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Obasanjo’s Son Olujonwo seeks dissolution of One-Year Marriage over allegations of Wife’s Assaults as Court Documents Surface



Court documents have surfaced online revealing the troubles in the one-year old marriage of former President Olusegun Obasanjo‘s son Olujonwo and his wife Tope, the daughter of Premier Lotto founder Kessington Adebutu.

The documents reveal that shortly after the wedding ceremony, Olujunwo has allegedly suffered from physical assaults by his wife as well as threats to his wife.

Last year, Olujonwo’s mother Taiwo Obasanjo had repeatedly spoken out against the wedding with efforts made to postpone the wedding ceremony. Click here if you missed it.
She had described the marriage as “devilish” and also made allegations of attempted assassination. Click here if you missed it.
The attempts at a postponement, however, came to an abrupt end in April 2018, one month before the wedding ceremony was held. Click here if you missed it.

In the court documents that surfaced online, Olujonwo alleges that he has had to leave his matrimonial home as he feared for his life. He’s calling on the court to intervene and help prevent further attacks.

See the alleged documents below.


We hope the couple is able to resolve the issues amicably.


Editor’s Note: This post has been updated following release of Tope counter-affidavit and rebuttal of the allegations contained herein. See Tope’s rebuttal HERE.

Photo Credit: Ovation


  1. Mrs Pangolo

    June 22, 2018 at 1:18 am

    BN, please have some professional courtesy and blur out the people’s personal email and home addresses.

    This is trouble in paradise but we don’t need to gloat over it. Sounds like a case of mental illness. Bipolar or schizophrenic disorder. Mental health is real, so not a laughing matter at all. The guy must’ve really feared for his life. The situation sounded so unpredictable. My people take care of your mental health!

  2. slice

    June 22, 2018 at 1:19 am

    juwon you are a horrible man to post her messages to the court. she is your wife so of course she agreed to your divorce and then also asked for your forgiveness. she stopped taking her meds because she thought they would harm a baby or prevent pregnancy. all the ignorant people around this woman and none of the fools can get her proper medical care. bunch of …..

    • Toke

      June 22, 2018 at 1:50 am

      You’re quite right, he’s evil and I pray the Almighty repays her for all that she has lost.

    • Adetiba

      June 22, 2018 at 3:30 am

      Its the other way around. This woman is horrible. If it was a woman being abused, the post will be curses on the man. No man, human being deserves any form of abuse. I don’t care if shes mentally ill, she knows what she’s doing. This a marriage from hell from day one. Olajuwon suffered physical, emotional and verbal abuse. He’s free at last.

    • slice

      June 22, 2018 at 10:37 am

      You are conflating issues. I’d never cuss a person who’s acting outside of their control. That’s just inhumane. Man or woman, no one should humiliate the othe unnecessarily. He doesn’t have to stay married. We are not saying he should. He is clearly not a prize and neither is his mother who is is so bent on being right, she didn’t look for help for her Dil instead she ran to news outlets to share all their problems. Two, if youare married to someone who doesn’t hit you and they start taking a medication and you know they are changing because. of it, sorry but that’s not criminal dv. Intent is a big part of criminality. There’s no intent

    • Anon

      June 22, 2018 at 11:12 am

      @slice, nobody need be a “prize” to deserve protection.

    • Tony

      June 23, 2018 at 6:51 am

      If u don’t wear a shoe u won’t know where it hurts. Whatever health condition the lady has the guy doesn’t deserve to be victim. U can’t come home daily to someone who hired a knife to kill u. Drop the political correctness and the attitude of always blaming guys. What’s baffling is such behaviors should have been sired during courtship if she is truly bipolar or schizophrenic. Be that as it may living is important. Marriage isn’t by force.

    • randommer

      June 23, 2018 at 12:36 pm

      She was taking her meds while they were courting. She should not have gone off her medications without telling her doctor even if she was trying to have a baby. She made a big mistake in thinking that marriage would fix her chemical imbalances. While her husband is free to annul the marriage on basis of fraud, it is extremely poor of him that he cannot support her to get the help she needs. This is a woman who loves her husband the best way she knows how.

