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Nollywood actor Yul Edochie in a two-part video he posted on Instagram shares his thoughts towards domestic violence.

He says although he doesn’t condone the act, as it is against everything he stands for, women have a huge role to play in avoiding it, by respecting their husbands.

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  1. Jennietobbie

    May 31, 2017 at 2:48 pm

    Why would you tell your wife to shut up? Is she a child? ????

    • A Real Nigerian

      May 31, 2017 at 4:22 pm

      Dont mind the immature mumu.
      This is just another insecure Nigerian man child enabled by the Patriarchy. Society has taught him that lording over women is one of the few ways he can massage his ego and boost his esteem.

    • Favour

      May 31, 2017 at 6:05 pm

      LOL…..spot on

    • Seriously

      May 31, 2017 at 7:22 pm

      A child actually don’t deserve such disrespect and stupidity let alone an adult. A child is a human being where respect also applies to her. Women, the power is in your hands. You can’t change anyone else but you. Any woman that ends up with this idiot has a choice to tolerate such foolishness or not.
      Honestly, I’m not sure where such breed of men come from because they need to be locked up somewhere.

      I know it’s not all African men who practice such ignorant beliefs. Men, your gender/sexuality doesn’t make you right. Earn your respect.

  2. Yellow sun

    May 31, 2017 at 3:11 pm

    I’m tired of hearing men saying indirectly its a woman’s fault…
    How do u refrain yourself from attacking a armed police officer ???
    It all boils down to the beast in men…yul just agreed that most men can’t control their anger…
    Mscheeeeew

    • A Real Nigerian

      May 31, 2017 at 4:23 pm

      They are all beasts and rapists.

    • Bimbo

      May 31, 2017 at 9:43 pm

      They can control their anger when necessary! But for some it’s ok to pummel women . Cowards

  3. Wonu

    May 31, 2017 at 3:20 pm

    Don’t mind him. He is a big fool! Just listen to his crap. Basically saying men’s bad behavior should be overlooked, like respect isn’t a 2 way street. I pity the woman that marries this one cause she will be collecting beating for breakfast, brunch, lunch, evening snack, dinner and midnight snack. I am so incensed with this crap. So thankful that Nigerian women are getting “woke”. Abeg yul or whatever you call yourself, please tell us the name of that your friend, we need to name a street in her honoir. Nonsense and ingredients!

    • Beyonce

      June 1, 2017 at 2:46 am

      Shame on you women. Keep deceiving the feeble minded. You act differently and come from feminist. FAKE FEMINISTS. Only those that let you faked deceive them will be deceived. Kposhikposhi.

    • Beyonce

      June 1, 2017 at 2:51 am

      Correction
      “Fake feminists”
      “You fakes”

    • Gina

      June 1, 2017 at 8:30 am

      @Beyoncé, no need to correct your spelling, what you need to correct is your brain settings.

      Wishing you good luck.

  4. Joyce fr

    May 31, 2017 at 3:28 pm

    African man should known that their women is not a slaves. but is on forty late that the African man don’t see their wife as den self anymore all them do is to make the women which them called a wife nothing all in the name of we are African.or I’ m the heard of the house hmm God help African man to known your word and also Lean how to repeat.the both said need to repeat. Worth you want for your self give it to order person too that we make things go well for the bought

    • A Real Nigerian

      May 31, 2017 at 4:25 pm

      I love you Joyce and what you’re attempting to preach is important but I don’t think you’ve made sense at all.

    • funmilola

      May 31, 2017 at 10:26 pm

      Oh boy!

  5. Yemisi

    May 31, 2017 at 3:36 pm

    *Eye Roll* Here we go again… Can uninformed people stop giving their “”opinions”” PLEASE!
    Sincerely,
    Every one will common sense.

  6. Smh

    May 31, 2017 at 3:40 pm

    And here we have a potential wife beater. Basically saying women be quiet and “respect your husband” or get beaten. But these same men will be meek as a mouse when their ogas in the office are abusing them, they will be meek when police stops them on the road. But when it comes to wife they want to show anger and power. My prayer for you is to meet the woman who will pour acid on you when you lay your fingers on her. Coward

    • A Real Nigerian

      May 31, 2017 at 4:26 pm

      Amen!!!

    • Hms

      May 31, 2017 at 5:16 pm

      I dare say a man that has anger issues will fight with anyone even a police man. So forget that iss about angry men staying calm for a police officer.

    • le coco

      June 1, 2017 at 7:20 am

      Hms? really? how many angry people don’t seen fighting soldier? abeg stop it..

