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“Women are Not Sex Objects” FIDA Blasts Senator Ali Ndume for Saying Men Should Marry Multiple Wives




Senator Ali Ndume“I urge men to marry more than one wife. The first care of a woman is marriage. Men should take care of women by not just befriending them, but by going further to marry them.

I know there is nowhere in the Bible that prohibits marrying more than one wife. Starting with the Senate President (Bukola Saraki) I ask him to consider marrying more than one wife.”

The above statement was made by Nigeria’s Senate Majority leader, Senator Ali Ndume on Tuesday March 8, 2016 in the Senate Chambers.

This was after Senator Oluremi Tinubu had argued that the nation cannot move forward without the resilience and courage of women while moving a motion to mark the International Women’s Day.

The statement did not go down well with the International Federation of Women Lawyers (FIDA), who through the Country Vice President/National President of FIDA Nigeria, Inime Agume has said that the remark is “disparaging” and reduces women to “mere sex objects”.

Saying the Majority leader insinuated that the gender equality move by women can only be realized by being married. According to her, Nigeria is a signatory to Convention on the Elimination of Discrimination against Women (CEDAW), and that article 16 states that, “State parties shall take all appropriate measures to eliminate discrimination against women in all matters relating to marriage”.

In the international scene, UN Secretary General, Ban Ki-Moon has said that bias against women are being wiped out so that women can advance across new frontiers. Phumzile Mlambo-Ngcuka, UN Women Executive Director urged women all over the world to get involved in the move to wipe out assumptions and bias against women.

Source: Daily Times


  1. Nuna

    March 11, 2016 at 2:52 pm

    Honestly the kind of senators we have in this country ehh.

    I give up!

    • Damilola

      March 12, 2016 at 12:20 am

      His face expression alone says he may have kidnapped some girls to marry off. Please, go search his house. Continuation of baby factory. Im yet to understand why these senators only speak out when it comes to teenage bride to marrying many wives not other critical issues affecting the country.

  2. Mr. Egghead

    March 11, 2016 at 3:00 pm

    FIDA be making a mountain out of a molehill.

    First, this was probably a joke and the Senator was sharing his personal opinion, howsoever twisted said opinion may be.

    Next, marrying more than one woman does not mean women are sex objects. Ndume asked for men to CARE FOR WOMEN by marrying them.
    Paradoxically, people like Amber Rose and Kimmy K are actually the masterminds behind the sexual objectification of women.
    I’d like to see FIDA challenge video vixens who are wiggling their surprisingly cellulite-free derrieres in music videos; challenge them to stop being mere sexual objects.

    • Surely

      March 13, 2016 at 10:58 pm

      You and the senator-both sick in the head

  3. Bey

    March 11, 2016 at 3:13 pm

    The way some of dese hausa men reason, I just wonder.
    Even those that are educated, their way of thinking is still so backwards. That is why the Yunusa’s (yellow) of this society feel it is right to just pluck a 13yr old from her mothers care to take as ”his wife”. As if a girl/woman is a property and any man that marries her is doing her a favour.
    The bible says, ‘He who finds a wife, finds a good thing”. Don’t know what the Quran says.
    Hausa ppl are too backwards and crude for my liking biko.

  4. Author Unknown

    March 11, 2016 at 3:17 pm

    The women of FIDA Nigeria rather than quoting international conventions, and screaming gender discrimination should focus on our reality, which is that the laws, culture, and religions of this country permit what the Senate Majority Leader has encouraged. We can feel as civilised as we want to, but the fact is that our laws do not mirror those of the Westerners that the Nigerian elite constantly try to emulate. It’s annoying as heck, but it’s the reality.

  5. Cindy

    March 11, 2016 at 3:19 pm

    Shey una see your leaders?

  6. ElessarisElendil

    March 11, 2016 at 3:26 pm

    So……..marriage, I repeat MARRIAGE reduces women to sex objects???? *Facepalm* This why only few people take women activists seriously.

    When now that FIDA has given the green-light to the Alhajis, Baba Olowos and Ogas at the top to go back to ‘befriending’ their women with smartphones and plane tickets, lets see how that will NOT reduce them to sex objects.

    • *rme

      March 11, 2016 at 3:45 pm

      As in! I don’t understand what the activists are saying. So, I’m just going to assume that they misunderstood what the Senator said and decided to shoot ball where belle face.

    • Surely

      March 13, 2016 at 11:03 pm

      The reason people (including yourself) don’t take women seriously is because patriarchy has taken a hold of your brain and your empathy!!! Misogynist pig. There are many people like you who won’t take things that support women seriously until a man says it because that;s the only way you think! Aguma is right! She may have mentioned only one aspect of it but there are many more reasons for her to be angry that a man thinks many more men should own ADULT WOMEN in the guise of “‘caring” for them. Read a muhfuggn book or use Google instead of always spending time on blogs, not learning anything.

    • Manny

      March 14, 2016 at 1:54 am

      Surely abeg where did he say men should OWN women. You’re bloody overreacting.

  7. Single Shalewa, Bitter Bintu!

    March 11, 2016 at 3:37 pm

    I just find the picture hilarious. LOL!

  8. hear them

    March 11, 2016 at 3:42 pm

    Their brain is under their feet

    Always fighting like a blind man

    “Men should marry more wives” means women are sex objects?

    Educate illiterate called lawyers in FIDA uniform

  9. omawumi

    March 11, 2016 at 3:47 pm

    Pls shut up if you don’t see how talking about women only in relation to a man is belittling.

    Don’t take female activists serious, that’s your perogative but if you are female and enjoy any iota of freedom in your everyday life, you may want to consider being grateful for the people who paved the way.

