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BN Bytes: Household of God Pastor Kris Okotie & Stephanie Henshaw Announce Surprise Split



On the 7th and 8th of August 2008, former musician, popular pastor and presidential candidate, Reverend Kris Okotie married Stephanie Henshaw. The wedding was a beautiful celebration of the couple who had both been previously married – Click HERE to view Photos from BN’s Exclusive Feature.

Reverend Kris had been divorced from his first wife for over a decade while Stephanie was a widow. The church which he leads, Household of God, welcomed their leader’s new bride and though she did not have a formal role within the church (as a pastor or choir leader as many Nigerian pastors wives take on), Stephanie was well-loved by the congregation.

Therefore, when Pastor Kris announced on Sunday, 23rd of June 2012 that “Stephanie and I are no longer married. We have separated. You can see she’s not in church today. It’s due to irreconcilable differences…you should please respect our wishes at this time because there is no going back.“, it caused a great deal of confusion and discussion.

No additional details have been released on the specific cause of the split. Regardless of the Reverend Okotie’s statement, we hope they can work it out.


  1. lanny

    June 25, 2012 at 11:13 am

    OMG! *no words*

    • my 2 cents

      June 25, 2012 at 2:24 pm

      Exactly! He should have listened to grenade song by Bruno Mars!
      ♫♪♫ should had known from the 1st kiss had your eyes wide open, why were they open???♫♪♫

    • Lolo

      June 25, 2012 at 6:05 pm


    • Turayo

      June 25, 2012 at 10:37 pm

      LMAOOOO oh I love Bella Naija comments

  2. ejogene

    June 25, 2012 at 11:13 am

    God please not again!

  3. ugbaby

    June 25, 2012 at 11:13 am

    odiegwu!!! looooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooool! i cnt stop laughing, seriously! these people wont kill us! lol

  4. ojay

    June 25, 2012 at 11:14 am

    am shocked. they looked so happy together, what could have gone wrong?

    • Gimmer

      June 25, 2012 at 4:27 pm

      and that’s the problem. the look. yes the look is always why some of us miss the forest for the tree. “the look” is why people never seek true love and companionship

    • Purpleicious Babe

      June 26, 2012 at 11:18 pm

  5. rita

    June 25, 2012 at 11:15 am

    Na wah!

  6. missus

    June 25, 2012 at 11:17 am

    their lives…their decisions…their way…their problem

    • Denny

      June 25, 2012 at 1:00 pm

      Agreed to some extent but these people are in positions of authority over their church members. Pastors are supposed to lead by example. I’m personally fed up of men and women of God getting divorced up and down. What hope do the rest of us have if these very people cant fight for the sanctity of marraige. Asin, just stop being a pastor then! Cos you can be preaching God’s word up and down (making a career out of it) if you wont practice what you preach!! How can this type of man give marital counselling in the future???

      I just hate the way the body of Christ have just become a joke in naija, honestly. It actually makes me sick. These people are making a mockery of God’s word.

      I appreciate that marraige is hard o (trust me, I’m married!) and its not our place to judge people with marital issues but Pastors are held to a higher standard for the very reason that they are men of God leading by example.

      I tire mehn.

    • MAMA PUT

      June 25, 2012 at 3:22 pm

      Thank you ma’am. true talk

    • ao

      June 26, 2012 at 1:16 am

      @ Denny,

      That is why I don’t put my FAITH in so-called man or woman of GOD.

    • Purpleicious Babe

      June 26, 2012 at 11:53 pm

      am sorry I need to clarify some things: what did JESUS say ” work out your own salvation with fear and trembling” carry your cross and follow me”(soo why are u looking up to Pastor, JESUS should be your main motivator). Matt 7:15 “Beware of false men that appear in sheep clothing but inside they are dash dash”(u are welcome to complete the rest). Matt 7: 16″test every fruits” Matt 7:21 “on that day many will say “lord lord but we cast out demons in your name and I will say depart from you who practice lawlessness”. Mark 10:27 Jesus said with men its “impossible but with God all things are possible” (smh @ irreconcilable differences, what, that sentence is soo rinsed out). Paul writes, “Husband love your wife just as Christ loves the church, wife respect your husbands”(Eph 5:25 so simple but so difficult to accomplish)…. I am not surprised, why: u see marriage is a big deal and most pple dont get it and probably never will. so on that note, am gona say do u know the amount pastors that are struggling in their marriage and saving face(patching stuff)?? Nope. just so u know there are some are marriages that are dead and this just happens to be in the news… sooooo

      Can I just say they are PASTORS and they are PASTORS and for some I have a degree of expectations even though (i dont put my trust in princes) and for some u guessed right, I dont have any expectations soo whatever they do make them do ..hmm ok..

      smh at us that look up to mere mortals like us. PASTORS are HUMANS technically they are suppose to LEAD THE CHURCH and show by examples. But am sorry am sorry (in Will I AM. accent), since when did PASTORS become immortal and do no wrong?..

