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Toke Makinwa & Maje Ayida - July 2014 - BellaNaija.com 01Media personality Toke Makinwa and her fitness enthusiast husband. Maje Ayida have been one of the very private couples in the entertainment industry – only stepping out together for selected events.

They have however been the hottest topic on Twitter since last night when an unconfirmed story broke on Stella Dimorkorkus’ blog .

The story alleged that an ex-girlfriend of Maje Ayida, who he once dated for 8 years, had gotten pregnant for him and is currently in the UK to give birth.

According to SDK’s informant, the 8-year relationship was broken off when Toke Makinwa and Maje were about to get married.

Anita Solomon, Maje’s alleged ex-gifriend, is reported to be based in Calabar.

Here are some of the reactions on Twitter:

*Please note some tweets have adult language

 

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311 Comments

  1. imose

    June 14, 2015 at 6:55 am

    I’m praying for you toke !! I pray for wisdom to see you through this storm … Because this made me speechless .

    • dora the explorer

      June 14, 2015 at 11:42 am

      you people didn’t go to church today??? Sunday morning posts have less traffic but the reaction here is just priceless. On the topic, I have no words till the couple publicly admit.

    • lalaroses

      June 17, 2015 at 3:27 pm

      and the couple are just so silent and continuing to enjoy their lives in public even if they hurt in private

    • bimpe

      June 14, 2015 at 12:00 pm

      I am praying for her as well, the Lord is your strength Toke. Its really sad. However, i sincerely foresaw this, he hardly acknowledges her on social media, how they even got married… Surprise wedding after waiting for 10yrs (she gets a surprise wedding), everything seemed so scripted to me, like it was for publicity,10 years no proposal and then when toke complained and complained thats when he gave in. foundation of a relationship is so important, also essential to question a mans priority. I am not judging her or anything but the one thing I would say is God always send us women a sign, in my perspective toke had many signs but you ignored them. The signs of adultery for example could come in different forms, respect it and question it. No bashing here… I am basically just stating wha. I thought of their relationship before this whole shabang

    • Latifa

      June 14, 2015 at 12:32 pm

      Blood of God BN just said the story is not confirmed y’all need to chill untill there is proof….,… Damn!!

    • Adenike

      June 14, 2015 at 12:55 pm

      Just wisdom from God only is what she needs. This is not something to use both soft and hard knife to dissect. I really feel for Toke. This is too much…

  2. timmy Tim

    June 14, 2015 at 7:01 am

    Menn! this is a mess and sad.

    • Wale

      June 14, 2015 at 2:14 pm

      Oh Lord! Here comes the “How To Be a Good Step Mother to Your Husband’s Bastard Child From His Side Chick Turned Baby Mama” Vlogs from Toke.
      I am having a good laugh – she deserves every humiliation she gets. She was just too over-exposed and annoying. She ought to have treasured her marriage and kept it out of public glare. There are ways to get positive fame and notoriety and still maintain some privacy. She was throwing stones here and there whilst living in a glass house. I hope this story isn’t true, but if it, smart minds saw this coming for a longtime. The mightier her fakeness, the mightier the public humiliation!

    • [email protected]

      June 14, 2015 at 3:10 pm

      You are evil.
      How can you have a good laugh at someone else’ misery. Even if Toke is satan, this isnt what one should laugh about.

    • Ibinabo

      June 14, 2015 at 3:29 pm

      Laugh all you want I pray it doesn’t happen to you. God is watching you gloat over her misery, your payday is coming…

    • Tbaby

      June 14, 2015 at 3:42 pm

      @Wale, ur comment is so insensitive n wicked, u need a whole lot of honey intake to sooth ur bitter heart…..mtchewwwww.

    • Bukky

      June 14, 2015 at 3:50 pm

      @ Wale, Your lack of empathy is seriously sickening and disgusting! While you are gloating, please remember that karma is not a bitch. It is a biblical law that translates to “You shall reap what you sow”. The same way you are finding delight in someone is misery, is the same way you will be laughed at and humiliated in the public eye.

    • Enk

      June 14, 2015 at 4:42 pm

      I will also put you in my prayers, Wale. You need prayers.

    • Olope

      June 14, 2015 at 5:14 pm

      You sound annoying. First of all, we don’t know that the rumor is true, but if it is, it is their business to get through. On to your half-witted response, Toke “is” very private about her marital life, so what do you mean by saying she puts it in public glare? The problem you have with her is that her professional life is doing so well that it is in public glare, and how dare her, a mere woman, be so successful? I don’t read all these idiots complaining about successful men in the same industry being in “public glare.” You all just can’t stand seeing a woman, a Nigerian woman at that, be doing so well in her career.

    • Adain

      June 14, 2015 at 6:29 pm

      Oh look, Lucifer is here. Hi.

    • Hian

      June 15, 2015 at 1:13 am

      You are just angry she is successful. Stop being so bitter and you will be elevated. Your bile is weighing you down.

    • Naomi

      June 15, 2015 at 8:11 am

      Boda wale, dont shoot the messenger…listen to the message. abi that your pastor/alfa does he practice all he preaches? you all at some point didnt practice what you preached, abi u dont know the underG sins your parents/fam do and u still listen to them. please Gerrarahia!!

    • E

      June 20, 2015 at 3:42 pm

      Her marriage is out of the public glare. She does not reference it in her vlogs, just talks about women and men, types of women, types of men, how to be noticed etc. And I personally won’t wish you well,wish that such won’t happen to you like others commenting here. I wish all the judgment and negativity you feel so good pouring out on others comes back and baptises your life because you deserve it.

    • Rhon

      June 25, 2015 at 6:47 pm

      I think people should be free to say what they want to, and should only be hindered by the fact that one must be responsible for one’s words…

  3. Temi

    June 14, 2015 at 7:04 am

    I don’t really know what to say to this but its definitely a trial I pray she overcomes. Stay or leave, only options available.

    • PayPay

      June 14, 2015 at 11:46 am

      All I can say is Toke should use this as her springboard. Toke as sex tape is to the kardashian so will this situation be to you. Use it well.

    • FasholasLover

      June 14, 2015 at 3:04 pm

      If dragging could kill, Maje Ayida would be dead by now. Choi, and they say as women we do not support one another? Dis betrayal thing na biggie o.

      Anyways, the gist is that the babe had done plenty abortions and this time she wasn’t having none of it. Belle sef na 9 months already. Maje is greedy and only married Toke for her fame. In the relationship, na Toke get money sef. Toke too did not want to let go ,cos twelve years no be moin moin. No one put a gun to Maje’s head. He had two girls and chose to marry one. He ought to have closed the other girl’s chapter. Maje is the gold digger and, fame whore. For those criticising Toke, raise up your hand if you have not been with a guy before, found out he had another girl and still married him especially if you believe the other girl was encroaching on your territory. Could she hv walked when she found out? Maybe. But you can only be in Toke’s shoes to judge her.

      I would say Toke walk. You are still young. This child will be a constant reminder of this betrayal. And who says this other woman is going anywhere? Make dem no come born number two for your head. Maje will be responsible for the child and will constantly see the mother who already has him where she wants him. A girl who dated ur man for eight years ain’t going nowhere. Abi you will ask him not to go and see his child? Maje is a low down dirty scum. The type of man you pray not to come your way even if you are 40+ and single.

      I for one do not believe in this Christianly preaching – “stay, don’t let an evil woman take what you hv laboured for”. Pls. let her take. Let her win. If you already have children I will say stay stay stay so your children are not strangers in their fathers house. But there is no child yet. you can still start afresh with a man who will worship you.

      TOKE WALK.

    • Zee

      June 14, 2015 at 3:37 pm

      Awon aiye. Monitoring spirits. many abortions blah blah blah. Gold digger, blah blah blah. Iwe.

    • kilode

      June 14, 2015 at 8:18 pm

      @Zee, but you read it and l bet you will spread the blah blah blah. hypocrite is your name. At least she made a lot of sense.

  4. Arin

    June 14, 2015 at 7:06 am

    Forget Toke and this Rumor. It is rather sad how we gloat on the pain and misfortune of others. This is an ongoing trend. Isn’t there something terribly wrong with this generation? Or is it some sort off spirit with typing behind a keyboard? #puzzled.

    • fga

      June 14, 2015 at 8:07 am

      My dear. That’s why most people come on these blogs for “dem say”, “dem say” and “eh he! I said it” , it’s easy to claim the moral high ground and calm one’s conscience but deep down you know the gist is sweet. People rarely congregate on these posts to nod in agreement or mourn in unison. It’s all love anyway. You’re not Nigerian if you haven’t been roasted alive verbally. We don’t do that British diplomacy and politeness thing.

    • Carliforniabawlar

      June 14, 2015 at 8:18 am

      I actually don’t see a lot of gloating….just a ‘keen’ interest in the gist, plus most of them are cussing the hell out of her husband.
      I am neither amazed or amused by these stories…several husbands married into my family are chronic cheats, one of them roams around Lagos like an unmarried man, and he’s in at least 2 RELATIONSHIPS ( with girls that think he’s single)….I don’t even come from a large family o, so that means if we go by probabilities, it is highly likely that a good number of these comments are from families that have been affected by this epidemic…how they can gloat is then beyond me.

      Me, I’m here waiting for the day one of our husbands girlfriends will bring pregnancy for us…the things that people endure in the name of religion and culture!!

    • ShineShineShine

      June 14, 2015 at 12:48 pm

      Thank you Carliforniabawlar. Your honesty on posts is refreshing. Like my friend would say, when we pray, we should pray that our husbands should not introduce strange women and children into our family. It has devastating consequences on the woman and the children. No matter how Christianly you are, the live evidence of your husband’s betrayal is not going anywhere. And unfortunately, life and that marriage can never be the same EVER again.

      I was actually on SDK when the story dropped. My laptop fell from my hand due to shock. I hv come to like Toke a lot. I just admire her doggedness inspite of all the hate people spew at her. With Toke, there is no middle ground. It’s either you like her or you don’t.

      I pray that Nigerians especially fellow women will allow this young girl grieve in private. Nobody can claim to know what she must be going thru considering that she is a public figure. My heart aches for her. For those who say she never seats in one place, that is balderdash. This is the time to key into her fame as it wouldn’t last forever. Moreover, even her attendance at events as far as l am concerned are few and far in between. Just becos she is popular, we focus on her too much.

      You can follow your husband around, if he is going to bring shit home to you he will. After all, was my aunt not the proverbial Hebrew woman whose husband came home at a particular time each work day, spent weekends with her and the kids? At his funeral, a woman sprang two sons on the family. We didn’t need to ask for DNA. When you see the boys u just shut up. As women, we can only pray that God should watch over our marriages and let no snake crawl into our homes to suck away our joy.

    • Lois

      June 14, 2015 at 6:33 pm

      I agree with you. Wetin our eyes never see for Naija? In fact in the whole world sef. To remember when we were single how many men have sworn ‘gbetu-gbetu’ sef to prove their ‘un-marriedness’ to get a woman only be divinely favoured to realise the beast has a wife and many children somewhere. I condone with this lady- Toke. It takes grace to overcome this issue with dignity. I pray God gives her the grace to carry-on. I see no reason any sane person will be glad at such a terrible news that has caused the pain and agony of a fellow human. Nah for shoulder person dey carry man put sha… My mama will say that a husband can be qualified as faithful when he died and gets buried with no other woman showing up during burial with children

    • The Bull

      June 14, 2015 at 8:36 am

      Most of the losers gloating and making fun of her are doing it for retweets.

    • Frosh♥

      June 14, 2015 at 12:26 pm

      Arin, i dont condone gooating at peoples misfortune, never have never will but i think the explanation to this is most times people sit on social media and paint idolized pictures of their lives rubbing peoples noses in their seemed perfection so when shit like this happens it makes them easy prey. Its an unfortunate thing for any one to be in but in between the vlogs, the instagram shots and what not she should of been on her knees praying for Gods guidance, this generation is more focusd on jus being booed up and dang there is sooooo much that goes into a relationship than that, i think the man is an absolute pig but women istincts are 100 sis wud have known bout this ish but was too busy giving relationship advice and tryna build a fan base, aocial media has given people a big platform to get hood fame and most people are jus all about that life and it also gives and even bigger platform for a fall when it happens, people are catching trips on this cos Toke had built a glass image and glass house for herself.. its unfortunate.

      diaryofacrazyblackgirl.blogspot.com

    • Shayor

      June 15, 2015 at 2:50 pm

      Frosh! May God forgive us all…I have watched every single episode of Toke’s blog and I’m yet to find one that she have put herself in a glass house. She gives relationship advises which anyone can and she puts humour in the advises so you don’t take them hook, line and sinker. I will always say it, ppl just do not likeToke because she is successful. But like it is in this society, women are women’s worst enemies. Its well!

  5. Missappleberry

    June 14, 2015 at 7:06 am

    *chilling for bellas commentators*

  6. Truthbetold

    June 14, 2015 at 7:09 am

    let me sit back and read comments *sips tea*

  7. Ada Nnewi

    June 14, 2015 at 7:11 am

    OMG! God will comfort and strengthen you toke…sending prayers your way

  8. Californiabawlar

    June 14, 2015 at 7:14 am

    Cuppatea

    **Liza Dolittle voice**

  9. lil

    June 14, 2015 at 7:16 am

    Maje dick dey do wiggle wiggle… makinwa I don’t think dz guy will b a Gud husband 2 u. Cuz even afta una marriage he go still dey get concubines… mehN guyz una need often flog

  10. bruno FIERCE

    June 14, 2015 at 7:16 am

    i will never feel sympathy for toke, NEVER.why should I?

    after all her talk talk on her blogs about nigerian men and relationships at the end of the day wetin happen, your husband cheated on u and got another woman pregnant. SHAME!!!!!

    maybe next time u will face your marriage and stop ur attention seeking ways.

    I’m waiting for the outcome of this messy drama.i want to know how intelligent toke is. will she still stay with him or will she divorce him?

    • Ilovetoke

      June 14, 2015 at 7:44 am

      You are sad and pathetic.. how about the women who do everything… stay at home do nothing and their husbands still cheat. Good for Toke now she can even focus more on her career and leave the useless sun of a gun!

