kemen on? Would it make any difference if Kemen was drunk at the point of committing the act? Did Kemen really break any House Rule and could he sue the organisers of the show?

I shall attempt to address some of the foregoing issues in the light of the applicable principles and provisions of Nigerian law, as well as the Big Brother House Rules. This may be a long one, but given the magnitude of the queries, please bear with me. My responses may surprise you.

First Things First
I shall address the queries without bias to anyone. What I shall simply state is the position of the law and my opinion and interpretation of the applicable Big Brother House Rules.

The Evidence
In the wee hours of the 5th of March, 2017, a curious video footage from the Big Brother House emerged on social media. In the video, Kemen appeared to be making bodily contact (groping? spooning? fondling?) with TBoss, who appeared to be asleep and unaware of Kemen’s act. After a while, TBoss appeared to be awake – or at least, conscious – as she turned on her sides.

Social Media Outrage, The Charge and Threat
The video footage sent social media agog as many rebuked Kemen for such act. He was accused of sexually harassing and assaulting a woman without her consent. In little or no time, calls were made on Multichoice, the organisers of the show to evict Kemen for the disgraceful act. It was simply the best opportunity “to teach viewers what consent really meant.” Some other members of the audience went after Payporte, the major sponsor of the show. The Organisers were threatened to ensure something was done about Kemen’s action, else, they (Payporte) will be seen to condone such actions.

Big Brother’s Trial
After the outrage of social media, Big Brother called Kemen and Tboss (at different times), to the Diary Room to make enquiries.

Just before the Live Show on Sunday by 7:00pm, Big Brother called the Housemates to the lounge and announced as follows:

“Housemates, Big Brother would like to bring something to your attention. As you know, Big Brother takes everyone’s safety and wellbeing very seriously. A very serious infringement has taken place in the Big Brother House by Kemen. Big Brother can assure you that, all necessary warnings and disciplinary measures have been actioned prior to this moment. Kemen is aware of the incident and resulting consequence of his action. Kemen, please rise. Kemen, you have been found guilty of violating the Big Brother House Rules. Based on a private disciplinary session with Big Brother this afternoon, you are hereby disqualified from the Big Brother House immediately. Kemen, you have one minute to leave the Big Brother House.”

What does the Big Brother House Rules State and can Housemates be summarily evicted for violating same?
In 2008, Alexandra De-Gale was “ejected” from the Big Brother House, UK, for repeatedly breaking the House Rules. So, disqualification of housemates for breaking Big Brother House Rules, is not a strange phenomenon. In the case of Kemen, he was “found guilty of violating the Big Brother House Rules.” The pertinent question that comes to mind is, what does the Big Brother House Rules state and which of them did Kemen actually voilate?

I went digging for the Big Brother House Rules after the incident. Interestingly, the Rules do not say anything about sexually assaulting or harassing a fellow housemate. Sexual assault and harassment were never defined nor expressly prohibited.

Making sexual advances at fellow housemates was also not prohibited. I believe the reason for this is that, the show is rated 18+. It is therefore expected that, housemates would engage in sexual or pseudo-sexual acts of any form. In fact, the show has been widely condemned for having adult content. But the organisers of the show have never shied away from admitting such contents should be expected as the show is a social experiment. And maybe, just maybe, Kemen proved the show to be right in that sense. Rightly or wrongly, he may have exhibited a trait of someone in his condition and circumstances. If you put a rat in a kitchen full of exposed fish (without restriction) all in the name of social experiment, what do you expect the rat to do? It will definitely eat the fish. That is what your social experiment will reveal. Should the rat be punished for eating the fish, especially when you did not instruct the rat not to eat the fish? That is another kettle of fish all together.

So, yes, there is no House Rule against making sexual advances towards a housemate, whether with or without their consent.
If Kemen Did Not Break Any Specific House Rule, What Rule Could He Have Violated?

Having studied the Rules, I do not think Kemen can be said to be culpable for “Sexual Assault/Harassment”. Mind you, I am strictly speaking within the confines of the House Rules. Perhaps, that was why Biggie was careful with his choice of words. He simply said Kemen was found guilty of violating the Rules. He didn’t state which Rule(s).

Notwithstanding the foregoing, there are two House Rules I found interesting. They are:

Rule 1:
“Housemates must respect the House and their fellow contestants at all times”

Rule 7:
“Housemates are not allowed to strike, intimidate, threaten or act in any way that can be construed as violent towards any fellow Housemates. This could result in immediate disqualification.”

