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Anita Oyakhilome is in a thankful mood.

You will recall that last year, it was reported that Anita and Chris Oyakhilome of Christ Embassy were going through a divorce.

And now, Anita is counting her blessings, as she reflects on the year 2015.

She took to her website, pastoranita.org to share her feelings:

December is the last month of the year, and a chance for everyone to reflect. Here are her thoughts:

I start every month thankful and for this month of December I am eternally grateful. I am worthy of love, to give and receive. I have value and self-respect, no one has the ability to oppress, suppress or depress me. I am enough and complete in God. My today is better than yesterday. I have come to a place of wholeness, strength and joy. God pulled me out of mess; I have a happy life free from abuse.

No one can take the place of God; he is sovereign and reigns forever. Man is mortal and his days on earth are numbered. When the end comes, it is a glorious thing to return to our maker, to dwell in His holiness and truth.

The end of the year brings a rebirth of another year. The death of something can be the rebirth of another thing. All is not lost.

Whatever happens in your life, no matter how distressing things might seem. When darkness appears endless, watch out for that tiny spark of light, when you can muster up the courage to thank God for closed doors. In the process of counting your blessings, you find joy!

89 Comments

  1. kadara

    December 3, 2015 at 3:37 pm

    i’m happy for her that she took that brave step. life is too short to start in an unhappy marriage that isn’t changing in order to satisfy society. They won’t be there when you are crying at night so let anyone say whatever they want. The worst example you can give to your children is to stay in an abusive marriage.

    • Elvis

      December 3, 2015 at 5:06 pm

      @Kadara who in the world said she was abused. This feminism streak is eating up alot of ladies up. Toke Makinwa is realising this also. I listen to her last vlog on “cheating a Deal Breaker”. .. Pls note you and your husband don’t have equal rights. The white can bring up wat they think is the way to live just to bring African homes down bcs theirs is just divorce.

    • kiki

      December 3, 2015 at 5:30 pm

      Ur so pathetic dear… I dont blame you

    • ofili ogochukwu

      December 3, 2015 at 5:39 pm

      please kindly tell the difference between the man and the woman’s rights?

    • ofili ogochukwu

      December 3, 2015 at 5:40 pm

      and what makes the man more equal than the woman?

    • Foxtrot

      December 3, 2015 at 6:46 pm

      Twat!

    • elsa

      December 3, 2015 at 7:19 pm

      shut up and sit down!!!

    • Tari

      December 3, 2015 at 9:51 pm

      Even as a man, shame dey catch me for this kind comment.

    • Onyeka

      December 3, 2015 at 10:06 pm

      And someone will marry you. If you think because you have a male organ your a higher being then it’s clear the distribution of sense is more in your groin that in your head. If you want you be a real man realise that your wife is not beneath you and she will elevate you herself. It’s people like you that can’t stand educated women… because they threaten your masculinity

      Abeg park well…

    • Mystique

      December 3, 2015 at 10:40 pm

      I am really sorry, but you sound quite stupid.

    • Corolla

      December 3, 2015 at 10:42 pm

      @Elvis, I feel bad for your wife, sisters and daughters. You most certainly are a disgrace to mankind.

    • thinkaboutit

      December 4, 2015 at 2:07 am

      So leaving an abusive marriage/relationship is now a “white man thing”? Wait a minute….So african women deserve to be abused because we should not follow the “white man’s” values? Are you listening to yourself? YOU ARE AS IGNORANT AS THEY COME.

      When you’ve spent a lifetime raising a beautiful & intelligent daughter and some moron thinks he can abuse her in the name of marriage I wonder if you will remind her NOT to follow the “white man’s” culture….SMH

    • Ebere

      December 4, 2015 at 2:16 am

      Do me a favor please, gerarehia for real………..

    • Bami

      December 4, 2015 at 5:32 am

      what kind of thinking is this? Women are free to think and decide for themselves. Marriage is not all that, only African culture makes it a do or die affair! Anita enjoy your life ojare ! smart move.

    • nonamespls

      December 4, 2015 at 3:43 pm

      huh? so husband has a right to cheat abi? i see plus if you ca read you would see that she said she is living free from abuse

    • Debbie Ade

      December 4, 2015 at 8:57 pm

      What do you mean by who in the world said she was abused? Did you experience her marriage with her??? Smh! Think before you type please~!!!

