We regularly receive emails on real life experiences from BellaNaija readers. Some incredibly tragic, some sad and some quite happy. This morning, a BN reader sent her story via her first cousin. The title of the email was “Woman’s Inhumanity to Woman“. Though in our view, when a man strays, he should be blamed, not just the other woman, but you be the judge!
We have decided to share the story with our BN fam. We received the story with full names and other details. This enabled us to carry out authenticity checks. However, all the names, company names, locations and all identifying details have been changed or removed.
Funny enough, we hear very similar stories quite frequently these days. So please no guesses on who, where and when, you are probably wrong. The purpose of sharing is so we can learn from her experience and perhaps offer advice.
The story you are about to read is not my story in the real sense of it. It is a story of my first cousin who I feel has been unjustly treated in marriage by a man she labored with when he had nothing.
It is also a story of the cruel and mindless nature of today’s ladies who would go all out to ensnare a man because of money. It is important also that today’s young men who want to avoid this kind of entrapment imbibe the culture of loyalty to their spouse. It’s about my cousin who is married to Larry B, a top company Director.
Many years ago, she was a beautiful, bubbly and enterprising young lady with a fantastic career. She was very full of life too. She was the kind of lady you would meet and be immediately drawn to because of her eloquence and intelligence.
Of course, she was a head turner too. Then, she met Larry B, a young man she figured that they could build a great future together. A few years after their marriage, fortune smiled on Larry through his boss after he left his former job.
He bade bye to the clunkers and hand-me-downs. He entered a new level of prosperity that could only have been God’s doing. Consequently, he entered into a new level of philandering that could only have been remote-controlled by Lucifer.
In order to accommodate fully his newfound pastime, he prevailed on his wife to resign her job appointment and relocate abroad with their kids.
The first few months of their relocation to were quite blissful. Then, Larry began to stay longer than necessary away from home and blaming his business for this. The wife would plead and cry, urging him to come home because they were missing him but Larry never cared.
Sometimes, he was away for several weeks. While Larry was doing very well financially, his devotion and concern for his family dwindled. As time went by, the wife had to resort to menial jobs to keep the family going. You can only be able to figure out how lowly she sank when you consider that her husband was a multimillionaire and she had to run several shifts in the ruthless cold to feed and clothe her kids. It was always heartbreaking for me and other family members to see her go through so much hardship because of Larry.
The cold nights bared their fangs on the lonely woman. But she held strong. As we would discover, Larry had been entrapped or so we heard by a young lady named Violet. He reportedly bought her posh cars and a house in an expensive neighbourhood.
They practically live together. They travel round the world together. Larry’s life was said to revolve round Voilet and he showed it in deeds and actions. Despite several entreaties from family members and friends to Larry to go back to his wife and kids, or at least, see to their upkeep and schooling, he turned a deaf ear to all.
We have consulted with pastors for special prayers for Larry to be released from V’s clutch, but nothing has happened. And Voilet a chain smoker, has reportedly also told people that it is only over her dead body that Larry would ever go back to his family or not to marry her. We have begged all his friends, to appeal to him, but Larry B is hellbent to stay with Voilet.
This is our dilemma dear Nigerians.