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We have shared the traumatic story of Sugabelly‘s alleged abuse resulting from her tumultuous relationship.

The wife of one of her accused rapists continues to speak out on her Twitter page, and said so-called incriminating messages and emails will be released, “which will vindicate her husband.”

Now @SubDeliveryMan has released the screen shots of these messages. We also received identical emails from a representative of the accused.

Names have been blacked out to protect the privacy of both victim and accused.

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A representative of the accused has also released this statement
Just a quick one to inform you that my client, – is quite disturbed about the trending ‪#‎Sugabelly‬ false accusations against him and his friends, online, especially as he tries to align with the reality of the death of his beloved father.

While I plead with you to apply caution over the allegations, as he (- has already initiated legal process), I want to assure you that all the allegations flying online are baseless, fales and totally untrue.

You will receive next from me, in a moment, a comprehensive report of what really transpired between Sugabelly (-), how she wanted – to marry her at all cost, and when that failed, she resulted to cheap blackmail to gain cheap publicity to promote her blogging career, as well sending associates behind to ask for pay-off from -.

My next mail will reveal and contain shocking details, email conversations, confession of love, ‘wild things’, imaginations, nude pictures of her sent to -, in efforts to get – back, plus how she was ‘rapped’, and kept recalling such ugly experiences. The emails are well dated.
Kindly stay tuned.
Thanks

We welcome your comments. However, any real names of the victim or accused will be deleted for legal reasons.

146 Comments

  1. Bobo

    November 27, 2015 at 7:19 pm

    Sigh!

    • whocares

      November 27, 2015 at 7:34 pm

      @bobo – exactly. Keeping up with scandals nowadays is almost as bad as keeping up with legal cases . You cannot blink. Usually, I enjoy scandal but I cannot take delight in this one. My heart is just heavy. The poor girl texting and texting and I do feel sad for the sugar belly girl (I havent read the whole scandal it yet) but from these emails and messages, they do not vindicate the man. If she was that young, and the man was a participant and something clearly happened before.. so please where are all the “before texts before he stopped replying after he was done with her? . oh this is just sad all round. the girl and the woman that feels she should expose all of this to “clear her husband”.. makes you wonder the texts from her husband she did not show. Madam wife, your husband was not pure either so why are you breathing fire and brimstone at the girl.. I hear he is dead? how convenient.. (I am sorry for that but hey. or he isnt? all this twitter snippets on bn ) mdeal with your anger at your husband how you will cos this is one dirty laundry even I do not want to see and that is saying a lot cos I can stomach the best of them.
      ps: those sexual fantasy abi reality texts damnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnn (there is only so much concerned citizen I can form jare and we were all thinking it.)

    • Ola

      November 27, 2015 at 9:21 pm

      Only if they read the messages before clicking on the “send’ button. Because all I could read, is a teenage girl from a shattered home falling in love with a man that later betrayed her, toyed with her fragile heart, tortured her physically and emotionally, used and dumped like a can of malt. And as for the Ruth of a wife, she should just SHUT IT, and accept the fact that her darling hubby is a RAPIST!

      Shikena!

    • Mandy

      November 28, 2015 at 8:11 am

      WORD!!! You know. Reading her mails,this girl could be me.

    • Vivien

      November 30, 2015 at 12:31 am

      Thank you sooooo much Ola. I am following this story keenly and if @sugabelly had been sexually abused as a child, then some of her actions are explainable. It is very easy for sexually abused children to see nothing good about themselves and if a selfish 25years old approach a 17years am a nobody teen the tendency that she builds her life around him is very high. She will literally give all to remain worthy in his eyes. I works with teenagers for years, so I know what am talking about.

  2. Gorgeous

    November 27, 2015 at 7:24 pm

    Ehen? At that age we all liked an older person we had no business liking. Who took advantage of the innocence. It may have taken a while to dawn on her all the terrible things that happened. It doesn’t take away the fact that she was used and abused. In her own mind she was pleasing -. If you take this case to an American psychologist, the barbaric way of it will end these guys up in no less than 5yrs prison sentence. Is this The wife’s evidence? She is better off facing her EFCC case. She clearly says her mum hates him for a reason. She probably told the mum and the mum stopped it.

    • Olu

      November 27, 2015 at 7:51 pm

      The email also shows that he assured her they won’t have sex but they eventually did. She was a minor. He was an adult.

    • Mamacita

      November 27, 2015 at 8:52 pm

      @ Olu – Yes! = RAPE! If only the judiciary in Nigeria was somewhat sane.

    • Olu

      November 27, 2015 at 9:53 pm

      – and wife? You see why you need a lawyer before you implicate yourself?

      You have not denied that you had sex with the complainant, you are saying she is deranged and was a mentally challenged child. Yes, your wife admitted that she was a child.

      The emails and screen shots you have put out in support of your case (whatever it is) state clearly that she was a minor.

      In any event, I don’t understand -‘s wife’s defence. Is it that there were no sexual relations at all? Or that there were sexual relations (with a minor) but it was consensual?

      The questions are simple.

      1. Did you have sexual relations with the complainant?

      2. What is the age of consent in Nigeria?

      3. Was the complaint of/above the age of consent or below the age of consent when you had sexual relations with her?

      If the answer to No. 3. is yes, it doesn’t matter if you have a recording of her asking and begging you to sleep with her.

    • mrs nobody

      November 28, 2015 at 7:13 am

      did she complain when they had sex or did she say she didn’t enjoy? and why didn’t she stop talking with him if she was “a minor that was forced to have sex with an adult”

    • Abi

      November 28, 2015 at 1:55 pm

      Bless you for that statement. This is such a sad and profound story. I admire sugarbelly for speaking up in a society that tends to take a laissez faire attitude towards rape.

      One of the ways we can support her is to purchase or encourage people to purchase her incredibly illustrated items (ipad/phone cases, accessories etc) she has on her website, while she finds the healing she needs. Let’s give her a reason to live!

  3. Kiki

    November 27, 2015 at 7:31 pm

    Why is it only the girls messages we are seeing. Let the upload everything. You can’t just show the girls messages and call that exposing. Useless guys

    • Busola Adedire

      Oluwabusola Adedire

      November 27, 2015 at 7:36 pm

      I know right! I am careful on what to say on this case but any sensible person will take this particular revelation with a pinch of salt.

    • DD

      November 27, 2015 at 7:49 pm

      Exactly!!! And the messages don’t vindicate him at all. She has already admitted that she was infatuated with him, and that’s what these messages look like to me… the words of an infatuated girl. I believe he took advantage of her and manipulated her emotions.

    • Mandy

      November 28, 2015 at 8:16 am

      Honestly,as a naive teenage girl infatuated with a man,u can do anything to please him including sleeping with his friends. My heart goes out to her.

  4. Le coco

    November 27, 2015 at 7:34 pm

    Please these messages prove nothing.. sugabelly stated that she WAS in a relationship with one of them which was romantic nd sexual.. but no ut does not give him the right to invite his friends to the “party”.. she was young.. she wld say anything not to upset hi… Most women have gone through this phase of apologising when the man was clearly wrong simply because he was significantly older and had his clutches already on her..

  5. Marvel

    November 27, 2015 at 7:36 pm

    Mr -,
    Thank you for sharing. Sadly, I am still with @Sugarbelly on this one. Even if you release sex tapes, the point is, you dabbled with a young and vulnerable girl. There seems to be a desire to please you and I think you took advantage of her. Try not to be angry and read her account. You owe her a grovelling apology. Look at the mess you encouraged. Now you are happily married and she is on medication. Kai!

    • sugababe

      November 30, 2015 at 9:20 pm

      Rapists don’t apologise because apologising means admitting guilt. There are many many more untold stories, you can’t imagine.

  6. Heeba

    November 27, 2015 at 7:45 pm

    Please what are we supposed to do with this conversation btw sugabelle and her alleged rapist…it does not change the fact that he took advantage of a teenager mentally and physically. All teenagers were exposed to this at various levels some are just smarter or have family around to notice and do something. Rapist I give you a Go To Jail card.we heard this your gist abi na rumour since the early 2000’s meditarenean days

  7. deb

    November 27, 2015 at 7:56 pm

    this is like a story of 50 shades of gray with a twist of sumbission with elements of slavery. the – guy made her fall in love with her then later used her for the purpose he wanted. sugarbelly, i hope you have gone for deliverance because all these guys are evil. if you envy people in top positions you will not like the monsters that live in them. then back to the wife, you should have kept quiet. ok let us put it this way, i pray it happens to your female kid then we see how you address this.

  8. Marvel

    November 27, 2015 at 7:59 pm

    See this people o? Dont they fear BN readers? Because they read some hostilities re Toke and lipstick stuff, they are confused that “we”, the royal “we” will buy this? Haba? I mean… Gosh! That a lady is promiscous is one matter but to condone rape, gang rape, on the basis of slack behaviour is an absolute no. I will never accept that she brought it on herself or gold digger nonsense. This matter will cost someone a political career o. Ok.