  2. chi-e-z

    December 3, 2015 at 3:37 pm

    Can’t blame the woman jare Life is to short to be unhappy and with someone who increases the stress from it already times 2. Just know Life is not about money, material goods, or even just your happiness but ur walk with G-d.

  3. Farouk

    December 3, 2015 at 3:42 pm

    This woman use to be som1 i repect alot but these days i dont just get her! When things transpire in marriages women are always the ones who run out to cry foul! But reasonable ppl know that events dont happen in isolation! You left this man and for once he has never said anytin against you..u are d one who appears, always to be seeking attention with this your strange motivational posts! What happened to all those your messages on rhapsody? I am not trying to criticize you ma! Like i said u r som1 i respect, am just surprise with this new you! For me it seems like u r trying to get your pound of flesh, but have u considered the effect this might have on your flocks or should i say ex flocks? Or doesnt it matter? And i agree with not sitting down and letting som1 abuse u…i have never taken that scripture literarily that talks about turning the other cheek! I have always assumed it meant u should just forget and let it go…i definitely wouldnt turn the other cheek….but i think these petty forms of what appears to be ‘revenge’ or ‘an eye for eye’ its not d best. My perception might be wrong tho bcos i am not inside you, neither can i say for sure what transpired. Nevertheless i still love and respect u ma…and wish u d best!

    • Zee

      December 3, 2015 at 4:10 pm

      You can’t judge her because you know nothing about her except that she is married to a famous pastor and that their marriage is over.
      You can’t judge her based on these subtle headlines that indirectly reminds us of unconfirmed stories about her marriage.
      You do not know what she is all about. You cannot confirm that she is talking about her marriage here.
      You know nothing about this woman.
      The Church is for Christ. Let Him take care of your concerns about members of Christ Embassy. This woman owes you nothing. You do not know her.

    • OpenSesame

      December 3, 2015 at 4:12 pm

      But if you don’t know what she’s been through how can you even speak?

      She has a right to say what she wants. It’s not a petty form of revenge….she’s grateful for the life she has now and it wouldn’t be out of order for her to scream it on the mountaintop if she so desires.

      The reason you think women cry foul is because abuse suppresses you, by the time you realise what has been done to you so much time has passed and when you finally snap out of it you don’t want anyone else to go through the same, so you talk about it.

      She has a public image & if I were in her shoes, I’d use that image to bring light to abuse & its devastating effects.

      This isn’t about he said, she said. No one really cares about that. Even if her ex husband (or she) is proved to be in the wrong today it won’t do anything to fix all either party has been through. She is moving on, part of moving on is finding your voice and using it as you wish…so let her be.

    • OJ

      December 3, 2015 at 7:07 pm

      ”This isn’t about he said, she said. No one really cares about that. Even if her ex husband (or she) is proved to be in the wrong today it won’t do anything to fix all either party has been through. She is moving on, part of moving on is finding your voice and using it as you wish…so let her be.

      According to ur statement he/she said doesnt matter right? but now she is saying she was abused and she’s her voice as she wishes. ever considered if she was in the wrong and she is still playing the victim? would it also matter if chris voices out about the abuse he went through while with her?
      u try so hard to downplay what you dont know about and end up contradicting yourself in the process

    • Open Sesame

      December 3, 2015 at 11:20 pm

      @OJ , for your information I know A LOT about this.
      You obviously know nothing about it so you’re as insensitive as you’re ignorant.

      If Chris has been abused let him speak up if he wants to. It’s very unlikely that he has. This is Anita’s way of healing and your ignorant comments won’t change that.

      Anyone who has ever been abused will know how painful it is. Some people never recover so let her do what she needs to do to heal and if she helps someone else in the process, brilliant!

      Not everything that someone says that’s not considered ‘nice is shade. Somethings are just truth and one of the signs of recovery from abuse is speaking your truth rather than living in denial.

    • Ada

      December 3, 2015 at 4:25 pm

      Forget that thing abeg. I read a sermon from Pastor Chris this year on not being equally yoked with unbelievers. In that sermon he said an elephant cannot be yoked with an ant! I read that sermon! And he preached that sermon in the thick of the news of him breaking up with his wife and me I know without doubt that it wasn’t himself he was calling ant! He definitely has made reference to his wife.
      That said, the woman feels free right now and is just expressing herself/telling other people to be free.

