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The following story has started a discussion on Twitter on whether what a lady did to her husband was right or wrong.

It was shared by Twitter user @_adaolysa. See below:

This Twitter User's Story of a Wife's Action to her Husband is causing a Debate

While some believe she did wrong for bottling up the pain and saying “Yes” to is proposal, others feel the man deserves the blame for cheating on her in the first place.

Thoughts?

 

43 Comments

  1. Californiabawlar

    August 3, 2017 at 12:05 am

    Lol.

    • Iris

      August 3, 2017 at 5:44 am

      As in. I am laughing so hard right now..
      Looooooool.
      I don’t even know why they are angry with her. If she had spoken now they would have told her men cheat and she should try to forgive.
      Abi she done try now
      LOL

  2. gurl_wendy

    August 3, 2017 at 12:07 am

    My thoughts?, it’s none of my business that’s what my thoughts are!

  3. Udegbunam Chukwudi

    August 3, 2017 at 12:50 am

    ????

  4. Miss_Flygerian

    August 3, 2017 at 12:57 am

    They both deserve the hell they’re in.

  5. Biker Chic

    August 3, 2017 at 12:59 am

    Bella, she said yes to “is” proposal? WTF?

  6. O_o

    August 3, 2017 at 1:02 am

    Not sure about Nigerian marital laws but a lack of consummation is sometimes grounds for outright annulment rather than divorce.

    • wura

      August 3, 2017 at 6:30 am

      you’re absolutely right! The marriage is void ab initio(from the beginning) as long as they can show that the marriage wasn’t consummated as at the time of proceedings.

  7. Toluwalope

    August 3, 2017 at 1:11 am

    You think she’s wicked? No she’s not the wicked one here but your friend.
    she’s the victim here not your friend.

  8. Amaka

    August 3, 2017 at 1:12 am

    The only mistake the girl made here, is getting married to the guy and having sex before marriage and before people pounce on me, the Bible still remains clear regarding chastity. It does not matter if a Bishop does immorality. Bed undefiled is our gospel. People sometimes disobey and make mistakes but God ‘s word is clear. This case looks like the case of a Christian girl meets a ‘wasup guy. Christian girls please leave the was up guys to was up girls and wait for God’s own. His blessings with no sorrow are still available and He certainly knows how to connect people. Don’t be unequally yoked. It is very hard for a proper Christian girl to handle such an image, it looks extremely dirty and heart breaking meanwhile the wasup girl will say ‘waris there, k ini big deal ‘. I see immorality as death so I can’t stand it. Sisters, there are faithful men out there. When a man who should be faithful to a woman touches another woman, if the wife still has the Holy Spirit, she will first react and be shaken because our bodies are the temple of the Holy Spirit. This Christian girl compromised from the beginning. She could have left the guy jeje. Please my Christian sisters, leave such guys jeje. Don’t think you can handle them. Don’t die before your time o.

    • Not so Christian

      August 3, 2017 at 10:44 am

      Did you read the part that she slept with him the same day she caught him with someone else? The Christian lady isn’t so Christian dear. She was still sleeping with him knowing he’s been with others until after the wedding. She’s also a what’s up lady that goes to church more abeg.

  9. jane

    August 3, 2017 at 1:41 am

    The friend in question is very useless. How he could be in a serious relationship and be messing around with no shame is inexcusable. The girl tried to forgive him and it did not work. I dont think she did it deliberately. She probably thought it would go away and tried to to deny her own feelings. Anyways lessons learnt. Dont force yourself to be in anything you dont want to or you dont feel good about. She could have still been a single woman free to date who she pleases..now she is stuck in an unhappy marriage. What was the point? A broken engagement is easier to get over than an unhappy marriage.

    • Ross

      August 3, 2017 at 9:51 am

      My thoughts exactly…

    • Karen

      August 3, 2017 at 12:26 pm

      Exactly. I’m annoyed that the friend keeps emphasizing how he loved the chic when he was Mr Knacks. Na wa o.

