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Linda Ikeji’s Younger Sister Benita gets Engaged

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Fashionista and younger sister to Linda Ikeji, Benita Ikeji  has gotten engaged. Her elder sister, Laura ecstatic about the news announced it on her Instagram page saying:

Yayyyyy congrats @like_benny my lil lil lil smally sister is getting married to the love of her life.. I’m happy for you boo. There’s gonna be alot of ikeji weddings this year. By God’s grace. Amen. Enjoy

Congratulations to her!

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57 Comments

  1. Nationalsquirrel

    May 10, 2017 at 11:26 pm

    Aunty linda i have faith for you. look at banky anyway

    • bey

      May 11, 2017 at 2:13 am

      I heard Linda too is codedly engaged o.
      You can see where Laura wrote there are going to be lots of “ikeji weddings” this year.
      I doubt if she means her own wedding included since she’s done trad and even pregnant
      I need Linda to break the internet jare.

  2. A Real Nigerian

    May 10, 2017 at 11:37 pm

    Very beautiful and even knuckles there. Definitely not bleaching.

    • ITK

      May 11, 2017 at 10:25 am

      Who asked You? Jobless house wife

  3. Temi

    May 10, 2017 at 11:46 pm

    Funny how the love of Benita ‘s life has no name when he’s not a kanu Nwanko relative

    • Miss_Flygerian

      May 11, 2017 at 12:35 am

      Bruh ?????

    • Cynical

      May 11, 2017 at 9:30 am

      BN pipu……..????

    • Lulu

      May 11, 2017 at 2:26 pm

      Why so wikkid?

    • wow

      May 11, 2017 at 2:37 pm

      Issaa politicians son hehhehe
      Aye le o ibosi o

  4. o

    May 10, 2017 at 11:51 pm

    First thing I saw was the Eko hotel pool???

  5. bubu

    May 10, 2017 at 11:57 pm

    Congrats to her! see her nails so natural, Linda is next in Jesus name (Amen).

  6. God of father mbaka

    May 11, 2017 at 12:38 am

    Have mercy on your daughter…don’t let her enemies rejoice over her,some may say no one that sows tears will ever reap joy.?

    Constantly celebrating and magnifying dirvoce stories has its implications,but all the same father God let her discover her mongopark.?

    • Nelo

      May 11, 2017 at 7:19 am

      Go and sit down. So journalists dont get married? Very shallow human. Nobody do aproko reach SDK or wendy williams n both r happily married. god of father mbaka is at adoration ground, go meet am der. Ndi ojor!

    • Josephine

      May 11, 2017 at 8:40 am

      Stella Dimoko also breaks divorce news and she’s married. Even BN that’s more of a lifestyle blog can also dip into such gossip and Uche is married. Its just not Linda’s turn yet, that’s if marriage is for her. Only God knows anyone’s future.

    • ITK

      May 11, 2017 at 10:29 am

      That is a stupid comment. Linda is balling you drinking haterade. Marriage is not an achievement. Leave Linda [email protected] Mbaka. So, God is not urs but that of Mbaka? You are a goat.

    • abby

      May 11, 2017 at 5:55 pm

      Dont be silly come on

  7. Noni

    May 11, 2017 at 2:13 am

    can we discuss the placement of the ring on her 3rd finger.:)

    • Tamunotonye

      May 11, 2017 at 2:38 am

      my dear, Nigerians do this a lot oo.. God only knows why

    • Dee one

      May 11, 2017 at 3:05 am

      Makes me cringe a little whenever I see that….

    • lara

      May 11, 2017 at 9:13 am

      because she is not married yet, engagement rings are suppose to be on the third finger.

    • le coco

      May 11, 2017 at 9:27 am

      Lara.. according to whom?

    • Abeni

      May 11, 2017 at 10:12 am

      It is because there are no rules that say it must always be on the 4th finger. Cultures differ. In some parts of South America, men wear engagement ring. In accordance to the female engagement ring norm, the Jews wear it on their 3rd finger, the Russians and New Zealanders wear it on their right hand. A Lebanese person wears it on her right hand and move it to the left when she are married.

      The Nigerians, exposed/educated Yorubas (known back then as alakowe) for example, who adopted the culture wore it on their left hand, 3rd finger, till they do idana (engagement). It is at the engagement they move it to the fourth(ring) finger. In comparison to what they do now, whereby they claim that they are putting the ring back on fourth finger at the engagement, or so called trad, to signify traditionally wedded. There is no such thing in Yorubaland or even in its marriage rites modernization.