    • itsjusme

      June 16, 2015 at 7:50 am

      Most men cheat you are correct. A man building another relationship for over 8 years! that is just crazy for a woman to even tolerate. Women should love thy self first! if she did and was sure of herself she would have walked out of the relationship a long time ago. i am sure this other woman is not the only person he is cheated on her with. Another question is, why did she marry this guy? too many years invested? and also why did he marry her? they both have a part to play here. This is an eye opener for most Nigerian women who love to force marriage merely because of peer pressure not because of love. Remember everyone is running their own race, do not be forceful…if he is not ready…he is not ready and there is nothing you can do about it. Exteriorly you are married but ur heart is not married to your partners. This is partly the reason infidelity is high in nigeria. its not just Toke Mackinwa…i find it to be a cultural thing.

    • Sola

      June 14, 2015 at 8:08 am

      WOW. That was so harsh and wicked. She is already going through a lot (that’s if this story is true). But why must you add salt to her already fresh wound. Married or not something similar can happen to you, regardless of your sex.

      Yes, she does vlogs on relationships, but does she have control on where Maje puts his dick while she is working and building a name for herself.

      Toke if you happen to read this. I wish you nothing but strength and wisdom to deal with this. You will be way stronger and better – regardless of what decision you make (stay or leave)

      Maje, I am NOT God. So, I will not judge you but may the word of God concerning men like you in the bible come to pass in your life. As you have brought shame to the woman you should honor, then shame and reproach will always follow you.

      (This applies only if this story is true)

    • Lil

      June 14, 2015 at 8:15 am

      I do believe you don’t think. You’ve turned to a keyboard warrior over someone else’s marital issues.

    • BeGracious

      June 14, 2015 at 6:46 pm

      @lil & Eni, no problem, whether hypocrites or not, may Toke’s type of fate befall you. May those who come to sympathise be genuine friends. Bottom line is it does not take away from your sorrow. Idiats.

    • tish

      June 14, 2015 at 8:35 am

      You will never feel for her because you are mean. Plain and simple. No need sugar coating with baseless reasons. Everyone has their battles, hopefully you get no sympathy from people that matter when the time comes. Good thing you are non existent to her, so you can go on with your hate in your little corner.

    • eni

      June 14, 2015 at 10:38 am

      Spot on! Wish I could like this 1000 times! All these commenters care about is the gist n not her misfortune. Hypocrites

    • hafsat imamlawal

      June 14, 2015 at 11:47 am

      Dear bruno fierce
      whats that thing in you that makes you exudes so much negativity .i cant just wrap my head around what will make people,fallible human beings gloat at the misfortune of others.what makes you think she deserves this,true or not..Even if she has done something wrong…..who make the judge???.it wont hurt going for a therapy once a while……your constant negative outburst on social media is called SOCIAL CANNIBALISM,people get help for it.
      Am not perfect and i do not know what tomorrow holds,so i join other fallible and compassionate people out there in prayer (if this is true)……….may GOD heal your broken heart.(AMEEN)

    • Jay

      June 14, 2015 at 2:03 pm

      OMG, that is what she does for a living, doesn’t mean she is excluded from the trials of life.

    • Hian

      June 15, 2015 at 1:19 am

      Bruno as much as you like to climb girls nerves on here, you are usually more progressive. For you to shame a woman for being cheated on makes you just like the people you call names. Its sad.

    • sharon

      July 23, 2015 at 11:02 am

      Did she exempt herself from the vlogs? She gives sound advice to anyone who wishes to take it.

  11. AA

    June 14, 2015 at 7:19 am

    How people can be so insensitive… the funny thing, most of the these people commenting are in worst situations in their private lives….am not really a fan of most celebs, but i still feel they are human tooo,,,,,,when they go through stuffs, people should be sensitive to what they write or say…encourage and criticize with love……..Some of the comments are not even funny sef..

  12. Ladybird

    June 14, 2015 at 7:19 am

    if the story is true, then this husband of hers is truly WICKED!! no person should experience anything like this especially after dating for a very long time… why can’t people be genuine, good and honest for real. …if everyone was like this the world will be a happier place.. as for that side chick.. SMH

  13. temilade

    June 14, 2015 at 7:20 am

    if this is true. then i feel very sorry for her! I honestly do, cause she’s the one who vlogs about men/getting married and stuff. However, all the forced emotions they put out in the media were bound to end some day…. Either way, she’s not the first and certainly not the last woman whose husband would do this

    • Frosh♥

      June 14, 2015 at 12:37 pm

      Forced emotion indeed, honestly true love does not need NO validation not from istagram and def not from eulogies on facebook. Anyone with eyes cud see that there was no real chemistry there, i dont want to sound mean but you see most celebs today jus want to make a splash, be in the news and be talked about and sadly toke is one of them, like the way she went silent and them boom she was married, anyone who watches toke closely would know she lives for attention. Its sad this would happen but to me this is just a “the shit has hit the fan” case cos no one can tell me toke did not know about this.

    • Hadeee

      June 14, 2015 at 2:21 pm

      How can you tell that there’s no real chemistry? Are you with them in their private moments? Do you feel their feelings for them? There’s no evidence for your statement.

    • Naomi

      June 15, 2015 at 8:14 am

      hmm, dont shoot the messenger…listen to the message. abi that your pastor/alfa does he practice all he preaches? you at some point didnt practice what you preached, abi u dont know the underG sins your parents/fam do and u still listen to them. please Gerrarahia!!

  14. Olori Tari

    June 14, 2015 at 7:23 am

    I refuse to believe this, it’s fabricated. But sigh if true…it’s so SAD.
    Since I know some people…Please don’t bring up all that “I blame her because she is always at events”. Her husband is not a 1 year old that needs to be taken everywhere or be cradled all the time. Neither is he a pet! It’s not by staying at home. It has nothing to do with her because he knew her ways before they got married and he could have left if he was not satisfied.

    I wish you strength Tokstarr, you are amazing ?

    PS: I don’t really understand this method of just uploading tons and tons of Twitter screenshots. Of what aim is this? Oh, I Know it’s not copyrighted so it’s allowed but it just makes the report weak to me and I’m not sure people express all these on their Twitter page to find it on blogs! I can understand when you are talking about a particular celebrity or perhaps incidence and you have to reference a specific tweet but THIS? simply following some people’s pattern or anyone want to explain?

  15. Jenny

    June 14, 2015 at 7:28 am

    Wow! This is crazy! Someone that gives advise to many young girls out there about ‘shinning their eye’ in a relationship or just relationships in general is now a victim. There are two things involved here;
    1) She never expected it or 2) she doesn’t just take her own advice!

    The Lord is her strength if this is really the situation of things.

    • keeks

      June 14, 2015 at 8:27 am

      I always saw all her advice as BS. I am not one to take advice willy nilly. Rather I take from the strong women in my family on marriage. Not toke who is doing in for publicity and other things.

    • chi-e-z

      June 14, 2015 at 10:32 am

      you do know that most of the time all she speaks are just satirical quirky comments that made sense half the time. I found her to be just a relationship comedian more than adviser. That’s not to put her down or anything cause I prefer viewing her in a funny home girl way than a Dr.Phil that’s just me. Plus I liked to see how quickly her british fone changes to razz sharp naija babe accent[which I prefer and think is more authentic]

    • Hadeee

      June 14, 2015 at 2:24 pm

      Oh pls, all her advice is not BS. Some of it actually make sense. Just cos there’s problems in her marriage, this does not render all her advice useless. No need to insult her advice. Just take advice from who you want. Simple ✌?️

    • Naomi

      June 15, 2015 at 8:14 am

      aunty, dont shoot the messenger…listen to the message. abi that your pastor/alfa does he practice all he preaches? at some point you didnt practice what you preached, abi u dont know the underG sins your parents/fam do and u still listen to them. please Gerrarahia!!

  16. Ms.B

    June 14, 2015 at 7:29 am

    He dated the Calabar girl for 8 years, dated toke for 12 years. In those 12 years, toke must have known he was cheating on her. She saw it, I blame her for putting herself in this position. No wonder he didn’t want the marriage.

    • temilade

      June 14, 2015 at 10:42 am

      My thoughts exactly! Toke probably knew he had another chick but still stayed!!! WHY? and how in Gods name?? she knew sincee joor! it means it was a tug of war between her and the other girl, and someway somehow she formally won! She’s the one that is always shouting, shine your eyes, likee girl you should have done same after you started sharing the guy with another woman!! He’s not the only one, move on!

    • yumi

      June 14, 2015 at 1:46 pm

      Toke knew about her. She came into the picture and Maje told her Toke was a side chick a crazy ex girlfriend. Later they both discovered they were running mates and fought through out. Toke had the social influence and money to tide him thru. Anita had his heart but is a quiet naive girl. She was sad when he suddenly married Toke and some how he has returned to his true love. This is all she has ever known and has probably decided to keep the baby. She has a tiny salon behind their house. There is no multi million salon. Maje should have left Toke and Married his real love . Toke should have known Anita had a large chunk of his heart. Anita should not have been with a Married man. It is a love typical love triangle. God be with all parties.

    • Bide

      June 14, 2015 at 3:10 pm

      Wow….

    • Hian

      June 15, 2015 at 1:24 am

      Maje’s true love is himself, lets not get it twisted. Anita should not be feeling like he came back to her. Men like that do not have true loves. You can’t be that selfish and love wholly. When a guy pits you against another, you are not true anything to him…maybe true entertainment but love…mba.

  17. Tosin

    June 14, 2015 at 7:30 am

    I feel sad for her ooo.And d silly ex dat caused her all dis pain. plssss WE NEED A MAJOR AWARENESS ON HOW AND Y TO USE CONDOMS FOR HEAVENSAKES. Silly babes be shagging around to b d baby mama and secure deir future while men just dont think . Oya Toke take hug ooo.

    • TruthBeTold

      June 14, 2015 at 8:05 am

      Ermm Toke just did a Vlog on “Sex Without Protection” at the start of this year. Awks!

  18. fga

    June 14, 2015 at 7:32 am

    The Solomon sisters. Hmmmm. Toke had better leave Vlogging for a while and enter serious casting and binding for 60 days. Back in my day, it was said those babes were the women , young men loved to party with at night but would rather not be seen with during the day. Women will shout about the man’s unfaithfulness, the truth however is that African men have been polygamous for a very long time., before Christianity became popular in the last 100 years or so in Nigeria. Nigerian men are merely returning to their roots. It may seem unfair but accepting the reality is better than sleepless nights. Your female sisters don’t make matters easier, everything to them is on the table these days and married men are a favourite dish. E kpele.

    • cindy

      June 14, 2015 at 8:22 am

      When the white man calls you an animal now. You will shout racist. How are african men different from other men around the world? And stop telling lies and generalising just to make yourself feel better. There are men who don’t cheat. That you lack self-control, doesn’t mean everyone has to be like you. You are on your own on the way to destruction.

    • fga

      June 14, 2015 at 10:19 am

      We like booty for one. Ask any black man worldwide, its almost universal. Meanwhile white guys prefer the smaller sized backsides. This isn’t about us being animals , look at the facts. Have you ever seen or heard of major public figures asides from pastors and co. that did not have one issue with multiple females or the other? It might not be what you want to hear but it’s the truth.

    • Hian

      June 15, 2015 at 1:27 am

      FGA, Cover your weakness and infidelity and call it returning to roots. That you lack discipline does not mean others are like you honey. Please bro, grow up and learn how to be a real man and stop disgracing the men with such boyish comments.

    • Lovian

      June 14, 2015 at 8:41 am

      Foolish and stupid response. African men go be polygamous but leave the women who love monogamy alone. Stop using cheap lies to get them and expect them to take your b.s. women be courageous to know you deserve what you deserve. Let no one tell you to accept rubbish. And this has nothing to do with polygamous nature. This is a childish man boy who does not know how to be a man. Evil man. Irresponsible man. Wicked.

    • Missy piper

      June 14, 2015 at 10:51 am

      What men are doing to their wives is infidelity not polygamy. A polygamous man has no need to lie and sneak around, because everyone is aware that they are not the only one. He did not marry two wives. He married one and chose to be unfaithful to her. Big difference.

    • icrossmyheart

      June 14, 2015 at 12:42 pm

      BIGGEST COWSHIT I have ever read. Nigerian MEN AND WOMEN were POLYAMOROUS. Many women just married to have a title and children, BUT THEY KEPT MEN ON THE SIDE. Hell colonialism along with Christianity PREACHED THAT WOMEN HAD TO BE PURE. The colonial enterprise SUCCEEDED because of female CHASTITY. Because white men knew AFRICAN WOMEN, MOST OF THEM, were not FAITHFUL.

      So this COWCRAP that Nigerian men like to sell to legitimise their infidelity HAS TO STOP. Both MEN and WOMEN were cheats back in the day. Women were just forced to exercise self-control.

      And who is to say that White men do not cheat. They cheat worse than some African men. They are just graceful and coded when they do it.

    • Hian

      June 15, 2015 at 1:29 am

      icrossmyheart, you are giving them history. FGA will come and tell you that women are meant to be monogamous but men..not so much. You are wasting this on someone who is controlled by his third leg.

    • Hian

      June 15, 2015 at 1:25 am

      Polygamous roots my left eye. Casting and binding? Some of you sef.

    • Eka

      June 15, 2015 at 9:24 am

      I have just been waiting for someone to make THIS Point!!! As patriarchal as that seems, it is better to accept reality… I have recently begin to Accept and Understand that Polygamy was & Is the Best Module for Human Procreation & Cohabitation .. I mean , even If Women Accept this or Not, this thing is Innate in men!.. Lol, don’t get me started of how much more in African men!… However! As there’s always an exception in Cases, There are also a Certain Few (men) who cannot Juggle this EFFECTIVELY & So the Bibble and Quran ‘s take on that Is Monogamy !… An Example is How God handled the Abraham & Hagaar Situation … Look , one can go on and on ! And dig very very far down into history, and the scales will still tilt in favour of Polygamy..
      My Name is Eka, & I am Feminist.?

  19. FinchleysFinest

    June 14, 2015 at 7:35 am

    Oh my God… I woke up to this news and I’m hoping its all lies… God… This shouldn’t happen to her. I don’t even know Toke but this shouldn’t happen to her.

    @Bruno: In your Opinion you’ve posted that comment.. Clap for yourself for displaying how shallow minded, irritating and annoying you can be.. Remember your kids and great grand children may have access to all your comments on here in the future… Just think how disappointed they will feel about you… Some times, WAIT, THINK before your TYPE….