  10. June

    August 3, 2017 at 1:50 am

    Lol! These “twitter stories” have come again oh. lol! Let me just be moving??‍♀️??‍♀️??‍♀️

    • Derin87

      August 3, 2017 at 8:04 am

      Lol. I’m just here thinking this friend must have lived with them, she sabi the a-z of their relationship

  11. TalesByMoonLight

    August 3, 2017 at 2:54 am

    That Nigerian twitter space is the greatest scam in the history of the worldwideweb. From being used as a fertile ground to scam very educated people into believing that a Buhari Presidency would be anything but a total disaster so tey educated people would see Buhari’s campaign posters and would start crying out of overwhelming excitement to all these tales by moonlight that someone will just sit down, cook up and dish out to people to start arguing about for a WHOLE DAY or even more….Trust me, comibine Fred Ajudua, Ade Bendel, E-Money, Husspuppi together..dem no do reach the scam on that twitterNG

  12. Anne

    August 3, 2017 at 3:52 am

    Images are the toughest to forget, tougher than what you hear. Lady probably thought she could handle it. This also educates us about the fact that what we or our children see is important. At this juncture, lady cannot even control how she feels, it is irritating when you are not sure it is you alone in a marriage. She needs a hearing ear and understanding heart instead of a judgemental attitude. The man is just being selfish, this is a lesson to all men out there, stop assuming that a woman can handle philandering ways just because society gives men excuses meanwhile there are men who are faithful. It is tough. They have to pray and seek Christian counseling.

  13. Big Tee

    August 3, 2017 at 6:23 am

    I went into the lady’s mind, here are her thoughts : “Yes cheat on me… let me pretend, let me say yes, BUT, I wont forgive you, let me just stay and revenge.. how dare you try it with me?…. I will make sure I destroy your life (and my life)”.

  14. Wsb

    August 3, 2017 at 7:59 am

    I honestly believe that cheating men are ignorant of the devastation their actions wreak on a woman’s heart and psyche. Many of them have been brought up or influenced to think that sexing around is a rite of passage and their women should just suck it up and get with the program. Unbeknownst to them, many women view sex (all kinds-phone o, oral o, etc) as the ultimate intimacy and an indication of a true emotional connection. So when you cheat on a woman like that, you are essentially stomping on her heart, mind and emotions. Everything the man does from then on is viewed through the broken lens of her heart and mind’s eye. You claim to lover her and yet you took the one thing she thought was exclusive to her and trampled it in the mud and then you are strutting around like it’s no big deal. You have no clue. Everything you do and say is now tainted by the memory of what you have done and her actions or silence will tell you as much. People handle pain and heartbreak differently. Some act out, some internalize and try to deal with it privately. It is not the place of the traitor to dictate how the betrayed should react. It appears she went on with the marriage hoping she could forgive and forget but that’s a tall order for anyone, not to talk of someone to whom sexual intimacy is a very big deal.
    I’ll get off my soapbox now. So to Mr Married friend and his ilk, what you saw as sport was your woman’s heart and you pooped all over it. Well done. I hope the kitty cats you slayed are worth the emotional torment you now face. To Mr. friend the storyteller, do NOT even try to judge the wife until you have experienced the same thing. Apologies for typos, all this was typed on my phone. Cheers all

  15. BlueEyed

    August 3, 2017 at 8:01 am

    But why did you marry him? Look nobody is making any excuse for cheating but if you know that your emotional stability is too fragile to handle matters that will turn your heart rigid towards love or forgiveness, please and please do not I repeat do not subject another person and yourself to that pain, quietly disengage and fix yourself for yourself and then be open to love or forgiveness.
    You had the leeway to walk away and be a happy woman by now, you did not only punish him but you have compounded your own problems and I don’t even mean the superficial things I mean you have entered an emotional state right that will make you not trust any man or be open to love even when the right man comes along.
    As for the guy too, why did you marry her ? he married the idea of who she was not she she really is, quiet does not mean homely or push-over or down to earth. You did not take the time to read the signs and figure her out, you rushed to propose to her because she fit the standard of wife material in your head.
    OAN, BN why are you asking for my location upandan ? Please leave me alone you noesy people.