Can Kemen be said to have violated either of these Rules? I think it would be difficult to say. If anything, the answer could be “yes”; it can also be “no” depending on subjective interpretation.

With respect to Rule 1, Kemen’s acts towards TBoss may be seen as a sign of disrespect towards her by some. Kemen touched her without her consent. It is as simple as that. He disrespected her. To others, maybe not so much. Especially as she did not reprimand him after she realised he was sleeping so close to her. Maybe she did not feel so disrespected, after all. Was she aware he was touching her? Well, from the footage, she appeared to be asleep the first time he made moves. But subsequently, she turned on her sides which suggests she may have woken up. She did not leave the bed to show he “disrespected her”.

Rule 7 will be difficult to interpret. But let’s still try. Kemen’s action can be construed to mean “personal violence” towards Tboss. Yes, “personal violence” is a thing. It need not occasion physical injury. It can cause psychological injury. Was Tboss traumatised by the experience? She sure did appear to be traumatised when relaying what happened in the Diary Room to the Housemates. Others might differ in opinion. She did not appear shaken until Kemen was evicted and the Housemates appeared to be hostile towards her. Was her “traumatic” state a manipulative move by her to win back the affection of her fellow Housemates?

Big Brother Rules aside, is Kemen Culpable for Sexual Assault or Sexual Harassment?
Section 261 of the Criminal Law of Lagos State, 2011, defines sexual assault as sexually touching another person without the person’s consent. A person is said to consent if (s)he agrees by choice and has the freedom and capacity to make and communicate that choice.

Section 262 of the Criminal Law of Lagos State, 2011, defines sexual harassment as an unwelcome sexual advance, request for sexual favours, and other visual, verbal or physical conduct of a sexual nature, which when accepted or rejected, has the tendency of affecting one’s employment or educational opportunity or unreasonably interferes with the person’s work or educational performance.

The foregoing definitions are my summarised versions of what the law provides. As can be seen for sexual assault, the most important ingredient is the person’s consent. So, can Kemen be culpable for sexually assaulting TBoss? The answer is yes.

As for sexual harassment, the latter part of the law may have taken the wind off the provision. That law seems to suggest that, sexual harassment can only occur in a work or learning environment. So, until the law is amended, then, I do not think Kemen’s action can be said to be one of sexual harassment. This is rather unfortunate as we all know sexual harassment can occur anywhere. But as for sexual assault, he is culpable.

If Kemen did not break any House Rule, why was he disqualified?
Yes, Kemen’s act is morally despicable and cannot be justified, but since he did not break any particular House Rule, the only reasonable conclusion to make from his disqualification is that, he was disqualified due to pressure from social media. Big Brother had condoned a similar act by Debbie-Rise because the pressure from social media was not as intense as in Kemen’s case. Now that Housemates know Kemen’s fate might befall them, they would henceforth, refrain from sexually assaulting each other.

Was TBoss a willing participant and did she lead Kemen on?
It does not matter if TBoss had, prior to the incident which got Kemen evicted, led him on. What matters is whether TBoss consented to the particular action which got Kemen evicted. The answer is no.

Would it make any difference if Kemen was drunk at the time he groped/fondled TBoss?
Generally, intoxication is no defence to a crime. There are exceptions to this rule, though. For example, if the intoxication was procured by another person, etc.

In the instant case, the fact that, Kemen may have been drunk at the time he groped TBoss, is no defence. What makes matters worse is that, even if Kemen was drunk, the drunkenness is self-induced. And self-induced drunkenness can never suffice in law as a defence.

Why didn’t Big Brother evict Kemen for Sexual Assault, then?
The law is that, only the court can find a person guilty of a crime. Since the Organisers of Big Brother are not a court, they cannot find him guilty of sexual assault.

Since Kemen was not evicted for breaking any specific House Rule, can he sue the Organisers of Big Brother for wrongful eviction?
Some commenters on social media have said that, since participants of the Big Brother show were made to sign documents before entering the House, they have waived their right to institute legal actions. The truth is that, irrespective of what the parties signed, an aggrieved party can commence legal proceedings as the powers of the court cannot be curtailed by mutual agreement of parties. The Constitution empowers the court to hear and try all civil and criminal disputes between parties. Any agreement which ousts the court’s jurisdiction is null and void.

