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On Becoming: Maje Ayida moves to stop sales of Toke Makinwa’s Memoir | Threatens Lawsuit



Toke Makinwa and Maje at their Wedding in January 2014

Maje Ayida, the estranged husband of media personality Toke Makinwa has hired law firms from the UK and Nigeria to see to the stoppage of sales of Toke’s Memoir – On Becoming – released November last year.

Maje’s lawyers sent Toke a “letter of demand” to that effect.

Toke had written about her relationship with Maje, accusing him of cheating while they were dating and even after they got married. She also accused him of infecting her with Sexually Transmitted Diseases (STDs).

The legal documents describe the book as nothing but “exaggerated fabrication,” adding that it contains “defamatory words”.

The law firms the fitness expert hired are Carter-Ruck, a leading defamation law firm in the UK to top figures like Simon Cowell, Elton John and Chelsea FC, while Kemi Pinheiro (SAN) of Pinheiro LP is heading the legal front in Nigeria.

Things fell apart between Toke and Maje in 2015 after the former discovered that the latter impregnated a lady while they were married.

TheCable‘s report read:

The Bone of Contention

According to the letter of demand sent to Makinwa, her estranged husband was said to have “requested legal separation” from her “within 6 months” of their marriage in January 2014 — “when it became clear that the marriage was breaking down”.

Toke was alleged to have signed a legal separation agreement in July 2014, TheCable Lifestyle was informed.

The letter said it was well documented that Makinwa and Ayida had agreed to separate by July 2014, which the book failed to record.

“The book misleadingly describes the circumstances at the time,” the letter read.

Pinheiro LP, the Nigerian law firm, said it was untrue that Maje had given her an “STI in the past or at any stage in their relationship.”

The law firm also noted that it was “highly misleading” for the book to allege that Maje “did not financially contribute adequately” to the marriage.

“The publicity sought by you has been relentless, and limitless,” said Adebowale Kamoru in the letter of demand, on behalf of Pinheiro LP.

Effect of the book on Maje’s Career

The law firm further noted that the publication has brought “public ridicule” on Maje, noting that his reputation has been “assaulted, injured and damaged.”

“His professional integrity as one of the leading health and wellness practitioners in Nigeria, and his professional credibility built over the years through dedicated hard work have been besmirched”, the letter said.

According to the law firm, Toke’s representation of Ayida in the book was “not a true reflection of who he is, his character and his background.”

Maje’s Demands

Maje Ayida, through his lawyers, has, among other things, informed Toke to retrieve the already-sold books and stop all forms of distribution, TheCable Lifestyle understands.

The letter mandated Makinwa to “withdraw from circulation all copies of the book and take immediate steps to call in all copies of the book already distributed and deliver up same at the place to be agreed upon by our client for destruction.”

It further said a failure by the popular celebrity to “retract” the “published words” and tender a full page unreserved apology to Maje Ayida in three national dailies “will result in the commencement of legal action.”

Makinwa was also advised to “take immediate steps” to stop the distribution of the books on Amazon, iTunes and all forms of promotion on her social media accounts.

She was given seven days upon receipt of the letter to comply with the demands or they’d be forced to seek legal redress.

The warning letter was said to have been delivered to Toke on Monday, December 23, 2016.

Toke is set to hold a book reading in Ghana on Friday, February 3.

It can’t be immediately confirmed whether she received the letter of demand.

See the letter below:


  1. Ec

    February 3, 2017 at 7:41 am

    Too late, copies are everywhere. Sit down

    • Bleed Blue

      February 3, 2017 at 8:08 am

      It’s not too late, it’s actually the appropriate time (sigh…it’s so sad when people who once truly loved each other get to this sort of low point).

      Okay back to the point of whether or not it’s “too late”, let me wear my lawyer hat.

      It is in fact because copies are everywhere that a defamation suit may become necessary. There are slight variances from one jurisdiction to another but generally speaking, for a defamation claim to be valid, the complainant must prove:
      1. That what is written is false
      2. That the falsehood has been viewed by a third party or third parties
      3. That the falsehood has caused quantifiable harm in some way i.e. his reputation, his business, his relationships etc.

      I wonder how this will play out, but for Maje to hire these sorts of serious lawyers…he’s not here to joke around…sigh…

    • o

      February 3, 2017 at 8:31 am

      I knew ppl would come saying it’s too late bla bla but it isn’t. Better later than never. The fact that someone has said something bad about you and ppl believe it all, doesn’t mean you shouldn’t take action because gist is already out there.

    • ec

      February 3, 2017 at 8:54 am

      @bleedblue great points. i meant too late in the sense that she has spilled tea on him, whether true or not. and many people are further feeling some time of way about Maje.

      Also this suit will just bring her more publicity equaling sale.

      someone that loved you so can also be the cause of your attempted downfall

    • Lelora

      February 3, 2017 at 9:38 am

      I totally agree!
      There’s some serious money to be made here.

    • Cynical

      February 3, 2017 at 10:00 am

      Ghen ghen…….where is my popcorn and soda???? This soap opera is about to get really interesting. Toke,I hope your friends especially the ones who told you that writing a book was a good idea will be close by now. @ bleed blue, you are a lawyer?? ??

    • Seriously

      February 3, 2017 at 11:11 am

      @bleed Blue
      That’s right lawyer.
      No big deal, lawsuits happen all the time. I can sue Bella naija for not posting my comment sometimes? but I saw this coming.
      Maje has a lot to prove though that these claims are false. He’s trying to bully and intimidate her.
      He will have to show his medical records that he doesn’t have STD and show there were not intimate around that time. Therefore, Toke got STI from someone else.
      He will have to prove he didn’t cheat on her while they were together and have two kids. Toke didn’t write any bogus, malicious personal thing in the book.
      He will have to prove how much this whole thing has affected his life and business on a larger scale. But this is where whatever action you do, there’s consequence.
      Toke has every right to write about her life and experience.
      He really doesn’t have a lot to defend here. Men are just not used to women blasting them for their terrible behavior.

      Go Toke, I’m rooting for you.

    • bijouxthisbijouthat

      February 3, 2017 at 12:13 pm

      Your comment is spot on…
      So you visit SDK-Blog? because this same comment has been pasted there several times… and yes Stella put her story up before BN so it cant be someone copied from here to there..
      Just pointing out this because the way people here turn up their noses at LIB,SDK etc, you would think you wouldnt touch it with a 50ft pole..