    • Fola

      August 3, 2017 at 1:03 pm

      I saw your name and all i could think of was a whitewalker.

  16. Chizzy

    August 3, 2017 at 8:17 am

    This is so sad. This is psychological than call for revenge

  17. Jane

    August 3, 2017 at 8:38 am

    Kai. I don’t even know where to start. The Almighty God who said abstain from sexual immortality, our creator knows these things. When he said our bodies are the temple of the Holy Ghost and we should glorify God with our bodies knows what he is saying. That is why the fear of God and obedience to his laws, even when it doesn’t make sense is the key to true and total triumph in this life. See where fornication has landed these two now: in an unhappy marriage. I feel so bad for them both because am sure this was not what they were looking towards when they got married despite the life they lived before marriage. They both need to go to God in prayer to help them rectify this issue. Jesus truly loves them and He is more than capable and is the only right answer to their problems. Word of advice to this “friend”, once they take this turn, you need to join them too. Its like you ma need that deliverance, even more sef. God bless u as you seek his face in Jesus name.

  18. Jane

    August 3, 2017 at 9:28 am

    BN, BN, BN!!! How many times did I call you. Where is my comment BN? You have swallowed my own comment with Jane on it and put another Jane okwia? This one that I am even talking about God, all the more reason to remove it. Or is it because I don’t agree to everything you do here? Anyway, you may think you’re doing me na, but God is watching you. Continue

  19. SoniaPaloma

    August 3, 2017 at 9:43 am

    To me ooo, I will say… good for the man. i have no single pity for him at all, instead i feel for the poor girl.

  20. Buahahah

    August 3, 2017 at 9:56 am

    Serves him right. Was he going to flip a switch and suddenly stop cheating once he got married? Idiot guy. Now she can leave and hopefully find healing for herself. All of it could have been avoided but *shrug, it is what it is.

  21. TruthisBitter

    August 3, 2017 at 10:14 am

    To both parties involved, marriage is not by force o!!!!!!

  22. Ayobami

    August 3, 2017 at 10:16 am

    God bless you guy for this write-up. You don’t have to punish yourself all in the name of love. it’s easy to forgive but difficult to forget. I pray God heals up her wounds.

  23. Jules

    August 3, 2017 at 10:22 am

    Kia! Yes one might say good for the guy……..but why put herself and her family, friends and loved ones through such. Naa Nollywood movie?????Why waste resources, time,….. when you know say u can’t forgive him or “stand him” he’s a serial cheat but in all this I think the babe just ‘tortured ‘ herself for nothing. The guy is a wreck now but with proper support he would be okay Biko and the babe this paranoia levels + and detective monk evidence gathering runs. Is not good for her mental health and health in general. Life is too such for all this drama. Live it well- you only live once

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    August 3, 2017 at 11:22 am

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  25. Fola

    August 3, 2017 at 1:07 pm

    I saw your name and all I could think of was a whitewalker.

  26. Comment

    August 3, 2017 at 1:46 pm

    The guy had NO business getting married if he knew he couldn’t be loyal.

    The girl shouldn’t not have under estimated the power of emotional damage that cheating causes. It’s a form of emotional abuse. What she did equates to a woman staying in an abusive marriage thinking things will change. She let her vulnerability set her up. I pray she finds peace in a new home

    I don’t feel sorry for the guy one bit. He should go and meet the women he was knacking….did anyone out a gun to his head when he was being so irresponsible???

  27. nene

    August 3, 2017 at 1:56 pm

    his wife must have had something else on her mind when she decided to say i do. and it wasn’t something good. people like that are dangerous. he is just as guilty as her.