      There is something I always say our salvation and path is ours and ours only we will give account of ours so why LOOK up to MEN that do not know themselves.. to an extent I agree to their position but in reality, I think differently.

      I say and I agree with the book of Ecclesiastes(one of my fav book in the bible) (paraphrasing)” FOR ALL IS VANITY, THERE IS NOTHING NEW UNDER THE SUN”. “naked you came,naked you will return”. VANITY UPON VANITY ALL IS VANITTTYYY..

      Wisdom and application is what is lacked in our society and lives.. kmt..

      afterward pple will say seek JESUS face about your partner??? u beraa know the devil can also pretend ohh.. JESUS- TEST THEIR FRUITS. How can u test the fruits of the holyspirit if you aint got none?? One more thing, this could as well be a test for both parties so ermm.. yeah and on that note am done…

      P.S. Pls if you want the verses, just highlight and search on google…

  7. Sandra

    June 25, 2012 at 11:27 am

    humm am just speachless what could be irreconcilable between the two of them? can’t just put my self together it’s shocking….

    • yimika

      July 26, 2012 at 4:02 pm

      The two should never have married each other in the first place. Pastor should go back to his first wife and Steph gets married to another man who has not married before or has lost the wife. That is d biblical principle.

  8. omoyeni hope

    June 25, 2012 at 11:30 am

    So can’t pastor as he is called use bible d inspired word of God to amend his marriage..Na wa oo..Anyway na der prob

  9. i no send

    June 25, 2012 at 11:35 am

    @ missus……..Gbam…. i couldn’t have put it better..

  10. cathy

    June 25, 2012 at 11:37 am


  11. Me

    June 25, 2012 at 11:38 am

    It is always sad to see a marriage break-up. If they do follow the Bible which they preach, they wouldn’t find themselves in such positions. A divorcee per the Bible should stay unmarried else he/she commits adultery. Kwelle Oga pastor, Kwelle ma Sister. Follow the Bible God loves us!!

  12. ucl

    June 25, 2012 at 11:46 am

    Na wa o.again

  13. JoJo

    June 25, 2012 at 11:51 am

    Infidelity and money caused this, nothing more!!

    • Partyrider

      June 25, 2012 at 12:28 pm


  14. onyeka

    June 25, 2012 at 11:55 am

    It’s insult to GOD and to marriage to hear such a ting from a man how call him self a pastor there did not know what marriage at the fist peals and there still have time to recon sing.

  15. James Ola Orugun

    June 25, 2012 at 12:03 pm

    The devil has attacked another home

  16. sammy

    June 25, 2012 at 12:11 pm

    Pastor kris is a disgrace 2d xtian community… No matter wat happens, men of God shuld be gud examples 2 dia wards…. PROPHETS OF END TIME… from politics 2 immoralities…. U’ve a lot of questn 2 ansa in God’s presence… Tufiakwa!

  17. Traditionalbay

    June 25, 2012 at 12:13 pm

    yes another home is broken!…and hearts are bleeding!

  18. Aj

    June 25, 2012 at 12:13 pm

    Matters of d heart, like love & marriage, are usually difficult for those not directly involved to understand! Good luck to them jare.

  19. Xeextwax

    June 25, 2012 at 12:18 pm

    The foundation of the marriage have been faulty from the start. I’m not suprise but seriously pastor chris politically and maritally has caused the church serious emberrasement.

  20. MAMA PUT

    June 25, 2012 at 12:23 pm

    This is sad to hear, though i don’t know much about them, I only wish they could sort it out! It’s their choice i know, but as Christians and as leaders, we should be the salt and the light of the world and stick to the vows and covenants we made before God. Rev Chris, I’ll be praying for you. I pray you sort it out please.

  21. Brainworld

    June 25, 2012 at 12:27 pm

    If a doctor cant diagnose d cause of simple malaria wen der r mosquitoes around, I wonder if he can carry a test on HIV!
    Pls, stop bringin disgrace to our heavenly kgdom Pastor Okotie!

  22. Kike

    June 25, 2012 at 12:42 pm

    People like you are the reason why christians are mocked! Bad leader, bad example! #smh# for u kris.

