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Is it Worth It? Toke Makinwa talks about ‘Friends With Benefits’ in her Latest Vlog!



Toke Makinwa PJ March 2015It’s time for another episode of ‘Toke Moments’!

Toke Makinwa reads out a letter from Anne, who is heartbroken by her friend she was ‘having something’ with.

After talking everyday and sleeping together, they became ‘best friends’, but not an official couple.

After a while, he got a girlfriend, and it’s awkward because they both come to her for advice on their relationship.

Wanna know Toke’s stance on friends with benefits? Watch!

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  1. Aro

    March 20, 2015 at 1:46 pm

    i don’t even need to watch the video, this topic is a sensitive one . We ladies, we never learn . Nothing good ever comes out of friends with benefits. We ladies are the ones at the crying end . One person ld eventually fall in love which most times 90% is the ladies . I’m not sorry for Anne. Anne move on please . You ll be alright

    • Adegoke

      March 20, 2015 at 3:27 pm

      lmao @aro your so funny honestly

    • Adegoke

      March 20, 2015 at 3:29 pm

      @Aro lmao

  2. olajumoke

    March 20, 2015 at 1:56 pm

    Every person should note that they are not emotional toys that people can just grab when they need succour….One of the parties would always want more and its always the woman..Please no friends with benefits, it is total BS!

  3. Dayo

    March 20, 2015 at 1:58 pm

    It doesn’t make any sense to me either. How can you be comfortable shagging a friend you’re not in a relationship with. To them its fun, but in the future, it’s not. When you have to start explaining to your husband/wife that ermm we were just banging ooo. We didn’t date. No dignity!

    Toke please, go and whitening your teeth. You’re a speaker.we should be seeing sparkling white teeth.

    • Pathetic

      March 21, 2015 at 1:17 am

      People like you are why celebrities end up on self-destructive paths, just to please you. What has her teeth got to do with her message? There are people going through life dealing with real life-threatening issues, you are there focusing on how white are teeth are. Vain!

    • Dayo

      March 23, 2015 at 3:20 pm

      If she can bleach her skin, then she should whiten her teeth!

  4. Titilade Raji

    March 20, 2015 at 2:22 pm

    Hello Toke: Thanks : Ann ; Also super Thanks for sharing: But Please please please: Find a way to Talk to him and Tell him how you feel/felt….. Even: if at the end of the day he does not come back to you, He will forever APPRECIATE you and the fact that you told/tell him. It really hurts but tell him. Do it face to face. Please Ann. Also find the super nice way to crop your relationship between you and the girl he is dating. I pray God gives you the COURAGE and Strength to do this talking that means a lot to you. #Bestwishes

  5. val

    March 20, 2015 at 2:25 pm

    There’s no need dewelling in d past, she should dust her self up nd move on. The deed has been done nd cannot be undone.

  6. Animal Doctor

    March 20, 2015 at 3:18 pm

    Nothing wrong with friends with benefits. A lot of marriages have started from there sef

  7. O

    March 20, 2015 at 3:21 pm

    The babe is slightly delusional. What makes her think the guy will remain faithful to her if thinks go her way? when he is currently shagging her and his babe together??? Lol, it don’t work like that boo.

  8. Addy

    March 20, 2015 at 3:43 pm

    Thanks Toke, i love this very video not cos am into any friends with benefit rel/ship but bcos u struck a cord in me when you said we should make known what we really want from a relationship. i made this known to my boo of two years early this year and he left me lol mayb because he isnt ready, i really cant say but he left without a reason. Thanks all the same. i love your vlogs

  9. Been There,Done That

    March 20, 2015 at 4:29 pm

    Didnt need to watch the video .The topic was enough. IT IS A BAD IDEA TRUST ME

  10. Anonymous

    March 20, 2015 at 4:47 pm

    Toke, why is your ‘laugh’ always louder than the ‘joke’?

  11. Adesoye

    March 20, 2015 at 7:03 pm

    This is my first time of watching the blog. And while the advice might be right and whatever; but pls toke stop this over gesticulation, the way you roll your mouth, pls ehn I know you are a super star and all but pls stop this. It’s too disgusting.

