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Munir Bello: The Question of Black Men & Their Affinity For White Women

Munir Bello



So many times I have been on dates and been asked, ‘why do black girls have so much attitude?’ The A word has been synonymous with the black female for as long as I can remember. I have been in clubs and I’ve seen guys looking at a group of black girls but failing to approach them. Their excuse? ‘Well they’re just going to give me sh*t.’

I asked a few people different questions on this matter to try and get to the bottom of it, as another question I’ve been repeatedly asked which relates to this matter is, ‘Why do black men prefer white women?’ I interviewed girls of all races to get their take on the matter and I also took this question to some men to get more of an insight.

So, the first time I got asked that question, I was very taken aback. It was asked with such confidence by a girl I was on a date with. I remember it like it was yesterday. Making small talk, I was having a White Russian and she was drinking a June Bug. She pulled out the pineapple on the side of the glass, took a bite and then looked at me twice before saying, ‘I’ve got to ask you something that I’ve been trying to wrap my head round. Why do black men prefer white women?’ It was one of those moments in your life that’ll always stick with you. I decided to get my dictaphone and notebook to get to the bottom of this mystery.

The first girl that I spoke to was a white girl who had been involved with a black man. He told her that he preferred white girls to black girls, because white girls are more chilled out and have less attitude than their black counterparts. She said, ‘Pretty sure if I was blue or green with yellow spots he would’ve said I was still his type just to get in my pants’. Another girl I spoke to was told that white girls are more chilled and less maintenance.’ This, once again was said by a black guy that she was dating.

The first black girl I spoke to said, ‘We do have an attitude. An attitude of self respect’ Many of the girls felt that they were limited in the workplace in terms of how they conduct themselves. They felt that if somebody said something unkind to them that they had to choose their words carefully before retaliating or in some cases let it slide so as not be accused of having an attitude problem. They also did believe that men were less likely to approach them in a bar because the men found them intimidating. Black girls said they could understand somebody being stand offish with them if they were from another race as maybe this man hadn’t come into contact with many black girls in real life. The girls were less forgiving of black men tarring them with that brush as they felt that it was an unfair remark which was also harmful to that mans mother and other relatives.

I spoke to some black guys who exclusively dated outside of their race, some black guys who only dated black women and some black men who were equal opportunity daters to see if black men really do prefer white women. The first guy immediately threw the A word into the conversation. He said he’d tried approaching black girls in the past and was left feeling humiliated, so as a result never went back. The other guy I spoke to simply said that he didn’t find black girls attractive, although he had been with black girls in the past he felt that white women were more attractive and more sexually satisfying (he was very keen to stress this point). One guy did openly admit that he’d told white girls he’d dated that he didn’t date black girls because of their attitude. He said the reason for it was to get the white girls into bed and to make them feel special by lying to them.

The guy who only dated black girls stated, ‘My mother is black, my sisters are black and they are the most amazing women that I know. I could never put down a black woman because it reflects negatively on our race as a whole’ He also went on to say ‘It pisses me off when people are dismissive of black women and labelling them unfairly without getting to know them’ Like me he had been asked why black men prefer white women on numerous occasions and he couldn’t understand why the assumption was made without his actual preference being asked.

A black woman has had to put up with many barriers just like other minority groups. There has been an objectification of black women since the days of slavery and it peaked during the days of The Cotton Club during the 1920’s, blaxploitation movies in the 1970’s and still goes on in hip hop videos to this day. As a result it has made many black women cautious when they are approached by any male as to whether this person has a sincere interest in getting to know them or if they are simply trying to get into their knickers. The black woman has always unfairly been portrayed as angry and loud. Their traits of speaking their mind and not standing for any nonsense would be rewarded with a senior role and plenty of kudos if they were white men. My mother, my sister, my wife and countless other positive women in my life are black and I don’t think they have an attitude in the slightest.

As for the other question of black men preferring white women. I don’t think that this is the case at all. It just happens that the black guys who prefer white women tend to really speak about it, therefore creating a misconception that it is the general consensus. There are many black men in relationships with black women who live in Africa and the Caribbean but those men don’t feel the need to speak about the race of their partner as it’s not an issue.

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  1. HausaGirlinTexas

    February 25, 2015 at 4:35 pm

    In all honesty, many black men date white women to have mixed babies.
    Secondly, when majority of black men feel like they’re financially stable, they don’t want to date any girl that looks like their mothers or sisters.
    Thirdly, many black men feel that white women are more submissive, than black women.
    Fourth point, for some black men, walking around with a white woman, in their minds is a “status thing ”
    The same man that dates whites women, are usually the same ones that taint the images of black women.

    • Mel

      February 25, 2015 at 4:52 pm

      I aggree 100% with you…especially on the status thing and mixed babies

    • DRKnite

      February 25, 2015 at 7:52 pm

      Your points are over-generalized, thereby making them inaccurate and misleading. The mass majority of black men date black women and prefer dating black women.

    • Munir Bello

      February 25, 2015 at 9:28 pm

      Read the last paragraph.

    • usothirsty

      February 26, 2015 at 12:38 am

      where are u from? I live in the US and the only black men dating black women are the ones in poverty. I dont have a problem with dating another race but this is how it is.

    • Andilzo

      February 26, 2015 at 11:55 am

      How could you say such a thing? You mean all over the US, you are unable to count hundred successful black men who are married to back women? Are you sure you are looking through all the strata of the US society in which you claim to live?

    • Sunshine

      February 25, 2015 at 9:48 pm

      Add to the fact that when they get dumped by the white women after their behind become broke, they go running to black women.

    • nifemi

      February 26, 2015 at 12:16 am

      I totally agree with your first point. My SIL married white because she wants mixed race kid. Now we barely breath because of cute her kid is. Every sentence start with how cute her child

    • usothirsty

      February 26, 2015 at 12:32 am

      You got it exactly. Perhaps black men are also ashamed of who they really are which is Black. I have noticed that Nollywood movies are also following the lead of the US by having fair skinned women in movies lately. Nadia B was the only one for a long time but now I see them getting ready to take over.

    • Alex

      February 26, 2015 at 2:04 am

      Utter rubbish. Even if you replaced “in all honesty” with “in my opinion,” I would still think it’s a crappy opinion. Black men date white women (and vice versa) out of attraction, and love. O tan! That is it! Anything else is your own insecurity muddling up your rationality.

    • Tobito

      March 3, 2015 at 9:25 pm

      I’m so glad that I don’t have race issues. Both black and white have been good to me in my life time and a few black and white have been funny. However I have issues with getting married for wrong purposes though, black or white . I think the reality of black men preferring white women is being given public cognizance because some black women probably think that they are being affected by the ideology many successful black men hold. My own provisions are always steady no matter the decisions of those around me. When I was younger, my little cousins travelled the world and it seemed as though that won’t happen to me, by the time I travelled, it was to pursue a law degree in an ivy league, tuition and accommodation fully paid for. Never regretted becoming born again at the age of 13 so it doesn’t matter how many black men are not getting married to black women, I can’ be affected. I trust God to give me the best always, that’s the attitude instead of divesting much of my energy on other peoples’ decisions. I am so much at peace trusting God. Whoever you marry, just make sure he or she loves and appreciates the color of your skin. My black Ghanaian friend’s husband is Spanish.Her husband has always preferred black to caramel and guess what? she is so happy. Let’s stop all these subtle discrimination. We will be limited. Black girl, so if the white man is a child of God, loves you and you have peace about it, you won’t get married to him based on his color only? Look beyond the skin color. Some people won’t cross into other races due to cultural complications yet others have adapted. Enjoy your life in God and don’t be limited by race. In conclusion, skin color does not matter. You have to be strong so those rigid people around you don’t kill your marriage.Black or White

    • Di

      February 26, 2015 at 4:29 am

      You’ve said it all!
      Additionally, for acceptance from the other races, to like him more. I just picked that from the show ‘Empire’ this evening. Terrence Howard told his oldest son, “no matter the number of white women you marry, those folks will never like your black ass, they will only like your money”.
      I wasn’t bothered by this topic 2mnths ago because I thought people were just complaining but after watching Oprah’s “dark skin girls” last month, I sat in my living room weak at my knees as realization seeped in listening to black men speak their truth. Everyone should see that show, it was admitted that all those weak excuses (attitude, loud etc) were used as deflections from the real problem- the insecurities of a black man. One man said all the women he ever dated were light skinned or white and he doesn’t know why. So these men haven’t searched within themselves to understand why so they jump into the ” black girls got attitude” wagon to ease their shitty guilt.
      I asked my Naija friend who was born and raised here, and she confirmed it as the reality from high school to work places. As racism is well and alive so are clueless self-hating black men.