  7. A Real Nigerian

    May 31, 2017 at 4:20 pm

    Who is this fool?

    • Bimbo

      May 31, 2017 at 9:48 pm

      Hms,
      That’s a big fat lie! The majority of men that beat their women are the nicest , meekest men when they are outside the home . Their anger issues only rears its head when they see their wives !

  8. David

    May 31, 2017 at 4:35 pm

    An advice for girls… Or ladies and women who have been wired to conform to nonsense.

  9. Concerned

    May 31, 2017 at 5:02 pm

    This is so disappointing. To think I actually thought he had something sensible to say…
    The burden of controlling domestic violence should be BOTH the man and the woman’s duty. BOTH should respect and love each other enough to know NOT to be aggressors or be aggressive.

    He even contradicted himself when he reiterated his parents experience: BOTH of them played a role in ensuring that there was no violence in the home.

    In short he believes any woman who mouths off at him deserves to be beaten….there is no place for the man to play any role by leaving the scene and allowing air to blow over the heat? What a shame.

    • msd

      May 31, 2017 at 5:19 pm

      Seems you missed the part where he said the woman would stop a man from stepping out.

  10. FinchleysFinest

    May 31, 2017 at 5:09 pm

    Most of you will come for my head… Try to understand his point and stop calling him names.
    If you’re married…especially..legally and in the christian way…. once you are a married… Your husband is no longer a child… he’s first the HEAD of the house… He gave a simple example… maybe a bad one.. but I got the point.. Its not about insecurity here… Most of the ladies have watched so much nollywood movies that they tend to play it out in real life…

    His example :I told my husband ,if he’s late….i’ll lock him out… Thats not nice…and its disrespectful.. Sure they are better and more civil ways to handle things… His other example about when his fathers voice goes up…the mom will be quiet is about telling you 2 wrongs dont make a right.. Let him shout… and then when he’s calm…you talk things over…its common sense.

    He’s not blaming the woman… No sensible husband should beat his wife, it just shows the quality of his upbringing …

    He probably missed the point of advising the men on what to do when similar issues occur…
    let me sip some tea and wait for comments

    • Anon

      May 31, 2017 at 5:47 pm

      The pilot is the head of the plane so if you’re rude to a British airways pilot he should beat you abi? A man can tell his wife shut up, but if she tells him shut up back, then he’s justified? Beating is not justified EVER. Why do we like placing men as god’s? In the bible Israelites, job, Moses, Jacob, when they were angry with GOD they would react in that anger and tell him they were unhappy. Did he smite them or beat them? God Himself that is GOD does not place men as gods of the home, just as heads, but Nigerian women are conditioned and guilted into worshipping men. A man will cheat on his wife but she’s told not to “confront” him for “peace” to reign. So peace is when the man has his way, meaning that a Nigerian marriage is one in which the man runs uncorrected and the woman’s job is to live for him. Meaning the woman worships the man, which is idolatry

    • Concerned

      May 31, 2017 at 5:57 pm

      I don’t like it when people get all self righteous and cherry pick scriptural verses to justify bad behavior Doesn’t the Bible say “husband love your wives?” Doesn’t the same bible describe what love is not ( not boastful, not proud?) The civility in a union is the responsibility of both parties.
      Being the head does not mean you should become a bully or an oppressor. Infact being the head means you should be a good conflict manager and a reasonable and respectable leader and team player.
      Respect begets respect. Yes, women too should be reasonable but it takes 2.

    • FasholasLover

      May 31, 2017 at 10:18 pm

      Hey, I agree with you on this one. His examples were not explicit enough but, he does make some sense where he used his parents as example. This goes both ways. When the woman is raving, the man can chose to leave the scene. I also think it is disrespectful to tell your spouse you will lock him out if he comes home late. Naaah. You do not treat your husband like that. He is not your child or a teenager with curfew. You do not have to wait up for him. Find a suitable time sit and discuss what is acceptable and what is not.
      It is hard to respect a man who does not know what he is doing though. I wonder where women find men that tell them to shut up. Haa.

    • Moyo

      June 1, 2017 at 11:37 am

      Why should the man shout at his wife, do you mean once you are a wife you should not get angry, you are no longer a human being.

