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Male Empowerment: “There aren’t many good men teaching boys to be great men” – Slum2School Africa Founder Otto Orondaam

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Otto Orondaam, the founder of Slum2School Africa, took to his Instagram page this morning to share an insightful piece on the empowerment of the boy child, and men in general.

Slum2School Africa is a volunteer-driven organisation providing education to children living in slums and remote communities in Africa,

Read Orondaam’s post below:

Over the years our girls have been taught to take care of the home, their children & husband while the boys have been taught to work & provide for the family.

Our Tradition & Religion taught us that the woman complements the man. But does that make her inferior to him & should that make her equal to him?

Today there’s a gradual shift in that narrative. Modernization and egalitarianism is increasing. Women are now bread winners & men are becoming homemakers. Some wives now earn more than their husbands.

Good women are rising to teach girls to be better women but sadly there aren’t many good men teaching boys to be great men.

When marriages fail it’s not always the woman’s fault, the man also shares a huge responsibility.

Not because he didn’t want to be a great husband but the society taught him that (it) is his right to be served & it is okay to be polygamous.

When there is crime in the society, it’s 4 times more likely to be the man than the woman. Our prisons have 90% more men than women.

80% of suicide cases occur with men due to social pressure to be a man & be strong.

The use of drugs & narcotics is 70% more with boys than girls. And school dropout is gradually increasing with boys.

In all (these) there is less still focus in training the boy child to be a better man, husband & father.

If we build the boy child as well we would have bridged most of the social gaps. We would see more marriages last longer, less infidelity, less crime & corruption, less rape, substance abuse & violence.

If we build our boys early we wouldn’t have to spend much empowering & training our girls to be better wives because they naturally are.

The fight for gender equality for women will go on as it has, even though the focus should be gender equity, but it’s high time we did something to enhance the knowledge & integrity of the boy child.

We need the full responsibility from our men & women, boys & girls. When we fail for the men today, just like we had failed for women decades ago, we create a circle & someday we might have to focus on the empowerment of the boy child only because he was forgotten.

#OttoOrondaam#EquityNotEquality#LetsDoMore#EveryChildMatters

Photo Credit: Instagram – @otto_orondaam

31 Comments

  1. le coco

    March 14, 2017 at 10:48 am

    wonderful.. … this is important

    • Ottawa Queen

      March 14, 2017 at 2:47 pm

      Not all men are scum afterall. This man right here is a clear example. Wehdone sir. God bless you.

  2. i must talk

    March 14, 2017 at 10:55 am

    …..and this is coming from a man o. Your PAPA born you well @ Otto Orondaam!

  3. Enitan

    March 14, 2017 at 11:15 am

    I’ve been following you for years and you always speak sense. Thanks for this. I’m really in love.

  4. Daniel

    March 14, 2017 at 11:17 am

    Preach bro. I wish I could hug you. So much intelligence.

  5. marlee

    March 14, 2017 at 11:40 am

    man like this are rare. they are born once in a century. God bless you brother. march on.

    • Mawi

      March 14, 2017 at 11:56 am

      So rare, so beautiful. I’m clapping for you Otto. You are a glimmer of hope. I hope and pray that men & women will take this to heart rather than trying to prove that their genders are better by spewing hate. God bless you.

  6. special k

    March 14, 2017 at 11:58 am

    Very well spoken. You are an inspiration.

  7. Kemela ubani

    March 14, 2017 at 12:11 pm

    Very true bro. So proud of your writing ability. Its even more disheartening that speaking up for boys these days feels like you are anti women. I’m happy you were able to put it very well otherwise feminists would have come for your jugular. Hahaha

  8. Chief

    March 14, 2017 at 12:12 pm

    Who wrote this nonsense!

    Who is this simp? why are men becoming wimps? why would a young man want attraction and validation of women these days? You see why these wimps are physical enforcers of gynocentrism.We now incentivize wimpness ? Do we live in a gynocentric world now?Sad!The older i get the more effeminate men i see coming along.White knights and simps have risen over the years because of the institutional collapse of marriage/societal pressure and the rise of feminism.It’s white knight like you who give women the illusion that they have sexual power over men.

    WHITE KNIGHT PARADOX-You think you are making women feel good by empowering them,you’ll be adored? Beta males are insecure always looking for women validations.Men think,it’s cool,fashionable and progressive now to be gynocentric.So Sad!Modernization and egalitarianism is increasing because of beta males like you.No real man will ever allow his wife to earn more him or be a bread winner in the family because our culture expects men to be in control.

    Ambitious women are uncontrollable,over restless,impatient,manipulative,abrasive, and dominating.A man want to feel needed and in charge.Women are teaching their daughters equality and we men should be teaching our boys how to be a real strong alpha men.The fight for gender equality will go on until women respect our patriarchal societal right,the way our society is designed,our African tradition.I don’t care if y’all vilify me or not.Call me a troll or misogynistic i could care less.I will continue to wake up/uplift beta males.

    .Mr man i’m totally in disagreement with you on this “Mangina” poor written article.