      Basically, every culture adopt the ring culture to their culture. In Yorubaland, you are not officially engaged till you have done your engagement (idana) which has been bastardized to the so called traditional wedding; there is no such thing as “traditional wedding” in Yorubaland, everything is all Yoruba marriage rites. A step by step process till handover (igbeyawo). So an engagement party in Yorubaland is truly what it is, just an engagement(idana).

      The wedding is called igbeyawo (the handover), the only difference back in the olden days is that there was no solemnization or legalization on that day as we have it now, the solemnization happens during the itoro phase, now known as introduction. The solemnization for the Yorubas back then is done before an agreement to engage the couple and merge the family. And solemnization back then involves checking and praying for compatibility of both family and the couple in accordance to their religious beliefs; mostly different traditional beliefs. Yorubas are pragmatic people, they believe need to know and analyse the future outcomes before proceeding to the main events.

      The Yoruba wedding (igbeyawo) can happen on the day of the engagement (idana), due to circumstances such as the bride is pregnant, or in most cases some days or few weeks later, in accordance to the journey the bride has to travel to reach her new home.

      It is because we Nigerians don’t preserve our culture, that’s why we are confused and diluting it to meaningless parties and “follow follow”. The itoro, now bastardized to introduction, is more of a screening and discussion phase. Sure, you can entertain your guest whichever way you wish to or can afford after a solid agreement and satisfactory screening but the key element of having thorough discussions and screening is no longer prominent. Just a wishy washy playful convo and parties.

      Even the Igbo parents don’t accept you are officially engaged till the groom comes to perform “knocking on the door”. I am not Igbo, I learnt this from a wedding post on BN. So please if I am wrong, my dear Igbo readers, enlighten me.

      Guys, rather than passing on misinformation, please the internet is also for learning. Google is your friend. Ask google if any other culture wears their ring on their third finger or different hand. You will see them all and with explanation why. Let’s learn to uphold our culture, even the Chinese & Indians who adopted western culture didn’t completely throw theirs away or misinterpret the meaning of their cultural rites. We should learn to read more and learn more. There is no one rule fits all for most things, especially when it is a culture/lifestyle that is created by one person. Not even all westerners wear engagement and wedding rings. Some don’t believe in it.

      Now, a lot of Nigerians are following the path of the alakowe and they are not doing their research, just following blindly and copying whatever they see without knowing the essence and meaning of what they are copying. And they go around confronting and challenging other people for doing things differently without wondering or understanding why. Example of such are some of the comments replying this comment I am replying myself.

      Back in the days, it was only alakowes, i.e. exposed and university educated Nigerians (basically the elites), who wore engagement rings and wedding bands. The rest of the population hardly wore it. Even as far back 90s, most Nigerians don’t wear such. It is the exposure they got via the internet (mostly social media) that made the craze prominent. And as always, Nigerians just jump on the bandwagon without observing and asking serious questions.

      It is through instagram I know the Jews and Russians wear theirs differently. It is through reading books(fiction),as a teenager, I know New Zealanders wear theirs differently. It is because of curiosity that I did a Google search and I discovered more information. “Read more, learn more, change the globe.” Cheers.

      Congrats Benny. Wishing you God’s love, blessings and guidance.

      P.S. excuse any typos or grammatical errors, I have got to go now. I just hope my message gets across. I am always forced to comment now because of all the misinformation and lack of cultural preservation and historical knowledge.

    • Della

      May 11, 2017 at 11:27 am

      Omg! I thought it was just me….. Hahahahahaha. Can we please include a little exposure and enlightenment wth being wealthy? I know it will be, we know where the ring is, but she has the ring or they (Linda) has the money, what do I have and all that, una doh already. What is appropriate is appropriate and what needs to be corrected should be corrected. Benita, you have the ring on the wrong finger.

  8. Cocolette

    May 11, 2017 at 2:54 am

    So it seems like all the Ikeji girls are getting married this year… congrats to them all

  9. lordinthering

    May 11, 2017 at 3:31 am

    E be like say na fear dey make naija women put ring for the ‘F’ u finger……And some men don dey confuse too.Them go dey propose sliding the ring too on third finger.
    na wa o
    Bella naija,best shade throwers

    • Le coco

      May 11, 2017 at 9:44 am

      ??

