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Seun Tuyo: Addiction, Procrastination & Self Control

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Yemisi and I were classmates at University. She was a chain smoker and a heavy drinker for many years. Yemisi used to have more hangover days than sober days. These habits affected her academically, psychologically and medically. She finally realized her habits were getting out of hand. She made several attempts to stop and she would start off fairly well, stay off for a few weeks and then congratulate herself. As part of the celebration, she will offer herself a treat usually one drink and one stick of cigarette which usually led to another and another until she was back to square one.

Everything around her started to deteriorate. Not many people had the courage to talk her out of her habits and those who did came across as judgmental. She avoided them and kept the company of people who were like her. She wanted to stop but she couldn’t. Anyway, she finally got hold of her urges, admitted and accepted she had an addiction problem and with self-control, commitment and well-meaning friends; she has been clean for 7 years and counting.

Addiction to anything is a difficult to conquer. I believe many people are addicted to something one way or the other that gives them temporary pleasure with a negative or positive effect. Addiction is not only about substance abuse; you can also be addicted to work, junk food, sex, pornography, video games, Internet, social network, gambling, shopping or even the use of mobile devices.

Overcoming addiction is challenging and the bane of procrastination does not help. Procrastination is a negative habit of unnecessarily stalling or adjourning an activity that is time related. Most times, procrastination thrives in the midst of other negative situations – like depression, self-doubts, anxiety, substance abuse, urge control, indecision and others. Procrastination becomes habit overtime and with excuses like having had a bad day or been unable to handle the tension of not giving in, you find yourself repeatedly failing on your resolutions and making new procrastination patterns. Remember your 2014 New Year resolutions? How many have we kept? I know, too many distractions, right?

When it comes to managing addiction or procrastination, I know there is no quick fix. To express restrain from a pressing urge to do something successfully takes a lot of effort and self-control. Have you ever tried to give a candy bar to a child and tell them if they do not eat it immediately, they will get two candy bars? It is very likely that they will win. Although it is very difficult for them to exercise restrain, the fact that there is an enticing reward, they will exercise self-control and win.

Typically they will remind themselves continuously in words and actions and perform distracting activities to avoid giving in. I like to think self-control is a skill rather than a behavioral trait. Continuous practice of resisting urges, after a while becomes easier. It is important to realize from the start that urges are time-limited and will go away if we can wait it out and divert the thoughts to other things. By simultaneously refusing to succumb to addiction and procrastination, you are on the way to shaping your life for better with sensible choices. These choices help you avoid difficulties associated with addiction and put you in a better place other than an ambiguous hope that  “I know I need to do better but…later”.

Anyone who knows me well knows that I try to watch my weight from time to time using all sorts of weight loss plans available to me but like Yemisi struggled, I constantly find myself slipping into old habits but I am taking steps to overcome my love for the wrong things that affect my weight. You know the saying – the first step to recovery is admitting you have a problem.

And so here we go…
Hello, My name is Seun, I am addicted to coca cola, chocolates and white bread. How about you?

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Seun Tuyo is interested in social development. She loves to interact with people and has a desire to make a profound and positive impact around the world. She suffers moments of weaknesses at the sight of chocolates and a cold bottle of Coca Cola. Follow her on Twitter and Instagram – @seuntuyo

Seun Tuyo is interested in social development. She loves to interact with people and has a desire to make a profound and positive impact around the world. She suffers moments of weaknesses at the sight of a cold bottle of Coca-cola and Chocolates. Feel free to reach her on twitter and instagram @seuntuyo.

21 Comments

  1. TA

    May 27, 2014 at 3:11 pm

    Hello,my name is TA and am addicted to french fries,chocolates,cup cakes(especially red velvet) and ice cream.

  2. Jessy

    May 27, 2014 at 3:15 pm

    This totally resonates with me. I think when it comes to breaking bad habits and addictions I have tried almost everything I know. I’m addicted to chocolates, Ice cream and the most saddening: Sex( was abused from age 7-16) now i’m in my 20’s and I really need this to stop!!! Procrastination has been my worst enemy so far. I guess admitting it would help. Thank you Seun for this…

    • Busarni

      May 27, 2014 at 4:00 pm

      Kpele dear, Jesus saves; nothing is impossible.

    • Ologe

      May 28, 2014 at 12:05 pm

      I empathize with you Jessy. Being a psychologist and a counsel, I can tell you Seun has guided you towards light however, you need to draw a profile of what you want to be (aspiration). How do you want to be seen and treated? Honour, dignity, respect etc. Pick someone you’d wish to be like, not necessarily someone you know personally but someone you identify with and REFUSE to ever do anything that will make you feel less than that figure or less of the woman you want to be. Oprah Winfrey is one. Everytime you are faced with the temptation, remind yourself you can’t go beneath your new person and find a medium to release tension. This medium may be helpful. Wish you the best

  3. Adeola

    May 27, 2014 at 3:33 pm

    am addicted to lacasera and gala ! i cant do with out it in a day.

