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Peculiar Okafor: The Simplicity of Pencils & Erasers



Remember when we were little, just starting out school and we wrote in our 2A, 2B and 2D exercise books with those fancy pencils with erasers on their bottom?- well mine didn’t have erasers for long because I always chewed them off.  We could easily erase whatever mistake we made as we wrote down letters of the alphabet and simple arithmetic as all we had to do was turn the pencils the other way and wipe off the error. As we grew older and moved into more senior classes, the fancy pencils were replaced with HB pencils and this time erasing mistakes wasn’t so easy, one had to reach into a stationery or math set for an eraser as your eraser could easily get stolen if you left it on your desk. In the upper primary school classes, our pencils were finally replaced with Biros. We moved further in our scholarly pursuits with various forms of pens, and we no longer had the luxury of simply erasing our mistakes. We cancelled them and had to look at these cancellations whenever that page in our notebooks was opened.

This pencil and pen situation seems to ring true in the lives of most of us as well.  It seems that the older and more sophisticated we get, the more we lose the ability to simply shrug things off and let go. I’m yet to see a child undergoing therapy for Post Traumatic Stress Disorder caused by getting his/her hands burnt by a candle fire. The child simply cries, learns never to go so close to fire anymore, is scared of all forms of light for a while and eventually moves on.

As children, we played, had adventures and laughed off pain easily after crying for a while and few of us had unresolved issues but it seems as we got older and more intelligent with the ability to analyse, interrogate and read between the lines, it became complicated. Your sister’s room was no longer painted blue because it’s her favorite colour but because it signifies the fact that she is prone to depression and hence is always attracted to blue. We are sworn never to forgive our mum or that our friend. We are mean people because we are hurting and hence we hurt others…. Please guys, enough. LET IT GO.

No moaning, bitching, complaining or criticizing in 2014. If you didn’t get that promotion, open your eyes to see what you hadn’t been able to see and if you are really convinced you are being victimized then take steps to get a new job. If someone ends a relationship with you, accept it gracefully, call your friends, cry, drink some beers if you want and move on. No imagining he’ll come back to you and it’s certainly no excuse to become a play boy or a bitter girl totally sworn off men.

I’m not advocating we live recklessly or throwing caution to the wind, because as we grow older, our mistakes could have more grave consequences. Hence there is a need  for prudence in decision making, but even when we do our best, we could still make mistakes. When we do all we can do, we learn our lessons and move on because in this game of life, you just gotta keep moving.

Guys, it’s time to let go; have a life, forgive ourselves, and everyone and move on. Holding on to pain and negative emotions is goddamn ‘Crinkum Crankum’.

Now get me some erasers.

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Peculiar Okafor is a marketing communications executive and loves to write. Visit her blog to read her stories.

Peculiar is a Marketing communications personnel, she believes that one can have a full life without being bitchy and she wants it all 'A good career, love, laughter, wealth, you name it. She blogs at Follow her on Instagram @daworkdiva and Facebook ''


  1. Ana Chapman

    January 27, 2014 at 11:23 am

    A very beautiful piece, thank you Peculiar Okafor

  2. no heart to hate

    January 27, 2014 at 11:29 am

    Well Said

  3. Ada Nnewi

    January 27, 2014 at 11:47 am

    I needed to read this 🙂

  4. Dr. N

    January 27, 2014 at 12:02 pm

    With all the negatity in the world, your article is a breath of fresh air. Just let people be, warts and all. You don’t have to love them, just let them be.

  5. giggy

    January 27, 2014 at 12:12 pm

    thank you Peculiar for this piece, i enjoyed reading and definitely learnt from this….

  6. c'est moi

    January 27, 2014 at 12:39 pm

    took me back to those beautiful innocent childhood moments. how i miss my primary school days…. hmmn (deep in thought). Life is indeed beautiful! thanks for this amazing piece

  7. Young and Confused

    January 27, 2014 at 2:36 pm

    Very Direct. thats whats up….

  8. Young and Confused

    January 27, 2014 at 2:37 pm

    Nice and Very Direct. thats whats up….

  9. Anonymous

    January 27, 2014 at 2:47 pm

    Crinkum Crankum

  10. jcsgrl

    January 27, 2014 at 3:19 pm

    How I wish erasing mistakes, hurts and pasts could be achieved with an eraser. Such actions are not so easy. You will cry, you will hurt, you will have to forget, and keep working constantly towards a place of healing.

  11. Autoprincess

    January 27, 2014 at 3:44 pm

    Thank you for the simple message in your article. Just yesterday, I took my 5-year old son to the neighbourhood local market and before you know it, he had started playing with the kids (around his age) while I was ‘prizing’ foodstuff. The thing is these kids are running around barefooted in mud with practically no clothes on but my little boy did not even see that. He has seen his peers and nothing will stop him from playing. Now, imagine grown-ups…

  12. Weather

    January 27, 2014 at 3:50 pm

    lol! Nice!

  13. imagine

    January 27, 2014 at 6:32 pm

    Beautiful piece

  14. Fashionista

    January 28, 2014 at 9:07 am

    Men, I need some erasers in my life! I find it so difficult to let go of things, im so hard on myself and sometimes to live and let live is a problem.

  15. Bhee

    February 1, 2014 at 6:40 pm

    nice article!

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