  10. Bush man

    May 11, 2017 at 4:03 am

    she don get belle ma…na una way. Congrats all the same

  11. Julieatta

    May 11, 2017 at 6:56 am

    It’s a good thing. If you doubt me ask one of your relations or friends abt what it feels like not having a child?

  12. Rubby

    May 11, 2017 at 7:44 am

    Congrats to you….i really wonder y some ladies wear d engagement ring on d middle finger,is it lack of enlightenment or what? All these vloggers,pls kindly do a video and enlighten these ladies,its embarrassing…especially when it’s done by people who u think should know Berra…

    • Abeni

      May 11, 2017 at 11:00 am

      Hi,

      You also need enlightenment. Please kindly do your research. Not all westerners even wear that on their fourth finger. Google Russian engagement finger for instance. Google the engagement ring culture in South America. Google Lebanese and Jews engagement ring culture. There is no one size fits all for such thing. So because we adopted a borrowed culture, we should throw away ours. We adapt whatever modernization or borrowed culture we adopt to fit our culture, that’s how it is done and should be. What you wrote is embarrassing to some of us. How can you say people who chose to wear their ring on their 3rd finger are embarrassing. It shows your lack of knowledge. If you are confused why can’t you simply ask google. It is better to be well informed before stating fact like you are enlightened. Please guys, stop with this bandwagon effect and at least have a good understanding of what you are doing with whatever culture or lifestyle you adopt. Have a nice day.

    • Yellow sun

      May 11, 2017 at 12:16 pm

      Hi abeni,
      If ure claiming culture… Our culture doesn’t do engagement rings..we do family introduction ,engagement and wedding…igbos have theirs same as Hausa’s and yourubas…but no where do we do engagement rings.
      And quoting Russians and south Americans culture can’t work here..we were colonised by the British and adapted their ways…
      So pls this third finger ring is arrrrrgh!!!

    • Abeni

      May 11, 2017 at 1:08 pm

      Dear Yellow sun,

      Other westerners who adopted the engagement ring culture also don’t have such in theirs. Same as the white wedding garment or gown. It was started by someone and everyone adopted. Plus you are wrong about the Yoruba culture. We have Itoro, Idana and Igbeyawo. What you stated, family introduction, engagement and wedding that are done nowadays, are all adaptation to fit into western wedding rituals. Read journals, books and even encyclopedia about the Yoruba marriage rites. They are well documented. Even the so called aso ebi that is now for guests is meant for family. What we have for friends is aso egbe and for guests who contributes to the party it is aso egbe joda; this bit of the culture started in 80s because of recession in order to help sponsor wedding events. Once again that is documented in journals.

      Some people are just bastardizing our culture in order to conform to borrowed culture that should be adapted into our culture if the individual wishes to. It isn’t everyone that will do things the same way it is globally normalised. Why fit in when you can stand out. It is part of having an identity!

      You can do your research. Google it. If you are going to state things as facts bring your proof. Don’t talk about enlightenment without proof. Stop following bandwagon effect without understanding what you are truly participating in. Let people who want to wear their ring on their third finger do so and wear yours on your fourth. No crime in it.

      You all need to read more about your culture. We are slowly losing the meaning of everything. I am not against globalization but there is no one rule fits all for this kind of stuff. Do what you want in accordance to what makes sense to you rather than what you see and follow.

      Unfortunately BN has hogged my first comment. It has an elaborated explanation on why the Yorubas wear their rings on the third finger and also explains when the Igbo parents see a couple as officially engaged.

      Let’s start reading more about our culture, guys. And hold the facts. Nigerian scholars have documented these things for over 40 years now, at least that I have read so far.

      FYI, according to research and history, engagement rings culture was started by the Romans. So I don’t get why you are claiming we are colonised by the British. I don’t see the correlation to this topic. So out of context. Same way the white wedding gown was started by the British and it is now a global trend. Will you tell countries colonised by Spain not to wear it. P.S. this is exact same way ill informed people believe only Christians can wear white wedding gown. Meanwhile Queen Victoria wore it to stand out. Not because of chastity or religion as it is believed by some.

      BN, try and release my comments in the right order please. Thank you.

  13. Ree

    May 11, 2017 at 9:06 am

    Hmmmm madam enlightenment allow them wear it wherever na as long as you know its an engagement ring, that’s what matters. Congrats to u Benita.

