Valentine’s Day is here and what better way to celebrate than to talk about love. We have been working hard towards launching this BN Feature for a while and this is the perfect introduction.
BN’s Our Wedding Story is all about couples talking about their wedding journey. We are elated to have Omeyi Eneehi Attah and Alexander Yangs as our first couple. Omeyi is a 25 year-old economist who currently works for a leading finance company while Future Awards nominated Alex is a entrepreneur,music producer and artiste.Their story is not only very sweet but is very real! Wishing the couple all the best and wishing you, Happy Valentine’s Day
ABOUT THE BRIDE, Omeyi by The Groom, Alex: She is an amazing woman with extraordinary discerning and driven spirit, she is a believer and shares the same faith with me. She is beautiful, smart, sophisticated, stubborn, sweet trouble, and strong willed! She is my wife, friend, and lover and YES – I LOVE HER!
ABOUT THE GROOM, Alex by The Bride, Omeyi: Born April 6th, 1979, born as an only boy with 7 sisters. Fun loving, social yet quiet, gentleman, deep, kind, wise beyond his years, really sweet, makes me laugh, how did I forget very romantic, loves God, to some a music producer, others a very popular name on Facebook. To me: my friend, my partner, my lover, my husband, the one who lights me up in so many different ways , one who doesn’t fear to speak the truth even if it hurts, a constant reminder of the truth that God loves me. I’m honoured to be the woman he chose to spend the rest of his life with.
HOW WE MET by Alex:
In a few months it will be 9 years ago…
I was the head of teen choir in my parish (RCCG), and we were really good! So much so that we started getting invites to perform at other parishes. November of 1999, we were at one of our gigs and her parish members (including Omeyi) attended. Coincidentally, I had met her sister about 4-5 months before then and we had kept in touch and talked from time to time. Omeyi & I were introduced and during the course of the day, at some point, she mentioned that she was cold and I offered her my jacket to keep warm.
The next year, on the 8th of January 2000, I was a member of Spirit of David (SOD is a Christian Dance Ministry, you might recognize them as the group behind the TV Show ‘Celebrity Takes 2’), well, SOD had a show on that day which I danced in. Omeyi attended the show and was really surprised to see that side of me; she could never have guessed that I was a dancer. Anyway, she was there and was acting a bit standoffish aka ‘feeling’ although she acknowledged that she recognized me, as in, ‘the guy that gave me his jacket’ but as a QC chick, she ‘formed’. A week later, on the 16th January, I was invited by my good friend Wale Rubber for his birthday at their parish. Once again, I spotted Omeyi and we got talking. During our conversation, she discovered that I spoke French and she was in French school at the time and BOOM! The first attraction. I started helping her with French and then after her French lessons we would take long strolls and somewhere in April 2006, YES…. we were love struck! And so the process that led us here started. We even realized that we have actually been in each others lives since we were kids even if we never knew…
Now what was different about me asking her out was that I knew I wanted to marry her from the get go….Spooky abi?
That was our beginning…
THEN IT STRUCK ME, HE IS THE ONE by Omeyi:
Ok so truth is I’m sure everyone is expecting to hear that there was some magical moment when a light bulb suddenly flashed telling me he was the one. Ok back to serious business, as mentioned earlier we met 8 years ago so we were both rather young. I was 17, he was 21, well, he’ll tell you he thought I was 18; Anyway unlike many other couples we know, we were pretty serious from the word go. For some reason, when we started dating, he always said he didn’t want me as his girlfriend; he wanted me as his wife. Of course, at that time I thought he was crazy. We share the same faith, we are both Christians so that played a major role , as cliché as this might sound; God was the originator of everything in our relationship so we prayed for signs on various issues that if we were meant to be, let those things happen.
Reading our story so far I don’t want people getting the impression that life was always lovey dovey, we had challenges, serious challenges, more than most couples I know have had; there were times when it felt like the storm wouldn’t pass away and we just felt like giving up. We did give up at some point, between 2004 and 2006, there was a break in our relationship and personally I didn’t believe we would get back as it was quite a bad break up. Weird thing though in all that pain, we still said to each other that if we found ourselves in 2 years still single or unhappy where we were, we would get back. Very weird you might think, still don’t know why we said that or gave that time limit and well that’s what happened; the tongue really does have power. Getting back still had its hitches, apart from the obvious bad blood that had to be dealt with, there was the issue of suddenly finding ourselves in different places of our lives than before and now reconciling both lives together was quite tasking.
Again, God played a huge part in all this because after all the tears and pain, we still had to get back to that point of seeking his face and today I can tell you that I’m a better person after that time. The Bible was right in saying the arm of flesh will fail you, rightly so we once failed each other and not because we didn’t love each other, more I think because our focus shifted or from my angle, my focus shifted from the ONE who brought us together in the first place, so easy to forget the God who brought you something or someone and act like that thing or person came by your own doing plus I lost focus on US and started involving other parties into our business.