    • Dee

      February 3, 2017 at 1:16 pm

      bijouxthisbijouthat , calm yourself and investigate well before typing.

      It’s not about which blog posted first, it’s about which comment came first. Bleedblue comment was at 8:08am and the SDK comment was 9:54am, almost 2 hours after. The person obviously came here to do copy and paste.
      When will you people get over this nonsense of trying to pitch blog visitors against each other? abeg swerve.

    • Maje is Wack

      February 3, 2017 at 10:45 pm

      I hope Toke was a wise girl and published the book under a business name with zero assets to its name, so he can sue all he wants and get nada

    • Ife

      February 3, 2017 at 9:07 am

      If this is her version of the truth . He has no right to sue her, but if she indeed lied then he could do so. This guy just wants to bless this lady with international publicity . If women rights activist get on this matter , this story may eventually penetrate international market . Emotional abuse is real and a lot of women are dealing with this . If Toke stands with the fact that the book is to liberate women . This guy just indeed helped her market. Having said that this man is not wood expected him to file a suit , but Toke would have also considered this earlier. At the end of the day what we’ve learnt is be responsible for your life and for the life of those who put their lives in your care. A woman may be desperate which I think is a psychological issue but it’s not a good thing to exploit it. Some people want to play life because they have the financial prowess but when the game switches on them . They can hardly take half of what they dished out .

    • Fast cars

      February 3, 2017 at 9:23 am

      Woman rights activists cannot get on this matter, you know why?
      1. He did not physically abuse her.
      2. He did not verbally abuse her.
      3. He didn’t interfere with her career advancement.
      His crime was that he did not return her love with equal fervor with which she gave it (some people call that emotional abuse but hey, theres no formal police for that)

    • AceOfSpades

      February 3, 2017 at 9:29 am

      Clap for yourself Ife. Women like to claim emotional abuse as if they don’t also abuse men emotionally and I think women are the greatest culprit sef. You think saying he doesn’t support financially isn’t emotional abuse? Publicly too?

      You are saying women right activist? Please who? Oh Linda Ikeji and Bellanaija abi that are thinking of how to secure the future of their kids born and unborn? You people will just be using emotions to fight. Ok you think lawyers that took this up didn’t think of that? He took this long to come out means he has weighed his options well. She doesn’t have any right to spill with his exact name like that. Even your best friend will write a book and say nasty things about you that will ‘feel’ true from little that people already know about you.

      She is profitting on his NAME! Look at lemonade by Beyoncé, wether true or not, she won’t even try to dare to mention the woman she claimed her husband was cheating on even though fans would support her if she did.

      In the end, the joke might be on all of us. Maybe Maje has his cut and this is his part in the marketing strategy. Toke and Maje might be on the phone right now talking about the cash flow.

    • kess babay

      February 3, 2017 at 9:41 am

      @fastcars, well…women right activists dont have a selection of abuses they attend to.
      Emotional, verbal, physical., you name it! they are there to fight as long as a woman is involved. PLUS THEY CAN ARGUE THAT emotional abuse is the worst kind of abuse any one can have.
      while physical wounds may heal, emotional and verbal could lead to trauma and social disconnect among others.

    • Seriously

      February 3, 2017 at 2:27 pm

      @Aceof spades
      Beyonce’s example is off. She’s an artist who sings about different topics. If she sings about cheating, she most likely don’t know who her hubby cheated on her with and if she knows she won’t mention her name. Or she was just singing a damn song in general.
      Toke wrote a memoir which means her personal stories, experiences that occur in her life. The only thing here is, if her and husband signed a contract to not use his name then she refused to comply to the contract. But that wasn’t the case here.
      She has nothing to lose.
      It reminds me of when super head wrote a book about the rappers she slept with. She mentioned their names and some she kept it private.

    • Emo

      February 9, 2017 at 2:41 pm

      Emotional abuse has become a thing and is becoming more and more recognized internationally, sorry to burst your bubble. Toke shouldn’t back down, let him take her to court abroad, cry on camera…he’ll pay he in ££££s and she’ll get international exposure! I’m a solicitor and will appear on Toke’s behalf beef up her defence for nothing.

      Toke has a following so strong, Maje should be very afraid.

    • Timb

      February 3, 2017 at 11:10 am

      Not too late!!. The beauty of this move is that there is now money for compensation if he can prove his case.

    • Anne

      February 4, 2017 at 7:26 pm

      Very sad. Even if Maje wins. It won’t change things in Africa. Anita has his baby. I did not know Maje until that happened. People know stuff already and that is difficult to erase. A legal document will not deter them especially folks in this part of the world.

    • Yuy

      February 9, 2017 at 5:52 am

      The only way maje wins is id Toke has fishbrained lawyers. He is claiming they separated in 2014, how the those he explain the groveling on Instagram when she moved out? He is a joker. How does he intend to prove that he dis not infect her wirh STI if she has evidence to show she had STI while they were cohabitating? By subjecting himself and Anita to test? He loves this attention, is all I see. What a bully. Except Toke doesnt seem to be taking his shit anymore.

  2. o

    February 3, 2017 at 7:45 am

    About time too!!!…….

    • hello kitty

      February 3, 2017 at 8:40 am

      About damn time!!!

    • Bubu

      February 3, 2017 at 10:16 am

      @Acesofspade u say they are in this together or Maje is also profiting from it, that will be totally ridiculous for him to drag his name in the mud for how much? Do u know what this does to his person, no matter where he goes, this will always taunt him, his children, I saw a video of him online having like a motivational session with a group of young people I don’t know what the program was about but I could not take my mind off that image of him that Toke has put out there. This book is going all over the world and there is no way it will not affect his image or even his career.

  3. Osa

    February 3, 2017 at 7:47 am

    Maje my bende brother, I feel for you.

    But you asked for it like many many men have bashed women in the past in all ways. emotionally, physiologically, physically etc That’s the only advantage of that book I see.

    Men should be ready to be hit below the belt, when they treat women like sub-humans. They will cheat, lie, make the woman feel the fool, on top their philandering and evil ways.

    See what FFK did to that Vivian lady, and he appears to be winning
    Always feeling they can get any women at any time (That one is true though especially with women who have no regard for themselves)
    Toke no shaking, nothing do you.

