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Wife of Sugabelly’s Alleged Abuser Speaks Out

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Zahra (@oakleafbycg) is a Twitter user that has been identified as the wife of one of the alleged rapists in Sugabelly’s touching story.

The wife has reached out to share her own side of the developing story via Twitter.

Her Twitter profile reads “Wifey, Mother of 3, Entrepreneur, Womens Right Advocate, Change Nigeria Advocate, Cleaning and Maintenance Guru, interior decorator, motivational speaker.”

See her tweets below.

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64 Comments

  1. Ephi

    November 27, 2015 at 6:00 pm

    This is getting interesting.
    By the way, why is Zahra being her husband’s spokesperson, where is he?! Why can’t he speak for himself? Nigeria is just a joke sometimes, in a sane country, this should be a police case already .

    • Me

      November 27, 2015 at 8:45 pm

      I’m not saying that I don’t believe sugabelly, trust me, most sons of the elite especially the northern ones are bloody monsters (they are either drug addicts, users or Sex addicts, it’s a shame though that most of their victims are olojukokoro or Mumu in love southern girls) At the same time I think sugabelly does have her own personal mental and spiritual issues she needs to sort out (Spirits attract spirits) She should forgive them, give it to God and move on with her life. And the wife is very stupid for replying I doubt she knew who her husband was 9 years ago.

    • Idomagirl

      November 27, 2015 at 9:42 pm

      You posted this comment on the original story & it’s here again. Which one is ‘spirit attracts spirit’ again? So if something terrible happens to someone their spirit attracted the spirit of the perpetrator? Which kain talk be dat?

      And this ‘forgive them, leave it to God’ advice is exactly why so many monsters get away with evil in Nigeria.

    • Me

      November 27, 2015 at 10:43 pm

      Yes I posted it twice because I’m hoping sugabelly sees my comments and hopefully gets some spiritual help because I genuinely care for her happiness and freedom from this horror she must have gone through. And please dear feel free to do unto others whatever they have done to you ok.

    • Ogo

      November 28, 2015 at 5:53 pm

      What exactly does “spirits attract spirits” mean ? Is it that she has a spiritual problem that makes her the right pick for other possessed person?

    • Doc P

      November 29, 2015 at 6:58 pm

      It’s unfortunate that ppl like you perpetuate stereotypes and mask them with spirituality. Read up on Stockholm Syndrome.
      I do agree with you. The guy’s wife is a nasty human being. Can you imagine working for her. And what money or fame does their family have? I’m not from Kogi and I’ve never heard of them. Ever. I understand her being upset and stuff but most of her responses/lash outs were just disgusting.

  2. Las

    November 27, 2015 at 6:04 pm

    The lady doth protest too much, me thinks…

  3. Ann

    November 27, 2015 at 6:11 pm

    Stolckholm syndrome. Google it, ma. It’s very possible to keep going back to your abuser. Very possible to keep being in love with him. Also Google “grooming”. Also ma, you keep talking about accusers but if a lot of people are accusing your husband of rape, madam maybe take a step back and ask why always my husband? The people who go through life without even one rape accusation them get two heads?
    You’re going to publish emails of sugabelly still keeping in contact with her rapist. This girl was 17 and thought she was in love. Any educated person knows that’s very possible. You’re trying to discredit this girl but we all know your husband’s background in abuja!! We know your husband used to rape people. I wish people would come out and share their story. Come out and talk. Don’t let them shame this girl into silence! Come out and stand for justice! We know other victims are our there!! Come out and stand for Justice!

    • emma

      November 27, 2015 at 6:50 pm

      Why did you bother yourself to call that thing “ma” ? That rapist defender does not deserve any respect whatsoever. Dullards like her deserve to drown and die in their stupidity.

    • Localchick

      November 28, 2015 at 1:46 am

      God bless you. This woman is a disgrace to womanhood.

