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Ali Baba - August 2013 - BellaNaijaFor a lot of people the issue of domestic violence is a sensitive one.

But more and more people are talking about it in a bid to get victims of domestic violence to speak up.

Ace comedian Ali Baba shared his thoughts on domestic violence via his twitter account this afternoon and according to him, anyone who has stayed in an abusive relationship for over a month should enjoy it.

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27 Comments

  1. nola

    January 7, 2015 at 2:34 pm

    Huh? Treading on dangerous waters here Mr Baba. If na joke, abeg this ya joke no funny……In no way should anyone condone such, especially a Z lister , naija type celebrity like this….

  2. Profound

    January 7, 2015 at 2:35 pm

    Why would he be sympathising with the men who abuse their ladies? Or am I missing something?

    • concerned

      January 7, 2015 at 2:58 pm

      Actually, I understood it differently. See, I thought he was saying that you should not stay in an abusive relationship for more than a month. If you do, you probably enjoy it. Thats the impression I got

    • MC

      January 7, 2015 at 4:55 pm

      He did mean that.
      But he also states he sympathises with the men who phyiscally abuse them.
      (Although I think that was just worded incorrectly…I hope)

    • Omalicha Nwa

      January 7, 2015 at 5:04 pm

      Exactly! That’s what I think he’s trying to say- Get out once it happens. He’s also sating that one month is enough for you to make up your mind to end the relationship.

    • ICANTDEAL

      January 7, 2015 at 9:58 pm

      Either way it is an insensitive comment, domestic violence is not black and white

  3. JohnMatilda

    January 7, 2015 at 2:59 pm

    Well I wouldn’t say it’s by d period of time but by d number of times he/she has hit wat if his/her madness occurs once in a month?, if he/she hit u last month for the first time u might be hoping and praying it was a mistake and it wouldn’t happen but if it eventually happens again please run

  4. bruno

    January 7, 2015 at 2:59 pm

    I have a question. why does everybody behave as if its only men who are responsible for domestic violence.

    women are just as violent as men. pls no double standard . mr alibaba ur statement is one sided and ignorant.

    if ur husband slaps u and u slap him back, u are also guilty of domestic violence.

    • Tess

      January 11, 2015 at 8:36 pm

      @ Bruno, no, that would be referred to as self defense, there is a difference between that, and domestic violence. Yes, there are females who participate in domestic violence, but the amount of those who do, are far less than females who are victims of domestic violence. The latter is more popular in Nigeria, than the former which you refer to.

      With that being said, this is a very ignorant comment for Ali Baba to make. As some commenters have eluded to, domestic violence is not a “black and white” situation. I am speaking as someone who was a witness to domestic violence as a child, and also someone who has served as an advocate while working in a shelter for survivors of domestic and sexual abuse. Victims of Domestic Violence are at their highest risk when they attempt to leave. It takes a lot before they can get to the place where they are ready to take that step.

      Until that happens, it is not our place to judge, but to offer our support, guidance and encouragement until they get the help they desperately need, and get out of the situation.

  5. Bobo

    January 7, 2015 at 3:00 pm

    what is really good with the suit pockets?

  6. chi

    January 7, 2015 at 3:09 pm

    He means you are not to spend a day with a man that beats you. Stop looking for sympathy. My personal suggestions: 1:learn martial arts and handle him the way he is looking for. 2: hire thugs to beat him. Either way make him feel the pain

  7. @edDREAMZ

    January 7, 2015 at 3:10 pm

    a.k.a EDWIN CHINEDU AZUBUKO said…
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    True talk man but is so hard to divorce a man in Nigeria bcos people will start disrespecting yu….
    .
    .
    ***CURRENTLY IN JUPITER***

  8. Single Shalewa, Bitter Bintu!

    January 7, 2015 at 3:17 pm

    I saw this on my TL earlier today and i just shook my head. This is a bit tactless and pretty ignorant Mr. Ali Baba. You prolly think it’s very easy to pack one’s belongings and leave a marriage. No sir, it’s not that easy. – especially in a society that looks at divorcees like Osu (outcast).

    Like someone said, what if that was the first time? She should leave her marriage ba? So people like you would come on twitter and talk about how women are no longer patient ‘like our mothers’. DV is wrong and should not be condoned but this advise of yours smacks mockery. I don’t even know how you’d spit such crap, i actually thought someone was fiddling with your account. If she leaves her husband, would you accommodate /marry her? Or you have a shelter you run for abused women? Smh!

    Parents, please teach your sons to be more responsible and train them never to hit women – and your daughters not to hit men either.

