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Wow! Read Nollywood Star Nse Ikpe-Etim’s Poignant Love Story – “Becoming Her” via Myhandismine



NseNollywood star Nse Ikpe-Etim shocked fans with her engagement announcement a few weeks ago. As many hardcore Nse fans know, the actress is a talented writer as well.

She recently wrote an article titled “Becoming Her” for Myhandismine FridayFocus, a weekly guest writer spot on the Myhandismine blog. This is such an amazing piece! Please visit the Myhandismine blog –

You can also read the article below. All credits to Nse & Myhandismine.

Becoming Her
I had been immunized against the bug and this is received through all the amazing lessons life hands you on a platter. I had a boyfriend when it was a taboo to have one. I was 17. Our first meeting was as ordinary as it gets. I went on a stroll which was not uncommon those days on our estate, and there came this young man driving his father’s car. He stopped, chatted with me for a while and I wonder what he said that made me get into his car and have him drop me off.

He called the intercom and we talked again but he knew the times to call when mum would not do the picking. Little did I know that the day he picked me up was the day I would begin the journey. We spent our spare moments together, talking, walking and when we walked the streets, word travelled swiftly to our parents. On my arrival home, a cane was the welcome party. We always paid dearly for those nights because our parents wanted us to be straight kids, but we didn’t mind.

This did not deter me nor stop my stubborn heart from wanting to be with him. I had a friend who listened to my fears and laughed at my tales of the experiences school had brought with it, alongside the education I so craved. I remember when he played the guitar and sang Chris de Burgh’s “Lady in Red”. It was so beautiful; the funny thing is that I was not wearing red when he sang, but in that moment red was just a state of mind. I was fragile and he was so caring, attentive to my every need. We would meet up at 7.30pm under the stairs and talk till it was almost 10pm. Then he would tell me it was time to go. I would sulk, make faces till I cried and he would be forced to stay at least a second more. Well that was until mum called out my name and I would run inside, pretending the trash was my mission. He would run back home and sometimes, the doors would be locked and he would have to call for someone to open the door. He was the best friend I’d never had.

After dad’s passing, I craved the father-daughter relationship so much that I looked at him in that light. I had found my first true love. He took me on many firsts; squash, scrabble games, drives, music. And the day that Tunisia and Nigeria played a match at the stadium in Surulere, he asked me out on a date. It was our first official date (who takes a girl out to a football match on a first date?) We went out to watch the Eagles play and I was blown away. We won the match and he had won my heart. Our friends marveled at the way our love grew and we became the bad examples of what not to be. When we walked, mothers would point at us and say “that’s what you should never be” hahahaha… We were good friends, and much more. I had only learnt to cook at 15 and dad passed before I succeeded in making Egusi soup edible. My best friend was a willing guinea pig, tasting any and every meal I cooked. Watching him enjoy my cooking was therapeutic, considering the effort it took dad to eat the morsels of pounded yam and my rather shoddy Egusi soup.

I began to hope that one day I would bear his kids. At 17 though, kids and their thoughts! The semester had resumed and we both went back to our different schools, no emails, no cell phones, no blackberries or WhatsApp. The post office was rather cumbersome. All we had were our hearts and our thoughts. It turns out that was all the connection we needed. When the holidays came around I looked forward to seeing him, and then he told me he was leaving the country. My heart broke and tears poured freely down my face, I begged him to stay but he told me he had to go. I accepted this with a heavy heart and hoped that one day I would find a friend like him. When we got to the airport, I bade him farewell, he turned and said “I will come back, Nse”. I cried my heart out and went back to school the next day. I had lost the only friend who never judged me, who sang to me, and told me I was beautiful.

The years went by and one day I ran into his mum and got his number off her. We started talking again but I decided to let him go. I dated other men, became a woman and swore never to marry. I knew it wasn’t meant for me because after what I saw my parents have, mine had to be just like theirs or better!

I had finally become a woman, set in her ways but something was missing. So again I set out to look for him. I searched every social network to no avail and one day I used a search engine and there he was staring back at me. I sent him an email and he responded. We were ecstatic. At least I was, I had found the only man who knew the right things to say to make me happy. Then he proposed. I was over the moon. I accepted and told mum. My family was happy because they knew our history and just when I was getting ready to be Mrs……. He broke it off! I cried again, third time is a charm yea? He wasn’t supposed to make my mascara run he was meant to smear my lipstick!

I had been heartbroken yet again but this time it was done by him not a circumstance. I hated him, I loathed him and I rued the day I first set my eyes on him! He had changed me and now no man meant anything to me. I just dated and if it was inconvenient, I walked away. My famous quote “I was not born to be married” raised dust in some quarters, but no one cared to know why! Why get married to someone who would cheat on you or better still whom I would cheat on? Why get married to someone who would make me a shadow of myself or perhaps, have me give up my career for him? Yes, again I say, I was not born to be married. I got an email from him after so many years and I hated his guts. I alternated between ignoring him and giving frosty replies. He had my sister play mediator and that earned him a fairly warm reply. Well at least he was honest to walk away when he did rather than walk all over me in the marriage.

As the days went by, we spoke about so many things, emotions got in the way and he blurted it “I would love to spend the rest of my life with my sweetheart” and I asked him “have you told her?”. He said he had been trying but she seemed distant (abi you for no pretend say you no sabi say na you) oh well. I wanted him to say the words. And he did! “Will you marry me?” My heart skipped a beat and I said “listen yeah, you just have to give me some time to think this through” I knew my answer would be yes, but how was I to tell him I never got over him? Would I be perceived as weak, needy or just a desperate woman? It had taken us two decades to get to this point and what a road we had come. This is my heart, my happiness my true love had come back to me. Who cares what anyone thinks!

… So I got on the phone, called my friend and asked her to send him a card, flowers and a bottle of wine with my reply… “Yes I will marry you, my one true Love” Well I think that’s what I sent, but to be honest I was quite giddy. The long and short of it is that I said yes and my life has never been the same!


  1. Laidus

    February 8, 2013 at 1:42 pm

    I just had to comment, beautiful beautiful!!! love indeed is a beautiful thing

  2. camo

    February 8, 2013 at 1:43 pm

    Wow! 2 decades! Wow!

  3. creamy

    February 8, 2013 at 1:44 pm

    hmmmmmm is all i can say

  4. Fani

    February 8, 2013 at 1:47 pm

    Beautiful …❤

  5. Angel2

    February 8, 2013 at 1:50 pm

    Wow!!! Its beautiful

  6. nwanyi na aga aga

    February 8, 2013 at 1:50 pm

    This is beautiful….. but why do I feel sad?

    • CG is back

      February 8, 2013 at 2:00 pm

      You are sad because you don’t trust that he is for real even this time around. You are sad because she has shared a bit too much and you know the barrage of comments to come. God is with her.