    • dim dim

      November 29, 2015 at 6:32 pm

      ANN!! let me tell you! this man and 2 of his brothers are monsters! i lived in abuja for years and was in the social scene! apart from forcing themselves on you they did sex orgies , they abuse girls emotionally and mentally! bury your self esteem and there after threaten you and discard you! It says a lot about the kind of women married to them! These women know about the sick and disgusting things their men do! This woman has a lot of guts! i tell you! i am urging for these girls to come out! They prey on teenagers! 14-17, they like them young and tight, abuse these girls ! use them! and then discard them!! My friend told me years ago! how 4 of this guys forced her to sleep with them, they took turns on her!! unfortunately she couldn’t do anything to them! May the Almighty Allah JUDGE them! I pray for Nigeria!

    • Eky

      December 1, 2015 at 9:00 am

      ehnn…is this not why women stay in abusive relationships??? dont we hear of women who have died from abusive spouses or partners…. is this not why a druggie still goes back to the same drugs that took them to rehab…
      so ia gree, it is very possible to go back to your abuser..

  4. Tosin

    November 27, 2015 at 6:13 pm

    This suga girl again?
    She can start fight for Africa.

    • Busola Adedire

      Oluwabusola Adedire

      November 27, 2015 at 6:33 pm

      You don’t slay inner dragons in one day. Please, be kind!

  5. laila

    November 27, 2015 at 6:19 pm

    This babe should shut up.

  6. dee

    November 27, 2015 at 6:20 pm

    Wow. I still believe Sugabelly

  7. Mama Ijebu

    November 27, 2015 at 6:27 pm

    What is this woman talking for Christmas sakes!

    I don’t remember sugarbelly mentioning her name. Why is she defending what she knows nothing of. Was she dating –
    (can’t remember her husband’s name) that time? Or is she saying she grew up with the man so she knows all of his ex? I understand the fact that he is now her husband and the father of her kids but this is something she knows nothing of, she really needs to be quiet however hard that is. Her name wasn’t even mentioned. It looks like she tries to act like the ride or die type. I remembered I Googled her husband and I saw a picture of her and her husband being arrested for fraud by EFCC. She needs to be quiet a beg , let her husband come out and defend himself biko.

    • HoneyGh

      November 28, 2015 at 3:24 am

      Y’all keep asking the same stupid questions, not to say I’m defending the accused but that’s her husband. Ofcourse she has a lot to lose. Y’all are talking as if she’s an outsider who’s just poking her nose into something she has no knowledge of. That’s her husband for -‘s sake. Who do you think she’ll stand by in a case like this, especially if her husband probably is giving her a whole lot of reasons not to buy the girl’s story. Y’all see how dumb y’all sound asking that question now???

  8. Zizi

    November 27, 2015 at 6:29 pm

    In my head, I’m picturing this lady as a market woman who is trying to shout down the poor lady. Yes, in my mind…anyway, an ‘advocate’ would have reached out to the woman privately first before coming out to rant on twitter. Throwing weak curses left & right. It is this our culture of shaming rape victims into silence that worries me. I’m scared for my future daughters. And to think this story broke in this season of ” no to violence against women” and is still getting this kind of soggy tepid reply makes me just weak. We have a looooooooooong way to go. If it were abroard,your husband would’ve gotten a visit from the police and your tweets would’ve made you a person of interest too. Rape is rape in any form. I do not want to imagine what this young lady went through. True or not,she spoke out.half of the burden has been lifter. Sugabelly I’m praying for you. May you find true and complete healing. Its well.

  9. Lem

    November 27, 2015 at 6:34 pm

    Abeg why is the ‘Angel hubby’ not defending himself? And why make so much noise if he is truly innocent and you have so called proof? No make to much noise and grammar just give us proof to clear your angel hubby Biko, that’s if you do have of course.

  10. Engoz

    November 27, 2015 at 6:36 pm

    Can this wife shut up? Was she there to be speaking on behalf of the husband? Defender of the universe when it is no news that many Nigerian men are up to no good sexually especially the rich that can get away with any damn thing in that country. Is it because this country does not keep records or penalize the rich? Instead of this feather-brained woman to lie low, you turn yourself into the rabid dog for a husband. Have you thought about what if this turns out to be true? Won’t you look like a fool? Premium times recently reported that Only 18 rape convictions have been recorded in Nigeria’s legal history. If that is true, all Nigerian women from the first ladies to everyone with a political title should be burnt on a stake. You wonder what the minister of female affairs has been doing all along.