    • bae

      November 28, 2015 at 9:43 am

      The son who was supposed to replace the father has been dropped by APC. The power of social Media .

  9. Olayemi

    November 27, 2015 at 8:15 pm

    These notes do nothing. The guy should have been a better person in his youth than taking advantage of a youngster. You could have been a mentor at work or something better. And Mrs. Wife, I see you and your husband were once docked by EFCC. Lol, Evil couple.

  10. Las

    November 27, 2015 at 8:20 pm

    This only makes me believe @Sugarbelly’s story more!

    Sugar – if you are reading this, thank you for coming out. Thank you for giving a voice to thousands of women in Nigeria who have suffered and continue to suffer such evil. I hope you find the strength you need to get through this.

  11. Tari

    November 27, 2015 at 8:35 pm

    I have finally realised we are dealing with sick persons here.
    What is this meant to prove?
    Who is expected to read all this diary?
    Like I said earlier, nothing can be proven in this case. That is the saddest part.
    The neediness obvious in these cases exchanges posted above points to a girl who is deeply troubled and unstable who seems to have found herself in the company of perverts. None of these screen munches disprove her assertions that she was sexually shared by siblings and close friends. How a sane girl will willingly agree to be shared without violation buggers the mind.
    Her loved ones should support her to find healing and wholeness. Nothing else matters and that has been evident from her blog years ago.

  12. Lilly

    November 27, 2015 at 8:39 pm

    I’m broken, almost in tears. This guy used her and made her an emotional and sexual slave. I pray he goes to jail!

    • Kunle

      November 27, 2015 at 9:30 pm

      My heart breaks for all.. the poor young girl..(gosh I remember when I was that age) My mum and all her sisters were raped at a young age so ive seen how it has effected them

      And these nigerian men who have been raised not to respect women but see them as objects. These young Nigerian men who were never taught what real sex is and just saw women as people to control. Sigh..this story is just a drop in the ocean…there are sooo many like this. As a man I go through the same questions.. do I really know about sex? Do I really know what love is?

      The sexual abuse for both women and men is rife. I hope this discussion goes beyond sugar belly and more about our culture.

      lets pray for discussion and change. It isn’t easy

  13. nunulicious

    November 27, 2015 at 8:41 pm

    erm, obviously i’m confused.
    comments are on hold for now.
    are these emails from the girl who was supposedly abused? after how many years? e be like set up.

    • Krasavitsa

      November 28, 2015 at 1:21 pm

      Google “Stockholm Syndrome”. ………..You’re welcome. 🙂

  14. jasmine

    November 27, 2015 at 8:44 pm

    They have no shame at all…mtchewww! Sugar belly, you’ll come out victorious

  15. The Buttery Hotness

    November 27, 2015 at 8:52 pm

    Where did they paste the guy’s messages and emails after they cut it? #WeInvestigate

  16. Altini

    November 27, 2015 at 9:04 pm

    This just goes to prove sugarbelly claim, Infact why is the mans response censored? And then most of his reply isn’t shown. Funny enough where are the messages from before he stopped picking her calls. People should fear God oh. Oga lawyer

  17. Mabel

    November 27, 2015 at 9:22 pm

    The best thing is for other women to come forward. People like this usually have other victims out there, and they should not be ashamed to come forward and speak out about their experience.

    • Yemi

      November 28, 2015 at 9:25 am

      How will they come out if they will be subjected to such scrutiny and mockery of the pain and trauma they went through?

  18. L

    November 27, 2015 at 9:24 pm

    PLEASE someone I beg. What’s going on??? This thing we toooo damn long to read

  19. Wow

    November 27, 2015 at 9:25 pm

    These messages do not vindicate the accused. If anything, they lend credence to sugabelly’s story. It’s obvious that he had messed with her mind as well. Actually,I perceive really deep issues here. In one of the messages she made reference to a bed reminding her of violent rape and for a 17yr old to live through this and still maintain a relationship with the abuser afterwards tells me there must have been serious issues at HOME!

  20. Romz

    November 27, 2015 at 9:31 pm

    First of all, if this comes from the other camp, i.e. sugabelly’s rapist, then whoever uploaded this must be utterly stupid and idiotic.

    You basically just proved sugabelly’s accusation by posting this and if this case ever makes it to court, this is enough evidence of having sex outside the “age of consent.” I think a lot of people (who normally have common sense) who are ridiculing sugabelly are doing so because they are looking at this story from the point of a 26 year old and not from when this occurred to her at age 17. The others ridiculing this story are just ignorant and lack critical thinking abilities like so many Nigerians.

    The suspect in this story chose to maintain a relationship with an underage kid and took advantage of her teenage infatuation with him to have sexual benefits and sometimes confer these benefits to his suspect-friends. A real man in this case would have waited for her and if he was genuinely in love with her definitely not share her with his friends. I see nothing wrong with age difference in relationship. However, when one of the party is still an adolescent and in most cases still building, maturity wise, there is a big problem with age difference. Pick on someone your own size. These excerpts have only proven that the suspect took advantage of an immature girl, made her believe/allowed her to believe he loved her when he had no intentions of requiting the love. This definitely does not prove that she was not raped, it may have seemed consensual but there is a reason many countries have laws relating to “age of consent.”

  21. ardnas

    November 27, 2015 at 9:41 pm

    Doesn’t change nothing plz! This is so pathetic. Chaii. Its making me depressed sef.

  22. I'm Anonymous

    November 27, 2015 at 9:53 pm

    I have to go Anon on this one.

    It’s crazy, but this just shows the guy totally took advantage of Sugabelly. He was way older than her, groomed her.
    Sugabelly is not your average naija girl (at least the way naija girls are portrayed), so some shallow dafties will read these messages and say she was promiscous etc, for writing those emails.

    If nothing sticks, the fact that he was sexing a 17 year old is statutory rape ….. at least.

    I’m just tired.
    Sugabelly needs help, makes me get an insight into the demons she’s fighting.

  23. Idomagirl

    November 27, 2015 at 10:05 pm

    This only strenghtens Sugabelly’s story! She has never denied being infatuated with him, Infact she mentions her feelings for him in the post she put up today.

    And these released messages are one sided. Where are most of his messages?!
    You people are jokers! The more you try to exonerate yourself, the deeper the hole gets.
    She was 17, you were 25, isn’t that statutory rape?

    And for the person asking ‘why did she keep going back?’ Why do abuse victims keep ‘going back’? Why do they stay with their abusers? The psychology of abuse is very complicated, especially in this kind of case involving a very young girl (17) who was emotionally vulnerable, groomed by her abuser, developed feelings for him, then was subsequently threatened with violence, the release of intimate pictures & videos taken of her if she ever spoke up.
    You think this is a ‘grab and take to the bush’ rape case?

    Anyway, they should publish more emails if they want, me I will continue to stand with Sugabelly.
    For her courage and for blowing a hole through this culture of humiliation and silence that our society forces on rape victims and uses to embolden rapists and predators. Enough is enough!

    • The Watcher

      November 28, 2015 at 10:59 am

      True…Stockholm Syndrome.

  24. blessed

    November 27, 2015 at 10:16 pm

    The wife is collecting bullet for her husband yeye fowl. Am not sure the were married then so why defend him. The emails has exposed them the more.. they are dull to call this evidence . After all they have a teenager has step mom. Rubbish. Family

  25. RichyGame

    November 27, 2015 at 10:18 pm

    Exactly how does this vindicate the – party again? Rather, it tells a sweet-sour tale of a minor infatuated with an older person and that person was the center of her living, her life and her hopes and dreams. Besides the stated, it only strengthens the idea that he may have taken advantage of @sugarbelly; no plus for the accused in any way. It doesn’t even support the notion Mrs. – is pushing that Sugar Belly has mental issues but bites the accused & coy. badly by painting a picture of a poor little girl, lost in love and likely taken advantage of, perhaps to the degree of rape, gang banging and physical abuse… Likely the Stockholm Syndrome may be applied here but even the fact that she was a minor could make a good case for her, the accuser that is she was not matured enough for such romantic and sexual emotional turmoil thus always going back to validate her coming of age…

  26. I'm Anonymous

    November 27, 2015 at 10:18 pm

    What’s that Olamide Akin name showing in the bottom corner? Very daft person uploaded these screen grabs. A few clicks, and Im sure some people will reveal the identity of the singer.

  27. nne

    November 27, 2015 at 10:19 pm

    BN’ers have restored my faith in humanity! Your sensible, thoughtful comments are a welcome reprieve from the madness on twitter. Sugabelly, you will be healed. You and your family will be safe. Your courage to boldly tell your story is a huge leap from where we were 10, 15 years ago. I believe you and I am rooting for you and others who have gone through this kind of violence.

    • Ross

      November 28, 2015 at 11:19 am

      My dear Nne, no be small oh. I am soooooo impressed by what Im reading here and the support people are giving her, through common sense. She was a child and he took advantage. He should be prosecuted and jailed for life. We are all watching this story.

