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Lost Fallopian Tubes & IVF…Watch Designer Okiki Marinho’s Brave Journey to Being a Mum

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Okiki-MarinhoWe watched designer Okiki Marinho‘s inspiring interview with Misi Molu of Pulse TV and we just had to share. Okiki is a former investment banker turned designer, on the show, she shares her emotional journey towards becoming a mum. From ectopic pregnancies which led to the loss of her fallopian tubes to IVF attempts. While Okiki is still on the road to being a mum, we know that her hope will come to fruition very soon!

It is so brave to share what must be a difficult experience and we know many will be inspired.


64 Comments

  1. AD

    June 1, 2015 at 7:51 am

    Just want you to know, God is never late and he won’t fail you.

  2. BEAUTIFULNBLESSED

    June 1, 2015 at 7:51 am

    WOW! WHAT A JOURNEY. BUT WHY DOES THE SHOW HOST LOOK DRAB LIKE THE BACKGROUND. NOT GOOD.

  3. me

    June 1, 2015 at 7:53 am

    It is well with you.You will experience a turnaround.Just keep declaring ‘my babies are here’.God is with you.

    • God's Gold

      June 2, 2015 at 12:08 pm

      I stand with you in agreement that our babies are here. Amen

  4. Ada Nnewi

    June 1, 2015 at 7:57 am

    Your children will come in Jesus Name, Amen!

  5. Vidavi

    June 1, 2015 at 8:32 am

    Mennn I celebrate women. We are strong, resilient, endurers, Warriors.. Men should treat us like the rare diamonds we are. Okiki you will be a mom soon, for it is your desire, and so shall it be.

  6. lol

    June 1, 2015 at 8:45 am

    The host was sleepy… wow

  7. nicolefertilechick

    June 1, 2015 at 9:16 am

    Wow! I am beyond moved! God bless you for sharing your story, Okiki! May the Good Lord bless you with beautiful babies soonest! Baby dust to you hun!

  8. o

    June 1, 2015 at 9:33 am

    The Lord will do it speedily, Amen

  9. Blessing

    June 1, 2015 at 10:02 am

    Wao… what a horrific experience!!! I had an ectopic pregnancy too but thank God i haven’t had it again. Have 2 boys and currently pregnant with my 3rd now.

  10. Lulu

    June 1, 2015 at 10:45 am

    Omg, this story just blew me away. Okiki!

    I hope this serves as a lesson to all of us. We as Nigerians have such a nonchalant attitude to our health. We will gladly spend hundreds of thousands on shoes, bags and aso ebi however, to spend 50k on a doctors second opinion seems like a waste..

    And Nigerian hospitals… Lord deliver us.

    This is just such a sad sad story. I really wish she had waited till she had her bundle of joy before giving this interview though… Either way, Okiki, I really pray that this story ends with joy and thanksgiving.

    P.s. Misi looks so sleepy, is she pregnant again?

    • Okiki

      June 1, 2015 at 2:54 pm

      My dear the whole point of giving the interview is to touch the life of the next woman for her to realise this is a journey and silence is not always golden. When my test turns into a testimony I will also share the news. For now let’s give a loud voice to fertility issues. Thanks ?

    • Ty Lolu-Ogunmade

      June 1, 2015 at 8:35 pm

      Hello Okiki, Omilola sent me this link. I am an infertility survivor and have been reaching out to other women. My testimony has aired on Omilola’s Heart of the matter show, Dove eyes show, and on Health monitor. I had a fibroid surgery and i had post surgery complications resulting in irreversible scarring and damage to my uterus., so i could never get pregnant or carry a baby. but today, I am blessed with girl boy twins via gestational surrogacy at the 3rd IVF attempt. Thank you for being brave to share, for being compelled to speak out. The Lord that showed me a way out shall answer your prayers. lets get in touch. we have so much work to do sis! much love

  11. Foyeke

    June 1, 2015 at 10:55 am

    Hi Okiki I admire your strength and confidence to tell your story to the world. I’m a doctor specializing in obstetrics and gynaecology and I understand that infertility brings a lot of stress to couples. In terms of your next ivf cycle, if you’ve had failed cycles it is beneficial for you to have preimplantation genetic diagnosis to figure why you’re having failed cycles and it would improve your chances of a successful ivf cycle. God be with you and your husband .

    • Okiki

      June 1, 2015 at 2:49 pm

      Thank you for this information. I recently did a hysteroscopy and it was all clear. I will take onboard your suggestion. Much appreciated.

  12. Funmi

    June 1, 2015 at 11:24 am

    Proud of you Kiks, your strength is already a testimony but your faith will lead to your bundles of joy ❤

  13. nene+

    June 1, 2015 at 11:25 am

    My hair literally stood on my head as i listened!

