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Why do Nigerians Hide their Pregnancy? Twitter NG’s Hilarious Replies

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Twitter NG does not fail when it comes to epic replies!

So, yesterday, Media personality Bolanle Olukanni tweeted about her American friends putting up their due dates along with their pregnancy announcement, adding that are Nigerian friends do not.

As usual, Tweeps were ready and gave her reasons why that is not the case in Nigeria. See below:

 

34 Comments

  1. Rosey

    July 12, 2017 at 6:37 pm

    I’ll rather not even post at all…than be Trying hard to hide belle or posting throwbacks..

  2. Sharon

    July 12, 2017 at 6:49 pm

    Nigerians are very superstitious so no surprise here.

  3. Not Bitter Kola

    July 12, 2017 at 6:50 pm

    Bolinto, and I like you oh. It irks me when people say oh Nigerians this, Nigerians that. Our peculiarities make us who we are. Plus some other ethnicity do these things too. When people ask why pregnancy is shrouded in Nigeria, I tell them one of the main reason is the health care.child mortality rate The moment you carry belle, you will worry about reaching your EDD and you and your baby making it out alive. Imagine announcing your EDD and then you suddenly lose the baby cos you had to climb bike and then resulted in a miscarriage. What then happens? How do you deal with people who are expectant on your behalf whom you’ve taken the time to announce to. Do they not mention do they mention? Imagine having to deal with a loss and then having people be all up in your business. Let people be. Plus most of these things are not peculiar to us Nigerians. Shei you sef you be woman? When you carry belle, announce, be the change you wanna see.

    • Corolla

      July 12, 2017 at 10:14 pm

      Some of you lack logical reasoning skills and it is appalling. Where in her tweet did she say the American way is better than the Nigerian way? She simply made an observation, period!

  4. Kikelola

    July 12, 2017 at 7:15 pm

    Hiding all of the positive things in your life seems like a miserable way to live. All of the people talking about lizards and witches sound woefully ignorant.

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  5. Dr.N

    July 12, 2017 at 8:27 pm

    They even come to the hospital and refuse to tell the doctor how many months pregnant they are (while taking history)
    You have to put your fingers in their mouth to drag it out. Lol
    Not counting the ones who are not pregnant but come to tell u they are. Because…they wish they were

    • Mz Socially Awkward....

      July 12, 2017 at 9:28 pm

      Laughing my butt cheeks off….. What manner of advanced paranoia is that, biko? ??

      Are they guarding the detailed info, “should in case” the doctor is doing the consultation on behalf of their village peepu? ??

  6. Ottawa Queen

    July 12, 2017 at 8:51 pm

    Some things are better left unsaid. . .and considered as private. Well, for only those who understand the term ‘privacy’.

  7. Baby gurl

    July 12, 2017 at 9:08 pm

    Someone who was supposed to be my close friend. I heard she was very pregnant from one of our mutual friends. I was in London. They were in Lagos. First week of February I called her and congratulated her. I was so happy. She was the first out of all of us in our “squad” to get married and get preggers (obviously lol). So I asked her when the baby is due, this babe told me August. Do you know that three weeks later in that same February my dear friend gave birth to a bouncing baby girl. I was so shocked that I could not even call her. I was shocked that a supposed friend looked at me and my kind heart finish and thought she could lie to me. Even if I was a witch is it from London to Lagos that I would fly to? Our friendship has kind of gone flat since then. Just that little act made me think she does not know who I am. She took me for a bad belle I guess and I had been nothing but loving and generous to her. Always prayed with her when she was in pain or sadness. Her mother or some aunty probably told her “Don’t tell even your friends your due date o” LOL. But this superstition is baseless. If you are a firm child of God, I don’t think you should have anything to worry about. Just pray, eat right and chill and your mind will be set free. No wahala. No stress. No lying.

    • Mz Socially Awkward....

      July 12, 2017 at 9:35 pm

      That attitude drove a huge wedge in a friendship I had. Do your best to let her know so you don’t find yourself holding it against her (I’m speaking from where the hurt took me in my own experience) & so you can make your peace with the rift (if nothing positive comes from your convo) and move on.

      Hopefully, she’ll realise the wrong herself and take your feelings on board.

      Pele.

    • Simi

      July 12, 2017 at 10:49 pm

      Maybe she thought you meant when did you get pregnant. Lol. I tire

    • Cheers

      July 13, 2017 at 1:54 am

      A close friend of mine had a baby out of the blue and just called me ……surprise!!!! I had a baby … still hurting and don’t know how to take it. We live in different states but talk at least twice a week so I was gobsmacked. If I didn’t eat her first two kids I wonder why this one was special… mschewww. I have decided to face my family and not share things with her like I did in the past.

