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Proof for Sexual Assault? Read the New York Times report on Busola Dakolo & the #MeToo Movement in Nigeria

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I was on a trip recently with a couple of Nigerians when the alleged rape of Bukola Dakolo by the pastor of the Commonwealth of Zion Assembly (COZA), Biodun Fatoyinbo, came up. The heat was switched on inside the bus but we were still cold, so we gave into conversation to help us forget.

“Abeg, no be rape,” a man at the back said. “If it was rape the first time, what about the second time? On the bonnet of the car?”

One of the only three ladies in the bus disagreed. “It can be rape,” she said. But the men protested. Their protests took different versions of maybe Busola had enjoyed it and decided to lie for fame, and she needed to provide proof of the assault.

This reaction – the need for proof of assault – seems to be a general one, as revealed in an article on the New York Times by Julie Turkewitz on the #MeToo movement in Nigeria.

Busola, speaking to the New York Times, revealed that the personal cost of coming out to tell her story has been high. “You begin to ask yourself,” she said, “did I do the right thing?” She shared that she’s been harassed on the internet, and has been threatened over the phone. She’s also had to have a very difficult conversation about rape with her three kids.

She spoke about the BBC #SexForGrades investigation, which she was although glad to see receive so much attention, also made her frustrated because Nigerians “seemed to need to see a man caught on video to take an allegation seriously.”

A woman who spoke to the New York Times about Busola’s alleged rape said that, “She was old enough to know to fight back.” The 25-year-old woman revealed that she too was a survivor of sexual assault.

Another man who spoke about the alleged rape seemed to believed that the rape actually happened, but asked that Busola forgive the pastor. “Forgive and forget. Is that not what God says?”

Read the full article on the New York Times.

Photo Credit: @busoladakolo

7 Comments

  1. Dimples

    November 3, 2019 at 4:46 am

    I will never blame a victim of rape. Sometimes when I read comments regarding rape. I am so disgusted with this country. Our mentality, the stupid things we type on our keyboard when we want to post online. Annoying thing is people say these words out loud as well

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  2. MICHAEL

    November 3, 2019 at 6:10 am

    Once a lady raise an allegation of rape, whether a man is guilty or not it will always be a mess in his life forever. But truthfully, I think the biggest challenge is that we genderlise this issue to make one sex look like the culprit and another ‘the victim’.

    Its time for everyone to see it and fight it as one. When a woman sexually harassed a man, its call names like seduction, attraction and all sorts.

    Let kiss goodbye to double standards and fight sexual harassment from all angles.

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  3. Chychy

    November 3, 2019 at 4:56 pm

    New York Times is one of the fakest/satanic Newspapers in the US second to the Washington Post, especially where the things of Christianity, God and Jesus Christ are concerned. They hate everything God and especially Christians, and they are flag bearers of those institutions pushing the US towards atheism. For this Newspaper to take up this story, I now seriously doubt the whole authenticity of Busola’s story. This is must be a Satanic agenda to destroy this Pastor and his church, and another effort to smear Christianity. I don’t know who this Pastor is but good Christians should pray for him and his family.

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    • Cj

      November 4, 2019 at 7:59 am

      Hope they don’t rape anyone close to you so they don’t get called devils accomplice by you…

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    • Jaya

      November 5, 2019 at 4:29 pm

      chychy please leave Christianity out of it. Let God fight for The church! Are you God????. I’m a follower of Christ and also have a conscience. Which a lot of “Christians” lack. Please enough of your propaganda. My prayer is that may your daughters never experience such. Cos if you were in her shoes you wouldn’t be writing this nonsense.

  4. Dora

    November 4, 2019 at 9:53 pm

    @ chychy- a bit of an un-intelligent post there. Can’t God use the so called satanic platform to bring glory to His name or expose evil? He is God and can’t be limited. He can do whatever He wants!
    You sound like a Coza member if I must be honest. Probably why they are able to decieve you. Use your brain a little bit more. Cheers. X

  5. Jinx

    November 6, 2019 at 11:23 am

    I’m sorry o, but is this supposed to be an article? There is no discussion, no analysis, no nothing. Its so very lazy, please do better

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