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21 Year Old UNILAG Student “Jumps from Third Floor of 1004” to Escape Rape by Facebook Friend

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The News Agency of Nigeria (NAN) is reporting that a 21 Year Old University of Lagos student was “allegedly pushed down from the third floor of the multi-storey building in Lagos, following a disagreement with a man she met on the social network, Facebook” while the CSP Fayoade Adegoke, the Divisional Police Officer (DPO) of Bar Beach, Victoria Island where the incident was reported, confirms that in the official police report, the victim alleges that she jumped from the third floor to escape being raped.

The victim “sustained multiple injuries, including a pelvis fracture, and was undergoing surgery at the General Hospital, Marina, Lagos, on Tuesday.

The UNILAG  linguistics student was named in the news report but BN has chosen not to republish her name.

Here is an excerpt of her story from the NAN Report;

“She met the young man through the social media, barely a week before the Nov. 1 incident.
She told NAN that the 26-year-old man (names withheld) last Wednesday invited her to a night club in Apapa from where they ended up in his family home at 1004 Estate, Victoria Island, Lagos.
She noted that the young man had earlier talked about sex on phone prior to the outing but she told him she was menstruating.
The victim said that on getting to the house, the man tore her dress and tried to rape her.
According to the victim, the man thereafter pushed her down from the third floor of the building because she refused to have sex with him.
When contacted, the mother of the young man, who was at home on the night of the incident, however, told NAN that she was not aware of what happened, saying that she slept around 10 p.m., wile the disageement between the couple started much later.
The mother, who pleaded anonymity, disclosed that she paid part of the hospital bill immediately after the victim was admitted, and even tried to transfer her to a private hospital.
“I took her as our own daughter and so, I can do anything that will make her recover quickly,” she added.
She insisted that her preliminary inquiry indicated that victim was not pushed by her son as alleged, but that she jumped on her own in the ensuing scuffle.
When contacted, CSP Fayoade Adegoke, the Divisional Police Officer (DPO) of Bar Beach, Victoria Island, Lagos, told NAN that the victim wrote in her statement to the police that she jumped on her own, in order to escape being raped.
Adegoke said that he ordered his men to convey the victim to the hospital immediately after he was informed of the incident by night security guards in the area.
The DPO said that the suspect was released on bail, pending further investigation into the matter.”

There are several disturbing questions and issues that are raised by this incident and news story.

  • Why is the victim named and the accused’s name is withheld?
  • Why does the accused’s mother have access to the victim?
  • The victim has released contradictory statements – she reported that she jumped to escape to the Police and that she was pushed to the press
  • Whether the victim jumped or was pushed off the building, her injuries illustrate the severity of the crime
  • The crime allegedly occurred in the accused’s parents’ house while they were home! What does this say about our value system?
  • In February 2012, Susan Yusuf of SuzyQ was murdered and her killer jumped to his death in 1004, a disturbing pattern seems to be emerging from the popular condomium complex.
  • Absolutely noone deserves to be raped, even if sex was discussed on the phone and a nightclub was visited.

After, the tragic Cynthia Osokogu, we advise young women and men to be wise about who they interract with online and how they transition those relationships into the real world.

79 Comments

  1. Jfk

    November 8, 2012 at 6:19 am

    Wickedness in high places! I really dont know when we girls will learn!

    • me

      November 8, 2012 at 7:46 pm

      that’s just nonsense… When will men learn to keep their penises in their pants?

    • ...just saying

      November 9, 2012 at 10:49 am

      I beg to differ…I was a victim in a relatively similar incidence…..

      On invitation, I went to a male colleague of 3 years house for a chat on his new business venture and the possibility of us working together. 30 mins into our meeting, he started moving closer and feeling cozy. I immediately rounded up the conversation and fled for dear life. If he raped me in this instance, I bet the lot of you would have said I am to blame because I went to his house. Arrant nonsense….It could happen to anyone…I’m one of those ladies who has never been to a suitor’s house, I always meets guys in open space but this was different as I thought we’d developed a good working relationship and during those years he came across as a gentleman who was different from the pack of wolves.
      Ladies are surely their own worst enemies…. Instead of us to stand together with one voice to fight this animal …. We’re busy attacking her. Shame on us.

  2. Bey

    November 8, 2012 at 6:26 am

    Ladies be careful with the kind of guys u kip as friends,, social network or no social network..