  20. cindy

    June 14, 2015 at 7:41 am

    I wanted to do amebo before o but after reading this, I must say SDK did not try. They had settled the matter within the family privately already, yet you still decided to embarrass Toke publicly like this.
    As for those individuals saying he cheated because Toke is always on instagram and travelling around, I’m sure you live with them 24/7, maybe that’s how you came to that ridiculous conclusion. When a man is building his career, we don’t see your type since he’s out there making money. But woe betide any woman who dares to build a career for herself, you would question how much time she spends with her family. To make matters worse, if hubby decides to cheat he is justified because, well she did not have time for him. You men should keep lying to yourselves that you are animals with no self control whatsoever. Your day of reckoning is coming.
    As for that Anita babe, I’m not even going to waste my saliva on you.
    Maje is this the kind of embarrassment you bring to the woman you claim to love? Well I’m not surprised. If I ask you if you love your wife, you would say “yes”. If I ask why you cheated on her, you will not have an answer. Nice job dude. In fact, I don tire for you men and your matter.
    At this rate I just think this news is being overblown because Toke is a self-acclaimed relationship adviser. This is why our media personalities should stop giving advices on things no one has no control over. I remember her ‘how to keep a man vlog’, I keep saying it, nothing you do will stop a cheat from being a cheat. Just do you and stop taking panadol for another man’s headache.
    My fear is that by the time men will learn to love their women right, the women would have been taught to hate them. God help us.

    • Kems

      June 14, 2015 at 10:59 am

      This is the truth!!!

    • Anoni

      June 14, 2015 at 3:47 pm

      I can’t understand why someone broke d story n is pretending to be sad for her. # I can’t deal

    • Temitope Bakare

      June 15, 2015 at 1:29 pm

      God bless your wisdom @Cindy. Africans keep making being successful as a women look evil. Very subjective society. A father and mom births a female, trains her in the best schools, she applied her self to deligence and discipline and gets a good career running for her, yet she is expected to be poor, dependent, not- so-looking vibrant and tusked away in at home where she awaits her master Husband for everything she needs or will ever need. Oloshi people.

  21. Aduke

    June 14, 2015 at 7:42 am

    If this indeed is true. I feel bad for Toke. But sometimes we are our own greatest enemies. After giving advice on how to keep a man and how not to become a side chic it turns out your husband impregnated someone ! Let’s not blame Toke by all means but let’s ask her a few questions. Perhaps you could have given more attention to your marriage as much as you give your online and social life ?
    Maje did what 90% of married men do and got caught so thats not shocking for me. They are the careless ones. It has been researched that 80% of cheating married men love to have it raw. Ask the wives who silently treat themselves for STDS because they want to keep the illusion of a perfect marriage !
    Toke, to err is human. Maje has done what men do best. Punish him by all means. Take your time to heal. But forgive him you must. There are no better fish in the sea. Just monsters. And you seem to have picked a responsible monster. Go offline for a while. Let the instagram button rest and attend to your marriage. Trust me you can still have the greatest marriage of all time. This is our reality in 2015. We must deal with it.

    • girl

      June 14, 2015 at 10:58 am

      biko mechionu… forgive what? if it’s only rotten fish they have in the ocean then don’t go fishing. If it was the other way around i bet you won’t say the same thing. Nigerian women selling themselves short since nineteen-kpokem

    • Rahama

      June 14, 2015 at 1:34 pm

      God punish you. I’m sure you’re a man masquerading as a woman online. Responsible monster? Did you read after typing? May God have mercy on your soul for what you just wrote.

    • pearlchessy

      June 14, 2015 at 2:30 pm

      Is this an advice or an opinion?

    • Hian

      June 15, 2015 at 1:33 am

      So he did what 90 percent of men do but she should not work hard on her career, she should be following him around so (as you said) when he cheats or decides to run off with someone else, she will be broke and become a welfare case? If these men are bound to cheat, why will you evil hateful girls not allow their wives to prosper? Why can’t the wife be settled financially so if the man runs off, she is ok and only suffers heartache and not all around ache? Nigerian women please stop being lazy, if you like sleep under a man 24/7 if he wants to cheat, he will. Stop using husband as an excuse not to strive for success.

  22. piper

    June 14, 2015 at 7:44 am

    O please can we stop all these feeling sorry nonsense! The way you lay ur bed dats how u sleep ontop am! If he dated this girl for 8 years he probably was co-dating the both of them and toke emerge winner! *sideeyes* and she expected to change automatically because of status change. He probably really loved Anita and married Toke for publicity but damn that’s how this married men will just be sharing HIV. How hard is it to use a condom!

  23. Iris

    June 14, 2015 at 7:47 am

    Wasn’t he also in a relationship with Toke for eight years? If this is true, this man is a bona fide demon.

    • dolapo

      June 14, 2015 at 1:50 pm

      And the enabling women nko? They too are demons. See this whole side chic thing is no news to Toke. She knew of Anita and that was why she deployed social media to bash side Chics a lot. She was determined to win Maje and her own sense of victory was “surprise wedding” when we all witnessed the nasty publicity and shady circumstances that led to the emergency wedding. I don’t know why Toke wan die on top the guy Mata sha

    • bn lover

      June 14, 2015 at 3:50 pm

      He is fyn na…he has small money….he is available and ready for marriage….. Dats y she wan die 4 him matter

  24. Busarni

    June 14, 2015 at 7:47 am

    When I thought my Sunday was on fleek!! This is really depressing ; these men ain’t loyal sha. The only peace of mind for a babe is to get married to JESUS!
    Toke sorry and please stay strong. All of you saying bad stuffs behind your device; there is God ooh. I can’t even knock tokes hustle. She is hardworking, yes she can be all up in our faces but that’s what showbiz is all about na. Na church get me joor, men o men where is tHy sting!
    @ Bruno sometimes you just shut it; this is your struggle for cheap publicity is irritating some times

  25. JustDeyObserve

    June 14, 2015 at 7:48 am

    See correct headline. Been wondering how BN will report this ish since I saw it on other blogs knowing BN is not a typical gossip blog. Nice headline there.
    As for tokstarr my heart goes out to you in this period,I pray God gives you the strength and wisdom to negotiate this through this trying times. Cheers

  26. Uju

    June 14, 2015 at 7:48 am

    I’m inclined to believe this report is true. Toke has removed the ode to her husband she uploaded a few days ago. All this is quite sad but truth be told he’s cheated in the past, this coupled with the way they got married should have been an indicator of his future behavior. It’s all just quite sad.

    A part of me also thinks he’s a bit intimidated by her success. She doesn’t need him, and our Nigerian men like to feel needed and in charge. So he went and got a subservient lady pregnant.

    • Hian

      June 15, 2015 at 1:37 am

      The women who don’t work get cheated on as well so my dear, strive for success and if your man is intimidated…he can go and sleep somewhere. You want to be cheated on and broke at the same time?

  27. New

    June 14, 2015 at 7:50 am

    If the story is true then I don’t think she will be broken down by the news of this infidelity. She seem like a strong person who is able to handle whatever comes her way. So enough with this sympathy stuff people- She constantly get backlashes from her vblogs, comment sections on blogs ect and it doesn’t seem to stop her. But you think this story will faze her? I don’t think so

    She also loves attention so this might bring her more of the attention she craves.
    #She’s a different breed
    #shelovesfame&attention more than anything else
    #justmythought

  28. Robin Hood

    June 14, 2015 at 7:58 am

    If this is true, sad. May be another publiciy stunt by Toke…… However, all are blaming Ayida. Do you know if Toke is to blame? Ayida may want a child. Maybe Toke cant give him one or prefers to be at events and vlogs rather than starting a family.

    • MC

      June 14, 2015 at 10:46 am

      Really!? In your head thar makes sense and it also makes it excusable?

    • Utry

      June 14, 2015 at 1:21 pm

      So a couple that have been married for less than 3years & have no child, if there is a case of infertility, that’s a reason for him to be straying in d name of wanting an offspring.??..very insensitive

    • Hian

      June 15, 2015 at 1:38 am

      Are you alright? Are you in your senses dear sister/brother? So she should not work? If God has not given them babies, it is her fault? If you marry and a child is not forthcoming as quickly, I hope you will not mind if your spouse goes out there to get one. Some of you sef.

  29. Lilo

    June 14, 2015 at 7:59 am

    First of all, I bow down to the monitoring spirits of BN. Barely a week ago, Toke was praising Maje in this post, and awon aye kept subbing, and we all thought there were every day toke bashers. I officially fear the BN mafia. http://www.bellanaija.com/2015/06/04/toke-makinwa-lauds-husband-maje-ayida-i-love-how-no-matter-how-far-we-go-we-always-find-ourselves-again/

    Now on to Toke – gurrrrrrl. I don’t even know where to start with you but I will try not to go for the jugular. Boy do I pray this is a big hoax and lord Jesus, fix it, If this is turns out to be true, I will however not be joining your little pity party though because to me, Maje was and is the victim here. Not you Tokestarr, with an r. We were all here when you deployed vlogs as weapon to victimize this ” obviously uninterested” guy into marrying you. You have always been full of lies and to maintain a fake image. From lying to being engaged to Maje and Maje denying it to lying about picking a wedding date but not being able to plan a wedding cos you were too busy even though the only thing that seemed to keep you busy was attending other people’s wedding yet Maje kept denying being engaged to your arse. Or was it the epic showdown when Maje left you stranded at the Ikoyi registry after your first attempt at bagging and MRS degree by fire by force. You are a shame Toke. A big disgrace to yourself.. This dude embarrassed the heck out of you while you were dating and upon your gra gra, you couldn’t bail and find another man? Is it that’s seriois? Must you marry a man who obviously doesn’t want to wake up next to you fir the rest of his life? You, toke bullied this ” already messed up ” guy into marrying you. He wasn’t going to and th writing on the wall was clear regardless of the lies he told while banging your brains out.

    Then you faked the break up and shamed the guy in you. Leased a video announced cling to ther world that you u were single. you went on several TV shows to play ” damsel in distressed, dumped after 11 years of dating” everyone hated make and bashed the heck out of him. To fix things,he idea of surprise wedding was conceived. When a man pulls a surprise wedding on you, then his arse was damn sure you have been waiting for it. I looked at you pitifully that day and wished you weren’t so desperate. And because I know the kind of useless goat maje was, my comment was ” na here we go dey” and the only reason that necessitated that comment wasn’t hen glaring messiness leading to the whole surprise wedding. Not to spite you but that was how much familiar /predictable the outcome with maje looked. Terrible boyfriends don’t make good husbandand there can never be a right right way to do the wrong thing. I Was angry you let maje dog you so much while you were dating. However , I had hopes that you will meet a decent man dump him and move on. So imagine the disgust I felt when I watched you literally hustle a ring out him and agreed to marry a guy who never failed to embarass you day in day out. Remember that altercation you had with him at sliver bird al cos of another chic? You care d so much about image and public perception yet care so little about your own sense of self and love for yourself. . I refuse to pity you or anyone who thought spending the rest of their life with maje was a noble thing. You knew exactly what you were getting to to but you’d rather be married than be single with a tad dignity. Pele. Go and sleepover at Elohor’s place you can male bash over ice cream and baileys. While watching “The Other Woman”

    To all you bootyscrratchers who a are going to to ask me wetin concern me or to mind my busines…this is public drama brought to a cinema a near me and I don pay Comcast so the viewing pleasure is mine. . Responsible couples keep their affairs from social media so that faceless people likie me won’t have to add our 2 cents

    Deuces!!!

    • girl

      June 14, 2015 at 11:04 am

      LOL a whole uni dissertation about people you don’t know? lol. And to go on to call make victim because you have left your life to document toke’s life, but you know karma works in wonderful ways. Have a wonderful day LILO

    • Frankie

      June 14, 2015 at 4:28 pm

      Lmao you wish someone karma for speaking the truth as we have all seen it? Lol. Look leave Toke’s OAP and MTN status out of this, Maje would not have married her. Plain and simple. Toke used social media clouth to outshine Anita sadly, it didn’t last. She spent so much time trying to win Maje when she could have put that time towards making herself available to other suitors who were more interested in her. Maje was not that into your darling Toke

    • Sola

      June 14, 2015 at 11:26 am

      And you know all this – How?. My prayer for you is that nothing similar comes your way.

    • fête

      June 14, 2015 at 11:51 am

      Hmmmmn inside scoop

    • Mrs_ID

      June 14, 2015 at 11:54 am

      Omg,Brutal #Truth

    • Bow Down

      June 14, 2015 at 12:05 pm

      And you just summarised the entire matter! Take one odeku on me!!

    • nene

      June 14, 2015 at 12:43 pm

      you have said it all. toke pushed herself into this, so it’s up to her to make a decision now, and she better make a good one, not like the big mistake she made by marrying him.

    • nikky

      June 14, 2015 at 1:18 pm

      Wow. Internet comment of the century. Comes with everything you need, shade, shade and more shade. Just lacking a little in the sympathy department. I’m curios thou, is dis comment from an insider/front row POV cuz it sounds like you are in these people’s lives.

    • Busarni

      June 14, 2015 at 1:36 pm

      @Lilo; my dear you are not ” faceless” ; you are #FRENEMY…

    • Hian

      June 15, 2015 at 1:43 am

      Nne, you have been waiting to let this all out okwaya?! Now you have said “your own” \___________ here you go. This Toke will blow and succeed and you will still be paying comcast to watch her shine 😀

  30. Changing Faces

    June 14, 2015 at 8:02 am

    Why am I so pained on her behalf? She did nothing to deserve this and if the man was so tired, he should have left. How embarrassing for her, after dedicating your whole life to one man… I pray for strength for Toke

  31. Amh

    June 14, 2015 at 8:03 am

    I feel for beautiful toke. Who is an orphan and no mum to cry to or talk to nor dad to tell her uts alright. To those gloating over her. May the the sane predicament before you. May your hisband cheat on you and disgrace you. Toke pls take heart. The lord is your strength. Maje is pathetic. The lord will not forgive him. He knew whst you went through. As for the shameless calabar. He will never leave toke for you. Adultery is fun when you are comiting a sin. When the secret is out. The shame is overwhelming. Am sure maje. You are ashamed of yourself and you hate yourself right now. You are a champion toke. And a strong woman. May thr lord turn your reproach to joy. To gje calabar girl. Ita ni omo ale ngbe. Am not surprised at your comment bruno. You are finished and suciadal. You are looking for who to drag down. Tuat. Bella pls post my comments. Am hurting
    Shes a young girl. Am really sad. Shame on you maje. You have disgraced yourself. Ugly thing.

