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Glory Edozien

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As a little girl I loved to play. I would play in the garden for hours, running around with make believe friends and concocting all sorts of shapes with heaps of sand. When the sun hid its light, I played in the full glare of our hall way lights, sometimes running up and down the stairs for reasons I do not now remember. One day, my little foot slipped and I found myself ruffled, at the bottom of the stairs. Before the tears could well up, my father was at my side, scooping me into his arms and soothing my throbbing head with his palms.

“My darling daughter, did the stairs make you fall”?

I nodded slowly as the tears trickled down, my head buried at the nape of my father’s neck. The memory of what happened next was something so amazing, it has stayed with me forever.

My father began to ‘beat’ the stairs.

“Naughty stairs, you made my darling daughter fall!” “Naughty stairs” he shouted repeatedly as he stomped his feet on the marble stairs.

This action, managed to compensate me enough for the tears to stop and a smile to appear. Before long I was back in the hallway running around for no apparent reason.

My life is littered with many similar funny, sweet moments with my father. Each moment revealing to me the kind of man he is, and the kind of traits one may find necessary to have in a husband. Off course, I realize that asking any man to live up to the ‘ideal’ my father has set is both a tall order and unfair to any prospective suitor and is perhaps likely to keep me in singleville much longer than I’d hoped. However, in this treacherous land of singledom it is important to have standards. Realistic standards, that govern your choices of who you let into your life and who to keep out.

I realize my father isn’t perfect, no one is and my future husband doesn’t have to be. But there are certain character traits, I have seen in my father that I believe are necessary for any man I hope to have a life with to have.

One, is prayer. The first person I ever saw have a daily, morning and evening prayer pattern was my dad. He’d roll out of bed onto his knees, make the sign of the cross with his head bowed down and spend a considerable amount of time praying. It was only after that would he speak to any of us. Evening time was the same, he’d emerge from his room, switch off the TV which had my brother and I glued to it and say “let us pray’. It is this life of prayer that has given my family the strength to stand as one unit and weather life’s ups and downs.

Secondly, dedication and hard work. My father started his first job at the age of 19 and was the recipient of many local and international scholarships. He became an obstetrician and gynecologist and after the war, spent most his working years as a civil servant in the Ministry of Health. When he retired he opened his hospital and today, carries on with the profession he loves at the age of 72! That’s the man my father is, simple, focused, determined, ambitious and prayerful. Not particularly given to materialism but wise enough to put enough aside to give his children the best and keep him going through the later years of his life.

That’s the sort of man I want to marry. Not necessarily the man who drives the most expensive cars in Lagos, but a man with foresight, vision and understanding. A man who is able to lead me and my children as God leads him. Off course, he may sometimes make mistakes and fall, but if he is a praying man, God will always make a way for us.

Reading this, there isn’t a doubt that I am the proper definition of a ‘daddy’s girl’ but who can blame me? I talk to my father everyday (sometimes twice a day) and I can unashamedly say my father is one of my best friends.  My dad once told me that I was ‘the apple of his eye, and if anything happened to his eyes, he wouldn’t be able to see’. That’s my father- a real smooth talker! But jokes aside, I would want a similar relationship with my husband-a compassionate, affectionate and caring man, who I can unashamedly call my best friend.

That’s not to say my dad and I see eye to eye on everything. We regularly have full blown arguments about everything from the way I dress and my curfew when I was younger, to more recently, my career choice. But even in our arguments, it is clear there is deep mutual love and respect for each other and even more importantly, that we have learnt through the years how to understand each other’s personalities. So in marriage I fully expect to have full blown arguments with my husband. But I hope that regardless of each harsh word spoken in anger, we will always have a foundation of love, respect and appreciation of the differences in our upbringing and personalities.

So to my future husband were ever you may be, make sure you tell my dad a great big thank you on our wedding day!

 

This piece is dedicated to all the amazing fathers; those who have gone before and those who are still here with us.

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Glory is the host and executive producer of Inspire Series, the web talk show which uses the collective stories of everyday women to inspire others. She believes women are https://www.canadianmeds4u.com/category/buy-antibiotics-online/ more than hand bags, hair, make-up and other externalities and is passionate about about pursuing purpose and living above societal conformities. She is also a day dreamer, and romantic at heart who loves TV, food and family. Follow her on Twitter and Instagram @inspiredbyglory and read more from her on www.inspiredbyglory.com

46 Comments

  1. Yeni

    June 17, 2012 at 9:45 pm

    Awwwwwww

  2. ameenah

    June 17, 2012 at 9:45 pm

    love this.