So, can Kemen sue?
The answer is yes. Anyone can institute court proceedings, no matter how frivolous their claim is. But then, what would be Kemen’s cause of action? He may sue for Breach of Contract (that is, assuming he signed an agreement with Multichoice and he feels they did not keep to their side of the bargain. For example, if the agreement states that, Kemen can only be evicted for violating a Rule and Kemen can prove that he was evicted without violating any Rule. Tough call).

Now, although Kemen’s cause of action might be breach of contract, the question is, does he have a reasonable cause of action? The answer is no. Whatever agreement Kemen may have executed with the Big Brother’s Organisers, it can safely be assumed that, there is a clause exempting the organisers from liability for any actions taken by them. This is a standard clause in agreements or memoranda of such nature. If there is such clause, any legal proceedings commenced by Kemen is bound to fail as Kemen would be said to have agreed to be bound by any decision taken by Big Brother, including being evicted for any or no reason. It is simply a case of volenti non fit injuria – self inflicted injury.

Peradventure Kemen sues, which Court can hear the matter? Nigeria or South Africa?
It is a universal cannon of practice that, the jurisdiction of the court to try a matter is determined by the place the cause of action arose. So in this case, that would be South Africa. There are exceptions to this, though.

In conclusion, I will say that, although Kemen was not removed from the House according to the books but due to pressure on the Organisers from viewers, his removal has sent a clear message to everyone. Making persistent sexual advances at anyone without their consent is disgraceful. It is even more despicable when the person is asleep.

I do not believe because Debbie-Rise was not punished, so Kemen should have also been excused. This is not a case of what is good for the goose is good for the gander. Kemen was wrong. Beyond wrong. But could he have been given another strike? I do not know. His disqualification will serve a good purpose, though: it is a big lesson to everyone, especially critiques of the Big Brother Naija show who believe the show teaches nothing. Now you know it is wrong to take advantage of another person without their consent. It could cost you a fortune. Or your name.

PS: I believe Kemen can redeem his image. I’ll discuss that in another article.

HaroldWrites is an extraterrestrial who uses words like floccinaucinihilipilificate and antidisestablishmentarianism to keep his readers under his spell, yearning for more. Visit his blog at and stalk him on Twitter, Facebook & Instagram @haroldwrites


  1. Beard gang

    March 6, 2017 at 8:12 pm

    Tboss is just playing victim because big brother took up the case; she was fully aware and gave consent (all the proof you want is in the video…no resistance, raising alarm or sound warning…she was awake!)

    • Story for the gods

      March 6, 2017 at 8:36 pm

      You know she was awake because you were there abi? Kemen simply got disqualified. Try your own and you will be jailed. Animal

    • Beard gang

      March 6, 2017 at 10:33 pm

      You know she was not awake because you were there? Logic? Foolery!

    • Trina

      March 7, 2017 at 10:33 am

      Beardgang the f**ktard is back at it with his constant defence of sexual assault.
      All hail the rapist in training. Carry go.

    • Krasavitsa

      March 6, 2017 at 10:14 pm

      Oga rapist apologist. E don do. You’ve repeatedly tried to prove to us that you support rape/sexual harassment. Point proved ,move on already!

    • Beard gang

      March 6, 2017 at 10:27 pm

      Rapist apologist…lol…this is a new one! Nasty laggard!

    • Tboss is a manipulator

      March 7, 2017 at 9:15 am

      Abeg calm down. How can somebody be fingering you and you won’t know? Haba. C’mon. I’m a woman na. When it’s not like you were drugged. If she had made any objections then that would have been a different story. Tboss Knew and her refusal to object was silent consent. You don’t have to say yes to a guy to give him the green light. What she didn’t know was that the cameras picked it so clearly and when she was called to the dairy room, she was more shocked at the possibility of the outside world seeing the video than she was of the act herself. She was most likely afraid of how she would look to the viewers cos she herself said she could even speak when the video was showed to her. So when did she then say there was no consent? She may not have directly requested it but she didn’t object. She wasn’t drugged or drunk enough to be subjected to unwilling abuse. Tboss is an adult. So please!

    • S!

      March 7, 2017 at 1:24 pm

      She was aware? Were you on the bed with them?
      She wasn’t drunk enough? Did you carry out as test on her to know how drunk she was?

      Do you have sense?
      No you clearly don’t.