    • Youda

      June 24, 2018 at 7:45 am

      All of you are mad. This woman is CRAZY. I heard about her violence many times so what are you saying? Jonwo never sent BN these documents. If you know anything about divorce then you’ll understand that he’s required to show such proof to the court when seeking a decree of dissolution. If it was him bartering her now no one would be worrying about his mental state. Kmft

    • star

      June 22, 2018 at 4:07 am

      Ohhh jesus, firstly why didn’t she tell him she was bipolar (could be obviously and not depression) but rather she and her family hid such an important info from this young man. All you’re saying SLICE is gibberish, i already feel the fear just hearing this not to mention how this man has constantly being attacked,lost his sleep, peace of mind and this obviously will affect his ability to be useful in life during this period and you’re talking about that woman? Hmmthats soo unfair to say. This man is at the verge of loosing his life and this is all you say? This is for those who think hospitals have cure for DEPRESSION keep taking drugs and counsel ehh hmmm until you realise you have utterly gone insane. Try Gods word its the best medicine ever.

    • slice

      June 22, 2018 at 10:42 am

      Let’s not diagnose a person with bipolar

    • connie

      June 22, 2018 at 6:13 am

      Slice abeg make we hear word.
      Did u read the entire documents or just the emails. This man has been receiveing pushes on his head and threats to his life. His wife actually hid a knife on the side of her bed, he found it and kept it. she woke up in the middle of the night asking for the knife and he denied the were abouts of the knife she decided to push him again.
      Now tell us if this was your brother or your son it was happening to, wouldnt you tell him to gather every single information to support his annulment.
      or would you prefer he dies so that you can come and write “so sad, RIP”.
      People suffer from depression and bipolar all the time, but no one should suffer or die in their hand because they werent taking care of themselve, even is she was trying to conceive.

      Depression is not an excuse to become violent or abusive. The marriage is a lie and he deserves to get out why he is still alive.

    • connie

      June 22, 2018 at 6:17 am

      Punch not push*** on his head

    • Bridget

      June 22, 2018 at 8:27 pm

      This Juwon is a yoruba demon. How evil of u to share her private mail. Nobody is perfect and mental illness is not contagious but its an illness that requires love and care. Both of which u lack.

  3. Dayo

    June 22, 2018 at 2:38 am

    @Slice and Toke, if he is so “evil” she should be rejoicing, so why the aggro?! Meanwhile, the email messages are part of the official divorce proceedings and thus have become public docs (unless specifically sealed by the court, which if the wife sought her lawyer should have petitioned the court to do so – and even then the court is not bound to do so). Anyway, if the script was flipped and this was an abusive husband, doubtful that your concern would be email messages.

    • slice

      June 22, 2018 at 3:06 am

      It’s not abuse if you know your partner is acting differently all of a sudden due to medication or lack thereof. Yes, don’t stay in the same house if you’re afraid but definitely get her care. And surely don’t come to court talking like you don’t know what’s wrong. He didn’t need to say she begged and promised to submit and be obedient. That’s just trying to humiliate aperson. You don’t need to say that to make any case in court. We all know court filings are public documents with some exceptions so he knew people would see the email

    • 9ja

      June 22, 2018 at 3:28 am

      @Slice, having read the emails I agree that they do not necessarily add anything to his allegations of “abuses” (Dayo).

    • dj

      June 22, 2018 at 9:48 am

      I strongly disagree with you. Those mails are evidence that she is exhibiting two different behavioural traits. Even the smallest of evidence actually does count in court is it butresses your point.

    • Emyy

      June 22, 2018 at 3:46 am

      Pls read what you just wrote,it’s not abuse ?-really ,pls define the word abuse.,Slice take a nap .

    • slice

      June 22, 2018 at 10:39 am

      “Physical abuse is any intentional act causing injury or trauma to another person or animal by way of bodily contact.”

  4. Lilo

    June 22, 2018 at 2:44 am

    Olorun o. So was his mother not crazy the entire time or the craze has catch the son? Smh. These Obasanjo family tho. Adebutu must be fuming. Lol

  5. Emyyy

    June 22, 2018 at 2:58 am

    Why are women so quick to tear down a man ,when he complains of dv, if the case was the other way around I’m not sure Slice and toke would write what the wrote up there..

