Multi-hyphenate entrepreneur Toyin Lawani opened up to her fans in a major way today as she shared the harrowing story of her experience with fibroids and recent surgery.
We know a lot of African women are living life with fibroid pains. It is always great when people speak out so kudos to Toyin.
I choose to tell you my story today. Number one, I keep everything in my life under wraps because of the negativity out there.
90 percent of my life doesn’t make it to the Internet. I’ve been through a lot in my life but I’ll let you read all the truth in my book and watch on my reality show “Life of an Entrepreneur”.
A lot of people send me DMs and emails saying how perfect I am, how they want to be like me, how strong I am; Asking how I manage to run 20 businesses and take care of my 2 kids at the same time. I promised myself to always keep going to encourage the people I inspire.
This powerful string woman you see is not perfect. I have my pains, I cry too especially when I’m misjudged, have been betrayed and stabbed in the back severally by friends but I promised myself I was going to make a change for ladies in the industry so I put all my talent to use.
I keep pushing even when they drag my name in the mud. I never show weakness because I hate pity but today, I’ll tell you this; If not for my PR, I’ll post all I went through during the last 10 days, but it’s too horrific but I insisted they televised it for my reality show.
When I had @lilatmfashionista (My daughter, Tiannah), I bled all through the pregnancy, not knowing I was even pregnant till about 5 months. 3 years after I had her, I was having stomach pains and bleeding heavily through my periods. I went to my gynaecologist, he said I had 3 small fibroids and we agreed to take them out through laparoscopic surgery.
I woke up thinking it was done. He said it was on my womb, that I would lose my womb if he did it. I didn’t sign for them to open me up, that they had to do it through major surgery. he said one was on my bladder which made me pee myself when I cough in public and it have me terrible back pains and leg pains. He advised me to have another baby before the surgery. Years after, I got pregnant with (my son) @lordmaine1 despite the consequences, my partner insisted I had the baby. I found out I was pregnant at 4 months like the first time cause I was having periods due to the fibroids. At 5 months, I was bedridden, I had a lot of pains from from the pregnancy. I flew to my gynaecologist in the UK. He said I had something called “Red degeneration” where the fibroids suck the blood from the baby and doesn’t make it grow. The same day, I found out I had gestational diabetes ?. I thought I was going to lose the baby, they changed my diet, I went through non-stop pains till about 7 months, later the baby started growing well and so were the 3 fibroids. They put my sugar levels on check during this period.
With all the pains, I even had a fashion show in the UK @AFWLANDAFWN (Africa Fashion Week London) and no one knew what I was going through, even after the show, I still ended up at the hospital the next day. They couldn’t give me any serious meds all through my pains cause it could affect the baby. Just pain killers so I had to bear the pain. In all this, one day I was sleeping at home and someone sent me a blog story, I read a lot of horrible things about the paternity of my child with a series of lies just to pull me and my brand which I have worked so hard for down.
This worsened my health badly but my partner and mother-in-law stood by me all through; taking care of me and with prayers. They never doubted me once.
During this period, I couldn’t walk, eat, bath myself not talk. Thanks to my partner and brother, they used to bath me and also a sister God sent to me.
The pain stopped at about 7 months, a lot of my old staff had left me by then but I raised a team of interns and worked until I was 8 months and 2 weeks (pregnant) because like everyone, we have bills to pay, I even lost my home and former shops. After I had the baby, I started working on my new site – Tiannah’s Place Empire quietly…leaving some details out but you can read it in my book.
Next day after my birthday on the 2nd of March, I was having fun with family at Federal Palace (Hotel), I started bleeding chunks of blood nonstop. I was rushed to Reddington (Hospital) and collapsed when we got there.
They stopped the bleeding and pleased with me to do the surgery but I kept postponing it because I didn’t want to lose my womb.
It happened again but this time, I couldn’t fly out, a friend told me about a very good Lebanese Hospital and they rushed me there, took the 3 fibroids out and saved my womb. I was so scared of the scar from the surgery but to my surprise, it’s so thin. It’s unbelievable, when I see people with CS scars, I’m like Hell No. Well, I think God for my life and my family for standing by me on my sick bed. Thanks to the wonderful doctors @celebdr Dr Diya you are a wonderful man, Dr Wake, Dr Oke, Dr Valerie, they all made me feel at home. Too many jokes from them and thanks to my online TeamTiannah and my 40 members of staff at Tiannah’s Place Empire that kept the biz going.
Ladies, please check yourselves regularly, imagine if I was so far from the hospital? This is how people bleed to death. Lord, I thank you for your continuous blessings and that I can hold my kids again and have more of them…I’ll serve you forever #ATM
*Edited for Clarity*