    • Jide

      March 14, 2017 at 1:07 pm

      Shut up.

    • gaga

      March 14, 2017 at 1:36 pm

      Still waiting for the day you will have Sense.

    • Ferdinand

      March 14, 2017 at 1:38 pm

      @Chief: You are the blind person here. Apparently you didn’t read what Otto wrote. And u are attacking. Lol.

      Because of all you have said that’s why the boy child is growing up to abuse women. Why do u feel being an alpha male means dominating the women. Why would u say a real man wouldn’t allow his wife to earn more. What is wrong with that.
      Go and read more and disabuse your mind. Train your male child to be respectful, loyal and to be a better father.
      Cos of men like you, that’s why the fight for equality is growing.

    • Emilia

      March 14, 2017 at 1:55 pm

      Mr Chief. Lol
      Pls read what you wrote again. Its because of your narrative that most boys are becoming weaker and wouldn’t take responsibility for their families. Why do u expect the boy to be naturally strong when you don’t build or groom them early. I think men like you are the problem. Sometimes you don’t have to respond to articles if u don’t understand the message.
      Thanks for this @Otto.

    • gia

      March 14, 2017 at 3:03 pm

      *shakes her head*

      You’re so dumb you defy the laws of intelligence,chief!
      Who raised this man?

  9. Tessy

    March 14, 2017 at 12:14 pm

    Hmmm so much crush for you Otto. So much a wisdom, charisma, leadership and handsomeness. God bless your girlfriend to help u become a great leader in this nation. I cant wait to see ha.. ????

  10. Chi

    March 14, 2017 at 12:39 pm

    Thank you so much for this write up. It is high time parents put a lot more focus on the boy child and build him up to become a decent and responsible individual. Otto, well done!!

    Some boys are just left to figure it all out. They need proper guidance…Dads and Mums…please let us do a lot more for our boys.

  11. Weezy

    March 14, 2017 at 12:46 pm

    What is #equitynotequality?

    What kind of game is this one trying to play?

  12. Bowl

    March 14, 2017 at 12:56 pm

    Very apt for these times. As a matter of urgency ,the male child should be empowered.Well raised male humans have gone to extinction!

  13. speaking Ara

    March 14, 2017 at 1:30 pm

    Errr, but I don’t think women are naturally wives o. It’s not innate, we were taught. It’s like saying cooking and home making are inbred and natural. I think you are wrong there Otto.

  14. MsE

    March 14, 2017 at 1:32 pm

    Otto!!! Well done! This was a great article and my goal for my son. This is why I chose to exit an abusive marriage; I couldn’t mortgage my son’s future. I want him to be a man that God, Society and I can be proud of! I want him to be a man that is empathetic, kind, disciplined, respectful and God fearing. A man who knows the benefits of working hard for every penny he owns. A man can feel and give love. A man who values his children and understands his role in shaping them. A man that money doesn’t control but controls money. These will not be achieved if he grows up with a father that is the opposite of all these.

    Thank you Otto! Thank you Otto! Again and again!

  15. MiDe

    March 14, 2017 at 1:39 pm

    Spot on.

  16. Sandra bolanle

    March 14, 2017 at 1:41 pm

    Its sad cos after writing this beautiful article we’ll still find feminists that will argue that speaking up for the growth of the male child is pulling down the female child.

    We must not focus on a one sided approach. Empower the girl as you empower the boy. The future is threatened if we don’t do something.

    • anon

      March 14, 2017 at 4:17 pm

      tell us ONE feminist that has ever said that. Just one. is it not feminists that are always saying teach your son that it’s okay to cry, let him wear pink, teach him how to cook for himself and to NOT see abuse from the nanny as consensual sex? I was at conference where Angela Davis and Chimamanda spoke and they all spoke about how patriarchy affects men too. If you people don’t want to learn what feminism means, then leave it alone.

    • Tobz

      March 14, 2017 at 5:08 pm

      It is better to say you do not know what feminism is about. Stop propagating ignorance and educate yourself.

  17. me to you

    March 14, 2017 at 3:40 pm

    what are you ranting about?

  18. Sherri

    March 14, 2017 at 7:36 pm

    Well written!
    Intelligent and from good intentions. My only contention is the thought that females are born to be “good wives”

  19. Thecla

    March 14, 2017 at 9:47 pm

    Thank you sir for this

  20. Tatafo

    March 15, 2017 at 4:47 am

    BN please start moderating this Chief’s comments. People want to engage in sensible discourse

  21. Naija Patriachy

    March 15, 2017 at 6:27 am

    Well said, @Chief. I used to think manginas only existed in the west…. The consistent rise in the number of beta, pussy-whipped manginas in this part of the world is alarming.

    It has now reached the stage where a ‘man’ can go public with his d!ck-in-hand thoughts…just to earn pussy points.

  22. Idomagirl

    March 15, 2017 at 5:13 pm

    Well said!!!!
    I was watching clips from this Mentorship Camp that Steve Harvey and some others run for young black boys – such mentorship programs are desperately needed here.
    Awesome.

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