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#DearYomi: A Case of Disrespect? This ACP Yomi Shogunle’s Tweet is Trending



This morning the Assistant Commissioner of Police in Lagos State, Abayomi Shogunle shared a tweet expressing his shock at someone who was born in 1992 sending him a DM addressing him as “Dear Yomi…

Twitter users have reacted stating that in a professional setting, people are addressed with their first names.

Read his tweet and some of the replies below:

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What are your thoughts?


  1. Glory

    August 10, 2017 at 3:32 pm

    There is nothing wrong in addressing on a first name basis. It is simply professional.
    We attach “tooooooo” much importance to titles.

    • Shalom

      August 10, 2017 at 8:45 pm

      This is simply not professional…What is professional is “Dear Mr. Shogunle”….You don’t shorten the name of someone you don’t know or someone who you have never met before. As a young girl, I don’t let people who are not close to me shorten my name…What the young man did is rude and grossly inappropriate. That is why we can’t move forward especially with our youths…Why won’t people complain about “No Jobs” when we can’t be professional. Its really a pity.

  2. a1111

    August 10, 2017 at 3:34 pm

    Yomi, Yomi, Yomi, Yomi, Yomi, Yomi…..isnt that your name? What exactly are we meant to call you. Mchewwww.

    • Ottawa Queen

      August 10, 2017 at 7:06 pm

      I dey wonder o. Maybe he is so used to “Sir” Lol.

  3. Asa

    August 10, 2017 at 3:34 pm

    I like the Game of Thrones greeting! Dear Yomi, First of his name, King of the Andals, Khal of the Great Grass Sea, Father of Dragons, Breaker of Chains, Protector of the Realm! I cannot stop laughing!

  4. horpsy

    August 10, 2017 at 3:39 pm

    most formal mails are addressed Dear Sir/Ma/Madam. You already know its a man, Dear Sir is the most appropriate. The person addressed is not a colleague nor a junior at work. Where he referring to his boss would he have used his first name.

    • Anon

      August 10, 2017 at 4:57 pm

      Yes agreed, but his issue is the person’s age, not that he was addressed incorrectly.

  5. keke driver

    August 10, 2017 at 3:40 pm

    The kinda things that bother people ehn? ………the guy was being professional….what’s with this “uncle and brother” ish sef

  6. Rrrrrrr

    August 10, 2017 at 3:53 pm

    Respect is not hard. When in doubt address appropriately, except otherwise stated but even then still be courteous and respectful

  7. Left Hand Bionic

    August 10, 2017 at 4:21 pm

    It’s not too hard to address someone you’re meeting for the first time with respect more so if the person is way older than you. In this case a “Mr” before his name would do, we shouldn’t allow modernisation to get in the way of our culture.

    • corolla

      August 10, 2017 at 4:28 pm

      …and “Mr” is not modernization? Abi your village people in 17 gbogboro were using “Mr”?

  8. lill

    August 10, 2017 at 4:25 pm

    All i see is Game of Throne lovers lmao. lord yomi

  9. Katrina

    August 10, 2017 at 4:37 pm

    O sumi o! They are not on first name basis, he’s neither your friend nor colleague, why address him by his first name.

  10. nonye

    August 10, 2017 at 5:04 pm

    If it wasn’t an informal message/mail that was sent then the proper way to address him should have been “Sir” or his official title or “Mr”. It really has nothing to do with his age. That’s ACP Shogunle missed it

    • droggo

      August 10, 2017 at 6:04 pm

      it is informal because it went down in the DM’s

  11. Tade Omowunmi

    August 10, 2017 at 5:12 pm

    Naija with their stupid mentality, what is bad in saying Dear Yomi. I work for one of the best bank in North America. We all call each other by first name, even the CEO. Abeg, oga police, your job is to protect pple not this kind of childish attitude. Mtcheeewwwww

    • chichy

      August 10, 2017 at 5:52 pm

      same with the bank i work with there is no sir or ma. ur first name does it

    • LemmeRant

      August 10, 2017 at 6:00 pm

      My Yoruba people, We too like respect.
      The one that vexes me is that you cannot call out someone older than you who’s obviously doing the wrong thing.- next thing you’ll hear is “that boy doesn’t have respect. Ko ni home training”


    • droggo

      August 10, 2017 at 6:03 pm

      issa yoruba thing! my people can die ontop title ehn

    • Olope

      August 11, 2017 at 3:30 am

      Ndo, Banker Tade. The fact that something is acceptable in one culture does not make it a universal standard. Focus. Respect is manifested in different forms in different societies, and none should be inferior to another just for being different. When in Rome, don’t act like you are in Lome. That’s why multinational companies and govt agencies in your North America train prospective foreign travelers brief their staff on the culture of their destinations.