  28. c

    November 27, 2015 at 10:23 pm

    In life there are times where you do not dabble into certain situations. I am all for supporting my husband and all, but this is really serious and the accused should please defend himself. Madam I do not know Sugabelly neither do I know you but please distance yourself go beg this lady so that you and your kids do not suffer for what you do not know. Karma is not to be joked with. I have seen wives suffer cos of what their husbands did even before they met. Biko set pride aside, I just lost a relative due to some ish her husband committed. I asked her to do the same which she refused to do both she and her husband lost their lives after much suffering, they kept having problems till they died. biko distance yourself.

  29. Abj gurl

    November 27, 2015 at 10:25 pm

    sigh!!! Funny thing. I hung out with the accused and his friends for few months in 2006. Met them through a friend who i think had a thing going with the accused. They were just a bunch of fun-loving guys. We would chill, gist while they drank and smoked…typical attitude and character of guys their age. One did make a move on me but I politely declined and I guess he understood (I sabi wetin u sabi..let us hang out and have fun make e end dia). I always wondered what happened with the “three musketeers”..lol. If sugabelly’s story is true, I guess she was a victim of naivety and infatuation at a young age. I hope it all ends well

  30. I stand With Sugabelly

    November 27, 2015 at 10:25 pm

    Like every other rational human being has rightly deduced – these emails only strengthen the victim’s case. Any discerning right thinking person can see through it all. I have nothing more to say but let me quickly add that for the sake of so many other girls who are going through or have had to go through this sort of crap, I pray that there will be justice.

  31. Tari

    November 27, 2015 at 10:26 pm

    BN, the most important thing now is the health of this young girl. I used to read her blog about 3 years ago and shudder at the darkness that seemed to envelope an inherently beautiful soul. I tried chatting her offline a few times and alwayw hoped she found help. That girl is seriously in need of help and I hope and pray this sordid saga does not push her over the edge.
    Enough of these violating perverts and their self serving tales.
    This should serve as a lesson to we young parents. This parenting business is a 24/7 job you can’t afford to fail in. While we night not know the full story, seems her parents failed her big time.

    • Yemi

      November 27, 2015 at 11:21 pm

      You’re so right. I went through her TL on twitter and it was clear the lady had been badly damaged. she is in a dark world. The punishment for rape should be severe and rape cases shouldnt drag for too long. Rape damages the victims for life most of the time. only a few fortunate ones regain wholeness.

    • Krasavitsa

      November 28, 2015 at 1:38 pm

      God bless you for stating the part about her parents failing her.

  32. allsufficient

    November 27, 2015 at 10:40 pm

    I definitely dnt support rape. This are like d ramblings of an infatuated teenager. The guy shld have known better but then 17 years is matured in the north. Sugabelly needs help both socially and mentally maybe its from the trauma she suffered but a lot of things she tweets and writes contradicts the actual truth most of it bothers on fantasy.People on twitter still called her out for this days ago before this new story broke. So wasnt surprised when some pple didnt believe her rape story. On this I believe her and I hope she find closure

  33. nene

    November 27, 2015 at 10:54 pm

    as much as i sympathise with this girl and i believe the guys she dealt with were very bad and wicked boys, i feel like at 17, she was not a child. she came from a troubled home, how many kids don’t come from some sort of troubled home. also why is her relationship with her mother strained? when a girl doesn’t listen to her mother/parent this is the type of trouble u get into. these guys were way older than her and the obviously didn’t love her. she was vulnerable but she kept going back. i really sympathise with her, but i think she needs a psychiatrist because her actions with these mean re not normal. any girl who does such at a young age is either very slutty or very insecure, and i think she was insecure because she actually feels disgusted by her actions from her past. Sugabelly i wish you well. And i’ma dvicing young girls and boys, please try to make ur parents, especially ur mother close to u. most mothers are very strict, but they love u. even if u don’t have any parents, try to find someone who can mentor u in a godly and moral way, please! i feel so sad and disgusted reading this story.

    • Yemi

      November 28, 2015 at 10:13 am

      Read her blog. she was clearly manipulated. The guy took nude pictures of her and sex videos and threatened her that the pictures will be exposed. she became their toy. she was a vulnerable child. whatever she did doesnt mean she deserves to be treated as a sex slave. she couldn’t tell anyne. these guys have been doing this for years and they know the psychological aspect.

    • Krasavitsa

      November 28, 2015 at 1:55 pm

      Sweety, read what you typed and seriously ask yourself; is it a child’s duty to strenghten the relationship btw herself and her mother or it’s the mother’s duty? You claim to sympathize with SB but in the same breath blamed her for the lack of closeness btw herself and her mum thereby blaming her for being a victim of statutory rape. Smh

    • Me

      November 28, 2015 at 2:46 pm

      Nene, shut up haba. Do you know how many people have issues they’re covering up. if you hear stories eh, it will shock you but judgemental people like you are the reason rubbish continues

  34. Stella Kashmoney

    November 27, 2015 at 11:04 pm

    I don’t support rape in anyway, shape or form but I don’t see this as rape. I am not sure what was going on in her head, but I can’t imagine my 17 year old self acting this way with anyone, not even Bill Gates’ son. I would advise Sugarbelly to take off the pictures of the guys with their wives. Their wives have nothing to do with this.

    • DD

      November 27, 2015 at 11:59 pm

      But how does the fact that you might have acted differently in such a relationship affect her story? Her story is that she was young, infatuated and vulnerable in this relationship, and he groomed her and took advantage of her emotions. After gaining her trust, he not only took advantage of her sexually (and in my view, these messages definitely lend credence to that), but beat her and forced her on numerous occasions to also have sex with his brothers, cousin and friends, and filmed some of the encounters against her will. If her allegations are true (and I personally believe they are), then it is nothing but rape and brutal exploitation of the worst kind.

    • ogo

      November 28, 2015 at 2:23 am

      you cannot believe a 17 year old acted this way? under what rock did you live? what did girls that age discuss other than crushes and hot boys ? That some of us were so caged that we didn’t get to act on the nonsense we read in mills and boons is enough reason to bless God everyday!

    • Iris

      November 28, 2015 at 4:12 am

      Everybody handles a situation differently. Victims react to situations differently and there are probably things that will make you keel over in a ball while she will brush it off. One thing stays constant in each case though. The rapist is a rapist. Period.

    • Heeba

      November 28, 2015 at 12:44 pm

      look go and take several seats …..what do you know or see as rape ,may it not happen to you in any form what experiences do you have about life??. She should take down the picture for what ??? if some people tortured my daughter like this its more than their picture i will put up in public i will cut off their manhood and put it in a museum ..Nonsense comment

  35. pink

    November 27, 2015 at 11:15 pm

    i understand how she must feel. Last Monday I was raped on my campus. I don’t know what to do. I am so scared. We were suppose to meet for a group meeting to discuss a group project we had to present. I got there but he was home alone, I waited for others to show up but…. it happened, he forced himself on me and I froze. This is the second time it has happened to me. The first time was when i was in Nigeria. I was 8 years old he was 21, my parent treated him like a son until he raped me for over a year. When my parent found out, they blamed me and he got away. There was no justice, according to them “”it was a christain thing to do”” so that i would not bring shame upon the family. So we moved to a different country to get away. I beginning to heal for the first one now this. I am so afraid and alone. I can’t tell my parents because they will blame me. HA. I understand your pain Superbelly, at least you have support I have no one.

    • Gorgeous

      November 27, 2015 at 11:28 pm

      First rush to the hospital and get pills that can stop you from contracting HIV of taken within the first week. Get a police report, and if you know your attacker name them. Please confide in your parents as well. God bless you.

    • chi-e-z

      November 28, 2015 at 10:55 am

      wait do pills like that exist???

    • lorde

      November 28, 2015 at 5:11 pm

      Yes @chi-e-z.. pills exist.. They are standard anti retroviral pills.. but your doctor will give ou a dose of not more than a month… Please be prepared.. depending on the brand you take.. you may expirience severe nausea.. I just finished my dose after my rape last month.. It is hard.. but you must take it seriously.. never skip a day.. put a reminder on our done if you hv to. Nd don’t forget to go for counselling . be blessed..

    • Las

      November 27, 2015 at 11:32 pm

      Pink – please get help ASAP!!!! Please, please please. How can you be reached??!!

    • ms lala

      November 27, 2015 at 11:33 pm

      I apologize for the experience you had to go through. Please try and get counseling and find a way to move forward. God will surely punish the men who advantage of you. Please don’t lose hope in humanity. The thunder stricken idiot who took away your innnocence at the tender age of 8 will surely meet his doom. Shame on your parents for pulling the Christian card. Am sorry but that would have been the end of the relationship with my folks. I hope you find the strength to move forward and find happiness. Karma will get those men. Heart is bleeding right because I know it hurts you to remember your experience.

    • Sheri

      November 27, 2015 at 11:43 pm

      And by the way I have been a victims of sexual abuse on three different occasions, and I am a living testimony living a purpose filled life. You are not alone.