    • Rukee

      November 27, 2015 at 8:26 pm

      The stupidity of this comment is in the generalisation”nigerian men are up to no good” pretty stupid of u reali. If u had a little bit of education u wud knw tht generalisation lk ths amounts to a fallacy. Am sick and tired of all of ths rubbish… Not all nigerian men cheat, nor abuse their wives or r involved in stuffs like this…as if u hvnt heard of foreigners wu do worst stuff….d inferiority complex and twisted mind set of some naaija grls sha….just bcs one guy probably used and dumped…doesnt mk all guys bad…sorry fr d harsh words tho…one love!

    • Engoz

      November 27, 2015 at 8:53 pm

      Many Nigerian men are up to no good sexually. If your idiocy does not let you see that Many does not equate All, the onus is on you is to get back to kindergarten and understand the difference between those words. I know it is hard to swallow that many Nigerian men do not have a healthy balance of sexual morals and etiquette. In fact many were raped by their housemaids or aunts as boys which then unleashed an army of sexually frustrated beasts into the environment looking for young girls to take advantage of. But it has to be said, so that people like you can begin to heal. Sorry for the harsh words though, one love.

  11. Ese

    November 27, 2015 at 6:38 pm

    Indeed! Other girls should be brave and speak out. Those that – and his sick friends have videos of should speak out now and break their hold on them forver. Your stories can’t be worse than Sugabelly’s and there is strength in numbers.

    We need to form a voltron for Sugabelly to give others the courage to speak up!!!

  12. emma

    November 27, 2015 at 6:43 pm

    O shut up woman! All this long story to defend a rapist, ain’t nobody got time to read all that BS. I believe sugabelly 100% and no one can tell me otherwise. If Nigeria wasn’t a zoo, those rapists would all be in prison by now. Women like this make me sick, zahra I hope that karma catches up with your family and your daughters end up suffering like Sugabelly did, stupid woman mtchewwwww

    • maleperson

      November 27, 2015 at 10:20 pm

      Where you there too? Hmmm?

  13. Marvel

    November 27, 2015 at 7:05 pm

    Mrs – should look up ‘dignified silence’. Why speak out over such a delicate subject? You weren’t there. If this was the UK, you would be withdrawing your kids from school to a secret location guarded by armed police. You should never in your life attempt such for ANYBODY!! There are lawyers, PR agents, media consultants thts can handle that.
    Does Mrs – remotely understand the severity of accusations levied against the male sons of her late father in law? She should delete her tweets immediately and apologise for getting involved. Let her concentrate as quietly as possible on her children and business for now whilst we wait for the outcome of the accusations.

  14. fleur

    November 27, 2015 at 7:05 pm

    You just took words out of my mouth. the story by sugabelly is quite elaborate. I think it will take a lot of imagination to create this elaborate story. The wife is feeling so aggrieved because she either loves her husband and believes in his innocence or is alarmed because her truth just got told without her consent. What the latter means is that she might also be a victim of this type of behavior. These men who practice animalistic sex dont stop with girlfriends. Every woman in their path is a victim. So by sugabelly telling this story, people will without doubt now speculate as to her own experience in the hands of someone accused of such bestiality.

    I am completely unable to understand why sugabelly subjected herself to what she has described. None of them would have come to her parents house to kidnap her in broad daylight or at night because they want to have three or foursomes. After the first time, she should have been able to say NO MORE. Given her tales of mental health issues, she probably already had them before her encounter with the monstrous experience she described. In which case, the perpetrators of the crime are guilty of preying on the vulnerable.

  15. Gorgeous

    November 27, 2015 at 7:09 pm

    Sahara Reporters just opened her yansh. She and her husband are thieves. They were in EFCC net for scamming a woman. We are supposed to believe the words of a thief? Birds of the same feather. I am sure you see hell in that so called marriage and you put up fake faces. Now after 3 kids it’s too late for you. Your reputation and scamming business is at stake. So you come out and defend your highly defective, dubious and sick husband. You are shameless.