  23. Pearl

    June 25, 2012 at 12:49 pm

    It is well with you two. But note “all things are lawful but not all things a expidient”

  24. Lue

    June 25, 2012 at 12:53 pm

    dont even know what to say
    their lives, their choice, their decision. …….. wish them what they wish themselves

  25. abby

    June 25, 2012 at 1:02 pm

    kris okotie is f- up..he wants to drag him and his followers to hell abi? can u kindly remove that title reverend from ur name and step down from that pulpit? cos u nt worthy of such …u knw GOD hates divorce nd we all didnt raise an eyeball when u announced ur initial divorce…nao a second 1?wat du u want us d youths to emulate?huh? u should b ashamed of urself and d fact that u cnt handle an institution cald marriage…hw then do you want us to bliv in you and put a large nation lyk nigeria in ur kia!!! u would jst go blank!!! anawayzz nah ur own headache b dat…we jst tired of ur jumpin in and out of marriage…if u cnt handle it then stay out of it!!! bt one thing am sure of…even if it sounds judgemental…is that d spirit of the lord is definitely nt leading you..shikena!!!!!!!!!!

  26. Pastor Rex Ajenifuja

    June 25, 2012 at 1:11 pm

    I am a Pastor with RCCG and going by RCCG standard, Pastor Christ should not have marry Stephinie because it is ONLY the first Marriage that stands!!!! The case with Pastor Itua as example.
    However, we all should pray for the gift of God in the life of Pastor Christ, as he been used to blessed and raised souls to the kingdome…. the prayer should be extended to others who are face with similar challenge too. May the good Lord bless our marriages.

    • NanyVaughn

      June 25, 2012 at 1:52 pm

      How about going by God’s Standards instead of Human standards.

    • Debo

      June 25, 2012 at 2:31 pm

      It isn’t RCCG standard. Even in the Bible, a man isn’t allowed to re-marry and a woman too except the spouse is dead. Other churches too don’t allow such. Pastor Ituah’s own just became an issue because he is a popular Pastor.

    • Naveah

      June 25, 2012 at 2:37 pm

      So in other words, you believe that Pastor Chris Okotie should have remained single after his initial divorce until the rest of his life? The man thought he found everlasting love in Stephanie Henshaw but alas it wasn’t to be…could they have fought harder to save the marriage, probably but we don’t know what caused the marriage to come to an end. Listen, I am not a fan of divorce unless there is an insurmountable amount of infidelity and/or physical/verbal/sexual/emotional abuse happening in the relationship. Pastor Chris and his wives are the only ones who know why the marriages came to a screeching halt, the man is a HUMAN being, he is not CHRIST and so the best he can do is live HIS life the best way he can by the Grace of God who is the ONLY person allowed to judge him. Yes, Pastors should lead by example but ultimately, the example Christians should follow is Christ Jesus!

    • April

      June 25, 2012 at 2:51 pm

      Rccg standards ke!imagin a pastor saying dis. Gods law sets a standard for marriages which every who claims to b christain should follow.God says tje only ground for divoiced if alduratory any other excuse u are on ya own oh. People should remenber that at endtyms false prophets will arise calling on Gods name and even performing miravle in his name. So shine ur eye well well b4 going 2anychurch. By their fruits you shall know dem. no twist bible upside dwn 2fancy your own ear. Study it like u r studying 4 a major exam its not hard 2 learn. So that pple wont decieve u again. Una pele oh

      A j

    • Ngozi

      June 25, 2012 at 3:26 pm

      Forgive me Pastor but I just have to…… Gbagaun! Chei! Point noted sha but na wa pastor, Gbagaun! Bless you 🙂

    • person pikin

      June 26, 2012 at 2:11 pm

      I saw it too oh….
      Loool…u r just naughty!!!

    • Partyrider

      June 25, 2012 at 9:47 pm

      What do you mean by “going by RCCG standard” ? Do you guys have your own bible,or are your teachings different from what’s in the bible? I can’t even believe you will make such a statement. Every Christian’s standrard should be the bible simple and short. Not what a pastor preaches or what a church decides to make right or wrong.. I’m disgusted.

    • adah

      June 28, 2012 at 10:14 pm

      Pastor Rex,I assume this standard of yours does not apply to RCCG pastors in the UK as i have met one who is happily remarried while is ex wife is still alive and kicking

  27. morris PH

    June 25, 2012 at 1:20 pm

    U are a disgrace to christemdom pastor kris.U are not worth calling a shepherd.May God deliver u kris

  28. nigermerica

    June 25, 2012 at 1:22 pm

    pastor Chris, please i need your help; my wife and i are having some mis-understanding.
    Please what shall i do? (help its urgent!)

