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“I am going to have a baby for him, he deserves it” – Monalisa Chinda on Having another Child, her New Marriage & More

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Nollywood actress Monalisa Chinda was unveiled as the cover star for Genevieve Magazine’s May 2016 issue (click here) and now we’ve got a look into her interview with the magazine.

In the magazine she dishes on her amazing love story with new husband Tonye Coker, how she broke the news to her daughter and life as a single mum in Nigeria.

See excerpts below.

On Women And The Pressure To Get Married: Your man will come as long as you are not looking at what makes other marriages work. Do not be fazed by people jumping down from the moon for the sake of pre wedding shoots and think yours has to be like that. Yours can be in the farm. Look at the substance that makes the man and not the theatrics. I didn’t do a pre-wedding shoot because I think I am too old for pre-wedding shoots. I made mine unique in my own way

On Life As A Single Mum In Nigeria: It is a bit of challenge when you have to do everything yourself. You do your school runs, put on the generator, you cook, go to the stores all by yourself. If your mother is not there to give you advice, you advice yourself or talk to God and for me the Holy Spirit was always guiding me. Marriage is always a better option for any woman who is single in this country. Forget 30, once you attain 35 and counting, men in this country call you a dead engine. In your presence they might pretend to admire you but once your back is turned they are cursing you. The way mature single women are treated in this country is traumatic. If you see a post on a successful single woman, majority of the comments are “Go and marry!” But are they going to marry themselves ? At the same time, women should be open minded about marriage.

On Having Another Child: I am going to have a baby for him, he deserves it.

How she knew she had Found The One: I wanted to know more about his character so I watched how he interacted with his family, God, the people around him and his personal business. All of these checked out and even exceeded my expectations. There was so much peace even with his family and friends. I had to give myself this pep talk “Monalisa you are not a child, you are in your forties what do you  want? A tall dark handsome and wealthy man? You have seen all that.” I searched within my soul and honestly if this was not the person I would know deep inside. Even the people around me would tell me. For the first time I knew I had found THE ONE.

For more from her interview – including how she met her husband Tonye Coker, her daughter’s relationship with her real father, the pressure to have an unforgettable wedding, juggling married life and a career and lots more – pick up a copy of the May 2016 issue of Genevieve Magazine.

Source: Genevieve Magazine | Photo Credit: Genevieve Magazine

41 Comments

  1. Udegbunam Chukwudi

    May 11, 2016 at 10:45 am

    He deserves it?! *Scratches head*

    • keke driver

      May 11, 2016 at 11:03 am

      Exactly, what does that even mean?

    • Fleur

      May 11, 2016 at 12:16 pm

      Monalisa please keep your plans to your self. What if your uterus or his sperm does not agree with this your directive? Please manage your mouth and prevent the public from having a say. Also, can you enlighten us on what he did to deserve a child. Seems he accomplished some impossible feat.

    • jade

      May 11, 2016 at 2:26 pm

      Keep scratching your head. Maybe bcos he married her at an older age(when he could have gone for a young babe) and he has no child but wants one. Monalisa, we don hear sha this your love story. Please, keep it to yourself bcos we don’t want any headline of, he beat me, I was a ride or die chick that’s why i didn’t run away.
      Nonetheless, True love is beautiful thing.

    • Flora

      May 31, 2016 at 12:38 am

      OK this might be just me but I feel like she meant that she would like to give him the joy of a child because he treats her so well…. I dunno. I agree with what others below have said though – some things should just not be said publicly. She should have just said “we are considering it” or “haha, we’ll just have to see won’t we?”, “who knows what the future holds” or something….

      Those of you getting all agressive, relax. Haven’t, you ever said something in public and then later realized that you could have spoken differently? She’s human and can also speak out of turn once in a while. Have a heart.