    • Hadija

      February 8, 2013 at 2:29 pm

      Oh my goodness. U just helped me express my own fears for her.

    • Beegal

      February 8, 2013 at 8:42 pm

      It’s just weird that she seemed to be the one always making efforts to get his number, find him via search engines and all what not. Then he proposes and breaks it off subsequently *raised eyebrow*. God be with them. Amen.

    • Peju Perry

      April 11, 2013 at 1:34 pm

      I know what you mean i also don’t feel so giddy after reading it. but like my mom always says ‘we cant all be Cinderella’. meaning our stories are different, we cant all find love the same way but it doesn’t mean they don’t get to live happily ever after…….

  7. alyce

    February 8, 2013 at 1:52 pm

    hmmm what a really interesting piece. wish her all the best

  8. sholar

    February 8, 2013 at 1:53 pm

    i just had to comment……whao!!!

  9. OlayemiAO

    February 8, 2013 at 1:53 pm


  10. Ceetoo

    February 8, 2013 at 1:54 pm

    This Nse will not kill me true…

  11. Miss Anon

    February 8, 2013 at 1:56 pm

    What a lovely story!!

  12. yemi olas

    February 8, 2013 at 2:05 pm

    wooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooow *SMILING*

  13. Adaku

    February 8, 2013 at 2:07 pm

    Aww! I love Nse, this “abi you for no pretend say you no sabi say na you” cracked me up. Wish her all the best.

  14. Tee

    February 8, 2013 at 2:09 pm

    Wowwww…. this is captivating… Well written piece. Congrats Nse!

  15. teeenaaaa

    February 8, 2013 at 2:10 pm

    of course u will say ‘yes’ age is knocking really hard.. Beautiful enyways!

    • Bleed blue

      February 8, 2013 at 2:46 pm


    • Partyrider

      February 8, 2013 at 2:47 pm

      Sharrrappp there..

    • Duchess

      February 8, 2013 at 2:47 pm

      This is TRULY annoying! I would never understand why it is often assumed that when a Nigerian woman gets married after her mid twenties, it is because “age is knocking hard.” Such narrowmindedness!!! Would it have been better for her to marry yound but get hitched to the wrong bloke?!? Shio!

    • Madam the Madam

      February 8, 2013 at 2:58 pm

      Oh shut it!


      February 8, 2013 at 6:22 pm

      Ow very silly and insensitive of you …

    • liily

      February 8, 2013 at 6:25 pm


  16. Rola

    February 8, 2013 at 2:16 pm

    Truly the beginning of many beautiful things to come for u. I love ur love

  17. Annie

    February 8, 2013 at 2:16 pm

    Long wait, but was worth it at the end. Sure a cool love story…

  18. Jet

    February 8, 2013 at 2:18 pm

    I’m in love with the whole concept, this is true love actually speaking, wish her the best.

  19. Nomy

    February 8, 2013 at 2:22 pm

    Nse!!! Gbam You earned my respect as an actress, as a writer you have just blown me away, nobody could have penned it better. That said, please rock it well, if he came back, he came back to you a better person, he came back after he saw that he was the loser without you, he will cherish you jo. Rock it girl!

  20. Alyce

    February 8, 2013 at 2:38 pm

    2 decades! amazing

  21. notaplayerhater

    February 8, 2013 at 2:39 pm

    sweet!! congrats Nse! i pray he doesnt make your mascara run, except for the right reasons hunny! U deserve joy and happiness.Every woman does. Cheers!

    • Purpleicious Babe

      February 10, 2013 at 2:41 am

      I agree… but *loves* the story line… very gooey and more gooey…lol. xx

  22. sarafina Mathews

    February 8, 2013 at 2:41 pm

    hmmmmn indeed a love story……………God bless you Nse.

  23. ifybabe

    February 8, 2013 at 2:45 pm

    hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm, wish u d best Nse.

  24. nich

    February 8, 2013 at 2:48 pm

    while genny and omotoala still hold their own …..i have always seen her as the best actress at the moment…..


      February 13, 2013 at 12:23 pm

      There is absolutely no doubt about that. She’s not just the best at the moment, but also one of the most intelligent. Not too many ladies can boast of her qualities as in Nigerian movies industry. She is amazingly talented…..

  25. Duchess

    February 8, 2013 at 2:49 pm

    This is TRULY annoying! I would never understand why it is often assumed that when a Nigerian woman gets married after her mid twenties, it is because “age is knocking hard.” Such narrowmindedness!!! Would it have been better for her to marry young but get hitched to the wrong bloke?!? Shio!

  26. laura

    February 8, 2013 at 2:49 pm

    Is it just me or is there a missing link somewhere in this story?where she is asking him if he has “told her”. Told who?
    i love a god story every now and then but i find it odd that he re proposed after the meteoric rise of her career . i love a good love story but am a pessimist.. wish you the best Nse

    • Person

      February 8, 2013 at 4:17 pm

      Thank you my dear. That is the first thing I thought, ‘told her’. Who is her? That is the disconnect I cannot wrap my mind around.

    • nekiss

      February 13, 2013 at 6:59 pm

      What is worrying you people is lack of understanding of English language and figures of speech “have you told her” means that the man didnt come out straight to tell Nse that she is the one he is talking about and Nse is also pretending not to know that she (Nse) is the one the man was referring to… get it? there’s not other woman being referred to here it’s just that you people’s hateful mind will always want to dig for something bad in a beautiful thing. Congrats Nse dear

    • Joan

      February 8, 2013 at 4:32 pm

      “her” referred to Nse herself, read that paragraph again and you’ll understand. 🙂

    • Anonymous

      February 8, 2013 at 5:49 pm

      “I would love to spend the rest of my life with my sweetheart” and I asked him “have you told her?”….THANK ME LATER

    • Winny

      February 10, 2013 at 1:09 am

      He is a married man, this piece is strategic damage control for when it all hits the fan. FACT

    • Vee

      February 13, 2013 at 2:08 pm

      LOOL read it properly!

      “…..he blurted it “I would love to spend the rest of my life with my sweetheart” and I asked him “have you told her?”. He said he had been trying but she seemed distant (abi you for no pretend say you no sabi say na you) oh well. I wanted him to say the words”

      You people are funny! 😀

    • shells

      February 16, 2013 at 6:14 pm

      @laura…u r a pessimist…nuff said

    • Cheese

      February 22, 2013 at 9:30 pm

      I would think this was pretty obvious, the ‘her’ he was talking about, but apparently not.