  29. Empress

    June 25, 2012 at 1:30 pm

    Wat if d wife opted 2 back out without looking backwards??? Or is dat not possible?? Lets learn 2 allow pple live their lives d way d wish…… Pastor or no pastor, we are all humans… Pple ain’t meant 2 stay in a relationship and suffer all in d name of wat pple will say if u split…… Life goes on peeps, its our personal belongings!


    June 25, 2012 at 1:30 pm

    it really dis heartening to see how the devil is working so hard to make mockery of Gods word in d life of Gods people and we are not paying attention.especially our spiritual leaders.cant they see and fight back,what do they have to tell the younger generation.that they have fought a good fight of faith?NO they are not leading well.this is CHRIST is still the ultimate role model.

  31. oyinkansola

    June 25, 2012 at 1:31 pm

    am not surprised……1 of the prophet of end times.hissssssssssss


    June 25, 2012 at 1:35 pm

    however i think it time for the church to arise and pray,for our leaders,they are at d war front,and we as brethren should left them up in prayers for the lord to strengthen them and help them to stand.

  33. Sassy

    June 25, 2012 at 1:38 pm

    How to identify religious bigots – They see men as ‘gods’! If you ‘ve got a brain or mind kindly use it and stop looking at Pastors for directions or guidance. For with all the religious brouhaha of Nigeria, we are still at the bottom where other nations are concern. Pastors have done and will do nothing for you or this country, that’s why Jesus and not the Apostles died. Seek God and emulate Jesus, whether uncle G.O or mother pope, neither, i repeat neither can save you. Only Jesus can, so keep your eyes on the cross and not on man. Jeez!!!

    • L.A Chick

      June 26, 2012 at 5:12 am

      i like dis talk o… Only He who died on the cross can save us… True talk

  34. Tee

    June 25, 2012 at 1:55 pm

    Is it RCCG standard that matters in the scheme of things or God’s standard? Pastor, I know God hates divorce so pls say that and that turn RCCG doctrines to the gospel.

  35. QueenofEverything

    June 25, 2012 at 2:02 pm

    the Bible says that God hates divorce, from when a Pastor that is supposed to truly love God now does something God hates, I start asking questions.
    it is just a bad example and brings shame to the faith I and other God-loving Christians profess.
    you sing God is bigger than all your problems and then allow divorce to happen and cite “irreconilable differences” – God is watching you.

  36. pastor dele ajewole

    June 25, 2012 at 2:03 pm

    Pastor Chris bye bye to marriage forever please.

    • L.A Chick

      June 26, 2012 at 5:13 am


  37. OG

    June 25, 2012 at 2:17 pm

    Whether u married d second wife or not u are still living in adulterous life, what a disgrace, my fellow Christian is now u should know what bible says about the end time joge by urself who is real or fake pastor cus bible condemn divos. Sorry for de people dat are still going to his church. Ur pastor don see fine girl go marry has 4gotten dat all dat glitters is not gold

  38. Mel

    June 25, 2012 at 2:19 pm

    Judge not and ye shall not be judged. i think this copy cat (western) kind of lifestyle is really hitting hard on our culture and the Bible. Anyway na there own headache b dat… It’s only the doers of the word that are justified. So please do, live and practice the word that is all that is required of the Christ-like life we preach and strive to live daily. God help Us.

    • Gimmer

      June 25, 2012 at 4:28 pm

      i am so darn tired of this judge not cliche! geez!

  39. Jess

    June 25, 2012 at 2:30 pm

    Lol sorry but this man is not a Pastor. Not just because of this but so many things. Why he still has a “congregation” is beyond me.

  40. social

    June 25, 2012 at 2:32 pm

    when you de – am for almost 4 yrs u no talk of irreconcileable factors.some years ago you de abuse tb joshua dt eno be man of God, just lk at ur self, u na wetin u be wt ur strange teachings n life style

  41. Tima

    June 25, 2012 at 4:38 pm

    May the Good lord have mercy, please do not judge as you don’t know how the enemy hate the insitution called marriage , because this is what God has ordained.If christ is not the center in our marriage ,believe me it cannot last.Only christ last .So my fellow brothers and sisters please let take only christ as our role model and life not any human beings ,if not you will always be disappointed because human beings are flesh full of sin.

  42. Bukunmi

    June 25, 2012 at 4:56 pm

    i think its their choice, realy its very sad. Only God knows wat went wrong, pastors are human being as well and not God.