  2. Paul Adeyemo

    May 11, 2016 at 10:49 am

    Monalisa, stop this deceit. Give your marriage at least 2 years before all these self gloriffying interview. Nigeria women and validation, she is referring to the man now as angle hope by 2018, he won’t be d devil. Women are obssessed with marriage while the man in most instances are not really motivated. I remember Tiwa Savage reffering to her husband as removing her shame as a spinster. Today Tee Blitz has brought more shame to TIWATOPE

    • Idomagirl

      May 12, 2016 at 9:12 am

      LMAO. Same way Toyin kept calling her husband “small god” abi “my small god”.
      I weak.

  3. Titilayo

    May 11, 2016 at 10:52 am

    You deserve to be happy,keep it out of the news more please,some negative gossip peddlers are waiting for exclusive report on your case,they attack careers and happy homes.

  4. naijamess

    May 11, 2016 at 11:07 am

    Monalisa, please stop all this nonsense, he deserve a child form you? Dont you deserve a child? Why is that Nigerian women have this stupid mentality? Must women worship men to feel important?

  5. Chinedu

    May 11, 2016 at 11:08 am

    This Monalisa! Everytime she opens her mouth I cringe. She makes marriage seem like a do or die affair. And who cares about what men say behind your back. Does it add or subtract from the money in your bank account? Did being married make you more famou than Genevieve or Rita the single ladies? If not shut up and make us hear word.

    • Engoz

      May 11, 2016 at 1:27 pm

      I don cringe tire for this woman. Everything that comes out of her mouth is cringeworthy. It’s like she’s begging and crying to be abused again. People like this are not even emotionally stable for marriage and we should be very wary of them. She should cool down for goodness sake or preferably go to counselling sessions, because she obviously feels worthless without a husband and she should not even try to hide it by blaming ‘the society’.

  6. Hope you don't live near Banana estate?

    May 11, 2016 at 11:16 am

    Alot of marriages are in crisis keep away from the marriage is bad group, and career destroyers association.

    • Lucinda

      May 11, 2016 at 12:13 pm

      If you like cut off all your single friends after marriage, If you marry a bad person or you yourself have a repulsive attitude, your marriage won’t work regardless of who you associate with.

  7. beauty

    May 11, 2016 at 11:25 am

    Very realistic interview…

  8. deede

    May 11, 2016 at 11:27 am

    I think men and women are both pressured to get married in our society but the extent to which the different genders are is debatable.

    Men are not mostly bothered because they know it’s their choice, that’s if they are not the “the (broke) Beast” looking for “Beauty”. They can shrug off aunties and parents who keep throwing them willing “bones” for reasons best known to them. The women on the other hand know it’s not really up to them…in the sense that they can’t really propose to the man. So this adds some extra pressure and the daunting reality that no one might ever propose.

    So I suggest aunties and parents focus more on pushing the men to marry than putting the ladies through hell with their constant “are you not married…is there no man?” “you can’t leave it till late oooo…your child bearing years are almost over” talk.

  9. Cheekie

    May 11, 2016 at 11:36 am

    ‘He deserves it’…Really? How? Why?
    To me there is everything wrong with this statement, so what happens if you can’t have that ‘he deserves it child’? Why even say it in an interview,it would be nice if you both have a child,yes. But saying he deserves it sounds like it’s his birthright.
    From an older woman who has been married before and dated after,i expect some comments should be kitchen table talk. Please stop granting interviews on your marriage just yet.
    We women sef na wa for us o

    • Moyo

      May 11, 2016 at 12:19 pm

      He deserves it, because he married her, she must be suffering from low esteem issues. Instead of saying they will both love to have a child. She should stop granting interviews and focus on the marriage.

    • chigurl

      May 11, 2016 at 2:05 pm

      Perhaps she is saying if it were up to me no, but since he wants a child we will give it a go, not everything is about low self esteem it can be a compromise.

  10. Shalom.

    May 11, 2016 at 11:38 am

    “”people jumping down from the moon for the sake of pre wedding shoots””. Hahahaha! Rivers/Bayelsa people just have a way of dropping unique turns of phrases in their speech without even thinking about it; there’s this direct, blunt, frank freshness in their speech. They’re unfiltered or almost unfiltered in their speech. It doesn’t matter the level of education or wealth, some way, somehow, you will see it. e.g. Monalisa Okoye, Julius Agwu, Rotimi Amaechi, etc.

