Shade shared a photo of her fiancé and in the caption she spoke about how she was advised to settle for less and dim her shine as well as her success in order to find a husband.
She advised that people shouldn’t give anybody the power to set the benchmark for success or define the standards, prompting that we should learn to put ourselves first while other things are secondary.
See her post below:
It’s amazing how the world wants to tell you what you do or don’t deserve Ha Shade you’re already 35, just manage a divorcee or maybe an older guy or maybe someone with kids …. All these young guys don’t like strong women like you Ha Shade you’re driving brand new car, you will chase young guys away Ha Shade you’re living in a Penthouse Apartment, they will think you’re an Aristo babe Ha Shade you’re too out there on social media, they will think you are too loose Sigh What the world thinks you deserve …. What the world wants you to have …. It’s all a reflection of what their minds are limited to No matter your age, please don’t let anyone define what your life should or should not look like You decide that shit Take away the power you have given to anyone around you to determine what Success looks like Define your standards Write them down Keep yourself busy Work on building yourself Don’t ever settle for less YOU are Plan A and everything else is Plan B YOUR happiness is everything Everything you want is dependent on YOU #RantOver #HelloHusband #NotADivorcee #NotAMarriedMan #NotABabyDaddy #NotOnSocialMedia #NotEvenOlderThanMe #Blessed #MyOwnWakandaWarrior #SexyBlackChocolateMan #shadeladipo