      This might be my bias showing but I have never even been a fan of this Pastor.

    • Le coco

      December 3, 2015 at 4:55 pm

      @ada.. you r right.. This man has been subtly throwing jabs at Anita for months… I remember when he was addressing the church about the issue nd he was sort of patronising her.. saying stuff like “don’t blame her.. but pray for her.. she doesn’t know what she is doing”… making her seem like she is delusional.. making the church thing he is the bigger person… mtchew… I am happy Anita is in a good space

    • Ebere

      December 4, 2015 at 2:25 am

      Farouk, take the back seat. Watch, learn and pray never to be in a situation that requires you to break a vow because you are not making sense right now( i am sorry to say that). She doesn’t need your respect, keep it in your piggy bank and just pray for them……

  4. Rukee

    December 3, 2015 at 3:48 pm

    I keep hearing her and ppl talk about abuse. Pls abuse in what sense? The use of vague words could be dangerous,,,becos it leaves ppl to use their imaginations are come to what ever conclusions they deem fit! Pls those of us here shouting abuse! How was she abused?

    • Anon

      December 3, 2015 at 4:04 pm

      Farouk AKA Rukee – “I am not trying to criticize you ma!”

      Read your two posts again. Except, you don’t know what the word means.

      Abuse isn’t a vague word. You are not trying to criticise her yet you want to know what forms of abuse she went through so you can criticise her even more. MYB!

    • ATL's finest

      December 3, 2015 at 6:08 pm

      Lmao @ Anon well they always change the name & forget to change the E-mail. Abeg Farouk, Rukee, Cookie etc will be aight.

    • FasholasLover

      December 3, 2015 at 6:19 pm

      @Rukee aka Farouk, BURSTED!!!!!!

      Abuse is when you hv to call husby’s PA to find out where in the world husby is.
      Abuse is when the PA has to schedule time in for you to see your husband or talk to him.
      Abuse is when the man is busy being “BOSS” all over the world giving succour to others while you hold your pillow at night crying.
      Abuse is when your husby belittles you albeit subtly so much so that you begin to doubt your own sanity. And it goes on……….

    • Ebere

      December 4, 2015 at 2:28 am

      FasholaLover, you are giving me life right now…….Preach Sister/Brother……….You are wonderful

    • NaijaPikin

      December 3, 2015 at 5:30 pm

      Why does the type of abuse matter? All form of abuse are wrong. Whether mental, physical, or verbal, ALL WRONG

    • Toriola

      December 3, 2015 at 7:19 pm

      Oh common, you are being deliberately dense. There are all kinds of abuse our women endure at the hands of these men: physical, emotional, verbal, sexual, economic etc. I won’t be surprised if her husband was abusive to her in any of these ways. The sort of man who thinks he is the “head” of the woman is the type who deals his wife a hot slap daily before morning devotion.

    • Chi

      December 3, 2015 at 10:08 pm

      There is physical, mental, emotional and psychological abuse. Its not until a man physically hits you that you’re abused. He or she can do it by word of mouth (which actually hurts more than physical beatings) and other means.

      So don’t be too quick to comment.

  5. Author Unknown

    December 3, 2015 at 3:54 pm

    And free from greasy pillowcases 🙂 There are two sides to every story sha.

    • IMA

      December 3, 2015 at 4:13 pm

      you wicked gaan…lmao @greesy pillowcases.

    • SoSo

      December 3, 2015 at 4:28 pm

      Gurrrrlllll!

    • Las

      December 3, 2015 at 4:29 pm

      I see what you did there 😀

    • Author Known

      December 3, 2015 at 4:59 pm

      Author Unknown, you’re bad!!!!!!!!!LoL….

    • kanyin

      December 3, 2015 at 5:18 pm

      Loool @ greasy pillowcases! That is just wicked! Lmaooo!

    • ATL's finest

      December 3, 2015 at 6:10 pm

      ????????????????? who thinks of ishy like ” greasy pillowcases”? Smh BN folks wouldn’t kill me.

    • Krasavitsa

      December 3, 2015 at 7:32 pm

      Lmaoooooo! BNers making my day since I first stumbled on this site.

    • belle

      December 3, 2015 at 8:28 pm

      Shadeology choi

    • Ada Nnewi

      December 3, 2015 at 10:10 pm

      Rotflmao! ?