  3. NSG

    November 8, 2012 at 6:29 am

    This will continue as long as people refuse to learn.
    http://naijasportsgists.wordpress.com/

  4. Gbemmy

    November 8, 2012 at 6:42 am

    But didn’t she read about ? ….Thank God, she is alive … So if she didn’t want sex what was she looking for ? It’s time ladies stopped all these silly adventures

  5. Miss Mo

    November 8, 2012 at 6:44 am

    My Goodness!!! Please when will people especially females learn? So after Cynthia Asikogwu’s (May she RIP) incident, ladies still don’t get it. Wow!!! And after going out with a guy you can’t go back to your house or school. Na wa o. SMH

  6. Gbemmy

    November 8, 2012 at 6:48 am

    But didn’t she read about cythia ? ….Thank God, she is alive … So if she didn’t want sex what was she looking for ? It’s time ladies stopped all these silly adventures

  7. Amy

    November 8, 2012 at 7:00 am

    Are all of the people above kidding me?!? You’re blaming the girl because someone attempted to rape her?!? It is not her responsibility to control him, nor is it her fault! It is NEVER the woman’s fault! No means no!

    • nawa

      November 8, 2012 at 10:44 am

      who else would we blame?? if she dint make herself available, will all this happen? nobody is praising the guy but the fault is the babe’s.. how can u follow a man u met on fb to a nyt club, it dint even end dere, u went to his house knowing fully well that this guy asked for sex! *smh*

    • Mana

      November 8, 2012 at 11:15 am

      I totally agree with you! He mention sex on the phone, so she supposed to know that this guy want sex from her!

      http://www.finest-in-internet.com/

    • fairweatherfriendnot

      November 8, 2012 at 11:51 am

      Simply blame the 26 yr old young man who took a girl home and attempted to rape her…He is the one who committed a crime. Being silly is not a crime, the girl will surely need counseling.

    • ameenah

      November 8, 2012 at 12:17 pm

      As a woman its our jobs to protect ourselves from the evil of the world. Is the guy wrong? YES 100%. But should girls be smarter in 2012? YES 110%. In a situation where its unavoidable no one will say jack abt the girl. But in this instance it was totally avoidable.

    • Non professional opinion

      November 8, 2012 at 1:06 pm

      @Amy. You are in thé wrong place for that kind of progressive opinion. You are suggesting that if a young woman makes a poor choice, that it doesn’t nullify the laws of the land and human decency. Everybody knows that if u go to a man’s house, you hand over all your rights at the door. Besides I do not know a woman who was raped that wasn’t to blame. Either her skirt was short, or her skin was yellow or she had breasts and everybody knows men cannot resist those things. Asking men to control their urges or go to jail is foolish and wicked on your part. Look at Arab women they have the decency to stay covered and hidden at all times and they never get raped….sorry…what was that? They get raped also…hmmm. I’m not surprised some of them reveal their faces and that is a big no-no. /sarcasm.

    • Miss K

      November 8, 2012 at 7:18 pm

      My jaw dropped at your statement stating the following “Besides I do not know a woman who was raped that wasn’t to blame”! I can’t even begin to fathom that you are actually suggesting that every rape victim brought it on herself? So if armed robbers broke into a house and raped the women in the house does that mean they brought it on themselves? If you care to check the statistics, there are countless women raped, and even killed through no fault of their own. Please let us stop propagating this type of negative message, rape is a criminal sexual act plain and simple!

    • Honey

      November 8, 2012 at 8:47 pm

      Miss K is Proper oLODO. DO U KNOW WHAT SARCASM MEANS?

  8. Tripple A

    November 8, 2012 at 7:03 am

    Sad tale.
    I don’t understand the young ladies we have now. Yes, we all like to meet new interesting people. Is it that these ladies lack much confidence in person or just enjoy the mystery of a social media person?

    Also its obvious the accused and his family is been protected.

    I pray her speedy recovery without any major complications sha…I read something abt pelvic abi…

  9. 9Grian

    November 8, 2012 at 7:11 am

    @Amy you are missing the point. Why on earth would she go to a man’s house that she just met? they discussed about sex over the phone, didnt she get his point that all he wanted was sex? And if she was to go this house at all, why would she go alone? Ladies please be careful. Dont be caried by “Mr Nice guy” Evil can appear good in the begining.

  10. Lola

    November 8, 2012 at 7:24 am

    No we not blaming d girl…we just saying proper home training or common sense shld av guided her.at least if she hadnt gone to his house,it might have bin harder for d guy to rape her…she has a part to in d rape incident..and for your info..am a lady also!

  11. climax

    November 8, 2012 at 7:39 am

    I believe the first responsibility of a every human is self preservation, it is your own life and no one can guard it as well as you. You meet a guy via social media, u meet him for the first time and go to his house at night, You asked for it, what if wasn’t just after sex, we live in fetish society where ppl do cruel things to make money and gain power. Ladies our society has made us responsible for whatever happens to us, a guy assumes u want to sleep with him as soon as you walk into his house, and when u are raped, the question is always “what was she doing in a man’s house?” Let’s love ourselves and not give these wicked men the opportunity to hurt us.