  27. Partyrider

    February 8, 2013 at 2:49 pm

    Wow..oh wow!
    Beautiful!! Oh my Nse!! How I love deserve all the happiness in the world.God bless you both…

  28. Bey

    February 8, 2013 at 2:49 pm

    Awww! I love u nse

  29. nnenne

    February 8, 2013 at 2:52 pm

    wooow! That’s all i can say. just woow. all the best Nse.

  30. omotee

    February 8, 2013 at 2:53 pm

    i wasnt expecting that it wud b d same guy sha bt alas uts d same guy. gues both destinies are meant to b together. bt dis guy na wa for u, it tuk u almost 2 decades to open ur eyes abi. well done. well tank God is not too late sha. and do d marriage quickly jawe and pikins on point. congrats Nse.

  31. Okpe Mart

    February 8, 2013 at 2:59 pm

    Wow!!!,this is really touching.I pray every girl out there who lost true love as in your story find them back..True love never dies..wish you a long lasting marriage when the time comes.

  32. dont mention

    February 8, 2013 at 3:00 pm

    wow….what makes it interesting is not even her writing but the fact that it is her story, her true love, her miracle n its inspiring n i am even happier bc i hav a similar story…..kudos to u nse n wishing u all de happiness in the world.

  33. isaid!!

    February 8, 2013 at 3:07 pm

    Nse! Nse! ,She writes just as powerful as she acts! Beautiful piece.

  34. portable

    February 8, 2013 at 3:10 pm

    Wow!!! I pray ur love stays true and steadfast till eternity,Amen!!!

  35. teeenaaaa

    February 8, 2013 at 3:10 pm

    madam duchess, dis chick is hitting 37, abi u no read d story well?

    • Changing Faces

      February 8, 2013 at 7:00 pm

      Oh shut up! So what if she’s hitting 50? Sad people that always try to make themselves feel better!

    • Bdiva

      February 19, 2013 at 4:04 pm

      so what, is it not better she marry right at 37 than being an unhappy and divorce at 37

  36. Madam the Madam

    February 8, 2013 at 3:10 pm

    Congratulations Nse. Wishing you all the best in your union.

    SOmetimes when people leave us, they aren’t gone for good.

  37. posh

    February 8, 2013 at 3:17 pm

    Wow….Beautiful but why I’m I soo sad

    • Jo!

      February 8, 2013 at 4:07 pm

      Like “Come on!”

  38. christiana

    February 8, 2013 at 3:21 pm


  39. Gyann

    February 8, 2013 at 3:24 pm

    I have always said that this babe, Nse Ikpe Etim is my darling….this is a brilliant piece…oh my God like am watching a movie,,,u can act this u know? well well well….I promise to pray for you Dear. May God make ur joy be forever, ur happiness shine thru u like the morning stars, ur peace reign in ur generation. May this man never recover from marrying u. May u be the BEST thing that has ever and will ever happen to him aside salvation in Jesus Name. You both will not die prematurely, ur children will not bring sorrows. in Jesus name. Amen. I cover ur relationship. ur marriage in Jesus Namen .Amen. It is done! amen. I will continue to have u in my prayers. ……not a pastor, just a child of God who loves her fan. met you @uyo airport about twice, we were flying back together from Lag and then i said hi in the aircraft…you were warm.

    -Just a fan from the same state. *wink*

  40. marie

    February 8, 2013 at 3:26 pm

    CAPTIVATING!!!!!! trop bien écrit! c’est pourquoi je t’admire autant Nse! cette authenticité ressort même à travers tes rôles dans les films!!!!! BRAVOOOOO!! very touching story!! tns to share it with us Nse!! bravo!

    • MsEzed

      February 9, 2013 at 8:23 pm

      Ok we know you’re bilingual *rme

    • Vee

      February 13, 2013 at 2:09 pm


  41. Yon

    February 8, 2013 at 3:26 pm

    Wish you the very best of luck in your marriage, Nse. God bless you xx

  42. ronny

    February 8, 2013 at 3:28 pm

    Waoh!So romantic Nse.I felt her pain,her giddiness, her hopes and her love.I cried out with her when he broke up with her and could hardly believe he came back.So happy she didn’t settle.She needed love and she found it.I believe she won’t v married if it was not him.Some men spoil you for others.And it can only be them.I feel he is mature now,and will appreciate her.

  43. Peaches

    February 8, 2013 at 3:36 pm

    Nse, thank you for this piece. You just reassured me of my love for my boyfriend. i will stick around and hope for the best with him. Thank you once again. May God grant u the happiness u deserve. Its not about how early….2 decades past.. and here you are with the man that gives you all the joy and happiness.

  44. chinny

    February 8, 2013 at 3:43 pm

    True love will always find you. i love your story Nse, very touching and real. I have something similar, but in my own case, i think i am the one who is truely in love, he might never come back to me, am 27 years and he is 36, i have moved on with life and if i meet another guy, i will have to get married. Love sometimes is so sad.

    • BeeT

      February 8, 2013 at 4:27 pm

      Then find a way to get him – not by jazz sha – I’m sure this time, he’ll be yours


    February 8, 2013 at 3:46 pm

    ive been away from an ex for 4 years and each time i talk about him all i want to do is bee with him.i really wish we cld get back together he completes me

    • Bleed blue

      February 8, 2013 at 4:30 pm

      Awwww, sweetheart, you never know, things just might connect for you both and like Nse, you can find each other again. All the best dear, the heart is a funny thing when it decides to beat for only one person. I’ll say a prayer for you….hugs hugs!!!

    • Ebi

      February 9, 2013 at 2:02 pm

      He completes you ke? Sorry.
      I hoe you see she confessed to lying that she wasnt interested in marriage, when all the while she was, its just that the boy she wanted didnt want her. Dont wish for other poeple’s love stories embrace yours

  46. Laila

    February 8, 2013 at 3:47 pm

    Always a beautiful thing. Congrats Nse

  47. Retrochic

    February 8, 2013 at 3:51 pm

    i love her, i wish her all the best, this is really true love

  48. ashani

    February 8, 2013 at 4:00 pm

    Lovely piece.. If its her ‘true’ story, i wish them both nothing but the best.
    Love really is a beautiful never dies..maybe slumbers..but never dies..
    As an actress..i know you not…but as a write..Kudos!!

  49. Stella Kashmoney

    February 8, 2013 at 4:04 pm

    Beautiful story. Congrats Nse. True love never dies.

  50. keke

    February 8, 2013 at 4:10 pm

    awwww! Dis is so touching, i wish i will have dis kinda story to tell. i wish u all d best nse.

  51. Nowe

    February 8, 2013 at 4:12 pm

    Fantastic Piece!!!!….Very well Written.

  52. Eubaby

    February 8, 2013 at 4:16 pm

    wow! i always new there something special about Nse! nice master piece and i could tell this is from your heart, wish you the best in this season of Love! Kudos and big up ur self.