    • nwanyi na aga aga

      December 4, 2015 at 10:45 am

      Greasy pillowcase* scratches head* please someone should usher me into this anointing that has not been revealed to me..Bikonu help a sister..Looool!

    • Sky Blue

      December 4, 2015 at 3:21 pm

      LOL… I believe it’s in reference to the goo he uses on his Jerry Curls.

  6. lc

    December 3, 2015 at 4:25 pm

    Aunty Anita you are throwing shade to your ex hubby lmao!!

  7. OJ

    December 3, 2015 at 4:44 pm

    The women will always play the victim at the end of the day shaa. Chris doesnt even talk about the divorce, he seemed to have let go and moved on with his own life. Madam pls move on too, u have enjoyed everything possible money wealth fame can buy as the wife of pastor chris and i’m sure financially u are very very ok after the divorce…..so what else do u want again, call police for the man in the name of a kind of abuse we dont know about? if u need to talk about what happened it past, its not on social media…..go see a therapist

    • Open Sesame

      December 3, 2015 at 5:05 pm

      Lol. You’re so funny and ignorant. Let’s assume like you said he doesn’t talk about the divorce – if you’re the abuser who has stripped another of their person and abandoned them for years, what have you lost in a divorce esp if you have the power and influence to get another?

      Anita is the one who suffered the abuse. Hence why she is the one speaking about it. She isn’t speaking about the divorce she is speaking about her life and what she’s been through and how far she’s come (with or without a therapist).

      People like you who keep telling abuse victims to keep quiet are almost as bad as the abuser. Victims of abuse need to speak up. Not everyone will do it online but part of the healing process is letting it out in whatever way you’re comfortable with.

      You’ve heard that money doesn’t buy happiness right? So your point about the money is irrelevant.

      I would say ‘let her be’ but quite frankly your opinion won’t change what she does. I’m only replying you to educate you.

    • OJ

      December 3, 2015 at 5:58 pm

      keep fooling yourself. wasnt the divorce part of what she went through?

    • Sil

      December 3, 2015 at 11:57 pm

      @open sesame….I observe how you are too quick to call people ignorant, showing you are either the most ignorant (since you never lived with these folks and only taking sides) or you have a personal story to share here about some painful abuse. Pls speak up, we will understand ‘too’

    • Open Sesame

      December 4, 2015 at 12:45 am

      @Sil, I don’t need to live with them to know. FYI, they didn’t live together for ages anyway, so I’m not sure what you mean by ‘live with them’. I owe you nothing so even if I had a personal story to share, you won’t be hearing it, pele.

      I’ll never be in support of abuse of any kind regardless of which gender it’s directed to. If the roles were reversed, I’d say the same.

      I know enough to about this particular case to comment. I generally don’t go back & forth replying but too many people are suffering from abuse and like someone else on here said when it’s covered with spirituality it’s even more complex. If you don’t understand the effects it has on its victims, at least admit that and let those who know speak so others can be helped.

    • Anon

      December 3, 2015 at 5:07 pm

      money wealth?
      Do you know it was her Dad who gave them money to start the church? She’s from a rich home. Money and wealth are the least of her problems.

    • OJ

      December 3, 2015 at 5:53 pm

      my point is, she’s able to do very well for herself too on her own terms, so why did she remain if the guy was abusing her? or was it not on this same forum ladies were giving all kinds of excuses ranging from the woman not having enough money to support herself and all that if she leaves man…..there are two sides to the story, we’ve heard her’s let hear from Chris

    • Chi

      December 3, 2015 at 10:13 pm

      Money made from tithes. You guys are just too gullible. Now she should go enjoy the supposed money of god. Pay more tithes please and make them richer.

  8. bawa

    December 3, 2015 at 4:49 pm

    @ Rukee, abuse comes in many forms. it’s her prerogative if he chooses to enlighten the world. Mental or physical, it’s still abuse and abhorrent.