  28. courage

    August 3, 2017 at 2:33 pm

    Abeg she should go and sit down somewhere…..he was cheating b4 marriage and she married him………

  29. Onyi

    August 3, 2017 at 2:39 pm

    Are you kidding? The man cheated on her with multiple partners and she’s the one that’s wicked? Is it until he brings home an STD that ruins her life that he will be culpable? Such a guy doesn’t deserve to be married and should remain as the playboy he is, since he can’t control himself. We really should stop giving men excuses to mess up.

    On the other hand, the woman could have chosen not to marry the man, but I suppose she wasn’t thinking too clearly.

  30. Olu

    August 3, 2017 at 3:08 pm

    This is what we usually say to the ‘abusive’ man: If you cant stand her, let her go… before abusing her.

    I believe this saying should apply to the woman as well.

    Yes, the guy is a dirty dog but the lady knew it and still slept with him right after ..on multiple occasions. She had a choice to ‘let him go’ but she stuck around and even married him …why? To ‘inflict pain’ or ‘abuse’.

    You are sooo mad you decided to torture both you and the other person.. Makes no sense to me.

    If you don’t like, walk away instead of abusing . Yes, it takes control but it always ends up fr the better.

    I rest.

  31. C

    August 3, 2017 at 3:51 pm

    Maybe she was under pressure to marry and the people she told kept asking her to pray that he would change after marriage

  32. Moi

    August 3, 2017 at 4:01 pm

    She doesn’t place value on her self , if she did she would have rejected his proposal no matter how public it was. she’s the loser at the end of the day, she played herself. Come to think of it she could stand him touching her before they got married even after all she saw, but couldn’t stand him touching her when they got married. She’s plain evil and even dangerous to herself

  33. lala

    August 3, 2017 at 9:02 pm

    Lol,. Stories that touch. These two obviously had no business getting married in the first place, especially the guy. That humiliation was well deserved and needed. But this is what happens when you give in to the pressure from all sides to get married., you have to show your enemies you have arrived regardless of if you are ready or not

    I best my left tit that as soon as she saw him in bed with his side chick she went crying to relative or friend who told her to “go back and claim her man”. Guess she couldn’t handle it in the end.

  34. Abu

    August 3, 2017 at 10:53 pm

    Nollywoood!!! Dont believe this story…somebody is generating traffic

  35. Aisha

    August 4, 2017 at 3:07 am

    Hmm! Mr/Ms Ore timo-timo to cheating husband, Your outlook on this whole matter is really mind boggling. That you ascribe wickedness to the bride is truly laughable. You think this is some joke? Placing a time horizon on her forgiving your friend is both foolish and naive. She will heal and forgive whenever it happens; if it ever happens.
    It’s people like you who go about saying “enh, shebi he cheated and the deed has been done, oya, forgive now!” and both expect and demand forgiveness because you think it’s your birth right, not so?
    Respect the fact that she’s hurting emotionally and mentally. If your friend is in love with his wife, he’ll go above and beyond to ensure that the process of healing and renewal for both of them does take place indeed.

  36. moreTruth

    August 4, 2017 at 11:26 am

    I have never caught my bf red handed nor watched him f**king another woman,not to talk of experiencing it abt 3times.
    This has put dis wife in deep emotional sh*t.
    Still this husband doesn’t deserve this whole gbege o.
    This is like poison o. Why did she marry?I guess she was desperate to bear d title ‘Mrs’, this is the definition of confusion.
    This isn’t normal I think?
    Madam wife needs therapy,serious one,cos it isn’t normal for somebody to act this way.
    I also pity this madam bcos she’s got a whole lot of work to do on her entire emotional being.she can’t continue like dis with life na, like who carries on like this?
    Generally I’m that kinda person who keeps things to her self even if it hurt,but I don’t carry it into my relationship with men(boyfriend/husband),infact I always say my mind & even nag abt it. Can’t keep dis kinda thing o,u wan die ?
    @dis point they need serious therapy, divorce isn’t an option yet,except after therapy & other curative measure fails.
    people dey this world o.

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