  6. 9ja

    June 22, 2018 at 3:23 am

    While sympathetic and sensitive to mental health issues, it is best they go their own separate ways and she can try to sort herself out. We do not want to wait until it becomes like the 47-year-old female lawyer who recently stabbed her husband to death in Lagos. Nonetheless, the emails here lend virtually nothing to the dude”s allegation of “abuses”.

  7. Bia (The real Bia)

    June 22, 2018 at 3:24 am

    But, his mother said there was problem and he denied. The mother raised alarm before the wedding everyone said she was mad. Otan abi otan?

    • Baymax

      June 22, 2018 at 9:30 am

      The mother said they should postpone the wedding. Maybe if they had done so, he might have seen the signs

    • slice

      June 22, 2018 at 10:30 am

      It’s a lie. She was against the wedding date period. She said a prophet said to pick another date

  8. ProudNigerian

    June 22, 2018 at 3:28 am

    OmG some women have gone mad. how can you abuse Juwon? If it were the woman asking for a divorce you guys would cheer her on! So he should die in the marriage. I pray she gets help but I don’t blame the man for opting out. Ask yourself this question if I were in that situation what will I do? Do you know what he has endured?

  9. menninst

    June 22, 2018 at 3:35 am

    Nawa o, See hypocrisy, when tiwa and tbalogun were going through issues over his mental illness-bipolar habits, you women were saying she should leave him. Now you all are taken back by husband initiating divorce over abusive wife who may have mental issues. It’s, 2018 if men no longer want to be married , the answer is simple divorce. If my girl even talks to me crazy, I’ll drop her so fast, I don’t care how rich her father is. It’s not by force to stay married. He did the right thing, by moving on, some other men will stay in an unhappy marriage.


    June 22, 2018 at 4:48 am

    THIS IS GOOD NEWS TO THE EARS OF @CHIDUKANE AND FRIENDS! Lap it all up, this is what you people prefer to read. On lola and peter’s Range Rover post I TOTALLY FORGOT I WAS IN THE MIDST OF NIGERIANS WHO REALLY DON’T LIKE TO REJOICE WITH PEOPLE!

    • iHeart

      June 22, 2018 at 7:07 am

      This is really not necessary madam. Just try and see what Chidukane said objectively. It pained you so much, you brought the matter to another post after w full 24 hours. As you are entitled to you are opinion others are entitled to theirs. In the words of Elsa – Let it gooooooooooooo

      It’s been know that a lot of people pretend that all is well when they are being abused, bruised and battered just to cover up – case in point Mr X & Tonto Dike.


    June 22, 2018 at 5:04 am

    Meanwhile, juwon is such an asshole, why release such emails for public viewing. OMG ??

    • Lliki

      June 22, 2018 at 9:10 am

      You are the asshole. I did the same thing to my ex husband. I released all the information I had against him to the court.

      Juwon did nothing wrong here. His safety is paramount.

  12. JaySol

    June 22, 2018 at 5:15 am

    We need to learn the act of loving people, being less selfish and not being too hasty. I sometimes think the Whites love better.
    A year is too short to end the marriage. The guy needs counselling but I guess the father figures he has aren’t worthy to counsel him being polygamists .

    I pray healing for both of them.

    We need to learn to live in peace. It takes time to adjust as living together as a couple.

    • Ovadje

      June 22, 2018 at 10:40 am

      @JaySol, abegi don’t make me laff. You start with the frankly low-esteemed premise that “whites love better” and end with the ironic conclusion that he should have remained in the marriage longer than the year he had in spite of the seeming danger to his health and life. Bros, abegi do not continue getting your idea of white folk from romance novels and Netflix. They do not have this extended familial relationship concept of marriage that most Africans have and will therefore often bolt out of there at the first sign of wahala. As if!

  13. Random

    June 22, 2018 at 5:55 am

    He is not a honorable guy at all for exposing such private exchanges. I hope this won’t add to her mental health issues. There are ways to resolve or dissolve a marriage without humiliating the other party even if they are wrong.

  14. TheRealist

    June 22, 2018 at 6:04 am

    Mummy, there’s nowhere it said that Juwon “released” the emails for “public viewing”! Haba!! As someone else said above, reality is that the emails became public record as part of supporting documents in a divorce action in a public court of law. However, I would not be surprised if it turns out that his mother (who seems so ‘invested’ against the relationship and marriage) leaked same or drew the media’s attention to it. That’s just the sort of mean underhanded things some Naija mothers-in-law are well renowned for.