    • Ada Nnewi

      June 14, 2015 at 11:57 am

      I feel so bad for her like she’s my sister, I can’t imagine how she’s coping and I don’t understand why sdk did not leave this story alone. Are there no boundaries? It’s bad enough that your husband messed up but having to deal with it publicly will be hellish…been praying for her all morning..

    • funmi peperenpe

      June 14, 2015 at 8:53 pm

      So wait it’s now SDK’s fault? But it’s cool for Toke to come online whenever she likes and shout to Maje for being the bestestt husband in the world? Hehe abi? Ti a ba fa gburu, gburu a fa igbo. Not keeping a low profile and coded life is Toke’s biggest issue.

    • dolapo

      June 14, 2015 at 1:44 pm

      You sound quite stupid. This same mentality / line of reasoning is what got Toke into this mess when all the red flags were so red some ofus could see them from Russia. The quest to beome Mrs will be the downfall of many of you. Look at your reassuring her Maje won’t leave her as though Maje is the messiah and leaving her is the worse Maje can do and you assure her he won’t doo it. Some of you are rasised by lousy mother else how do I explain this madness. Maje didn’t make a mistake. A mistake would have involved Maje impregnating a randome girl he met a few months ago. This here is Maje doing exactly what he has wanted to do – start a family with Anita.

    • pamela

      June 14, 2015 at 6:52 pm

      May God reward you for this comment . i totally agree with you

  32. nene+

    June 14, 2015 at 8:05 am

    Dear Toke don’t make any hasty decision other than become a better,wiser wife as long as Maje loves you and you still want him. Act like nothing out of order happened.
    All these high moment will fade and peace will return.
    You aren’t alone, even if I don’t support this some others have experienced it.

    Be strong dear, you will overcome it. If the story Is true,embrace it,accept it,love the child, and I pray God will give you your own beautiful children. Amen.

    Toke don’t be deceived that an abomination and the unpardonable has happened,
    Take back your wedded husband jare!

    • Iris

      June 14, 2015 at 2:17 pm

      Lmfao. If your idea of peace is a lifetime of turning a blind eye to all your husband’s pretences, smiling in public and crying in private for decades, saying nothing to your husband but periodically taking tests for the rest of your life to ensure he hasn’t given you an STD, then please claim that kind of peace for yourself only. At least make it optional for other people in case that’s not what Toke wants. Haba! What is the point in being married when that mess will be the rest of your life? If you like, say it’s for children. They will ALL leave someday to start their own lives and you’ll just be grandmother, Grandma and her disrespectful unfaithful husband. No please, pretending a problem does not exist does not make you a peacemaker. It makes you delusional.

    • Bow down

      June 14, 2015 at 2:59 pm

      Hahahahahahahahahahahahahaha! I’m dying here!! So this is your ingenious solution? Nigerian women are a serious problem! Flipping enablers! Enabling men to plot their own demise!

    • Hian

      June 15, 2015 at 1:47 am

      Nene, gini bu…infact I can not do this today. She should take back her wedded husband and act like nothing has happened. Wedded husband is a dog following another woman and she should do what? Hian. God SAVE MY SISTERS FROM THEMSELVES.

  33. jide

    June 14, 2015 at 8:11 am

    If you dated a guy for 12 years, he cheated on you repeatedly, you begged for marriage, he married you. Cheated. Got someone preggers, whose fault is this? The guy who on several occasions showed you who he was or the girl who repeated didn’t believe the guy who showed him who he was. Toke walked into this eyes wide open. No empathy from me. I’m waiting for the damage control she is going to come up with sha. Toke can lie for United Nations. A honorable woman would have lleft Maje 7 years ago. Shows you their both disgusting.

    • nene

      June 14, 2015 at 12:45 pm

      gbam

  34. hatersgonhate

    June 14, 2015 at 8:12 am

    ****Playing devils advocate****
    Maybe the guy is ready to be a father

    • Anon

      June 14, 2015 at 3:33 pm

      You think she’s not ready to be a mother?

    • Hian

      June 15, 2015 at 1:51 am

      When you are married eh, if you are ready to be a parent…you should be ready to parent with your SPOUSE. It is not rocket science eh children of mother earth. If children were not forthcoming and she went to catch bele from outside, can we say she was ready to be a mother. Advocate properly next time please.

  35. Gistyinka Blog

    June 14, 2015 at 8:14 am

    Why Is almost Nigeria on social media are full of attack dog.

    • Bow down

      June 14, 2015 at 2:59 pm

      Go and learn english first

    • Bolu

      June 14, 2015 at 7:11 pm

      That is not his language dearie.

  36. yeah

    June 14, 2015 at 8:20 am

    Lemme grab my popcorn and wait for the comments.

  37. Missappleberry

    June 14, 2015 at 8:25 am

    I just hope this Toke girl has some really good friends because she needs them most now. I am not a fan of toke but i have noticed the girl has a really tough skin. All this blog stories never really affects her. No matter all the yabs, the girl just remains vibrant and seems not to care about haters. Its possible she cries inside and portrays a tough skin outside, but which ever, she is really good at what she wants you to see. I trust she will bounce back again after all this dem say dem say.
    Nobody knows what goes on in the Ayida’s home so i won’t want to judge her husband or Tokes herself. Wish all 3 parties best of luck and hope they can all sort out their issues privately. *ignore all mistakes*

  38. keeks

    June 14, 2015 at 8:25 am

    I hope its not true. And its hard to blame her. Some women choose to forgive. However the part where they dated for 12 years and broke up right before they tied the knot was a big red flag.

  39. Ewaoluwa

    June 14, 2015 at 8:42 am

    I jst hope dis is a rumour

  40. MsChief

    June 14, 2015 at 8:44 am

    This is just so sad. Truth is worse tings have happened to other women and they had to get past it. I believe in Toke, she will cry, hurt, grieve, dust herself off the ground and move on. She will probably make a few bucks off thus sef, Toke is bad like that.

  41. ms.Nicey

    June 14, 2015 at 8:46 am

    As a lady u need to understand that if you’re more busy than ur husband & he isn’t complaining & he keep claiming he understands , then someone is doing ur duties to him.

    • icrossmyheart

      June 14, 2015 at 1:50 pm

      And if the man is more busy than the wife, and she is not complaining, then what?

      The way some Nigerians reason, floor the heck out of me. So Nigerian women are stones abi? Without pleasures? Desires? Sexual appetite? HAHAHAHAHAHAHA…stay there and deceive yourself.

    • Tbaby

      June 14, 2015 at 5:01 pm

      @Lilo, pls shut da f up!!!! Who died n made u judge? So ur own life is so perfect??? May God have Mercy on u. #SMH……

    • Hian

      June 15, 2015 at 1:53 am

      So because your husband is not ambitious you should be following him around. Tueh Nigerian women, see why you ladies are not on the movers and shakers list? You are not in the happy marriage list either, biko what are you people doing?

  42. Moremi

    June 14, 2015 at 8:47 am

    I think Toke sent in the chronicle a few days ago about her husband impregnating another woman on her Vlog .
    Remember the narrator said she never would have imagined she will one day find herself sending chronicles. Most people advised her on that post to forgive her husband and try to make her marriage work. Now we know the names of the people involved! wow!

  43. Peyton

    June 14, 2015 at 8:49 am

    Osi Suave even if everyone posts stuff you should be quiet. If this story turns out to be false now will you write an apology to Maje? When a story breaks don’t be in a hurry to accept it as true .

  44. bunmi

    June 14, 2015 at 8:56 am

    Bella I hear say jacky chan die dis morning

    • chi-e-z

      June 14, 2015 at 10:22 am

      lol r u serious…. or pointing at the fact that this my be an allegation from a supposed stalker? cause that’ not true.least I haven’t heard

    • Ba

      June 14, 2015 at 1:34 pm

      You hear say…..ok, let me confirm from my oracle Google.

    • Hian

      June 15, 2015 at 1:55 am

      Poor Jackie Chan, twitter has killed him off so many times. Can the man just live his life?

  45. bissy

    June 14, 2015 at 8:59 am

    This is really sad and a huge blow on Toke! Considering the fact that she advices girls on how to spot a bad boy and all which I can’t the fact that I pick a few lessons From her vlogs and her life. She is one hardworking babe. To people saying she displays her private life on social media is a huge lie. It’s ok to do dat once in a while. Ayida is just another he goat! He shouldn’t have married her in the first place after 12yrs of dating

  46. geez

    June 14, 2015 at 9:00 am

    so sorry Toke. I personally like u a lot and would never wish this on you nor any one . I pray u get the strength and the spirit of discernment during this trying time. God be with u.

  47. Rs

    June 14, 2015 at 9:05 am

    Wawawuuu ??

  48. Abbeylicious

    June 14, 2015 at 9:07 am

    I Know that Bruno’s comment seemed a bit strong. The point I will emphasise on from Bruno’s comment is that If Toke decide’s to stay after all this. Maybe she should stay home more often and spend more quality time with hubby. Give your relationship more attention. I admire your career growth and how far you’ve come but try more indoors stuff at home, maybe you would have noticed that he had a side chick for 8yrs.
    Madje, have you never heard of having protected sex. Having a mistress for 8yrs, while courting your wife for 12 years . And impregnating side chick after you got married, I fear you .
    Mistress, he left you for Toke and married her , you still go ahead wanting to have a baby for him .
    Well I don’t like Toke, but I feel sorry for her on this.

    • Hian

      June 15, 2015 at 1:58 am

      Abbey, do we think this man did not know his wife’s dreams and aspirations? So the men out there trying to work for their families have wives sleeping around as well right? Abeg this is not adult marriage. Quality over quantity. Are women not being cheated on every single day? Is it by giving up your dreams that a man will stay with you? If she did that, he might probably chase one of these popular chics in the name of his wife “was ambitious” but now she is clingy. Forget these rules, a man who is lacking attention should ASK. If she no answer, bring in mediators do not sleep around, it is stupid and has consequences. This child will forever be known as that outside child. All because daddy needed attention. What?!?!

  49. Temi

    June 14, 2015 at 9:08 am

    I was saddened when I read this. But it’s happened. They have to move beyond this. Leaving him shouldnt be an option. He messed up, no doubt. But this is when he needs her forgiveness the most. She should also remember that she’s the wife. The world recognises her not the baby mama. Her husband wants her, Not the other. She should disregard the unmarried people and nurture her marriage. I’m a guy and I think I know how horrible her husband feels right now. Please forgive him and yourself and nurture him back.

    • dolapo

      June 14, 2015 at 1:34 pm

      She couldn’t walk away from a cheating boyfriend, I doubt she hhas what it takes to walk away from a cheating husband. Ibi ni toke ma ku si. You think she is ashamed of all this? As long as she has her Mrs Ayida title, she doesn’t care who get belle and born mesiah for Maje

    • Iris

      June 14, 2015 at 2:23 pm

      ‘The world recognizes her, not the baby mama’
      LOL. Not so much anymore. Now, we see both side chick and wife clearly, especially when side chick has a child. If you want to give her a reason to stay, that’s not a valid one. Try harder.

    • Hian

      June 15, 2015 at 2:01 am

      Hahahahahahaahahaa you are a comedian. He must feel bad for sexing up another woman and disgracing his entire family. Wow he must be so hurt for deceiving his wife. Oh my goodness, Leaving is not an option. Your dumb husband needs you right now, he is hurting. Cheating is so exhausting, he needs all the love and care right now. Guy listen to yourself please.

  50. rash

    June 14, 2015 at 9:08 am

    You just said my mind.this Bruno fierce is so malicious. His comments can cause the concern a depression which is too bad

  51. rash

    June 14, 2015 at 9:11 am

    I feel sorry for toke.l love her to bits.she is paid to attend most of the functions she attends.it is her job as a celebrity.so her busy lifestyle should not be an excuse for her husband to cheat

  52. adadioramma

    June 14, 2015 at 9:14 am

    @Bruno, I have been following you up and also read your comments, and what I see is a frustrated He-goat who has no sense of reasoning. Just be careful what you wish others, it is my simple advice to you

  53. rash

    June 14, 2015 at 9:15 am

    The husband knew she was a celebrity before marrying her.so he has no point cheating

    • Tari

      June 14, 2015 at 11:21 am

      Celebrities do not cheat?
      Are you that deluded?
      In naija na dem cheat pass.
      Go VIP corner of most island clubs and see girls and guys forcing themselves on them.

  54. tybay

    June 14, 2015 at 9:23 am

    Its still touted as unconfirmed reports so i hope this isn’t another publicity stunt like the pre-wedding break up drama. Maybe this is just a way for her to announce that she’s pregnant. Enough of my conspiracy theory though… Let Toke say something (a statement) to clear the air, seeing that she’s a public figure. Or else this just remains a rumour!

    If the story is true though, it is very sad. I think Toke is a strong woman and will do what is best for her. Whatever happens, I hope she keeps her head high and focuses on keeping happy.

  55. adadioramma

    June 14, 2015 at 9:23 am

    @Bruno, I have been following you up and also read your comments, and what I see is a frustrated He-goat who has no sense of reasoning. Just be careful what you wish others, it is my simple advice to you.

  56. mrs chidukane

    June 14, 2015 at 9:24 am

    I don’t want to sound judgemental or anything sha oh. What the husband did was wrong. Very wrong. I condemn it in strong terms. However, Toke also contributed. People, the truth is bitter but it needs to be told. With her plenty Waka Waka from morning till night, when does she make time to spend with her man and build their relationship? Weekdays work, nights party, weekends brunch with your girls, Asoebi, opening of so and so, traveling solo around the country and world. Is she busier than Beyoncé? Yet you see her with Jay-Z at least once a week. Ladies, spend time with your husband, they also crave your attention and enjoy being with you. It is not even about sex here, just chilling and being friends and doing things together. Yes you may do all these and they still cheat but then you have the satisfaction of knowing you did what you should and are not to blame. This will make you treat his error from a position of strength.

    • Below average

      June 14, 2015 at 11:25 am

      This is extremely stupid. You mean toke goes out 24/7? Oh I didn’t realise these events lasted for an entire day. How is she still alive then if she doesn’t sleep? Kmt
      I’m glad she was building her brand. God forbid she was a stay at home wife living to please her man 24/7 and he still cheated. Because a woman is hardworking doesn’t mean she neglected her husband ffs

    • tish

      June 14, 2015 at 1:28 pm

      I can’t with you people. I just can’t! And you are married. It just sounds to me like the crap theory about women getting raped because they dress seductively. Because Toke ‘s own is in the news? The millions of housewives that dedicate their lives to their husbands and still get cheated on, how far? What satisfaction are you talking about? No two marriages are the same. If he had a problem with her life style he would have told her not you, so stop with the assumptions. It is no surprise when they say women are their worst enemies. You believe you take care of your husband right? Praying for you that he won’t do the same, so you won’t have to come up with another reason, smh.