    • Sheri

      November 27, 2015 at 11:36 pm

      Please, if you would not mind. Email me. I would love to talk to you. If you need to share your burdens, you are not alone. You are not. And anybody else needing someone to talk to or somebody to just listen. [email protected]

    • Tari

      November 27, 2015 at 11:51 pm

      Pink, you can choose not to be alone. Last Monday is already too late for medical record. Hoeever, still make a police report, see a doctor and if you are in some advanced society, your gp can arrange for you to see a therapist of some sort. Please d not try to handle this alone.
      Whatever your parents or anyone tells you, it was never your fault. Real men respect NO and do not violate women (or their fellow) men.
      Not even runs girls deserve to be raped. It can never be justified.

      A big hug to you,pink. I prsy you come through intact (as hard as it will be).

    • Mamacita

      November 27, 2015 at 11:54 pm

      This scandal is like driving past a car accident, you don’t want to look but your eyes betray you…

      Mr – continues to abuse this lady and our intelligence by releasing her messages to him and her picture. We are not stupid Mr and Mrs =, try harder next time. The court of public opinion finds you guilty.

      Loose or no, immoral or no, this guys took advantage and they should be made to pay!

    • anon

      November 27, 2015 at 11:54 pm

      Sweetie am so sorry for what u went thru and no never ever feel it was ur fault *hugs*…I pray u heal and God grants you the happiness u deserve.

    • You are loved.

      November 28, 2015 at 12:56 am

      @pink, “And this too shall pass.” in JESUS’ Name, Amen. I am praying for the young lady (I honestly hope she will change her handle/social media name from Sugabelly to something more inspiring) and I pray for you. Her story, and now your post, have been overwhelming, I had to just hand everything, her, you, everyone involved over to GOD. “When my soul is overwhelmed, lead me to The ROCK that is higher than I.”

      I don’t know where you are as your post makes it clear you re not in Nigeria. I googled Christian counselling for rape in the UK and quite a few options came up. I also googled MFM (Mountain of Fire and Miracles church) in the UK and USA ad they do have branches in both. I googled these specific options because apart from the moral support, love, care and sincere friendship you need, rape is a spirit, and for it to have happened to you, not just once but twice, for you to have left one continent (even if it is only a country) for a another continent just to escape that ugly trauma, pain and shame, and it still followed you and happened to you again, clearly it is something that needs to be dealt with from its root spiritually. Your parents were blaming you the first time but they may even know more about why what happened to you happened. Many times children find themselves fighting battles in their own lives that they know nothing about and which they did not start. Seek professional counselling. Whatever you do, please completely avoid things like hypnosis, new age stuff, and drugs (to avoid dependence and addiction, more problem). Give your life to Jesus Christ, feed on the Word of God, in your private time and in regular church attendance, get counselling and have regular sessions where you can talk and release everything about the entire situation, all your emotions, everything, and by the grace of God, you will be healed and made whole. MFM specialises in deliverance ministry and you do not have to be a member of their church; they have sessions just like church services, the Word is taught, praise and worship is done, prayer points are prayed collectively and as the ministers go round praying with everyone; nothing scary, nothing done in darkness. The sessions are usually daily for a week and you can approach any of the ministers/pastors and speak to them privately; no one will judge you in any way. You need that spirit to be broken off you permanently and you can only get this in church. You may not want to speak to the pastors in your own church as you may feel they’ll tell your parents, that’s another reason why I’m giving you this option too.

      As I said, google and seek professional (and Christian counselling). Get spiritual and professional. The professional will also be able to advise you on legal counsel and options and will provide you support through the legal process if you end up going through with that; Even if you don’t get to court, they will be able to confront the abuser, and know the best ways to go about confronting him with his crime and getting an apology and compensation out from him without going to court. They (your legal counsel) could inform the school authorities (or threaten to) and the punishment on him therefrom could be enough without getting to the court stage.

      I mentioned MFM again, because they are certain to be Nigerian and apart from the deliverance ministration and counselling, they will be able to counsel you on how to let your Nigerian parents know about the rape and you never know, they may even be able to help you speak to them, even if in your absence, Nigerian adult/parents to Nigerian adults/parents. Oh and try to speak to a woman minister, even if she involves a male minister, it is good for you to have a fellow woman counselling you/involved in your care team in such a situation.

      My prayers are with you. You are not alone. Don’t be afraid. GOD is with you. You are not alone.

      Fear not. Do not be afraid.

      Pray, google, pick up the phone, and take the next steps.

      It is well with you.

    • Zee

      November 28, 2015 at 7:34 am

      Anty you are loved: do you realise you just blamed her for being raped? Oh that she was raped in 2 continents means she is being followed by rape spirit.. She should go to mfm to get delivered because rape spirit is following her about. Anty, you are a problem!
      So what spirit is following her rapists then..

    • jh

      November 28, 2015 at 10:45 am

      I attend MFM too but on the behalf of Daddy G,O, his wife,the pastors and the rest of the congregation, we disown your insensitivity and thinly veiled judgemental spirit.

      That said,following your logic, you need to go for deliverance. Everybody here is complaining about your insensitive comment. You must be fighting battles you don’t know about your foundation.

    • You will be fine

      November 30, 2015 at 9:46 am

      Whattttt! Why will you type this filth to someone seeking help? All you religious zealots who do not have compassion. You clearly disregard the ultimate commandment which is to show love and you are here recommending church!! I dont actually blame you. You are clearly brainwashed.

      Christians, learn to preach and show love first. See other peole quickly telling her to go get pills to save her life, telling her to get her parents involved and you are asking her to go for deliverance

      Dear pink, at this time. what you need is to be surrounded by people who love you, who will show you indeed, you are worthy cos trust me, i know that no one should be alone at this time. You will self-destruct as you will start looking for ways to validate your existence and feel worthy..You will fight with self-confidence issues, but i need you to rise above self-pity. It will be hard, but you have to try, Please,You just have to.

      Say to yourself everyday, I am strong, i am confident, i will stand tall and one day, these experiences wil help me inspire others

      Darling, do you know Christ? Please find him, Fall in love with him, ASK HIM why you have to pass through this? Then find purpose in your experiences. You gotta heal.

      I have been raped, molested, name it. I though i was fine until one day i realised i couldnt stay in a relationship, i was dating serially and looking for validation. I started having nightmares, i had sex compulsively. My dear, it took only God cos i almost lost my mind. I was almost running mad. I didnt understnd why i was loosing my mind till God visited me. I asked him to kill me but He saved me. I surrounded myself with love and now I am here today.

      This will not break you, stand up and fight for your life. Be well

    • Californiabawlar

      November 28, 2015 at 2:23 am

      I just cried. My heart breaks for you. My dear you’re not alone.
      Are you over 18? You don’t need to tell your parents to file charges. You are stronger than you know. Go to the closest hospital, talk to a health official, if you live in a civilized country, they would have someone to walk you through the process of getting tested and then filing an official report.
      I’m begging you to take this up. There’s justice. It’s just never handed to you, you have to take it! Not your parents. YOU!! Please, don’t let the animal win.

      By the way, you have evidence. Texts arranging the meeting. The clothes you had on. Anything that has ever connected the two of you can be used as evidence. Circumstantial maybe, but it’s still something. It’s going to be your word against his, and it’s definitely worth the try.

      I’ll say a word of prayer for you tonight. May the Lord grant you comfort and strength.

    • Ada

      November 28, 2015 at 5:34 am

      My dear sister! Go to the hospital and do the needful then you can deal with your emotions

    • Me

      November 28, 2015 at 2:42 pm

      Nne, hope you took ARVs. You are not alone. Sexually harassed from ages 5-9. Abusive relationship at 17. When pple talk abt marriage, I shudder and pity my future hubby. There’s no love to give him sef cos I never feel anything for guys. But then we are Africans so we must all get married. God give future hubby the wisdom to handle me

    • Chacha

      November 29, 2015 at 2:03 pm

      Pink. Luckily you are out of Nigeria. Hopefully not anywhere in the middle east I hope? Please GO GET HELP! REPORT TO THE POLICE!! YOU ARE NOT IN NIGERIA!!! PLEASE GO NOW. YOU WILL HAVE AUDIENCE. PLEASE.

    • Samuel Stinger

      November 29, 2015 at 4:11 pm

      That’s the evil world we living in. The more you talk about it, the more you get out of it. Summon the courage to tell your parents. They are the only person we can run to when we are in deep shits… I know what you passing through…

    • I STAND WITH PINK TOO

      November 29, 2015 at 5:00 pm

      Dear pink sending you warm hugs. Go to the hospital and take care of yourself first, then i pray you find the strength to report your rapist so he doesn’t get the chance to hurt another girl. You will rise from this!.

    • pink

      November 30, 2015 at 7:42 pm

      Thanks so much for all your advice and encouragement, I cried reading them all. I live in North America, I have done a rape kit and gotten some help. The journey is going to be long. Thanks for encouraging me to take the first step.