  15. TheRealist

    June 22, 2018 at 6:19 am

    PS: Respectfully disagree with 9ja and those who seem to argue that the emails add nothing to the divorce petition. The emails are provided to the fact-finder (the judge) as evidence of her range of emotions (allegedly swinging widely between professing love and/or forgiveness to seeking/accepting divorce) in support of paragraph 16 of the petition. It’s a shame that such personal missives have to become part of public record, but that is the “price” that we have accepted in our desire for a public and transparent judicial process.

    • slice

      June 22, 2018 at 10:50 am

      They don’t add. Abuse allegation is enough. Your spouse begging you to come back after agreeing to divorce is perfectly normal behavior. Heck even girlfriends beg men.

      But perhaps the other issue here and one that has troubled me for a while, is the apparently need in Nigerian divorce to give a reason for divorce. Most modern civilizations have moved away from this because of exactly this type of situation. We read igando court cases where spouse accuses the other of adultery, impotency, etc. It’s really is time to move to “no fault” divorce ie say you want a divorce and keep the reasons to yourself . A court really shouldn’t be in the business of hearing and airing marital squabbles. I dare say our system does more harm than good to marriages. In a bid to make divorce hard, we make reconciliation almost impossible. Who can get back together after all this humiliation

    • TheRealist

      June 22, 2018 at 11:06 am

      Slice, I completely agree on no-fault divorce, but until we get there you cannot castigate the dude for doing what is legally necessary and/or required.

    • slice

      June 22, 2018 at 12:55 pm

      I agree with you on that too

  16. Ify

    June 22, 2018 at 7:08 am

    My own concern is that such an emotionally unstable woman is a senior law officer cum Magistrate albeit by virtue of her father’s connections and most probably not because of high performance .So the one sef will have a say in judicial matters that concern others with genuine legal issues? Same way all the “Transmission” illiterates end up with the topmost postions in the silly country

    • dj

      June 22, 2018 at 9:58 am

      You honestly aired my concerns, how can she be a magistrate with an unstable mind? This country sha

    • Curious

      June 22, 2018 at 12:41 pm

      It’s possible she could be an extremely intelligent person. I have seen people like that before. I had a lecturer who had to take a break for one year…and returned when “,they said he was well”. I also know of an extended family member who use to go in and out of madness… Each time he recovers he returns to the insanely intelligent child he was in university. His own case was due to drug abuse…he stays well for like two or three months…then falls into temptation and smokes again…and madness resumes!!! He too was married once…but he lost it again somewhere along the line when his new born baby died. And that was the end of the marriage (it’s a long story). The wife tried and till date (years later…) We are still on friendly terms and see her as family, even though she has moved on.

    • Curious

      June 22, 2018 at 11:48 am

      It’s possible she could be an extremely intelligent person. I have seen people like that before. I had a lecturer who had to take a break for one year…and returned when “,they said he was well”. I also know of an extended family member who use to go in and out of madness… Each time he recovers he returns to the insanely intelligent child he was in university. His own case was due to drug abuse…he stays well for like two or three months…then falls into temptation and smokes again…and madness resumes!!! He too was married once…but he lost it again somewhere along the line when his new born baby died. And that was the end of the marriage (it’s a long story). The wife tried and till date (years later…) We are still on friendly terms and see her as family, even though she has moved on.

    • Dee

      June 28, 2018 at 9:15 am

      She’s actually quite intelligent. The mental health part, I don’t know

  17. Guest

    June 22, 2018 at 7:52 am

    Slice,Toke,Random and the likes your reading and comprehension skills are very very sub par. It clearly says he found out she was on anti-depressants AFTER the wedding. Meaning she did NOT reveal she has a mental condition to him before the wedding.

    Dirty linen is always aired in divorce proceedings because the court needs all the details,including the embarrassing ones. Court proceedings are public records and anybody can access and in this case someone clearly accessed the documents. So did you want him to not go to court for the divorce to avoid embarrassing her and risk his life??