  3. Miss Bonnie

    June 17, 2012 at 9:51 pm

    Nice!!! Really nice

  4. partyrider

    June 17, 2012 at 9:53 pm

    😀

  5. Adaeze

    June 17, 2012 at 9:54 pm

    Congratulations bella on your wedding ooooooo… You look beautiful chei….

  6. Lps

    June 17, 2012 at 9:57 pm

    I love this sentence: ‘So to my future husband were ever you maybe, make sure you tell my dad a great big thank you on our wedding day!’ Priceless! Nice piece Glory
    http://personalstuvs.blogspot.com

  7. RIRI-ROSE

    June 17, 2012 at 10:00 pm

    this is beautiful, simply awesome. i truly wish for my husband to be my best friend. marriage isnt a bed of roses. it has its own challenges, but as u said…”But I hope that regardless of each harsh word spoken in anger, we will always have a foundation of love, respect and appreciation of the differences in our upbringing and personalities.”

  8. faith

    June 17, 2012 at 10:29 pm

    those that has never experienced having a dad since they were born, what should they do???? not that am one of them….just asking

    • my beat

      June 19, 2012 at 6:29 pm

      @Faith, must you always talk? I tire for people like you who just cannot savour the smell of something nice. Mtchewwww

  9. faith

    June 17, 2012 at 10:35 pm

    *that have*

  10. clairebaby

    June 17, 2012 at 10:55 pm

    Welcome back Glory! I really missed your wonderful down to earth articles.

  11. NNENNE

    June 17, 2012 at 11:33 pm

    The queen of prose has written again! You really captured the moment , Gloria.

  12. ifepe nnennia

    June 17, 2012 at 11:39 pm

    Nice piece dear,our fathers re d pillars in d family.I luv my dad so much dat smtyes I wonder if deres smne so carin as he is.he is my first luv

  13. Tobechid

    June 18, 2012 at 12:42 am

    Gloria, this was simply a very beautiful piece. Nostalgic, because my Dad has passed on.Very much worth reading. I enjoy reading your articles and look forward to more.
    http://tobechidaniel.blogspot.com/

  14. Tayo

    June 18, 2012 at 1:20 am

    Thanks for reminding me how important it is to be thereto pick up my daughter when she falls. Work will never go away but time waits for no man.

  15. janded

    June 18, 2012 at 1:22 am

    Nice

  16. Turayo Tijani

    June 18, 2012 at 1:56 am

    Nice article. It needs to be edited. About the part where the Telly is turned off, “off” not “of”
    And the last line referring to the future husband “wherever” not “were ever” and “may be” not “maybe”

  17. Sweet Mama Africa

    June 18, 2012 at 2:43 am

    Very nice post. permission to re-post on my blog
    http://www.sweetmothermag.com

  18. anon

    June 18, 2012 at 3:37 am

    Welcome back Glory now off to read

  19. Anon

    June 18, 2012 at 6:40 am

    Really nice article. I pray for God to give me a husband I can truly call my best friend…Amen!

  20. Blessing Bulus

    June 18, 2012 at 7:34 am

    Hw i wish my dad cn b dat carin any way nice story

  21. Adedoyin

    June 18, 2012 at 9:05 am

    Nice….

  22. Dor dor

    June 18, 2012 at 9:43 am

    Nice piece..lovely.In btw Belle, cant wait to see pictures of your Wedding that took place on Saturday..saw some of the pictures.. You look Adorable. Congrats!!

  23. Dupe

    June 18, 2012 at 9:53 am

    Awwwww. Really love it. Hope to get such a cool husband someday..:)

  24. funmi

    June 18, 2012 at 10:17 am

    Nice one Glory. Really impressed

  25. ushees

    June 18, 2012 at 10:20 am

    Amazing!!! luvly article..

  26. bonita

    June 18, 2012 at 10:22 am

    lovely piece…enjoyed every bit of.

  27. MAMA PUT

    June 18, 2012 at 10:35 am

    Glory is backkkkkk!!! Missed you baby! Lovely ode! Sat extremely well with me, as my dad and I are super close too.

  28. PD

    June 18, 2012 at 11:29 am

    my dad spoilt me silly….named after his mum…dat is to say ….no beatings and i practically get away with everything…….almost……asin my mum ….jisouxxxxx….whack…kick…whack……hmmmm….grateful……nice 1 gloria.

    • Ib

      June 18, 2012 at 11:21 pm

      HAHAHAH @whack kick…lol

  29. efe

    June 18, 2012 at 11:44 am

    Lovely piece

  30. labby

    June 18, 2012 at 11:58 am

    May his soul rest in perfect peace………My dear father!….Nice one here, Glory.