    • Jada

      July 13, 2017 at 4:25 am

      My cousin did the same o, a close one too. Person wey me and am dey pray and fast together, gist and gist. Different countries.As in we spoke a few weeks before delivery, and I didn’t know she was pregnant! I found out like 2 weeks after she gave birth! I was so shook! Sigh like even if she had told me that last time we spoke, I would have vexed but been ok, but 2 weeks after??? Wow!

    • Dame

      July 13, 2017 at 9:11 am

      My own cousin lol is doing the same thing…i told her since its too much of a biggie to have called me wen she took in and its still a biggie to tell me when the baby is coming…to even do baby shower for her she said no need…toh we shall skype when the baby comes then…m trying not to be upset.
      Maybe am a bit upset cos i basically carried her wedding like a paid job, planned it and all…down to honeymoon was so shocked she was hiding her pregnancy from all of us…its well.

    • Newbae

      July 13, 2017 at 10:35 am

      It’s really crazy. I think it’s a lack of faith that makes people act this way. Have faith in your maker!!!! And know that everything will be okay, backed by prayers as well. It’s sad that happened, I’ll probably stop being friends with that person as well.

    • Queen O

      July 13, 2017 at 11:19 am

      Just last week my bestie told me “be prepared, your godson/daughter is arriving in December “. She knows I’ll be happy for her. I told told her when I got pregnant too and she was happy for me. That’s how it should be between friends.

    • Diamond

      July 13, 2017 at 1:55 pm

      All of you are vexing and probably minding your businesses, meanwhile, your friend is reading her own meaning into your attitude that you are an enemy, and would probably have killed her and/or her baby.

      You better shake off your vex, and extend back to her the form of friendship she served you.

    • D

      July 13, 2017 at 6:25 pm

      Pele dear, my friend did the same to me she told me she was trying to conceive so I joined and in prayer and faith feeling like a good friend only for her to put to bed some 3 -4months later.she still didn’t tell me until some else told me. Not surprised she has always been paranoid so that ends our little friendship. If you feel you still want to be friends with her then talk about it, if not please move on, enjoy life and erase all the memories of the unproductive friendship.
      I shared my pregnancy journey with my best friend and colleague at work like they all knew my when I would put to bed .am glad I still have friends who are that Open and not secretive about everything.

  8. Simi

    July 12, 2017 at 10:50 pm

    I don’t even vex. Something that my own family member did to me

  9. Meka Ugo

    July 12, 2017 at 11:03 pm

    That’s how one of my coursemate during uni was pregnant and nobody knew. I was shocked when I saw her on my birthday morning. She came to my house to deliver my birthday cake, cos I contacted her to do so. But I knew something was not right before then because all of a sudden she stopped changing her Bbm display picture.

  10. jane

    July 13, 2017 at 5:02 am

    Honestly,i think this pregnancy thing is a personal thing. Noone needs to know when you are giving birth or when your due date is. I would rather keep it to myself but I wont go and start lying about due date. I would only tell a really good friend. Otherwise, you find out when the baby is born.
    I get where Bovi is coming from. However pregnancy is personal. Do it how it makes you happy. It If you are a public person,go ahead and announce but dont be surprised when people want to give their opinions or interview you for your own pregnancy.

    • Ajiun

      July 13, 2017 at 6:41 am

      Bovi isn’t talking about privacy tho. He is talking about superstitions. I had always laugh at Nigerians who are always going on and on about how people should live a secretive life. Like wth. If this people want to get you, they will. Only God and your good spirit can save you. Isn’t it on the same day Koledowo’s 8 kids died. None of them was a baby or toddler.

      Weren’t the witches aware that Koledowo’s wife was pregnant. They were. His mum who is part of the witches was also aware. They didn’t kill the kids then, in pregnancy. They killed them after Koledowo had paraded them from house to house to show them off deliberately. He even hired a drummer/s to follow him from house to house. Waking people up, knocking their doors.

      I have always asked so if you hide your pregnancy because of the village people, after the baby is born, does that mean the baby is now immune to their evil eyes, thoughts and actions. Will you forever hide the child. SMH.

      Basically, life is about getting “the balance” right. Too much of anything is bad. Secretive is bad. Too open is bad. Privacy is good. And if you are an extrovert, sure share but have a limit and find balance.

      I personally won’t announce to the world my EDD. I won’t discuss my pregnancy with anyone I don’t consider close or someone I feel comfortable with. It’s just that Nigerians are very nosy. Most people in the western world won’t ask you about your EDD. Only few overzealous people/new mother/equally pregnant lady might. And if you become withdrawn, the person will take a cue and stop prying. But Nigerians, arrrgh. They don’t understand boundaries. And can be very insensitive. Me I will just calmly tell them it is personal for me and I rather not talk about it. C’est fini.