  53. sona

    February 8, 2013 at 4:20 pm

    Dis dude should go and do thanksgiving cos he’s lucky she never stopped loving him… If not he wud have been on OYO lane….

  54. BeeT

    February 8, 2013 at 4:26 pm


  55. Chuko

    February 8, 2013 at 4:52 pm

    I really love this piece, it’s very inspiring.

  56. Toyeen

    February 8, 2013 at 4:58 pm

    awww this piece just lifted my spirit, i am that girl who has had her heartbroken numerous times and i have lost faith in love. I hope my love story will be better than this….

  57. MEZIE

    February 8, 2013 at 5:13 pm


  58. keke

    February 8, 2013 at 5:21 pm

    i luv u nse

  59. kekepearl

    February 8, 2013 at 5:39 pm

    Its rare to find true love dis days, i dnt knw y its lyk dis

  60. Noms

    February 8, 2013 at 5:47 pm

    Hmmmmm. I have tears in my eyes. I prayer that someday my first,one and only love will come back to me and i will be able to write my story too. Funny enough we joke about writing our story for a nollywood movie. I understand the part when you asked him if he had told her,hmmm. You even dated other guys, i haven’t had any boyfriend because i haven’t been able to feel that spark and genuine friendship we shared besides i’m a virgin and guys want to test/taste. We still call eachother bestfriends but i dunnooooo. In all i know that the Will of God will always prevail. Congrats.

  61. Kenny

    February 8, 2013 at 5:50 pm

    Wow, may God bless u guys union. The guy should be lucky that no man succeeded in sweeping u, off ur feet, for him staying out of ur life for this long for circumstances i guess he couldn’t control. I can relate to your story very well Nse, i missed out on the woman i’m suppose to marry, the only difference, is that urs came back mine never. I met this woman while we where both at the university in Nigeria, when we graduated waiting to head to youth service she begged me that we should get married bc she loved me, my answer was NO, not bc i don’t love her reason being i didn’t know what the future holds for me then plus, you what? i still want to groove marriage no dey for my dictionary then Lol…. You guys no how tough it is in Nigeria getting a job after graduation, long story short after youth service, God gave me the opportunity and i left the country in search of greener pasture. Now that i’m ready, the chic is married and since then I’ve been searching its really hard to find a wife. My advice to guys when u find the chic u click with pls, do all u can to keep her even if u don’t have the means then to marry her, reassuring her always will make a difference so she can hold on. No wonder my father said ” We have many girlfriends but few wify” i never understood then what he meant, but now everything is beginning to make meaning. She has four kids now and i spoke to her sometime ago, i told her that her husband is the most luckiest man on earth bc he got a good wife. That lady is the only woman whom i’ve come across that understood me very well. During one of our phone conversation, she asked me if i was married, i said No, and she asked what i’m still waiting for, i reply to her, was that i’m still searching, her reply was, what are u still searching for,? i laughed and told her a woman that will understand me like her. Well i stop talking to her bc i don’t want to distract her from her marriage. Una no how e dey go sometimes make old firewood no go catch fire lol….. U guys have a great weekend

    • liily

      February 8, 2013 at 6:30 pm

      interesting story you got! I pray you find a good woman that will not only be your wife but a bestfriend to you. A good woman is very hard to find. Goodluck!

    • chinny

      February 11, 2013 at 10:18 am

      Am looking for a good man too and that makes the two of us, LETS GIVE IT A CHANCE. LOL. But seriously marriage is not a joke, getting the exact person one can click with is not something that comes by all the time and sometimes is our fault, we are not serious, focused, we want to enjoy life, we take people who cares for us for granted. But is not over untill is over.

    • MOI

      February 12, 2013 at 3:49 pm

      i kinda wish guys reasoned like u, though i really dont blame u cos u were young and i somehow u needed to be out there. there are other guys who are already settled and are still confused cos they want MISS PERFECT. Anyway, i pray God finds u someone who will understand you as you so desire but ensure u open ur heart to possibilities and do not forget to stop comparing the girl wt ur EX who you missed.

    • Sleep sweet

      February 15, 2013 at 8:07 pm

      @kenny ::: My first love is already sounding like u n I just got married last month. I didn’t have d courage to stay when he begged me not to go ahead with the wedding cos everything was ready n fixed n ppl informed. Now I’m hoping n praying my marriage be blessed n I’ve cut all contact with him, but no day passes without something reminding me of him. With my hubby in another country at d moment I hope my papers get through soon so that I can move on fully! He still believes he can get me back but I don’t wanna be a divorce… God pls help me put this behind me if u really ordained this marriage like everyone around me believes **i used to think so, but now …. I will just keep trying**

    • Cali-Babe

      February 17, 2013 at 9:01 pm

      My advise to you is that, you stop looking for your EX in other women. You have to take any woman you meet just the way they are. Believe me there are good women everywhere, but men just choose not to see them. I pray you find that special person.

  62. Mama nony

    February 8, 2013 at 5:52 pm

    Ahhhhhh so romantic

  63. olu

    February 8, 2013 at 5:59 pm

    This is the real nollywood goddess. Intelligence, beauty and expertise. Well done girl!!!

  64. foxy

    February 8, 2013 at 6:01 pm

    its amazing…wat a creative impressed….beautiful!!!

  65. zee

    February 8, 2013 at 6:09 pm

    Awww!touchn piece..dunno y I v dis sad feeling tho


    February 8, 2013 at 6:22 pm

    WOW! I just saw myself in this story … the thing though is that I’m not quite sure mine will turn out the same way … Wishing her all the very best!

  67. nene

    February 8, 2013 at 6:41 pm

    this is such a lovely story. i screamed in excitement after reading. i knew NSE was heartbroken by men when she made that strong statement about not being born to get married. when women especially don’t want to get married, they’ve had bad experience, it might not be first hand, it might be an experience that someone close to them experienced. good luck to her and every other girl/woman out there.

  68. liily

    February 8, 2013 at 6:58 pm

    WOW!!! Mine is that after I moved my ex broke up with me because of the distance. I still LOVE him and it’s been 4 years and I have not been in a relationship or dated anyone seriously because I still have strong feelings for him. I don’t know if our story will be like this or may be not!