  12. Good Luck Jonathan

    November 8, 2012 at 8:22 am

    its me the president of the Federal republic of Nigeria, just don’t mind these girls they wont read their books or learn unskilled jobs instead they want to reap where their father didn’t sow, investigate the low life girl she probably was expecting to take home or back to Uni-lag big brown Envelope of money because she got a toaster from VI, just leave them and let them die so the Nigeria population will reduce and our problem will reduce too

    • ADETIMEHIN K. H.

      November 8, 2012 at 9:21 am

      Obviously, this can not be from our President. Sir, when do u become die and lets leave? This is absurd!

    • portable-oge

      November 8, 2012 at 10:13 am

      I think ur one of dose who treat women like shit! FYI,u so disgust me! I hope u dnt hv either a sista,gf or wife cos u sound heartless!

  13. Gbenga Oni

    November 8, 2012 at 8:44 am

    Classic! the victim is blamed for going to the man’s house and not being careful. Not much of suprise for the Nigerian society and sadly many societies. The man is plainly evil. Preying on the vulnerability of the very many who are hoping to find love, affection and attention will continue as long as we keep blaming the victim. Though, women and men alike have to be careful, it is indeed the case that many evil men out there are employing lies, manipulative words and promises to gain the trust of young women which pretty much most vulnerable young girls and women can understandably fall for. Even if the woman comes to his home, does this give this man the right to try to rape her ? How evil is the heart of humans? Need i say mightily evil. We have to take strong actions to bring justice in cases like this, we have to send a strong message to these evil ones to say “when women/girls give their trusts it’s not okay to violate and defile them. Our women should be protected. Real men do not manipulate,lie to women or rape them. Real men protect and honour the women they encounter. Justice should be served in this situation and this evil perpetrator should go to jail for a long time.

    • Idak

      November 8, 2012 at 9:49 am

      I agree with you wholly. However for the sake of completeness, there is more to the truth than what you wrote. Women too should make better decisions. She went home with a guy she was meeting for the first time. Not to her own house, not to a neutral venue but his own house. You sef,check am out? e make sense? What was she expecting? A night vigil of praise and worship? A night spent watching reruns of Tinsel? The girl did not exercise good judgement and the guy is much less a man for not realising that No means No and that non consensual sex is not only a violation of womanhood but also negates the whole beauty of sex itself.

    • ij

      November 8, 2012 at 10:23 am

      thank you for this solid comment

    • fairweatherfriendnot

      November 8, 2012 at 12:03 pm

      I agree with you, but please let the focus be on the crime that was committed, which is attempted rape.. Being silly, childish or lacking good judgement as in this case is not a crime. We should strongly criticize the 26yr old man who attempted to rape the girl even in this circumstance as it were. Let us all call for him to be brought to justice to serve as a deterrent to other men out there who think it is their right to get sex in whatever situation. Then the girl including a lot of young girls out there need counseling.

    • Lade

      November 8, 2012 at 1:44 pm

      mehn…its sad to say but I agree with you. This is Lagos. A mental city where allsorts of preditory creatures are lurking about….and Lagos babes are sharp jor.You dont just follow some guy to his house for innocent reasons. This isnt London (even there its not advised to do that o). Let us be real here. The girl was silly. Or she was an opportunistic babe who wanted to sniff around in the guy’s surrounds to assess his financial standing.

  14. MR. GRATITUTE

    November 8, 2012 at 8:52 am

    Its not all about meeting someone in facebook or social network.. anything that concerned facebook you guys will be quick to judge.. It doesnt matter where you meet the person.. everyone needs to be careful the way they make friend.. even someone you know in school or anywhere can do that to you too.. According to this news.. i don;t fink the boy pushed her.. They have discussed sex and club before on the phone.. if she doesn’t want sex and she knows shes is menstruating why did she come?? what does she want??.. which means shes aware of everything that’s going to take place that day.. thats not rape to me.. she caused her own injuries..

  15. WhyAreViolentCrimesOnTheRise

    November 8, 2012 at 9:35 am

    I think the location of the crime is irrelevant and the real question you have to ask is why violent crimes against women are rising in Nigeria. I have my own theories but would like to hear other opinions.