  9. bawa

    December 3, 2015 at 4:50 pm

    *she*

  10. abby

    December 3, 2015 at 5:04 pm

    All will be well with us if we av d Christlike character….I suppose u r a xtain ma, pls read Matthew to john, put down everything that Christ did when he was faced with tribulations..read everything again, then ask the Holy Spirit to help u b more like christ. If u r a true christian…no marriage is irreconcilable! !! At least for the sake of the name of God u always call. (We r just good at dis pity party thing) !…

    • Rosie

      December 3, 2015 at 5:35 pm

      Very sensible statement Abby, I really don”t get pastor Anita…. can she at least try to keep everything private and not shade her husband anymore….if this statement came from Pastor Chris, am sure everyone would have ate him alive……. It is well with you Anita and try to hv more Christlike character by letting go of the pain and hurt.

    • le coco

      December 3, 2015 at 6:32 pm

      letting go of the pain and hurt? really? like it is so easy.. were you the one enduring years of abuse? you clearly hv never been in her shoes so how dare you say something like that… she is not insulting or shading anyone. she is talking about her expirience. stating a fact is not shade.. SHE WAS ABUSED…she is in pain.. she chooses to deal with it by writing about It instead of bottling it up. Nd that is her right.. writing on her blog may be a way she chooses to heal… so leave her alone.

  11. Rukee

    December 3, 2015 at 5:15 pm

    @bawa i know abuse comes in diffferent forms thats why i would have loved to know how she was abused! But of course she has the right not to tell me!
    My point is some times vague words could be misleading as its subject to personal interpretation; its like in africa here, if u have mayb an argument with an elderly person and u raise ur voice even if it was just in self defence or to emphasize ur point…when the elder is reporting the case…and says ‘i was insulted by bawa’…that could be disastrous because ppl wu listen to such statements are likely to draw all soughts of conclusions and explain things in their own way. By time the story is being reported by someone else it could sound like ‘can u imagine small bawa of yesterday, insulting pa john, sayin all sorts of rubbish’…by time u hear from a 5th reporter words would hav been added ‘bawa called pa john a senseless old man’….i bliv u get the drift!
    And something similar happened when their divorce news first came up, people were saying all soughts of things.

    • OJ

      December 3, 2015 at 6:18 pm

      thats the problem when people are not specific with what they mean….it can mean anything to anybody. if she has the prerogative to bring it up on social media then she should also clear the air on the kind of abuse she got and why she remained in the marriage despite….speculations upon speculations will unnecessarily tarnish the image of the ex hubby. besides, who knows if chris was not abused too??

    • Tari

      December 3, 2015 at 9:54 pm

      She probably loves the negative attention and is getting some revenge on him by making it vague.

  12. Abbey

    December 3, 2015 at 5:17 pm

    What ever d problem was between them, d Bible they claim they are preaching says, GOD hate putting away

  13. Mamacita

    December 3, 2015 at 5:23 pm

    Lol at the greasy pillowcases references! It made me think, does he wear a hairnet to bed? Maybe that’s what he meant by unequally yoked. My 2 pence o. Anyone who comes quoting “touch not my anointed” should “get behind me satan”.

  14. Mamacita

    December 3, 2015 at 5:31 pm

    pillowcase*
    reference*

  15. Naija-Gbeburon

    December 3, 2015 at 5:42 pm

    Naija men will never learn.

    Naija men hear this, if you marry a woman that has lived abroad for at least 7 years, she is no longer a Nigerian and can never stand the “Man is Emperor/King of the home and can cheat, mentally or verbally abuse or beat the woman like she is a rag doll” “thing” that the men in Nigerian cherish and do. You have to treat her like a friend on equal terms, or if you can’t, just marry locally. If you’re a Nigerian man and you just arrived abroad and still have that “the man is the dictator of the house” attitude simply come home to Nigeria, in fact, the village and marry.

    However, if you have the “big boys” eyes to marry a woman abroad especially USA or UK you better behave yourself, or you will end your old age alone or a second “Ajeikpako” wife. Treat your abroad wife well, respect her and never ever lay your punching hands on her, or you are toast. This type of girls are not your “Ronke, Tola, Tolu, Osas, Titi, Ifeoma, Amina or Nneka” that take and accept your local Nigerian/African nonsense in the name of marriage.

    • Naija Gbeburon's Fan

      December 3, 2015 at 6:31 pm

      The “realest” comment on the trend. So true.

    • Bey

      December 3, 2015 at 9:59 pm

      Dumb comment, and ppl actually “liked” this garbage.