  12. maria

    March 20, 2015 at 7:11 pm

    Anne Anne Anne you need to move on baby. let me tell you something my sister you don’t love that guy you are just infatuated with the fact that he is not yours. if you really love him when he was asking you out why did you say no why is that when he started dating is when you know you li=ove him. you love him because you see the man he is with his girlfriend. if he was with you what you see now might not be the same. every relationship is different. aunty Anne move on like seriously move on put you in is new girls shoes would you be happy if that was you? i am a woman I am in a relationship I will be very pissed if this happens to me, if my guys female best friend says she is in love with him. are we sick or something what were you looking at before? he became attractive to you because of the woman he is because I feel if you really loved him you should have dated him from the start. this is why I always say male and female cannot be friends or best friends for what now then emotions will enter abeg aunty move on. next time, when you want something, take it even if it is not offered to you ask for it.

  13. Adetutu

    March 20, 2015 at 7:59 pm

    Its not complicated as you think Toke…Anne should just forget about the guy and find a solution to her love life somewhere else with another guy.

  14. oluex

    March 20, 2015 at 8:02 pm

    hahaha..toke we all know u make up these “stories” lmao…yeye gehl

  15. Ajiro

    March 20, 2015 at 9:44 pm

    This is demonic, so u guys are still having sex and his gf has become ur friend? How do u think she will feel when she finds out honestly? Is that the type of guy u want to be with? The one that is claiming someone else and doing you in secret? If he leaves his gf for u, do u really think it will last with u? Even if “it does” do u think he will be faithful? Sex is not just sex. It goes way beyond screwing! Pls wake up from this deep slumber, dust yourself up, ask God to be merciful towards you and move forward. They are a lot of responsible men out there, and you have to know you are worth it to attract those kind of men. If not you will always be in somebody else’s shadow. Let the guy go, you will be glad you did in the long run. That man ain’t worth it.

  16. Stephanie

    March 21, 2015 at 6:23 am

    *sigh* this babe and her Vlog…the plan was to write my opinion, but I can’t even be bothered….

  17. Mimi

    March 21, 2015 at 6:35 am

    Why does this pic of Toke remind me of Stevie Wonder!

  18. Quincy

    March 21, 2015 at 3:41 pm

    okay…ehemm. Toke i really do apppreciate you for bringing this topic up on ur vblog..its quite entertaining and enlightening. I personally think friends with benefit is a stupid decision because i’ve been there and i’ve experienced it and the percentage of it working out is 1%. 99% of the time, it fails and ends in nothing but heartbreaks. When i think about my experience now which by the way is quite similar to what Ana is going through, i laugh because like i said before it was a stupid stupid decision So dont worry, Ana you will come to see it too, in time.

    I knw at the time you were going thru your first heartbreak and decided to take this ride, it seemed like the perfect decision at the time which is perfectly normal..I mean what are we if not humans, incapable of not making mistakes or poor choices? But now, you know your choice was wrong, you really can not take it back…The only think u can do is decide what next to do. Do you want to keep crying or do you want to be happy? do you want to find peace and joy? or do you want to keep brooding over what is already gone?You are going through a heartbreak and its perfectly okay to cry because all you can feel is guilt, loss and pain which is inevitable but trust me, if you keep putting one foot after another, believe in time, you will really get over it but first, you have to try.

    Now, i know u feel like he is the perfect person for you…i mean someone you can talk freely with, be yourself with, he is always there to catch you when you fall but if you are really a good person, you will also think about the other girl in his life…the one he has chosen to be with. You will realize that she is really no different from you- she loves him just the way you do but she was the one he chose to be with and you lost your chance. Its okay to see that, its okay to admit it. it’s okay to cry about, its okay to feel like you’ve lost it all but the truth is, dearie….there is so much in finding that one person that chooses you…there is better happiness and greater love with someone that is willing to give ‘all” of himself and not just part. You have to want it….you have to want ‘all” not little or less. You have to see yourself in wholeness to want it and most of all, you have to have faith…

    Have faith that you have sth more beautiful, someone much greater; someone who will give ‘all’ of himself to you and not parts of himself. You have to have faith that this is just one of life experiences and that all the hurt, pain and guilt will too pass away…..

  19. tunmi

    March 22, 2015 at 2:03 pm

    This idea that women are the only ones who end up falling in love in a FWB relationship is wrong. Men do too, and they have a lot of the same problems women have. Relationships are human interactions. So please adjust your pronouns or be gender neutral.

    • Anon

      March 23, 2015 at 3:27 pm

      Thank you very much! I have been in two FWB “relationships” and both times, i left the “relationships” without having any feelings for them! They both wanted me back but nah, I had to move on. It depends on how you can control your feelings/emotions

  20. Timmy tim

    March 22, 2015 at 6:22 pm

    been there not worth it at all. move on girll trust me you ll find true love!

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