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Aunty Bella is our agony aunt column on BellaNaija. We launched this column in the early days of BN and periodically feature issues sent in by BN readers.

BN reader, Onome* sent us a very short but strong email. We hope you can provide some insight and help; especially as we know that a lot of young and middle aged couples are going through this situation at the moment. We hope that you can provide some constructive and logical advice. Thank you very much.

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Hello. Please I need help for a friend of mine. His girlfriend is asking him to take a blood oath with her, and he is really confused and wants to know if he should go ahead. I need suggestions.

* Not real name.

70 Comments

  1. Jo!

    December 16, 2013 at 10:23 am

    Please go ahead

  2. natty

    December 16, 2013 at 10:29 am

    NO way!! your friend should run far away

  3. Hurperyeahmie

    December 16, 2013 at 10:29 am

    He should take OFF Oath ko, Oath ni at this mordern
    age

    • Purpleicious Babe

      December 16, 2013 at 5:17 pm

      lol..
      Why would anyone want to take a blood oath??People still did that sef. lol
      Anything with blood should send signals..

  4. iwari

    December 16, 2013 at 10:33 am

    Blood oath ke? TELL HIM NOT TO DO IT!!! In fact he should
    take off his shoes and pick race…blood oath 4 what…. it’s not
    necessary dear. No need for it 2 prove one’s love. I’m speaking
    from a female point of view. Tell your friend not to do it, no
    matter what pressure he might be under.

  5. peyton

    December 16, 2013 at 10:40 am

    He should not. Blood oaths are dangerous and very spiritual and demonic. We might not believe this things but they exist.he dosent need to be in a blood oath or covenant to prove his love. I would also suggest that he if he dosent he should get to know Jesus christ am nt talking church am talking about a real relationship. Because am sorry to say this but a person asking for a blood oath is not just normal there are underlinning things.

  6. AJ

    December 16, 2013 at 10:42 am

    not not not not

  7. Endo

    December 16, 2013 at 10:43 am

    If the girlfriend has trust issues and she is ready to resort to fetish means at this stage in their relationship , what will happen if and when they get married ?! I don’t know if they are Christians but the boyfriend should not be coerced into anything occultic because a blood oath is not of God. Infact, this might actually be God’s way of telling him that this relationship is not right for him and he should quit while he’s still ahead.

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  8. Jo!

    December 16, 2013 at 10:44 am

    Haha! What are you people saying? Please go ahead biko! What a question

    • whocares

      December 16, 2013 at 10:55 am

      lmaooooooooooo. that was my reaction as well. I would have thought some things were obvious and did not need deliberation, especially in these times. but this just goes to show.

    • Babes pls

      December 19, 2013 at 7:52 pm

      As in!!!

    • Anon

      December 16, 2013 at 11:08 am

      I luv ur sarcasm biko! Shebi he has brain he doesn’t kno wat is normal n abdnormal

    • Autoprincess

      December 16, 2013 at 11:49 am

      Don’t mind him, instead of him to ‘pick race’ from an obviously fetish girlfriend, he is asking whether he should do blood oath. Small time now, you will see them at MFM to cast and bind. In fact, go to the famed Okija shrine for the oath , biko. hian

  9. Mariaah

    December 16, 2013 at 10:46 am

    NOOOO!!!!!!!!!!! NEVER!!!!!

  10. memebaby

    December 16, 2013 at 10:47 am

    blood oath ? what sort of thing is that ? is she a traditional worshipper ? so mixing blood assures her that they will go all the way ?? please your friend has to dump her and move on!! ok he takes the “blood oath” and they get married, imagine what she will ask for this time. “honey, I want you to eat my pubic hair to prove you love me” (pardon my gross example lol). Tell your friend that he should not agree to such barbaric act and leave her alone!

  11. linda

    December 16, 2013 at 10:47 am

    My dear its a very big NO from me!!!! tell him to run and make sure his legs are touching his head, its devilish…………

  12. gladys

    December 16, 2013 at 10:49 am

    please do not take the Blood oat. I was once dating someone many years ago at the university and he asked me to take blood oat with him am glad I never did cause I would have been a miserable woman married to him. it a life of bondage. there is a lot spiritually connected with blood covenant.