  16. deb

    November 27, 2015 at 7:10 pm

    hahahahahahaha. RAPE!!!!!!. You see, rape is a very terrible thing because its an intimate act done against your will with force, coercion and undermines your confidence. i had an encounter with one while in the university. his name is -, yes that monster that designs stages for all those big gigs. i was in school, it was the second day he came to meet me and also second time we met with one of a brother to a south west governor. locked the doors of his car, and drove me to an undisclosed location then started to shout at me, he could not penetrate because i was a VIRGIN and he said that was why he left me so i should give him a blow job and even lectured me on how to make him come on time, he came on all my clothes,after all was done he told me to take money from his glove compartment that he was sorry, me take money, hell no(at that moment he said his wife just had a baby and blah blah that i am a good girl. i was so devastated because i was even writing exams. i still have a gift for him and it is death, i am going to kill him with my own hands. BELLA NAIJA POST MY COMMENTS. so woman, rapist wife shut your mouth and face your monsters

    • me

      November 27, 2015 at 8:07 pm

      DEB I know people will come at me for saying this, let them come I don’t care, but if you find that monster, castrate him from there he will surely die a miserable shame filled death. Please women take your destiny in your hand and mortally wound any idiot that tries to rape you. Dont wait for Nigerian justice system, its going to be eons before it starts to operate. Just look at..
      As for Sugarbelly’s story, I sympathize with her, I felt a murderous anger rise within me reading all she has passed through, its terrible. May God heal her.
      But her parents amaze me, who gives a 17 year old 12a.m as curfew? I am still trying to imagine how she got away with masking her feelings after these gruesome acts to her, her parents didn’t notice their 17yr old’s demeanor? Nna men I just cant deal, but then her parents no try at all. At my age no matter how much my closest friend tries to mask her pain, I see it immediately, how much more my child, who is working at 17, my female child.. Some stories I hear, I just look back and know that my mumsie shaa poured all her love on me…The woman was so observant that at 17 fear no gree me kiss man, my mama by mere sniff gan will find out. I hated it then , but now its becoming clearer to me..

    • Mamacita

      November 28, 2015 at 12:15 am

      I could not wrap my head around a lot of things I read about the way the poor girl was brought up! I hope she heals.

    • deb

      November 27, 2015 at 9:15 pm

      Bella naija, why did you delete his name. Is he married to one of you,

  17. Tari

    November 27, 2015 at 7:10 pm

    Unfortunately, this case can no longer be proved.
    It has turned to a case of he said, she said.
    As a society we need to redress how we evaluate rape and rape related accusations.
    It is an extreme act to prove (in most cases especially when adults are involved) but it is a most gruesome form of violation. Whether she went back countless times or she changed her mind in a state of nudity and his organ in her palms, NO IS STILL NO.
    All those saying she asked for it and why she chose to date rich spoilt kids, sound like the sort of people who will justify rape of runs girls.
    Not too surprised, this is a society where sane people defend Olamide’s STORY FOR THE GODS.

    Her loved ones should just seek the girl’s healing as her blog proved years ago that she is deeply troubled, irrespective of this -‘s sordid tale.

  18. The Buttery Hotness

    November 27, 2015 at 7:27 pm

    Irony is when she’s also a women’s rights advocate…

  19. Busola Adedire

    Oluwabusola Adedire

    November 27, 2015 at 7:52 pm

    I can’t believe she wrote ‘they have everything to lose and she has nothing’. Once you’ve lost your mind, you’ve lost every damn thing! This girl is on medication for goodness sake or do people think mental health is a joke?

    • Mamacita

      November 28, 2015 at 12:14 am

      Zahra obviously thinks it is! Zahra is condescending as hell! Icon kor, arsewipe ni.

    • Anon

      November 28, 2015 at 1:03 am

      Nigerians generally do not see mental illness as an issue of concern. I suffer from severe depression but go about my daily life as if nothing is wrong because when I tried to talk about it to people they just shrugged it off as “oh you’ll get over it”

    • Biz

      November 28, 2015 at 5:48 am

      Sending love and light your way and loads of hugs too. Hang in there.