  11. Nicki

    July 13, 2017 at 7:34 am

    This isn’t with just pregnancy, some Nigerians do it with everything- travelling, job, boyfriend everything they belive even people will envy them for.
    It disgusts me. I have always had friends whom i share details of my life with cos it’s cool when true friends support you.

    Until I became friends with this one girl who hides every single detail of her life. Yikes! Supposedly my best friend at d time o. I had no idea when she Met her now ex boyfriend and started dating him. All of a sudden she calls and says I want u to meet the guy I’m dating (wth) like we see every week o. I was shocked but I forgave.

    Months later she calls me and says I’m travelling with said bobo. Like 1 day notice to said trip she planned . No heads up. Again I forgave.

    New job nko, na when she dey go sign offer letter she tell me. Abi she don even sign finish na to resign from current place of employment remain.
    But if it’s my case, she won’t mind her business and want to know everything detail of the guy or job and want to give advice join. Lmao

    Abeg, I can’t be friends with someone I can’t share a journey with. Why must I share only the good times with 1close friends? ??

    So what you lose the pregnancy, let’s mourn with you so when you eventually have a baby and they see us scattering the floor during thanksgiving, it’s because we know what you have been through and are grateful. Hiding meaningful events doesn’t guarantee success.

    You hide bobo from friends and tomorrow dude is cheating on you, who knows if you have told us before u said yes, I would have told u i know d guy and he is currently chasing my other friend all over social media. But I can’t say anything cod U said yes already and I’ll look like a hater.

    If you don’t trust your friends or close family enought to share a journey with them, don’t hurt them by pretending you are good friends with them. Keep them at hands length so they don’t go fooling themselves on your behalf.

  12. Nicki

    July 13, 2017 at 7:36 am

    Abi arms length. Excuse my typos

  13. anne

    July 13, 2017 at 8:24 am

    I usually don’t comment on dese things buh people truth b told we living in a spiritual wrld..my first pregnancy xperience is nt one I wish for my enemies to even xperience,If I strt tlkn abt it u guys wud read all day buh in all in 4mnths I took noth less than 480drips,240 injections,cnt even place count on d drugs I took,………inbetween diff prophecies came,hubby’s freind’s advised we take out d baby n d doctrs were lyk we nt treating u for anithn o we just mkn sure u sty alive…..all dese stoped d mornin I told my husband to process my discharge n take me to chrch, I laid on d alter n wept……n dt ws d dy all things went to normal…..so aftr dis did I avoid some frnd?YES I DID.som family membrs too…..pregnacy no b wetin dem dey announce wen e big,e go show,wen u born pipo go knw buh if u feel ur pregancy xperice won’t b perfect until u bare it all…..well by all means do so….diffrnt strokes for diff folks.

  14. The real dee

    July 13, 2017 at 9:22 am

    The devil thrives on our ignorance, he wants people to think there are no evil powers, there’s nothing like spiritual world, there are no witches or wizards and these are all superstitions a person with intellect shouldn’t believe.

    If I start writing stories here about spiritual encounters, both personal and from people I know, i’ll take up all the space on this post.

    I used to be like some people, I didn’t even believe in the existence of witches until i saw with my eyes and experienced with my life. But, I am joyful and confident in the fact that God is all powerful and even the devil cannot withstand the power of God. As a child of God, I have also been given that power and can tread upon all such evil powers. Even the Bible lets us understand , we are wrestling in this world, although, not against human beings but spiritual wickedness.

    I am not discreet by nature, but I had to learn to keep my good news/plans to myself and within my loving and ‘spirit tested’ circle. Yes, I test people’s spirit before/after I draw close, it’s called the gift/spirit of discernment. Guys, this life is too deep, I can’t even start typing, i’ll talk too much. Unfortunately, i’ve been at the receiving end of the wickedness of some evil people in this world and I’ve learnt too much that sometimes i wish rapture will just happen.
    My people, there is acute wickedness in this world. It is only God that protects o, and prayer & holiness are the secret to that protection. The benefit of being discreet is that these evil people work with information, they are not omniscient like God so it’s what they know about you they work with. The less they know, the less powerful they become.

    Lets talk about EDD for example, I know someone whose mother in law stood against her day of delivery because she wasn’t happy her son married her. The woman made it clear to her son that she will not deliver that baby on the day of her delivery. And truly, on the day of delivery o, the baby refused to come out. This was a very long time ago when medicine wasn’t so advanced and CS was extremely risky. The doctor who was occultic himself, had to go home and consult his evil powers and immediately he returned, baby came out. I believe if they understood the power of God , they would have been able to overrule that evil pronouncement with prayers but they didn’t know better.