    • ms lala

      December 16, 2013 at 12:38 pm

      YES THERE IS OOOOOOO…my uncle took one ,broke it off and he’s life has never been the same..he married another woman had four children two boys two girls..the first son was the sole person responsible for UNI-IFE 2000 massacre..got rusticated and has been missing for years he was a BLACKAXE..the first daughter lost her womb to an Alhaji and cant have kids and is pretty much miserable..this man who is my uncle has a phd from a foreign university but he is miserable and always in pain…the spiritual problems that comes with broken oaths talkess of one being taken is tooo much ODIKWA RISKY…his last two kids are equally miserable as well. almost cloacking 87 and no grandkids none of his kids are even married.

    • Bide

      December 16, 2013 at 3:49 pm

      Lobatan..Shey u have heard??..A word they say is enough for the wise

    • Grace

      December 20, 2013 at 1:33 am

      Hello, sad to read what happened to your uncle. inasmuch as he did such in the past and broke it off and it seems like the devil is on rampage in his life it is all deception to make him believe that the devil is overly powerful. for a fact satan is extremely wicked but he is not as powerful as people make him to be. he is even over-hyped.
      what I suggest you uncle to do is to get to study about Jesus Christ. I didn’t say he should read about Jesus but get to study and know the lord Jesus Christ and all what he has already done concerning such extreme cases in the word of God. he should also give his life to Christ. and he will be free from this bondage. the word of God is quick, powerful, alive and sharper than the sharpest swords. to believe and know how to apply the word would instantly destroy all these years of bondage. it broke mine and today am free and happy. what the person needs is to seek God with all of their heart and if they truly seek him with all their heart he will be found.

  13. whocares

    December 16, 2013 at 10:51 am

    If that blood oath is not between you and your maker, then you have no business taking one. As it is that is not a requirement for any religious faith so your answer to the oath request should be a firm and resounding NO, after which you pack your baggage and RUN. Religion aside, lets apply common sense now. why would anyone in this day and age ask you to take a oath? a blood oath for that matter? do you know the consequences of that? have you not seen enough nollywood movies to know this doesn’t end well? why your friend is even considering this I will never know. did his mother take a blood oath with his father? is that the norm in his life? if so then I can understand the confusion.. if not, does he not see it for the abnormality that it is? you need to bitch slap your friend (several times) and breathe sense into him (tough love style) blood oath, BLOOD. ahh olorun gba mi o.. this I must have a man issue is becoming something else.

  14. Anonymous Wise Woman

    December 16, 2013 at 10:51 am

    Please dear Onome…even if you dont watch Nollywood movies or Yoruba movies. I want to assume that you have been living in this day and age and you’vr heard stories at least….I beg of you, NO BLOOD OATH please. If she needs your blood to be certain of your intentions for her, then that is not the kind of person you want to be TIED to (notice my use of the word TIED) the very notion itself shows doses of insecurity, complex, low self esteem, possessiveness, clingyness and all the variations of its type…Do not mess up your PHYSICAL & SPIRITUAL LIFE…Whats yours is yours., if it isnt yours, no blood oath will guarantee anything….In the words of an anonymous wise woman, Even if the bird flies, if its really yours it will come back to you…Take care please

  15. Shona

    December 16, 2013 at 10:53 am

    Blood oath in dis day and age?Not worth it jare…He shld pls say NO and move on.

  16. CarliforniaBawlar

    December 16, 2013 at 11:01 am

    Hehehehe…..My fellow country people, behold winchery in high and low places o…..choi!
    My suggestion? Next weekend He should go by his mother’s house for a quick minute and just give her this sweet gist…..”Mummy o, sisi Tamedo wants me to take a blood oath with her o….I just say make I yarn you ni o…”
    Ehn Ehn…..Now you see, the drama that ensues from that will be something not just BN worthy but we can make a Yoruba movie from it sef…not all this kain incomplete “can I put my hand inside fire story”….yeye people…lol.