  36. Wolexis

    November 27, 2015 at 11:32 pm

    If you have been following sugar belly closely you will know that she is full of lies.

    She began with the gist of how she developed a website at 9 then moved to her jamb result where she claimed she scored 407… meanwhile jamb is graded over 400.. too many lies and nonsense. Just do some background checks and you will be amazed.

    • Tari

      November 27, 2015 at 11:56 pm

      The girl is mentally unstable. That is an established fact. However, she has been on this rape thing for a very long time ( I heard it as long as three years ago when I went to her blog for the first time) and the released mails and fb posts collaborate her tales to a large extent.
      There might be exaggerations but that is what the accused and his brothers get for their pevert tendencies.

    • The Bull

      November 28, 2015 at 2:57 am

      Mr Wolexis, there are kids that code before 10. We had a computer at home in 1999, i learnt to do basic stuff with HTML after some hours of lessons, some years ago. so because you did not learn to open an email address till your 20s does not make her story false. her reality is not your reality. What does she gain from lying against this man?, I remember when a guy on twitter broke this story some months ago, and if we are being honest her story has been consistent. it took a guy to talk about rape for some men to listen..smh

    • S!

      November 28, 2015 at 10:38 am

      And that was what Sugabelly tweeted that people were bashing her last week, that she learnt how to code in 1999 at the age of 9. I didn’t see what the big deal in coding was but trust Nigerians to bash her.

    • Doxa

      November 28, 2015 at 11:57 am

      Let me not call you ‘Olodo’, I know at least 5 friends of mine who had above 400 in JAMB. Nonsense.

    • Anoa

      November 28, 2015 at 12:49 pm

      and you are full of sh*t……………when it happens to you or you daughter you can now look for plenty of lies there Hidiot

  37. Yemi

    November 27, 2015 at 11:34 pm

    Now working in a university clinic has exposed me to these things over and over. You know some of them get abused and then they feel guilty that they they were the ones who did wrong. I talked to one of them and made her realise that the guy who fingered her by coercion has abused her even though she felt like she agreed but she told me she didn’t want to and she even felt bad for participating and feels like a cheap girl. I made her see it wasn’t her fault and that she was manipulated. she was 17 too. when I was done talking with her, her sense started returning. Then I showed her clearly what strategies the guy was deploying. she said “yes o, that was the scope he used for me”. She is just one of so many.
    We need to fight rape but we need stronger family units. where male children are raised to be protectors and female children have strong male figures that protect them and show them what real men do. IT IS VERY VERY EASY TO TAKE ADVANTAGE OF THESE CHILDREN. They are so vulnerable, the family unit is porous so a monster can snatch a child away while the parents are hustling. Some are just feeling valuable that an older man is taking them seriously, Their plainness and naivety is shocking, coupled with a sense of false self confidence that makes them believe they can handle anything. As community we should look out for these ones, starting from our family. The male folk need to protect their own,for real…

  38. Lala

    November 27, 2015 at 11:46 pm

    This woman is an unintelligent person and she is out of touch with reality. Your average bn reader is very enlightened and will not buy this nonsense. Sugar belly has confirmed that there was a romantic relationship and it was sexual. That does not give him the right to invite his friends against her will and abuse her physically. The wife is pathetic to be married to such a man and even more crazy to be defending him. She is also a victim of abuse in this situation. Thank you to sugar belly for coming out and exposing this injustice. We cannot keep living a life that has no consequences

  39. Mint

    November 27, 2015 at 11:49 pm

    Omg! I am really sorry to hear this. Please report that guy to the police!! Don’t keep quiet I beg you. I pray God’s healing rain upon you. I am so sorry you have to go through this!

    • memebaby

      November 28, 2015 at 12:37 am

      report an ex govt son / future governor to the police ? LOL

    • DD

      November 28, 2015 at 10:38 am

      The comment was obviously intended for Pink.

  40. omotolani

    November 28, 2015 at 12:46 am

    Hmm this is serious. What if she got what she wanted from the guy( commitment, marriage, attention, respect etc) is ds story going to b out. We can’t blame the guy alone. Other 17 years old girls are out there following this story they should know this is bad! U can’t b 17 and b exposed to ds! I’m sure they tricked other girls like her back then but they followed the right path. She needs help now and that’s the most important thing. Sex education needs serious attention in ds country, if the parent can train their kids then d educational system should do something about it. Cos in the end not only the parents get involved just like in ds case now everybody hs something to say. Do something about sex education in your neighborhood, stop that 16 years old girl moving about with guys don’t wait until bella naija or Linda posts before u leave a comment or an advice

    • Ada

      November 28, 2015 at 9:07 am

      a young girl trying to figure out her emotions vs A 25 year old who should know better.

    • Yemi

      November 28, 2015 at 9:31 am

      Sex education ain’t the solution! does this not happen in countries where there is constant sex education. It is also somehow legalized. what the documentary “hot girls wanted”. it is the same thing. statistics have shown that sex ed has very little effect on behavioural change.

    • Ada Nnewi

      November 28, 2015 at 2:50 pm

      It will be very unfortunate if you omotolani are a woman…you must think everyone is ruled by the same motives as you…sugarbelly’s story has tortured me since I heard it cause the depravity of some of the men she implicated is well known fact….

  41. funke Oguntuga

    November 28, 2015 at 12:56 am

    From the indept of my heart I bless all BN’ers, I am beyond convinced that this country is blessed indeed and justice will be served to sugabelly no matter how long it may take.. Your comments gave me hope.

  42. Elizabeth fifi

    November 28, 2015 at 1:01 am

    We seriously have to intercede in the place of prayer for rape victims. The devastating effect of rape is so mind boggling even for science. I believe only the Sun of righteousness with healing in his wings can go deep to heal. I pray this for all rape victims. Signs…. What more can be done?
    A lot of hurting people in this world….Father we need your touch and healing by mercy in Jesus name

  43. Swizzey

    November 28, 2015 at 3:30 am

    oh my, oh my, oh my….Whats wrong with everybody?

  44. raeesh

    November 28, 2015 at 4:01 am

    This is just pathetic. Read thru her posts way back to 2007 n realised dis young woman has been really dealt with. From d anger in her wrte ups u can tell shes troubled. Those calling her names do not realise the kind of emotional manipulation dis young woman went thru. I pray @sugabelly finds justice soon. As for d accused, dese screen grabs only further to corroborate d victims story. What borthers me tho is why d wife feels d need to share dis emails. Is she saying its ok her hubbu had sex with a minor? Or is she jusy playing d dutiful wife. I prau dese peeps grow a conscience sha.

  45. Person

    November 28, 2015 at 5:19 am

    I have followed Sugabelly for 5 years and if you read her blog, the darkness in the posts is overwhelming. She has been talking about this constantly for years and years. I am just sad it can’t be ‘proven’ but Lotanna has done well. I am very proud of her for standing and telling her truth. And thank you, BNers, for this show of support. I am glad we can see through the bullshit.

  46. Aminat

    November 28, 2015 at 6:42 am

    They threaten to release nude pictures of her after brutally raping her for years. It just shows us their mindset and further confirms sugabelly’s account. May you find peace Sugabelly. If the accused release those nude pictures then the presidency must wade in because it then shows the accused is an animal and not fit to rule his home not to talk of a state. Good riddance to bad rubbish. I pray the sins of the father will not be visited on his innocent children.

  47. Fanny

    November 28, 2015 at 7:14 am

    Gang band is not Gang rape.

    • chi-e-z

      November 28, 2015 at 10:59 am

      yeah b/c it’s just every girls dream to be banged by 3 dudes all over tschew *rolls eyes* … y r guys so violent intimately nowadays and y’alll b wondering y so many girls turning lesbian nowadays ….

    • jecinta

      November 28, 2015 at 12:53 pm

      You are right . it is Gang Band rape Fanny

  48. Olayemi

    November 28, 2015 at 8:36 am

    That – family seems like a cursed one. It’s better to be poor with a good reputation than rich with all form of filths. Even the wife they married imported filth into their family. Her tweets stink!

  49. *curious*

    November 28, 2015 at 8:36 am

    pls let us keep sugabelly and other abuse/rape victims in our prayers.