    • Lu

      March 7, 2017 at 9:40 am

      He set himself up and she took advantage of the suituation to favour her. That is a smart girl to me.

  2. john

    March 6, 2017 at 8:27 pm

    the most logical and sensible WRITE up regarding this kemen issue..I hope he sues and win ..I am tired of all this online stupid outrage that is full of hypocrisy and tboss is forming a rape bictim to garner votes..give me a break even though I have to give it to her ..say whatever u want to say about tboss,she is smart and maniputltive and calculative and knows how to play the game

    • Story for the gods

      March 6, 2017 at 8:37 pm

      Youre so right! She was the one who carried his hand and put it there to assault her while she was asleep. Oponu oshi. Youre here getting carried away with a simple game and unable to see that another human being was sexually assaulted. Silly goat

    • PeeCeeCee

      March 6, 2017 at 9:49 pm

      John, you took the words right out of my mouth. This is the most objective reaction to the whole mess since yesterday. I thought I was the only one who thought that it would be termed sexual misconduct by Kemen if after TBoss turned her back on the overture, Kemen still kept on with the act. But no, the video evidence shows that once TBoss turned around, Kemen stopped, right or wrong? Y’all should be more rational and non- sentimental, biko. Thanks Harold Writes. #NoReallyMeansNo

    • S!

      March 7, 2017 at 1:26 pm

      You can’t tell if Kemem stopped or not. The camera view changed & the video ended.

    • Lu

      March 7, 2017 at 9:42 am

      I’m sure you read the part that says anybody can sue so he can but he has no chances of winning the case.


    March 6, 2017 at 8:29 pm

    When did SILENCE turn to NO?
    this is a typical case of STOP IT, I LIKE IT.

    • smdh

      March 6, 2017 at 10:41 pm

      shut up ….

    • word

      March 6, 2017 at 10:57 pm

      Single ladies, pray hard for God’s guidance in choosing your future husbands…there’s obviously too much foolishness out there. Parents, put in as much effort in raising ur male children as u do ur female. The trend of responses from guys on this Kemen/TBoss incidence is shocking. It appears most parents of this generation of guys failed woefully.

    • Ivie

      March 7, 2017 at 7:10 am

      The lack of “Yes” is NO. Silence does not mean “yes”, turning around does not mean yes, ONLY “Yes” can count as consent, so don’t use the guise of “she’s enjoying it” to support sex assault.

    • cj

      March 7, 2017 at 9:08 am

      #fact. Leave that okpo

    • Tee

      March 7, 2017 at 11:31 am

      When did being asleep turn to silence. If you justify this then you are a rapist.

  4. viv

    March 6, 2017 at 8:29 pm

    Dear Writer,

    Thank you for being APT!


  5. Serendipity

    March 6, 2017 at 8:30 pm

    I have a question why is Debbie rise kissing Bassey not viewed in the same light as Kemens situation ? I’m genuinely curious why she gets a pass.

    • Corolla

      March 7, 2017 at 12:26 am

      What Debbie Rise did shouldn’t be not be ignored as it is also sexual assault. I hope the producers look into it and take immediate action!

    • wale

      March 7, 2017 at 3:21 am

      Because she is a woman

    • Olanike

      March 7, 2017 at 12:32 pm

      Because it was not assault. Let me guess… you are you going off of hearsay and the 1 min clip you saw? Prior to that scene you saw of Debbie giving Bassey a peck, they were trying to hash things out. Bassey was vexing for Debbie and pretending to be asleep. Please if you don’t want watch the show, do your research. A lot of blogs are are misleading viewers on what Debbie actually did. How many of you know Debbie and Bassey actually have something going on? Many of you watched that min clip and concluded. It’s not fair. Debbie can sue too because she’s being wrongly accused of something she did not do.

  6. Story for the gods

    March 6, 2017 at 8:35 pm

    Fellow sexual assaulters coming to the aid of their brethren. This is a lesson to all. Write all the rubbish you want, we don’t care. Touch anyone sexually without consent and YOU WILL BE PUNISHED. Good day

  7. Storytyme

    March 6, 2017 at 8:59 pm

    So, here’s a story about a beautiful farmer called Mrs. Kokteez from Romania, she went to a farm and started dangling a carrot in front of a raging male stallion. She did this on so many occasions. It is quite puzzling and really unclear what exactly her motives were. On one occasion, she even asked the horse, (with it’s huge raging d**k unchecked), to massage her with it’s strong hoofs. One faithful morning, the horse found it’s way out of the barn and sniffed just the tip of the carrot the fair maiden had been dangling, to satisfy his deep craving.
    To the stake, to the stake cried all the villagers! Poor ol’ horsey, poor ol’ Mrs. Kokteez.
    The End!