    • emma

      February 26, 2015 at 3:50 pm

      hi am sorry but i have 2 disagree with your comment about white girlz will never love a black guys ass only his money!! i am a white woman who is in a very loving relationship & i love my partner with all my heart!! ive been with him when he lost his job & when hes making money & will always be with him through what ever life sends his way..i am not with him for money i work my own job & pay my own way..i am with my guy because i love some of us white folks as you say do love a black guyz ass even when hes broke….

    • Di

      February 26, 2015 at 4:46 pm

      @emma: don’t get yourself worked up. That was a quote from a tv show last night. And Terrence was referring to the white community including his clients, the family of the caucasian’s lady and his son’s white friends as ‘these folks’.
      I cann’t vouch for why the white women are with rich black men nor why I don’t see white women in the projects and hoods with broke black men BUT I can speak for why the black men are with the white women. Glad to hear yours is the real deal, congrats.

    • Tola

      February 26, 2015 at 11:37 pm

      Candid advice from a joyfully married woman: Whatever relationship you are in, make sure your man loves you, don’t force yourself. If a man wishes to be with a white, yellow, purple, green lemon etc woman. Please let him be or else that relationship will be terrible for you. The princess did everything, was loved and accepted by the world yet her man wanted another woman. Don’t sell yourself and keep your dignity intact. A nice guy out there loves you and will treat you well. Once you discover his taste for white women, please remain friends. He is not the only great guy around, you just think so. When the real one comes along you will wonder why you’ve been so blind. Two of my friends in the UK went back to Niger. One returned to attend law school, while the second one got a job in a nice law firm. Both of them are happily married today to great men after some guys in the UK made them feel like they were nothing. In fact the one who got a nice job just had a baby in a classy hospital.. USA so girls don’t force it.I don’t care if the guy is the only Cardiothoracic surgeon on earth. Let him go girl, you are better than living your life miserably with someone who thinks you don’t deserve him. Let men do the loving please. It feels better trust me.

    • Tumi

      February 28, 2015 at 1:21 am

      I can’t be bothered. Just make sure your man likes your skin color or else your relationship will be hell. Eg, if you are a black girl and that guy likes white girls let him go. You have to master your emotions. It’s not worth it forcing yourself on a man. It’s extremely miserable and extra complicated.

    • Ngozi

      February 26, 2015 at 6:39 pm

      Thanks my Harvard Educated Mr President. You earned my respect when I realized you had a black family. Even though your mum is white and dad is Kenyan. I love you Mr President.

    • Abbey

      February 27, 2015 at 6:44 pm

      Amen! Sistah Girl! Tell IT!

    • olu

      July 18, 2015 at 8:26 pm

      Stop lying I married my white Eastern European wife of 11 years out of love. I never said a bad word about black women. I love and respect my black mother. Meanwhile I heard black men married to black women mocking black women.

  2. @edDREAMZ

    February 25, 2015 at 4:37 pm

    Black women all the way, thats why i love my nicki and christiana milan, women that are killing me all day all night…..

    • Wanker

      February 25, 2015 at 11:58 pm

      He was not talking about porn

  3. Ebony

    February 25, 2015 at 4:53 pm

    Colonial mentality is another.
    It’s really subconscious and they never would admit.
    Some are trying to fulfill fantasies, or they seem like arm candy.
    Also like skin bleaching, a lot of people who do that believe they’ll be prettier, better, superior….
    Doesn’t mean genuine inter-racial love can’t exist.

  4. DZY

    February 25, 2015 at 4:59 pm

    This site a lot of times do not sound Nigerian/African, It sounds American. Its not a bad thing but there are already a lot of American magazines out there. But we come here to hear our own voices as Nigerians and Africans. The topic and language of this article is on a thousand African American Magazine. How many wealthy Nigerian men date white women.

    • Boo

      February 25, 2015 at 5:28 pm

      Please remember that this site is not just for Nigerians or Africans living in Africa it is also for those in the diaspora. therefore it is relevant for it to be covered on this website!

    • lahkukulalah

      February 25, 2015 at 6:21 pm

      Help me tell them! They wont listen to you ohhhhhhhhh. to many follow follow topics, They see Adenuga, Dangote, Ovia, Elumelu, Kalu, Belo-Osagie with black wives and children born and bred Nigerians for that matter- They will ignore. The countless weddings on bellanaija featuring YOUNG naija guys who are wealthy, educated abroad, leave abroad to come and marry naija babes- they will ignore. Some, still come and say rich black men are dating white because of mixed Children, Status, Colonial. rubbish. (We Africans should know better, But for some reason we don’t Do better)

    • Let the truth be told!!!!

      February 26, 2015 at 8:01 am

      Please hush you noise!!!
      Just because you have a disturbingly narrow perspective and a similarly shallow network of friends does not give you the right to spew your ignorance up here. Bella naija is open to everyone, not just Nigerians that live in Nigeria. Hell, i am willing to wager that majority of their daily hits come from Nigerians in the diaspora, which makes this topic very REAL!!!!

      Now let me clue your naive mind in on something you have no idea about, this is not just a “Black” problem, its also a Nigerian problem. I am seeing extremely successful men, now when i say successful i am not talking about some rubbish low to mid 100s six figure salary earners here in the US, i am talking Surgeons, hedge fund guys, guys whose salaries/income range anywhere from $350,000-close to a mill a year and who are VERY much Nigerian, joining this rubbish bang wagon of thinking “white is right”., and putting white/latino/biracial women on some bullshit pedestal.

      My ex was a Stanford/Yale grad, a successful wall street guy, his take home after taxes was just under $320,000/yr. He was born and raised in Naija, even went and graduated from KC for petes sake! So he was well into his teens when he migrated here. As fine and successful as he was, this asshole had the biggest identity issue i had ever encountered. He rarely socialized with Nigerians, he would however kick it with “selected Black people”, his conceited bourgeoisie behind really felt he was better than your average everyday naija person, hence the reason he does not date and believed Nigerian girls were beneath him. I was the first naija girl he ever dated…..(probably had to do with how i look which is more appealing to white men) . Long story short, we parted ways and a lot had to do with the fact that although the melanin in my skin was way lighter than his and probably matched that brown paper bag, i still was not good enough. He is back with another Caucasian girl.

      The second guy was another jackass Neurosurgeon who never dated a naija girl even though he is very much Nigerian. Like the first asshole above he also came here right about hitting his teen years. He had less issues than asshole number one but one thing was similar about both of them, they were colorstruck! His parents insisted he married Nigerian so he got one that was half Nigerian/half Caucasian….lol!