    Sincere congratulations to her but please, do keep the marriage out of the media. You owe the public nothing, most especially not your personal life and opportunity for happiness.

  11. Engoz

    May 11, 2016 at 11:43 am

    Any time this one opens her mouth on relationships, it always comes across as ridiculous and dumb. There is nothing to learn here as usual from Monalisa Chinda.

  12. Monalisa monalisa monalisa.hmmmmm

    May 11, 2016 at 11:51 am

    How many times did I call you?be like the palm tree and be a shed over your family,negative rumors peddlers are waiting for juicy news,the other aunty.com.Always alert at cases like yours,be careful,I have said my own.

  13. Tosin

    May 11, 2016 at 11:53 am

    love yourself – Justin Bieber (iz also in goggu)

    she’s older than Tiwa, who once gave the quotable “my fiance took away my shame” , i mean just a few months ago it feels like . that was when i quadruple-confirmed Tiwa was a stupid girl, no disrespect. if she was five years old, ok, maybe, still growing, but why are so many women so stupid into old age? please don’t be angry with the use of the word stupid, just forgive me for not being tactful and help with a solution.

    i don’t know how this happens, but i do know they pretty much always turn around and attack their small god. the husband should actually tell her to stop.

    most women are ridiculous – to me. fact.
    most women only start to make sense to me after advancing greatly in years. another fact. why?

    • Mr. Egghead

      May 11, 2016 at 12:20 pm

      | ” . . . but why are so many women stupid into old age?”

      ? ? ? ?
      If you google that question, there are over 2,000,000 result

    • Engoz

      May 11, 2016 at 1:29 pm

      Tosin see as you finish us on top Monalisa! Lol.

  14. Adaobi

    May 11, 2016 at 11:55 am

    Monalisa face your marriage stop this media hype.’ You don start’

  15. Ewa

    May 11, 2016 at 11:59 am

    Whatever rocks your boat Mona…

  16. monalisa

    May 11, 2016 at 12:19 pm

    Common Sense is like deodorant. The ppl who need it the most never use it….

  17. Be careful,they won't stop until they get exclusive.

    May 11, 2016 at 12:21 pm

    Until they reported exclusively on Tiwa’s matter,before they left her,be careful,some single ladies are looking for one,you are rocking second or third man.hmmmmmm

  18. pretty

    May 11, 2016 at 2:25 pm

    Mtschw! CURRENTLY IN Jupiter!

  19. xxxx

    May 11, 2016 at 2:42 pm

    Come. U people should leave her alone. That wasn’t d only thing she said. Bellanaija went to go and highlight d tng now it’s making history.
    If she no wan born nko. U go kill am. Ehn yes, he is a good man to her so a a forty something (47 sometin) woman whose body might be tired, whose child is at a risk of having downs syndrome or some autistic trait says she will try becos HE deserve am.
    No vex. Please Buhari is talking of looted fund and working wit Oga Cameron, go and vent there.
    Warm regards

  20. deingreat

    May 11, 2016 at 4:40 pm

    The comments even more than the interview granted by Mona is what beats me. I have always wondered at the amount of emotion displayed by a lot of BN commentors. Too much emotion really over another persons life! Why drink panadol for another persons headache, lol.. Its their life after all ! And @ shalom, your swipe at people from Rivers/ Bayelsa State was in bad taste really. Am sure just like people from your own state of origin you have the good, the bad and the ugly. So picking out a particular ethnicity or state just to pass snide remarks about them is unecessary. You have used a good psuedo name “shalom” kindly so potray its true meaning in your future remarks.

  21. JustSaying

    May 11, 2016 at 5:12 pm

    Couples who have married for less than five years and keep showing off on social media posting posting posting or granting interviews upandan really pass me off.