    • tobi

      December 3, 2015 at 11:42 pm

      I think you have a point. To be honest our culture supports the notion of the compliant, submissive wife. Female genital mutilation, child brides, in laws laying the Law for wife’s . Look at our nollywood movies it always has to do with long suffering wife’s applauded for being martyres for stupid idiot men. Women need to begin to teach their female children that they are worth something more than “going to husbands house” what about working hard and owning a house with a husband. Yep domestic violence exist in the west, Infact until recently rape by a husband on wife was not a crime. The society shut thst down,;now it is a crime,. A good womsn/wife is not one who perseveres in an abusive marriage, no that is a woman accepting bondage, suffering, and martyrdom. Talk less of the effects it has proven to have on children. A wise women knows her worth and would not stand for that mess.

  16. ''Deola

    December 3, 2015 at 7:56 pm

    She speaks her truth. I’m so damn sure these are words of a grown up who has been through trying times and is now on the rebound. I wonder what her choices would be if she was asked to go back in time and make them. Would Chris be one of them? I don’t think so.

    She says she is ‘worthy of love, to give [someone ] and receive [ from someone]. ‘ Is this too much to ask abeg you? That she says she has ‘value and self-respect, ‘ no one has the ability to oppress, suppress or depress” her is saying she always wanted to be happy and be seen as desirous. Is that too much to ask?

    Abeg leave matter for Mathias. Welcome to the Singles club, pastor or no pastor. Love get to flow yafun yafun! I hear you madam, you deserve love like everyone else.

  17. bokun

    December 3, 2015 at 8:17 pm

    I think making it public would help other poor oppressed abused women realise that they do not have to live like that. Thank you Anita you are blessed. Men who abuse women are not MEN.

  18. Enitan

    December 3, 2015 at 8:31 pm

    So all the local Nigerian women deserve to be abused abi? What a way of thinking .

    • Michealla

      December 3, 2015 at 10:28 pm

      Very silly and distorted way of thinking,You clearly do not know anything, Naija-Gbegborun. I have seen Caucasian women in North America and Europe stay and die in abusive relationships. It has always happened and still happening. Meanwhile, when I was 11 the housemaid/nanny who we had(very lovely lady) moved out of her carpenter husband’s house in the dead of the night with her two baby girls because he beat her when he was drunk. For your information, she didn’t understand a word of English!

      My mum told her we would house her in the boy’s quarters for the maximum of a month after that she would need to find another place, preferably go back to her husband’s house. She asked my mum and dad for her salary in advance, rented a one bedroom and never went back to her husband. I asked about her a few months ago and my mum told me she remarried some years back and owns a huge salon somewhere in calabar plus she has three other children for her new husband, So your assumption about locals enduring abuse is stupid and silly. And yes, some of my friends who I went to U-Penn with are reviling in abusive relationships. Fragile minds have no geographical confinement same as strong minds!

  19. Kgosi

    December 3, 2015 at 9:05 pm

    Abuse is terrible but even worse when it’s coated with “spirituality”. This woman has been through hell and is just grateful to God that she made it out alive. Anyone that has the least insight into this matter understands how disgusting it is! How can people call the name of God and yet be extremely ruthless??? God has used this matter to open the eyes of many people in Christ Embassy! He that has ear, let him hear, for those that want to continue to deceive themselves or allow themselves to be deceived, they can go on! It is well with you Pastor, faithful is God that called you, He is carrying

  20. M

    December 3, 2015 at 9:26 pm

    @Naija-Gbeburon, What a way to present your point, so as @Enitan said, is it the local Nigerian women that are ok or worthy candidates for the abuse of the Nigerian men you talk about? any one who mistakes the Nigerian woman’s ability to withstand challenges for weakness or foolishness is even more ignorant.. No one approves of abuse no matter the climate you emigrate to.

  21. Jo

    December 4, 2015 at 12:19 am

    Oh no

  22. Anonymous

    December 4, 2015 at 10:10 am

    If they have broken up, make she go rest na. However you women take it, it’s still but sadly a man’s world… At least in Africa. If una encourage her finish, make una also try to marry better Pikin. Because Pastor Chris is still balling with plenty people under his belt. And he hasn’t said a thing concerning their marriage. Women encouraging each other, keep it up. But also try and keep your marriages. I can comfortably say Pastor Chris go de shine kongo wella and anointing go still flow. The same cannot be said about her. Her nights may be lonely and her bed empty. Oya BellaNaija babes, please crucify me.