    • Gbenga Oni

      November 8, 2012 at 7:23 pm

      Because the victim is constantly balmed like in this situation. These perpetrators are getting away with these heinous crimes. It is crazy but the truth. Though, we expect the woman to have a level of decency or some say judgement on not going to the man’s house the man is fine because the girl went to his house. This is a crazy way to look at these. People do not have the same level of judgement besides, I bet the guy did not say to her I’m a rapist and an evil woman battering bastard and she still decided go with him. I bet he lured and even if he didn’t. In this same Nigeria my cousin was almost raped by a group of friends she knew for months. They spiked her drink when she visited them but for God’s hands on her. Still, she was balmed for going to their house. Regadless of the circumstance that brought the woman to the man’s home it is completely unjustified to do to her such injustice and inhuman act as rape. Facebook or no facebook, carful, careless or what not this is a sever crime against another human that must be punished. If we keep victim blaming, these men will continue to gain the trust of young girls and committing these crimes against them. Many youg women who fall victim to this will be afraid to speak because their societies will not protect them but blame them though they fell victim of these evil men. Are these the kind of men we want to keep breeding in Nigeria? Animals more like. Even if the lady came naked, rape should never be justified.
      To the one who say this is not London this is Nigeria, I suppose other countries will be justified in thinking we are barbaric animals.

  16. Fab

    November 8, 2012 at 9:39 am

    Am not sorry for her! She knew the guy wanted sex and she went ahead to follow him to his house. is that not stupidity? Girls are loosing their moral value this days! Future mothers!!! SMH

    • Critic

      November 8, 2012 at 10:02 am

      U have spoken my mind!!! Thank You!!

    • Lue

      November 8, 2012 at 10:22 am

      don’t even know what to say to you but did you stop to think that it may happen to your sister or daughter? Nobody is saying she’s without blame but did you even blame the guy? ‘Girls are losing ‘their’ moral value’…….really? and guys are gaining theirs? or is moral value supposed to be for one gender? “Future mothers”………….I guess the guy will not be a father too someday. Get down from your high horse already

    • Fab

      November 8, 2012 at 10:50 am

      She knew the guy wanted only sex and she still went ahead to visit him. I don’t blame the guy at all! We have read about how girls loose their life’s to evil men they met through social network and still yet girls refuse to learn. You are being bias here and I guess you are a girl.

    • Purpleicious Babe

      November 8, 2012 at 11:27 am

      A word is enough for the wise….

      PARENTS talk and communicate with your children.

      I pray for continuous admonishment and wisdom…

      http://lifeinstagesdoz.blogspot.co.uk/

    • Purpleicious Babe

      November 8, 2012 at 1:41 pm

      I forgot to add “as you lay your bed, you will lie on it”. To be fair some of us we do things that deserve what we get(but it had to be done that way for us to LEARN)… It cruel but its the truth nonetheless, SOME OF US will NEVER LEARN.

      Motives is key to some of our actions.. If you can see what another cannot see then you will run like mad when you really see their hearts.

      WISDOM is the principal ting. having said that, I wish her a speedy recovery…

      I rest my plea.

      http://lifeinstagesdoz.blogspot.co.uk/

    • Idak

      November 8, 2012 at 10:28 am

      Men are also losing their morals by being unable to control their urges. It is a two way street. How do these depraved goats even enjoy non consensual sex?

    • xxx

      November 8, 2012 at 11:52 am

      Not defending her supidity but she probably figured he was sane and by telling him she is on her period he would be put off and fine with just hanging out or cuddling. Which she may have done with guys she’s dated in the past, difference is this one is a crazy stranger. We should all be careful with strangers, we have been told this since we could speak, but hey people, especially women get carried away looking for love and we do not know all the details, they might have mutual friends that made her feel comfortable, he might have told her his folks were home and that made her more trusting and the possibilities are endless, so do not be quick to judge her because young people do stupid things and we have all done something that everyone would consider stupid at somepoint in our lives. I’m sure she knew she was stupid even while doing it, but she went ahead depending on the circumstances which we do not not and may never know. Tell young women to be more careful, not that they are stupid and please do not fail to openly reprimand the offender, because the message you are sending out to young men and all criminals is that it is okay and they will be free once it is confirmed that the victim was “stupid”, gullible or easy. Even a prostitute deserves and reserves the right to say no if it gets to a point that she changes her mind. So please, yes, she should have made better choices, but she is not the one to be persecuted!!! That is why politicians will always rob us blind because of our mentality. We follow them home and they rape us repeatedly and they get away with is because we followed them home at some gullible stupid moment in our lives, this applies to every situation, beyond boy meets girl. A victim should never be persecuted over a perpetrator!

    • Sampson Kalu

      November 9, 2012 at 12:41 am

      This is hitting the nail dead on the head! Well said XXX. Best comment here!