Throughout my relationship with my husband, I have learned that God is my strength and my source; HE is in everything that happens to me even when it doesn’t feel like; keep your relationship between you both. No 3rd parties. What works for one couple may not work for you and when bad things happen, as hard as it may seem remember that if God let it happen, it will make you stronger. So yes we do know it’s not always going to be rosy but with God on our side, we are confident that we will make it and weather any storm.
Know I may have diverted from the main question but I think the answer to this question how did I know he was the one could be summed up in one song. It captures all my thoughts and emotions; It’s a song by Lisa Shipman & Hallerin Hill titled “You Are The One”
So the story is in 2 parts, Started in Nigeria but ended in the UK…thanks to Mr Man’s creative mind.
I had been home for a month (January 2008) on holiday and ok let me confess, I was expecting a proposal before I left; for those of you who know us (or have read the story above), you know it’s been a couple of years so we’ve had the marriage talk on our plate for a while now. So, I had a fab holiday but the proposal didn’t seem to be happening so took my mind off it thinking that it would most likely happen when I moved back home. On the night I left Lagos, I had checked in so I went to his house to spend the last few hours before I left again for the airport. While at his house, he needed to get some photos from my laptop, so I left him while I went to get something to eat. Came back afterwards but then he told me to please give him some time that he wasn’t done; of course I wondered why I had to leave if he was just getting stuff from my laptop. Well, didn’t think much of it and just left.
He took me to the airport and gave me a letter which I could only read on the plane. We’ve always written each other letters so this wasn’t anything new; however was still curious about the contents. In the letter, I had to follow ‘a trail’ and do as instructed. Upon reading the note, I was to go to a certain folder in my laptop and take it from there.
I had to wait till I arrived the UK before reading anything. Unbeknown to me, my dear friend Amanda knew of the whole plan and she was to cause another delay from me checking my laptop. Finally opened the folder and saw that there were 2 files, the 1st one led me to go to another file to listen to a song that had a question and come back to read the rest of the letter. Well I can hear some of you I should have figured it out here but for those of you who know us, given that he’s into music, you know that he has written quite a few songs for me *wink*, plus he has sent me a few in the past too, so I was still oblivious of the whole plot.
So I played the song, it was a very fab song I daresay; tres romantic, very well written and sung, he even got one of our popular Nigerian musicians to sing……can’t say much about the song; you all will have the opportunity to hear it below. The keywords though were at the end of the song that said “Will You Marry Me, Will You Spend the rest of your Life with Me?…I Love You”. Ok, so before I let the words of the song sink in, I went to read the rest of the letter which said “The symbol of the seriousness of my question can be found in your suitcase”; so of course I hurriedly went searching and found the box which a ring in it…and oh the letter also ended with the same question; “Will You Marry Me?” So that’s the main gist in a nutshell; Ok so I laughed, I cried, my friend and I popped Moet, of course, I talked to my Man and said YES…
The Wedding Day:
Woke up bright and early, prayed with my sis and one of my dearest friends before opening my doors to anything or anyone. It was scheduled to be a very small and quiet wedding different from the norm so we had an estimated guest list of 70 people, the plan was also to have it all end at about 4pm just because we both believed that we should take our guests’ whole day (we both don’t like long weddings).The ceremony held at the Ikoyi Registry while reception took place at a Thai restaurant we both loved; ok I had never eaten there but I loved the ambience. Pattaya Thai Restaurant, Victoria Island, Lagos. The ceremony was a very short but really funny one. Started at about 11:30AM and reception started at about 12:30. It was different because it was really close knit so the time spent was all about us which I was really happy about. I had a lovely day, very proud to say not once was I a bridezilla (ok had the tendencies few days before but not on the D-day)
I had two dresses, a traditional white strapless ball gown-style wedding gown I bought from Canada before relocating and a more modern and dare I say ‘high fashion’ gown designed by Ohemai Atafo. He was also responsible for the entire trains’ outfit as well as my elder sister’s dress. I have to say he is a fab designer and went all out to please me so have to give him credit.
I didn’t have to hire a planner due to the size of my wedding plus there was no issue about drinks or caterers as all that was covered by the restaurant. My sister, hubby’s sister and a few friends helped with the running around so that kept me sane because I had to work till the very last minute so didn’t have a lot of time on my hands.
My Advice for Upcoming Brides:
Remember God is your source and strength, so never forget that amidst al the planning. Also, don’t forget your groom too, we ladies get all carried away with the whole fiesta and sometimes forget that there’s someone else, a Very Important Person whose opinion should also count. Please be very practical, there’s no point spending unnecessary money just for one day, can proudly say I got my lovely dress for about less than a third of what the average bride spends, same with my hair and yes it was still home service, luckily my husband’s sister is a make-up artist so got that for free. In essence, stick to a budget, better to invest in your future than one day just to please everyone. And oh! Plan to have FUN no matter how your things turn out, as long as you and the groom show up for the ceremony…it’s all good:)