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‘Growing Up in a Polygamous Setting… I Did Not Expect My Husband to Be Faithful’ – Yeni Kuti



Yeni Kuti - May 2014 - 01Yeni Kuti is the first daughter of the late Afrobeat legend, Fela Anikulapo-Kuti as well as the manager of all his properties – including the very popular Afrika Shine – and in a new interview with Nigerian Tribune; she opens up about a lot of things.

The single mum talks to the newspaper about how Polygamy changed her views on infidelity and more.

Read excerpts below:

On growing up in a polygamous home: Growing up in a polygamous setting made me more tolerant of the infidelity of men. Well, I still got married, but I did not expect my husband to be faithful. I didn’t demand or expect it. If he was unfaithful, it would not cause any fight between us.

On her turnoffs in men: I hate lazy men a lot. But the African society has put women at the receiving end one too many times. For instance, if a woman doesn’t give birth, all eyes will be on her, while no one will even point a finger at the man, and it might be the man who is sterile, while the woman is very fertile. I think we women need to fight for our rights more.

On men and women having equal rights: We have more rights, yes, but equal rights? I don’t think so. Why did you say so? When I tried to buy a gun, they said they don’t sell guns to women. Armed robbers had attacked us at home and I needed a gun to protect myself.

On if she can shoot someone: Ah, if my life or my child’s life is in danger, yes I will fire the culprit without thinking twice. Even when I did gun practice a while ago, it was very interesting, because I was able to see how people become killers, as one gets a lot of power holding a gun. But unfortunately, I wasn’t allowed to own one. Meanwhile, men can own guns. Funny enough, I believe we women are the stronger sex. A man cannot take a broken heart the way a woman would. A woman will take a broken heart and move on. An average man will not recover from a broken heart for years.

You can read up the rest of the interview here.


  1. Hurperyearmie

    January 16, 2015 at 11:00 am


  2. CoconutPineapple

    January 16, 2015 at 11:16 am

    If infidelity didn’t also give way to STDS (both mild and deadly) i’d support that infidelity does not matter. Infact i’d add that monogamy is outdated. But the fact remains that having multiple sexual partners puts your life in danger. There are diseases even condoms cannot protect you against.

  3. olu

    January 16, 2015 at 1:08 pm

    Here we go. Like I said in an earlier post, don’t put all the blame on the men..blame the system and culture. Here is a female who seems to be OK with it bcos she was raised in such a system. The cleasing needs to start with the system and culture.

  4. Anon

    January 16, 2015 at 2:17 pm

    Yeni! What you see is what you get.

  5. chi-e-z

    January 16, 2015 at 11:49 pm

    All I see in this life is choices ain’t nobody can force you if you are stubborn enough to be what you are not homosexuality,heterosexuality,marriage, infidelity, monogamy, polygamy, eat, sleep oh na all choice the only thing wey no be choice na to breath and even that has to end by your own accord or expiration time. I don’t think anything is do or die like we naija people like to make it. Me probably going to be single and maybe not have children or sex for the rest of my life do you think I’m making a big fuss of it. No it’s my choice. The most important thing we have to teach our children is respect and to be stubborn about being the best they can be then society has nothing to lure them with.

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