    • nike

      November 19, 2012 at 5:30 pm

      As my Igbo Brothers would say, GBAM! You Nailed it smack on the head.

    • e-bukun

      November 8, 2012 at 2:46 pm

      No matter what the case, rape is never a woman’s fault. Nobody should ever walk into any situation expecting to be violated. Our problem is we’re expecting society to educate our children and give them the morals they should have. If every family raised a gentleman, and a lady, then she would walk into this situation unafraid. I have male friends who would be in the same situation and not lay a finger on her, because they don’t have to. She could be his younger sister, if he regarded her with respect, it would not be an issue.

  17. C S

    November 8, 2012 at 10:15 am

    Girls should be careful, she has been informed earlier of sex or bla bla!! and she says she’s on mensuration, my question is: why did she follow d man to his house? a place she has never been before, after being informed earlier abt sex. Yes d man will feel she has accepted his request that’s why he took her home. Had it been she refused at the club in Apapa all these wouldn’t have happened. may this be a lesson to all girls. i wish her quick recovery and thereafter she should go back to school and mind her studies.

  18. Akindele @ Cheapest Bulk SMS

    November 8, 2012 at 10:17 am

    The Lady is very stupid. I strongly believe that it was not her first time of doing such things. She actually opted for what happened to her. I doubt it if she has a lesson to learn from this incident.

  19. jigs

    November 8, 2012 at 10:27 am

    smh….seems gurls wil nvr learn dere lesson on dating chaps on social media.searching for mugus i guez. may God cont to guide n protect us all.

  20. Brixtonbabe

    November 8, 2012 at 10:35 am

    Has anyone considered the lady’s age in this she is 21 fresh in Uni probably very naive and has heard stories of how rich boys dash money and probably thought this was her chance to hook a rich boyfriend….i blame it all on ignorance, naivety and poverty that is all

    • Lade

      November 8, 2012 at 2:05 pm

      Brixtonbabe….21 is not fresh and naive in unilag….trust me……

  21. efe

    November 8, 2012 at 11:02 am

    l just wonder what these youths are becoming,you look for Pleasure in the wrongest of places,you barely know someone and went clubbing and all with him,even people you know for a while,stab you on the back Or you felt you have met Mr.Right
    He mentioned sex before the meeting,it was enough to know that the guy was just the wrongest of person.We ladies need to be careful we are loosing our values because what we see these days there is no morality,l weep and pity our youths.
    The whole place is turning to Sodom and Gomorrah from what we wear,we see(movies and musicals) and what we do,we think being attractive is being sexually……….no bi so.A lot has and needs to be done.l think as parents most of us have missed it,in raising our children and even the society,leaders that steal,fight in the Assembly,exchange of abusive words by our so called leaders in the media.God will hold us responsible,cause we will give account of it all.
    Thank God she is alive to tell the story and the family of the chap involved should watch it before he brings more tragedy to them

  22. partyrider

    November 8, 2012 at 11:05 am

    *sigh* smh

  23. lolo

    November 8, 2012 at 11:56 am

    She is a very useless and stupid idiot, after reading what happened to Cynthia few months ago, every young lady need to be careful on whom they communicate with on facebook.

    • JJ

      November 9, 2012 at 12:36 am

      And as usual you will also ignore the criminal who has no respect for women and himself. You people will always blame women and pamper men that’s why they are always acting a fool and no one does sh+t. They leave Nigeria to other countries and rape girls because their society has trained them to act like animals. Or they see a lady on the street and they harass her to talk to them. It is usually mental people or druggies that try to chat females up on the street in this part of the world. If someone tells you they do not want to have sex, respect that and keep your stinking penis tucked in your underwear.
      This is also a lesson to Nigerian women. No one will protect you. The Nigerian society does not give a might f#ck about you unless it pertains to sex, marriage, household chores, and reproduction. Be smart and sit your black ass down! There is no damn law to protect you and you will end up on the list of abused Nigerian women whose voices don’t and will never get heard. The law as of now, only protects the upper class. We have not heard anything regarding the girl who was raped by the 5 cowardly swines or the other one who was stripped naked because she was caught stealing. Be wise!