    • Osa

      February 3, 2017 at 7:55 am


    • Razor

      February 3, 2017 at 3:02 pm

      He didn’t treat her like sub human, she knew all along that he was unfaithful and didn’t love her as much, but she chose to stay back because she lacked self esteem.
      Maje wasn’t in love with Toke, he was just scared to hurt her and therefore stayed out of pity… If the media didn’t carry the news of Anita’s pregnancy, Toke would still be on Instragram giving FAKE #coupleGoals.
      I am not here to defend infidelity, but I hate women playing victims unnecessarily. Toke went too far and she should take responsibility for her actions, this is not time to quote bible verses.

    • Temi

      February 4, 2017 at 8:04 am

      Please how did she go too far??? I think the society expects a woman to seat back and accept philandering but “understands” if it’s a woman philandering her husband can do as he pleases. I don’t see how Toke went too far . I’m so happy for her really that whatever scales were over her eyes before fell off. She’s making good of a bad situation I really think it’s stupid of maje to add insult to injury with this so called “lawsuit ” that even claims he wanted to seperate from her 6 months after their marriage. Hahaha this is a joke … seriously am I the only one that this sounds like “taking action instigated by the other woman” to? No be this same Maje write for blog say him sorry Linda Ikeji leave my wife bla bla lol now saying he wanted to seperate 6 months ago. Seriously maje is a well known womaniser why the book dey vex am I no know. I suspect he too wants to make some money out of the drama. Also all this story too make him sound like some accomplished fitness instructor lol hahaha abeg tokes fame also helped his business! Let’s all be FACTUAL. Even if Toke lied or make the book more “sellable ” which I doubt that’s what books are about! So it’s ok if she wrote a fictional version with false names? I for one enjoyed reading the book and seriously forget all this fiasco noise that babe is going places … the book is a page turner she should write more or hire whoever helped her with this

  4. Flow

    February 3, 2017 at 7:51 am

    Ghen ghen! book wey people don read finish? you cannot retrieve its contents from people’s memory na. This is getting messier by the minute, it begs to ask if there was a point they were ever really in love.

    • Osa

      February 3, 2017 at 7:53 am

      Toke loved him obviously.HE OBVIOUSLY NEVER REALLY DIDN’T. Unfortunately, this stupid hope and shameless desperation that women always find themselves caught up in, got the better of her.

    • #Proudnigerian

      February 3, 2017 at 8:14 am

      And you know this because? ? You were the third party in the relationship please take several seats. There are three sides to a story. You read her part and you think you know all the jots or title of the relationship. TOKE played the victim now Maje should not defend himself? Abegiiii. Then again telling the world what you went through doesn’t make you heal!! A lot of people share their life on social media and are still depressed. Aunty Toke I was never in support of this book! But then again it’s your choice. Maje do what is necessary it is also your choice!. And to yee delusioned misandrists that will come under the cloak of being feminists I have no words for you. “Toke loved him obviously” hysterical!! Like I have always said “wickedness ” is never gender bias. Do not watch from the side lines and think you know what goes on in the arena!!

    • Na

      February 3, 2017 at 8:53 am

      Toke lies a lot…… take what she says with a pinch of salt ..

    • osa

      February 3, 2017 at 3:05 pm

      So many bloody male chauvinists on this thread. If you can’t read between the lines then im sorry you might just be a fool

    • osa

      February 3, 2017 at 3:06 pm

      Im talking to you #proud nigerian

  5. Mystery

    February 3, 2017 at 7:56 am

    Maje, maje , maje how many times did I call you.. Kindly respect yourself and sit down oo.. Toke makinwa would obviously have considered the legal implications before publishing that book.. Hmmm you don’t want onbecoming part 2.. Just respect yourself because not only will sti come out in part 2 every other minute details would follow .. Oniranu Abeg toke give him 2 percent of d sale proceeding .. Nigga is broke

    • maymay

      February 3, 2017 at 10:56 am

      very broke

    • Dee

      February 3, 2017 at 1:45 pm

      Broke how? With all these plenty lawyers?
      Chai Maje, this your sweet mouth is not for only toasting fine fine girls, you’re also using it to get free legal services. I hail o!


      February 3, 2017 at 12:11 pm

      He’s broke and he’s hiring these kinds of lawyers? doesn’t make sense. Or maybe it’s his family handling it.


    February 3, 2017 at 8:01 am

    Ah, at last, he’s finally lost his cool!!! I was already wondering if this guy was made of ice. Waiting for Anita’s turn.

    • Biscuit

      February 9, 2017 at 2:57 pm

      Anita can’t sue o. If any suing was to be done, it would be Toke suing Anita for alienation of affection. E.G. Nike Oshinowo and that doctor’s wife. So Anita’s mouth has to stay “pim”. ladies if your husband will cheat at all, pray he deeps his “ahem” into someone without stds and who has plenty money. If you can’t get even, at least get rich.


    February 3, 2017 at 8:03 am

    Kemi Pinhero, the name sounds familiar…..he or she is/used to be Chris Oyak’s lawyer abi?

    • Anon

      February 3, 2017 at 10:25 am

      Yes. Also a Prosecuting Counsel for the EFCC. If you remember the MOBITEL story c2005, he was the Receiver/Manager.

  8. BigJoy

    February 3, 2017 at 8:03 am

    Why do i see it that Maje wants to make some financial cut from the sales of this book, hence the lawyers. Book that has been out since november?? SHior!!

  9. Amethyst

    February 3, 2017 at 8:04 am

    Loool im sure Toke is thinking (in falz voice)…”o! You think that you are a player i will show you pele”..haahaa i lav in spanish boda wasiu(slk comedy) please call uncle Maje……they should come and collect my copy naa…..f

  10. Yourgirltgirl

    February 3, 2017 at 8:08 am

    We are about to became lol… someone put my amebo self to sleep… I legit came on Bella just for gossip chai! Anyways, I hope toke get good lawyers ooo…. chai! She is going to spend a huge percentage of her fighting this case on top fuck boys… I seriously believe he gave her STD, I feel bad for her sha, because Maje family knows prominent people:..i seriously Pray that she wins this one… on the other note we await part 2 of I have becamed lol Becahse we all know toke silence equals more business strategy! You go girl! Black girl magic! Bestselling blah, blah lol

    • Abi

      February 3, 2017 at 9:52 pm

      Toke behaved like a Nigerian. Anyhow.
      No consideration of consequences just vomiting insecurities and acting on emotions. Anyhow behaviour.
      This issue will not blow over just yet. I envisage a public retraction and Toke claiming depression blah blah blah.