  8. Anon

    March 6, 2017 at 9:26 pm

    Tboss is playing the game. She is smart. She had to defend herself knowing that everyone had watched. She kept Emphasising how bright the night light was and how clear you could see through. I’m sure the housemates don’t know that we can see very clearly when they sleep. She had to save herself from shame. Poor Boy. Kemen was thirsty sha lool

  9. chinny

    March 6, 2017 at 9:45 pm

    Great article! Well thought of and unbiased

  10. Onyx Godwin

    March 6, 2017 at 10:05 pm

    You know how “black people can’t be racist”? You know how nobody talk when a woman hit a man? It’s same thing here. Men are used to patriarchy privilege, used to always getting their way, so when women mess up, most people just turn a blind eye. Big brother won’t disqualify Debbie and people won’t rant against Debbie because of the abuse of patriarchy. That said, what Debbie did is also sexual assault, but no, I won’t complain or rant bout hers because “it’s just a kiss”. If kemen sue big brother, big brother/tboss will in turn sue him for sexual assault.

    • EE

      March 7, 2017 at 1:31 am

      Woman are given different standards of justice because of OPPRESSION???


      Wow! Using your example “black people can’t be racist” because white people are not outright oppressors anymore, back when they were, even breathing wrong around them would lead to instant punishment.

  11. kitan

    March 6, 2017 at 10:14 pm

    Oh u just went all around and came to the same point

  12. nawa

    March 6, 2017 at 10:20 pm

    Like bible talk am
    A good name is better than riches.
    I’m feeling for Kemen, that Tboss girl was aware of what was going on.

  13. hadiza

    March 6, 2017 at 10:34 pm

    Kemen got what he deserved. He was always making comments about drugging n raping women by putting stuff in their drinks. He also said he would get Gifty drunk n take advantage of her n blame it on alcohol. He is a rapist for sure. How many more strikes does he need before he finally rapes Tboss if he was left to continue?? he is a sick individual with a sick mind. Remember when he was groping n kissing Gifty when she was drunk until Tboss pulled him off her? that guy is sick and he deserved what he got. Tboss has told him times without number that she doesn’t want him romantically, yet the fool couldn’t keep his hands to himself. That dude would have definitely raped her one day. I was so scared for my baby. I knew she wasn’t safe with him there. ??

    • Elizabeth

      March 7, 2017 at 9:05 am

      Thank you for this Hadiza. To engage in a writeup, we must be well aware of all the facts of the issue at hand.
      1. Kemen regaled the housemates with tales of how “his friends” drug girls with knorr cubes put inside coke.
      2. Kemen touched Uriel and she was saying NO NO NO, he kept on till he was summoned by big brother late at night and warned, Uriel had to say, Big Brother it was a joke.
      3. Gifty was drunk but awake and he kept touching and forcing her, till TBoss intervened as you said.
      4. TBOSS complained time without number that she doesnt like him touching her.
      5. Mr. Writer, you forgot to state that you can be disqualified for disobeying Big Brothers instructions, this is the 4th time Kemen has been summoned, he should have waited for rape abi. LOL

    • cyruspajnigar

      March 7, 2017 at 2:43 pm

      Thank you Elizabeth . he had planned his move not that he was drunk he got up from the bed
      checked if every one was a sleep and cameras are not focused on him went in bed covered him
      self and did the evil act.

    • adelegirl

      March 7, 2017 at 10:31 am

      Exactly! People think BB acted on this one isolated action involving TBoss but the fact is, Kemen had a pattern of forcing unwanted attention on the girls in the house. From groping Gifty to groping TBoss and even Bisola. People have normalized sexual harassment to the point that they no longer can tell when one is being sexually harassed. As long as you do not expressly state your acceptance of a sexual liaison, any sort of sexual intimacy without explicit consent is wrong. Some said TBoss turned to her side. Did she turn towards Kemen? Did she touch or caress Kemen whilst this was going on to prove that she welcomed his attention? If the answers to these questions are NO, then I think it is clear why he was disqualified. I wish he would try to sue and expose himself to further ridicule.

