Aunty Bella: Miss. Should I Still Marry Him?

Aunty Bella is our  agony aunt column on BellaNaija. We launched this column in the early days of BN and periodically feature issues sent in by BN readers. We hope the BN family can offer insightful advice.

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I have been with this guy for 10years with no goodies, no gifts.

I pay 95% of my bills and I wasn’t complaining until now. He relocated from Lagos  five years ago only to turn into a different person (bad gang). Now he smokes weed, he used to dress very charming, looks great, smells fine and so much more, but now he wears anything and he’s not appealing to me any longer.

He finally came with his family to see my people last year for an intro…wedding date was fixed for January 2016.

Until now, I didn’t know he lost his job, now he doesn’t have a job nor income of any kind, I advised on a low key wedding but he insist on a paparazzi wedding meanwhile he doesn’t have a jack. Wedding date has been changed twice, as I speak, no specific date fixed for our wedding. It’s been over seven months since the intro.

At this juncture, my mum is beginning to have second thoughts to the whole thing as she now bent on me looking for another guy. I am beginning to lose it as well (love vanishing).

Please I need your candid advice on what to do – he’s 40 & I am 31. Thank you and God bless.

~ Confused………………………..

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