      My point is this, when you get to a certain level at least here in the States, the people around you change, and they don’t necessarily look like you. I am extremely successful and have Nigerian girlfriends who fall in this category and guess what? we all echo the same thing. Men who are our counterpart in income, status and exposure do not want us! And abeg, it has absolutely nothing to do with looks……..far from it!!! Because we get mad attention from regular black men. What i have come to realize is this, as your income increases, as a black man in America, if you are not secured and grounded, you will fall for the hype. It is easier to land a quality, successful guy in Naija than it is in the States. The competition is fierce, and you are not necessarily competing with girls that look like you. My hair falls way below my shoulders but i put a piece in here and there for extra fullness and length, and guess what, for some asinine black men that is a problem. You hear them chanting “no weaves” when their mothers and sisters are damn near bald! For those who even dare date black, they want you to have that good hair….you know the curly Indian shit! that waves up when brushed.They want “Redbones”, (yet we wonder why women bleach) now i am naturally fair skin but lets face it, majority of Naija girls are anywhere from caramel all the way to chocolate skin. And please i am not talking about bleachers, i am talking about regular light skinned girls no additives…lol.. If you are not secured with yourself, you will have a serious complex when compared with women who do not share the same hair as you do, the same color of your skin nor same facial features!

      Now i understand there are some low income struggling naija guys that date exclusively non-black women….and i put them under the same category, “self-hate”! and typically in their case, such union always almost never works out.

      I will conclude by saying, I have no problem with Nigerian men dating outside their race, however if you choose to date exclusively outside your race because you think a certain race looks better, you want biracial kids, status, acceptance….YOU ARE A SELF HATING SAD NEGRO!!!!! and no amount of whiteness you surround yourself with will change the fact that your ass is still very much BLACK!!!

    • ThePatriot 2015

      February 25, 2015 at 6:45 pm

      Fully Agree, I jus dey confuse lool

    • ThePatriot 2015

      February 25, 2015 at 6:47 pm

      My response was for @DZY. We should now compromoise for diaspora? abeg smh

    • Tina

      February 26, 2015 at 11:42 pm

      Let them go and let them be girl. You are better than that. Travel to Niger, you will meet so many great men. God will help you. $320,000 so those earning $500.00 should not talk to any colored person or use the bathroom. ‘Sio alainironu’ Let him go girl. Your own will come soon.

    • Munir Bello

      February 25, 2015 at 9:28 pm

      Please read the last paragraph which very much agrees with your point.

    • nene

      February 25, 2015 at 9:29 pm

      agree with DZY.

    • Munir Bello

      February 25, 2015 at 9:30 pm

      Please read the last paragraph which agrees with your point.

    • Sunshine

      February 25, 2015 at 9:53 pm

      Perharps the interviewer should have stated the country where the interview occured for better insight.


      February 26, 2015 at 8:38 am

      I AGREE! We should importing Black American problems and carry them as ours. We have our own issues that got nothing to do with them. By the way, i noticed instead that African men have a thing for LIGHT SKINNNED or MIXED GIRLS instead, not white. About Black Women having an attitude, Black american women do seem to have an attitude. African women do not have that problem very much. But If u want to know more about afro-american stereotypes, just watch their real TV shows on Bravo: loud, uncouth, babymama with multiple baby daddies, always asking for child support, twerking video vixen etc. And before any american comes down on me, no, NOT ALL of them are like that.

    • Na

      February 26, 2015 at 10:13 pm

      Reality TV (i.e. Real Housewives) is not “real” if you ask me. It’s all propaganda to perpetuate a stereotype about black no I would say the majority of Black American women are not what you say.

  5. tunde

    February 25, 2015 at 5:02 pm

    they may be caring and a bit honest but i dont find them sexually attractive… i last one i yanshed run away cuuz it takes me time to nut…

  6. Bennie Errick

    February 25, 2015 at 5:17 pm

    Funny enough a white man once said he preferred black women because he felt white women had no scruples jumping to bed with a guy unlike their black counterparts. My point is, i believe it is a matter of preference and perception, nothing else. You want to date a white babe, fine and good. You want the black babe, no problem either way, its your life!

  7. mykonos

    February 25, 2015 at 5:27 pm

    i live abroad, europe to be precise, last time i was with a black woman was 5 yrs ago… why? everyone i have met since i left home, either has a very low self esteem, or has an attitude that stinks….why? i dont knowwwww… i miss the presence of a strong african black woman…. not the career oriented husband wanna be women…to those sisters that says think like a man.. be ready to be treated like a man if you think like one….and theres nothing wrong if a brother decides to be with a white woman.. they got hearts too, and it aint white or black.

    • Lola

      February 25, 2015 at 8:20 pm

      Brother, I live in Europe too, met and married my husband in Europe 7 years ago. You see unlike you, He was able to find an African woman without a “stinking attitude” because he has a right attitude as a MAN. Since you have been dating your wonderful white girls for 5 fives, one wonders why you have not married any of them yet. Common, a white girl wouldn’t cook for you, wouldn’t do your laundry. You call them attitude stinking because they know better than to be handing over their pay cheques.. Most black men in this part of the world are lazy and expect the woman to bring home the money, act as their slave and still spread thier legs. You need to have the right attitude to attract the woman with the right attitude.

    • Looking4Her

      February 25, 2015 at 11:32 pm

      tell today’s black women to cook and do your laundry for u and they will ask u if they’re are your slaves, u just happen to be one of the few exceptions.

    • Mykonos

      February 26, 2015 at 4:04 am

      my white girlfriend, cooks, cleans and even make egusi soup for me just cos it makes her feel good to care for me…. shes given me so much love that i cant speak about here.. i am proud of her…just as i am with my sisters too.. but i wont put her less to a black woman cos of her skin color or the fact that shes not african…it doesnt matter the race, it matters the interest… take it , our sisters aint getting serious with life no more, they want a fat bank account or fake hair from india that smells awful……Lucky you, you found yourself a man,,,, mind you, marriage aint the end product of any relationship…

    • Darry

      February 26, 2015 at 4:46 am

      My white woman cooks and does my laundry for me. She cooks all Nigerian dishes so I don’t know where u got your idea from. White women are lovely and so are some blacks too. My problem is especially with the Nigerian woman who are so materialistic.

    • wendy

      February 25, 2015 at 9:47 pm

      Good to know that you have a high self esteem…

    • Tosin

      February 26, 2015 at 1:22 pm

      I just saw a fabulous line
      “they got hearts too, and it ain’t black or white”
      o wow.
      that is an amazing line.
      dudes have hearts too.
      i think we forget.
      and hearts want love.
      not race, not stress, not even tradition.
      great line, well done.
      that’s all. not even interested in the subject, but that quote!

  8. mx

    February 25, 2015 at 5:34 pm

    white women give u visa (few drama)black women give u attitude(headache)..but i still love my black sisters.those of us who have dated white girls know this,and this comment will bring drama watch#evilsmile

  9. HausaGirlinTexas

    February 25, 2015 at 5:39 pm

    That’s why majority of American athletes, some African American actors and Nigerian actors who have tasted a touch of Hollywood dates and marries white women from David Oyelowo to others….for them, it’s a status thing, to walk around with a white women on the red carpet. For African American athletes like Ochocinco who dated whites and Hispanics when he had it all going on, but as soon as they’re financially unstable, not balling anymore, they remember their roots, and start dating black women.

    • girl

      February 25, 2015 at 6:20 pm

      i’d let you know david oyelewo has been with his wife for a long time, yes black men sometimes date for status but you can’t paint everyone with the same brush.