  14. Inno

    March 6, 2017 at 10:51 pm

    U are absolutely right hadiza

  15. Inno

    March 6, 2017 at 10:57 pm

    Kemen has to know very well that tboss never liked him from day one, kemen irritates tboss and the stupid kemen has been forcing himself to get sex in the house getting out of control as if he never be with a woman in the house without having sex, he really deserves what he got..last week I commented how he acted towards those girls is being so rude…even his kissing is too much..

  16. Inno

    March 6, 2017 at 11:08 pm

    D issue of Debbie rise and Bassey is totally different besides both loves each other and they had little conversation at that moment and Bassey was little forming romantically upset towards Debbie and he closed his eyes with eyespad although both were in d mood of romantic until Debbie finally kiss him.

  17. Dolls

    March 7, 2017 at 1:19 am

    The writer did a great job. However, I was waiting for the definition of sexual assault or harassment under South African laws since we know the cause of action is more viable where it arose.

  18. Rukayat Oyedele

    March 7, 2017 at 7:39 am

    The way kemen was peeking at the camera before touching Tboss says it all…like a lil boy that wants to steal meat from the pot of stew!can’t recall TTT peeking at the camera before touching bisola nelther does he touch her in the sleep.

    • Rukayat Oyedele

      March 7, 2017 at 7:56 am


  19. Debbie

    March 7, 2017 at 8:59 am

    Your write up is great. I am a lady so I won’t condone sexual harassment of any kind. But what I do not understand how can someone claim to be asleep when the video clearly showed she opened her eyes, looked at kemen, turned and adjusted the blanket for him to have more access? No matter how much of a heavy sleeper that she might claim to be, she was aware, she should have raised and alarm or something. Kemen is wrong, yes!!! But he should sue BBN cause they are bias

    • Tboss is a manipulator

      March 7, 2017 at 9:19 am

      Thank you very much for being unbiased about this. God bless you. I’m a woman. Even in my deepest sleep you won’t touch my privates and I won’t know ow. If I have any objections tons I will wake up and and slap you. If I don’t I will lie there and njoy it. Iv been in that situation with a guy before. I didn’t ask him for it but I was fully aware. I didn’t say yes and I don’t say know but I enjoyed it so I just lay there and took it. So can I now go back and be talking about consent? It’s just wicked if you ask me.

    • Nene

      March 7, 2017 at 9:19 am

      If she wanted to give him acess she will open her legs wide for him to have acess since his hands were down there, turning on her side moved his hands to her hip which she didn’t mind, most people can open their eyes when they feel there is movement in the roomorning but might not be fully conscious, most people also have conversation eg respond when you ask them if they have eaten or not but ask then the next morning they can’t remeber having such conversation with you. Pls shes not his wife, only his wife can give him back for acess. Since he was using his hands acess in this case will be to open. Her legs so his hands not di#&k can have acess

      PS: im so pissed I dont have time for punctuation. What is wrong is wrong biko.

    • Ruby

      March 7, 2017 at 10:01 am

      Comments like this upsets me. She opened her eyes doesn’t mean she woke up. I pick up calls when asleep and can actually have a 3/5mins convo with you over the phone unconsciously. i won’t remember in the morning. Same way you can actually open your eyes when you feel movement around you while asleep and not be conscious. So youngwoman I hope this also happens to you.

    • The Real Oma

      March 7, 2017 at 10:03 am

      @Debbie, you like many commenters on here still don’t get it. The problem is not Tboss’s action or inaction (depending on how you interpret it) the problem is Kemen’s action. He has no right touching a sleeping woman intimately because she is not conscious to give consent. Do you get it now? It does not make any difference whether Tboss screamed or turned, the fact remains Kemen touched her without her knowledge!

    • Baby fantastic

      March 7, 2017 at 10:54 am

      This is the point I have been trying to make. Thanks real oma.

    • The Real Oma

      March 7, 2017 at 2:01 pm

      @Baby Fantastic, I have screamed myself hoarse ( from my keyboard + in the office) trying to make this point and most people still don’t get it. Phewwww!

    • Tee

      March 7, 2017 at 11:44 am

      Don’t worry let him go right ahead and sue…. that is when he would legal meaning of giving consent. All this brain washed Nigerian women sha

    • Anonymous

      March 7, 2017 at 1:36 pm

      TBoss felt something touch her and when she woke up unconsciously and checked, but kemen pretended he was sleeping. So she turned. lets stop justifying what kemen did it’s totally wrong. Why would he look at the camera’s to see if it was focused on him. Kemen actually knew what he was doing was wrong. It’s so unfortunate for him coz he used his own hands to disgrace himself.