    • OJ

      December 4, 2015 at 11:13 am

      The feminazi babes here are not going to spare you after those comments you’ve made…

    • sara

      December 4, 2015 at 1:40 pm

      and in your mind eh! nobody dey shine her congo abi or no dude wey wan die ontop her matter dey her life now right?..Chris go dey shine him congo with babes wey no get levels or dey claim say dem get levels, @ d end na him go dey loose…his money, time and reputation…Anita on d oda hand go dey receive attention, begs from dudes wey wish they had a woman like her…so Uncle/Aunty tanda wella dere they dream dey go…u are so last with developments in Africa

    • Anonymous

      December 7, 2015 at 10:01 am

      You sidon from the comfort of your fone or laptop. de hope and dream on her behalf. If she truly is enjoying her life, she need not broadcast it to the world. We would know. Today is Pastor Chris’s birthday, Can you count the advertorial my niggi is getting? Whoever wants to shine her congo would do it to help her present sorry situation. But him on the other hand, dem go queue from Lagos go IB. Sara, pray you don’t end up like her. Pretty name by the way

  23. lape

    December 4, 2015 at 11:18 am

    Only God knows the truth and can judge. They are both still His kids so He will still forgive if either or both of them are at fault. God can bring glory out of any situation (just like that of David and his wedlock child Solomon) and I just pray for bothe of them that in the end they will both be joyful

  24. It is what it is

    December 4, 2015 at 11:29 am

    Anita if you have move on you have move on…..make we rest…you don talk plenty

  25. Ade

    December 4, 2015 at 12:12 pm

    Ignorant people with ignorant comment. What does God thinks of this?

    The devil came to steal, kill and destroy…..

    Don’t let the devil have you where He wants you in this matter.

    Non of these Leaders in the body of Christ is at fault, the body of Christ was attacked thru their marriage….

    And remember satan is defeated. You just watch out for your own soul through God’s WORD.

  26. FinchleysFinest

    December 4, 2015 at 2:58 pm

    You all are missing the point here and that is : Its the end of the year…be thankful to God for all that you have gone through…and look forward to a new year with so much faith and hope …Leave Pastor Anita and her marriage alone… See the positives in her message and stop taking panadol for someone else’s headache..

  27. nonamespls

    December 4, 2015 at 3:43 pm

    huh? so husband has a right to cheat abi? i see plus if you ca read you would see that she said she is living free from abuse

  28. tbk

    December 4, 2015 at 9:00 pm

    i pray for their restoration

  29. reason

    December 5, 2015 at 11:18 am

    Am not surprised at peoples annoyance with this woman. Our society certainly encourages oppression of women and even many Christians support this nonsense. husbands love your wife and submission will not be an issue.
    When the man of God was carefully bashing his wife publicly in 2014, it was okay. When he abandoned her in UK since 1999, nobody said anything. Na her cross abi?
    HYPOCRITES!
    Now She’s telling us She’s free from that emotional abuse of a wife and you all are shouting “” let her shut up””. Well, She wont. and If you dont like it, tell your nigerian bloggers to leave her blog site alone.
    Our hypocrisy is unbelievable!!!
    When God says He hates divorce, he meant it. I dont understand how Somebody will PRACTICALLY OBVIOUSLY AND LITERARILLY divorce his wife and people will be okay with it. cos THAT IS EXACTLY WHAT THE MOG DID SINCE 1999 when He sent her away. Every attempt She made to come back was rebuffed. Nobody said anything but allowed her suffer and continue to pretend to save public image abi? Now She done give una the public image to chop na. She’s simply made it official. Focusing on her personal salvation. Enjoying her life with those that care and devoting the rest of her life to her only true master who loved and died for her.
    LEAVE HER ALONE!!!

  30. victorea

    December 6, 2015 at 6:44 pm

    There are three sides to this story,Anita”s,Chris” and THE RIGHT SIDE,We dont even know any

  31. Abigail-Zambia

    December 8, 2015 at 2:32 pm

    Did any one see Pastor Chris`s side of the story too? Am sure all of us (even me a single person) know that marriage is between 2 people and if we want to comment better we see it from both sides…is Bella able to stream Pastor Chris`s other side of the story too….you are busy insulting each other in the air…even men can be abused too?

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