  18. Anonymous

    June 22, 2018 at 8:05 am

    Nigerians are the worst hypocrites on planet earth and very judgemental not to mention the double standards. Oh…so it’s ok for the lady to withhold such vital info from her hubby, but it’s not ok for the guy to decide to walk out for his own safety after such deciet. The clowns calling him evil, I wish this same treatment for every man in your lives, then I’ll see if they will be called evil. Meanwhile the majority of you here abused the guys mum and called her crazy, for trying to protect her son….its just 1 year after and she’s been vindicated. Shame to all those who criticised her. Most of you here are even worse than the pple involved in this mess, you just hide behind keyboard and transfer your unwanted opinions and frustrations on pple.

    • slice

      June 22, 2018 at 10:59 am

      I followed this case. Mom never said don’t marry. She said prophet said pick a different date. And you are wrong because many people thought the request was oddd but also wondered why they didn’t just pick another for her sake….that is until she took the issue to court. Then she seemed crazy

      Two, divorce if you must. Just don’t act like you don’t know your spouse is sick. Mental illness is illness. If he was leaving cause of physical illness, it’d be clear he’s abandoning a sick wife. What ididnt read here was any attempt to help is wife…that is if she was infavt doing all he says.

    • Elle

      June 22, 2018 at 11:40 am

      **what i didn’t read here is any attempt to help his wife*
      Until he is stabbed to death in the still of the night, kwa?

      As others have rightly pointed out, if this was a husband showing this level of aggression and violence, would you suggest the wife wait to “help the husband”? The double standards is IRRITATING!! Anyway, continue with your online virtual defense, na you sabi, others are entitled to their opinions as well.

    • Sam

      June 25, 2018 at 11:22 am

      @Slice…..r u really that jobless that u have absolutely nothing to do other than staying in one corner monitoring a woman, his son and his abusive wife?

  19. LemmeRant

    June 22, 2018 at 9:24 am

    Don’t know why y’all are surprised that the women are talking gibberish (as usual) that is their way. It is always the guys fault.

    Even if he dies sef, they will still find a way to blame him.

  20. Puzzles

    June 22, 2018 at 9:25 am

    I am appalled by the hypocritical comments i am seeing. If Juwon was a woman, you all would have hailed her for coming out and doing the right thing. Nobody should be a victim of domestic abuse, whether male or female.

    I shudder to think of what John would say when he sees this article.

    PS: His mother wasn’t crazy after all

  21. Hmmm

    June 22, 2018 at 9:27 am

    I think OBJ and the lady’s father must have shaken hands over something. There’s no way he couldn’t have known.

  22. ifiii

    June 22, 2018 at 9:44 am

    BN decided to post this news today, if the news was about one celebrity, it wont be posted. Is this double standards?

    • Baymax

      June 22, 2018 at 9:55 am

      BN posts news about celebrities all the time. They may post late for some though or not post the drama of BN friends

  23. B

    June 22, 2018 at 9:55 am

    I see BN has taken down the Dangote post
    BN use this comment too to cook Eba ok
    That’s why we love Linda and Stella
    They are not pretending to be what they aren’t. You people cannot decide whether you’re a gossip blog, or a lifestyle blog or both. Be hot or be cold. You can’t be lukewarm!

    • Hmm

      June 22, 2018 at 11:38 am

      Oti o! They posted the Dangote story? How come i didn’t see it?

      Gist didn’t surprise me though. No be Nigerian men again. He clearly married Dangote’ daughter for the connection. And the new wife knows what’s up. I fear of the other woman’s life. They might even take her child from her.

    • Placebo

      June 22, 2018 at 12:40 pm

      LMAO BN doesn’t want this smoke! There’s levels to this ish. Even Stella Dimoko Korkus, who was the first person to report this gist around April/May has deleted it. You can’t find it on her blog. LOL you go fear Dangote!

    • Xo

      June 23, 2018 at 10:08 pm

      LOL. BN really need to rewrite their mission and vision statements . Clueless blog

  24. hgsf

    June 22, 2018 at 10:24 am

    For his sake he should leave her. I would if I was in his shoes (I am a woman), I mean sleeping with a knife? for me that is the end of the marriage. Better to be single and be alive

  25. Frida

    June 22, 2018 at 10:29 am

    This goes to show that 90% of the time, what a parent sees sitting down, a child can never see on top of the highest mountain.

    I remember when the groom’s mother was against this marriage, crying out for everyone to hear. We all thought she was crazy. Well, this is the end result.