  43. alicia

    June 25, 2012 at 5:27 pm

    i ve always said she looks like the lead character in olu maintan’s song, am sorry though but he should ve juz remained single rather than putting on dis charade

  44. bundle

    June 25, 2012 at 5:29 pm

    @my two cents, you just killed me…….LWKMD, yeah he really should have listened to Bruno Mars….

  45. christy

    June 25, 2012 at 6:07 pm

    He might be considering of taken his first WIFE,so as to save himself from sin,why are you guys quick to conclude,SIN is SIN! @ Gimmer why are you always against pastor marrying fine wife,why conclude it the woman fault,it either u re ugly if you are a girl,or you have ugly girlfriend if you are a guy.Not all fine gals has bad atitude

  46. wums

    June 25, 2012 at 6:23 pm

    Any pastor with jerry curl hair….please beware. Why is nobody talking about impotency here that’s a major cause of break ups these days and many xtains hide under this and do not disclose to their spouses believing they wld stick with it by faith….plssssS. Other than that I see why not a pastor can’t keep his home togther if I were in his church I would leave this is a bad example.

  47. Me2me

    June 25, 2012 at 6:32 pm

    Beware of false prophets, and here is 1. God does turn people around because he wants to use them for great wonders, but all biblical readings never had some1 who disgraced God. I might be wrong

    Please lets open our eyes

  48. chioma

    June 25, 2012 at 6:46 pm

    Some people suffer frm spiritual wife or husband, they cause people to marry and remarry. U can be happy wit ur wife that’s if u sucessful. Pastor or no pastor is the spirit that’s bothers people,it causes love today hate tomorrow. I suffered from before it can never tell u have until u start to pray about it then ur dream changes. The buttom line is u find fault in ur wife or husband. Don’t judge until understand that some things people do are not done wit open eye

  49. Irriti

    June 25, 2012 at 6:53 pm

    Isn’t this the pastor that sharply criticizes T.B. Joshua, hindering people from going to that servant of God to get their deliverance? Now, compare his life with that of T.B. Joshua that he criticizes with every opportunity he gets. By their fruits you shall know them indeed.
    Even looking at his wedding pictures above with big red traditional “mami water” beads around their necks, will tell you this man does not have it together as a pastor(most of these traditional marriages are demonic if you ask me), I am truly sorry for the people that go to his “church” and what they learn, if anything.
    Besides, you will also know that this dude is insufferably arrogant, just read his statement above, “Blablabla….you should please respect our wishes at this time because there is no going back”! What does he mean there is no going back? To me that means he does not have any intention of forgiving or giving the marriage a second chance come rain or high water.
    Abeg, my sympathy lies with the Stephanie lady, for wasting her time with this guy instead of waiting for the right man to come along, as widow she had every right to re-marry if she chooses, no ol’boi don spoil am finish.
    This Pastor Chris, or is it now “Kris” – haba, he has even changed his name to make it sound more “seksi”. The guys is not serious…I DO NOT REALLY THINK THIS PASTOR IS BORN AGAIN, I will advice him and the other playboy pastors out there to really search their walk with God and see if they are really there to serve the Lord Jesus Christ or to serve their own bellies and enrich themselves…nuff said.

  50. madman

    June 25, 2012 at 6:58 pm

    Dear Pastor Chris, marry and divorce as many times as you like. Don’t mind Nigerians with their judgmental behavior. You Only have ONE LIFE to Live and you cannot and should NoT live it in sorrow or pain. Move it!!!

  51. madman

    June 25, 2012 at 7:00 pm

    its like my friend who married an impotent man and by “looking” at the relationship – it looked good and everyone told them they “looked” perfect but you CANNOT live your life because of how other people feel – or how they think you “look.” It is the most sorrowful way to live. I encouraged her to divorce him and she’s dating again.

    • Purpleicious Babe

      June 27, 2012 at 12:07 am

      ok… u really do have to stop with this impotent nonsense. what century do we live on?? are u kidding me? pple have issues with every areas of their lives they seek medical help?. If a dude is suffering from ejaculation issues he should see a doc or a Chinese herbalist they are pretty good with herbal stuff. Abeg its not impotence that will make u leave a marriage??. Do u know pple get married and their partners suffer crisis that makes them physically unable to engage in sexual stuff.. u do realise that staying with them is a bigger commitment abii?