  11. Yourgirltgirl

    February 3, 2017 at 8:09 am

    Amebo didn’t allow me process my thoughts properly lol

  12. Nadia

    February 3, 2017 at 8:13 am

    Hello Maje, you are late to the party! A lot of people have read the book. Some even have it stored on their devices. Can you change that? Please don’t waste your resources fighting a lost cause. You need the money for child support!

    • Abi

      February 3, 2017 at 10:01 pm

      Nadia you’re missing the point. This is the best time to sue. She was making noise while he kept quiet and pursued his career more visibly than ever giving him a more public image that she with a libellous defamatory missive maliciously attempted to destroy due to a marriage that legally lasted 6 months. Proof of this maligning of his character can be found on the internet.
      Can Toke prove that her STI, if indeed she had one, came from him? (A woman that would admit to this sef!) Don’t forget Toke has publicly encouraged women to have one night stands and casual sex.
      Can she prove that he did not provide financially during their marriage?
      Read the docs very well. These people have done their homework. Toke allowed fame to confuse her.
      Let’s hope Abike Dabiri can offer her more than MC services this time around.

  13. Teekay

    February 3, 2017 at 8:15 am

    The both of them need to settle their differences, they are not the first to separate so why come to the public to make noise

    • Jami

      February 3, 2017 at 10:08 pm

      Na she shout pass abeg. Her husband refused to ejaculate inside her. That’s all I see when I hear her name. Her begging for ejaculation in that her fake accent.
      All the women in support of her are very wicked sha. Some of y’all can’t even tell people your real age.

  14. Ifeanyi

    February 3, 2017 at 8:22 am

    This guy is not Joking! Look at the sort of Lawyers he went to Hire.

    If he can prove that what was written in the Book is False or rather inaccurate, that is has caused his public harm…then I think Toke is in for some Big Shit.

    Cunny man die…Cunny man go Bury am.

    We wait.

    • sugar

      February 3, 2017 at 3:50 pm

      I thought they said hes a broke man. Where did he get money to hire all this top Lawyers? MAje must have done money ritual to have enough funds to do this

  15. Reverse

    February 3, 2017 at 8:28 am

    It’s funny how many here are already attacking Maje for seeking redress, whatever happened to “3 sides of a story”? Women must stop playing victim. You willingly stayed in a relationship and later go as far as publishing only your side. Now we are here bashing him for trying to get his side out; many would have preferred he wrote a book I guess. Anyway if it gets to court, she’d know what real dirt means because all will be made known.

    • Manny

      February 3, 2017 at 6:23 pm

      You are right about the dirt. Maje may not get his reputation back but in the back and forth, some undesirable truths about Toke will also be made known. Much more undesirable truths than the ones she admitted to in the book. You don’t write such a book unless you’re squeaky clean. Maybe she is/was.
      Looking at the dates, It seems as if Anita got pregnant while Maje was legally separated from Toke.

  16. o

    February 3, 2017 at 8:33 am

    It’s not about ppl reading it. Even if the whole world has read it. If there were lies in the books, he deserves to fight it. Simple.

  17. Fifi

    February 3, 2017 at 8:52 am

    Maje should drag her thank God he received sense

  18. Toke saying God will fight for her

    February 3, 2017 at 8:56 am

    This idiot is now saying God will fight for her….hehehe

    Abegi leave God out of it, go and face it.

    When you were trying to make money and doing girl power shit, blackmailing the guy, you think say na moimoi. You are simply an opportunist!

    We all have been thru bad relationships and hardly do you see people exploit like you have done. You heart is simply evil and wicked. All you cared about was the fame, the media and the money.

    Since you didnt consider GOD in killing a fellow human/ex/ husband/ by writing that shit, dont talk about God too in the lawsuit.

    Maje, please file for 100bn damages. Let her sell all she has and still go and borrow to pay for it…..omo ori atan lasan lasan

    • #Proudnigerian

      February 3, 2017 at 9:34 am

      My dear! How can you call God when you were not slow to speak and quick to understand? Didn’t wait on the Holy Spirit to lead and guide you. She should gear up Maje has been chilling on when to make a move. I am very sure he had this on ground since the book was released. He was probably waiting for the rave to subside. It’s a pity these two people were once married. Marriage is not a contract but a CONVENANT. God help us all. Abeg the “idiot” is not called for??

  19. Deb

    February 3, 2017 at 8:58 am

    I’m a lawyer. We are in Nigeria, Maje should forget it. The case Will only give birth to judicial precedence and maybe damages on evidence of bad character which if proved beyond reasonable doubt he might not get damages. Toke I’m behind you. Most men are badly raised hence they misbehave. Women train your sonss very well…

    • Questions

      February 3, 2017 at 9:33 am

      Are you speaking as a lawyer or someone who is biased? Most men are badly raised? What has that got to do with the law? Let us stop belittling the effect of the law in Nigeria and I am shocked that as a lawyer you are not even confident in your profession to act in a just manner.

      I saw on the news recently a Lawyer who took MTN to court for charging him 50Naira for a caller tune, he didn’t subscribe for. He won the case and was awarded like more that 5million naira in damages, although MTN will push for an appeal (which is normal), it shows that the law still works in Nigeria.

    • Pita

      February 3, 2017 at 3:27 pm

      What do u expect from a charge and bail lawyer!

    • hello kitty

      February 3, 2017 at 10:43 am

      I didnt see him asking for damages. so maybe the money is not important to him, he just wants the damage to his reputation to end.

    • Sisi

      February 3, 2017 at 11:56 am

      This is what I am thinking, I’m not a lawyer but lawyers from outside the jurisdiction how will that help other than to advise? Does Nigeria have appropriate laws around defamation? If Toke is telling the truth and is truly a smart lady she should have all the evidence from medical records to emails. All the best Toke.

    • bijouxthisbijouthat

      February 3, 2017 at 12:26 pm

      what kind of lawyer are you? a poor one at that judging from your comments. You had to be sentimental about an issue that pure legal.. tueh, i fear for your kind.. u dont even know “audi alteram partem”, proudly saying you are behind Toke when you havent heard the other side.. shame on you

    • skyhigh

      February 3, 2017 at 12:55 pm

      you are too biased as a so called lawyer…I want to see evidence of the following from toke 1)that she contracted STD 2)that the said STD was contracted from Mr Ayida 3) that she was solely responsible for their financial upkeep …i hope we will see this in her defence ..