    Any marriage built on deceit, is null and void. Jason has every right to decide whether he can cope with the mental health issues or not. Esp as he wasn’t informed prior to the marriage.

  26. Comment

    June 22, 2018 at 10:42 am

    There are always 2 sides to every story….even if she is crazy something would’ve aggravated those outbursts. Why would she hit him for fun?
    Either way he needs to leave if he feels unsafe and she needs to get help if indeed his side of the story is “entirely” true. Safety first.

    • Ovadje

      June 22, 2018 at 11:09 am

      @Comment, the very definition of being crazy is doing irrational things – such as hitting folks without provocation or reason.

  27. John

    June 22, 2018 at 11:13 am

    My brother…the hypocrisy is astonishing but not surprising. .I know them well

    Look at how they are supporting the evil woman and abuser.

    Everything is the man’s fault

    Tomorrow, they will be shouting that feminism is about equality bla bla bla

    Take them as the joke they are

    Anyway…kudus to the young man
    Nice decision or you would have ended up dead like that lagos lawyer that was stabbed to death by an evil woman.

    Men ..pls listen to your mothers or sisters especially when it comes to your wife or the woman you want to marry.

    If you like continue forming male feminist or modern or civilized man ( whatever the hell that means). Those woman do not care about you..The only female in this world that cares about you is your mother ( nobody else and that is even debatable)
    Your wife do not ..they will leave and drop you if they just become bored.

    Men take care of yourself …start saving and investing for yourself and yourself only ( especially towards your retirement ) or OYO will be your name.

    Write a will and put everything in your children name (do a DNA yest before that) and set a n age for it to be activated
    Dont leave anything to your wife.

    But if you like continue forming modern man and “The I love my wife” crew until it becomes to late with” had i known”.

    It is war
    Women are encouraged to have everything in their own name and not to trust their husband with any of their financials.

    So why trust your wife especially in this age of entitled lazy slayqueens.

    Alot of men I know are regretting it now

    And before any retard comes at me with that stupid robotic programmed quote “who hurt me “at me.

    Pls kindly stop at the middle of mainland bridge and jump into the lagoon.

  28. Elle

    June 22, 2018 at 11:15 am

    BN, you guys truly do not have s.e.n.s.e – so you left all the personal details including email addresses on full display??? No professionalism at all.

    I can also see you have deleted the Jamil Abubakar post, e be like say your heads don nack for ground I’m sorry to say. You will post and delete, chop comments, and you expect to have a thriving blog. As someone above said, choose your struggle ehn. mscheeeeew.

    • Lilo

      June 22, 2018 at 3:17 pm

      Cos you know Dangote can ban them from the online so yeah they had to shut that down. Awon were moderators Dede

  29. Curious

    June 22, 2018 at 11:29 am

    Why did they go ahead with the marriage in the first place, if they knew they had issues…was it just to prove his mum wrong?

    And secondly if the reason for the divorce is “mental health issues” then I don’t think he has handled this whole thing in the best way. The woman needs help and if you must divorce her, because you can no longer handle it…the least you can do is to ensure you go about the whole thing in a discrete manner, such that her self esteem is not affected in anyway.

    • Curious

      June 22, 2018 at 11:32 am

      And just so you know …I am a MAN and that’s my opinion. If you have been close to people who suffer from mental issues before… Then you really understand how helpless they are. One minute you have this loving person, the next you have something else you can’t recognize. It comes and goes..

    • slice

      June 22, 2018 at 12:58 pm

      I’m baffled at those that can’t see this.

    • Manny

      June 22, 2018 at 9:53 pm

      What do you mean by he should go about it in a discreet manner. Has he employed a town crier to broadcast the story? How do know the documents were not leaked by someone in the judiciary.
      And please stop with the double standards. If it was the other way around, wouldn’t you guys tell the woman to reveal all the things that have been happening to her?

    • Tony

      June 23, 2018 at 7:07 am

      Exactly. Lots of hypocrisy from some women. Every human deserves safety. Same people defending her actions and trying to push blames on the guy will act horrible in his shoes and if it’s their brother they will form a gang to go kick the lady out. Condemn violence regardless of gender.