  50. Oversabi

    November 28, 2015 at 8:57 am

    I am just going to say this – I will exercise caution in judging either sugarbelly or -. He is guilty by white man’s standards of having sex with a minor. But with northerners legally betrothed to minors under Islamic law as justified by Emir Sanusi’s recent lecture on bn and lindaikeji, I can see how culturally at the time he felt it was appropriate. I was once 17. I am very pretty. I had suitors of all ages and from Bank execs to boys in my neighborhood. The rich ones offered me limo rides and luxury outings that I refused. This was in the late eighties in Lagos. Still I was not taken by any of them. My parents were broken. My dad was a chronic womanizer and hardly home. My mother was a serial screamer. Every thing drove her nuts and my dad was her biggest enemy. Point is I was primed to go crazy with daddy issues. Still, I knew not to date older men and I knew the boys my age were not capable of long term relationships so I did not care to find a sleeping partner. Anyway in my adult life when I started becoming comfy, someone apparently thought they could scam money out of me. My hubby and I were sued for something -not rape for several teens of millions of dollars. We had never seen the accuser before. Because it was in civil court there was a lot of he said and she said. That was the last time I went to the event of any Nigerian. Apparently he was in a friend’s crowd and somehow found out I had a little bit of money. The accusation submitted to the court reads like an espionage movie. I could not recognize myself in the script. He wanted to extort money from us. God prevailed. But I say this to ask us to exercise caution. He may be a monster but I want to hope that if he is innocent of the atrocities outside of statutory rape of a minor he has a fair chance to be exonerated. That court case against me is why I don’t flash my home or pictures or vacation on social media. Some people are watching and they are planning on how to extort money from you. Once in civil court a lot of stuff is he said she said. To rape victims, please don’t be shy. It is a serious violation of your person. Report it to your parents and a loved one. Get medical help and get psych help.

  51. Hmmn

    November 28, 2015 at 9:48 am

    Looks like Lindaikeji has been paid not to share the story. YEYE.

    • jh

      November 28, 2015 at 10:50 am

      My respect for her waned when I noticed. I’mso disappointed in Linda Ikeji

    • Tari

      November 28, 2015 at 12:19 pm

      You guys are too quick to respect and idolize folks.
      Just because a person makes tons of money off a WordPress or blogpost site does not suddenly make her a role model on any issue. The girls is just a hustler and for that I respect her and nothing else. Why she should be considered. Moral compass bewilders me.
      That is why I rolled my eyes when I heard are going waxing all inspirational and motivational speaker.

    • jasmine

      November 28, 2015 at 1:03 pm

      Na today you know? How was she able to buy a house of 1billion? Lmao. Where’s fashola’s story of birthing twins? Was it not after some weeks and bashing she carried it? Role model indeed.

    • Adaeze

      November 28, 2015 at 2:19 pm

      Am sure she thinks the story is a lie … Since the girl didn’t contact her or she is still verifying the story … For Linda it’s all about the money , I hope pple will see this n stop with all this she is a mentor n an inspiration n motivator… Motivation n inspiration towards what pls ? To achieve ur dream ? Through wish means ? Smh for what our country has become … If u did not start reading Linda blog from 2010 pls u don’t know anything about her or the blog or how she got to where she is … Smh at self righteous n self made

    • Oversabi

      November 28, 2015 at 3:06 pm

      Or threatened. She had a lot to lose now you know. …

    • Unimpressed

      November 28, 2015 at 6:24 pm

      She was definitely paid off! She has posted worse stories on her website and there is NO WAY this isnt on her radar, I’m disappointed. As a woman she has failed us all

    • TA

      November 28, 2015 at 8:39 pm

      @ Hmmmm I suspect Linda Ikeji is not featuring the story on her blog because Sugabelly is one of the reasons Linda was reported to Google when her blog was taken down. In case you don’t know, Linda is actually one of the first bloggers who started sharing Sugabelly’s tweets years ago. I first heard of Sugabelly from LIB ! Sugabelly fought linda over sharing her sex tweets and I think Linda is now wary of Sugabelly. You don’t have to take my word for it. Google is your friend.

    • Peaches77

      November 30, 2015 at 1:34 pm

      You are right TA!

  52. Ada

    November 28, 2015 at 9:55 am

    I’ve been following sugarbelly’s blog for more than 5 years now. Her story has been consistent. It’s only a fool that will believe she wasn’t raped. I cry whenever I read her blog because you just know ahe a tortured soul that has gone through a lot. From being rejected by her father, to rape to so many other datk things. She wrote about this relationship as far back as 2007 etc. Her blog was like her diary. It will never be well with these rapists and their blond wives.

  53. Josephine

    November 28, 2015 at 12:16 pm

    @ Pink, my heart breaks just reading your experience. You who went through it are blessed with incredible strength. I hope you press charges but I don’t dare advise you to. I’m not the one who will have to bear ignorant attitudes like “rape spirit”. So many women experience hell and can’t speak out. They even blame themselves. We hear women get blamed so much we also learn to accept that lie.

    @those disappointed in Linda Ikeji, that’s how she generates wealth. She’s on many payrolls to blog or bury stories as they please. I guess you didn’t know.

  54. Koffie

    November 28, 2015 at 1:34 pm

    I understand the part where she loved her abuser cos I’ve been there before and mine was in my adult life. I didn’t even hear of this story until yesterday which was when I googled Sugabelly and found her blog. I was surprised to notice she’s a BN commenter as I recognized her blog avatar from a few comments here. For all its worth, I believe you Sugabelly and the name also rings a bell as someone who before this news being everywhere had been bullied on Twitter even though I wasn’t following her, I used to see retweets and wondered what the cyber bullying was for. No one should have to go through what you went through and it’s dumb for people to think she chose this moment to destroy him cos I saw posts on her blog dating to as far back as 2007. I can’t imagine that she’s had to deal with this for so long. I’m still bothered that people can be so sick to do all of that to a girl 8 years younger without remorse. I’m appalled that he saw her as nothing more than whom to share with his friends. And his wife is yapping? His wife honestly read these Facebook mails and still considers her husband the victim/angel? She’s apparently the delusional one defending what she didn’t witness with such passion.
    My prayers are with Sugabelly and I saw a lot of similarities between the way her relationship progressed and mine except for the passing her around part. You deserve justice and you’re braver than the rest of us who keep quiet.
    I have no respect for the law firm that served her a threatening letter. I didn’t mention the name since BN is scared of trouble and would remove it. They seriously expect her to apologize and pay him $2m?! So easy for Mr. Abuser and his team to mention such amount like it’s loose change since they kukuma steal amounts in the range of millions of dollars.
    I really hope Sugabelly has real life support system that would be there when the dark moments push her. I hope her parents cover their faces in shame especially her father, they failed her.

  55. Koffie

    November 28, 2015 at 1:35 pm

    That’s not my avatar jor.

  56. Haidiza

    November 28, 2015 at 1:56 pm

    I am sick n sad n full of anger n all sort of feeling … Just 14 converted rape cases in Nigerian ? Really ? Where r all my women on high n grassroots level … Til it happen to our daughter or sisters before we speak n make it a national issues even when it happens to our sibling am scared cos we will still cover it up n hide it , that’s the only reason y it will continue… More than half of every Nigerian girl or woman u see has gone through this one way or the other , pls those that have the platform to share story like this lets do it let make it a daily campaign, every day one girl or woman goes through this …. People saying she put herself in that situation , that’s y its abuse , n she was only 17 people n let me say this because money was kept in ur reach n nobody is watching does that gives u the right to steal it … Group f guys aka satans from one family n friends continue abusing same girl or other girls n u think that’s is normal , n u r asking y their father died some one prayers were answered …. Am scared of what this world has become , parents having kids without proper training , how will one man kids do this to a girl n u want to b governor to govern who Biko …. N pls the girl parents too … Omg #canyourchildtellyouanything … Let’s start this campaign as parents , as mothers , as fathers , as uncles , as aunts , as brothers , as sisters

  57. Tari

    November 28, 2015 at 4:19 pm

    Hopefully my last comment on this saga, as it has rightfully consumed a better part of my weekend;

    1. We as young parents in this generation need to reevaluate our parenting skills. Above all else, this has been a failed case of parenting on both sides. Sugabelly’s parents most of all have failed in gigantic measures. I got home last night having spent the better part of my ride home reading these posts and the accompanying comments and could not wait to make salient promises and renew existing vows to my young daughter. Parenting is much more than gifts, toys and exclusive schools. Every line of her mails and chat left me wondering who raised such an intelligent young lady to be so lacking in self-worth.

    2. Ladies if you ever have acase of rape or sexual abuse of any sort, go and see a doctor before even the police. There are a few reputable NGOs that will direct you in the right path. I wish such NGOs will be better publicised. Sexual abuse victims need to know where to go.
    The painful truth is that this has become a case of he said, she said. Medical evidence are no longer possible.

    3. False accusation of rape is a single for which its perpetrators have a special place in hell.
    Proving rape is bad enough, so while I know that sexual issues cannot be easily legislated but we ( iam together with women on this) must disempwer potential rapists and abusers my making consent as unequivocal as possible within the given context. I know that the fact of NO being NO is still alien to perverts but we must not make it easy for them. Every false accusation sets the fight against abuse back in immeasurable ways.

    4. My thoughts and sincere prayers are with Sugabelly. I will not wish her pain on my worst enemy, irrespective of how this land out, she is deeply hurt; mentally and otherwise.

    5. No means no.
    It does not matter how much you have spent on him or her. It does not matter previous consents for same act. It also does not matter whether she is a runs girl, a wife, a girlfriend or even a one night stand. Her dress code is utterly inconsequential too.