    God will give you your desired number of children.

    Hmm God please help and attend to this woman!

    She is amazing

    Your next circle of IVF will give you twins and triplets in Jesus name.

    Baby dust to all seeking for children! Shalom Okiki dearie

  14. nene+

    June 1, 2015 at 11:38 am

    My dear Nigerian women lets pay attention to our health. Married and single!
    It best to do HMO so you don’t feel the financial burden each time you visit the hospital.
    Patronize HMO insurance who can allow you do some fertility investigation and comprehensive test during pregnancy in Nigeria. Mansard does and hopefully the sophisticated ones will do.
    Ask for the package that can enable these investigation. Pricey but worthwhile.

    Nigerian doctors please pay attention, it goes a long way and pays off

    • MiddyO

      June 2, 2015 at 7:41 am

      HMO is not necessarily the best way out, I had a nasty experience last year under HMO in a supposedly good hospital. Attention to detail was almost non existent, and treatment given to self paying patients was superior to those on HMO. Imagine having to remind your Doctor each time of issues you have, despite having your file right in front of him?

      At the end of the day we lost the pregnancy at almost 6 months which could have been avoided if proper care and medical advice was given early enough. It was a clear case of medical negligence, so HMO is out for us, it’s not even an option!

  15. Profound

    June 1, 2015 at 11:52 am

    Hi Okiki, you seem like such a wonderful positive person. I just said a prayer for you. By God’s grace, you’ll receive your bundle(s) of joy soon.

    Did anyone else find it a tad bit inappropriate when the host said “She felt like saying thank God that her parents in law are late”?

    How does she know that they wouldn’t have been very supportive? People are often quick to blame in-laws. I love my parents in-law and I wish people wouldn’t be so quick to label all parents-in-law in such a negative light.

  16. Omo Ghana

    June 1, 2015 at 11:55 am

    God bless you, Okiki! This is the bravest thing I’ve seen/heard in a long while. Thanks for sharing. You are not alone in this journey. God be with us all.

  17. Lea

    June 1, 2015 at 11:56 am

    I didn’t like the “oh wow”,”ok” and all other things the presenter was saying. It was too much. If this was a regular convo between both of you ok. But other people are watching. It’s distracting.

  18. abimbola dare

    June 1, 2015 at 11:57 am

    Wow, what an amazing woman, You will hold your babies. You will have your children. Do not let the devil get you down, Keep your head up because I know God is going to do it in His time. I am inspired by your courage to talk about this so openly. God bless you hun. hugs.
    P.S: your designs are beautiful…:-)

  19. mama dazel

    June 1, 2015 at 12:15 pm

    God will favor you Okiki

  20. Lea

    June 1, 2015 at 12:32 pm

    I find my self saying amen to all the prayers posted for this beautiful, vibrant woman.

    • Omo Ghana

      June 1, 2015 at 12:51 pm

      …and another Amen!!!

  21. cesc

    June 1, 2015 at 12:35 pm

    Okiki you are a strong, Amazing woman!!. Your spirit is beautiful!!! God bless you. I pray God continues to strengthen you. May your Joy never cease..
    I’m struggling to find the words to describe you.. You are STRONG! You are a role model.. Your positivity is awe inspiring .. May God bless you with Children in no time.. I cant wait to rejoice with you… God bless you..

  22. Gold digger

    June 1, 2015 at 12:57 pm

    I got educated today, Thank you Okiki.

  23. Bla

    June 1, 2015 at 1:20 pm

    May God bless you with your many bundle of Joys soon. Not to worry, you’re a young, elegant, vibrant woman… Keep praying and remaining hopeful.. Four things I learnt from the sermon yesterday
    1. Don’t lose your faith
    2. Don’t lose your focus
    3. Don’t lose your footing
    4. Don’t lose your future

    Never get discouraged.. Before the ending of this year and I declare it into your womb and your life, you shall have a healthy growing baby inside of you. I don’t know, but I know God is going to make a miraculous miracle out of you before December… Amen.. ❤️❤️ You

    • Okiki

      June 1, 2015 at 2:44 pm

      I receive it IJN. Thank you and I will be sure to share that testimony with you all ?

  24. Bleed Blue

    June 1, 2015 at 2:51 pm

    Okiki you’re lovely! I’ve met you several times and you’re always so genuine and full of life.

    That life will be recreated in a little bundle of joy very very soon. God bless you and yours.