    • zsa zsa

      February 9, 2013 at 6:25 am

      Here is my story…the short version 🙂
      I met my love right before we both got into university in the late 90’s, I schooled in lagos and he schooled in the east. We didn’t start off being in love but in very strong like,he was 5 yrs older(multiple JAMB attempts) and we took things very slow. We wrote letters as a means of communication, with time we grew closer and eventually admitted we were in love. After i graduated i had to leave the country while he was still in school(he was a med student). To say we were heartbroken is an understatement..anyway, we continued our relationship by writing letters, emailing,calling…but it wasn’t the same. The distance started to take a toll. We decided to part ways and date other people, we cried like babies! I dated someone else but my heart was never in it, he never understood me and i was always comparing him to my ex in my mind. We eventually parted ways and i decided i would probably die single. Some months later i got a text from my first ex saying his “hunger” for me would not let him move on. Boy was i happy! We started taking and realized we belonged together. After 4 yrs i visited nigeria for the first time, we met and it was like we were never apart,couple of days later he asked me to marry him and whisked me off to meet his parents. We’ve been married 4 yrs with a daughter and we still thank God we found our way back to each other.
      Sometimes you have to make a bold move if you are convinced what you have is real with the other person. My dear, why not take a trip to nigeria and find out if he feels the same way? i he loves you he knows what to do. My husband and i got married under less than ideal situations financially but we are very stable today. When you are with the one you love for the right reasons you can conquer anything together. Open your heart, don’t be afraid and go get your love boo!

    • Eve

      May 4, 2013 at 10:56 am

      I’m new here, but I have noticed your comments, and I really applaud you. I love them, and wish you the very best in life!

  69. ola

    February 8, 2013 at 7:33 pm

    great historical life….

  70. Lateh L

    February 8, 2013 at 7:40 pm

    this is really sad … Im scared and happy for her … all at the same time.

  71. kenora

    February 8, 2013 at 7:41 pm

    wow true love never dies no matter what..

  72. x factor

    February 8, 2013 at 7:45 pm

    Wow Wow Wow!!!!

  73. jade

    February 8, 2013 at 7:47 pm

    Wow, just tears, simply tears at it all.

  74. Deedee

    February 8, 2013 at 8:08 pm

    Wow,what an amazing piece

  75. NNENNE

    February 8, 2013 at 8:22 pm

    Good luck Nse. Hope everything works out for you guys. I will put you in my prayers.

  76. Omoh

    February 8, 2013 at 8:22 pm

    Nse deserves the best…i’m so happy for u…


    February 8, 2013 at 8:23 pm

    Nice story..very heart warming.

  78. fa

    February 8, 2013 at 8:23 pm

    never made a comment here but had to just do this cos i can remember them so well at the estate even though they were much older than i was…..always loved nse…. congratulations nse!!!

  79. Bisi O

    February 8, 2013 at 8:41 pm

    Wow that was an amazing story! Thank God!

  80. i no send

    February 8, 2013 at 9:35 pm

    i get where she’s coming from cos i met mine when i was 15 and the rest is history as they say..

  81. Ih

    February 8, 2013 at 9:42 pm

    Wow ! Wow ! Wow ! Congrats Nse

  82. sassycassie

    February 8, 2013 at 9:47 pm

    ”He wasn’t supposed to make my mascara run he was meant to smear my lipstick!”
    Best line, ever. I also recently reconnected with a childhood sweetheart. We’ll be getting married soon. I wish you tons of happiness . I pray this third time will be the charm for you

  83. oma

    February 8, 2013 at 10:08 pm

    wow! wow! wow!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Nse I’ve always admired u. U’ve just won me all over with this. I really wish u the best.

  84. Ola

    February 8, 2013 at 10:18 pm

    Beautiful piece,nice play of words

  85. iamfascinating

    February 8, 2013 at 10:24 pm

    Hmmn.YOLO. All the best, Nse

  86. poshilla!

    February 8, 2013 at 11:17 pm


  87. Uk

    February 9, 2013 at 3:29 am

    Wow oooo

  88. Yve

    February 9, 2013 at 7:22 am

    congrats to Nse and all. its a beautiful thing. BUT i think the only reason this story works is cause she made the resolve not to marry…she wasn’t stressed for it or even looking for it…thus when ol boy strolled back in years and years later, she was still open. Naija babes (myself included) are stressed and bothered about marriage. yes for all the right (and not right) reasons but also at the right ‘time’ (not Gods time o, but society and biology’s time). I’m a strong believer in love, but an even stronger believer in knowing when a man is NOT into you. because you have decided he is your soul mate doesn’t mean you are his. biko…know when to pack ur slippers and never look back. sure…if i want to end up with my olodo ‘true love’, i’ll wait and wait until the second coming…prolly when i’m 42 and he’s 45…and then his eyes will shine abi? i think not (yes, i have a story similar to nse except i’m not googling anyone or asking for number – 3x bitten, 3x shy #ontothenextone). lol. all i’m saying is this kind of reciprocal love is rare, precious, it’s the long suffering kind, the Carrie Bradshaw and Mr.Big kind of hollywood mumu love that doesnt exist! i’m not sure giving up my youth to ‘wait’ for someone while they frolick abt (even tho you might be frolicking as well) is my idea of a life well lived. find a man that you love and loves you back even harder…settle down with him, have ur beautiful babies, Live your life and keep it moving. all you babes aww-ing and ahh-ing, dont dull yourselves o~! 35yrs IS ADVANCED MATERNAL AGE! you’ve been warned. #my10cents

    • debutante

      February 9, 2013 at 9:38 pm

      thanks for jolting me back to reality. i am not googling no ex!

    • Alero

      February 11, 2013 at 2:26 pm

      [email protected] advanced maternal age.God help us all

    • ...

      February 12, 2013 at 10:04 am

      over ‘on point’ just found a soulmate in this your post abeeeeeeeeeg! *applause* Don’t know you,but a person this realistic must rock! totally agree!!!!!!! while we r over the moon for Ms Nse n this beautiful piece, make una no wait 20 years o, everyone’s road is different

    • tata

      March 2, 2013 at 9:20 am

      Best comment I’ve ever seen on this website. Women please put sentiments aside and be realistic for once! I can’t believe the number of people that have been awwwing at this piece, Nse writes well and this is her own journey but please don’t now equate this to that ex who cheated on you time after time or that ex that slapped you around. Nobody knows the intricate details of nse’s relationships that made it work! At 37 she took a bold step waiting for this man but please o don’t put yourself on a long thing. An EX is an EX for a reason most times, let it go and move on. Nse has no idea she is inspiring some women to go back to horrible dysfunctional relationships. Some might be true love but please look before you leap.

  89. Ifeyinwa Atuanya

    February 9, 2013 at 8:19 am

    Nseoma as in Nneoma… … 🙂

  90. ib

    February 9, 2013 at 12:50 pm

    Nice piece,av a great one with ur prince charming

  91. Samuel Okopi

    February 9, 2013 at 1:29 pm

    I just had to comment. This is beautiful writing, and the fact that it is non-fiction makes it all the more interesting. Wow! Nigerian film stories should borrow a leaf!