    • didi

      June 24, 2018 at 10:19 pm

      Realy her self esteem ? I think she did more wrong by deceiving the man

  30. HYmm

    June 22, 2018 at 11:52 am

    Woow, you are just chatting rubbish. So he should die in the marriage, the guy even hid a knife the wife apparently kept under her pillow. He didn’t raise alarm, is that not a sign he was still giving his wife a chance and how do you know he didn’t sort help for her. You can still love someone from afar, They must not be married

  31. Curious

    June 22, 2018 at 12:32 pm

    It’s possible she could be an extremely intelligent person. I have seen people like that before. I had a lecturer who had to take a break for one year…and returned when “,they said he was well”. I also know of an extended family member who use to go in and out of madness… Each time he recovers he returns to the insanely intelligent child he was in university. His own case was due to drug abuse…he stays well for like two or three months…then falls into temptation and smokes again…and madness resumes!!! He too was married once…but he lost it again somewhere along the line when his new born baby died. And that was the end of the marriage (it’s a long story). The wife tried and till date (years later…) We are still on friendly terms and see her as family, even though she has moved on.

  32. omomo

    June 22, 2018 at 1:23 pm

    Please i will always take into consideration whatever my mother says to me about anyone..

  33. Ada_ugo

    June 22, 2018 at 1:23 pm

    God has blessed mothers with certain gifts that nobody else on earth can give to their children. Their words hold power on their children. When your mother tells you something, even if you cannot understand it, consider it very very very very very very very seriously. If not in her presence, in your downtime. You may do some “I’m a grown adult, I can handle my own business” gra gra in front of her, but you better think very deeply about what she is saying when you are alone, and do the needful. When you discount the words of your mother, you are flying solo, and whatever the consequences are, you cannot honestly say you were not warned.

    • didi

      June 24, 2018 at 10:16 pm

      Is dis sista A D A? I hail from warri ohh

  34. whocares

    June 22, 2018 at 1:51 pm

    what does the “i will not report you to anyone” in her email refers to though. i found that bit interesting. I feel sorry for both of them, and I am sooo surprised confidential documents of these kind has actually surfaced enough to be on a BLOG!!. she is suffering from some sort of mental disorder and i don’t think its mere depression. There was probably a past trauma that caused this. she deserves sympathy, and so does he for that matter because it cannot be easy trying to manage what you don’t know. She said she stopped taking her pills after the marriage so that they could have children, so it is possible she did not present with all these symptoms whilst they were dating. It is also possible then that she is of sound mind etc, so long as she uses her pills.
    Trust Nigerians to say her issue is “demonic” ie groom’s mom. lol.

  35. See

    June 22, 2018 at 2:31 pm

    Bella Naija aka Fame magazine or is it Encomium or City People now?

    Frankly, I’m just here to comment that Bella only publishes dirt on people who aren’t ‘friends of the house’.

    • Lilo

      June 22, 2018 at 3:15 pm

      Before nko? We still don’t know what happened to abi kuku and Funke Fowler after BN spammed us with their wedding tins

  36. Diamond

    June 22, 2018 at 4:09 pm

    She didn’t divulge to her husband her mental health issues, and so the man has every right to seek annulment (not even divorce) on that ground. Of course, the man will not marry her if he knew she was suffering mentally – we are not onyibo – but it doesn’t matter here. I understand she is desperate to have kids, and this prompted her actions but she is not even stable to care for another human being at the moment. She should just focus on her career ( that is if she doesn’t lose it over these revelations). Mental issue is real.

    • slice

      June 22, 2018 at 10:58 pm

      Her family disputes his allegations and insist nothing is wrong with her. Let’s be looking

    • Curious

      June 23, 2018 at 3:04 pm

      Do you just want to believe what you want to believe? Her family says nothing is wrong with her even after she admitted mental illness in her email? That’s why his email is relevant to the case.

    • slice

      June 23, 2018 at 6:28 pm

      I’m talking about the allegations of physical assault in particular. They say she wasn’t besting him and he’d only annoyed cause the family wouldn’t keep giving him money. Taking anidepressants doesn’t mean you’re unstable the way we seem to be terming instability

  37. hmm

    June 22, 2018 at 4:33 pm

    Mothers have got a gift that is God given, eyes and a spirit that sees the truth and says it when it is necessary. Back in the day, I visited my mum and whilst we were talking, showed her a picture of me and friends, then boyfriend was also in the pic.