  24. Michelle Emiaha

    November 8, 2012 at 11:56 am

    Can this people just stop the blame game and prosecute the offenders? Like BN said, whether she jumped on her own or was pushed, the shameless guy is still guilty. Rubbish! http://www.gistville.com

  25. xxx

    November 8, 2012 at 12:02 pm

    It’s only wrong now because things went wrong, but I know people who met on social networks and got married or at least had a relationship, I thought they were crazy, but you know what they met decent people by taking a chance, by doing something stupid. so we all do stupid things, whether or not we are pointed out as stupid by others just depends on how things pan out and how public the information is. Anyone can be a victim and we can advice one another better but never forget to out rightly condemn the evil manipulators in our midst or incidents like these will only get rampant and. the only thing worse than a stupid victim is a stupid criminal- reference the 20yr old that raped the 6yr old, saying his naked body turned him on. In his mind at the time it was her fault. Encourage and empower one sicko you encourage and empower millions of other sickos with worse agendas.

  26. lilac

    November 8, 2012 at 12:07 pm

    this girl is just stupid and loose plain and simple. cos d guy alredy said wat he wants nd if she didnt want it then she shdnt hav been there in the Ist place.after followin him 2 d club and obviously havin him spend his money on her, shes now sayin she doesnt want, she foolish. her actions were contradicting wat she she said. the mother gan which kain sleep sef? how she no go hear? i believe she’s tryin to protect her son.

  27. xxx

    November 8, 2012 at 12:08 pm

    Excuse my typos, but I am furious at the mentality that continues to breed ignorance and evil in our midst. Stop giving criminals the upper hand and taking the voice and power of the victims. This is why so many women get rapped and never come forward, becuase they are scared they will be blamed and labeled and instead of the rapist being condemned and the rapist on the other hand believes he is in the right and any woman that makes the mistake of being gullible or vulnerable deserves to be raped. Please STOP sending out the wrong message. It is sickening and this is coming from one of the smartest women out there can never (by the grace of God only) be found in the situation the girl found herself in.

  28. xxx

    November 8, 2012 at 12:09 pm

    *that can never*

  29. Q

    November 8, 2012 at 12:22 pm

    Its a shame what our society is turning into…. we’re all here raining abuses on the girl without knowing the specifics of all dat was said and done… Do u know if she went to his crib willingly?, what kind of guy (replace dat wih Animal) tries to i)rape a girl, and ii) with his parents @ home; and then push her downstairs (i believe dats d real story btw)- cos she was trying to avoid being raped why would she den want to jump to her death?)… I dont even have the words for his him and his mother(‘treat her like my daughter my ASS- if it was ur daughter u’d have chopped dat animal’s head off!).

    This is a typical picture of our society- Men get away with everything, women take all d blame… Yes she probably exercised poor judgment (depending on what d real story is), who hasn’t? But the guts with which Boys turn into Beasts dese days only means dat they expect to be backed up by men and women alike, as always… why dont we start with that first?…. I say she gets well soon, and plot her vengeance on his ass, den go and pray for forgiveness!

    Man protect thyself–Make dat woman!

  30. Nonye

    November 8, 2012 at 12:22 pm

    Ladies, ladies, ladies…….
    A word is enough for the wise! A fly that does not hear word will follow dead body to the grave..
    While I think that the boy is evil and undeserving, I also lay blame at the young lady. I still cannot fathom what in the world will make me follow a stranger to a night club and onward to his house in the night for that matter! Come on??? I still dont understand what girls are looking for in the name of fun and friendship, when it is not as if you are lacking confidence or acceptance. Those old warnings by my mum still apply in today’s world. Dont talk to strangers, don’t ask for lifts or enter private cars with ppl you have never met, stop trying to play smart with your whereabouts, be security conscious, dont do what you know your parents will not approve of … and the list goes on.
    Hoping she recovers soon to tell the whole story and to see the guy being jailed cos she is the main witness and is the only one that can provide damaging evidence to this case. O ga o!

  31. Miriam

    November 8, 2012 at 12:25 pm

    I’m a woman, and no this is not hating on my own sex. Where does the role of responsibility come in? I mean seriously. If you expect another person to behave properly, because it is the right thing to do and they should know better, you may as well put a gun to your head and pull the trigger. This is a funny case of Darwin’s theory of evolution. So Gbega, stop that BS talk. You have sisters, female friends, a girfriend or wife, you will have daughters one day. How do you teach a woman to be safe and protect herself, with that kind of talk? Where does common sense come in? We shoudl also lay blame on the guy. No freaking way, if you put yourself in harms way, whose fault is that? There are instances of rape or attempted rape, where the victim is totally blameless, unfortunately, this IS NOT one of those cases. It is girls like her, that give real rape victims a bad name. It is girls like her that keep ridiculing the inhumane act of rape. It is cases like her that make real rape victims not come forward ebcause they believe people will ridicule them, or say it is their fault, they were asking for it. All the signs were there about the guy’s intentions and she still went to his house. Its like saying, you cross the road carelessly, and you say the person behind the wheel should have done the right thing. You were careless with your own life, of course you would be hit by a car. For every action, there are consequences. She is lucky she did not die, very lucky, but she doesn’t kow yet the aftermath of this incident. A friend had a pelvic fracture from an Okada accident, and years later she cant carry a baby to term because of it. Series of miscarriages. She and her husband are devastated. Women, please, please no amount of money or fun is worth your life and your future.