    • NaijaPikin

      February 3, 2017 at 6:54 pm

      Sorry in this case (as with any slander and libel case), burden of proof falls on Maje not Toke. So Maje has to provide evidence to dispute what Toke wrote.

    • mz_danielz

      February 3, 2017 at 12:56 pm

      Women train your sons? I thought it was the job of men to raise their sons to be good men.

      The problem with the world has been that women are doing the raising abeg. Men should step up and raise wise sons in word, action and presence

      Remember what God said about Abraham, ‘I know Abraham that he will teach his children to honor me……’ that needs to be said about our men.

    • Abi

      February 3, 2017 at 10:16 pm

      Deb, even a charge and bail lawyer sef get more sense than you. What did you write here?

    • Jamce

      February 16, 2017 at 11:28 pm

      You must be a dumb lawyer who reasons with emotions only

  20. Blessing

    February 3, 2017 at 9:01 am

    Toke has made alot of money so she can as well hire British or American Lawyers. She can also prove that he actually infected her with medical reports. The guy is just jealous of her success. I hope she has a proof of some of what she wrote down. Maje will end up wasting the little change he has. Useless wandering Penis.

    • Anon

      February 3, 2017 at 10:40 am

      “she can as well hire British or American Lawyers.” You reckon? They are not beans…

  21. OverCorrectGuy

    February 3, 2017 at 9:04 am

    My physics tells me An object stays in a position of rest untill acted upon by ex- ternals. Every action has an opposite reaction. Ask Newton for the rest.
    Speaking Felaly, my point is When cat sleep and rat go bite im tail no gobe e dey find. Toke did not find a sympathiser in me when she went all blast and fired from all cylinders.
    In a bid to desperately stay up she decided to pull someone else down. And even if Maje was the coolest and most sendless dude in town his professional reputation would instruct him otherwise.
    I wish it didnt generate to this level, i wish marriages dont become trivial and dependent on whims and caprices. I wish marriages are immaturity proof. Children, players and impressionable people should stay away from it.
    Toke decided to mix business with pleasure and thats a poisonous brew anytime anyday.

  22. SmashingM

    February 3, 2017 at 9:12 am

    About time….let it play out, i wanna be entertained.

    PS: They brought their lives to the internet, that gives me the right to interfere in my own way in case you’re thinking of calling me hater.

  23. Revengeporn

    February 3, 2017 at 9:29 am

    This reminds me of “Revenge Porn” a book by Nathalie Nkoah, depicting her horrendous 7 years sex/relationship with footballer, Samuel Eto.
    In the book, you learn that Eto is a sexual pervert who likes to have orgies, homosexual and all kind of nasty sex acts.
    If the book had been allowed to go on sale, it would have ruined the career of the footballer, for sure.
    What Nathalie and Toke did wrong is that, they used real names of the people they were referring to.
    When Nathalie knew that she was to lose her case against Samuel, she deliberately leaked copies of the book onto the internet. That’s how many of us got to read what an horrible character this Samuel Eto is.
    I strongly believe that for this example, Tonto will lose out the case against her.

    • Eni

      February 3, 2017 at 4:31 pm

      I don’t think what the Natalie and Toke did is wrong as long as what they are saying is the truth.
      Please don’t forget that Eto’o used to beat her up, blackmailed her to sleep with his side kicks and put pressure on her to sleep with his enemies (Fally Ipupa) so he could use the pictures for blackmail. Plus after she ended the relationship, he had the police arrest her to recover all the gifts he made to her and also had her jailed for a while because she ‘allegedly’ stole his rolex watch. He released her nude pictures online to disgrace her.
      A woman you abused for years finally has the gut to leave you and all you can do is ‘revenge porn’. If it was in US or UK, he’d have gone to jail for that.
      He had enough money to block the book release but we still got to read it, right? I’ve never looked at Eto’o thesame way. Typical “money miss road”.

  24. Marian

    February 3, 2017 at 9:36 am

    Dang it!! I said bye to all Toke related news last year but Bros Maje don pull person back into their drama. Can everyone just come out and tell their own side of the story.

    BN, abeg reach out to maje for an exclusive. He filed for seperation 6months after the wedding? Mehn, that must have been brutal!! Toke has been through a lot sha and I hope she is really getting the help she needs.
    I feel bad for her now but she started it with the becoming book and i can’t blame Maje for wanting to defend himself.

  25. wonder

    February 3, 2017 at 9:36 am

    Thank you BN for cleaning out her address. SDK left the full address on. Toke is gonna have many visitors soon.

  26. Baba

    February 3, 2017 at 9:39 am

    Epic way to get a redress….wait for the book to sell,fictitious sales amount,then get her.We all know that the book is not 100% truth!!!Toke will lose so much money.She will also pay for Maje’s lawyers….hopefully she kept some of the money because i saw a lot of Gucci walawala!!

    • Ify

      February 3, 2017 at 9:55 am

      The letter was dated Dec 30th, and she was given seven day.She’s still selling and promoting the book, she definitely knows a lot we don’t know.

  27. Blacky

    February 3, 2017 at 9:41 am

    One cardinal principle of justice is that both parties to a dispute must be heard. Imagine that we all formed an opinion about Maje after reading Toke’s book….even though she fabricated the gist. That’s how gullible people can be!!! She painted Maje like a demon and portrayed herself like an angel but it only gets real now that Maje has decided to speak up.

    Toke’s book was poorly written and I took everything she said with a pinch of salt. WOMEN should start taking responsibility for their lives and stop blaming men. If your boyfriend is a serial cheater, leave him – don’t marry him oooo!!! If your husband is a wife beater, by all means, divorce his silly ass. It’s not after you have made several mistakes and become a victim of your stinking choices that you will be crying fowl and seeking public sympathy. Am just tired of all this trash!!! Toke had a part to play in her woes and Maje should sue her for putting the blame on him.

    • hello kitty

      February 3, 2017 at 12:34 pm

      Foul. its crying foul. unless of course you meant a chicken that is crying…

    • Abi

      February 3, 2017 at 10:22 pm

      Hello kitty, you are a joker!!! You gave me the giggles.

