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Nkem Offonabo: 5 Tips for Truly Achieving Work-Life Balance



The idea of work-life balance is the ability to consciously eliminate disruptions in our lives, by focusing on what is most important to both our “work” (career and ambition) and “lifestyle” (health, leisure, relationship, family and spiritual development).
We all wear many “hats” in a single day. A woman can be all of a wife, mother, chef, nanny, teacher, preacher, daughter, sister, friend, driver, employee, boss, etc. But, when she focuses 95% of her time in wearing just one of these hats, there is every tendency that the rest of the other hats will suffer.

Achieving a balance appears difficult in the very busy and complicated lifestyles we find ourselves; coupled with the daily struggle to juggle the demands of a career and personal life in a work environment that is characterised by extreme work hours, layoffs and quest for relevance.

Truth is, everything in life deserves attention, but not at the same time. Work life balance requires an element of prioritization and the feeling of being “in-charge” of one’s scheduled responsibilities per TIME. Your ability to effectively wear these several “hats” on a daily basis without letting the most important things slip, is what makes you truly balanced. The moment you lose control of this, what follows includes chaos, burnout and ultimately a feeling of instability in your work and lifestyles.

To help busy professionals and entrepreneurs strike the right balance, here are 5 strategies to help.

Determine what is important
The first thing you need to do is, identify what truly matters to you. Until you are able to prioritise your work and life, everything will always appear important and things that should not necessarily be given much attention will take up space in your life and that can be “overwhelming”.

In determining what is important, you need to consider both the demands of your work, family, relationships and personal choices. As an entrepreneur, determining the goals of your organization, when these goals are expected to be implemented (short, medium or long term), who are the people responsible for achieving these goals, how do you get them motivated, track their performances towards set goals and reward behaviour, are key areas or factors you should be considering. For the employee, the key is focusing on the company’s expectations of you, how to exceed those expectations and add value and how to integrate your family and personals necessities in an order of priority.

Communicate effectively
Be open about your priorities and communicate same to the people in your life (boss, colleagues, subordinates, friends, siblings, kids and spouse), do not expect others to guess what makes you feel balanced and fulfilled.

An entrepreneur or a leader, need to consistently communicate company goals and strategies to the employees that way, you get the support of everyone, drive change and achieve results. Again, I see no reason why an employee cannot communicate with his or her boss or line manager when a personal need that requires your attention outside of the office arises; be candid enough while stressing the importance of such need and how it affects your wellbeing and productivity.
As a busy professional or entrepreneur, your ability to effectively communicate your needs and utilise your support network is very important.

Take control of your time
To clearly understand work life balance, it is important to understand the basic principle of Time Management.
It means you manage your available time wisely and make the most of it. Your work schedule or daily routine should begin with the most important task(s) in your “to do” list – that way, you expend your best energy in delivering on the tasks that yield the most value to your business or brings the greatest satisfaction to your lifestyle needs.
Having excess time on your hands does not automatically translate to productivity because if this time is not efficiently utilized, you will end up using it for unplanned and unproductive things like mindless chit-chat rather, you should optimize your time by strategically scheduling tasks and eliminating distractions.
A feeling of control is important in achieving work life balance.

Set Boundaries and do not be afraid to say NO
A lot of times, in a bid to meet up deadlines or appear indispensable, we tend to let our work life encroach into our family or personal life. Technology, even though it has helped to enhance our efficiency and productivity, has done some form of damage to the quality of our lives.

The introduction of smart phones and productivity tools, access to work e-mails and correspondence is just a click away but if you are deliberate about achieving work life balance, you need to leave work at work! Not every email needs to be attended to after work hours or during weekend when you should be having quality time with your family.
Make sure this is communicated and do not be afraid to say NO.

Be deliberate about rest and recreation
Rest is not the absence of work rather, work and rest should complement and complete each other. When I have truly worked, no one tells me that I truly deserve a good rest. Likewise, an active rest creates room for creative mental stimulation.

I made a new friend recently and when I mentioned to her what my blog is about, her question shocked me. She asked:
Can I find hangout places or what to do outside work on your blog? My life is so boring that I don’t have friends nor places to visit nor activities to engage with. My family is already worried about me“.

Hmmm, the struggle for work-life balance is real. A lot of folks are so straight-jacketed, their lifestyle revolves around work, work and some work. I wonder what life will look like when you take away work from them.
A deliberate attempt to create time for active rest or recreation with friends or family members who share same interests with you is what you need to achieve the balance you crave for. Recreational activities are endless and include sports, music, dance, games, travel, reading, arts and crafts.