    • curios

      May 11, 2017 at 9:27 am

      I just tire o…I feel its weird but for crying out loud, its her ring not yours…

  14. john

    May 11, 2017 at 9:20 am

    I wonder why some ladies knuckles dey black. If I say na bleaching, dey will come for my head..Lemme say it’s natural. But in our hearts, we know say na …. Yellow fever……also waiting for their divorce..hope their big sister linda will celebrate and magnify it on her blog when it happens

    • Abeni

      May 11, 2017 at 11:44 am

      Another supposition that I have come across a lot amongst Nigerians is this whole misinformation about skincare. When a dark person has a really dark knuckle, nobody complains about the person bleaching but when someone who is a bit light, light or fair has knuckles that are darker to their skin they are bleaching.

      Hey, I can’t blame you all. Nigeria doesn’t have or provide proper education on skin care nor a culture of visiting dermatologist. Google is your friend, guys. For either dark, a bit fair, fair, a bit light, light skinned person, there is a chance of discoloration and uneven skin tone due to environmental factors or lack of proper care for different parts of the body.

      It is very common for Nigerians to use body lotion as face cream and hand lotion. And even feet lotion. For some people those places are their major challenge. Also knowing the natural elements that work for your skin is important. For instance, sweet almond oil works great for some. While coconut oil works great for others. For some coconut oil works for the entire body while for others it only works well for certain parts e.g. every part of the body except the problematic parts such as neck, face, knees, knuckles etc that the person has.

      One has to try different products to find out what works best for them and also notice which part of their body is more challenging to maintain. If they can’t figure it out, they need to visit a dermatologist for help. It isn’t just when you have acne or bad skin issues and etc you visit a dermatologist.

      Bad diet can also cause uneven skin tone or damage. So is always putting one’s hand in water, especially hot water. There are so many factors. And luckily a lot of information is out there on google.

      When I see a dark skinned person has really dark knuckles. At least 4 shades darker than him/her, I see it as lack of proper skin care, same way I feel about fair or light skinned person. I don’t automatically jump into conclusion that they are bleaching. Sure, some people are bleaching but a huge amount of Nigerians don’t take skin care or its education serious. They spread misinformation and bad education and as always they jump on the bandwagon effect and purchase bad skin products or treatments.

      Rather than constantly condemning these people why not try and educate yourself about skin care first and then offer solutions and proper education to them. Everyone should have a face cream, body lotion, hand cream, and even feet cream if necessary for moisturising, hydrating and replenishing the skin.

      Luckily, in Nigeria shea butter, coconut oil and other natural oils, as alternative to buying manufactured lotion which contains these oils anyway, are quite affordable. Try them and observe how they affect your skin. Also drink a lot of water and be watchful of your diet. For some people oil and peanuts causes major skin issues. Just observe and learn what your body and skin love or do not.

      Lack of cleansing and exfoliating the skin of dead skin and dirt also can discolour or cause damage to one’s skin. Same as constant exposure to sunlight which results to sunburn or damage.

      In Nigeria, we tend to ignore all these and think it is meant for ajebutters. Or that it is vanity or of no relevance. The average Nigerian believes proper skin care is for people with money that have time and resources on their hands. It is a belief that there are more “pressing” issues than taking care of one’s mental health and skin. Priorities are giving more into what we wear and eat to show that we are financially buoyant and exposed. Yet our body, mind and soul continues to suffer from neglect.

      Even financially ok and the so called rich suffer from bad skin care because it requires dedication, consistency and devotion. If an average person looks after their skin properly they will look just as clean and well maintained as a rich person who does same.

      Good day and bye. 🙂

    • Oyinade

      May 11, 2017 at 1:26 pm

      I’m not a fan of linda Ikeji and don’t even go to her website, but your comment is just all shades of wrong.

  15. Dr Names

    May 11, 2017 at 9:41 am

    Am coming 4 LINDA

    • Marie Antoinette

      May 11, 2017 at 11:43 am

      Sorry Dr Names! You might be late…silent rumour has it that Linda is already codedly taken or booked by hunky Uche of Gulder Ultimate search…

  16. le coco

    May 11, 2017 at 9:44 am

    ??

  17. The Real Oma

    May 11, 2017 at 10:11 am

    Na wah o, why all these hateful comments now? What happened to “Congratulations” and moving on?
    God bless your marriage o jare Benita.

  18. Benita

    May 11, 2017 at 10:14 am

    Congrats to my name sake. We rock.

  19. Oluwakemi

    May 11, 2017 at 10:54 am

    Madam can we discuss the placement of the ring on her 3rd finger.:)…. that’s actually the engagement finger traditionally but it’s up to you to put it anywhere you want..