  11. T

    May 31, 2017 at 5:11 pm

    All these men that are using style to support domestic violence… They usually start with ‘I don’t condone domestic violence, it is against everything I stand for… Let me tell you, what you just said in the silly, no common sense video above, is that women who don’t respect their husbands are to be subjected to domestic violence, simple
    There is no reason whatsoever that should ever cause domestic violence, walk away if the situation is becoming too unbearable
    You started by saying this is Africa and things are slightly different here, of course you would say that, I don’t blame your sorry ass, if they had sent all those animals beating their wives to like 5 years in jail, you won’t be there opening your mouth yarning dust
    Why don’t you men try to beat other men that are equally strong like you or even stronger? Why women? Why your wives or girlfriends that are clearly not as strong as you???
    One day, you men(that beat women) will meet your match and you’ll be served a full plate.

  12. Darius

    May 31, 2017 at 5:47 pm

    For once I agree with the feminists on BN, I don’t subscribe to this man’s views. My father has never spoken to my mum like a child. ” Hey, shut up! Sit down!” Haba! Who does that? I used to think this guy is the real deal!

    “Respect you husband even if he doesn’t know what he is doing.” Yul, are you for real? Nobody, not a man, or a woman, or a demon, or a spirit, should be respected if they don’t know what they are doing. I wonder how he treats his wife.

    While I agree that a woman should respect her husband, I also believe that respect be reciprocal? I agree with the feminists on this one, but I look forward to disagreeing with them on other posts.

    • Darius

      May 31, 2017 at 5:49 pm

      …..respect is reciprocal.

  13. Bad gang

    May 31, 2017 at 6:29 pm

    Questions from men: what should we do or how should we respond when our wives are violent towards us?
    Is society also addressing anger management for women?
    Should we consider self-defense in events of life threatening situations?
    Societ says we should walk away from scenes when we are physically abused, for how long?
    Should Christian/ moslem families stop teaching their children that the husband is the head of the family?

    • Mira

      May 31, 2017 at 6:37 pm

      Shut the hell up man. If you and your male friend get into a heated argument, you both exchange words till one of you walks away. NO ONE has ever said that if a woman hits a man it’s okay. You men love to pretend and imagine up fake scenarios said by feminists you don’t know. On this blog when there’s a case of nanny abuse or even issues concerning women, it’s women condemning women the most. Go on the page right now about a woman who hit a child and there are over 100 comments by women attacking her. Right now we are talking about a man hitting his wife because she was rude, do not derail from the topic under the guise of asking new questions, because you know the answer but you just want to deflect attention from the fact that so many men are and have been beating their wives in Nigeria, a country where women are socialised to treat their husbands as king and take the blame no matter what. If you want to be a misogynist, be brace and do it like Chief and John. Stop applying stupid attempts at logic or deflecting like mr egghead, bodundade, Darius and lemme rant, many of whom are the same person

    • commentator

      May 31, 2017 at 7:35 pm

      @ bad gang what will you do or how will you respond if a police officer is violent towards you? Its not right ( just as a wife attacking you) but will you beat the police officer? or take steps to reporting the incidence to seek some form of justice?

    • Bad gang

      May 31, 2017 at 8:47 pm

      @commentator are women violent to police officers when they harass them? so why should they be violent to their husbands? Why don’t they take steps in addressing issues (for instance if the man cheats) or file for divorce? Why do they use violence or abusive language? Is that how they do to police when police harasses them? Is that how they use abusive language on their bosses if their bosses annoy them?

  14. Bad gang

    May 31, 2017 at 6:30 pm

    I still maintain NO DOMESTIC VIOLENCE

  15. Felinda

    May 31, 2017 at 6:47 pm

    Yul have you considered doing radio as a side gig – I have told you and Yemi Blaq to consider it . I inboxed you both several years ago.. You could do the radio “Quiet Storm” session from 10pm – 12 midnight. Cool R&B music. People could make lots of babies with that voice (as if naija needs to increase population 🙂 🙂 )

    • FasholasLover

      May 31, 2017 at 10:20 pm

      You are damn right. TBH, I only clicked on this post to hear his voice. Very good voice l must say.

  16. Felinda

    May 31, 2017 at 6:50 pm

    But most dv statitics i have heard its either Suspect of infidelity where the narcissist low self esteem man hits (ubi and tinz) so my question is if you suspect cheating, why dont you just leave or dissolve the marriage. Walk away.

  17. john

    May 31, 2017 at 8:59 pm

    @bad gang ure the only one that made a reasonable comment …you and yul are damn right ..isn’t it funny hypocritical banshess/ online femtards always use the police and boss argument at men forgetting that u don’t nag or talk back rubbish to ur boss or police too even if ure angry ..women and their fish brains..it doesn’t let them think far..always making excuses for their childish, retarded behaviours and still want to be taking seriously

    • Bimbo

      May 31, 2017 at 9:54 pm

      You must know a lot of women with fish brains ! I’m not surprised you sound dumb as rocks – Ul obviously gravitate towards fish- brained women

    • Anon

      June 1, 2017 at 9:34 am

      Na WA for your monkey level retardation. Talking like a gorilla that’s been hit in the head. Maybe your fish brain mama dropped you on your head when you were a baby.