    • TA

      December 16, 2013 at 11:30 am

      @ CaliforniaBawlar,you is a very wickedly funny person. Nor let me choke on my zobo here o! Ha ha ha ha! My sister nor be small winchery thingz. Hian! Nothing person nor go hear! And if na me be mummy I go use my 2 hands lace blow on that yeye son head,as in he has never head of hepatitis B and all what nots? Am still in stitches over your reply. You is bad gaan. 🙂

    • Hurperyeahmie

      December 16, 2013 at 12:39 pm

      @CarlifoniaBawlar abeg no allow my boss sack me today o ‘cos them go soon pay salary o and xmas is coming . No be small winchery things

    • Purpleicious Babe

      December 16, 2013 at 6:02 pm

      lol.. I can just imagine the resounding the slap on his face to start with and all the curses in this world. “she obirin tin ton ni eku ni”. aha ma pa mi o mi pa iya mi.
      Lol, clearly my yoruba is terrible. “Women don finish for lagos”? “I didn’t kill my mother, don’t kill me”. Translation. x

  17. chinny Akpa

    December 16, 2013 at 11:27 am

    its a NO WAY…. cld affect both later in life

  18. J

    December 16, 2013 at 11:35 am

    wats the difference between unprotected sex and blood oath? smmhhhh we learn everyday. one of the covenant is obvious. Both are covenants. we learn everyday.

    • Idak

      December 16, 2013 at 12:50 pm

      very deep and potent comment.

    • Tiki

      December 16, 2013 at 1:05 pm

      lol so protected sex is not a blood oath?

    • TA

      December 16, 2013 at 1:16 pm

      @ J,good question,very good question. And its food for thought…

    • bNigerian

      December 16, 2013 at 2:27 pm

      Hmm…!

  19. anonymous

    December 16, 2013 at 11:44 am

    Noooooooooo.pls don’t

  20. Idak

    December 16, 2013 at 12:49 pm

    That girl asking for blood oath is a Mama Dolphin protege. Na so dem dey take start.

    • Ewa

      December 16, 2013 at 2:23 pm

      lol.. chai.. which one come be “Mama Dolphin”?.. You guys wont kill me on BN o.. na wa

    • Me Full Ground

      December 22, 2013 at 5:27 pm

      @Idak, pls what is “Mama Dolphin”? My rib cage is bursting with laughter

  21. Tiki

    December 16, 2013 at 1:06 pm

    Onome, please, slap your friend two times on the left side of his head, just above the ear. that one is from you. Then repeat action on the right side. That one is from me.

    • omada

      December 19, 2013 at 7:13 pm

      LOOOOOOOOOOOL

  22. mercy

    December 16, 2013 at 1:31 pm

    please why is this even a topic for discussion. PLEASE GO AHEAD AND TAKE IT.!

  23. Fashionista

    December 16, 2013 at 1:45 pm

    He should go and do blood oath now, stupid man!

  24. Thatgidigirl

    December 16, 2013 at 3:16 pm

    they should attach straws sef to their necks and be sucking each other’s blood if they like. Silly girl! the only oath she should be trying to make is at the alter of a church! devil dancing skelewu on some ppl’s destiny and they’d forming dancing partner with him, mcheeew!

    • Damie Damie

      December 16, 2013 at 3:23 pm

      Jesus save me!!!!!! i laughed and laughed till i began to cry and choke. Attach straws to their necks? EEEEE Jesus o! BN commenters will not kill me!! Heyy rotflmfao!!

    • Bide

      December 16, 2013 at 3:53 pm

      Lmao

    • Immalicious

      December 17, 2013 at 3:09 pm

      hahahahaahha this will be the first time i am commenting on Bella Naija. i am not Nigerian but i love to read bella naija. hahahhaha girl u are sthg else. This your comment na die! hahahahahhaha

  25. Ewa

    December 16, 2013 at 3:29 pm

    lol.. chai.. which one come be “Mama Dolphin”?.. You guys wont kill me on BN o.. na wa

  26. Modella

    December 16, 2013 at 3:30 pm

    Why is the story so short and precise?? Ms Lala I enjoyed your gist more!

    • ms lala

      December 17, 2013 at 1:25 pm

      thanks sweets…family drama is the real sweet story…sad sha

  27. Teletubby

    December 16, 2013 at 3:45 pm

    That gidi girl….u don vex oooooo

  28. Bide

    December 16, 2013 at 3:51 pm

    even after you’ve said No,Please still leave the relationship..Such a person is evil and can be cunning

  29. krikumkrakum

    December 16, 2013 at 4:41 pm

    NEVER!! he shouldn’t do it oo,LAILAI he should FLEE.
    abeg love nor reach that one biko she shud go date her fellow vampires.

