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“Beauty is Loving Yourself”! Nigerian-Ghanaian Adora Mba talks Being Different in the City of London in ‘Pretty’ Series

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Beauty documentary series, Pretty by Un’Ruly, launched a few months ago as a way from diverse women in the world to reach out to others on matters of beauty. It seeks to explore the many ways beauty is viewed by the world, countries and even cities.

From the aisles of Paris to the City of London, they meet with women who have experienced different aspects of beauty and have been treated differently based on their skin colour, makeup choice, clothes, hair or accent.

In a recent episode, they meet with Nigerian-Ghanaian Adora Mba in London. Born there, Adora talks to the Un’Ruly crew about growing up with questions about her braids, having to fix her gap tooth after being teased in school for it, why she feels the need to always be impeccably dressed, how she would be stared at by people in some parts of London who were not used to seeing people of colour, feeling a pressure to be slimmer, and how, now, she has come to terms and even loves how different she is.

Her message to others about beauty? “We shouldn’t be so hard on ourselves. We are so much prettier than we think we are. Every morning we should look in the mirror and go ‘you know what, I’m okay.’

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To watch more from the series, visit their website: Un-Ruly.com

Jennifer is the Beauty Editor & Style Representative of BellaNaija.com. Get in touch - Send an email to: beauty(at)bellanaija.com or style(at)bellanaija.com | Follow us on Instagram: @bellanaijabeauty OR @bellanaijastyle | Follow us on Twitter: @bellanaijastyle

14 Comments

  1. Esi

    August 20, 2015 at 7:14 pm

    This is a poorly written feature. How could they have met ” with Nigerian-Ghanaian women” when only one woman is featured. Also, they met here “there”? Where is there?

  2. Chichi

    August 20, 2015 at 7:37 pm

    So over these topics! Let’s concern ourselves with eternal things, beauty this…color that. People are hungry and dying, beauty will fade, focus on what’s inside!!

    • Proudly plus size

      August 20, 2015 at 8:18 pm

      So in your own words feeling good about yourself is not important? How do you expect help to come to those who need it when those who can give help are dealing with psychological issues(low self esteem is a psychological issue)..from low self esteem to depression to GOD KNOWS WHAT(suicide, drug abuse e.t.c) and you telling me that it shouldn’t be handled now? World poverty should be solved yes but it doesn’t mean that this BEAUTY ISH is a lower problem…I had a cousin who died just because she felt like she couldn’t fit it(she was very slim) yet she was depressed…aunty you do not know the damage caused by low self esteem and regarding this worlds ridiculous beauty standards….it’s not about beauty, it’s about instilling self esteem in individuals in such a way that every one feels good about themselves.

    • Chichi

      August 20, 2015 at 11:06 pm

      …that’s my point!! The focus on outward appearance is what’s making people feel so low and such….if we focus on character, Christ, and things of value, imagine how much of this will be curbed!! Over it!!

    • Tunmi

      August 20, 2015 at 8:59 pm

      You can walk and chew gum at the same time.

    • Corolla

      August 20, 2015 at 11:49 pm

      #GBAM

  3. I need help

    August 20, 2015 at 9:37 pm

    Low self esteem is a serious issue. Am experiencing it right now, I find it difficult to blend in. Am seriously depressed and have considered suicide several times. I need help!

    • Shandi

      August 20, 2015 at 10:04 pm

      Low-self esteem can affect you in many areas of your life, your spiritual and physical life, your academic life (if you’re a student), your career life, even your social life. You have to overcome it, and only you can help yourself. You need to be strong and prayerful about it. We’re mere mortals, in the sense that you shouldn’t see another human being like yourself and believe he or she is better or bigger than you. You have to delevop the attitude of being confident and strong. Yes, low-self esteem is a serious issue, a severe one at that, but the the truth is; ONLY you can help yourself overcome and get rid of it. You have to be extremely prayerful, you have to be confident, you have to be strong, you have to believe in yourself, don’t underestimate yourself, and see things in a different way. You’ll be alright. Be very prayerful, and strong. DO NOT commit suicide, come, on. Nothing is worth committing suicide for. There’s a reason why you were born, and By the Grace of God, you’ll reach, accomplish and achieve your goals in Jesus’ Name, Amen. ❤️

    • tolu

      August 21, 2015 at 9:51 am

      Good morning , yes i agree with you that its a serious problem but believe me suicide is not the best option. common there is a lots to live for . i dont know what its that you are going through but i will love to tell you there is MR FIX ALL! *GOD* take it all to him, remain strong and seek help.
      YOU ARE LOVED!!!

    • Dr. N

      August 21, 2015 at 9:58 am

      You were not created to blend in. Please send me an email [email protected]. Let’s talk. You will LIVE

    • Papermoon

      August 21, 2015 at 1:10 pm

      You can send me a mail at [email protected] and we can share a few tips here and there.
      Dr. N, thanks for your support to this person.

    • Tosin Onatade

      August 21, 2015 at 2:23 pm

      Depression is an issue that many people face. From what I know, people’s mental health is not really focused on in Nigeria, However, I will suggest you go for a psychiatric assessment from a mental health specialist to asses the severity of your depression. Since you are having suicidal thoughts, it could be moderate or severe depression but I could not be sure as you need someone to asses you. There are many alternatives for treatment of depression varying from medications (anti-depressants) to therapies such as Cognitive behavioural therapy to talking therapies.
      Usefull websites for CBT are:
      online-therapy.com/depression
      counselingondemand.com/

      I hope you gather some courage to see some hope in your future to overcome your depression.

  4. Zoey

    August 20, 2015 at 11:49 pm

    Shandi, God bless you! good night x

  5. Bisi

    August 21, 2015 at 11:38 am

    Good words from Shandi… I mostly love the EXTREMELY PRAYERFUL BIT because it the most essential of everything and in everything we do.

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