    • Bisola

      February 25, 2015 at 6:55 pm

      Wash your mouth with soap. David got married before he became famous. Have you seen how grown his sons are? These kind of articles annoy me because they foster stereotypes. There are millions of mixed race couples in love. That the few popular ones may have questionable reasons doesn’t discount from the genuine couples. The standard of a few shouldn’t be used for all abeg. You find love, where you find love. If the reasons are not genuine nko, how is your own. Black men dating white women is not the reason you are single. The majority still marry black women. It is not an issue. Blacknpeople and drama. If the white people are not complaining about black men marrying their daughters, why are we complaining.

    • Mama

      February 25, 2015 at 10:42 pm

      Hausagirlintexas pls stop generalising……am black and yes you black women have too much attittude and drama…..u talk too much especially African American women…..

  10. HausaGirlinTexas

    February 25, 2015 at 5:40 pm

    *Taste of Hollywood* typo

  11. lahkukulalah

    February 25, 2015 at 5:54 pm

    I don’t know if its social media or internet or what. Maybe because Africans like to adopt certain traits from abroad- which can sometimes be emotionally damaging (opposite of me). Its very unhealthy take note! a question based’‘why do black girls have so much attitude?’’ shouldn’t even be an article on a website full of black women and girls or even occasional black guys. Everything Munir Bello described, is black =American,British Canadian western influenced Stereotypes NOT AFRICAN.
    Since when have “African women”ever been portrayed as loud, unattractive in “African” based media” , without another “African” women portrayed as being a submissive,Beautiful, good mother, queen, lover, gentle …?

    Follow follow syndrome among black websites/people is ridiculous . (I’m more disappointed in Africans…. who adhere to these stereotypes because WE should know better and for some reason we don’t do better)

    • Munir Bello

      February 25, 2015 at 9:32 pm

      Please read the last paragraph

  12. Yvonne

    February 25, 2015 at 6:37 pm

    Most black men date or marry white women temporarily for the “status thing” “mixed babies and papers but when it comes to settling down for real, I mean getting a woman that would stay by your side when the grey hair starts coming, through thick and thin they resort for black women.
    Most black women might give you the attitude but believe me they make good wives and are very tolerant unlike most chics.
    That’s why most black men who dated or got married to white women abroad still come back home to get a wife.
    And any child you have with a white woman ain’t yours, you can hardly take them home to stay with you or else they decide on their own to go with you and the child support drama phewww!
    But the annoying thing is most black guys who are dating white chicks speaks ill of their fellow black sisters which is not cool.

    • Idomagirl

      February 25, 2015 at 8:47 pm

      Your comment is filled with generalisations which makes you sound ignorant.

      There are tons of white women who married African men and moved back here to raise their children with their husbands. I know 3 different families like that, they speak their husband’s language and have fully immersed themselves in the culture and are still married and living in Nigeria 20 years on. Saying that whatever children one has with a white woman ‘will never really be yours’ or that a white woman will not stay with you through thick and thin makes you sound as if your worldview is gotten from African Magic.

  13. Yvonne

    February 25, 2015 at 6:38 pm

    *most white Chic’s/ women

  14. kaycee

    February 25, 2015 at 6:38 pm

    Well most black girl are really unapproachable with a melodramatic attitude, It is quite rare for you to approach a White girl with an attitude. White girls are very easy going and easy to get to, is just long longing after black girls. Although, I must admit black are quite entertaining and outspoken, which I really fancy in ladies. All in all, when it comes to ladies I don’t discriminate, I just got mad luv for all dem ladies out there. Think about it, while restrict urself to a particular race or colour when you can taste the waters.

    • Anon

      February 25, 2015 at 9:09 pm

      “Well most black girl are really unapproachable with a melodramatic attitude”

      Are you sure it’s not a case of a man like you who is intimidated of “most black girls?”

    • nala

      February 26, 2015 at 2:46 am

      You kaycee are terminally ignorant!

    • Tumi

      February 26, 2015 at 11:50 pm

      I think black girls especially African women are a hard knot to crack sometimes. You need to be ready for the work since she may not even say yes to you until a few months after you’ve asked her out. Hard to get many times. She wants to keep her dignity.

  15. EllesarisEllendil

    February 25, 2015 at 7:56 pm

    Out of 170m Nigerians, let’s assume 80m are men how many have Non-African wives??? how many Ghanaian Men, How many Namibian, How many Ethopian??? So how exactly do black men have an “affinity” for white women?? Or do Africans not count in these false assertion?

    • Idomagirl

      February 25, 2015 at 8:39 pm

      It’s like BN publishes articles like this to cater to its African-American audience and the Africans in the diaspora because us homebased cannot really relate to these things.

    • Iris

      February 25, 2015 at 9:02 pm

      I think this article is primarily for African Americans and Africans in diaspora *shrugs*

    • Munir Bello

      February 25, 2015 at 9:32 pm

      Read the last paragraph

    • EllesarisEllendil

      February 26, 2015 at 2:39 am

      Then amend to African-American.

    • Ms. A.

      February 26, 2015 at 9:54 am

      Which last paragraph sef? Your own is just to be typing up and down ‘read the last paragraph’. Ive read it.. So?

  16. DRKnite

    February 25, 2015 at 7:59 pm

    Most black guys date within there race. This article and some of the comments make it sound like a major of black men date outside their race.

    • Munir Bello

      February 25, 2015 at 9:32 pm

      Read the last paragraph.

  17. blaqgirlrock

    February 25, 2015 at 8:05 pm

    black men can date who ever the hell they want however they really need to stop bad mouthing black sisters period!!!

    • nene

      February 25, 2015 at 9:31 pm


  18. Idomagirl

    February 25, 2015 at 8:36 pm

    Big deal. Black men can date or marry whatever colour they want. Same as black women. If a pink woman makes you happy go for it. However, it becomes Aaproblem when you put down one group to validate your choices e.g ‘I date white women because black women are this or that’.

  19. Robin Hood

    February 25, 2015 at 8:45 pm

    Speaking as someone who has interacted with black and white ladies. I notice that black women have a lot of drama and baggage compared to white ladies. Black men go where they are loved not for the petty reason of wanting a mixed kid. It’s easier to get true love from the average white girl than from the average black girl.

  20. bluebus

    February 25, 2015 at 8:59 pm

    This topic can’t be generalised, firstly some guys meet some babes white or back and get along well and some need a citizen’s assistance for guaranteed stay hence they end up hooking up with white chicks.

    Now the issue of black sisters and attitudes is hard to explain, white chics have issues too, SOME don’t cook, only eat out, SOME are also so homely and good wife materials. So also black sisters.

    The primary difference is that a white chick has no cultural or religious taboos inhibiting or restricting her from having sex from A TOTAL STRANGER (well not all), while a lot of black sisters for fear of being labelled CHEAP, USED AND DUMPED want to know what the black brothers have to offer.

    I some cases a black bro comes in as an illegal immigrant, a dark sis is scared of dating him or even marrying him cos he might just be after documents, while a white chick cares less.

    The issue of bill paying, remitting money to families and friend at home etc are some of the issues so who really has the attitude here?

  21. IMOchick

    February 25, 2015 at 9:16 pm

    I am Nigerian and my boyfriend is white, we’ve been dating for over 2 years.
    Prior to him, I dated a Yoruba Muslim, who after a couple of months told me that he didn’t see any future as he would prefer to marry a Yoruba Muslim girl. #whereisthejustice

    When an black man dates a white girl, they rarely care about her family background and or religion BUT when they date a sister, they have ridiculous preferences e.t.c.