  32. mee

    November 8, 2012 at 12:39 pm

    so many of us are too quick in blaming someone,the girls most especially.i dont think it matters how long you’v known someone or where u met the person.a wicked person is a wicked person.we should only pray we dont fall prey of all these wickedness.i’v almost bn a rape victim to a friend i thought i had known for almost 6months.this is someone who never made any sexual advances towards me,someone i had visited countlessly.was i been stupid,greedy or what?i was only bn a friend…..was not out 4 d money cz he didnt even have it…….a similar fate almost befell me in the hands of my cousin.so forget about the social network or the length of tym you’ve known the person.we have ppl who can pretend in a very long tym.i have 3 friends who got married to ppl the met on facebook,i’v established good business relationships via the same social network….all we should seek for is guidance from God soo we dont fall victims

  33. nekiss

    November 8, 2012 at 12:52 pm

    Hmmm…. dont know shaa, everyone with his own. Personally, anyone i am just meeting that brings up sex at the early stage of our meeting is a no no for me. Right from there i’ll just know that this person will not bring no good at all and can do and undo. Any man that brings up sex that way has no respect for the woman and can do anything because he doesnt care. We girls should be more careful abeg. And the way people talk about sex as though it is something we should all get ourselves involved in is just appalling. if you tell anyone that yuo are against sex before marriage they’ll want to stone you to death and then ask you their usual stupid question…”u wan swear say u never do before? May God help us. The answer to all this is accepting Jesus into our lives as Lord and personal saviour for He alone can guide us right. i wish her a quick recovery.

  34. teetee

    November 8, 2012 at 1:59 pm

    every1 loves to have fun but plssss ladies for your own safety stay away from risks like dis. and guys for the love of your parents especially your mothers stop being adventurous with women. you have sisters too. nemesis truly happens. what you do to some1 else will also be done to yours. if you see that person as your own sister in Christ then u won’t be desperate. love your neighbor, does it ring a bell? stick to one girl does not make u a fool. but doing dis makes you worse than a fool. your friends will not be there to rescue u .

  35. patricia

    November 8, 2012 at 2:30 pm

    as much i agree that no means no…..please what responsible and smart lady would go a young man’s house after having quite and explicit dicussion on sex. i think she asked for wat she got. its common sense.she shouldnt have gone out with him in teh first place. i know the kind of guys i hang out with.i meet all sorts of guys but dont hand out with them cos from our convesation i know clearly wha they want so going through is at me detriment.i wish her quick recovery and hope she doesnt have a permanent disability from it.

  36. Goodnessme!

    November 8, 2012 at 3:12 pm

    Nigerians dont you get it?? NO MEANS NO! If i was wearing the skimpiest tightest clothes and walked past a group of builders does that give them the right to Rape me?? I HAVE THE RIGHT TO WEAR WHAT I LIKE AND NOT BE HARRASSED. So does this young Lady, SHE HAS THE RIGHT TO MEET SOMEONE AND GO TO THE CLUB AND IF SHE FEELS COMFORTABLE GOING BACK TO HIS PLACE WHY NOT!!! IT IS HER CHOICE!!!! people make friends on facebook etc etc and nothing bad comes out of it, people even get married and have happy marriages from meeting in cyber space. LOOK NIGERIA TODAY WE NEED TO STOP BLAMING THE VICTIM THIS YOUNG MAN SHOULD HAVE SELF CONTROLL REGARDLESS IF SHE WAS SPREAD NAKED ON HIS BED IT DOES NOT GIVE HIM OR ANYONE THE RIGHT TO EVEN TOUH A HAIR ON HER CHIN!!! NO MEANS NO GET IT!!!!!