  52. Adedaramola Badejo

    June 25, 2012 at 7:53 pm

    we al should begin to look beyond and see that the devil is working in mysterious ways and the end times are so so near. why will “a man of GOD”…..stand and announce and say so….we all should stand and pray for the body of christ as this mishaps are beginning to tanish the image of the ONE CHURCH….i personally do not think it is time to discriminate or laugh, i think its time to GET UP, WATCH AND PRAY…. this absolutely has nothing to do with okotie at all….we all need to get up and pray.cos this world is turning into a mockery.

  53. i no send

    June 25, 2012 at 8:52 pm

    pastor rex i think your belief is in church doctrines not bible doctrine..and this is the same with a lot of nigerians…im shocked that as a pastor you had to mention ituahs name in this …this was uncalled for bcos you may not know the real issues behind his case… you should rethink your ideology sir

    • NanyVaughn

      June 25, 2012 at 9:18 pm

      God bless you for this comment. That’s the same thing I was thinking.

  54. MissKhadiva

    June 25, 2012 at 8:58 pm

    He is human…people Idolize pastors too much and forget they are just like us. Leave the poor man alone, I bet he’s going through a lot right now.

  55. Concerned Citizen

    June 25, 2012 at 10:01 pm

    This is why I love being a Muslim, even though I am not religious, I am still happy cos the Quran makes provision for divorce, its practically impossible to revive a marriage that is just not working, both parties will end up sad, miserable and grumpy and might even lead to worse things, Marriage sometimes starts good and people might get fed up or discover things they can’t cope with, ask yourself if you would rather stay in a sad, unhappy marriage just because you don’t want tongues to wag, but the Quran provides for divorce only as a last resort, but at least you are free to remarry and not live in sin, assuming a 28yr old lady gets divorced is that the end? will she condemn her self to a life of spinsterhood just because she married the wrong person. My dear Christian brothers and sisters wake up and smell d coffee, divorce is here to stay, pastor or no pastor, do not be quick to judge.

    • figo

      June 26, 2012 at 7:50 am

      The bible makes room for divorce, these fools are super ignorant.

    • Just saying,

      June 26, 2012 at 10:04 am

      abegiiiii Islam is a man made religion! Religion that promises men 72 virgins to do as they please with day in and day out but the women only get to stare at God’s face. Sexism at its best. This style of thinking has men taking lives for kobos less than a naira.
      Everything sinful in this life is here to stay. It is all by the grace of God that we overcome EACH sin. Marriage is a sacred union and not one that should be entered in and out as one pleases. This is why it is advised you seek the face of God diligently before proceeding. We marry to fulfill God’s will and not our own.
      in fact! I am convinced this kris guy is an undercover muslim..LWKMD OOO!!! I am joking o. I think he should step down as a pastor sha. He needs to be pastored and not pastoring.
      My dear muslim sisters and brothers, wake up from your slumber and hearken to the voice of God through Jesus Christ, sin is here to stay, pastor or no pastor, but know that Christianity is all about killing the flesh NOT feeding it.

    • Purpleicious Babe

      June 27, 2012 at 12:10 am

      makes a lot of massive sense….

  56. L.A Chick

    June 26, 2012 at 2:32 am

    “It’s due to irreconcilable differences…” Nawa 4 u o Oga pastor, meh una pray Baba God harder na, e go reconcile you people… Mathew 7:7 ” Ask, and it will be given to you” Shebi u be pastor, u suppose know da one!!! Pray harder to save your marriage, God will surely listen to you because He never disappoints!!!

  57. John Oladele Williams

    June 26, 2012 at 7:41 am

    PASTOR CHRIS IS NOT GENUINE! All of you have missed the point. This is a man who so casually said God told him to marry this lady. This is the third time Pastor Chris has so liberally claimed that God told him something. First it was that God told him to run for President. The bible clearly states that we should not make such claims. God was particularly angry when many people were claiming to have spoken to them when he didn’t. It so infuriated him. Now we have a supposed pastor who has made such a claim three times. What this does is that it makes a mockery of God. And God can never be mocked. It appears that when Chris Okotie wants to satisfy his whims, he conveniently claims God spoke to him. This is dangerous! it is now clear he spoke to himself.

  58. chuchusweets

    June 26, 2012 at 8:43 am

    Even if yes they are having problems like most Marriages do…His statement in the Church is just cold and Mean (there is no going back.“,)…good luck to his church members cos as most of these Pentecostals do it..DIVORCE SHALL Soon become the ONLY WAY TO GO.. hehehe

  59. Nomy

    June 26, 2012 at 9:48 am

    What is wrong is wrong. Paster Chris you have fallen hand twice and you are misleading your flock. All false prophets and priests who do not adhere to the teaching of Christ will be Judged. Remember Judgement starts from the household of God.