  22. nene

    February 25, 2015 at 9:28 pm

    i can’t wait for comments. my lips are sealed though

  23. eyong

    February 25, 2015 at 9:33 pm

    Half of you people sound very stupid. as a dark skined someone who has dated African, whitre and Asian women, I can assure you status is not the reason most of of black men marry outside. Have you ever considered that, ummm… maybe we just like he way the look? Oh, goodness, I know, now, you’re all probably saying that means I think black women are ugly. No, that’s not what I said, (my gradma happens to be the most beautiful woman in yhe wotld, thank you very much) I simple stated that I also find white women attractive and Asians also. Same way I have a black female friend who only dates whites. And an Asian friend who is head over heels inlove with a black girl. I can tell how insecure some of you are just by reading your comments, have you ever heard of the term “opposites attract? It’s quite unfortunate that you’re using your low self esteems as proof of… what exactly?

  24. wendy

    February 25, 2015 at 9:45 pm

    My hubby’s friend is married to a white chick British chick The guy na Yoruba Guy. His reason is that he does not want his kids to suffer like him….. I was speechless when he told me….

  25. Nikky

    February 25, 2015 at 10:18 pm

    People are different and so are their preferences. I don’t like people being shamed because thy prefere to date or be with one racial group or any particular type. However, it’s f’d up when people defend their preference by putting down another group. Everything black girls steriotypes claims can be found in the behaviours and characters of non black girls. People can be opinionated, rude, full of attitude etc. it’s not a white woman black woman thing, these behaviours cuts across gender, race, ethic and cultural group.

  26. Sisi

    February 25, 2015 at 10:32 pm

    Yeah cos white women waste no time into jumping into bed with men whilst black women take their time. Sex involves soul ties abeg you do not want to give it to any tom, dick or harry. Bye!!!

    • Looking4Her

      February 25, 2015 at 11:37 pm

      says who? show a black girl the money and shes jumping to bed with u, but white women its not about the money its the feelings

    • eyong

      February 26, 2015 at 12:58 am

      Lmao, you don’t sound very bright is you thing promiscuity is a racial thing. Nigerians of all should be the last condemnih others for immorality. Insecure little girl.

    • Darry

      February 26, 2015 at 4:59 am

      Dear Sisi, “yeah cos white women waste no time in jumping into bed with men whilst black women take their time” LMAO black women take their time? That was in the time of our mothers. Black women now not only jump in bed quickly, they even jump about even quicker! I have seen too many esp with this generation.

  27. concerned9ja

    February 25, 2015 at 11:17 pm

    Bella what you doing clouding and polluting our minds as one said is this an American Site??….if you didn’t know but bet you do enough of your readers actually reside abroad and this is the nonsense we inaundated with abroad ..we cone here to kick back with our culture to hear the good ..the bad and ugly of Nigeria or other parts of Africa because we get none or very little abroad
    As the article said it’s a non issue in Africa and the Caribbean so what’s it doing on a so called bonafide 9ja Site…
    You also got involved in that light skin vs dark skin girls issue concerning Black America… think we really care we don’t we ever so simple if some think….it makes them pretty they can go and bleach away their future…but they don’t make it into something that divides a whole culture and history!!..please let’s leave them with their misogny and narcassism ….you cannot rationalise a typical Black American..British or Canadian yes they are very affected…and this is one of their nuances!!

  28. outain

    February 25, 2015 at 11:38 pm

    Ok, so I’m tired of people posting up some bull about their supposed reason as to why brothers prefer white babes over their own. Let’s be subjective about it. You go to a dinner (was gonna use club, but some oloshos here will start forming spiriko) and you meet a fine, sexy, intelligent looking sister. You walk up to her and try starting a conversation with her. What’s in her mind as you put all ur confidence into your left ball? ” hmm, he isn’t tall enough, too dark, too fair, too skinny,too bald, he’s a driver, see as hin head be like agbalumo, does he work for an oil company/bank/multinational,, is he a baller, he looks like a player” let’s be honest, black women are the most judgemental women in the world(yes, even before the mexicans). A white babe will listen to whatever bullshit you wanna spew her way and decide whether or not to give you a chance. It’s always amusing to me when I see black women saying they’ll stay in a relationship for God knows. The truth is that before you go thinking that white babes like feeling special, why not admit that they see potential in that nigga who is a janitor, gateman, driver, busdriver, plumber etc. Everyone wants to feel special, yeah, even us your black bruthas, and they make us feel special. So before you start pulling some bullshit from your ass about how easy they are, or how it’s a status thing, watch the blind side and eat some icecream, and pray to God to cure you of that oversabi attitude abeg ! Any guy who doubts me, go on instagram, follow any of those “stylists ” based in lagos, and strike up a conversation that leads to something I dare you. Why do u think I said so? Cuz I got me a date on IG with a fine white babe. No time!!!

    • guest

      February 27, 2015 at 3:40 am

      Funny how you “forgot” to mention that you find white women more attractive.

  29. Looking4Her

    February 25, 2015 at 11:46 pm

    women are women black or white, i personally feel i can relate more with a black woman than a white woman, and yeah a lot of black women have attitudes more than whites.
    white women are more submissive and way more independent( i want to believe its a culture thing) one just needs to find the right balance

  30. eyong

    February 26, 2015 at 12:59 am

    Half of you people sound very stupid. as a dark skined someone who has dated African, whitre and Asian women, I can assure you status is not the reason most of of black men marry outside. Have you ever considered that, ummm… maybe we just like he way the look? Oh, goodness, I know, now, you’re all probably saying that means I think black women are ugly. No, that’s not what I said, (my gradma happens to be the most beautiful woman in yhe wotld, thank you very much) I simple stated that I also find white women attractive and Asians also. Same way I have a black female friend who only dates whites. And an Asian friend who is head over heels inlove with a black girl. I can tell how insecure some of you are just by reading your comments, have you ever heard of the term “opposites attract? It’s quite unfortunate that you’re using your low self esteems as proof of… what exactly?

  31. Hian

    February 26, 2015 at 1:31 am

    I hope we do not become like the Black community in the US that has made this a thing. An acquaintance once told me he likes White girls because they are easy to get along with, know what they want, are not materialistic and handle theirs. He said he could not date a Nigerian girl because Naija chics are too americanized

  32. HausaGirlinTexas

    February 26, 2015 at 2:08 am

    I’ve seen many Africans in Texas, who are either married or dating a white woman, or even an African American, but when it’s time to get down to the “matters of the stomach- food” they go around begging other African girls to cook for them that homemade Egusi, ogbono, bitter leaf soup, Edikaikong, or jollof rice, thereby causing some problems in their relationships, since their women think they will always cheat with these women (Not an overgeneralization, just a common predicament)
    In addition, majority of American or African “Americanized” women are not used to cooking homemade meals everyday, let alone those traditional meals that after all said, and done, your stomach intensely craves for.
    I work in a big company in Dallas, and most of the American men and women, said they haven’t cooked or eaten homemade meals in a long time.
    However, Asian including Indians always have homemade meals.

  33. HausaGirlinTexas

    February 26, 2015 at 2:20 am

    There are so many things a man should be willing to give up permanently when you marry an oyibo, African Americanized, or African American girls,,,,your favourite/ traditional soup,The tasty and mouth watering delicacies you formerly enjoyed. Because those days will be over, before you know it.
    Like my American female coworkers and friends would say “African men are so controlling ” “They want a maid, a cook, and not a wife/girlfriend ” “They always want to jump into marriage, before or after the first date” “They want home cooked meals, like he don’t know about TV dinners” or “he wants me to go the kitchen and serve him”
    He better know this is America, and women are not treated like slaves here.

  34. lafayette bunny

    February 26, 2015 at 4:38 am

    Enough already!!! Let people keep their preferences to themselves. We do not need any validation or justification to who we choose to date. Its always easy to generalize without being mindful that we have got no statistics.
    I do understand the concerns of us African sisters seeing the dating pool shrink daily with the black men diminishing. But i’ll say let everyone follow their hearts, love will find you.