    • S!

      March 7, 2017 at 1:38 pm

      One question; do you sleep on one spot or do you roll/ turn around while sleeping???

  20. dust

    March 7, 2017 at 9:24 am

    Rubbish @ Debbie, u contradict ur own self. Let me ask, u don’t turn around in ur sleep? However, the bottom line is, kemen is wrong to touch her without her consent. And as far as i watched he stopped when she turned.

  21. baggu

    March 7, 2017 at 9:28 am

    If kemen were to sue, I wonder what the ground for his case would be. Bias? Cos they didn’t disqualify Debbie rise, he did wrong and this can’t be justified cos someone else did same buh wasn’t disqualified.

  22. Bisola Must Go

    March 7, 2017 at 9:42 am

    Based on rule 7, why are members of the clique still in the house. Those guys intimidate and threaten people especially that Bisola babe

  23. FinchleysFinest

    March 7, 2017 at 9:59 am

    Guys.. you all are biased. I blame both Kemen and Tboss…

    First Kemen, its not by force to hold someone when there is no consent or the feeling is not mutual.. What Kemen did was wrong..

    Tboss (Nobody except Tboss can truthful claim if she was aware or awake when Kemen was touching her so you all should keep kwayet… we weren’t there to see it for ourselves and the video proves NOTHING….)For Tboss.. when she got up ad realised Kemen was that close…she didnt jump off the bed ..she was ok with Kemen so close to her ..

    I blame both parties…Like the popular yoruba saying: the food you wee not eat..biko dont smell it faaa.. its that simple.

    I’ll use TTT & Bisola as a perfect example..these (regardless of whatever you all know about TTT…Bisola is not cant prove it…) but they both agreed to whatever they’ve done.. And Bisola wont freak out if she wakes up in TTT’s arms….all because they’ve agreed to it.

    Simply saying silence doesnt mean YES or NO is not good enough… Protect yourself FIRST!. RUN!

  24. Ima

    March 7, 2017 at 10:00 am

    Kemen will not win his case if he decides to sue the organisers….part of the reason is because when the housemates asked him what happened. He said ………”that’s how i normally sleep with Tboss, check other footages its the same. As far as I’m concerned he lied. That’s why they say “Whatever you say can be used against you in the court of law”. He should have just left the Bigbrother house quietly.

  25. kay

    March 7, 2017 at 11:07 am

    He looked right and left like a thief before he commenced, she felt something on her body and woke up, he stopped his hand movement once he realized she had woken up, she couldn’t find anything in her blanket, since she wasn’t sure and didn’t wish whatever happened to repeat itself, she thought it safe to sleep on her sides with her legs closed and backing who was next to her. Tboss didn’t know exactly what Kemen did until probably Big Brother played her d video, she felt violated and didn’t paint black to be white (typical of her, she says it as it is). If Kemen did nothing as he claimed why did he act like a thief before commencing and why did he stop when she woke up. Dude deserves to be arrested even.

  26. Chisenga M

    March 7, 2017 at 11:10 am

    Dont share your ignorance with us,… Any business activity that occurs in a land is to adhere to the laws of the land whether explicitly mentioned or not. Therefore the fact that THERE WAS NO CONSENT makes what he did RAPE. If Tboss sues he is going to jail!!!!

  27. Tee

    March 7, 2017 at 11:35 am

    Very funny we are now debating whether Tboss was awake or asleep, aware or oblivious. Did she place his hand in her kpurus? Nigerian men are just lucky this Country is lawless.

  28. mizremmy

    March 7, 2017 at 11:36 am

    To back you up @FinchleysFinest, Tboss ought not to have allowed him sleep together with her on that bed. You can’t claim you don’t want to reject a man whom you’ve already said a NO to. After all, he is not your blood and you can never predict a man whose sex drive is huge.. We ladies need to be careful in dealing with guys, especially the ones we’ve rejected. As for Kemen, Bigbrother’s verdict is justifiable!!!

  29. Mark

    March 7, 2017 at 12:08 pm

    Big Brother Naija, though in South Africa actually operates under “Nigerian” law. It is written there in the about section of their official website. So even though the law says a person should be tried where their crime is committed, I think the organisers have opted to be subject to Nigerian laws and not South African laws.