    PS: You and your hubby are one hawt couple to behold! 🙂

  25. Ify

    June 1, 2015 at 3:00 pm

    makyscorner you need to interview this lady for your blog to encourage

  26. Ify

    June 1, 2015 at 3:02 pm

    She is so beautiful So positive So Inspiring to even us who are not married yet to start praying. I love her already and I wish her twins this year 2015, she will be pregnant. I really hope we get some update. She has no idea how many women she has helped with this interview.

    The interviewer is boring, I wish Toolz interviewed her.

  27. Ify

    June 1, 2015 at 3:19 pm

    Her positivity alone assures me and i have no doubt she will succeed in her next try. If it was me i will be down and out crying like a baby, but this lady has really encouraged me. Leave all to God and shame the devil and keep being positive. If all women had such a positive attitude when we get such bad news.

  28. Mystique

    June 1, 2015 at 4:19 pm

    I love this lady Okiki………God bless you and may your desire of having a child be fulfilled in Jesus Name. You’re so down-to-earth and honest. Truly, we have no control over certain aspects of our lives. We should stay positive no matter the challenges we’re faced with. #thinkingaboutmylife #positiveenergy

  29. omalichaspeaks.com

    June 1, 2015 at 4:50 pm

    Wow!! Okiki, you are one of the strongest people I know. God bless you for sharing your story- like you said, the support system around one really helps make the journey easier and the load lighter. Funny enough this morning I thought about doing a regular column on my blog for women in God’s waiting room for the fruit of the womb. I know God definitely has a reason for all that has happened to you and it will surely end in praise. I admire your positive attiude and courage. God bless you and your husband real good.

  30. chigirl

    June 1, 2015 at 5:50 pm

    OMG, this is the most touching & inspiring interview i’ve ever seen. Such positivity and calmness! God bless you Okiki and grant you your hearts desires. I prophesy triplets into your life in Jesus name amen!!

  31. Bukky

    June 1, 2015 at 6:16 pm

    Okiki may God bless you for sharing this. You are a gem.

  32. Toks

    June 1, 2015 at 6:33 pm

    Okiki, the doctor above recommended PGD which isn’t Hysteroscopy. They are two different things.

    I’m sorry I didn’t watch the video but recurrent miscarriage might just be over active immune..

    This is what worked for me:

    Steroids( Prednisolone) this crosses the placenta.
    Clexane or baby aspirin to thin your blood

    Do you check your progesterone level on getting pregnant? You might need to be on gestone.

    I pray it eventually works out for you as my 7th one did.

    Take care love.

  33. NaijaPikin

    June 1, 2015 at 6:46 pm

    Okiki you are definitely one hella brave woman. Thank you for sharing your journey.

    A lot of things in naija are swept under the table. Don’t talk about it, don’t share your story, just say God did it, finish. By sharing, we learn. Just on this post, someone has offered a suggestion that Okiki seems to think might be useful.

    By sharing, people are encouraged, people have hope, people can create a support system to lean on.

    God will use the right Doctors and the right technology at the perfect time and finish your testimony. It will definitely end in praise.

  34. Buky

    June 1, 2015 at 7:10 pm

    Wow…….what a strong woman you are Okiki. God bless you darling. Am also tryiny, i know the pain women go through, don’t forget to keep declaring what you want every morning you wake up. Very emotional………thanks so much for sharing this, you have really touched my life to keep going. God will perfect all that concerns you and your home. Bless you sis

  35. Jade

    June 1, 2015 at 7:19 pm

    I watched your interview earlier in the day before I left my house and later in the day I got some pretty bad news. Your words just kept on coming back to me, and I was like, babe, you got to keep it moving. You have the most amazing personality and I know you will find the grace to thrive whatever the outcome of this.

  36. Kim

    June 1, 2015 at 9:41 pm

    I am really moved with your courage ma, your story reminds me of my story pass through same journey but i thank God for answering my prayer, he will answer yours too just remain strong. Dont know if you will like to come to Dubai to do it with a very good specialist. Am ready to give you useful advice and tips on how to go about it.

  37. Sisi

    June 1, 2015 at 10:59 pm

    She is definitely going to be a fabulous mum. From the bottom of my heart I pray God blesses her with twins or even triplets. I can’t wait to hear her testimony.

  38. Ty Lolu-Ogunmade

    June 1, 2015 at 11:14 pm

    i cant believe the host said ” you almost want to say thank God” – when Okiki said her inlaws are late

    obviously she meant well but it wasn’t well communicated and was rather insensitive. Misi pls watch out for such

    • Belema

      June 2, 2015 at 1:07 am

      I totally agree with you! A very insensitive comment to make!. Loosing a father or mother in-law is never a thank God situation regardless!