  60. Debs

    June 26, 2012 at 9:49 am

    Seriously…Why is no one mentioning impotency as a possible factor here. Alot of christain’s home are breaking up because partners dont tell each of their real past including sexual history. I almost fell for the trap under the guise of christainity but had to shine my eye and broke off the engt. Here I was happy the guy was’nt disturbing me for sex but at the same time the urge should be there now so I got suspicious and told my aunty who felt that wasnt normal in a year the guy wouldnt one day even try too or at least show the signs. I also know a friend who at 35 years desperately fell for such man and after 4 years and only having able to almost have sex once the rlationship packed up. She was even too ashamed to ask for divorce so the guy had to have her go. My moral of the story is shine your eyes and investigate well well before you are blinded by the guise of christainity and some materialism thrown around to decieve by both bro’s and sis. My pastor would say the Devil goes to church too. gbam

    • L.A Chick

      June 26, 2012 at 2:47 pm

      My dear, what you just stated only supports what some people are saying: Pastor Chris Okotie is not a genuine man of God. if e no seh impotency dey worry am, why then e dey lure women into marrying him? e suppose take care of dis impotency matta first before even thinking about marriage!!!
      Romans 4:19-25 (The Message)
      19 Abraham didn’t focus on his own impotence and say, “It’s hopeless. This hundred-year-old body could never father a child.” Nor did he survey Sarah’s decades of infertility and give up. 20 He didn’t tiptoe around God’s promise asking cautiously skeptical questions. He plunged into the promise and came up strong, ready for God, 21 sure that God would make good on what he had said. 22 That’s why it is said, “Abraham was declared fit before God by trusting God to set him right.” 23 But it’s not just Abraham; 24 it’s also us! The same thing gets said about us when we embrace and believe the One who brought Jesus to life when the conditions were equally hopeless. 25 The sacrificed Jesus made us fit for God, set us right with God.

  61. Seun

    June 26, 2012 at 10:29 am

    Strange, Chris Okotie’s church is actually called Household of God yet he is openly, blatantly and unapoologetically misbehaving as if God is not in his household. What a shame.

    Anybody with any form of a brain shouldnt be in his church coz he is clearly a bad leader who doesnt care about living by example. I would NEVER follow such a shepherd.

    I aint judging him but I’m very very disappointed in him. He’s giving other xtians a bad name.

    Anyway, if Jonathan cld rename Unilag to Malu, I HEREBY RENAME HIS CHURCH HOUSEHOLD OF DIVORCE

  62. Seun

    June 26, 2012 at 10:32 am

    tnx for being such a bad example Chris Okotie. Thats why u’ll never bcom President. U cant even rule yourself, not to talk of a nation. Abanilorukoje

  63. concern

    June 26, 2012 at 10:40 am

    this is the third time ur God is asking u to do something,( contesting election and getting married to steph) and all this time u fail so pls who is dat ur God that keep failing u? i wil like to know him and ask him y is such a failure, he cant even pity u to succeed for once, pls go back to hip hop and stop disgracing the body of christ.

  64. ij

    June 26, 2012 at 3:04 pm

    why all the fuss, he is a man first, then a pastor, we do not know what has caused the breakdown of this marriage , but i’m sure that they must have tried to patch things before coming to this very difficult conclusion.They have done what they think is best for them simple. NEXT PLEASE

    • DontJudge

      June 27, 2012 at 3:46 am

      My goodness, so people are still this naïve and jobless? Sit right here and condemn a man of God? Who made you a judge over this people? And what makes you think your opinions count? Seriously, even pastors here, are also talkin trash! In the first place, why should you want 2 live Ur life by an example from a man, instead of the bible? I shake my head for those of you saying things that could come back to you.this is a man of God, who prolly is havin challenges, maritally. Instead of prayin 4 him, U sit here and say trash. What if it was from the woman’s side? Just what if? So because he wants 2 please ur likes, he shuld stayput,right? And woe unto the men of God here, writing trash God, aren’t U guys also supposed to be an example, if that be the case? As for pastor chris okotie, may God see you thru,pastor. You will overcome. I pray for you! You are a great man. It is well.

  65. Lulu

    June 26, 2012 at 11:13 pm

    He’s a failure…..I hope his folowers will open their eyes and see the deceit. Yes, the bible allows for divorce on the ground of adultery, but its not mandatory to divorce your mate even on the ground of adultery. There’s something called *forgiveness* If a so called pastor cannot put his household together, then something is wrong….Shame! Shame! Shame!