    • mrs chidukane

      June 14, 2015 at 6:28 pm

      @Tish, I said what I said. Marriage is about sacrifices. You can’t eat your cake and have it. It sounds incredible, but that’s the gospel truth. Your husband will cheat if he wants to cheat, it doesn’t mean you shouldn’t make time for him. Yes, I am married and I make sacrifices and so does my husband. It is part of making things work. I don’t know what you women think marriage is about. Ask any married couple, the word is sacrifice and compromise. If you are not ready, then better stay single. Ask those men that are too busy and always out how their wives feel about it. Marriage is a lot of work, you either bend down and work or forget it.

    • Hian

      June 15, 2015 at 2:05 am

      Mrs Chidukane, I am not trying to sound mean but honey…Cheating is not by all this your long English. Are you in her house with her? Is the husband not a business owner? Do you think she does not spend time with her man? Is he not busy as well? Do you know if her money is used to keep them afloat? My fellow married women, before you start condemning another woman’s actions biko check your husband. You would be so shocked at some of your man following these small girls around. Yet you will be there with your gele and two wrapper smiling sheepishly while the girl calling you aunty is twerking for your man every night. It is only God’s grace that keeps and not what you think.

    • Angry Calabar girl.

      June 14, 2015 at 2:50 pm

      Each person in a marriage is responsible for his/her own fidelity. You can be the perfect wife, meeting every whim of his but a man that wants to cheat on you, will still do so. That is why marriage is supposed to be a contract between two consenting adults. It is not my responsibility to chase you with a horse whip. After all, i married a man, not a goat.

    • Angry calabar girl No. 2

      June 14, 2015 at 4:06 pm

      Word!!!

    • Asgrl

      June 14, 2015 at 5:42 pm

      You people kill me with these bloody comments! So is it the salary that this 40 year old buffoon with one shirt earns as a “trainer” that she should sit down and rely on????

      You want her to starve and die in the name of marriage?

    • Hian

      June 15, 2015 at 2:07 am

      A buffoon with one shirt though!!! Oh my gosh….I can’t take it Asgrl, please go to the corner…you ain’t right.

    • Naomi

      June 15, 2015 at 8:23 am

      Mrs, thats why you are not on Forbes list….staying at home to back your husband as if he is a baby.

  57. adadioramma

    June 14, 2015 at 9:27 am

    To Toke, my adorable Lady take heart. The Lord is your strength in this trying moment

  58. Theresa

    June 14, 2015 at 9:34 am

    And the most useless man in Nigeria is officially Maje Ayida

    40-something-year-old-failure-to-launch-living-in-his-papa-basement-professional-gymer has the trifecta of useless traits.

    1. Financially irresponsible: Mooching off your wife, no career,
    2. Sexually irresponsible: Clearly you were cheating on Toke for the bulk of your marriage. You jaja married her and then IMPREGNATED another woman 18 months into the marriage AND then let the whole thing blow up in your wife’s face publicly. When you were sending her loving one year anniversary messages, is it that you did not know that Anita was carrying your child? You are a coward and a useless man.
    3. Abusive: There is no way that you maintained 8 year and 12 year relationships with two women CONCURRENTLY without being emotionally abusive to one or both women. What lies you would have told. How you would have destroyed both women’s self-esteem.

    She is a public figure. Her image is her chop. And your chop for that matter. How do you let her end up in such a humiliating position. You at least give her a heads up so she can manage the narrative publicly. You are a coward Maje. A useless, irresponsible, no-good, man. A disgrace to your family. A complete disgrace.

    Toke, if you never carry belle, leave now. I know you thought you “won” when he eventually married you. But as you can see, he ain’t no prize. Leave now, before you are stuck with him titi lai lai.

    • Aduke

      June 14, 2015 at 12:26 pm

      Ta ! ‘Most useless man in Nigeria is Maje!’ You live in their bedroom so you know he’s living off his wife ! You must be the 2nd side chic! How much money does Toke have ? what does she do apart from spending 90% of her time online or attending events? You think she pays for her travel for her clothes? Don’t be fooled by all you see ! Maje was a business man before Toke made her first 50 k !
      Toke, the relationship expert knew her man was cheating and chose to remain so who are you to be judge and jury. Don’t be so quick to bash people because they sin differently than you ! Maje should ‘ ve known better but sh!t happens!
      Advising her to leave her man like you would do the Same! You’re a home breaker just like the pregnant Anita!
      Nigeria online media have a lot to learn about exposing such sensitive issues ! SDK Should have given Toke the courtesy of a heads Up!

    • nene

      June 14, 2015 at 12:46 pm

      gbammest

    • temi

      June 14, 2015 at 1:28 pm

      Public image ko, public latrine ni. Did toke respect herself? Continue your pity summit. When someone shows you who they are, belive them the first time. If anything, Maje has been a consistent womanizer. Yet toke chose to beg for his hand in marriage. Career woman my foot. Go to Shell, OandO, LUTH, Ecobank etc and see real career women holding it down since 1900. Mschewwww. This has nothing to do with Toke’s career. She is just a desperate girl who insisted on losing her sanity over a guy who is just not worth it. This is not the first time Maje has cheated on her. So howcoome this is the firt time someone is havign his baby? It’s because Maje wants a baby and made it happen. This was no mistake. This was all intentional. He knew the foolish girl with her insecurities and Mario tendencies will forgive him llike this never happened.

    • No1

      June 15, 2015 at 2:25 pm

      This case is of no surprise. Majority of delta men do this and it is nothing new. What is worse is that their own women know and just find a way to move on or get on with it.

  59. Ba

    June 14, 2015 at 9:37 am

    Omgosh, this is so sad news. I can’t wait no further for her video on this. Take heart Toke pls. Is a time for reflection and forward looking.

  60. Miss_Flygerian

    June 14, 2015 at 9:43 am

    I hope this is not true because mehn, o dikwa very sad.

  61. Debacle

    June 14, 2015 at 9:54 am

    Wait, former aristo Toke or another??? Can karma no do its work in peace??? Ya’ll on the outside, it’s going around, it’s all around you!

  62. Fabulicious

    June 14, 2015 at 10:09 am

    Life goes on.Best believe these might even make them closer,funny enough.All the same kudos to those who keep their relationships private.You are the real MVP.

  63. HelenEventsBlog

    June 14, 2015 at 10:10 am

    Am just speechless! I think Toke needs to meet with Annie Idibia for survival skills in this matter..

    • sonia

      June 14, 2015 at 10:55 am

      kai , lmao @ survival skills

    • Sola

      June 14, 2015 at 11:39 am

      See “shade”

    • nene

      June 14, 2015 at 12:48 pm

      biko i want to believe toke is smarter than annie, at least she has her money, annie idibia has nothing, even though she claims to be an actress, which is why she chose to stay with tuface.

    • le coco

      June 14, 2015 at 3:45 pm

      @nene nna baby girl chop major knuckle.. mehn.. i thot i was the only one hu thot annie was jst dumb…. c the way i was shaking my head when reading all the comments on BN during their dubai wedding.. all the awwww’s, nd the ” you c annie you stayed and you won”… mtchew.. the girl jst disrespected women on a hundred.. because the fact of the matter is tuface was dating three different women… annie had no way of knowing he would pick her.. nd please hu the hell in this day nd age waits around to be “picked”… he could have just as easily picked one of the others.. nd ppl be saying.. awww but annie stayed the longest so she must have known.. LIES!! all those randy men hu met their wives before they had wealth.. where are their wives now? owning small canteen in surulere while the side chick be driving range rover… people lyk dabota lawsons husband nkoh? where is d first wife… wasnt she the one to c his potential before he had any money.. mtchew..
      Toke should just respect herself and bounce. she doesnt need him… she is a strong woman… all those parties tht she has been attending.. ppl be laffing at her.. but thats what makes her famous. nd thats what has landed her endorsment deals..

    • Anonymous

      June 15, 2015 at 6:48 am

      Oh lawd, I have seen it all on this your comment o my sister. Lmbo @ survival skills

  64. chi-e-z

    June 14, 2015 at 10:14 am

    It’s not that serious it’s a child not an atomic bomb people have more problems in this life. Just means her husband lied to her when he called his ex a crazy stalker when this “stalker” was telling the truth. I wish her, her husband,baby and mama a happy forth right from hence forth life. If it’s not our husband or vagina wetin concern us. I’ve seen many many things is this my short life on earth this is one of the least dramatic or terrifying of them. blessings come in more worse disguises.

  65. james

    June 14, 2015 at 10:18 am

    Advising others when your own house is on fire…..lol

  66. KingsQueen

    June 14, 2015 at 10:29 am

    Maje you are FILTH!!! I’m not really here for Toke but that woman doesn’t deserve this humiliation, it’s one thing to step out on your partner and its another to have a baby added to the cheating equation!!! Worse even after dealing with all his bullsh*t for 12 friggin years!

    After all said and done I’m still a firm believer that not all men cheat!

    • temi

      June 14, 2015 at 1:18 pm

      Oshi o daa. He dealt with her bullshit for 12 years too. Can’t you see it take two to tango? 12 years no ring not commitment, Toke could have walked instead of becoming. Mario ontop Maje case when clearly the guy no wan do.

  67. joy

    June 14, 2015 at 10:33 am

    Pleasseee her husband has a pregnant woman outside marriage soo?is it a cancer or Hiv because your own husbands are not in d public eye many of your husbands ave kids outside and u know Nothing about it so take a good seat as for d men smh

  68. Ngozi

    June 14, 2015 at 10:47 am

    LOL, I can’t believe you guys are falling for this, this is a PR stunt, now toke will act all like *I am a victim, going through alot*, and people will feel sorry for her, like omg *Toke I am praying for you** bla bla and she will gain more followers.. Even Maje needs this to boost his business. Remember the Twitter rant/breakup in 2013? And after that she got married to him like a month later… She’s the KIM K of naija! It’s all business. Toke kpele oh!!!

  69. fga

    June 14, 2015 at 11:02 am

    It could have been worse. If the man turned out to be gay nko? What would she have done? Baby mama drama is a lesser evil o jare. All these babes shouting dump him etc etc. This is real life in Nigeria not DSTV, CBS abi Fox. It doesn’t work like that here. People work out their issues. Do you know how many people have had baby mama or second wife in Nigeria? Even your relatives or parents would advice the person stands their ground. Leave all this new age foaming at the mouth. The babe don clock 30-something, is it to remain alone and single looking for market she wants to be doing at that age? Make una advice better thing abeg, leave this Hollywood analysis.

  70. Dinky

    June 14, 2015 at 11:07 am

    Ohk!-I don’t know toke personal but share aquintances (her so called friends).all I see/hear is a need for this constant social climbing & public validation in a town where there’s no love & people thrive on hitting below the belt.there are people in media who make their private lives private & just put their work out there.i hope lessons have been learnt & my dear toke you take some time out to find yourself & not live vicariously through the fake bitches you all hang together who incidentally are the ones laughing hardest & talking junk about you ie…na dog wey dey catch shit 4 him mouth na him b thief…basically they are saying stop making maje out to be the devil cos you too are busy shagging outside your marriage….so your priority should be you & healing.you really have no real friends.

  71. Jhennique

    June 14, 2015 at 11:12 am

    Mixed feelings about this. No wonder my mom always asks ” why are men becoming more useless these days?”

    • natu

      June 14, 2015 at 6:54 pm

      Because we allow them to be. African women are so desperate to be married that they can’t even make SMART decisions.

  72. Tari

    June 14, 2015 at 11:14 am

    As I was saying on the D’prince article, what exactly is wrong with our generation and condoms?

  73. krasavitsa

    June 14, 2015 at 11:15 am

    My heart goes out to Toke, may she make the best decision in these trying times (if the story is true). I don’t understand why people are saying things like “leaving is not an option” and “stay and make your marriage work”. Some things simply can’t be fixed. If there wasn’t a HUGE evidence to haunt her for the rest of her life, then maybe, just maybe they can make it work. ‘Cos if she stays, that’ll probably be the beginning of High BP for her. I watch my mum take meds everyday ‘cos I have a step sis that was born after my folks got married. Trust me, it’s not easy for her; she’s constantly worried, always fretting, praying like there’s no tomorrow. Trust is like a broken mirror; you can mend it, but you’ll still see the cracks.
    PS, the reason why some men are such jerks is because they know that “leaving is not an option for us”

    • natu

      June 14, 2015 at 6:52 pm

      Walking out is always an option love.

  74. Below average

    June 14, 2015 at 11:19 am

    Not remotely surprised by some of these comments. It’s not a secret that a lot of you never liked Toke, even up to the point of laughing at her plight.

    Anyway those of you who think it’s “funny” her husband supposedly did what he did because she gives women advice about relationships are extremely daft. That’s like laughing at a doctor for having cancer.
    Just stfu.

    A man embarrasses his wife yet it’s the woman’s fault. All because she was trying to build a career for herself- you act like this woman is out every second of the day. Incase you didn’t know, housewives still get cheated on. A lot of you don’t really reason before you type.

    Toke, for the sake of peace of mind, I hope it’s not true. And if it is, I wish you the very best with everything. May you find strength to overcome this.
    Madam sidechick, you and maje will never find happiness. It’s not a curse.

  75. Veee

    June 14, 2015 at 11:30 am

    A pity.

    I think Time should change the concept of her Vlog. If not what’s the point?

  76. Suwa

    June 14, 2015 at 11:44 am

    I just dey wonda why everybody dey blame Maje, Toke nko?

    • Angry Calabar girl.

      June 14, 2015 at 2:40 pm

      And what exactly would we be blaming Toke for? That her husband, a grown ass man decided to break his vows to be faithful to her for life? I dont’ care whatever it is that people think she neglected to do. The man chose to step out of his marriage. Scratch that, he decided to cheat on his wife. This is all on him, his sole responsibility and all blame should be heaped at his feet. If he was interested in his marriage, he should have fled every appearance of evil.