    Congratulations, Nse and Happy Married life in advance. You are one of my favourite Nigerian actors, and you made Phone Swap and Mr and Mrs unforgettable Nigerian movies for me.


  92. mofeola

    February 9, 2013 at 1:48 pm

    Quite inspiring piece.I so much luv d woman in her!u rock babe

  93. Kenny

    February 9, 2013 at 2:45 pm

    @Liily thanks a lot and God bless, enjoy ur weekend

  94. jems

    February 9, 2013 at 3:03 pm

    i just love Nse anytime anyday , truly happy for her and wish her the best in her married life …. my favorite actress ….. i love u too much u be sabi gal . i hope i get to meet u soon.

  95. Gbelepawo

    February 9, 2013 at 5:24 pm

    Good for her, I hope it’s true love and not just convenient. This guy keeps proposes and disappears, then proposes again. There is a gap in this story somewhere, where this dude was busy with another chic that didn’t work out and decided to come back to the one he knows will be waiting. True love or convenience, we will never know…

  96. Gbelepawo

    February 9, 2013 at 5:25 pm

    Good for her, I hope it’s true love and not just convenient. This guy proposes and disappears, then proposes again. There is a gap in this story somewhere, where this dude was busy with another chic that didn’t work out and decided to come back to the one he knows will be waiting. True love or convenience, we will never know… Hope it works out for them.

  97. MEE

    February 9, 2013 at 5:41 pm

    Lilly n’kenny u guys shuld hook up! Lols. Congrats nse,i gat mixed feelings too

    • Bea

      February 10, 2013 at 2:45 pm

      Lol I agree!

  98. Gimmer

    February 9, 2013 at 6:50 pm

    Her hair tho…gorgeous

  99. MsTilii

    February 9, 2013 at 6:52 pm

    Oh Nse, u just gotta love her. Made me smile after reading this. Happy Valentine everyone.

  100. banke

    February 9, 2013 at 9:37 pm

    Congrats Nse, i hope your true love last and you both live happily ever after. My story is similar to yours but didnt end well. I met him at 16, he was 5 years older, there was a lot of hide and seek, and running into trouble on both ends becos of family issues, me being too young etc, at a point i didnt see him for over a yr, and then he reappeared in my life and it was back on again. I left the country at 22 after Uni, with a lot of sadness wondering if we would ever see again. We didnt keep in touch, but he went around to visit my mum and ask after me. I went back to naija after 2yrs and met up with him, the fireworks were still there and he really wanted to get married, we did and he came to live with me abroad. From the moment he landed we didnt get on and i realised we were totally incompatible. He left me when our first child was one, i was devastated, we eventually got back together again, and went on to have 2 more kids, anyway after 10years and 3 kids, i am now on my own and wouldnt get back with him if he was the last man on earth. Out of the 10yrs we were married we only lived together for 3yrs, he was always going and coming (he didnt have any other woman or child, he said he just couldnt live with a woman he cant beat up if she misbehaved). I wish i hadnt given him so many chances and have left him when i had only one child. Nse congrats once again, and hope your love last forever.

    • Purpleicious Babe

      February 10, 2013 at 2:43 am

      awwwwwwww………… i dont know what to say? wow pretty mean though… kia, i hope you are strong for yourself and the children… xxx

  101. Ruthie Adams

    February 10, 2013 at 2:30 am

    how is it that another can pen a crowd’s emotion down so accurately? it can only be true gifting, a mix of wit and raw emotion….
    ur piece is so real…. so touching…. i couldn’t help but smile as I read.
    best of luck with ur luv.

  102. Bode

    February 10, 2013 at 7:47 pm

    Wow Nse! You surely got my goatee! But then you have always been one fineeee one! May your marriage be as sweet as your dreams!

  103. D Fairy GodSister

    February 10, 2013 at 8:30 pm

    Congratulations to both of them…. Hopefully she doesn’t cry, or have to look for this man again.

  104. Ada

    February 10, 2013 at 11:24 pm

    Hope he had a good explanation for dumping her d last time & why he thinks he’s ready now?

  105. ibukungeorge

    February 11, 2013 at 6:02 am

    Okay !ibukun stop crying*snif*snif*I feel so happy and scared for her too*don’t know [email protected] God will be with you.Had my first Bf in my year3 at the university.we broke up-He actually broke up with me.Reason?he’s not feeling the passion like before(Later I found out he was actually cheating on me).I moved on and dated someone else and infact got engaged .He proposed to that same lady and later broke the engagement.We are both single now but just friends.I can’t say yes right away even if he propose.I don’t put my mind to it at all because I have this fear that what if he messes up again.Love is so complicated but when one finds the right one,love is beautiful. Hmm. Nse wish you the best love.

  106. bobby

    February 11, 2013 at 8:08 am

    Hate long write-ups, but this is an exception. Makes me wanna love up deep in ma blood. Wishing Nse all d best.

  107. HRS

    February 11, 2013 at 8:19 am

    Beautiful… Absolutely beautiful… There’s nothing like being married to your best friend, u already know eachother’s flaws, best points, likes, dislikes and the rest…. Even when u are both old, and the love looks like it is fading and not as exciting as the initial stage…. ur friendship holds u forever…. Congratulations Nse, wish u both the best… Looking forward to seeing ur wedding pictures on Bella….

  108. tosin

    February 11, 2013 at 10:50 am


  109. amy

    February 11, 2013 at 11:44 am

    Beautiful piece, my most fave actress!!! we kinda share an almost similar story(there was no walk around the estate for me, lol) and I was’nt as young as you when we met. But we are having a go at it the third time and I’m hoping for the best

  110. cuka85

    February 11, 2013 at 12:28 pm

    OMG! Nse Beautiful beautiful story. Got me feeling butterflies.

  111. mec09

    February 11, 2013 at 1:29 pm

    God please remember meooooooooo like you did you did to Nse.My dear God will bless you marriage.Congrat

  112. Omo1

    February 11, 2013 at 3:34 pm

    This is a tale of two people meant for each other…Hmn

  113. julz

    February 11, 2013 at 3:46 pm

    Why do I feel like this is just a write up not her real story? She is actually getting married to a white guy from what i heard. All the best anyway!

  114. egnol

    February 11, 2013 at 4:44 pm

    Wow!! Nse I love u loads. my story is so similar to hers n Tracy Chapman’s”the promise” kept me going till we got bac again.