  58. hezekina pollutina

    November 28, 2015 at 4:34 pm

    Sugabelly you are brave to do this, and you are a very strong and mighty girl! I am glad everyone is talking about this. And I agree that sexual molestation in Nigeria and in fact, the worldwide, is super common. Time is right to bring this out in the open, name and shame the perpetrators and do better as a people. No more stuffing of sexual abuse and dysfunction in the CLOSET. In addition, lets discuss about parenting means and what it is NOT: Its not just for the glory of God, or to get it out of the way or to have a mini-Me and spread your genes. Its for engaging full-time in the life of another human being until they become an adult. I think most of Nigeria for generations has spent their childhood being raised by people other than the parents, from boarding schools, nannies, other relatives and sexual abuse is rampant. This definitely plays part in our dysfunction as a people. Don’t have kids unless you are committed to raising them and watching them! And raising them don’t just throwing money at them, it means being there for them and monitoring them, your darn self.

  59. Anon

    November 28, 2015 at 4:48 pm

    Am a student in one of d universities in nigeria nd I wud tell u that there re so many rape occurence tat re never reported. As a girl in this country u will lock it all inside nd act as if nothing happened jst to avoid everybody knwing u were a victim of rape. 2yrs ago my frnd nd I saw some guys in a street pouring sumtin into mirinda nd they were talking in yoruba, they said she will sleep well well today she wnt knw anything. Am 100% sure they raped her nd we didn’t hear anything abt it. Evn I was raped one day in my hostel by a ‘toaster’ nd I went to schl the nxt day like nothing happened evn though I limped around for a week, nobody asked wat was wrong either. A friend of mine too nd her bf doesn’t even knw. Its not a thing of pride to go through such an ordeal nd nt say anything but the way nigeria is set up that is the best thing to do nd stay lowkey so it wnt happen again.

    • DD

      November 29, 2015 at 12:10 am

      So sorry that you went through such an ordeal. We live in a very sick society that revictimizes victims and allows perverts to walk freely. But the man who violated you will surely suffer consequences in one way or another. Evil soul.

    • DD

      November 29, 2015 at 12:21 am

      And if it happened recently please do see a doctor. Best wishes

  60. Anon

    November 28, 2015 at 4:49 pm

    Am a student in one of d universities in nigeria nd I wud tell u that there re so many rape occurences tat re never reported. As a girl in this country u will lock it all inside nd act as if nothing happened jst to avoid everybody knwing u were a victim of rape. 2yrs ago my frnd nd I saw some guys in a street pouring sumtin into mirinda nd they were talking in yoruba, they said she will sleep well well today she wnt knw anything. Am 100% sure they raped her nd we didn’t hear anything abt it. Evn I was raped one day in my hostel by a ‘toaster’ nd I went to schl the nxt day like nothing happened evn though I limped around for a week, nobody asked wat was wrong either. A friend of mine too nd her bf doesn’t even knw. Its not a thing of pride to go through such an ordeal nd nt say anything but the way nigeria is set up that is the best thing to do nd stay lowkey so it wnt happen again.

  61. Odds

    November 28, 2015 at 5:21 pm

    I understand the wife trying to defend her husband but does she know that she has in fact implicated her husband?

    A 17 year old is a minor and admitting that he had sex with her is admitting to rape, statutory rape. Even wife called the girl a child. Am I the only one seeing this?

    I don’t understand people. If someone says no, it is no. Go get your sex somewhere else. It’s not by force. I am sick an tired of these ridiculous scandals.

    Parents, raise your sons to respect women. This is not okay. For so long the culture has been about raising daughters to be appealing to men, while forgetting to raise the young men.

    This rape, domestic abuse, child abuse, sexual abuse, infidelity culture we have created is disgusting. This is why you hear the constant nagging of “all men cheat”. It is sad, it is despicable. We need to stand up and fight for something. I am disgusted by this entire debacle.

  62. Bners might chop me raw

    November 28, 2015 at 7:23 pm

    I just want to add something ooo, I do not think the guys raped her. Yes, the accused might have taken advantage of her naivety and infatuation but I don’t think she was raped. You see, this sugarbelly is really twisted. As someone who was 17 three months ago, I can tell you that a 17 year old knows what’s up. Besides he was only 25, not like yerima 60s. Some married adults started dating their way older spouses at 17. Her twisted childhood and formative years led her down that path. From the chat she’s clearly a disillusioned 17 year old, obsessed so to speak. The accused did not make her fall in love with him. He took advantage of her obsession for him, which men and women do whether it is to a 17 year old or 28 year old. If she had been 18 at the time would people still be talking like this? She wasn’t rape IMO, she was manipulated or allowed herself to be whichever one. I have been living alone since I was 16 and so have some of my friends. I’m seeing some of them repeatedly go back to manipulative boyfriends and I have talked but they won’t listen. In 10 years time I’ll be seeing their “rape” stories trend. The accused might be a wicked person but I don’t think he is a criminal, considering he is from the north where the age of consent is younger than most places,She was twisted before she came in contact with the accused. Her story puts a damper on real rape cases. She should tag her story as the “perils of an insecure, obsessed, neglected 17 year old” not rape. #Justsaying

    • Krasavitsa

      November 28, 2015 at 11:09 pm

      My dear, you obviously are 17. Read about statutory rape. It’s not ok for a child (yes I said it!) Of 17 to sleep with someone who’s an adult. It happens a lot in the north doesn’t make it right. The decisons I made at even 21 seem terribly stupid to me now how much more a 17 year old’s decisions. Just sit down and thank your heavenly stars that you’ve not been wooed by men who are wolves in sheep clothing. Besides, age has nothing to do with emotional abuse or rape. This can happen to an adult and will still be termed rape. Women get raped all d time and it’s not always the kind you see in nollywood movies where the victim is screaming and crying blood. She can be quiet and not shed a drop of tears and still be called a rape victim.

    • memebaby

      December 1, 2015 at 10:35 am

      lets be honest.. if sex was consensual even at age 17, she wouldn’t have announced it..SHE WAS RAPED! it started of as a relationship (so she says) and he took advantage of that.. raped her, and passed her to his friends. as a confused and obsessed 17 yr old.. she repeatedly went back to her abusive “boyfriend” and this painful act became a daily activity for her. This is confusing to me.. why she repeatedly went back. My fear is this case would die down (like most nigerian rape cases do) and make future rape cases seem like a joke. why are the other guys not getting burnt and exposed as this audu man ?

  63. Me1

    November 28, 2015 at 8:23 pm

    He slept with a minor. He abused her. He took advantage of her. He should be in jail

  64. Truth

    November 28, 2015 at 9:24 pm

    DO NOT RAPE
    Even if she is mentally unstable
    Does anything justify sleeping with a mad woman on the street cos he is mad?
    DO NOT RAPE
    Even if she is your girlfriend and spends the night with you
    Even if she was raised by a single parent
    Even if she is a promiscuous person
    She can be promiscuous – but it should all consensual
    Even if she is a messed up teen with a messed up ppast
    Dont add a bit to the mess she is
    DO NOT RAPE, period.
    Nothing justifies it dear Mustafa and friends and brothers
    Nothing justifies it., NO oNE deserves rape – not a prostitute, not a bipolar person, no one
    And oh, now she is the whore and you the men are not????
    If true – you took advantage of her naivety, her ignorance and vulnerability
    Used you wealth and influence and male privilege
    As tools to inflict fear into a teen, turning her into a sexual slave, an object
    You Mustfaa, slept with a minor- the emails your legal team foolishly released proves your culpability
    And with your team, you ABUSED her, which is worse than rape. you raped her mind..
    May this sugabellys ordeal help us teach our sons and brothers
    Not to, Never to, RAPE
    No excuses

  65. Mike orishaguna

    November 29, 2015 at 9:15 am

    He took advantage of her yes, she needs psychological help and therapy. I’m writing this in Nigeria and I’m really interested to see what the law will do about it. Nothing is going to be done, we are just shouting ourselves hoarse for nothing. We need to raise our men better and teach them to be gentlemen. We need to raise our girls better to let them have pride and high self esteem.

    Still there is no electricity and I have to go and buy fuel. I’m tired.

  66. Troll

    November 29, 2015 at 4:00 pm

    Under the Penal Code of Nigeria (applicable to Northern part of Nigeria) she was not under age, the age limit to accuse for rape is 14years old (with or without the consent of the underage) you do not have to take my word for it, Google is your friend. That said, I do think there are 3 sides to this story: her side, his side and the truth. I have looked at this case objectively from different sides, I think there is more to it. Though it mostly looks like a guy who took advantage of a lady who loved him and a one-sided love affair gone sour. They may have been into consensual freaky sex, it is not new to have sexual orgies or partake in gang bangs -, but rape is a strong allegation. I have seen so many case of false accusations but the truth comes out after the guy has served time. I will be glad to shove a punch on this guy’s face if he is truly guilty.