    • XON

      November 29, 2015 at 11:15 pm

      I don’t know why mental health is not seen as a serious issue here. I tire for the matter. On the side this ‘so called husband’ is for a family of violent abuser. So I sympathize with sugabelly. Madam everything you loose, try leaving for 9 years on mental drugs and therapist visit and almost committing suicide. Then you can come out to say you have everything to loose.

  20. Olayemi

    November 27, 2015 at 8:47 pm

    Mrs. Rapist is still talking. I pity her.

  21. Vivadrew

    November 27, 2015 at 9:00 pm

    It seems the advent of social media has cause alot of bullcrap. Comon, must every dirty linen be washed in public? Thought SM was created for interactions, shared views, opinions and even learning. How come it is being abused with verbal attacks amongst handlers of social accounts.

  22. punish dem rapist!

    November 27, 2015 at 10:00 pm

    Madam your hubby is a rapist so deal with it! Nigerians should stop shaming rape victims! Enough! I’m a victim of rape. It hurts. It’s emotionally draining! I couldn’t tell anyone for more than 12 years. I was raped as a 9 year old girl. Too bad, I can’t even remember the bastards face but I can still remember that event. Let all dem rapist be brought to book. There is no shame in being raped, the shame should be on the rapist.

  23. Idomagirl

    November 27, 2015 at 10:07 pm

    Why are women so quick to do ‘ride or die’ for their men? Is this was a woman being accused of such horrific crimes would her man jump up to defend her and villify his fellow man in the process?
    Madam Zahrah please be quiet, you’re only making things worse and remove that ‘women’s advocate’ in your bio, you clearly are no advocate.

    • DD

      November 27, 2015 at 10:44 pm

      That’s the saddest part of her tweets – she claims to be an advocate for women but her words show that she is anything but that. She should change it to ‘husband advocate’. She may be hurting but this is no way to deal with her pain.

  24. ada

    November 27, 2015 at 10:36 pm

    zahra… i really hope u come back to read all the comments.. and baby girl… u need to start reading and asking your husband some serious questions because right now, there are two people who need help that is her and you… she is tryna get help… r u getting help? only God knows what is going on in ur marriage..{ im very sorry to say,,for all you know,hes grooming u now..and when u basically are completely powerless, he will strike..hence the reason im saying…get help }
    there is nooooooooo way in hell the young lady is lying.. i have looked at this..medically, forensically and zahra.. u need to start talking to your husband really.. not for his sake.. but for the sake of yourself and your unborn children who are girls,if she is indeed tellin the truth, hunnie..you are in soooo much trouble already because all she needs to do is put herself together and ask God to arise and avenge her…. it may not happen immediately but slowly..it will come to pass.. ur daughters are at risk of generational causes and your family is on a short leech..especially with God..
    so u see Zahra, u really need to start talking to your husband… your offspring and the generations after you are at risk of something they may not be able to carry…

  25. Mint

    November 28, 2015 at 12:08 am

    This woman is such a joke! Women’s advocate my foot! Such an irony. I doubt she even knows the meaning.

  26. Miss shee

    November 28, 2015 at 12:21 am

    Ppl like Zahra are retards, bragging about the amount of Nigerians she employs with stolen Nigerian funds, treat with disrespect and pay meagre salaries. Nonsense, ur husband is been accused of gang raping, meanwhile you are telling us about ur good character. Ignorant woman.

    • Calm Momma

      November 28, 2015 at 8:16 am

      As in, she actually was bragging about employing 100and something Nigerians, Hian this one that treats her staff like she’s almighty and they are her servants… I laugh. Proud Wife of A Serial Rapist. First Lady of a Gangbanger… Just hold on to your man you hear, one day soon he’ll share you with his dogs lets see how gratigying that will be for you Mschewwww

  27. tinuke

    November 28, 2015 at 3:42 am

    i was reading sugarbellys story wondering what kind of women end up marrying people like this. the answer is you.. you are sad.

  28. bashebony

    November 28, 2015 at 7:37 am

    who are all this people biko? probably he rapes her at home everyday and she takes it for fun.