  77. Ebiere

    June 14, 2015 at 12:01 pm

    its hard enough to keep a man with all ur housewife duties talk less of keeping a man with a TOKE SCHEDULE….for Christ sake! Dere are so many unimportant events dat this lady attends! How about staying home and being a wife too? Look at kim, beyonce they are HARDWORKING BUT THEY CANNOT GO FOR AS LONG AS A WEEK WITHOUT SEEING OR BEING SEEN WITH THEIR HUSBANDS.
    2. will toke say she never knew about this woman? For 8 years?

    • le coco

      June 14, 2015 at 3:35 pm

      @ebiere.. so what if beyonce n kim spend time with their husbands? is it not public knowledge that kanye cheats… nd im sure jayz is no different. sometimes we ladies need to stop trying to scientifically find any reason for mens’ infidelity.. men will cheat because they can.. simple!!.. if you are a housewife, a working woman, a woman hu works from home, or a girlfrend… it can happen to anyone..

    • Hian

      June 15, 2015 at 2:11 am

      Aunty, Kanye and Jay cheat so ya point?

  78. Aduke

    June 14, 2015 at 12:09 pm

    Can the frustrated men bashers stop blaming Maje ? Your boyfriends and husbands are doing the same to you and you have come here to rant ! The red flags were there for her to see from day 1. A leopard never changes it’s spots ! Instead of her to attend to her personal life she was busy giving relationship advice when hers was a mess ! Chasing fame and Instagram and Youtube likes when you should be investing your time and energy in truly loving yourself instead of staying with and marrying a man who has constantly shown you his true colors.
    Can we be truthful with ourselves for once ? We women deceive ourselves and see only what we want to See! We accept so much bullsh#t because we desperate and insecure ! I’m truly sorry for your pain and no one deserves such heartbreak but You have made your bed Toke and it has blown up in your face ! I hope you and your ass licking defenders learn from this mistake and learn to love yourself and stop being desperate and insecure ! Pick up the pieces of your marriage and move on. You the self professed relationship expert should seek professional counselling and stop misleading young girls with your vlogs. It is obvious even you cannot live by the advice you give ! #FixItJesus #MendItMessiah #AmendItAlphaAndOmega
    Men are naturally polygamous. Monogamy is a societal construct. The best you can hope for is ignorance of any shenanigans because ignorance is bliss! Bliss will have you posting soppy Instagram and Facebook love posts till sh#t hits the roof ! It’s Toke ‘ s own today it will be yours tomorrow !!!

    • fga

      June 14, 2015 at 2:39 pm

      Thank you. The money quote there “Men are naturally polygamous. Monogamy is a societal construct.” Ask any man who is a friend, not a fiance, husband or boyfriend and he will tell you that same truth.

    • Colour Purple

      June 15, 2015 at 11:23 am

      Ask any man who doesn’t fear God and he would tell you that. A man that fears The Lord would show you that fidelity in marriage is a covenant with God.

    • Jibike

      June 14, 2015 at 4:07 pm

      These male bashers tired me too. Maje is not as faulty as Toke in this mess. Too many family meetings and friends intervention before the guy grudgingly married her. I was here and watch Toke bully Maje with all her stupid videos. Dumb girl event went as far as saying ” if a woman wears a hair bonnet to bed, her husband deserves to cheat on her”. Toke for Years acted like she got this whole dating and marriage thing on lockdown. She was busy hailing her understanding husband while that one was getting the real understanding from Ojo calabar. Toke knew it…she is not a victim. Get this pity rally out of here. Stupid bish will be back with him 4 weeks tops, gushing about how God deliberately molded her for Maje. Dense girl. The way the Ayida family treated Toke alone was reason not to wan marry Maje, but ko moju ko mo ara.

  79. x-factor

    June 14, 2015 at 12:10 pm

    I smell a foulplay here, i guess the story is hoax and a media/PR stunt for trending!

  80. wannabe popular naija youtuber

    June 14, 2015 at 12:25 pm

    Let this be on record that I said this. This is a publicity stunt, toke is pregnant, if not she leaked dis news herself. Watch and see.

  81. fête

    June 14, 2015 at 12:29 pm

    In the words of Oprah Winfrey when someone shows you who they are believe them the 1st time

  82. Yollaine

    June 14, 2015 at 12:32 pm

    I recently read a tweet toke wrote to hubby….she was full of praise for him. Am sure they’ve trash out dis issue long so u guys need to chillx. For all u knw they r in bed reading sum of ya comment n laughing. Girl is tough. …trust she will get pass this. Make una save ur data for sum beta news.

  83. No shaking

    June 14, 2015 at 12:40 pm

    Can you guys stop roasting the already black Man called Maje!
    Toke has been living a make believe life . She is no different from Maje. They met while she was runzing..so what do you guys expect

  84. Fifi

    June 14, 2015 at 12:45 pm

    Y do i envision toke n her cheat doing a sitdown interview wit maybe Mo or Betty Irabor, as oyibo say all publicity is good publicity

  85. Anon

    June 14, 2015 at 12:49 pm

    Sad! Where are All the Voltron Forces, Toks Power Rangers nefa saw it coming, A good cake is all in the foundation,

  86. Chief

    June 14, 2015 at 12:49 pm

    How is he an embarrassment?? Because it went wrong abi?? I’m sorry that the side chick got pregnant but real men have side chicks that’s how we keep our marriage going,98% of men have side chicks.Maje Why u no played your game well.

    • Angry Calabar girl.

      June 14, 2015 at 2:33 pm

      Real men have side chicks? Excuse me chief, seeing as you obviously aren’t one, how would you know what they do. Please step aside for the MEN to do the talking.#realmendontcheat#.

    • fga

      June 14, 2015 at 3:08 pm

      Better believe it..

    • Adultery is still a sin...

      June 14, 2015 at 5:42 pm

      I feel sorry for you. I hope you know that hell fire is real and very very hot. These temporary small pleasures from so called side chicks will not comfort you then. Be wise

    • Hian

      June 15, 2015 at 2:13 am

      Real man 😀 😀 😀 😀 That’s what those hungry girls tell you.

  87. Zandyzay

    June 14, 2015 at 12:50 pm

    I’m just thinking. Am I alone in this thought? Has Toke any child? Her hubby probably wants a child and Toke ain’t forth coming with any. We are Africans in Africa. Pikin matter no be here oooooo…. I wonder Hw many baby mama’s naija don produce abroad shaaaa

    • Kadara

      June 14, 2015 at 3:31 pm

      If the husband is the one who has challenges with fertility would it be okay for his wife to seek a child elsewhere since according to you this is Africa and a child is important? I hate how women are treated like less than humans and many females even have such low self esteem they think it’s okay!

    • chi-e-z

      June 17, 2015 at 4:35 am

      This is a late response but actually yes atleast in Igbo land it’s the woman that marries the second wife whose usually been impregnated by someone else entirely and instead letting her be a single mother. A first wife or even second third wateva as long as they want to adopt the child marries her wife.Hence adopting mother and child with husband and family consent ofcourse. I have a huge paternal family this way actually.

    • Hian

      June 15, 2015 at 2:14 am

      Marriage of a year and he can’t wait. AIDS/HIV numbers are not high in Africa for no reason.

  88. BEAUTIFULNBLESSED

    June 14, 2015 at 12:56 pm

    HEW! POOR GIRL. NURSE YOURSELF STRONG AND KEEP MOVING. YOU HAVE A HEART BEAT. THE WORLD IS YOUR OYSTER. CHIN UP. ALUTA, I NEED MY BLOGS GIRL……TALK TO ME. WHAT EXAMPLE ARE YOU GOING TO SHOW? YOU BETTER BE STRONG.

  89. Andrew

    June 14, 2015 at 12:57 pm

    At least he has proof that he isnt impotent

    • Idomagirl

      June 14, 2015 at 9:01 pm

      How do we even know that the child is his? 🙂

  90. Eli

    June 14, 2015 at 1:02 pm

    This is a terrible thing to happen to anybody but there seems to be an inordinate amount of schadenfreude in Toke Makinwa’s case.

    I don’t think it is because she is a public figure. The public is generally sympathetic to women who have been cheated on and humiliated by their husbands, especially when it happens in the public eye.

    Toke’s problem is ARTIFICE. Her hair, her face, her accent, her clothes, her personality and apparently her marriage are all contrived and affected. Everything about her is an exercise in falseness. Which is not unusual for a celebrity, they are selling their lives and a product and some fakeness is allowed and even expected.

    Unlike Toke though, they do not both glamorize the lie and THEN pontificate to us lesser mortals about how we should live our lives. Kim Kardashian does not dispense relationship advice so we would feel sorry for her if Kanye cheated.

    Toke’s vlog titles include gems like “how to spot an asshole” and “stay away from bad boys” whilst there is a picture of her own asshole bad boy hanging on the wall behind her.

    The schadenfreude stems from the hypocrisy of Toke Makinwa as a product.

    Still it is a tragic situation and one with more lessons than Toke ever managed to dispense herself.

    • Lilo

      June 14, 2015 at 2:10 pm

      Thank you for aptly describing the pathological fakeness that is Toke. If you profile Anita, she is plane Jane and nothing like Toke. I am not saying one is better or worse as a partner, but it just reaffirms that Maje wants normalcy and Toke may not be ideal for him. Mba…the girl was bent on becoming mrs Ayida by al means. As though that title will erase the 12 years of suffering she endured with the guy. Let me go and find some onions so I can pity her a bit.

    • Olope

      June 14, 2015 at 5:28 pm

      Wait, so we heard a rumor that Maje cheated, and if it is true, your response is that it’s because he wants normalcy, not because he is an irresponsible coward that stuck to what he didn’t want to save face, whilst sneaking behind her back to dip his dirty hands in the normalcy jar? Brilliant! I hope you’ll remember this gem when karma comes to bite you in the butt, whether you are a man or woman.

  91. Ba

    June 14, 2015 at 1:04 pm

    “You cheat on me because you are insecure about something in your life, not mine” oh, Toke knows her man is a cheetah and she went along out of her vlog influence. I pray she find succour

  92. anita pikin

    June 14, 2015 at 1:12 pm

    Marriage done. for him to go back to an ex. and now his first baby by her – love is not enough to hold this marriage together oh. just cut your lost, move on and let him and his ex have a family. sad but truth it is bitter. this too sha pass

  93. Frosh♥

    June 14, 2015 at 1:16 pm

    All the social media drama is not necessary, social media is a brutal place world wide and pips are outchea liking your picks while hoping you trip, aint no love in the heart of the city *in jayz’s voice* lol. Its sad but she knows, she knows, i know she knows, ah know she knows, deep down she knows *in j-coles voice* i have friends whose husbands cheat on them on the regular they KNOW but at tle flip of a hat they are all up on social media eulogizing their boo just because they are so obssesed with potraying a picture of a perfect life, lets just stop being all about this public life, when would pips realize that most pips are not here for your success not to sound like a negative nancy but the world seems to be in some kind of viscious competition of whos killing it better and the minute you slip up you drown with the piranhas, save yourselves the drama, be about your business and live a private life, toke and maje i hope you both find what makes you happy, life is no fun when its forced.

  94. temi

    June 14, 2015 at 1:16 pm

    Aleti lapa Omo ni toke. The fly that does not heed the warnings of the elders, ends up in the grave with the corpse.

    She is not innocent in all of this so why are you guys making her out to be a victim when she played a major role in this mess.
    This has nothing to do with her being a busy woman. Heck no man wants an idle liability. However Toke’s frivolities such as attending every darn partiy and releasing foolish videos that make no sense make it hard for any man to take her seriously. Those vlogs were rather juvenile. How be a runs girl aand be proud, types of men, how to be a sharp girl. Wth? She is not half as busy as serious career women out there who still carry themselves quite well in public. The day she showed up at the polls to vote in pink bubu, and a white dog I realized how obliivious she was about the spec in her own eye. Honestly they both deserve each other. 2 mad people. Here is a topic idea for your next vlog – how to lose a husband in 15 days. Or how not to be a mumu wife.

  95. Lol

    June 14, 2015 at 1:35 pm

    Just like Annie idibia she knew was she was doing. Its okay though they will stay together.
    Poor girl men.

  96. tish

    June 14, 2015 at 1:39 pm

    If there is anything social media has brought to the fore, it’s that there are so many unkind people. Just too many. It gets scary at times that people you relate with and think they are OK may really be one of them. No one cares that you are hurting, dying, unhappy. 90% percent of the time, the people giving advise are even worse. Log and speck. The other day it was unending comments about naija men being this and that, today you read some of the same people giving reasons why the same naija man could have done what he did. Back to advising the woman on what she should do, same cycle. Shebi it’s this life we live in, time will bring most people to their knees. I can’t do this, you should have done that, why this, why that, none of which you can even prove. All of them, social media stories.
    May we not experience the pain some of this peeps endure in silence.

    • Olope

      June 14, 2015 at 5:31 pm

      Wiser words are yet to be written on this page.

  97. Shobie

    June 14, 2015 at 1:49 pm

    Deep down in my heart, l pray this is not true. If it is, Mr. Ayida, you will know shame on a mega scale. No one can force a grown man to commit. You chose her and swore to love her. As for those gloating, U cannot rejoice over another’s misfortune and expect happiness in ur life. Karma is a bitch.

  98. YA

    June 14, 2015 at 2:09 pm

    I love Toke and I am a fan….. but mehn I have to say this is partly her fault….. the signs were there and clear…. It is one thing if she dated Maje for a year before they married but they were together for 12 YEARS! and he treated her badly within that period …. what is it about him? I really wanted toke to do better but when they got married, I hoped for the best. Toke you did not take your advise, you are more valuable than this…Whatever decision you make now…May God guide you through and help you to become more wise on this journey. Amen

  99. LeoLeo

    June 14, 2015 at 2:18 pm

    The Devil is in the details and there are 2 sides or more to a story, so am not judging or blasting anyone, will just sit and enjoy this award-winning soap opera

  100. Ada Ada

    June 14, 2015 at 2:21 pm

    Toke, you are beautiful. Jesus loves you. Stay strong.

    • lalaroses

      June 17, 2015 at 4:07 pm

      Beautiful in the sight of the Lord yes…for true beauty lies in the heart not in makeup and weaves and fake everything

  101. Angry Calabar girl.

    June 14, 2015 at 2:27 pm

    Dear Bella naija,
    The girl is half Lebanese and half Calabar? REALLY?? Calabar is a place and not a tribe. People from that part of the country are generally referred to as Efiks. So, you could say the girl is half Lebanese and half Efik. While we are on the subject, Akwa Ibom is not the same as Cross River. We are not all ‘Calabar people’. Generally, people from Akwa Ibom are referred to as Ibibios. Please get it right. You guys shouldn’t be making such mistakes.