    • Belema

      August 11, 2017 at 8:33 am

      If you like work for the best bank in the world or the White House, it doesn’t matter. Different companies with different rules. I used to live in Toronto and I’ve worked in PR, Management Consulting and IT, and all the companies I’ve worked, when sending emails to someone for the first time, or people in general, I use Mr. or Ms. Has nothing to do with Yoruba. Some companies it’s first name basis, some it’s not. When I also worked in The UK before moving to Naija (peope who’re quite conventional), it was the same. British people are particularly overly formal. A simple Mr. Would’ve been fine. Depending on the company you live in and work, you follow the policies. Nigerians will however say in this country, in that country; you’re in Nigeria! Every country with their own rules.

  12. M.Reloaded

    August 10, 2017 at 5:58 pm

    in my Opinion, the person who sent the dm was not in anyway wrong. I work in a corporate setting where everyone is addressed on first name basis. the moment you call someone Sir Or Ma,you could be fined for that. However for us to cast the stone at the person who sent the dm,we should see the full message in the dm so as to see if it had any iota of rudeness or disrespect.

    • droggo

      August 11, 2017 at 3:26 am

      I can almost guarantee you that it wasn’t rude because if it were, the man wld waste no time screen grabbing the entire message

    • Susan

      August 11, 2017 at 8:37 am

      You work in a company where it’s first name basis, are all companies like that? People need to be practical. I live and work in North America and different corporations with different rules. That you work in a company where you relate to people on a first name basic doesn’t mean you’ll go to another company where it’s different and do just like; just cause it’s different in your company. Try to be rational.

  13. sharon

    August 10, 2017 at 6:16 pm

    By the way, when you use “Mr”, you don’t use first names, Mr Shogunle, by the look of things, the sender wasn’t being formal, hence the use of first names. I don’t understand this craze for silly respect. Oga Shogunle please REST!!

    • droggo

      August 11, 2017 at 3:29 am

      thank you

  14. Josephine

    August 10, 2017 at 6:54 pm

    Smh at the stupid replies of people lying on the internet as if they can dare apply for a job and use the person’s first name without being asked to. Fakeness won’t kill you people. Meet your future mother in law and call her by her name because that’s what they do in North America. Simple courtesy and common sense dictates that you are formal at first before becoming familiar if invited to.

  15. Olori

    August 10, 2017 at 7:10 pm

    Nigerians (especially my dear Yoruba people) live and die by respect. Inyama. Who “Uncle” epp. What has Uncle benefitted us? Out of all the things it’s the fact that he addressed you without a gaddam prefix that is worrying you. Look guys, Nigeria ain’t gonna leave where we are if we do not leave these sentimental ramdom trivial shii tbh. My lecturer in the UK. Highly esteemed Professor of Management in the UK. Demanded us to call him by his first name, Jonathan like many other lecturers. That broke walls down and allowed us to feel free. It encouraged rapport. Nigerian fathers and mothers bring your high shoulders down. It’s not that deep. Respect can be 100% with or without Sir or Uncle or Mr. By the way you are not my parents’ sibling so kilode?

    • Abk

      August 11, 2017 at 1:49 pm

      You’re not even being rational. You called your Professor as Dr whatever and he said you should refer to him as his name, that’s fine. He PERMITTED you to do so. You can’t do that when you’re not permitted; otherwise it’s plainly lack of etiquette. Facts only. You guys are so mindless, it’s unreal. The same UK you’re talking about, I schooled in Warwick 5 years ago and had to address most my professors as Professor XYZ or Dr XYZ, it differs for countries, institutions and even individuals. If you know anything about courtesy you should then understand that formally, you have to let people tell you how they want to be addressed. It’s as simple as ABC, forget Yoruba this or that; many of you are ignorant, have zero etiquette and are unpractical. Some of you saying all these crap, they don’t born any of you well to call certain people by their first names, you guys won’t even dare try it so I’m not sure the reasonless comments I’m reading.