    • Miriam

      November 8, 2012 at 6:37 pm

      Tell that to your daughter you hear me. All that talk is for Utopia, when you live in an ideal world. We dont live in an ideal world, we live in an evil world. Like i said before, if you are expecting anyone to do the right thing, because it is the right thing to do, you go wait tire, meanwhile you will be subjected to all horrors. Horrors that you could have avoided if you acted differently, or made wiser choices. All that screaming and shouting against rape will never stop it, women just have to learn to become wiser in their outgoings, who they hang around it, what choices they make. You can never stop evil in this world, you can only at least try, not to put yourself in a vulnerable position. THAT IS THE MESSAGE WE SHOULD BE PASSING ACROSS TO GIRLS AND WOMEN. All that talk of when a woman says no, it should be no, means nada to an evil man intent on rape. You think she didnt say no, of what good did it do her. Lets be real please, it saves lives. There is no room for idealism in this world. Reality is reality, PROTECT YOURSELF FIRST, and dont expect someone else to act right and not harm you

  37. Goodnessme!

    November 8, 2012 at 3:16 pm

    What we need to adress now is the young man and young men of Nigeria! His behaviour is not acceptable and needs to be checked on this RAPE is WRONG wethere the girl is nieve yes or no it is not her fault at all and never will be! she may have made a bad judgement but trust me, babes you know now! if she does not feel comfortable she would not have gone! he abused her trust because she trusted him thats why she was there. NO MEANS NO!

  38. Goodnessme!

    November 8, 2012 at 3:17 pm

    SEE I AM SOO VEX ALL THESE TYPOS.. BUT YOU GET WHAT I MEAN.

  39. Goodnessme!

    November 8, 2012 at 3:21 pm

    You see the thing aboput Nigerians is that we are toooo quick to Judge, Who cares if she is responsible or not is it not her life???? how is a girl going back to mans house iresponsible they are adults. but this time she did not consent to anything intimate simple NO MEANS NO! This is why Domestic Violence is killing Nigerians here in the uk woman are to afraid to speak out always being judged i, it was your fault, you too talk , why did you speak to his friend, mother sister like that anyway… all excuses for abuse when we know infact that no one has the right to lay a finger on someone els at all it is not on regardless of anything!!!!!! NIGERI WE NEED A NEW CAMPAIGN TO ENLIGHTEN NIGERINAS AND BRINGTHEM TO THE 21ST CENTURY NO MEANS NO GET IT!!!

  40. Goodnessme!

    November 8, 2012 at 3:23 pm

    sorry so vex typos every where. But you sha get me.

  41. If you like vex

    November 8, 2012 at 4:13 pm

    In my opinion, they are both at fault! The lady is at fault for putting herself in such a position! How do you follow a dude you just met on a social networking site to his house! And the dude is an idiot for acting like a jungle animal!

  42. cathy

    November 8, 2012 at 4:38 pm

    Some men are turning into some evil beast we don’t even know. so sad

  43. Iffy

    November 8, 2012 at 5:04 pm

    But wait ooh…what is inside sex sef???Men!!!and sex!!!! it is only God that will save somebody oh!That said,get well soon young lady…I hope justice is served in this matter.

  44. Somy

    November 8, 2012 at 5:06 pm

    No one is disputing the fact that the man is to be blamed, but also that the girl is partly to be blamed too. Lets be honest. You meet someone on fb, weeks after you meet and its to go to a night club but prior the meeting, sex was mentioned. If you didnt want to do, then dont allow yourself to be put in a compromising situation. What did you think would happen after the night club and you are at his place? Prayer session? Lets be real abeg. She alone knew and knows what she wanted when she followed this person.

    So the two of them should suffer the consequences of their stupid decisions.

  45. Sayedero Enytan-Runsewe

    November 8, 2012 at 6:44 pm

    even if she was a parole babe>>>No one deserves to be raped!!! haba!! i dont believe his mother was in house ..what kind of sleep is that!!
    btw i met my ex-bf thru facebook sha..(yes! even after the cynthia saga)…. n he never tried to pull any stunt with me …so pls dont judge!

  46. bimsbabe

    November 8, 2012 at 9:39 pm

    Meeting d guy on facebook is not d issue,afteral there are pple who met on facebk dat get married.D issue is her not been very careful and d guy taken advantage of d situation…Dat guy shuld be arrested.Wat nonsense !!! We all need 2b careful with fwnds,facebook or no facebook…

  47. gimmer

    November 9, 2012 at 5:12 am

    runz gone sideways

  48. Chydee

    November 19, 2012 at 4:45 pm

    Like ma mama go talk”No go man house if u neva see am wella for afternoon”Y must it be late at night?I am not blaming or passing judgement on the young Lady but Ladies (including myself),have to be extremely careful.Plenty things dey happen for night and Most times,we dont get a chance to correct midnight mistakes…I DON TALK MY OWN OH

  49. david

    February 21, 2013 at 3:37 pm

    they ll learn in the next coming world

  50. david

    February 21, 2013 at 3:40 pm

    girls love to chop laif…1004,if they told her to come to ajegunle,she wont come o..now she s in the hospital everyone knows about the story,o o n pe…na we send anybody,wew all have our problems here too …so God ll take care of u

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