  67. kurt wagner

    November 30, 2015 at 1:19 pm

    you all make it sound like women under 17 are mindless robots that have so self control over their emotions. At 15 you are not a child because you should have gone through secondary school atleast and it seems in her own case she had graduated from the university. Were are her parents in all this i wonder? Was she abused by an uncle or her dad or brother? Has she talked about this already cos i havent been following, i’m just not quick to point fingers based on sympathy. Somethings just aren’t adding up with this lady

  68. Feyi

    December 1, 2015 at 12:15 pm

    What is wrong with everybody nahhhhhh? Jesus! In the world now, a 13 year old girl is exposed to all sort of things and in this girls’s situation, she was a graduate at 17 and started working! she followed him to places where they both had sex, not once, not twice! and when she said she was ganged raped, how many times did it happen? A rape victim will not go back to beg her tormentor to come back to her. Oshisko! This is a case of young people that had fun and she turned the story around to make herself become the victim> Nigerians will believe anything! you people should at least think and read d story well and forget abt what she posted on her sugarbelly blog! she is needs help.

  69. peacepeacepeace

    December 2, 2015 at 3:30 am

    Human beings would always be human beings, The senses are not equal, either raped or -. They should find ways of solving the issue and you and i shouldnt sit down in front of our laptops and phones to hype and text silly and unread comments about anybody. The comments and all and all has nothing to do with either the guilty or innocent but all it does is add fuel to the burning flame, so Nigerians please do or say things to make everything stay perfect and good, no speaking for Musti or Lotanna. But speaking for peace. You and i wasnt there when they met, we werent there when they enjoyed the smashing. So why cant we just act like we would never be there while they face each other. I am sure if you and i read what she has been psoting without comments there wont be enough encouragement or deep shits from both sides, so either been a rightist or a leftist this has nothing to do with you and i about the publishing of there past private trips. For there for just let em solve it, sit each other down and talk things out. So so and so we are all Humans let peace be, the bobo papa just die so lets just make things soft with what we hype or say about them both(musty and lotanna). The bottomline is let them solve the issue among them and let we Nigerians be calm as they do, 🙂

  70. Tee

    December 2, 2015 at 5:12 pm

    It’s quite sad that the justice system in this country is non existent. As for the wife crying wolf did she ever sit down to think y her husband would keep records of such mails after almost 7+years. If we add a good justice system its a matter of them possessing his mail or better yet hacking into it to get a detailed account of all the girls he has molested cos for him to keep this one, I’m more than certain that he would have a record of the others and seeing that he is tech inclined I’m sure those videos r in cloud somewhere

  71. #2SidesOfAcoin

    December 3, 2015 at 4:33 pm

    We were all 17 once. SugaBelly isn’t 100% honest. There is something she isn’t saying. Mustapha Audu was recently interviewed. Read his story Nigerians. Learn to listen to both sides before u condemn. Seems to me like a cold case of “obsession gone wrong” on her part. She’s is obviously pained he left her without remorse over all the sexual-styles he must have enjoyed and eventually married someone else. I don’t remember being very vulgar at 17. I live in abj, my circle of friends consist of the low and highly placed people. Had these sort of circle at 15 till date. And I was never naive. Let’s stop acting like at 17 u still reason like a baby, this ain’t Yankee, dz is Africa. I’m a criminologist and the CAP 77, section 357 of the 1990 defines rape and a minor in the Nigerian Law is 16. Let’s not forget, Sugabelly is a smart-ass, she’s no dummy and she’s good with the pen. And we all know the power of “the pen”. She’s wiser than u think. There is nothing naive about her. She has been long exposed and was raped by an Uncle and the mother did “nada”. That’s where her state of mind got tampered with. I think we should address that. She knows what she’s doing and she’s good trust me, if u were a writer and a reader, who reads wide, u will understand me. Especially the kind that seeks international recognition. I refused to be fooled.

    P.S: Linda Ikeji didn’t carry her story because. When she did, shuga took it too far by tweeting abusive comments at Linda and calling her a lesbian et al. So I guess Linda is just saving herself the stress and drama. If I were Linda, I would do the same. No time for drama.

    N.B: Oh! Yea, i’ve been molested and experienced attempted rape before. What I did was Run, far away from my abusers. Imagine getting raped by someone u love and his friends, it should shatter ur heart, keep. U in d dark and hidden from the world, not make u go back like a hungry puppy. SugaBelly admits she loves sex, can’t blame her.

  72. You are loved.

    December 8, 2015 at 11:17 am

    @pink, I usually don’t bother to respond to replies, good or bad, to my comments once made but you are so important that for your sake, and the sake of others going through or who have gone through what we have both gone through, this once, I am.

    Yes, you read that right, “what we have both gone through”.

    I am a rape victor.

    I have stood in the shoes of not just any rape victim but in your exact shoes.

    Every word and counsel I wrote to you, therefore, is borne out of experience, and not only experience but an empathy, and as CLEARLY stated, a sister-love that all the commenters forming ‘activists’ and reading cross-eyed what is not there, in my post.

    The central and most important thing I wanted to get across to you, what was and is so and most important to me for you to know, I count so very important that I used it as my handle/name for my post/message to you i.e. “You are loved.”

    How anyone could wilfully and blindly ignore that, and everything else in my post, statements such as “Many times children find themselves fighting battles in their own lives that they know nothing about and which they did not start.”, or even my assurance to you that at MFM “no one will judge you”, and still claim that my post showed that I blamed you for the terrible trauma you experienced, or, that it showed my “thinly-veiled judgement” of you would be beyond me to understand, if not that I recognise that it is still the same devil/forces at the root of what happened to you, that is/are instigating all the irrational an uninformed negative voices in as loud a noise as possible, to distract and dissuade you from the “still, small voice” of GOD.

    The blind leading the blind bandwagon also, amongst other evidences of their loss of clear vision, and the simplest of logic, did not stop to consider the obvious fact that 99.99% of posts/comments are done in anonymity, so, if I had anything negative or judgmental to say about you, or Sugabelly, as in her case some had already done, there was absolutely no need for me to “thinly-veil” any such “judgment”.

    I have the greatest respect for the General Overseer of MFM and for his ministry, for the MFM church, so it was another reason I chose not to respond because I did not want the person who claimed to speak on his behalf and on behalf of the church, to further denigrate issues by thinking he/she had to make yet another uninformed response; the intent was perhaps, noble, but his/her post was merely what the Word of GOD warns against as “zeal without knowledge”. I wish he/she would take that post of mine and go show it to the General Overseer and the trained men and women of GOD who serve as ministers in the deliverance ministry of the church he/she claims to speak on behalf of, and listen to what they have to say, and be finally rightly educated and illumined, and repent.

    I mentioned at the beginning of my post, that I was almost overwhelmed, after reading Sugabelly’s story, on her own blog, and then coming across yours. In fact, I was quite distraught. I wept. I didn’t mention that at the first reading, I stopped after reading the words stating that you were raped, in your post. Even though it was almost midnight when I read that, and even though I do not speak to men on the phone after 8pm, usually, I made a phone call to someone I had never met and did not know, a man, whose contact I had seen advertised for his firm/company offering services for help for rape victims; I wanted to make extensive enquiries and find out what exactly the services were, and suss out if the firm was reliable and had a good track record, so I could recommend them to you. I spent about 30 minutes at least, of my phone credit, talking to a stranger, just to get you, another stranger, help. It was only when I went back to your post to read it to him that I discovered you were not in Nigeria. After my conversation with him, (as it turned out, a law firm) was when, I, as I stated in my post, began searching on Google, for the availability of the kinds of help I know you would need, which on confirming, I then recommended to you.

    By the way, one of the things I had read on Sugabelly’s blog site, which, in addition to her story, and yours, caused me to feel almost overwhelmed, was a post in the comments section on Sugabelly’s blog site, by a lady who said she had been raped three times nevertheless is happily married now.

    Know that there is hope.

    Finally, concerning my “foundation” (re the same supposed MFM commenter, as with all the other posts, as I said, I chose to answer with the answer that is universally advised and recognised for those who by their words and actions advertise their membership of a particular category of person; I answered with silence – “the best answer”. Since, however, I am posting anew for your sake and the sake of other rape victors, male and female, I’ll use this opportunity to add a supplementary and final answer):

    “For no one can lay a foundation other than the one already laid, which we have, which is Jesus Christ.” 1 Corinthians 3:11

    “So this is what the Sovereign LORD says: “See, I lay a stone in Zion, a tested stone, a precious cornerstone for a sure foundation; the one who relies on it will never be stricken with panic.” Isaiah 28:16

    “So then you are no longer strangers and aliens, but you are fellow citizens with the saints, and are of God’s household, having been built on the foundation of the apostles and prophets, Christ Jesus Himself being the corner stone, in whom the whole building, being fitted together, is growing into a holy temple in the Lord.” Ephesians 2:19-21

    “Nevertheless the foundation of God standeth sure, having this seal, The Lord knoweth them that are His.” 2 Timothy 2:19

  73. Raychul

    January 4, 2016 at 5:23 pm

    You’ve just proven that you took advantage of a vulnerable girl..
    You are a beast!! I pray you end up in jail!!

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