    My mum looked at the picture smiled and said, is this your boyfriend, if he is, stop dating him, WOW, how did mum know, we were not even standing together nor looking at one another, how did she suss that out? Till today I dont know, but she was RIGHT.

    Honour your mothers –

    If someone threatens your life with death, either in sickness or in health

  38. Sorry

    June 22, 2018 at 6:38 pm

    I am sorry that the parties are suffering and I wish them well for the future.
    Nevertheless it is imperative that if someone tells you they are going to kill you that you best believe them.

  39. Oki obi

    June 22, 2018 at 9:48 pm

    This is the only reason why I shy away from social media. I hope we all learn one or two from this mess

  40. Manny

    June 23, 2018 at 4:00 am

    If she gets back on her meds, maybe the marriage can be saved. Even if she will have to go off her meds in order to get pregnant, she can be under supervision. I feel sorry for her.
    It seems like she’s a sweet girl who’s just got mental health issues. But the guy’s safety is also important.
    God help them both.

  41. yes maam

    June 23, 2018 at 4:08 pm

    Full disclosure to the court is necessary. Posting it on Bella Naija is not. You could have typed a summary Bella. Or neglected to report the issue, the same way you have not reported Kene Mkparu getting fired at Filmhouse!

  42. OA

    June 23, 2018 at 10:11 pm

    I feel sorry for them both. I remember watching their wedding video and them talking about how happy they were. I know the wife was definitely very very happy…I figured getting married was a dream come true for her.

    As far as I am concerned, Naija also practices no fault divorce. I have read so many razz stories online where the plaintiff petitions the court for a divorce and simply states blah/blah/blah (this is what my wife/husband does and I can’t take it anymore) and the court will turn around and grant the petition, no need to prove jack!. The reason Jonwo (his name is Jonwo BTW, not Juwon) had to submit evidence may be because of the shortness of the marriage and the fact that up till December or so, they were still cohabiting. Those factors may have something to do with proving irreconcilability or something like that.

    As for those (just a couple) who referred to her mental health and her professional status as a magistrate judge, I have a serious problem with your thinking. So because she has mental health issues, she’s not worthy of being a judge again? O ma wa ga oh! There are a lot of people with mental health issues who are still functional and contribute to society in the same manner as everyone else. Clearly we know from the story that she has been on her meds and only stopped using them because she felt that, 1) she no longer needed them because she was now married (was probably depressed due to possible age and not yet married), and 2) she did not want the meds to affect conception. Let us refrain from thinking someone is of no gain to society just because they are mentally ill. That is a lie of the devil! People who suffer from depression are already dealing with the hopelessness of it all, not to talk of you judging them and telling them to their face that they are not worth anything. That’s why people commit suicide.

    • Ovadje

      June 24, 2018 at 10:25 am

      @OA, we do not have no-fault divorce in Nigeria, The petitioner has to prove that the marriage is “irretrievably broken”!

  43. OA

    June 24, 2018 at 8:57 pm

    @Ovadje: Thanks for your feedback. I’m not an expert on Nigerian law; but only saying this based on what I have been privy to on the Internet – Naija stories of divorces where the petitioner just comes and says for example: my wife/husband cheated on me; or my husband/wife abuses me physically; or my wife/husband does not respect my parents; ati be be lo! Most times, the judge adjudicates in their favor agreeing that the marriage is broken down beyond reconciliation. Please what kind of proof do they bring to the court? These are usually stories of somewhat uneducated/unenlightened people. I am trying to learn here so please indulge me. In this case, Jonwo had well-documented proof, but how much proof does one expect a mechanic to bring to court? Second, what type of proof is the court looking for?
    Even in the States where no fault divorce exists, in some states, you may petition the court for a divorce, but you must still have a witness to corroborate the allegations against the defendant.

    • Ovadje

      June 26, 2018 at 8:57 am

      @OA, all those examples you gave would be the “grounds” being stated for the divorce. In contrast, under no-fault divorce, no such grounds are required (simply listing “irreconcilable differences” would suffice). In the instant case, bear in mind that the divorce petition is against a well-educated lawyer (a Magistrate) and thus I would suspect that the petitioner was careful to provide as much evidential documentation as necessary to support the stated grounds.

  44. didi

    June 24, 2018 at 10:21 pm

    Realy her self esteem ? I think she did more wrong by deceiving the man

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