    • ElessarisElendil

      March 12, 2016 at 1:33 am

      “you may want to consider being grateful for the people who paved the way.”: By this I’m sure you mean men? Find me a single female signature in the UN universal charter of human rights.

    • Surely

      March 13, 2016 at 11:11 pm

      You keep showing your ass. If women were treated as equal to men, wouldn’t their signatures have been in the UDHR??? Why do you think it’s oppressed people who speak out more??? BECAUSE THEY ARE OPPRESSED!!! And why do you think privileged people are the ones who can bring the change? BECAUSE THEY HAVE THE MUHF***** POWER!!! MLK marched and maintained moving dialogues but it was still Johnson the WHITE PRESIDENT and JFK who started making constitutional changes!!! If MLK had the power to make the changes himself, you think he would’ve marched and making speech up and down???!!!

      Please, use the brain God gave you. Allies may be recorded in history because of their power and visibility but make no mistake, the oppressed are the main driving forces behind change. Again, insult women’s rights movements one more time. You’re only showing how inept you are at reasoning and basic knowledge of gender rights.

  10. prince

    March 11, 2016 at 3:53 pm

    I’m not surprise, their wives are nothing but sex object to them, Imagine what is coming out from a senseless moron that calls himself a lawmaker.
    Women have no place in the quran so they can spill rubbish. bigots.

    • honey omo lekki

      March 11, 2016 at 4:54 pm

      Can you guys just make your point without mentioning Islam/Qur’an/Muslim. Why are you so fixated with religion.

      If whatever it is he said does not go down well with you, just read the mail and move on. It is not like he is forcing his opinion on anybody. He is just stating his, just as you are stating yours. Lets try and be tolerant of each other’s views. We cant all be the same, and we cant all think the same. There is beauty in diversity.

  11. meserami

    March 11, 2016 at 4:30 pm

    How does marriage reduce a human being to sex object? All this people should just have a sit if they can’t fight for laws against prostitution and against females grinding their waist on tv naked.

  12. nikky

    March 11, 2016 at 4:51 pm

    For those asking. Marriage in this context reduces women to sex objects for men. This is because they are encouraged to get married to men instead of getting an education, a job or become entrepreneurs. The senator said “the first care of a woman is marriage”. We cannot be celebrating international women’s day by telling women they should aspire to be married in drove to one man. This Guy and his supporters just have akamu in their head instead of brains.

  13. santos

    March 11, 2016 at 5:52 pm

    This man calling himself a lawyer is so dumb. How on earth does marriage makes a woman a sex object.. marriage is not all about sex! There are whole lots of things involved… besides it’s better to get married and have sex wt your wife other than the usual” use and dump” of single ladies ..

  14. Favour

    March 11, 2016 at 6:39 pm

    I think I understand where Senator Ali Ndume is coming from, rather than Nigerian men, starting from Senators themselves should stop using women as sex object, patronising harlots and encouraging the acts, the men should marry them instead which makes sense however there are other serious aspects of empowering women that should be looked out hence FIDA response…….some senators discussion in Nigeria should be reviewed, I expect them to be carrying out research, thorough investigations and case studies before sitting, because most of their discussion doesnt show any form of intelligence. some of their discussions are low level that you wonder why they should be paid so much for some fish brain/childish discussion which a common primary school child can iron out.

  15. eva

    March 11, 2016 at 7:39 pm

    The first care of a woman is not marriage. Only senseless persons think like this. Just imagine the bloody fools we have for senators. I can’t wait to leave this useless country.

  16. Truth

    March 11, 2016 at 10:25 pm

    I am never coming back to Nigeria. This country is backwards as shit. Chai. Look at your senators.

    • Idomagirl

      March 11, 2016 at 11:24 pm

      Please stay where you are o. Progres is not coming anytime soon.

  17. Pretty girl

    March 12, 2016 at 4:02 am

    It’s only God that will just punishe this one I wonder the kind of senators we have in Nigeria when it comes to women or child bride that is when u will see them talking like fools

  18. nnenne

    March 12, 2016 at 4:52 am

    Ok, senator but just make sure that the infrastructure and jobs will match the procreation. Right now the municipal water, electricity, roads, schools and hospitals are no where enough for the many users.

  19. Naveah

    March 14, 2016 at 4:54 pm


  20. Naveah

    March 14, 2016 at 5:04 pm

    LOOK AT WHAT WE CALL A SENATOR…A LEADER OF A NATION? Look at what is coming from his mouth? Man dey work no pay, man dey work no fit feed himself but he must hoard women like cattle, abi? Meanwhile you people are using government money to buy yourself clothes for work, our president needs N1m a month to feed himself while telling poor people to remove their children from school if they can’t afford to send them to school since he can afford to send his to school abroad. Light no dey, water na drink at your own risk, road na drive at your own risk, hospital na go at your own risk, bridge na cross at your own risk…what plague, what blight has been put over Nigeria like this that we can’t have ONE decent person in leadership? NOT ONE selfless, civic minded person?

    These bastards forget about the part of their job title that includes the word SERVANT…as in you are in office to SERVE the people but I guess if the people don’t demand for better for themselves what is to prompt them to do better? A man will be hailing a governor for giving him a bag of rice at a reelection campaign…MY GOOD GOVERNOR, CHEI BABA O YOU DO WELL, meanwhile the same bastard is owing him 6 months of pay. The same bastard’s wife is flying back and forth from London to Dubai shopping like a mad woman with her children in school at the best institutions abroad. We don’t demand for ACCOUNTABILITY from these overstuffed peacocks parading as educated men…see the speech this one just made? More concerned with what’s happening in another man’s life and marital home than what is concerning his constituents!

    I SPIT ON ALL THEM. Anuofia!!!

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