  102. YA

    June 14, 2015 at 2:33 pm

    So my curiosity did not allow me…..chai chai chai…..I went and googled ‘Maje and Anita” and the girl is not even as glamorous as toke… Toke e be like say that your advise on how to keep a man no dry work for real life o….. the girl no do brazillian, no even do too much make up…. infact Toke I’m praying for you through this period….

  103. Really not our business

    June 14, 2015 at 2:38 pm

    Social media and the anonymity it affords has made everyone advise gurus in all matters of this world. At the end of the day it really is none of our business and no one’s place to judge anyone.

  104. me

    June 14, 2015 at 2:48 pm

    Only a retarded human will think ending your career will stop your man from cheating. Toke the only reason I blame you is because you don’t have self worth.

    This man you married dated you for 12years and simultaneously dated someone else for 8 years. You both got no engagement but you pushed hard till you got it… did you not think he married you because of what he saw you could become?

    You have the fame he needs to boost his fitness career, but he had nothing to offer you except from sexual desires.. yet you married him.

    Having said all this, once you agree to marry someone, you should respect that union. I will never advice you to stay in that marriage….

    Lastly Lebanese means she is fair, could this be why.?
    Sorry for what you are going through but I am certain there is something better out there for youxx

  105. l

    June 14, 2015 at 3:10 pm

    you guys please be easy on Toke!! why so much negative comment!!! *smh* May God really forgive you bitter souls!!!

  106. Abigail

    June 14, 2015 at 3:41 pm

    If this is true, I feel sorry for Toke. However, it makes me wonder if she was truly oblivious to the other girl.

    also, to the team at Bella Naija. There is no such thing as being Half Calabar or even full self. You can be from Calabar but not “be Calabar”. It’s like saying someone is halfLagos, half Lebanese. (Instead of saying Half Yoruba for example) Does not make sense. Three tribes are in Calabar: Efik, Efut & Qua. Nigeria is diverse and we must aim to get our descriptions right.

    Anyway, hope Toke is alright…

  107. Iris

    June 14, 2015 at 3:46 pm

    Then the men should be polygamous na! There are lots of openly polygamous men and I have infinitely more respect for them than the ones that look you in the eye, stand before God and promise to love you and no other. It is not by force to be Christian or ‘westernized’. Just don’t be a liar, a coward, and a hypocrite. If you think that no one will want to marry you if you say you’re a polygamist, never fear. There are more women than men hanging around. You will find at least three who will not mind sharing husband.

    • Iris

      June 14, 2015 at 3:47 pm

      This comment was for fga

  108. Cj

    June 14, 2015 at 3:54 pm

    In other showbiz marriages around the world, after the wedding, the couple tend to slow down, keep the world out for a minute, procreate if need be and get to understand each other more before getting out there.. Toke’s publicity on slaught trippled after her marriage, the Vlogs churned out every other week, she is on every other private plane to attend one political arranged media show case, well poor Waje was home ,all alone, bored probably, working out, training others or what ever he does for a living, no baby to keep him engaged, so there you go, all the time in the world for a brother to remember his hot calabar romance. So who do you blame here?? There is a lesson to be learnt by everyone here, in as much I’m for the world raving Feminist agenda, it just doesn’t seem to be working, the minute you the wife is not home and tending to his need(basically, food, sex, and more sex, ) his no brains penis gets into gear and has a mind of his own, god save you were it decides to go and park well..in worst cases it ends up being the house help or a family member. Women that are career driven just needs to find the balance here, it just doesn’t seem to me like a win win situation. Having that career and home all wrapped up.. One just slips up everytime. Well I’m going back to read this article
    http://www.bellanaija.com/2015/06/11/uti-nwachukwu-writes-i-must-marry-or-else/

    Until then, heal pretty nice Toke, for your career a quiet divorce maybe, if you want a family, time to get knocked up and prove to baby mama wanna be you just as much woman with more money and ambition.

    • Olope

      June 14, 2015 at 5:21 pm

      Are you married? If not, pray that your over-sabi does not bring your marriage to ruin. If so, you better sleep with one eye open. Over sabi, mind your life, and let God take care of others’.

    • Hian

      June 15, 2015 at 2:19 am

      So the housewives being cheated on need to do what in your expert opinion? Some of you young girls think you have it all figured out. Don’t work hard o, your mothers and fathers did not send you to School to look for husband and slow down. These men will eat you dry and leave you for that feminist you are yabbing. Then your eyes will clear. Marry a man who knows self discipline and has a job. Or you can marry someone on your level so both of you can be schlepping along while your mates are making waves.

  109. Tokstarry

    June 14, 2015 at 3:54 pm

    This is Karma! And it’s the beginning for her. Toke destroyed many homes in her time and so what she is getting is not unwarranted.

    • mio

      June 14, 2015 at 6:07 pm

      Liar liar liar, as if you know her!

  110. wo!

    June 14, 2015 at 4:08 pm

    When u finally win a “battle “and become the main chic u should also b. On ur feet praying that d past don come barking. She knew what she got into, it’s unfortunate the social media won’t let her deal wit it,cos she’s made d social media her business too! Best wishes to u baby mama n ur love.cos dis one pass me

  111. Disguised

    June 14, 2015 at 4:24 pm

    Nigerians choi!!! 169 comments on this.

    Choi!!!! Na today we start to hear stories like this??? My people.

    E don happen e don happen. I didn’t see them as a married couple Sef…. 12 years dating one man. Be like secondary school love then surprise wedding abeg this stories I no fit deal.

    He wanted to get the babe pregnant do you think he is a fool at his age? Any man or woman of age that gets pregnant knew and planned it.

    Why una dey here dey stress. People going to twitter to curse the guy, FOR WHAT???? It would nt change anything. Safe urself the wahala and mind ur business pls

    Nigerians living like they know no sin…. Pluzeeeeeeee

  112. mary

    June 14, 2015 at 4:41 pm

    Nobody wishes for this type of drama/betrayal in his or her marriage, if this story is true, Toke, i am really sorry and pray God strengthens you. I know how humiliating this could be due to the fact that your Vblog portrays you as a relationship expert. it is ok for you to cry and go through the stages of grieving and come out strong. Maje has made a mistake which i am sure he might not be proud of, if you decide to give him another chance to make things right because of the love you have for him, i would suggest that you please dedicate more time to your marriage, your marriage is barely 2 years and still at a toddlers stage where both parties need a commitment to make it work. you are virtually seen at every single event, you called it “NETWORKING” you are not the only married entertainer out there, you don’t have to honor every single invitation just to be seen out there, you have already built a brand for yourself. don’t neglect the home front in the process of pursuing fame. who knows what must have driven your hubby back in the hands of his Ex. may God’s grace guide you as you sort things out.

  113. Ada

    June 14, 2015 at 4:53 pm

    Mennn…..wonderful::
    Gal take heart, life moves on, let it go, pick urself up love yrself and move on..cus if u remain there u would live a life of bitterness and regret..

  114. lola

    June 14, 2015 at 4:56 pm

    Sigh. Some people baffle me. A man cheats and you blame the woman. The husband knew of her busy lifestyle before they got married and he married her. But if it’s the woman that cheats nobody faces the husband’s *busy* schedule. Toke’s a strong woman and has had her fair share of life’s pains even before this. She’s a strong woman and I know God will heal her heart and she’ll soar higher. And to those who hate her and her actually laughing at her predicament…it’s just sad. May you never experience this sorta pain oo, cos only a devil would ask this for their worst enemy.

  115. bissy

    June 14, 2015 at 5:05 pm

    Temi pls take a chill pill. Wtf is wrong with her choice of career. I don’t get,so a media personality is not a career bah! keep hating on her while she gets more endorsements and eventually her own empire! Remember it’s her life not yours! Madam. she parties she is a social climber blahblah!!! What if this news was another publicity stunt??

  116. Olope

    June 14, 2015 at 5:19 pm

    All these pretend sympathisers (maybe some are sincere sha) need to remember that you do not know these people personally, so stop fanning this malicious story seeded by haters in the entertainment industry. Her real friends her not going to take to social platforms to sympathise with her. If you are truly concerned, send a private message. All these “e yah, chineke, pele, God will fire your enemy,…” on social media is not helping her, whether or not the story is true,

  117. Uti was right after all

    June 14, 2015 at 5:25 pm

    Peer pressure, fans pressure and social media aproko, not listening to God before you say I do, etc. Uti was right after all

    I congratulate Lilian Esoro for running away from Ubi Franklin and breaking off the engagement as soon as she saw the RED FLAG. When all the signs are there, please you’d better not jump the broom no matter what.

    I’m praying God to heal and restore Toke, to give her a better man in the future. I know that tears will turn to songs of praise. It’s well my sister. We all make mistakes and you’re not responsible for your “ex-husband to be” infidelity, you are only responsible for your choices. You can do it and undo it, then deal with whatever happens in between. God will give you the strenght to move on.

    For Uti :
    May God open your eyes to recognise your soulmate in the spirit and make a good choice in the mean time. I believe that with all you wrote, you will never hurt your future wife once you find her. Make up please for all the other wicked men out there and be a good example to emulate.

  118. dammy

    June 14, 2015 at 5:40 pm

    I see my last comment wasn’t posted, I am not hating because I realized that once Nigerians cannot take criticism, its considered hate. I am sorry o whoever the moderator is

  119. Blast from the past

    June 14, 2015 at 5:51 pm

    U insulted Edo Girls,,hahhaaa dey are witches alrite, Calabar girls are? Deal wit it!!!!

  120. Angry Calabar girl.

    June 14, 2015 at 6:52 pm

    BN, I see you refused to post my comment. so, others wont learn abi? I will say it again. Calabar is a place, not a tribe. People from CRS are generally referred to as Efiks. That is the appropriate term, not calabar. While we are on the subject, please do not lump Akwa Ibom state and Cross River indigenes together as calabar people. Akwa Ibomites are generally referred to as ibibios. Please note.

  121. Mrs82

    June 14, 2015 at 6:54 pm

    Good for her, she is busy doing fashion parade everyday! am laughing in chinese, and i pray that my ex impregnate someone soon too.

  122. Vidavi

    June 14, 2015 at 7:15 pm

    This is awful, and my heart breaks for Toke. I saw a picture of the other chick, and she’s everything Tole is not. She’s plain as can be, and word on the street is that Maje provided the funds for her business. It got me thinking, why are Nigerian men threatened by successful women? Toke is flashy and over the top, yes, but she’s also a go getter, an independent woman who doesn’t want to burden her man with all their financial obligations. Nigerian men have been programmed to cheat, and programmed to feel like a woman who needs them is more valuable. Cut the macho bullshit, stop being so damn greedy, and stop saying “Fuck you” to God and honor your wedding vows.

  123. i no send

    June 14, 2015 at 7:15 pm

    What if she decides to work this things out with him???..what will happen to all these women in a murderous rage..learn to stay out of married peoples business …..when some of our so called feminists in diaspora scream in agony about how weak Nigerian women are..i refer them to the “Strong” Gabrielle Union , Mrs Ludacris and Mrs Hillary Clinton..what am i saying???…women are basically emotionally same the world over….just different time zones ..Im out

    • Hian

      June 15, 2015 at 2:23 am

      Mrs Hilary Clinton is about to be the President of the United States, Gabrielle Union has a bank account with millions in it and a great acting career. Nigerian women will be acting stupid without an ounce of sense. Catching diseases, packing other women’s babies and when the man leaves or dies from said disease she is at the mercy of relatives for food to eat. Diaspora feminists as you call them are asking us all to wake up and stop acting without sense because we lose every single time.

  124. Yall should shut up jo

    June 14, 2015 at 7:19 pm

    Y’all should shut it.

    A married young lady just finished texting and calling me that she wants to fuck me. Yes, you heard it right. A married young lady. Both men and women cheat.

    Listen girls, if you are not ready for this side chick, heart attack news, the only solution is not to have a bf or marry. That is the only assured way. But as long as you have a guy, whether bf/husband, you may either be the side chick or you have fellow sharers of your man’s d***.

    Na today woman they give birth for married men?

    Plenty of you here are dating married men, chopping their money, deceiving yourselves that you are not sleeping with them just sitting out, collecting gifts, collecting cash and cars….

    God knows your address

    • Idomagirl

      June 14, 2015 at 9:12 pm

      Abeg your comment doesn’t make sense. That you’re surrounded by loose women doesn’t mean that every woman sleeps or dates married men, that you’re a randy he-goat doesn’t mean that every man is. Silly.

  125. hyelazira

    June 14, 2015 at 7:23 pm

    Notin is beyond God dear,go on ur knees

  126. wit

    June 14, 2015 at 8:02 pm

    I wish her goodluck

  127. Amh

    June 14, 2015 at 8:09 pm

    @ lilo. May the same predicament awaits you. Its your portion in life. You were at the registry and you are now gloating. Infact receive the curse called maje. Your partner will cheat on you and bring reproach to you. And to the senseless fools blaming toke and gloating. Receive maje the reproach bearer in jesus name.

    • LILO

      June 15, 2015 at 11:33 pm

      Toke stop going all over the Internet cursing people who dare to not empathize with you. The signs were there but you ignored them to marry by fire by force.

  128. dedun

    June 14, 2015 at 8:19 pm

    its funny how the people of the “society” and social media telling her to go marry are the ones bashing her for not seeing the signs before saying i do to that kind of man…. they broke up, people bashed her for leaving 11yr relationship.. you cant win with this world… moral of the story: do not let any demonic pressure make u weak.. if marriage is not what u want, my dear dont do it. because the people that will pressure u are also those that will be the first to carry the news of problems in ur marriage on their head.

    • Vidavi

      June 14, 2015 at 8:41 pm

      I love you for this

    • Idomagirl

      June 14, 2015 at 9:10 pm

      Best comment on here!!! The same ‘go and marry’ crowd are the ones that will throw stones at you if the marriage doesn’t work. You do, dem talk, you no do dem still talk.

