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“Don’t play the victim to circumstances you created” – Olakunle Churchill

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Businessman and the father to Nollywood actress Tonto Dikeh‘s son, Olakunle Oladunni Churchill shared an inspiration message last night, shortly after the actress posted a clip of herself attending the Father’s Day celebration at her son’s school while dressed like a man.

Taking to his Instagram page, Olakunle posted a quote saying that people shouldn’t play the victim for circumstances they created.

He also added in his caption:

It’s cruel and it’s unfair.

You are lying to yourself because you seek comfort. Well comfort is overrated. You are lying to yourself because you are scared of the unknown. But you must stop. To continue lying will eat away at your soul, causing you untold amounts of future pain.
A lie is something that you make yourself believe in order to make life a little easier. A lie is a paradigm under which you operate to avoid pain. A lie will destroy you, inside and out. A lie is something you want to believe because to consider the opposite would hurt your ego.
Sometimes the difference between a lie and the truth can be subtle. Sometimes your brain will try to “logically” trick you into believing a lie. I cannot give you a definitive guide on how to differentiate between the two; I am not you and I do not understand your specific circumstances, motivations, and desires. I can, however, give you some tips to guide you to make decisions that will serve you well.
DM me for guidelines.

23 Comments

  1. Mira

    June 17, 2017 at 8:48 am

    Uncle you should have known there was a Father’s Day activity in the school and attended! Don’t play the she did not tell me card, you guys are separated you should have gone the extra mile to get the school to also inform you of your child’s report (you should know how Ur child is doing in school), upcoming activities etc!

    • Meg

      June 18, 2017 at 5:01 am

      @Mira are you sure he knows his school? Tonto denied him access and phone access, in fact every access to the child to get at him.

  2. Homa

    June 17, 2017 at 8:50 am

    If he is actually referring to Tonto then he’s silly. The victim here is his son and he should know what happens in his son’s school, attend PTA meetings and check his performance whether Tonto is alive or not. Tonto doesn’t need to call to inform him since they aren’t married. What happens if they have other partners? If he wanted to know he will know. He is the father of the boy, probably pays his school fees and would be allowed access to the school. He should work things out for the boy’s sake. I pray they figure it out, doesn’t have to be sour forever.

  3. Asa ka Ibe Ya

    June 17, 2017 at 8:59 am

    Let me start off by saying since when do we start celebrating father’s day in Nigeria? seriously been say that I also go to my kids father’s day at school but not dressing like a man to be honest is not necessary, is like doing extra just to get attention. Divorce is never easy especially when kids are involved both parent needs to work things out for the sake of that poor little boy.

    • Ottawa Queen

      June 17, 2017 at 2:04 pm

      Since we started celebrating Mother’s day in Nigeria.

  4. Holymolly

    June 17, 2017 at 9:03 am

    When you come out to say someone is crazy but u re busy fighting for ‘world craziest person’ title with that person… #hiss

  5. Munachimso

    June 17, 2017 at 9:18 am

    I wish they never had this boy, then they can both move on with their lives in peace.

    But with a child? Their paths will cross for life.

    No matter how financially stable you think you are, do not bring a child to this world until you are ready.

    These ones are grown adults, they can do whatever it is they want. I just feel sorry for the little vulnerable kid caught in the middle of this drama, something he never bargained for. And for his sake I hope peace finds them.

    • Lami

      June 17, 2017 at 2:21 pm

      May God bless you continually for your statement. People should start thinking right.

  6. Spunky

    June 17, 2017 at 9:23 am

    Make it stop already.

  7. peter

    June 17, 2017 at 10:21 am

    comment section about to be Lit..Grabs popcorn and soda ???..Who needs???

    • A Real Nigerian

      June 17, 2017 at 12:02 pm

      Nobody wants your s%%t. Piss off and choke on your popcorn.

  8. A Real Nigerian

    June 17, 2017 at 12:05 pm

    Look at this stupid man. Lord. I can’t even with this guy.
    “Comfort is overrated” …of course, why won’t he say that? He is a wife beater and serial adulterer afterall.
    Nigerian men. Kai *spits*

    • Lol

      June 17, 2017 at 2:04 pm

      Men you are jobless. Really jobless. Capping for Tonto everywhere. That means you check this thing every 5mins, which means you’re jobless

  9. Kiwi

    June 17, 2017 at 12:08 pm

    I swear down, im coming bk to read comments

  10. MrsO

    June 17, 2017 at 12:29 pm

    Welcome to Nigeria where a men get a pass for beating up their wives to a pulp!
    Olakunle, would you still have mouth to talk if you had been persecuted for aggravated assault and battery? I don’t blame you at all.. ANIMAL.
    To those who call Tonto crazy, pray you don’t go through half the sh** she went through with this pig of a man. Karma is real.

    • Vivadrew

      June 17, 2017 at 1:31 pm

      Bless you jare

    • nene

      June 17, 2017 at 7:19 pm

      what shit did she go through? if you were there, please give us more info. tonto dikeh is bat shit crazy and she has always been like this. ask any nollywood actor.

  11. Lliki

    June 17, 2017 at 1:54 pm

    BN always moderating comments! Please, you guys should remove the comments section, no need for people to write comments that will not be posted.

    Corruption everywhere, BN smells of corruption.

  12. Brenda Alfred

    June 17, 2017 at 10:26 pm

    God bless u Mrs O. May what Tonto passed through & the after effect in the name of marriage never ‘visit’ u & ur loved ones in JESUS name.

    • LILO

      June 18, 2017 at 3:04 pm

      Yimu. Tonto is a crazy mentally deranged soul. This serves her right.

  13. Kentob

    June 19, 2017 at 1:21 am

    If really the both can’t handle this issue,I think it do exist in Nigeria where legal steps can be taken to foster atleast the road for the man to see his child and be part of his life ,as a father ,he has a double role to play .so if they seek for peaceful way to regularise their differences and is not near coming,then let the legal action be taken
    How can two big adults , societal pedigrees for that matter would eloquently​ be using social medias to attack or defend interests .enough of this drama for the sake of that little Innocent child.

  14. Evelyn

    June 19, 2017 at 9:05 am

    Please Bella deliver my massage to Churchill’s Instagram page.

    Mr Churchill, pls I beg… for the sake of your son that I know you adore so much, why cant you find it in your heart as a man and a father to put all behind you and get some of your elders to go with to Tonto’s family and seek for re-union with your wife? what happen happened for reason, no happy/successful marriage did not go through fire. and that’s what we call Good days & Bad days. Please my brother… this social media thing wont solve or bring any peace.

    I also appeal to you to make effort to go to Synagogue Church of all Nations with your wife (Tonto) for deliverance, I assure you it will be the beginning of peaceful and happiest marriage for both of you.

    Thank you.

  15. Titi

    June 21, 2017 at 2:04 pm

    Mr Kunle, please i want you to take control of this situation. You should be able to control your wife, i see you as a cool headed person, use your charms, charisma to get her to reason with you. Thank you.

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