  16. mywifeisfiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiine

    August 10, 2017 at 7:23 pm

    i wanted to form western world until i remember say even here for Yankee we dey address popo as officer,officer xyz, detective and so on; and not just xyz. ACP Yomi has earned his title, when in doubt address him as ACP Yomi and not Yomi

  17. Symbee

    August 10, 2017 at 7:28 pm

    I think a ‘Dear Sir’ would have been appropriate. The funny thing is many of you throwing shades at him would have felt the same(maybe without a verbal or virtual expression) if someone much younger had addressed you the same way.

  18. Nahum

    August 10, 2017 at 8:35 pm

    Dear Mr. Yomi would have been perfectly fine. I am sorry but addressing someone by their first name when you have not even made your acquaintance is extremely rude. This is simple etiquette!!! Introduce yourself and let the person give you permission to address them in an informal manner. Etiquette rules 101

    • Cocolette

      August 11, 2017 at 5:40 am

      I’m surprised that all these people forming ‘Americana’ and ‘western world’ do not know that it is rude and inappropriate to address someone by their first name when they haven’t given you permission to do so…. fake boujee! Shior! What manner of nonsense familiarity is that?

  19. Kelechi

    August 10, 2017 at 10:52 pm

    That is why she is your mother in-law. In fact, you address her as mama, mummy, and whatever else makes her happy- You are supposed to butter your mother in-law up!!! same for aunties and uncles. In the world though, whether Yomi is older or not, he will be addressed by his first name. Let us also note that this is twitter and not an official email! How would you DM Oprah? Mark Zuckerberg? We are obsessed with overt displays of respect and it is NOT okay!

  20. Moyo

    August 11, 2017 at 9:49 am

    My take on this is that if someone has not given you the right to call him by his first name, you should not. It is simple courtesy, if it is allowed in your organisation does not mean you should carry the same attitude every where you go. He should be addressed as ACP Abayomi Shogunle or Mr Abayom Shogunle. I think etiquette should be taught in schools.

  21. Las

    August 11, 2017 at 10:09 am

    There are cultures around the world which demand/exhibit respect in addressing an elder or someone higher up in the hierarchy. In Japan, -san is used, in Turkey -bey, in India -ji. Why is it suddenly a problem here in Nigeria? I understand there are tribes in Nigeria where everyone is on first name basis, but there are also tribes where this is not the case. We should respect each other,

  22. Bola

    August 11, 2017 at 12:22 pm

    You people should better get real and quit saying gibberish, if you have etiquette, you won’t call anyone by their name who hasn’t given you the right to call them by their name, regardless of the corporation you’re in or country. I’ve come to realize that Nigerians are educated illiterates. I live and work in Canada and although where I work is a first name basis kind of company, no one calls the MD, or the Board of Directors by their first name(s). Also, when sending emails to people, I don’t call them by their first name until we’ve become “familiar”. Even when I go on official course assignments to other countries like Singapore, Belgium, UAE; it is formal; you’re not allowed to address certain people by their names. Nigerians can be irrational and unrealistic, some of you saying all these bs won’t even dare try what you’re advising or trying to portray normal. Nigeria has its own rules, likewise Canada, UK, etc. In fact, you’ll find out that different companies in a single country will have various policies so what are you all saying? This has nothing to do with Nigeria or tribe, but everything to do with etiquette and courtesy.
    That something can be done in America doesn’t mean it can be done in Nigeria, or vice versa. A lot of you NEED to be practical. Its such a shame that I’m not even surprised by these silly and absurd comments.


    August 11, 2017 at 1:25 pm

    Respect my ass. If you want respect resign from the Nigeria Police force. That guy who was born in 1992 after you enlisted in the Nigeria Police force is your boss if you don’t know. As a member of the Nigeria Police force. You work for the Nigeria people. We pay your salary. Hence, We get to call you by your first name you dig. Get that through your thick skull ACP Yomi Shogunle. A word is enough for the wise. I’m just saying.

    • CharlotteD

      August 12, 2017 at 11:05 pm

      Were you raised by wolves?

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