  115. TeamNse

    February 11, 2013 at 6:07 pm

    I am a passionate Nse Fan. I finished reading this story with tears in my eyes. Nse, I am happy for you and at the same time worried. I like you so much and I would feel very bad if you get hurt. However, the best we can all do is pray. As you go through the journey called marriage, Pray! Pray, Pray, Pray and Pray and then everything would be fine. I wish you all the best. Cheers

  116. sunshine

    February 11, 2013 at 6:16 pm

    it tuk him 2 decades….. dir is somfin fishy wif dis dude, cant just place ma hands on it.. i wish u all d best dou but ma onli advice for u is dat u shuld make sure u undastand d man he has become bcos d boy he was den is diff frm d person he is now, tym changes pple…………. dir mit b som silly fins he does b4 dat u love but mit nt do dem again cos he feels dat wasn’t matured of him……

  117. myname

    February 11, 2013 at 7:11 pm

    Life is so funny. As i write this piece, i’m shedding tears of regret “if i had known”. My story was similar to Nse’s. I met this guy while i was 16yrs and was seating for GCE, he actually came to write the papers for someone. He was 5 yrs older than me but he was a complete gentle man. we became friends and he was living somewhere far but within Lagos state, he became my half brother’s friend just to win my love. I gained admission into the university and he used to come visting. He made me a woman and our love life became the envy of many though my school was far away in the west and he lived in Lagos. I never knew the person i called my half brother was going behind me to tell him all sorts about me and my mum, he literally told my ex that my mum was diabolical and that i was into many men. He cried his eyes out and got drunk on my sisters wedding when the “half brother” in question told him all this lies. He had actually gotten an apartment of his own when this happened and he planned it to be a a surprise thing for me but when he was told all the lies, he took another girl there he nursed his pains for about 1 year and eventually got married to her ( he never told me all he heard). I never knew all these stories until 12 years later (this year precisely) , he was looking for my friends and families in order to get information about me until he came across by brother whom connected us on fb. We talked and he told all he was told about me and my mum and we both cried. we both knew we were best for each other, we both had so many things in common loved each other so much. I had to look for another man when i heard he got married 12yrs ago. Though i’m married now with 3 kids but my husband is a complete liar and a cheat, i have tried to love him but he goes behind me sleeping with women in the 9 yrs we’ve been mrried and doing all sort of things. I wish i could turn back the time and get married to my true love. Nse has been blessed, she will never know the pains and heart-ache she has been safed by getting married to her best friend and the only man that understands her most, i wished i have the opportunity again, i would have been in one of the most enviable marriage.

  118. ima

    February 12, 2013 at 8:10 am

    beautiful piece Nse! Wit the bitter/sweet comments of those with similar experiences, i would remeber to tread softly

  119. Mobola

    February 12, 2013 at 8:43 am

    Nse Ikpe Etim is my role model, her personality is what i love most about her. She deserves nothing less than the best, and i really hope that is what she has gotten. May you have no reason to regret this. All the best Nse!!!!

  120. CNV777

    February 12, 2013 at 8:46 am

    @ myname, there is nothing to regret. If he loved you so much, he would have stayed by you, but he left! What kind of a soul mate is that? It probaly was not in God’s plan for the two of you to get married. …If we keep looking back, at what would have been , should have been, how can we totally be in the present? how can we give the present a fair chance? Men are hunters, the unattainable is the desirable. Married ladies, let no “ex” man twirl you with words! Rock your present life , in a some of cases, it was probaly the life God meant for you…Lets keep lifting our husbands in prayer, nothing is impossible with God.

    • moi

      February 12, 2013 at 11:54 am

      I just need a like button for this comment!

    • Eve

      May 4, 2013 at 11:06 am

      Kenya Moore twirl to that!!!

  121. Tope

    February 12, 2013 at 9:17 am

    Winny February 10, 2013 at 1:09 AM
    He is a married man, this piece is strategic damage control for when it all hits the fan. FACT

    Are you kidding me? I’m sorry but the cynic in me figured something was not alright with this story. I said to myself, there has to be another woman who will be in agony now, cos this first loves have reunited. We know men, he won’t have stayed single for this long, he would have either been married or had baby mama’s. Hmmmn, I hope Nse is not benefitting from the sorrows of another woman o. First love or not, the minute he is married, abeg women no rekindle anything. You don’t break up a marriage yeah, yeah, you can’t steal what didn’t want to be stolen they say, but mehn, karma is a bitch o, and she has a memory longer than an elephant. I don’t support gboko gboko’s. I’m a woman, and that ish aint funny

    • Hian

      February 13, 2013 at 10:36 am

      Who told u he is married? Read the story well madam, before you jump into conclusions.

  122. Temi

    February 12, 2013 at 11:26 am

    wow, may God bless your union

  123. amarachi

    February 12, 2013 at 12:03 pm

    wow wat a beautiful story

  124. Egor Efiok

    February 12, 2013 at 6:13 pm

    Oh NILE! My darling sis. *sniff sniff* You have the most beautiful heart ever and have been my friend when I needed you most; I will ALWAYS cherish that. I’m so pleased for you and wish you a very happy married life blessed with all your heart’s desires IJMN- AMEN. Love you always girl. God bless you.

  125. janet murikira

    February 12, 2013 at 8:47 pm

    sigh…… she deserves all the love in the world……. great ending

  126. bess

    February 12, 2013 at 11:25 pm

    Beautiful.. well intended writing.. and from the heart.

  127. HeartBroken

    February 13, 2013 at 8:35 am

    I have a similar story. I met my resent ex when I was 15. I had a HUGE crush on him and was more than ecstatic when we got talking. he was my first love, he left for the United States after his secondary school and he left me behind. years later I also left for the US and we began talking again. we started dating but we kept moving from one issue to another. I know I’m still young (23) but I honestly think I’ll never find someone like him, its been a year since we broke up and I cant even bring myself to start dating again. I hope he comes back to me 🙁

    • ME

      February 13, 2013 at 10:13 am

      hmmm…. i met him in the university and we started our love. He was my first love, i didnt believe i could actually love like that before him. He means the whole world to me, We started dating and we also went off nd on…..we are apart now, but we still see once in a while and hang out. He says he sees us getting back in the future…. i long for that moment. I cant love any1 the way i love him. I have met other guys, but deep down i know i would have a loveless marriage with any of them. Am just scared that he may meet someone else someday whom he wud like and i would b dere just waiting for nothing. (am also 23)

  128. annie

    February 13, 2013 at 11:15 am

    almost brought tears to my eyes i wish u d very best darl, and i pray 4 myself, i pray i find love, am still searching

  129. brownie

    February 13, 2013 at 11:29 am

    Congrats Nse!! Loving that fro’ too, gorgeous! I can totally relate with this story – met my first love at 18 and fell completely head over heels in love with him. He broke my heart and started talking to another girl – apparently his friends told him I wasn’t spiritual enough for him (eye roll)! Fast forward to 10 years later and our lives were still enmeshed, and it felt like we kept breaking each other’s hearts. I dated other guys, he dated other women but somehow we always found ourselves re-kindling buried feelings and talking about the past.