    So many other stories but no time to type jare.
    And evil powers are not peculiar to Nigeria only o, they are all over the world. If you have time, listen to Derek Prince’s sermons on YouTube, oyinbo people sef get their own.

    • Jade

      July 13, 2017 at 10:00 am

      Just to better understand the story o, how did you guys find out the doctor used his own occultic powers to unlock the baby? where were the girl’s parents (read mom)? arent they usually somewhere cabashing?

  15. Kolibiri

    July 13, 2017 at 10:37 am

    You all forgetting we now have baby factories. Not that I am saying anything oh

  16. Uduak

    July 13, 2017 at 10:51 am

    A lot of responses show that where you grow up and the lineage you come from play a part in our tomorrow. Yes people will say it is ignorant to speak of witches and wizards and even join reptiles to the matter, However we must all know that things of the spirit hold water (have great contribution) and therefore affects things in our physical state (which is another part of our being).

    Even if your friends and family have your best interest at heart, spirits (good and evil) roam around all of us, waiting for our tongues (through speech) or our sharing of information (through typing with our fingers). Whichever of the spirits that we are closely linked to at that time will determine some of our future outcomes.

    Basically be a true believer and believe in what you doing, that way, your conviction helps the spiritual and physical.

  17. oloye1

    July 13, 2017 at 12:02 pm

    @ ajiun…wot are you saying..you’re contradicting yourself..wasn’t koledowo the architect of his calamity after inviting witches into his affairs stupidly…you know the reason ajiun unless you are just being hypocritical… when you announce any joyful happenstance some evil people may feel not good about it….so it is better kept private and besides who are you to criticise people what they choose doing with their pregs..however you like but someone shouldn’t come here and start fussing why some choose to keep their pregs private

  18. udntwannaknw

    July 13, 2017 at 12:05 pm

    This happened to a sis I know in d neighborhood!!!She didn’t tell even her hubby her EDD n caused her to lose her child because according to the husband family they av a ritual dat is supposed to be performed at 5mth and she claimed she was 2month wen she was already in her 5th month basically almost nearing her Due date!!!!Its shitty tho n just because of our cultures n village people it’s okay not to post ur due date but to people VERY Close to u or Hubby??? That is Crazy!!!!

  19. My Own

    July 13, 2017 at 4:22 pm

    The reason why some of you are vexing/ disappointed that your friends and family did not tell you is because you think you are in a level or relationship that is clearly not mutual. I have friends who were besties from high school, when we graduated and i left the country,we lost touch and some started feeling/talking sour behind me of course. I mean, they said terrible things (with evidence). We have made up now, its not always about witch this or that, sometimes its just privacy, spirits. you never really know. When I found out one was pregnant and almost due, I was very happy for her. Why would I be upset? She chose to keep that part private and thats what she desires. Its not all about you, respect people’s boundaries. Sometimes you might not have bad intentions, but might slip it out to someone who has. Why should they risk trouble. Why take a chance. Its their own, After all in the end, if something happens the most you’ll say is SORRY, then go back to your life. let them do as they want. When you too carry belle, do as you want, No one owes you nothing. We need to get over this OFFENCE thing that the devil uses to trap our minds. Rejoice with those who rejoice.

  20. Bea

    July 13, 2017 at 8:01 pm

    @Bolanle: You can go ahead and announce to the whole world when you get pregnant and state the EDD. By the time some wicked monitoring spirits intervene, you go know wassup.
    Do you know the trauma of suffering a/several miscarriage(s) and evacuating the child?
    Who announcing to friends epp?
    The heart of men is desperately evil.
    Be wise……..

  21. El

    July 14, 2017 at 8:33 pm

    I believe generally, it’s an African thing/ attitude, especially those of us from West Africa. Because of where we come from, what we’ve seen, heard and life experiences we tend to take spiritual things/ spiritual warfare very Seriously and as a result do our best to protect the little unborn child. I had a few close friends do that to me. One from Zimbabwe only called to tell me after she had a baby and I in turn did the same thing to her.
    Another one from Ghana did it to me 3times, the 1st time, though happy for her. I let her Know how disappointed I was she kept it a secret. She apologized and we got on well. When I was pregnant, she was always bothering me, …are you expecting, are you expecting…? Until I could not hide it anymore. Then she had a second, and a third and on all occasions only called to tell me after the birth though we talked on the phone often during her pregnancies. I was so shocked, my hubby even said ……ehhh and u call that one a friend. I tried to cut contact and distanced myself from her only for her to be calling me more often than before. Yeah I understand, you can’t trust everyone but then why call someone a friend and still not be able to trust them. If I can’t trust you, then I can’t call you my friend. As simple as that.

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