  28. Asa

    February 3, 2017 at 9:47 am

    They agreed to a separation 6 months into their marriage? OnBecoming definitely did not have this bit of information in it. I read the book and the only part of the book that moved me to pity and tears was when she gave an account of her Parents’ deaths. It was sad. When she started talking about partying her way through school and meeting Maje, I felt she wanted to be praised for stupidity. She said she went from a pass to a 2.2 grade and I wondered who in the Nigerian school system bragged about a 2.2.

    Anyway, I did not send the contents of the book beyond my sympathy at the loss of her parents.

    Dear Maje, I suggest you forget this book and forget it’s contents. The book is a glorified gossip article, it is not Purple Hibiscus by Ms. Adichie. It will fizzle and die soon or it will remain salacious gossip never to be used for anything except titillation!

    • Abi

      February 3, 2017 at 10:25 pm

      Yes perhaps the book will be tomorrow’s suya parchment but pray tell, what becomes of Maje’s reputation and his right to restitution?

  29. Aibee

    February 3, 2017 at 9:48 am

    Truth is a defence to an action for defamation.

    Is it true or false that Maje cheated on Toke during the subsistence of their relationship? I mean anyone who can count will know that Anita’s son was conceived while Maje and Toke were married. That is infidelity na. The truth is Maje cheated on Toke!

    Did he give her an STI or not? If Toke has medical records that prove she was treated for an STI during the subsistence of her relationship with Maje, that settles this point. All she has to do is call a doctor from the hospital to tender her medical records. Maje could counter the point by proving that she was unfaithful at this same time and so could have picked up the STI from some other person. Whether or not Toke was a runs girl in school is not the issue.

    “Adequate provision”: is a subjective term and I doubt any smart lawyer will press the point because it is neither here nor there. Cruel and callous behavior methinks is evident in his infidelity.

    This is not their divorce proceeding neither is it a psych counsellor’s couch. Whether Toke was foolish or not is not the subject matter here. Toke, please get a good lawyer, not one of those chewing gum types and give it a good fight.

    The letter was dated 30th December 2016 and I believe 7 days would have ;lapsed since it was delivered to Toke so a lawsuit should have been filed by now. BN, please put on your investigative journalism cap and get copies of the court processes. The lawyer in me is really interested in this. You can do it BN, you’ve done it before. You got copies of the divorce suit so you can get this too! Go BN, I’m rooting for you.

    LOL! Bants for days!

    • ......

      February 3, 2017 at 10:29 am

      About the STI , majes team can claim infedility on her part to you know…

    • Someonecute

      February 3, 2017 at 12:49 pm

      You’re saying did he cheat or not. How about , did Toke sign the separation papers in 2014 or not. If she did, then they freed each other, and both of them have agreed to do whatever they like. Like I mean that marriage was already doomed 6mobths into it with the separation papers. If my separated husband ends up cheating on me, na to step it up with divorce and forget about him

  30. CMbo

    February 3, 2017 at 9:54 am

    Lol. Apparently the 7 days has stretched into one month. She is even in Ghana now promoting the book. Let’s see how this plays out. This is the right time to publish his own version, he would sell out as well and make all the money he must feel he is missing out on.

  31. me to you

    February 3, 2017 at 10:09 am

    he is not serious. the only thing that was contested in the letter is the separation which they claim was not included in the book. did he deny he gave her std? did he deny he abused her emotionally? did he deny while married he was also cheating and impregnated another woman? what is malicious in the book? its not enough to state it is malicious ( that is a generic term) he needs to be specific. until then he should shut it up. did he deny she was the breadwinner. so the exclusion of one term made it malicious? both him and that his lawyers needs heavy dirty slaps.

    • Anonymous

      February 3, 2017 at 1:29 pm

      Did you read the article at all or you just rushed to comment? He denied giving her any STI, he alleged that he was contributing to the household as opposed to what Toke wrote painting the picture like she was the sole bread winner. He also said that they were separated six months after the marriage and they both signed a legal agreement of seperation in July 2014. so you and the 18 people that liked your comment are really making me wonder how you managed to pass English language in school, when you cannot even comprehend this easy written article. Too many dull people. SMH.

  32. saratu

    February 3, 2017 at 10:14 am

    Hmm. This is how mature men settle issues, through their lawyers, not all this fame-hungry, public validation seeking nonsense. Forget gra gra. Toke go hear am.

    • Ify

      February 3, 2017 at 11:02 am

      Yes, same way matured Kashamu settled his issue with Baba. We all know how that ended, and the last time I checked Baba’s book is still selling.

  33. funmilola

    February 3, 2017 at 10:27 am

    Maje is just”becoming”

  34. Bubu

    February 3, 2017 at 10:37 am

    Hmm, this story, Maje will definitely not allow his name go over the world in such way. It will definitely have a negative effect on his career, she mentioned his name in the book according to those that read it. She did not write the book as a fiction, its her biography and she mentioned his name, if there is any part of the story that is false then he has a right to defend himself because this is not a joke anywhere he introduces himself all over the world where the book gets to, it will definitely affect his image and probably his career. His kids will grow up and see this. Anyway it is a lesson to men that u can choose to walk away instead of trying to play superman and playing with someone else emotions. Hell had no fury like a woman scorned.

  35. Ifeyinwa Atuanya

    February 3, 2017 at 11:01 am

    “hell hath no fury like a woman scorned.”

    @Bubu, will you write a book on what you have faced in life?

    Consider both parties, Toke and Maje

    Toke wrote a book about Maje Maje wants the book not to be sold at all

  36. Bisi

    February 3, 2017 at 11:10 am

    Wait first it is like you guys didn’t see the part that he said they signed separation documents within 6 months of marriage. So this was obviously before the baby came into the picture.. No?? So what is this nonsense?? hmm something is fishy here

  37. Funmi

    February 3, 2017 at 11:13 am

    Ha. Maje you are an idiot. I don’t care for the both of you. But the fact that you impregnated your mistress is enough for me to hang you. You disgraced your wife. Did she force you to marry her? Even if she did? Don’t you know what you want. Olodo. You know what I am going to buy three of those books just to spite you. Oh now you can’t take the damage to your name. Write your own book na. Or better still do an exclusive interview with Mo Abudu and tell us your own side of the story. Instead of wasting money you don’t have on lawyers. Ole. Oye oshi. Stealer of joy.