  18. KMT

    May 31, 2017 at 9:44 pm

    Hummmmm! I’ mma refrain from commenting but hummmm!!! WT actual F

  19. Viv Law

    May 31, 2017 at 10:28 pm

    Yul before this video I thought you were sexy because you speak so calmly and you carry yourself well, NOW I know it’s all a front. Advocate of domestic violence.
    About “when his voice goes up her voices goes down, then he takes he keys and leaves the house.”
    I don’t blame you for having this twisted mind set. You learnt it from your parents!

  20. missthain

    May 31, 2017 at 10:56 pm

    I’ve always said it, and would continue to say that our parents never raised their son’s right. I’m glad this is starting to show. Forget the examples of police officers and bosses, these men will never do this to a woman from another race or country. Because they know what the consequences are. But does this mean our fathers, brothers and male friends see us as nothing of value? But all this is about to change, the oppressed always comes out the strongest

  21. mo

    June 1, 2017 at 1:59 am

    I remember the first time my dad slapped my mum! She was so shocked that she cried herself to sleep. At night, she woke up, poured body cream that she’d put in the fridge on him and whipped him like a baby. I could hear my dad shouting and begging. looool. Best believe he didn’t put his hands on her again. The next time he almost slapped her, she just reminded him that someone who can beat him in his sleep, can kill him too.. The rest they say is history

    • Gina

      June 1, 2017 at 8:44 am

      Your Mum is a warrior queen! Love her!

    • Que

      June 1, 2017 at 8:51 am

      Just made my morning…lolz

    • Mom of 3

      June 6, 2017 at 11:07 am

      Wow! Your mom makes sense ehn! If you are in an abusive relationship and you have decided not to leave. Well, na your choice but you can borrow brain from this story here by doing something to scare him off you forever.

  22. [email protected]

    June 1, 2017 at 6:27 am

    Marriage is tough(talking from my experience though) especially when the kidz start rolling in you find yourself doing everything from a complaining husband to grumpy kidz it cracks something inside the woman it makes her get angry and talks anyhow to those in the house the man included. It affects the man too. hey!!!!!! Lets be sincere men are people too. Maybe they feel abandoned too. (my thoughts) these feelings turn the man to a monster and the woman to a bitch everything comes tumbling down all hell is let loose. Some will stay try and work it out become better persons while some will stay wont change wont leave and end up as beast others wont they leave.

  23. Fine

    June 1, 2017 at 10:55 am

    Why do we women deceive ourselves a lot. So many women come here claiming to be against violence but their reality is different. I am a tough woman and natural fighter. I mean I can fight! When I got married I initially tried the gragra thing with my husband and one morning he sat me down a gave me a cold warning and advice.
    1. Never point in a man’s face when in a hot argument. Once you do that, he doesn’t see you as a woman. All he sees at that moment is a man challenging him and he will treat you as one.
    2. There is nothing sexy about a woman fighting with a man or your husband. There is a something about your effeminate nature, please don’t loose it in a fight.
    3. Ever heard of you live to fight another day.
    4. Everyday we hear news of major catastrophe when people confront themselves whether on the road or … Please spare yourself and your man a disaster. You don’t know what can be a bad trigger. Walk away.
    5. I have learnt to understand husband, friends and family and choose best the right timing for a confrontation and argument.
    I am now married for a decade. My husband’s family believe I jazzed him bcos I live with him in understanding. I am stilll a fighterrrr but I do it with wisdom and understanding. Meekness is not weakness.
    So for all my beautiful ladies, ❤️ you all

  24. Lol

    June 1, 2017 at 2:17 pm

    The Bible teaches you to love your wife unconditionally! Sacrificial, Christ like, I’ll die for my wife love. And a woman submits and respects him when he loves her unconditionally. So if you don’t love your wife unconditionally she is not expected to respect and submit to you. It’s just that simple. Nigerian men cry Emmy wife doesn’t respect me and submit. Sir do you love her unconditional? No cheating, always affectionate, no beating, no enslavement, flowers, constant showcasing of love. Because again that is what God told you to do for her. If you palace anybody above your wife you have broken Ephesians 5. And if you place anybody above your husband you have broken Ephesians 5. Isn’t it funny that God gives clear cut directions for a happy marriage.

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