It is possible to have a successful professional and fulfilling personal life.

Photo Credit: Monkey Business Images | Dreamstime

Nkem Offonabo is a graduate in Psychology and holds a SEMP (Special Executive Management Programme) MBA from Metropolitan School of Business and Management, United Kingdom. She is a certified Senior Professional in Human Resources (SPHRi®) and an Associate of the Chartered Institute of Personnel Management of Nigeria (ACIPM) with over 10 years' work experience that cuts across Human Resource Management, Product and Business Development in the Financial Services Industry. Nkem is a trained Life Coach and Neuro Linguistic Programming Professional. She is the acclaimed Africa’s No.1 Work-Life Balance Coach and Founder of The Work-Life Organisation Global Ltd, a Professional Coaching and Human Resources Management Consultancy. She works with individuals and organisations to provide coaching and training on employee wellness, work-life harmony, personal and organisational effectiveness as well as Human Resource Advisory Services. She is the convener of Work-Life Conversation, a highly sought-after group coaching community of working professionals and entrepreneurs. She has been featured on The Pink Network – 'Woman 2 Watch', She Leads Africa and Plus TV Africa. She was recognised as one of the Top 50 Leading Ladies in Corporate Nigeria by Leading Ladies Africa (2020 edition). To contact her, please visit her website on or send an email to [email protected] or via: Instagram | Facebook | Twitter @theworklifeorg


  1. Nike

    September 22, 2017 at 9:24 am

    Wow! Every single words speaks to me. Thank you!

  2. Bio

    September 22, 2017 at 9:42 am

    “be deliberate…” did it for me. I just made up my mind that I need to be deliberate in delegating responsibilities (even at home) so now I sit and tell my 11year old, you are having 4 slices of bread with tea and egg so all I do is fry the egg and have him do the rest. Surprisingly I found that he can practically fix breakfast for himself and even clean after himself. Meanwhile I had being working my ass out being a good mother all these while.

  3. Ruhamah

    September 22, 2017 at 10:28 am

    These tips are useful especially about rest and recreation. It serves as a reminder to me. Thank you

    • Nkem Offonabo

      September 22, 2017 at 11:25 am

      Thank you too Ruhamah for your honest feedback. Truth is, rest and recreation helps with connect with your inner genius.

  4. ***

    September 22, 2017 at 10:49 am

    These tips are really useful … the thing is I read them, digest them but when the weight of adult life sets in after a few days, I forgot them and everything collapses … if you guys make these tips into audio or mp3, you would save lives, people could play them in their cars, homes etc and if constantly listened may likely produce long lasting effect as message is retained as opposed to just a 5min read
    Some of these tips I read about life and character and human development on this website are better than the messages I listen to in church … yep church … so think about it writers … give it a try

    • Nkem Offonabo

      September 22, 2017 at 11:16 am

      Thank you For the honest feedback. I will surely work on the audio suggestion. I’m glad you found the piece very helpful.

  5. ***

    September 22, 2017 at 10:53 am

    Listened to ***

  6. Francesca Birch

    September 26, 2017 at 12:31 pm

    “I wonder what life will look like when you take away work from them.” I think this is something a lot of people should visualise. Having a clear overview of your life can be difficult. But, visualising what it would be like without an aspect e.g. work, friends, your hobby, can put the whole thing into perspective. Thanks Nkem! Really lovely read, definitely going to take your points on board. Keep up the amazing work!

    • Nkem Offonabo

      September 26, 2017 at 9:26 pm

      Hi Francesca, I’m glad you reckoned. The first step to reclaiming our happiness outside of work is to really determine what’s important and what makes us truly happy and fulfilled. Because if we define our lives solely by our work or resume’, we can find ourselves empty and lost when it’s taken away from us.

  7. Neene

    October 31, 2017 at 3:12 pm

    This piece is so welcome. I have such a hectic routine. I liked the part about “saying no”
    Not every function is worth the stress!!!!

    • Nkem Offonabo

      August 7, 2018 at 6:36 pm

      Prioritize! Prioritize!! Prioritize!!!
      I am glad you reckoned

  8. Emmanuela N. Aniagolu

    July 9, 2019 at 7:43 pm

    Wow!!!This is really amazing.. Nice piece. Honestly I have really gained a lot from this very wonderful article.. Bravo dear..keep the good work going.

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