  39. Dara

    June 2, 2015 at 2:59 am

    sorry for all you’d gone thru to start with, this is actually my true life story, just that mine happened at once, I had ectopic pregnancy of a set of twin at the same time in each of my tubes 4month after I got married(we really need to educate young girls) and my tubes was removed……To God be the glory am now a mother of almost 4years old boy after one failed IVF cycle back in Nigeria, Going for another cycle b4 the end of the year by his grace. I can give you details of the hospital I finally had a successful one here in the usa, you might want to contact them.

    Note; I love your courage, you’ll always be in my prayers.

    • Okiki Marinho

      June 2, 2015 at 1:50 pm

      Hello Dara, I am so glad you shared your story with me. I would like to hear more from you. My email address is [email protected] or you can let me know how best to reach you. Thank you and thank God for your turn around.

  40. olab

    June 2, 2015 at 5:23 am

    Thank God for you Okiki. I really admired your courage and move to make a change. I watched the whole interview and couldn’t but come with the scripture that says God turns everything around for good to them that love the Lord. There is a reason for everything under the heavens. I believe God is turning your story to hope for so many women out there, most especially Nigerian women who have been caged with culture and a belief system that has in turn reduce them to objects of ridicule and shame in the hands of men and in-laws. I believe like you have have rightly said that it is high time we start creating support groups that deals, help and support people (women/family) faced with challenges of life (like your story).
    This is my own take from your story and your story has boosted my own faith to keep on believing and never give up. I pray that at the appointed time, just as He visited Sarah, Rachael Hannah, He will visit you and you shall be a mother of children. Your quiver shall be full and you shall definitely smile. God bless

  41. Ore

    June 2, 2015 at 5:25 am

    This is one of the most moving interviews I have listened to in a long while. Okiki, I applaud your courage in sharing your story, especially as you are still on the journey to motherhood. I pray that God will answer your prayers very soon and bless you with healthy babies.

  42. MiddyO

    June 2, 2015 at 8:07 am

    Okiki, youyare such an inspiring woman and I admire your strength and positive attitude. God bless you both and exceed your expectations. I strongly believe sooner than you think you will testify in Jesus name!

  43. Kay

    June 2, 2015 at 2:57 pm

    Hi Okiki, you shall have your testimony very soon in Jesus name. You shall carry your own children and give birth to healthy babies. Thanks for sharing this. I admire your courage for doing so. We will all rejoice with you in less than a year.

  44. Nani

    June 2, 2015 at 6:57 pm

    Okiki Ohh. I’m so happy for you. You are living your destiny, you are inspring, you are strong, you are encouraging; encouraging women to be brave, encourage us to work in partnership with our spouses, honoring your husband, honoring your wonderful parents, educating us, saving lives and living your passion. All in one conversation.

    No weapons formed against us shall prosper, so weapons will form, but none will prosper. Your journey will be to the glory of God IJN.

  45. love

    June 3, 2015 at 3:09 am

    May the Lord grant you your hearts desires even as you have maintained your faith and optimism and shared your journey to help encourage others. On a super super random side note I’ve seen your pictures for years courtesy of mutual facebook friends and I totally expected a different voice when you started speaking..lol. actually love the way you speak- very warm and down to earth..seems like you’d be great person to talk to- real, positive and a woman of faith…sending love and blessings to you!

  46. Seun

    June 3, 2015 at 12:51 pm

    I thank God for the grace He has given you to go through this experience and to bless many lives with your positive attitude. I am certain God will bless you with as many children as you desire and cause your cup to overflow with His blessings. Love you loads girl!

  47. Local chick

    June 9, 2015 at 12:50 am

    Wow! It’s refreshing to hear someone talk about their experience. Our culture is one that can make people feel like infertility, ectopic, recurrent miscarriages are taboos. The more people speak up about these; the easier it is to deal with as women. I’m so happy to see your happy disposition, I know I didn’t deal well when I was thrown my own challenges. You will be in my prayers and as God is alive you will share the joy of holding and cuddling your baby/babies. God bless

  48. A

    July 15, 2015 at 5:09 pm

    God bless you abundantly Okiki.

  49. Aries

    August 5, 2015 at 9:15 am

    First I must commend you Okiki for your courage to share your trials and struggle with fertility. Fertility is an area where a lot of women suffer alone in silence both here in Nigeria and abroad. I’ve been through the infertility struggle. I got pregnant about 3 months before my wedding and of course I was elated and also amazed at how quickly it happened. I was abroad when I suffered my first miscarriage, like you I wasn’t devasted then cause I was like oh it will happen again bla bla and I was preoccupied planning my wedding so I just moved on with my life.