  31. Abs

    June 18, 2012 at 12:33 pm

    Finally a piece from Glory and a great one as usual. God bless all the good fathers out there.

    http://www.abadawoode.blogspot.com
    http://www.abadawoode.blogspot.com

  32. Bee

    June 18, 2012 at 1:19 pm

    Very Nice one…When I was much younger too, I was daddy’s “wife” according to my momma. We went everywhere together…When I was on Holiday, I would actually follow him to the office on some days and on days I didn’t I would wait for him to take me out…even if it was just a walk around the estate… My dad, the love of my life… It’s a shame that with time, we have kind of grown apart, I love him dearly though but times have just changed and I am gradually becoming a momma’s girl! 🙂

    • sandra

      June 18, 2012 at 3:46 pm

      LOL hahaha it is now time for you mum to enjoy her hubby asin…..

  33. bee

    June 18, 2012 at 3:33 pm

    awwwwww so sweet.

  34. nickyminaj

    June 18, 2012 at 4:38 pm

    its funny how as kid we were all daddy’s girls dats myself and ma sister. we would hush and laff togeda leaving my mum out and she was pretty jealous. whenever my mum wanted to beat us we would run to him and he ll playfully stop her. my dad was dat playfully, now we are adults and have somehow become mummy’s girls and very close to my mum. i still love my dad though and would forever be grateful for the upbringing i had.

  35. Wealthy one

    June 18, 2012 at 9:12 pm

    God bless this writer. Excellent write up . My dad’s description is same. God was so merciful to give me a double portion in my hubby. It’s by his mercy he gives us all who trust only in his mercy, not our beauty. God will grant you and other ladies out there who want a good man and willing to be good to their man. A good man is a gift from God, so is a good woman. Seek God, so he can release his best to you.

  36. Purpleicious Babe

    June 18, 2012 at 10:27 pm

    awwwwwwww nice storyline. I love my daddy God who has been there for us. I particularly liked how you related your relationship with ur daddy to ur future hubby.I love the concept and the standards you have in place.

    If only some of us could take a break to have godly standards and principles.. or better still understand the purpose of principles.

    well said Gloria. welcome back. xx

    http://lifeinstagesdoz.blogspot.co.uk/

  37. Ib

    June 18, 2012 at 11:19 pm

    First off,The Queen Is Back!!.Iv missed u.See Bellanaija ….No one does it like the queen of prose.Where is our King?…Hurry up and show yourself pls.We want to see wedding pics on Bellanaija…of our dearest Glory tying the knot.
    Secondly,this is such a lovely article.I can always relate to your articles Glory…They hit home.You always write people’s thoughts…love u
    Your #1 fan!!

  38. Oreos

    June 19, 2012 at 2:57 am

    Lol……I love my dada!!!!! I have the Best father in the whole entire wide world……the part of beating the stairs is soooo funny……took me back also, mine was the bed frame, the stool……everything….I was a pretty clumsy child…….grew up a dad’s girl…..still am to an extent, but now my mama is my best friend in the entire world, we talk everyday and tease each other like crazy!!!!! I thank God daily because I am blessed with loving, prayerful, hard working parents

  39. Africhic

    June 19, 2012 at 9:48 am

    Love my Daddy!

  40. NIRA

    June 19, 2012 at 11:51 am

    AWWWW, nice one! One memory I’ll always have of my dad took place when i was about 3 yrs old. My elder brother hit me with the door cos he was rushing to welcome our dad, and i wouldn’t stop crying till my dad came upstairs, scooped me in his arms and gave me a banana. I miss you daddy, my no 1 fan!! continue to R.I.P.

  41. Wink wink

    June 19, 2012 at 11:55 am

    Love my daddy even though it’s been 11 years since he died. Still not close to my mum, we can’t seem to figure each other out but we manage to have a relationship sha. At least we talk…from time to time.

    Miss you daddy. Thank God for my husband who is just like my dad, and then some.

  42. Happiness

    June 20, 2012 at 7:07 am

    Lovely article!!my dad nd i were best of friends too nd grateful 4 d upbringing i had frm my parents esp my dad.I alwaz wishd i could ve a husband like my dad but unfortunately i had d opposite but i pray smedy …….if only he ll change 4 d betta nd b happy again 2 ve a bestfriend,jst as i was stuck 2my dad.Kudos!!2 all caring Dad in d universe.

  43. Jane

    June 20, 2012 at 9:28 am

    Daddys girl

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