  35. amh

    February 26, 2015 at 4:50 am

    Eyong.your name says it all. No comments.cant stop laughing at your you have self esteem.i doubt it. –

  36. amh

    February 26, 2015 at 4:53 am

    Eyong are you takjing abour nija girls with liw self esteem or your black American girls. U mist be high to think nigerian girls to have liw self esteem. Nigerian girls are highly esteemed .well efucated eloquent beautiful .very attractive sophisticated and know their worth. Where did u get the rubbish u r saying.anyway ur name is eyong an not suprised by your comments

  37. Nicole

    February 26, 2015 at 5:54 am

    There are a host of reasons, but the one staring the whole world (including them) in the face is self hate. A lot of black men run away from questioning this by giving flimsy excuses. I must applaud the ones who say we are unattractive because they are unconsciously acknowledging their self hate.

    How can you find what you are genetically predisposed to produce unattractive? What does that make you? What does it say of how you see yourself? You are only responsible for the black traits in your biracial daughter. The white woman looks so attractive to you because her man has accepted her the way she is and celebrates her in every way he can. The same goes for the asian and the hispanic man. We are negroids, genetically predisposed to have kinky hair, broad features and dark skin, that is who we are inherently, the lighter population comes from mixing with europeans. Why would you judge an african by eurocentric standards of beauty? Have we judged you for not being able to style your hair in a pompadour, the way white men do? Have we judged you for not having traits you are not genetically predisposed to have?

    Yes love has no colour and you are allowed to have your preferences and all. But have you sat back to assess the factors surrounding these preferences? Could you not see how the world is shaking their head at you, when you put down a woman that looks like your mother, a woman who looks like what you are genetically predisposed to produce.

    I could go on and on, but I will end it here. Shout out to all black men especially the adonis snoozing beside me with beautiful dark skin. Black is indeed beautiful.

    • Let the truth be told!!!!

      February 26, 2015 at 8:48 am

      God bless you for this….you said it all

    • Di

      February 26, 2015 at 12:27 pm

      OMG best response. Oprah should have featured you on her ‘Black skin girls show’, ” There are a host of reasons, but the one staring the whole world (including them) in the face is self hate.” resounds well with the issue. Deep soul searching is what is needed. Having a white woman on your arms doesn’t change your skin color nor what the world sees nor the prejudice.

  38. Nor

    February 26, 2015 at 6:27 am

    I’m white, my husband is Yoruba. We are lucky to work together, live together, spend almost every minute of two years together. We just enjoy each other’s company and that is why we are together. We’ve both been with white/black before, but we choose the person we have love and life with!

  39. mx

    February 26, 2015 at 8:47 am

    black women get over your selfs pls…many r just bitter bcus black men r highly desirable among other races.its not that black men hate u its ur attitudes that drive them men have been putting up with black women drama yet they wont let us have peace if we date outside our race.if a black woman date a white guy black men dnt even give a – abt it bcus we see it as y r u calling black men names.yes i knw some marry fr various reasons outside love but its not perculair to black me.i have dated white girls nd black girls bliv me when i say black girls have too much drama and insecurities,look around u and see black girls with fake hair,bleached skin d list goes cousin when in nigeria had to act rich just to get girls but he is now in a love relationship to a white girl who earns more than him.u turn black men dwn noq uvr angry they love us.if our girls of this generation were like our past women we wnt b having this discussion.i

    • mz_daniels

      February 26, 2015 at 12:01 pm

      Please define ‘past generations’ cos till 1960, there was serious racism in America so y’all black folks prolly didn’t hv much of a choice. Besides, Absentee fathers hv been the challenge with African Americans for yrs, guess slavery has it’s consequences, must of which are a slavery mentality that keeps you poor or a low self esteem that makes you deny your own after you’ve made it. Ben Carson wrote about this. Black women do hv drama but with what they have to put up with, I applaud this, gangsterism, thug life and watching their older females struggle and put up with useless men so they know that being single is better than crap.
      Black men who date white women subconsciously treat them better than their black counterparts because they are white. And the black women can be easy going because really, their histories are easier than that of the blacks; butter babes in Lag are easier than the Pako babes na. But really, you can remove low self esteem and self hate from the conscious desire to date outside your race ( note that I said conscious desire because we can find love anywhere)..

      Think about it, Obama was raised by a white step mum and married a STRONG black woman. maybe cos he was devoid of the black man self hate syndrome, maybe fate and love. We never know.

      Finally bella, please stop importing foreign issues to this site, it doesn’t make the site look global, it’s just pretentious.

    • What??

      February 26, 2015 at 9:20 pm

      Obama was raised by his white mother. What is this story about a step mum?

    • Ekalor

      February 27, 2015 at 1:41 pm

      Bella Naija is not for only Nigerians living in NIgeria..
      There is nothing pretentious about that especially on this issue…

    • guest

      February 27, 2015 at 4:09 am

      So why do black women have attitude?
      Because THEIR OWN BLACK MEN prefer white women.

  40. Freeworld

    February 26, 2015 at 10:19 am

    This author sef. Everything ” read the last paragraph” ah ah is that what this whole article is based on?

    • Munir Bello

      February 26, 2015 at 6:55 pm

      Nope but it’s relevant to those comments

  41. nwanyi na aga aga

    February 26, 2015 at 10:30 am

    Well i will not condemn anyone for loving people of other race or color irrespective of what their reasons are. I for one love oyibo men, so tender, so loving, so kind and considerate, so soft, less drama, no questions about how rich my father is or not, village, church nothing simple loving and nice, now I will not knock another person’s hustle, if Oyibo is your take good, if black is your take good. But one thing that amazes me is when some black men date black women, they re so controlling, so arrogant, so unkind, yet you see the same guy date a white woman he changes to a humble servant cooking meals, apologizing, buying groceries, doing laundries hian! You keep asking your self wetin happen? is it that he didn’t love the black woman? is it the shame/contempt in familiarity? Is the fear that if he has issues with the Oyibo woman in their country the authorities are likely to be on the woman’s side? I have gone ahead to inquire of one like that, The answer he gave me was that Oyibo culture made men do all these job, that why will a black girl want him to do that for her, whether her father went to market? that she wants to be like Oyibo where she was not.. Hian! i weak wetin I wan talk, as for me I dey use idea find another Oyibo nor curse me, but when you sip the purian sea , you will want to drink deep..Looool!

    • idomagirl

      February 26, 2015 at 3:00 pm

      Gbam! On point!

  42. lis

    February 26, 2015 at 11:07 am

    Maybe black women should be more open to dating outside their race as well, then it wouldn’t be a problem. I lived in Canada and to be honest black men there really do prefer or act like they prefer white women so I decided to not waste time waiting to be noticed and my strong, black attitudey self got married to a successful young handsome white man. Why wait for crumbs when you can dine on caviar at other tables ladies??

    • idomagirl

      February 26, 2015 at 2:59 pm

      Bless you!!!!!!! I share the exact same sentiment.

  43. Amh

    February 26, 2015 at 11:47 am

    In my circle of friends who are doctors, surgeons opthamologist, lecturers and lawyers, none is married to a white woman. Only the young Igbo boys that do I presume cuz they r new and trying to look for ways to settle into the system which I think it’s a mistake because you can settle into a western world through skilled migrant directly from home or apply for a job from home if you are in the right field. Why succumb yourself to trash cuz of papers. To each its own. But the topic does not concern us Nigerians. It’s mostly for black Americans. Even my friends kids marry from Nigerian circle. Except the young desperate boys but you can sense they are uncomfortable and the wives trying to fit in desperately. Nija for life,

    • guest

      February 27, 2015 at 4:03 am

      You are obviously very hateful and jealous of white women because you envy their white beauty.
      Old school blacks settled for black women.
      Young black men will not be so easy to satisfy.