  30. FinchleysFinest

    March 7, 2017 at 12:12 pm

    Thank you @mizremmy

    May we all not be Kemen-ed in Jesus Name.

  31. Okooo hmmm

    March 7, 2017 at 12:16 pm

    Harold writes, very well said. My 2 cents on this issue is that it escalated and became exaggerated (some people are using the word rape! already) because of social media influence/pressure on the organisers. The same social media that never went a second without pouring insults/hate on Kemen for his “looks”(superficial world we live in) while im sincerely happy that this case has educated menfolk on mutual consent, a part of me doubts the reaction would have been same if it was another male HM in the same situation??? Probably NOT!!

  32. Obby

    March 7, 2017 at 12:18 pm

    Well, in marriage the case is different sha. Asleep or awake the man will touch you, even when you turn to your sides it could also pass for a ‘yes’ to your husband. But I want to believe Tboss was actually drunk and sleepy here even when she turned. When she was explaining to the housemates she said ‘just a cup of…and this happened wtf!…’ So for those ladies that can drink and see double, I will say ‘continue’ in “Patience Jonathan’s voice”. When it happens we will not hear word, just like this BBN movie we are analyzing upandan. We only saw a clip, what if big brother has more evidence to this?

  33. Toyosi

    March 7, 2017 at 1:57 pm

    Some people needs to watch law and order:Special Victims Unit. The shows deals with sexually based offenses and how the law deals in the us.sexually assaulting someone asleep is actually a crime. There was no CONSENT. Outside the house Tboss can even sue him for sexual assault. No society should condone sexual assault or harassment.

  34. holla2ng

    March 7, 2017 at 5:03 pm

    Please can someone explain why some of us acts dumb at times?Even after watching the videos and following up on Kemen behaviors,knowing he like taking advantage of these females when they are not aware….Anyway kemen whould have still been evicted because many ppl form the #teamkemen but never votes*smh*

  35. CheRox

    March 7, 2017 at 5:46 pm

    Your entire write up attempts to create a grey area to absolve a sexual predator who sexually assaulted a woman and has created a sexually hostile environment for more than one woman in the house. He did not respect his housemates and acted violently towards one. Why are you using English to say a whole lot of nothing?
    Harold, he sexually assaulted her, there’s no grey area, that is violent behavior. End.

  36. OMO

    March 7, 2017 at 8:16 pm

    No be small thing ooo

  37. Justice

    March 7, 2017 at 9:38 pm

    What Kemen did was wrong…. But looking closely, you will notice TBOSS was awake and she turned backing Kemen…. Now for those that watched the romance between Miyonse and tboss, you will notice she backed Miyonse while he was touching her. Now that shows she enjoys it that way. Backing the guy while he does his thing. Tboss enjoyed every bit of it.

  38. BigBrother'sBigSister

    March 7, 2017 at 10:22 pm

    Please, how many strikes does the writer need Kemen to get? First he had a “boys’ talk” with some of the other guys saying he could easily pretend he’s drunk and take advantage of already drunk Gifty. Biggie heard that and must have warned him then because it was also on social media. He got another strike for conspiracy. This was his 3rd strike. 3 strikes means you get disqualified (Debbi Rise made sure we all heard the rules the day BB made her read the rule book out loud). Na only Kemen dey house? Haba. Did you not see his behaviour during the parties and their silly truth or dare games? The guy was sexually frustrated! Why was he looking around like a thief and a prey before his sordid act? Abeg, go back home Kemen. Pity we live in a society where the victim is blamed. It shouldn’t be about what Tboss should have done, It should about what Kemen should NOT have done

  39. queen zotsho

    March 9, 2017 at 9:02 pm

    There was no rape or harassment or sexual abuse there they were enjoying themselves both of them .That slutter is a blue.liar and the housemates.know very well that she is an idiot but this bigbrother forced them to witness according to his side that is Rubbish plus nonsense Kemen is not guilty if taken as.a.rapist or whatsoever both are RAPISTS whatever name they paste Kemen both are make no mistake. Next Sunday that slutter ugly Tboss must quit Biggyhouse and get in into her home.Ese was the only fake housemate who speculated her and said the real truth about her Tboss must go to Hell i dont care She is a demon.a mental case .im sure she has been abused by his father

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