  20. Chu

    May 11, 2017 at 11:39 am

    I get confused when people yab those who wear their engagement ring on the middle finger, that was what I knew all my years growing up, if we now choose to do it the current way (besides we weren’t given the memo when it changed) why hate and make the person sound ignorant. I remember changing it to the fourth finger when I got engaged and an elderly man asked why I put it there that was I married yet? Embarrassment made me change it back cos I had nothing concrete to say about it, even when I googled it, there was disparity as to which finger was the better way. SO please leave those that wear theirs on the middle finger, e kuku no de bite anyone.
    All this long epistle on top ring finger, lol. Congrats Benita.

    • Yellow sun

      May 11, 2017 at 12:21 pm

      Wrong…what is the ring before the wedding band placed after it on the fourth finger called?
      There goes ur answer…

  21. Marie Antoinette

    May 11, 2017 at 11:47 am

    Congratulations Benita! Success is attractive indeed!

  22. Bea

    May 11, 2017 at 2:42 pm

    Middle finger: Engaged
    Fourth finger: Married
    Congrats Benita

  23. mmmmm

    May 11, 2017 at 2:43 pm

    You see the 3rd finger thingy really got me confused. The Curate in CATOL, Owerri that counselled the marriage class frowned at the ladies if he noticed the engagement ring on the 4th finger. He will quickly tell you, ” You are engaged not married” so change your ring to the 4th finger. He further explained it will keep one conscious of the fact that it is just an engagement so you don’t overstep your boundaries (Start playing wify roles).

    Someone help us out on this.

    • naveah

      May 22, 2017 at 4:17 pm

      He was overstepping his boundaries. Nonsense!

  24. Maria

    May 11, 2017 at 6:04 pm

    See Africans arguing about a borrowed culture God help us all. i would have understood if y’all were arguing about an igbo engagement tradition but ring finger na wa oh. To all those asking Nigerian was colonised by Great Britain so the culture of the white wedding and engagement ring is borrowed from them forget what your pastor tells you there is nothing biblical about engagement rings or wedding bands that is a man made foreign culture. Traditionally the British who we borrowed said culture from wear the ring on the fourth finger that is why people who are “exposed” are finding it strange that it is on the third finger
    theknot.com/content/ring-finger-what-hand-wedding-engagement-ring

  25. Zell

    May 11, 2017 at 6:06 pm

    Rings! Fingers! These are all symbolic and are not the real deal. Rings dont make marriages….the marriage counsellor should know better.

  26. Wow

    May 11, 2017 at 6:53 pm

    Ahaaaaa! World people will come for Linda!!!! Shel marry now theyl watch her womb!!! Shel be preg theyl say why did she announce it on the day “Denrele” was doing Introduction and steal his shine……………… #spotlightproblems. Congrats to the new engagee??

  27. naveah

    May 12, 2017 at 12:27 am

    See how people curse themselves without knowing: Wearing your engagement ring on the middle finger of your left hand indicates that the wedding was called off and he allowed you to keep the ring.

    There are two reasons for wearing the engagement and wedding ring on the left: 1. prior to medical science disputing it, people believed that a vein ran directly from the fourth finger on the left hand to the heart. So people wore their rings there for that hand to heart connection.

    2. Prior to the Reformation, most of Europe — and therefore the Catholic Church — put the wedding ring on the right hand because it was associated with strength, The Church of England chose the left hand because it was the opposite of what Catholics did.

    I have always thought it odd that women in Nigeria wear their rings in the middle finger, I have not seen it done anywhere else. I have seen engagement pictures of my aunts from the oldest who is 80 and their rings where NOT on the middle finger. Now, there are people in Europe who wear their rings on the right BUT its still on the 4th finger.

  28. Nyc

    May 12, 2017 at 12:38 am

    BS! BS! BS! Once u are engaged u were the ring in Only one spot and that’s the fourth..it shows all that you are taken or betrothed. And when u marry u add the eternity band. Nonsense uncivilized Africans.

  29. Nyc

    May 12, 2017 at 12:40 am

    And to enlighten you more, the third finger is for those who are seeking!!!! Capish??

  30. naveah

    May 22, 2017 at 4:18 pm

    Maybe where you are from dear.

  31. Missnewyork

    May 28, 2018 at 10:36 pm

    Exactly a year later,we now know Linda was included in that statement..as she was engaged too then but still has not said anything though now 6months preggas.

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