  44. nnenne

    February 26, 2015 at 1:02 pm

    Still love my Naija men. I chose to marry one.
    I can live anywhere in the world but by the end of the day I have a place I call home/My very own. My coming generation will have that ownership too.
    I can’t get that from my oyinbo people and other blacks.
    A good Naija man is it anytime, anywhere, any day.
    To all their own!

  45. Nicole

    February 26, 2015 at 2:50 pm

    There is a lot of self hate going on on the black race and it truly needs addressing and healing. As a child, I remember how I wished to marry a white man because of the images I was fed with. I remember times when I would get into arguments with people when they said Desmond Elliot or Femi Brainard was more attractive than Ramsey Noah. Why? Because I believed that beauty was only in lighter shades. Heck at some point, I thought very dark-skinned people were all going to hell because of how they were portrayed in movies…especially Nigerian Movies (Judge me.. but I am just letting you know how ignorant I was). I am light brown and was always told that I was beautiful, so I always had a healthy sense of self. But I grew out of my ignorance, way before I started educating myself on racism and white supremacy. Unconsciously, I stopped watching or concentrating on movies where there was no one that looked like me.

    The two men I have ever loved are as dark as it gets. Dear Black man, I love you. I could never compare you to any other race of man because you have your unique features….It’s pointless. Why would you judge me for the same features we share? Why would you judge me according to standards that were created to suit caucasians or any thing as close as possible? If you genuinely find love with a pale woman then fine.

    But do me a favour my king,

    Read The Willie Lynch Letters
    Watch Hidden Colours on primewire
    Read The miseducation of the Negro
    Read Brainwashed: Challenging the myth of Black Inferiority.
    ……..and so much more…..
    Do some soul searching and evaluate your so-called preferences. Remember that:
    Black relationships= More Black People=Black Power. That is the last thing the white racists and supremacists want. We are the first race on planet earth, other races came from us so how can we not be beautiful? Why do we feel the need to be beautiful according to the white man’s standards? Who is he?

    • guest

      February 27, 2015 at 3:52 am

      The first humans were white.
      Black skin came along as an adaptive protective barrier against the powerful rays of the sun.
      White people are simply more beautiful.
      That is why black men want white women.

    • guest

      February 27, 2015 at 3:54 am

      Google “Willie Lynch hoax”.
      Top black scholars believe it was a hoax.

    • guest

      February 27, 2015 at 3:58 am

      Even if blacks were the “first race,” why would that mean blacks are more attractive?
      Homo erectus came before ANYONE.
      Does that mean homo erectus are even more beautiful?

    • guest

      February 27, 2015 at 4:00 am

      So you’re interested in “BLACK POWER”???
      Even if there were ” BLACK POWER”, those powerful black men would simply turn their love to WHITE WOMEN.

  46. gbam

    February 26, 2015 at 3:52 pm










    • guest

      February 27, 2015 at 3:48 am

      If love has no color, why do 99% of famous black men marry white/light women?

  47. guest

    February 27, 2015 at 3:26 am

    What does “status” even mean????
    Doesn’t STATUS mean beautiful ???
    A LAMBORGHINI vehicle is a “status” symbol vehicle because it is a gorgeous, beautiful car that EVERYONE would love to have.
    Same thing with a white woman.
    A white woman is a “status symbol” because she is the best, and EVERYBODY wants one.

    • Nicole

      February 27, 2015 at 1:03 pm

      I can see your trolling comments everywhere and I find it quite hilarious. It is either you are a black man or a white person (man or woman). Either ways I have news for you.
      Black man, you have been brainwashed, your ancestors were and so are you. You have been thought to hate yourself and love the oppressor from the moment you were born, your environment and what you see in the media has made you see yourself this way, hence you want nothing to do with anything or anyone that reminds you of yourself. Slavery/ Colonialism made you physically strong, but emotionally weak and that slave/colonial mentality has been passed down from generation to generation. Learn about your history, stop relying on mainstream media, it is controlled by the white man and the last thing he wants is to portray you in a positive light. Do you know how you look to the world when you are paired with a white woman, you look like a slave. Haven’t you questioned why the white man is eager to pair you with his woman in adverts? He wants to portray you as a weak man who would rather be a slave than love and protect his own.

      White Woman or Man: “white people are more attractive”? Lol…..make yourself happy. If your pale skin was so wonderful, why do you tan? Even with all the health risks. If your features were wonderful, why do you get lip injections? Why do you age in dog years? Why do you spend so much to get curves? If not for the backlash, you, your daughters and sisters would be walking around with braids, dreads and kinked up hair. (Oh I forgot, your hair is not very versatile) All these,are features that black women naturally have. Lie that you are not tired of your flat and non-versatile hair. Beauty is socially constructed so who are you to create the standard. You are not even sure if you were the first race lol. If you were so wonderful, why does your race thrive on putting other races down to uplift themselves. You can’t stand to be put down, that is why you commit suicide at the slightest downfall.

      If the Willie Lynch Letters were hoax, why are his control mechanisms still playing out 303 years later? (Light skin vs Dark skin, Physically strong but emotionally weak black men, Psychologically independent black women). You are NOT a price, the marketing campaign for white supremacy is getting weaker and weaker. How does it feel to be with a mentally enslaved man? Why does your marriage to the black man never last, for the most part? Interracial marriages between white men and black women are known to last longer. How does it feel being with a man who is with you for all the wrong reasons? Who stares at a woman that looks like him even as he is with you. Who still chimes in on issues regarding her, Who questions why he is not with her. Who would at some point cheat on you with her. Who for the most part runs back to be with her.

      You can’t put a price tag on the chemistry between a black man and woman. He came out of that woman’s womb, he is nothing without her. She has so much effect on him, that’s why he reacts to her be it negatively or positively.

      You are nothing but a temporary object, a black man uses to deal with his insecurities. When we eventually have black power (which we will), the black man would have no business with you, because then, they would realise that you and your kind are nothing but a bunch of recessive thieves.

      PS: BN you better post this, the black race needs healing and you know it.

    • Nicole

      February 27, 2015 at 1:10 pm


  48. cindy

    February 27, 2015 at 4:37 am

    White women don’t have attitude be cause they were never slaves

  49. AL

    February 27, 2015 at 4:48 am

    It’s 2015, we’re suppose to be well ahead of where we are now. Who gives a shit about what color we date or marry. The number one thing is, is it love? Cause we can lust after our on race, but do you have in your heart you love that person. Are you that person that’s just dating your race cause it’s the right thing to do, tradition, but really is it in your heart. Cause really that person that is not your skin tone could be the perfect match if you would have given it a try. Oh yes attitude, we all got that in some kind of way. But a failure to communicate outside of our on, is a failure to make this nation stronger as a American. Don’t worry about this guy dating a white girl or vice versa, that’s them worry about yourself.

  50. solo

    February 27, 2015 at 11:14 am

    The article and almost every comment here is f-ing stupid. I was born in naija and grew up and live in Toronto. We date whoever the f- we match up with. My mother and sisters are the most influential people in my life but my fiance is not black. I dont walk around thinking about what race to date.

    And to the idiots saying a certain group of women dont do certain things, get off the net and go meet real people. My lady has more ‘attitude’ than most black girls ive dated (I like women that have opinions), she does the housework she feels like doing and is a career woman that make more than most men I know. So shut the f- up, everyone should their life and find happiness.