    • b

      January 7, 2015 at 3:56 pm

      it is only the living that can be called Mrs…… is it not better to be alive? i don’t believe that such an important decision should be based on other people’s view or opinion.

      it never stops……

    • Huh

      January 7, 2015 at 4:14 pm

      You’re not making sense. So she should stay and die? So the society’s opinion is more important than her life? His statement, however opinionated, is NOT ignorant, your comment is.

  9. Open Sesame

    January 7, 2015 at 3:51 pm

    And if a carpenter made your suit, close your twitter account and go get yourself a real fashion stylist/designer.

  10. Dr. N

    January 7, 2015 at 7:00 pm

    One of my dreams is to set up nation wide shelters for d abused with armed security. When d abuser shows up, flog him seriously n lock him up. #edeypainme.

    • bruno

      January 7, 2015 at 8:43 pm

      @dr N.
      When d abuser shows up, flog him seriously n
      lock him u

      why must the abuser be a he, why cant the abuser be a she.

  11. Tunmi

    January 7, 2015 at 8:01 pm

    So if she stays longer than a month, then it is her fault? Has he actually talked to victims of domestic violence: men, women, and children? Just what research has he done on this matter because the things he says leaves so much more to be wondered.

  12. Open Sesame

    January 7, 2015 at 8:32 pm

    This is such a myopic and ill-thought-out statement. Anyone who knows anything about abuse knows that most times it’s emotional and psychological first and then graduates to physical abuse. At this point the woman is being controlled and probably feels powerless anyway due to the psychological abuse; so leaving after a month (whatever that means) is not as easy as it sounds. Abuse is deeper than that.

    Everyone agrees that no one should stay in an abusive relationship but leaving is never as easy as it sounds and usually requires outside intervention to help the victim see the true picture.

    Alibaba, leave matters like this for those who understand the workings of it cos your statement would be misconstrued as insensitive. Stick to the comedy and get your money back from that carpenter who made your suit; he did a botch job πŸ˜‰

  13. KeepingItReal

    January 7, 2015 at 9:22 pm

    How ignorant!!! you may not have heard of the wheel of violence!

  14. miss j

    January 7, 2015 at 9:45 pm

    To me he is right he beats you once he will do it again so u waiting means your enjoying it we women we like deceiving ourselves the truth is once your husband beats you that second itself you loose all respect for him. I for one pray I dont end up in an abusive home cause d second it happens am out of there notin like being patient or he will change no way at all iv got so much to live for than to turn into a mans punching bag

  15. ICANTDEAL

    January 7, 2015 at 10:03 pm

    This is such an insensitive and ignorant statement , people need to understand that domestic violence is not clear cut and both women and men can be victims. Ali baba, abeg stay away from tweeting about things you have little or no knowledge about.

  16. 2015

    January 8, 2015 at 4:23 am

    He is actually saying that we should be able to discern and leave once it starts and he is trying to pass a message that he cant understand why a woman will wait to be abused a 2nd time…and he is sympathizing with the men abusing their partners because they are definitely sick and no sane person will do that to a woman.He is constantly preaching against DV so am sure he meant well with that tweet and i think that tweet has more thread than what was shown here.

  17. Jamce

    January 8, 2015 at 5:11 am

    A man or a woman can be a victim of domestic violence or abuse. It may not necessarily be physical, but in majority of cases it is either physical or graduates to the physical. Besides, the one-sided view of limiting it to men, Ali Baba should be commended. Those who cherish being MRS/SEX/MATERIALISM more than their LIVES/SANITY should continue to make excuses for themselves and enjoy the abuse. Who says that divorce is the first thing? Removing yourself or the abuser from the abusive environment should be the immediate solution before considering other PERMANENT solutions. Counselling/Deliverance/Separation and finally Divorce.

  18. chy

    January 8, 2015 at 12:31 pm

    when the voices of the people who we wish would speak up and protect others on sensitive issues such as this turn round to ridicule same issue, it embitters the heart. some known people should actually keep their opinions to themselves when gull is the only that will come out. a woman may still be in a battered home for the sake of her children whom she could not leave under the roof of a deranged animal until she calculates her move very well. leaving may not be the issue, but when children are involved, it takes time and can be very dangerous. how does a mother justify leaving her home while her children are in the hand of an animal who he may kill just to spite their mother.
    Am sure the likes of Monalisa who know what its like should tell this goon to shut up. I learnt it took her a bit of time to leave because of her daughter. i used to respect this guy, i think am done with him.

    • Jamce

      January 13, 2015 at 5:07 am

      @chy, if while waiting because of the children you get killed, of what use would you be to the children? We should stop deceiving people to their death because of foolish emotional arguments.

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