  29. bashebony

    November 28, 2015 at 7:45 am

    who are all this people biko? probably he rapes her at home everyday and she takes it for fun. BN pls post my comment and stop telling me duplicate comment detected Dan Allah.. who duplicated who biko.

  30. Olayemi

    November 28, 2015 at 8:41 am

    The woman is more concerned with how her family is brought to the public with all their evil lives. How can Father, son and wife have fraud case at once, then rape is the cherry that tops it all. She has no character. God forbid this one is even my mother, I will pack my baggage and leave the house! Parrot.

  31. B.S

    November 28, 2015 at 1:21 pm

    We know you are in denial, you can’t be authoritatively vouching for your husband about something he(and his cohorts)did when you were not in the picture,except you are an evil spirit.
    You are condescending say madam employer of Labour.

  32. jane

    November 28, 2015 at 2:20 pm

    The sugabelly girl has a problem and its serious. Mental case number 1. She is bitter about love gone burst after all she did to try to keep a rich mans son. Shame on voltrons up here. The guy might not be innocent on all counts ,but she obviously is a sex machine and was given all she wanted. Make she rest or go court.

    • Olashore 2004

      November 28, 2015 at 3:20 pm

      You are a fool

    • TitI

      November 29, 2015 at 11:37 pm

      stupid comment, does that stop her story from being true?!!!! you seem to be the one with the problem, check yourself.

  33. Tom

    November 28, 2015 at 6:35 pm

    Zahra welcome, a big fool @dat

  34. Me1

    November 28, 2015 at 8:08 pm

    A lot of people who get abused most times never talk about it, because of the backlash.

  35. Ajiun

    November 28, 2015 at 8:22 pm

    I was abused by different people from the age of 8 till I was about 12. I went back sometimes because I enjoyed the attention. I liked the fact that someone was focusing on me even if for a few moments. I was getting something I craved. Afterwards, I would feel used, worthless, angry. But did I go back? Yes. Does that make me bad? Does it justify what was done to me? I envy this girl her boldness. I am too afraid of consequences to say anything. I have moved on, and only a few understand why I seem to have it all together, yet am unable to maintain healthy relationships with anyone. Please don’t judge. This t hing is far more common that you can imagine, It is just that no one speaks out. And why would they? Who wants to add vilification to trauma?

    • Ready

      December 1, 2015 at 6:50 pm

      Wishing you love and happiness and courage.

    • Ajiun

      August 9, 2017 at 2:55 pm

      Wow. I remember avoiding this sugarbelly’s story as much as I can. Cos all these Nigerian stories about abuse and etc petrifies me. Even the one I saw yesterday about that oyinbo babysitter letting a perv abuse those kids, on BN, freaked me out. That I couldn’t even comment! Woah. We women have a lot of sacrifices to make when we become a mother. Being a career woman and mother isn’t an easy feat at all. I wish you all the best, namesake. I pray you find peace, joy and balance.

      I pray Sugarbelly is getting better. Parents need to be more on alert about the safety and wellness of their kids. The world is just getting darker and darker.

  36. Christina

    November 28, 2015 at 10:55 pm

    Rape s rape, no other words from it. We women are always the problems of ur selves, quick to bring down others,, judge, criticise, crucify and disdain our friends, families for the love of a man who debates, maltreatment you. They claim everything is well in public but falling apart in secret. Its cos we are afraid to be made fun of, that’s why domestic violence, rape are still unsolved issues in our society.

  37. nene

    November 29, 2015 at 1:34 pm

    At this rate, I think we should use this opportunity to address the issue of abuse in underage sex in Nigeria. Everyone is saying 17 like it is a big deal in Nigeria; when some of our rulers are getting married to 12 year Olds and a majority of the women in Nigeria have been sexually abused in their early teens.

    if we we’re to conduct a survey, you will be amazed at the statistics of girls that lost their virginity before the age of 15. I agree sugarbelly was taken advantage because they could have easily left her with her obvious problems; but let’s be realistic and honestly here, we live in a society where underage marriages and sexual Intercourse is allowed; I am not saying it is right but it’s accepted so let’s not get overly sentimental.

    I personally don’t agree that she was raped; Emotionally abused? Yes but rape no way.

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