    • Carmen

      February 27, 2015 at 1:55 pm

      And you really had to swear so many times just to make your (rather basic) point? Sounds like your inadequacy in the English language is what is stupid.

    • solo

      February 28, 2015 at 11:51 am

      @carmen. I swore a lot because I’m tired of insecure people trying to paint their problems on others.

      Also before you criticize my English, you wrote 2 sentences and butchered your grammer in both. So ease up on the projection.

  51. Engoz

    February 27, 2015 at 12:46 pm

    Lol, the picture. You guys should continue flaming the stereotypes that it is black men that are predatory on ‘helpless’ white women when it is evident both prey on each other. This is the same stereotype that put many black men in jail or killed, when the white woman screams rape meanwhile the sexual act was consensual. They have managed to make it look like black men are going about looking for whom to rape, meanwhile it was actually white men that went on a raping spree with black women. That is why I do not like the title of this article, because both prey on each other.

    Nigerian men love all women, there is no crime in that, please let’s not imbibe the black american female attitude of always fighting that their men should be with them only. Are they bread? lol Please we don’t care if the men go to the arctic to get a woman, only insecure girls care. Nigerian girls are not limited in dating white men either, in fact from bellanaija alone I see more Nigerian girls married to white. Does that mean Nigerian girls now have an affinity for white men?

  52. Naveah

    February 27, 2015 at 5:18 pm

    I have NEVER ever bought into that excuse that black women are supposedly loud, angry and filled with attitude. The same negative attributes can be found in women of all other races, I have seen and have known some angry, loud and seriously attitudinal White, Hispanic and Asian women. SOME black men see women as the ultimate possession to own, a trophy to display and sign that they’ve finally made it. My issue with black men who specifically chose to ignore black women and sought out women is indulge yourself BUT do not insult black women in the process to give yourself an excuse for your self contempt! If they are who you prefer, own it but don’t feel the need to give yourself an excuse and put your mama and sisters down in the process.

    Personally speaking, my attitude has always been if a black man doesn’t want to date me because I am loud (I speak up for myself and for what is right), angry (I will not be a door mat, I will own and express my feelings) and filled with attitude (miss me with your BS) then keep it moving, bruh. You cannot deal with a strong woman of substance.

    I don’t even know how these white women don’t questions some of the reasons some of this black men state for dating them – easy to get in bed, will do anything in bed, are submissive and the unspoken one a trophy to be show as the ultimate accomplishment. They probably don’t even think about it because they have been trained all their lives to believe that EVERYONE wants and needs them. They have been placed on pedestals all their lives, made to feel special so they don’t even question the motive behind why some of these black men date them…or could it be that they don’t care because they believe every black man is a mandingo with a base ball bat for a penis?

  53. Naveah

    February 27, 2015 at 5:19 pm

    Naveah February 27, 2015 at 5:18 pm

    I have NEVER ever bought into that excuse that black women are supposedly loud, angry and filled with attitude. The same negative attributes can be found in women of all other races, I have seen and have known some angry, loud and seriously attitudinal White, Hispanic and Asian women. SOME black men see WHITE women as the ultimate possession to own, a trophy to display and sign that they’ve finally made it. My issue with black men who specifically chose to ignore black women and sought out white women is indulge yourself BUT do not insult black women in the process to give yourself an excuse for your self contempt! If they are who you prefer, own it but don’t feel the need to give yourself an excuse and put your mama and sisters down in the process.

    Personally speaking, my attitude has always been if a black man doesn’t want to date me because I am loud (I speak up for myself and for what is right), angry (I will not be a door mat, I will own and express my feelings) and filled with attitude (miss me with your BS) then keep it moving, bruh. You cannot deal with a strong woman of substance.

    I don’t even know how these white women don’t questions some of the reasons some of this black men state for dating them – easy to get in bed, will do anything in bed, are submissive and the unspoken one a trophy to be show as the ultimate accomplishment. They probably don’t even think about it because they have been trained all their lives to believe that EVERYONE wants and needs them. They have been placed on pedestals all their lives, made to feel special so they don’t even question the motive behind why some of these black men date them…or could it be that they don’t care because they believe every black man is a mandingo with a base ball bat for a penis?

  54. H.T. Smith

    March 3, 2015 at 7:00 pm

    As a married black guy, I sorely wish I had married an African American woman. When I was in college, the black women were always chasing the athletes, the charismatic guys, the men with cars. The attractive ones always seemed to have 5 boyfriends.including white guys. The ones that were not attractive had good personalities, but seem to really let themselves go physically. I was a more ordinary fellow. I was pretty handsome, but nerdy and shy. I was in the library studying. I tried time and time again to ask them out, in clubs, at church, at school, at work. I cannot tell you the number of times I got my feeling hurt. Alas, I ended up setting for a Caribbean woman. This is not denigration woman from the Caribbean. But my cultural background was that of a black guy who identified with black woman. When I say this, I only mean to say that I always dreamed about being with a black American woman. I, by the way, am now a millionaire with a Ph.D..

  55. Never trust White men/women

    March 6, 2015 at 7:14 pm

    Wake up folks….I don’t date white men..because they are crazy and ..they can control you whatever they want. They are evil..I don’t care if you said not all of them…STILL…I never trust them period…I will marry my king African and then make princess and prince babies because I want to keep my generation.

  56. Layla

    August 8, 2015 at 12:17 am

    One thing a lot of interracial couples like to do is lie and tell everyone life is great , we are 100% happy ,they never have arguements or problems -I’m not buying that (I know real life examples). That some how the problems that occur are only in black relationships. When society is against your man or girl that’s when time will show how deep the love is. Black love gets tested to the full extent, the media pushes the idea that if you go with the white man or white woman you will be more successful , life will be more exciting , more fun, sexier, easier and more beautiful. Many people have swallowed that pill and that’s fine just admit it. Peace and love.

  57. handsomerandyblackladdiebrad1953

    November 29, 2015 at 8:37 pm

    Since I happen to be a black Canadian chap,62,who’s regarded cover boy handsome AND possessing a 150-160 IQ,OF COURSE I prefer buxom blondes and Latinas between 22 and 40!!!!
    What red-blooded lad(And I consider myself VERY MUCH a lad!!!)doesn’t?Howeved,because I’m a Country music fan who’s trying to become a song-writer,and often don cowboy gear,I COULDN’TT RESIST long-haired,dark-skinned,buxom black cowgirl sort who also wears Daisy Dukes!!!!

  58. handsomerandyblackladdiebrad1953

    November 29, 2015 at 8:38 pm

    I meant “However,” and “Couldn’t” of course!!!!!!!!

  59. handsomerandyblackladdiebrad1953

    November 29, 2015 at 8:39 pm

    How ’bout “love,” which isn’t black,white,red,blue,green OR ANY OTHER COLOUR!!!!!!!!!

  60. handsomerandyblackladdiebrad1953

    November 29, 2015 at 8:41 pm

    Yeahmand your “generation” might shoot you in the a**,rob or rape you,etc.Bottom line:THERE ARE SNAKES AND PRINCES (princesses) INALL GROUPS!!!!!!

  61. handsomerandyblackladdiebrad1953

    November 29, 2015 at 8:43 pm

    H.T. Smith,like MOST broads,black chicks are VERY materialistic,except they are more open about their greed!!!!!!!

  62. handsomerandyblackladdiebrad1953

    March 14, 2016 at 2:42 pm

    Clubs??????CLUBS???????I’m glad I’m 62-63 July 6-because were I a young chap,I couldn’t imaging clubbing to get some stupid,money-grubbing broad who’d leave along with my money!
    (I’m a cover boy handsome,62-year-old black Canadian lad who’s seeking bosomy lasses between 22 and 40!!)

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