    I couldn’t take it anymore when he came back into my life last year and started talking marriage and how he’s changed etc. I realised I’d changed as well and I didn’t love him the way I used to anymore. I actually used to pray to God to help me love this guy less smh! I felt a sense of sadness if I said yes and went back to him after all these years. I wanted to believe there was more for me than returning to the same person, after waiting for so long and trying so hard to move on with my life. I also realised that if I went back to him, I’d have to view him with new lenses and not judge every action or decision he made on the basis of his past and I can’t trust myself to do that which would be unfair to him and me. So, after much thought and prayer, I let him go. There was a time I thought and believed I could never love another man the way I loved this guy. But I know that love is limitless, so I’m looking forward to the future and trusting God to expand my heart and make room for me to love the one He’s destined for me when he comes, like I should.

  130. Grace

    February 13, 2013 at 11:44 am

    Awww,this is so sweet,there is nothing like TRUE LOVE….I do love love sha…:)

  131. D-one

    February 13, 2013 at 11:49 am

    lovely and touching article. wish the best in ur marital journey

  132. sudee

    February 13, 2013 at 12:22 pm

    writing dt reflects a beautiful mind

  133. Caramel

    February 14, 2013 at 10:58 am

    Nse is clearly the most talented nigerian artiste! I am a writter so i know a good piece when i see one. Shame, alot of dense people that dont understand the art of writting and the play of words are ignorantly interpreting nonsense. Wishing you all the best Nse and God’s Grace with your marriage, your career, and all your future endeavour.

  134. Metche

    February 15, 2013 at 10:06 am

    How come you are the only one making effort to connect him after he travelled out of the country? and why must u send him flower and wine to accept his proposal? haba. anyway am happy for you but please shine ur eyes. Wish you well dear

    • |Annon

      February 18, 2013 at 2:38 pm

      seconded. best comment so far… where is d like button biko

  135. toyin

    February 15, 2013 at 10:06 pm

    This beautiful woman is not only very talented but also an amazing writer. I saw her in a movie for the first time few months ago, I thought, who is this actress? Not only is she simply beautiful, there’s something unique about her. She’s refreshing, she speaks from her heart.
    The problem with Nigerians is, secrecy. Nobody wants to talk about themselves in a personal real way, fear of being judged and feeling people know your business. Thank you, for this because you are telling your story that many women can relate to. They are just afraid to admit it. Life is very interesting. Men are known for not expressing their feelings and also fail to go after it, even if they want it so bad. Fear of rejection affects men and women.
    N sethank you for speaking from your heart. I wish you the best.

  136. Bolanle

    February 16, 2013 at 2:27 am

    So I cried….weird!

  137. fisayo

    February 17, 2013 at 12:50 am

    test of love over the measure of years…na strong tin

  138. Tomi

    February 18, 2013 at 9:54 am

    Beautiful write up……. i was hoping it won’t end.She is such a brilliant writer. Keep it up dear.

  139. OlaOluwayimikaaaa

    February 18, 2013 at 12:50 pm

    WOW!!!>>> Beautiful!

  140. KikiC

    February 19, 2013 at 5:58 pm

    Awwwwwwwww *gushing* this write-up got me grinning from ear 2 ear n I hv 2 say *I go love ooo* read this about 9hrs ago and I’ve been on this page ever since.
    May our own b more loved-up than this o *6yrs n counting* 😀

  141. KikiC

    February 19, 2013 at 6:19 pm

    …and Congrats to MRS Nse Etim-Sule 🙂 may God bless ur union. LOVE ur acting and ur writing is nice (quite witty too)

  142. annybaby

    February 19, 2013 at 10:55 pm

    I just looove Nse! She reminds me of myself, strong personality (some say I’m intimidating), interesting, mischievous, creative (oh yes I can do anything with my hands). My story is kinda similar to hers only in my case, my first love and I never seem to beak up& stay apart completely. We met in d uni, as neighbours (lived in d same off campus apartment) and fell in love….. fasfoward 2 6years later, countless quarrels and break ups, mends, plus distance (both working in different cities). But Guess wat? We”re still 2geda trying to make it work. Sometimes I think it’s stupid to work dis hard if it’s really true love it should flow effortlessly like d sea tides….. Reality Check! Real love is a huge investment and takes a lot of work to grow. Sometimes I plead with myself to reduce my standards maybe I”ll find someone who’ll interest me but I”ve discovered nobody ever does cos I keep comparing dem to him and always find myself returning to my first love( yeah 1 man can really spoil u 4 other men). At d end of it all i”ve realize dat it has taken us 6years (it took nse and cliff 2 decades) of falling in & out of love with each other to love and understand ourselves d way we do now & get to dis point. every1 has their unique love story, wat applies 4 couple A may not to u, in other words, stick to wat works 4 u! ……………Oh did I tell u he proposed? Dat 1 nah story 4 anoda day.

  143. Snowy

    February 21, 2013 at 2:42 pm

    Nse, i like u as a sister and i will like to advice that u be careful…wont want to see u hurt again…i know u love this guy…hope he loves u as much…all the best…

  144. Ms Sunshine

    February 21, 2013 at 10:34 pm

    *awwwww*awesome story…i luv!dis reminds me of me and my boo, it took us a while to realsie we wanted 2 be 2geda 4 eva, we’r engaged nw 2 be married soon…may God kip u both in luv

  145. bee jaiye

    February 26, 2013 at 4:13 pm

    awwww… so sweet happy for you dear.

  146. Semira Agabu

    February 27, 2013 at 9:51 am

    This is absolutely beautiful and very well written, tears actually welled up in my eyes; which is rare :).

    May God bless and keep your marriage Nse.

  147. frances

    February 28, 2013 at 2:28 pm

    You are one of my favorite actress and am so very happy for U .Happy married life!

  148. Oladunni affram

    April 7, 2013 at 11:12 am

    Awwww so sweet……

  149. Gracie

    May 10, 2013 at 3:02 pm

    Some how i caught myself revisit this love story and just when i thought i was done emotions rushed down through me with these words pounding heavily on my chest “Why get married to someone who would cheat on you or better still whom I would cheat on? Why get married to someone who would make me a shadow of myself”.

  150. Gracie

    May 10, 2013 at 3:03 pm

    “revisiting this love story again”


    May 28, 2013 at 6:02 am

    This is the most beautiful, natural love story ive ever read! woooooooow……. hmmmmmm simply amazing! congrats NSE. may ur marriage last till death do u both path!

  152. Ladi shuaibu

    June 25, 2013 at 10:07 pm

    woooow……… God bless union darlyn

  153. Ladi shuaibu

    June 25, 2013 at 10:08 pm

    woooow……… God bless ur union darlyn

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