    Then I got married and got pregnant maybe about 9 months after I was excited and then the excitement was cut short, I started to spot from then on I was at the Dr’s maybe every other day doing a scan and doing the hcg level test , the dr Finally diagnosed it as pregnancy of unknown location and because I was doing the hcg tests we saw that the levels were dropping so the dr wasn’t to worried. Ok i must say by now i was very worrried and anxious about getting pregnant and seemed like after the 2nd loss it took forever for me to get pregnant. So my Dr advised I use clomid and try IUI which I did and got pregnant again. Again I prayed cried to God to make this be the baby that will stay but no went through the spotting and hcg testing over again and alas it was like before hcg started dropping and then lost that pregnancy. At this point I decided to get checked (oh forgot to mention that by now I was an expert on infertility issues I became a Google junkie ) and did comprehensive checks and tests abroad on myself and my husband and everything came back fine. So we get back into trying again and then I got pregnant again. This time my husband and I said we should just wait it out no tests no dr appointment etc and I agreed I was tired of the same routine. Fast forward to Christmas of that year we were out having dinner and I had the worst pain ever (in fact it can be compared to labour pain) and then we rushed to the hospital where I was checked and they gave me an overdose of a strong painkiller that I reacted to negatively by having shortness of breath. Everything that could go wrong was just happening all at once. Still in pain I was then referred to a fertility specialist immediately I explained my history and symptoms dr said it was ectopic and I had to be operated on Immediately I was in shock. Anyways had the operation and one tube was taken out with the featus in it. I couldn’t believe it. The Dr said if I had come in any later it may have been a different case. So fast foward to post ectopic surgery started trying again and drs advised that with 1 tube left chances were slimmer bla bla so should try IVF.

    So we embarked on the IVF journey and immunology testing(something about antibodies fighting the growth of featus ) I was there thinking it will be a walk in the park but no way it is very traumatising and depressing . I just thought I would do anything to have a baby and focused more on science and medicine. I started to feel like I had a problem. The IVF was unsuccessful and I was torn into pieces.

    So I just said to myself that I wouldn’t do IVF again cause I couldn’t deal. So I went back to Google did alot of research and then bought a whole load of vitamins and supplements tried to eat healthy and all. And just when I gave up on the drugs and all cause I was tired of everything I got pregnant naturally. Of course I was scared that oh no let this not be a problematic one. But from week to week I saw God work His miracle until I had my testimony my baby.

    After watching your video I just felt the need to share my story because most times we suffer in silence during the infertility trials but there is a supreme being who makes all things beautiful in His time. Okiki I trust that God will grant your desires of making you a proud mum in the best way He thinks is possible to do. And soon you will share your testimony with us in Jesus name. Just keep being strong and positive

  50. Anonym

    September 3, 2015 at 3:24 pm

    I had a surgery that involved taking out 12 pieces of fibrous tissues. After the surgery, I was told my tubes were blocked due to an infection I didnt treat. Now we are starting ivf and I keep praying to God that the first time’s the charm.
    Turns out my infection was chlamydia and I had no symptoms hence going untreated. That caused the blocked tubes. What I want to say is we take for granted the idea of unprotected sex and it doesn’t matter if this is a partner of so long. As long as you are not married to him, always protect yourself. I’m lucky to be married to the most amazing person who doesn’t feel the need to judge my past. My prayer is that the God we serve will build our miracles….

  51. Tamoura, The Apple of God's Eye

    October 8, 2015 at 12:14 pm

    Incredible story Okiki…May God grant you the desires of your heart…
    I had an ectopic as well and started a blog…
    myectopicandbeyond.com

  52. Leona

    December 5, 2016 at 5:20 am

    Look at GOD! There is really Power in the tongue
    Maybe I’ll have IVF Twins, she said
    Now She has them, Boy & Girl. God bless you Okiki and Bolaji
    Overjoyed for you, Jesus is Lord

  53. Som'

    December 5, 2016 at 3:52 pm

    we all said a prayer and God finally answered. Okiki now has a set of twins ( a boy and a girl) God is too good to fail.

  54. Anonymous

    December 12, 2016 at 8:04 am

    Double for your trouble!!! I rejoice with you Okiki. Thank God for your double blessings. Thank God the wait is over!!!! Thank you Lord for this lady and her husband and their beautiful twins. God bless you all.

  55. Ty

    January 5, 2017 at 12:31 pm

    Thank you Lord for Okiki’s bubbles of Joy, you’ve really gone through a lot and u so deserve thus Everlasting joy, and by God’s grace it will never be cut short, so happy for u and ur husband,God bless and keep ur family IJN

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