  30. JYDE

    December 16, 2013 at 5:15 pm

    Make d guy contact me.
    I get vampire bats wey I dey rent for special occasions such as blood oaths.
    Only one downside sha.
    Dem pipkin dem,go get long fangs and bat ears.

  31. Tru

    December 16, 2013 at 6:43 pm

    EL-OH-Freaking-ELLLLLLLLL!!!!!! Best comments on Bella Naija EVER!!!!!

  32. Boondocks

    December 16, 2013 at 9:45 pm

    ur friend na mumu?….AIDS no know oath or love
    oooo

  33. koin

    December 17, 2013 at 2:07 am

    This is when d’banj sang Mo ti gbagi relay!! Collect the relay baton and finish first..
    Blood covenant kwa???? He is still asking jamb question and waiting for invigilator to give him answer!!!!. My brother please take the blood oath and let the devil and his demons dance azonto on your soul and destiny..

  34. Jozzy

    December 17, 2013 at 10:02 am

    Taking a Blood Oath is not a great idea. Do not go ahead with it or else u will regret it for the rest of ur life.

  35. Stellamaris

    December 17, 2013 at 1:57 pm

    Loooool…..BN readers will not kill me wit lafta….abeg,d broda in questn,jst remove wateva footwear u r wearin nd run as fast as possibl wit ur legs touchin ur head cus ure nt so far frm doom

  36. Yaw

    December 17, 2013 at 4:35 pm

    Affirmative! Homie take the blood oath cause love is a beautiful thing…. Anuofia!

  37. always happy

    December 19, 2013 at 2:34 am

    that mama dolphine protégé statement just brought a flood gate of laughter as in tears inducing laughter…. and then the one wey offer straws….. I just scatter mouth laughing out loud.

  38. Lola

    December 20, 2013 at 10:49 am

    Blood oath bawo, this na vampire things, but if relationship no work out, the babe go still be vampire, while the guy go become werewolf. #shiorkelebetwe, oshisco of the highest order#

  39. Miss T

    December 20, 2013 at 10:00 pm

    RUN!!! Blood oath wetin? Do you believe in rubbish like that? Well, if you do, that’s up to you. You want my advice? Listen and listen well. HIV/AIDs is REAL!!!! That’s all!

  40. Miss T

    December 20, 2013 at 10:00 pm

    RUN!!! Blood oath wetin? Do you believe in rubbish like
    that? Well, if you do, that’s up to you. You want my advice? Listen
    and listen well. HIV/AIDs is REAL!!!! That’s all!

  41. frances

    December 22, 2013 at 2:05 pm

    Pls don’t try it! Don’t!
    I almost did this when I was young,foolish and in the early stages of a stupid love,I didn’t and was mega grateful cuz d guy turned out 2be not ‘it’ at all.without oath sef,it was by God’s grace I pulled myself out of there.
    Don’t try this oooo! Don’t! Don’t rope urslef into a problem by yourself.even marriages break up not to talk of relationships,what happens if evrytin turns sour but u’ve exchanged blood oath???
    Don’t do this abeg,I can’t stop saying DON’T sef.pls DON’T!

    http://imperfectlyperfect92.wordpress.com

  42. Dr. N

    December 24, 2013 at 8:58 pm

    That he even considered it is what I worry about. Please advise him to confide in more people esp his mom so they can deliver him from this girl’s claws. He’s obviously gullible. He should kuku quit d r/ship now! Next is something worse. Is she a priestess or something? ? drnsmusings.wordpress.com

  43. Dr.J

    December 31, 2013 at 5:00 am

    Is this fpr real? I am really surprised that people are so idle that they have time to leave all these comments.Get on with your lives people!!!!

    • hot mama

      January 2, 2014 at 10:13 pm

      And you Dr aploko who also had time to leave a comment here,should also get on with your life.

  44. DannyK

    January 7, 2014 at 3:49 pm

    LMFAO! Nke blood oath kwa. Mehn take it oh…not time to waste this year.
    Please also make sure you bring a ‘Minister of okija shrine to join you two.
    Before i forget, abeg when you do ehn….make sure you remember the date for blood oath renewal service self. That one is very important. kmt.
    Chief mumu.

  45. irryn

    March 30, 2015 at 10:15 am

    abeggii,let him take her to the alter and make the oath before God! juju dey worry am

  46. Mysterious

    July 27, 2015 at 2:37 pm

    Is this even a question??? Rubbish.

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