    NO wonder the marriage never llast. Pior pior pior always talking. And its always the women who brag, hardly do u see the men bragging about them. Women you are your own worst enemies. Mona Lisa spend your time off interviewing and more time praying this last and come back ten years later to grant interview left right just to stay relevant by fire by force.

    Shut up already. When you are married for 10,20,30,,40 years then you can talk.

    You are no example sweetie. So sit down and have several seats

  22. kay

    May 11, 2016 at 5:50 pm

    World people. . Not everything has to do with low self-esteem you know.
    My interpretation of her statement is that her husband has been/is ‘amazing’ to her and she just wants to please him in return. There are times you want to bend over backwards for someone, especially because that person has done same for you.

    So, it’s not always about low self-esteem or seeing marriage as the ultimate goal.
    Let us be slow to chastise people. There are more than 1 perspective to life and issues.

  23. nene

    May 11, 2016 at 6:22 pm

    this woman seems insecure and unintelligent

  24. trey

    May 11, 2016 at 6:48 pm

    I actually did not see anything wrong with this interview. She is married and she is happy and she is truthful and realistic. So why cant we be happy for her. Yes Tiwa’s marriage broke up and so. Be consoling yourselves there. My first marriage broke up in 1 and a half but I have been happily married to my 2nd husband for 15 years. My first husband was very wealthy and gave me everything but love and attention. My second husband and I built our wealth from scratch. A couple of friends laughed at me when I tried to remarry but then I was still in my 20’s. Yes I gushed about him and yes he did deserve children and we had some! So many people are frustrated and unhappy, why????? Forget low self esteem and keep an open mind. There is a happy ending for every woman out there if only you will believe. I love God and I bloody love romance – Who would have thought?

  25. PD Young Billionaire

    May 11, 2016 at 9:11 pm

    Ok ,give birth to the baby first before you start making noise.

  26. Faith over fear

    May 12, 2016 at 1:14 am

    Faith over fear all day long, Speak life at all times and you will get what you ask for.

  27. Good husband actually take away shame

    May 12, 2016 at 3:49 am

    Tiwa was right with that quote,Due to family and societal pressures,it becomes sometimes very shameful for ladies in mid thirties and above if they are yet to marry,to be married is called settling down,Not being married at certain age makes some people assume the lady to be wayward,with all the good stories of Linda,we remind her also always to settle down,because the more people start to know you with four or five male “just friends” some will even call you prostitute to your face,So we as a society must change our orientation,#Enjoying my darlin by Tiwa

  28. Nothing stupid about Tiwa,Good husband can take away your shame!!

    May 12, 2016 at 3:53 am

    Tiwa was right with that quote,Due to family and societal pressures,it becomes sometimes very shameful for ladies in mid thirties and above if they are yet to marry,to be married is called settling down,Not being married at certain age makes some people assume the lady to be wayward,with all the good stories of Linda,we remind her also always to settle down,because the more people start to know you with four or five male “just friends” some will even call you prostitute to your face,So we as a society must change our orientation,#Enjoying my darlin by Tiwa

  29. Tiwa ke on top of Monalisa's matter.?

    May 12, 2016 at 5:02 am

    You are very stupid…sorry……..meant to say very Ignorant of the force of love,why call her stupid?Don’t you know that love makes strange bedfellows,It’s amazing how stupid someone can be when in love,that’s how powerful loving feeling can be.Afterall Kenneth Okonkwo the main actor in living in bondage,once called the ex- wife his omalisha,daily oxygen,backbone and so on,He has remarried now for 9years plus and the second wife just gave birth,men and women can miss- Gan when in Love my brother.

  30. Idomagirl

    May 12, 2016 at 9:18 am

    Monalisa you haven’t learnt anything from all the drama this year?

    Keep your personal/private matters as far from the media as possible.

    And all these our actresses sef, every interview is spent talking about marriage and babies or who goes to the market in their family, do their male counterparts talk about their personal lives this much?

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