  4. Debs

    May 27, 2014 at 3:43 pm

    I am addicted to big brother africa and chewing gum

  5. Anonymous

    May 27, 2014 at 4:01 pm

    @ Jessy..hi i was abused at age 7 as well and i have been a sex lover as far back as i can remember .im in my late 20s,every new years eve,id say I’m stopping but won’t.This year same thing.February i decided enough was enough,went to church,went for deliverance classes,became a church worker,got ready to boost my cv,by going for courses,exams,seminars,started going to the gym.Temptation hasn’t ever been worst than this past few months but I’m determined to not go back. Got myself busy and haven’t had any sex since end of Feb and no masturbation either…yippee,and i haven’t ever felt more better in my body.Determination is KEY

    • Ologe

      May 28, 2014 at 12:08 pm

      @Anonymous, It’s terrifying to hear so many ladies talk about being abused as children. I’m proud of you and please, I can assure you the temptation will come, don’t go beneath this new standard. Greatness is ahead of you. big hugs

  6. tytes

    May 27, 2014 at 4:04 pm

    Seun……. Thanks. I know u quite well and its true you are addicted to the afore mentioned food but you are also addicted to Blogs and movies. lol. I am addicted to checking out celebrity gossip websites. God help me.

  7. Ogho

    May 27, 2014 at 4:06 pm

    Hello, my name is Ogho and I’m addicted to biscuits and chicken. 🙂

  8. Seun Tuyo

    May 27, 2014 at 4:09 pm

    Thank you guys, admitting is difficult, but it is a step in the right direction. We all need to come clean and seek help. Addiction is tough but we are tougher. Weldone!

  9. Olaiya

    May 27, 2014 at 4:49 pm

    “I like to think self-control is a skill rather than a behavioral trait”. Seun, I am with you on this… a quote worth reminiscing on.

    I love soft drinks and would always enjoy savouring different flavours of mineral water. Mention it my refrigerator had several types at any time “t”, and moment “m”. At the anytime I am to move my bowels it felt I would excrete my intestine. I developed chronic pile.

    I resulted to first get rid of creates of mineral I had, and at the thought a downing another soft drink I make efforts to substitute with water… this I am still on and yielding to. Now I move my bowels and I enjoy the sweetness of doing so…

    Self control is a skill confirmed…

  10. Tru

    May 27, 2014 at 4:50 pm

    Erm…what about those of us that are addicted to BN???

  11. chica

    May 27, 2014 at 5:01 pm

    Beautiful piece!!!

  12. eefresh

    May 27, 2014 at 8:54 pm

    I can do anything for cake. Well done on writing another beautiful piece.

  13. Dee one

    May 27, 2014 at 10:25 pm

    Seun your addiction to chocolates is a case for deliverance, only God can do something about it. Remember Joyce (is dat her name?) sports village, Olympic pool….u remember her now ryt. Well u r falling her hand ryt now. Lmao.

  14. Steego

    May 28, 2014 at 10:39 am

    We all have something we need to change here and there. Well done Seun Tuyo. Well written and well said. But what we find in this culture of ours is that we pray more than we act. In the case of an addiction it is quick for most to conclude that it is a ‘curse’ . And we do not have the social services amenities to recognize that these set of people ‘addicts’ need help. There should be a law that backs things alike AA ( Alcoholic anonymous), support groups in/on different addictions. May be when we head that way we may be able to get more people admitting they have a problem and wanting to shelve it. May I indulge in what give us hope the most, the Bible… Heaven helps those who helps themselves.

  15. Essy

    May 28, 2014 at 11:42 am

    Nice piece dearie……..procrastination is one thing i need to deal with and i know it will get better cos i have identified my problem.

  16. chizy

    May 28, 2014 at 12:16 pm

    Very Motivational! Welldone Seun………I was adicted to Iya Basira’s Rice,Yam n Soymilk,whether hungry or not I cn’t say no @ d sight of des bowl of rice n mus take Soymilk everyday lol! But thank God dat am now free 4rm des addictions. Nature has helped me to put out all des off me!

  17. uncle gee

    May 28, 2014 at 11:42 pm

    Kudos sis…I’ve got high cholesterol but how do I stop eating Mohamed’s suya

  18. Hoang Pham

    June 2, 2014 at 10:08 pm

    It is interesting that you bring procrastination together with addiction. Would you say procrastination is stopping people from quitting their addiction? Or would you say dealing with an addiction and dealing with procrastination is comparable?

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