  66. flychick

    June 27, 2012 at 12:13 am

    by their fruits ye shall know them…

  67. DontJudge

    June 27, 2012 at 3:27 am

    My goodness, how would people, so called knowledgeable people, sit here, and castigate people? Exactly when, has any of U become So perfect as to cast stones? Some pastors here, too. Saying rubbish about a fellow pastor. Some of you open your godamn mouths to heap names, blames and abuses on a man of God. Are U supposed 2 live by a man, or by the word of God? Btw, how many of U know prolly, it could be d lady’s fault, eventhough he may have tried. Gosh! Some Nigerians always so quick 2 say trash about someone else. Be the change you want to see. Woe unto some certain pastors here saying rubbish! Now U want example, why don’t U lay a good one? As for pastor kris okotie, may God see you thru this marital challenge of your life. It is well with you,sir.

  68. NanyVaughn

    June 27, 2012 at 2:43 pm

    Let me start by saying that ” Let he that is without sin cast the first stone”. No one knows the details or the nitty gritty of what let to that decision. Nobody (Pastor, Reverend, Evangelist or Pope) is above/beyond having struggles or being attacked by the devil. This is what happens when you idolize pastors. Being a pastor/reverend doesn’t automatically make your life perfect, pure and free from sin/struggles. Yes he should be held accountable for his decisions but he doesn’t owe any of you explanations of what happened; the details is between him, his wife and God. I applaud Pastor Chris Okotie for coming out to show he has a weak point and struggles. It takes courage for any Pastor especially in a place like Nigeria to show that they go through struggles. Everyone expects the Pastors life to be all rosy, pure and perfect. The journey of a Christian is not a smooth/perfect road; you go through struggles and overcome them. The struggles makes you a stronger person; it also makes you realize that you are not immortal or invincible. Pastors are human beings and they do depend on God. The same Pastors, People or Reverend coming here to judge or going on the pulpit to blast people; they go back home and physically, emotionally and sexually abuse their wife and kids. Some of them even enslave their wives. They go outside saying “it is well, it is well”, like as if everything is perfect in their home. Meanwhile their house is hell, the woman will stay in the marriage or should I say Bondage with the hopes of protecting her husbands post as a Pastor. If you are not perfect, totally free from sin, struggles, weakness, pain — Zip your mouth because none of you are immortal. Instead of letting thrash ooze out from your mouth, Pray for him and his family. That is what they need most at this time.

  69. 2blunt

    June 27, 2012 at 6:11 pm

    hmmmmmm, God, i look up to u!

  70. Me

    June 28, 2012 at 11:24 am

    It is not us who say he should have remained unmarried, it is the Bible. Mark 10:11-12 [Jesus] answered, “Anyone who divorces his wife and marries another woman commits adultery against her. And if she divorces her husband and marries another man, she commits adultery”. The Bible is the main “tool” for his work if he calls himself a pastor. If he goes against it what does it prove? I know divorce is very painful and both must be going through a lot, however “practice what you preach” if he/ they followed the Bible in the first place this would never have happened.

    • NanyVaughn

      June 28, 2012 at 2:41 pm

      The bible says if there is marital unfaithfulness then they could get a divorce and remarry. You don’t know the details of why they came to the decision. Pastor Chris doesn’t owe you or any one on BN explanations of what happened. That is between him, his wife and God. Being a pastor doesn’t make him perfect. Pastors also have struggles. It takes a whole lot of courage for a pastor to show that weakness side of himself. Some pastors will rather pretend like everything is perfect when its Hell. You are not perfect either, instead of spewing criticism pray for him and his family.

  71. Gloria

    June 30, 2012 at 5:32 pm

    this is very shameful

  72. Anon

    July 12, 2012 at 5:50 pm

    Chris Okotie is a joke. It amazes how gullible and foolish people are. You don’t hold the pastor accountable for anything. Most of these pastors are not called by God, they are called by money. Nigerian pastors are worse, none of them go to theology schools, they don’t follow the Holy spirit, they abuse and distort the word of God. The sad part, they create FEAR among their congregation where, nobody can challenge their authority. This union was bound to fail, because the foundation was a broken one. Everything about this man is a joke, even his views on politics. He’s a shame. All I know is, if he doesn’t repent and stop deceiving himself and his congregation, he will have a bigger price to pay for the kind of life he lived on earth.

  73. yimika

    July 26, 2012 at 4:07 pm

    Marriage is for life till death do them part. Pastor’s wife is the first woman he divorced, he shoul therefore reconcile with her because God hates divorce

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