    • Jemimah

      February 3, 2017 at 11:25 am

      Which local government area is your mumuism from exactly?

    • Funmi

      February 3, 2017 at 1:14 pm

      From your father’s local government. Ode.

  38. MommaF

    February 3, 2017 at 11:14 am

    Toke obviously knows something we don’t know, as the book is still being advertised for sale on various platforms. And she’s in Ghana today promoting the book. Seven days has elapsed since this letter. Let’s wait and watch!

  39. Jemimah

    February 3, 2017 at 11:23 am

    The part that irked me the most in Toke’s move was how she claimed God directed her to write a book yet she became so narcissistic about her newly found fame on social media. Talking about how she’s a best selling author and her newly upgraded fame and all that bull crap. The God I know is not a spiteful God and won’t direct you to bring a fellow human being down and be so Malicious and vindictive about it. It’s a pity Nigerians are too sentimental to think logically in situations as this. I’m all for Maje and Anita taking her to the cleaners, May the best man win!

    • Funmi

      February 3, 2017 at 1:15 pm

      Let your haterade choke you to death anu ofia.

    • Anonymous

      February 3, 2017 at 1:34 pm

      Funmi please stop being an idiot. Why are you calling someone you have never met an anoufia????? God really does not tell anyone to write a book that will damage the reputation of others. Toke is not a saint, why did she fail to write about the many married men she has slept with in her supposed biography????? You better receive sense and stop your foolishness.

    • Funmi

      February 3, 2017 at 5:25 pm

      you’re the idiot anonymous. I see you cant read.

    • Funmi

      February 3, 2017 at 5:27 pm

      oya if you have evidence of the married men she slept with let us hear it. other wise like I said to jemimah CHOKE ON YOUR HATERADE. ANU OFIA

    • Marvel

      February 3, 2017 at 7:05 pm

      You’re just as biased so perhaps you could stop judging Toke. If that is how she hears from her God, it isn’t your business. There really isn’t a right or wrong way of worshipping God. She is human and has the right to her emotions; the good, bad and ugly.
      Since you spitefully wish for her to ‘be taken to the cleaners’, I hope ‘they’ lose.

  40. Honey s

    February 3, 2017 at 11:27 am

    the fact still remain that toke ve no story to tell, she was not physically abused, she knew all this, if not that the media exposed maje, she will still be in the marriage now, she is no role model, we have women that, has been physically abused, that have no hint that their hubby is having an affair, that have been denied the right of making it in life because they were stopped by their husband, women locked outside their home by their hubby, toke did not experience any of this, she beautifuly accepted him, women have died because they got hiv from their cheating husband, they are the ones that deserve to be empowered. Pls people the noise is too much, maje deserve to sue her long time ago.

  41. Alfred

    February 3, 2017 at 11:36 am

    The bottom of the letter says she has 7 days upon the receipt of the letter to comply. 7 days has already elapsed and no lawsuit in sight yet. As I type this Toke is heavily promoting her book. There definitely has to be something that she knows (probably some dirt on him) or that they both know that the public doesn’t.

    • Anonymous

      February 3, 2017 at 1:39 pm

      Do you realise that you are only just seeing this letter now, even though it was dated December last year? So it is very possible there are things going on in the background and you do not know. Do you think Maje is stupid and did not weigh his options before going ahead with this option? You can clearly see that Maje is not interested in taking this to social media and Toke in usual fashion never said anything about the letter but is now talking about the Lord fighting for her. This was the exact way she behaved until the news of Anita’s pregnancy was released to blogs, she kept painting a picture as if all was well and even put up his picture on instagram the day before with plenty loving words. she is a very fake person and a chronic liar.

    • Alfred

      February 3, 2017 at 2:55 pm

      I don’t know either of them. None of us including myself knows what happened in their relationship. She could be lying, He could be lying. There is his truth, her truth and the real truth. Unless you have a recorded footage of what went on in their lives for 12 years. The one and only person i feel really bad for is the innocent child that didn’t ask to be born and got dragged into this mess.

    • Femfem

      February 4, 2017 at 9:07 am

      Thats what I don’t like about her. She is very fake and unauthentic. Why pretend?.

  42. Cookie

    February 3, 2017 at 11:52 am

    He has a right to do whatever he wants to do,legally.. I wonder why most people are calling Maje names and insulting him. You stay with the guy for 12years,knowing his a cheat,womanizer,he likes them light skinned etc..You still went ahead to marry him,same guy who has a 6yrear old boy from another woman,can we do the maths here.. 12years a slave for Maje was Toke’s choice,there are consequences for the choices we make or don’t make.. I am not saying Maje didn’t wrong Toke,but he can’t entirely take the blame for what happened to Toke.

    The only reason Toke wrote the book,was for more fame,and more money. Maje has a right to get a percentage from whatever amount the book makes and continues to make. He gave u STI/D yet you stayed,he begged u for money,yet u stayed. Women! we are always playing the victim card at will. We need to grow some balls and take responsibility for our actions and in-actions.. He made u bleach,yet u are still bleaching,why hasn’t she stopped using her creams now that she’s becoming? I don’t know toke but i admire her hustle and drive, but she strikes me as someone,(who beneath all the make-up,designer shoes and bags,jet set lifestyle etc) has low self esteem and self worth. She really wants to belong and appeal to a certain class of people,and it’s quite sad..
    And lastly there are 2 or more sides to a story,i am sure if Maje were to open his mouth,he would have a lot to say also.. Even if all she said is true,she’s killing his business,reputation etc. At the end of the day he’s a father,and a provider to his children,soiling the name of a man you once loved doesn’t make any sense,not all money is good money. He didn’t force u or kidnap u or hold u to ransom,neither can he be solely held responsible for your pain,hurt and wasted 12years…

  43. Lala

    February 3, 2017 at 12:47 pm

    Toke, please we are interested in buying the rights to the book. We would like to make a movie out of it. Thanks!

    • Fisayo

      February 3, 2017 at 1:04 pm

      Lala, you might be too late. I hear she’s already discussing it with a serious production company.

    • NaijaPikin

      February 3, 2017 at 7:03 pm

      I hope Kemi Adetiba is producing

  44. Ela

    February 3, 2017 at 1:22 pm

    Maje Ayida, please withdraw your petition.

    1) Many have moved on. You’re hurting your brand by reminding us of a story we have forgotten. Bringing bad publicity again on yourself. This time with your own hands.
    2) She has a right to tell her story. Doing this makes it seem like you’re trying to gag her. If you’ve not had enemies before, now you will have VERY many real enemies.
    3) Sit with her. Talk with her. If this is hurting you she should tone down references to you. She should please be considerate. It can be settled easily.

    Toke… Tell your story. But please, don’t destroy him in the process. Jor…. Mo fi olorun be e.. Don’t give in to people who want to troublemakers. Use the platform this has created to fly high… So high… You’re a motivational speaker. Do it without his name on your lips. Start over. That way, tomorrow they won’t say he’s the ONLY reason you’re relevant.

    • Temi

      February 3, 2017 at 5:54 pm

      Why do I think this is Toke? Lol. Still looking for face time with maje. Toke is bitter. Would havr still remained with the guy had the scandal not been publicized. I already pity whoever will marry Toke

  45. Smackdown

    February 3, 2017 at 1:37 pm

    It was only a matter of time before this happened.
    Defamation is enough justification for a lawsuit. You’ll notice the guy has always praised toke in public, never said a bad word about her. Then again if he is as calculating as she says he is, this might be part of his plan for a major pay day. Time will tell

  46. Daisy

    February 3, 2017 at 1:44 pm

    It was only a matter of time. I feel for her cos if she doesn’t have enough proof to show that everything portrayed in her book was facts and not fiction, and he decided to sue, she would pay a lot for damages. For her sake and the sake of all her fancy shoes, she better have proof.

    • Titi

      March 14, 2017 at 12:43 am

      onus of proof is on the petitioner not the defendant dearie

  47. Vroom vroom

    February 3, 2017 at 2:14 pm

    Poor guy, his friends were probably in his ear like “omo she don disgrace you Pata Pata. You better man up”. Pele

    • Mebo's Friend

      February 3, 2017 at 7:09 pm

      Yup! His friends for sure were on his case and probably contributed to the fund to sue Toke, because truth be told, we know Mr Ayida doesn’t have shishi. Its the family and friends that would have paid for the legal team. We know that family well and if his sister’s are anything to go by, they’re not happy at all. BN where is Ivie Omoregie? We need her to respond to this writ, so we can get the legal opinion on all of this. Very interesting indeed.

  48. Boo!

    February 3, 2017 at 3:08 pm

    First time commenting on a Toke related post. Cookie maybe? Lol!
    I’m not a lawyer but judging from the replies on this post, Maje sure needs his day in court. Toke painted him as a BUM, nothing else. In fact, every time I see his name, I think him a bum, an irresponsible man and a never do well. Trust me, it’s going to take a lot to shake that image off in my head.
    I remember telling my elder sister when the book was released that in as much as I find Toke sweet and positive, she just appeared spiteful and mean spirited all of a sudden.
    Toke, you went for the jugular and you know it. You ruined him strictly because he didn’t reciprocate your love. And you did all these because there was no child between you both. If there was a child or two, you’d think twice before ruining their father’s life like you did.
    I hope your next husband is more careful with you though.
    I wish both of you (You and Maje) divine healing cos you both seem damaged already.

    • dupsy

      February 3, 2017 at 10:52 pm

      Spot on! I feel so sorry for both of them honestly! I initially felt very sorry for Toke when the news of the baby came out, I was shocked by the contents of the book. It was like she was targeting Maje and you know she is still reeling from the breakup ( Toke is a really scorned woman). However no matter how hurtful she feels, I feel Toke needs to pick up the pieces of her life and just move on from Maje. I am tired of this story and pray it stops!

  49. tunmi

    February 3, 2017 at 3:27 pm

    As for me oh, I just love how objective and devoid of the usual Nigerian emotions the letter is.

    • peyton

      February 3, 2017 at 8:46 pm

      Its a letter from her lawyers. It will be devoid of emotions. No one wins a case on emotions. Not even in Nigeria

  50. deee

    February 3, 2017 at 3:59 pm

    See the difference between Bellanaija and Instablognaija!!
    nicely edited her address. Well-done
    Instablognaija take a cue or lesson (incase you don’t understand the meaning of cue) on DATA PROTECTION

  51. Verasky

    February 3, 2017 at 4:46 pm

    I saw this coming!! I am not surprised at all

  52. Efe

    February 3, 2017 at 6:14 pm

    AHHHHH KEMI PINHEIRO SAN. new legal battel don start already.

  53. topej

    February 3, 2017 at 6:16 pm

    No one battles with Kemi Pinheiro SAN. and wins in Court especially when Adebowale Kamoru is by his side.

  54. Anon

    February 3, 2017 at 6:20 pm

    Legal separation after six months of marriage? And y’all were still living together? To the extent she even woke you up in the middle of the night to beg you to show her how to ‘become’ Anita? Oga, go to court and show US (it’s our marriage too na) the evidence.

    • Marvel

      February 3, 2017 at 7:10 pm

      Lolllz @ Anon. That was funny! Our marriage? Lol

  55. Nigerian

    February 3, 2017 at 6:37 pm

    If Toke’s bank alerts keep coming through then Maje deserves a pay day alongside the baby mama sef. He should cash in sef nothing wrong with that after all Kim K cashed in to her sex tape. At all at all na m bad pass, no money no reputation. She could have used a pseudonym for him, she did not, let her face the music.

  56. FuckOffMaje

    February 4, 2017 at 6:23 am

    I’m here for the comments and the tea ☕️. This here is going to be interesting BBNaija make una no forget to update us on the regular……..But I’m always gonna be #TeamToke she started giving us the tea first! She’s winning!

    Later! F***BoyMaje!???

  57. Nelly

    February 5, 2017 at 2:33 am

    a lot of tokes accusations occurred while they were dating. when u are dating anything is fairgame. must a boyfriend love u back. you cant intimidate someone into loving you bikonunu..that means all nija women shld write books..toke is just a fame whore with a deep and insatiable need for attention

  58. Lauren

    February 6, 2017 at 1:23 am

    I never imagined there so many stupid people visit and comment on by as I have detected here. You heard one side of a story involving three people and you’ve chosen to side with only that one side. You lot are extremely retarded stupid and foolish. Illiterates

    Maje tell your side. I support your law suit and after that write a tell all book to advice your fellow men what you dealt with and how to stay away from crazy like Toke. I promise you yours will sell ten times more.

    Anita tell your side too.

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