  129. Anonymous

    June 14, 2015 at 8:21 pm

    1)No one can force a man to do what he doesn’t want to do including getting married if not most women with kids for men will be married to them. Most men always know who they want to be with for the rest of their lives from the get go.
    2) There’s nothing in this world a woman will do to prevent a man from cheating,he will cheat if he wants to and won’t because he doesn’t,it’s their personal choice and decision
    3) Irrespective of how people may view toke,she’s hurting. One of the most painful experiences for a woman who is yet to conceive,is to find out another woman is birthing for her hubby. It hurts deeply.
    4) love,they say is blind”not literally. it just means it overlooks the faults of others. Has anybody stopped to consider just maybe she loved him that much to tolerate his excesses as I’m sure a lot of people have done and still do?
    5) Toke,my sincere advice is you be guided from within, if you can stomach this & being with him makes you happy,you best be doing you. At the end of every comment we will all go back and face our own not so perfect world. It’s your call.

  130. You reap what you sow

    June 14, 2015 at 8:32 pm

    Runs girl Toke, now you see what it feels like to have a philandering husband? I left bitterly. Hmmm All the married men you were doing runs with nko? There are some women who have cheating husbands though they never messed up with married men but not you Toke. You will continue to reap what you have sown.

    • lalaroses

      June 17, 2015 at 3:56 pm

      karma they say is a bitch

  131. Fleur

    June 14, 2015 at 9:34 pm

    Just wow., where have I been with this storm blowing through? Okay, let me invite the wrath of Toke fans by saying what might be a stark dose of honesty.
    First, what Maje has done is what most Nigerian guys do – poor or with means. THere is always a side chick. Second, the signs were there but TOke made a conscious decision to bite the bullet on this one. He dated you for 10, and in those 10 years, you shared vaginal fluids and germs with Anita Solomon for 8 of those years, courtesy of Maje? Honey, when did you learn about this situation? Did you not have enough of a gag reflex the first time you heard you were sharing to dump quickly? Then you actually let him put a ring on your finger WITHOUT pomp and pageantry. That was another low blow you let him deal you. He married like it was a funeral. In secret. Only both of you. That right there was evidence he did not want to marry. THird, he was machining both you and ANita for over a decade. Given ya ages, both of you were being machined at the same time. There had to be an out Toke? Why hang on when someone cannot make up his mind about you and is boning you and another babe? He did not care for both of you. I have always maintained that he did not look taken by you in any picture I have seen both of you feature in. He always looks like decoration that was dragged in by the decor company. It is because he was not with you in spirit. Every girl has instinct that will tell you when a man is crazy about you. Wont stop Nigerian men from dipping but will keep his it thing more accountable. Welll, I usually dont give advice on marriage because I have an all or none, me only or the highway policy that is just so alien to the Nigerian man. So, my advice to Toke would be why share when the decision to share was not initiated by you? That is me oh, I am very self serving. Now that there is a child, there is official reason for Maje to be in Calabar to visit with his child. How do you know they are not boning when he is visiting? Why traumatize yourself with that information anyway? So like I said, I am very selfish when it comes to my body and my soul. I dont share. I dont recommend sharing. I dont want to have my heart in my mouth each time I have a routine check for HIV, Hep B, Hep C and Herpes. For that reason, I have zero tolerance for roaming. I have convinced my body that celibacy is king compared to the drama of HIV and its brothers. So please Toke, make the right decision for you. If you accept polygamy, then you know what to do. If you cannot share body fluids with people you dont know then you know what to do. Ball is in ya court.
    Maje, if you notice, I did not even offer you any options. Whatever happens will be okay by you because you dont really know what you want or need so your opinion is irrelevant. You have an itchy dick and it is in control of your brain and that is a whole lot of psycho drama that you will have to find a way to deal with. If Toke leaves, it wont matter to you. You never loved her in the first place. If Anita leaves, you will not really care. I dont think you are capable of being fascinated by a child or any other human. So just wait until they both make decisions about you. I suspect Anita is planning to keep you since you have declared pay day with a million naira hair salon. I don comot from Bella Mbok. No be small dissertation Maje caused me to deliver.

    • BuharisSideChick

      June 14, 2015 at 10:57 pm

      @Fleur, absolute bunkum. I disagree with you on the …..marriage without pomp and Pageantry….” statement. It is because of statements like this that makes young couples incur debts all in the name of wedding. Did Toke put a gun to Maje’s head? Do you know their financial situation at the time? For someone of Toke’s status, the wedding would never be big enough if they had decided to feed the nation. Why do that when you can put your money to good use?

      Left to me eh, marriage can cost N50k. Na my mama and her meeting people go shame. Native law and custom in my father’s living room. Schnapps and kolanut + offers prayer. What is the purpose of native law and customs in marriage? The boys family comes to ask for the girls hand. Once her father hands her over both are considered married. Same day go to the registry with your besties. Come back home eat jollof rice cooked by your mother. Everybody enter house go and multiply.

      Wrapping yams in foil and putting ribbons on gallons of palm oil is all show off. Look at me, l can organise the baddest and biggest wedding ever. Two months later marriage na yakare.

      Maje is a grown ass man who had two girls and chose Toke over the other period. That he chose to be a dog is his cross to bear. BTW, l am not a Toke voltron. But what is fair is fair.

      End of Rant.

    • Kili

      June 15, 2015 at 12:04 am

      Can I help him or her out, I think by pomp and pageantry he/she meant marriage with relevant/important people present. Honestly I agree with fleur, let your family members meet/know your spouse, it is very Important.

    • Renix

      June 15, 2015 at 4:27 pm

      @kili, read @BuharisSideChick’s comment again. If the traditional marriage happens in the girls father’s living room and her father hands her over to the groom’s family, who are those that can be more important or relevant? Anything beyond and above this na party.

      All those saying Toke forced Maje into marriage are liars. Maje and Toke did introduction which involved both families. So, all Maje family members that followed to go and ask for Toke’s hand in marriage were also forced? See, as for small impromptu wedding, Maje no gat money to do any elaborate wedding.

      Wedding could have happened long before it did. Like most girls, Toke wanted an elaborate society wedding but bro Maje no gats money. When Toke saw that the bros fit like lay like play no do wedding, she it was who was forced to accept a small wedding. In every family, there is a black sheep. Maje is the black sheep of the Ayida family. Don’t ask, but l know.

    • lalaroses

      June 17, 2015 at 3:51 pm

      seems to me like Toke is the side chick…there’s more ‘spirit’ in maje’s pics with Anita….pics don’t lie..Anita seems to have won here. anyway good thesis..I’m with you on the “no sharing of body fluids, better be celibate” mantra..hiv is not what will take me out of this earth without fulfilling my purpose. nuff said.

  132. Seun

    June 14, 2015 at 9:36 pm

    Karma is a bitch! Payback for the aristo moves…

    • lalaroses

      June 17, 2015 at 3:35 pm

      aristo indeed…too much razzmatazzz

  133. Mabel

    June 14, 2015 at 10:50 pm

    Everything makes perfect sense now, why they had an almost secret wedding and why it took 12 years to get there. Seems as though her hubby’s heart was elsewhere all along. Men, please marry the woman of your heart and stop playing with people’s emotions. Stringing someone along for more than a decade and in the end still making a family with a woman you were seeing for 8 years…jeez, what a waste of time and needless heartache for so many.

  134. felinda

    June 14, 2015 at 11:34 pm

    THIS IS A UNIVERSAL FACY AND I AM SAYING IT LOUD AND CLEAR, ITS NOT JUST AN AFRICAN THING,

    IN THIS WORLD WHEN THE WOMAN MAKES MORE MONEY THAN THE MAN AND GETS MORE PUBLIC ATTENTION THE MAN DUE TO INSECURITIES OF FEEL ING LESS THAN A MAN COUPLED WILL EGO 10 OUT OF 10 WILL NOT STAY AND WILL CHEAT ON YOU, NO MATTER WHAT. HE WILL CHEAT ON YOU WITH A LESS ATTRAVTIVE BITCH WHO HE FINANCIALLY TAKES CARE OF AND MAKES HIM FEEL MORE LIKE A MAN. SORRY TOKE ITS JUST A FACT, IT HAPPENED TO THE FINEST WOMEN ON THE PLANET INCLUDING PRINCESS DI AND HALLE AND POSSIBLY BEYONCE AS WE SPEAK. Most MEN ARE FOOLS WHO PREFER 20% TO 80%.

    Who wil argue me with this FACT.

  135. Naomi

    June 15, 2015 at 1:33 am

    Hmm, all this happens because we live in a society unfair to women. Try this in England or even United states… Just mere separation and the guy will be a big LOSER… Anything as little as disrespect or as big as cheating will land u in divorce court, if the guy has no money he is finished, coz he will divide his property into 2, and if he’s rich, well ask Tiger woods…
    Rich guys that cheat regret also, Kobe practically begged his wife not to divorce him,
    see if we had strict laws and traditions against disrespecting women all dis shameless men would know better, just have proof of his cheating and he’s gone.

    Like Uti said i fear God more than juju, if u r afraid of juju then why arent you scared of your vows, how would u feel cheating men if this happened to your sister?

    Fact is as long as the law and african tradition dont enforce support for women, this would continue. He cheated and there is big ‘evidence’ of this cheating. I really wish Toke was married under English law in England, then she would have a solid case, pity tradition wont support her.

    Internet warriors, continue fighting Toke online. You cant try it to her face.

  136. Hian

    June 15, 2015 at 2:27 am

    She should have stayed home more, she should have put him in her pocket, she did not give him love and care, she should have carried him on her head. She should not have married him, blah blah blah. Toke may God give you strength to get through this. You are a great business woman. These miserable girls are happy you have some sort of issue but you will rise from this. They are sitting under some man who throws them crumbs once in a while but you my sister, you will be alright. Keep your head up. We all make mistakes, if this man is not for you…walk away and you will find happiness. If you choose to stay just be careful. You obviously have so many “friends” who have been praying for your downfall..as seen in the comment sections of many bligs.

  137. Bvl

    June 15, 2015 at 6:15 am

    Toolz i suspect you will be next.. #Desperatethings

  138. Anonymous

    June 15, 2015 at 7:01 am

    Whatever disturbs your heart, whatever doesn’t feel right, let it go!

  139. Naomi

    June 15, 2015 at 7:48 am

    Hmm, all this happens because we live in a society unfair to women. Try this in England or even United states… Just mere separation and the guy will be a big LOSER… Anything as little as disrespect or as big as cheating will land u in divorce court, if the guy has no money he is finished, coz he will divide his property into 2, and if he’s rich, well ask Tiger woods…
    Rich guys that cheat regret also, Kobe practically begged his wife not to divorce him,
    see if we had strict laws and traditions against disrespecting women all dis shameless men would know better, just have proof of his cheating and he’s gone.

    Like Uti said i fear God more than juju, if u r afraid of juju then why arent you scared of your vows, how would u feel cheating men if this happened to your sister?

    Fact is as long as the law and african tradition dont enforce support for women, this would continue. He cheated and there is big ‘evidence’ of this cheating. I really wish Toke was married under English law in England, then she would have a solid case, pity tradition wont support her.

    Internet warriors, continue fighting Toke online. You cant try it to her face.

  140. OJ

    June 15, 2015 at 9:32 am

    Toke had this coming for a long time… She will rather do social media than focus on her family. I remember her husband once pasted on it twitter that she will rather LIVE A FAKE LIFE on social media than attend to her husband. This is what you get.

    All you ladies should learn from this. Set your priorities right! And stop LIVING A FAKE LIFE.

    It always backfires. Hopefully, they’ll find a way around it

  141. Missthain

    June 15, 2015 at 10:11 am

    COULD THIS BE TRUE????!!!!! Thought things like this only happens in movies!!!!
    So let’s assume this is true… what I’m waiting to see is if she’ll stay or pack her bags. I know there are people already advising her to pray and all will be well, while she lives the rest of her life in her husbands house in misery…. For you to have a vlog dear I believe you are smart and know what to do… PACK YOUR BAGS!!!!! A man that could do this to you would conveniently hire people to kill you…. I don’t want to be believe the whole “I’M SORRY, PLEASE FORGIVE ME IT WONT HAPPEN AGAIN” shit would work for this kind of eish

  142. Alert!

    June 15, 2015 at 11:18 am

    He and Toke courted for 11 years, he dated this ex for 8 years? Odiegwu! To cut simple story short. Maje was two timing all along.

    Ladies, please DO NOT be so desperate to tie a man down in the name of marriage, any such guy will take you for granted and treat you like trash. Everything about Toke has always been FAKE. Lesson for girls who always try to portray a superficial life on social media.

  143. paloma

    June 15, 2015 at 11:58 am

    so sad…..am just speechless

  144. BellaReader

    June 15, 2015 at 12:57 pm

    Toke, God is your strength. You will make it through this by His grace. Amen,

  145. Finest

    June 15, 2015 at 4:37 pm

    Peopleeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee. I hail o , we Nigerians can judgeeeeeeeeeeeee. So, it’s Tokes fault now that she has a career and she’s not always depending on her man for every of her needs. So because she married, sheshould stay at home and nurse her husband so that he will not jump into skirts with other women? Look, let’s call a spade a spade. That guy is not worth her tears at all. And to be factual, Toke saw the signs (the guy having an affair with someone else whilst dating Toke). She erased the sign in thinking her love for him would make him stop his relationship with the other girl. Toke, as much as I like ur personality, you caused ur self this pain by marrying a cheat. Entering a marriage believing for example that a cheat, liar, thief would change even if the other party gives his/her all is a fiction. It’s only God Almighty and difficult situations that can change a human being. Ur being married to a cheat no matter how much love or card will not change that person. Take heart and think of want out of life. I wish I all the best.
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  146. LILO

    June 15, 2015 at 11:28 pm

    @Renix….take this as a fact, there was never a proper introduction ceremony between toke and maje? There was family gathering at the Ayidas, toke attended like everbody else. She posted the photos online, rumors started swirling that the did introduction. Toke played along, maje publicly denied it. Even ope, toke’s sister wasn’t at the event. How can your sister not attend your introduction ceremony! Mschewwwwww

  147. Concerned_Boyfriend

    June 15, 2015 at 11:47 pm

    If the story is confirmed to be true then here ‘s my point of view, Maje made a complete fool of himself. He’s the world’s greatest loser. He lost on all front!. He lost both women and brought an innocent soul to the world to share in the misery of a broken home. Not only that he sets a very bad precedence for his coming generation. No woman in her right mind would want to be involved with a man like this. Not a single reasonable woman in the world!!.. One thing I learned these past few years is that being unfaithful has a huge price and when that time comes to pay, it is inevitable and it is a bitter, life-changing experience. My heart goes out to Toke!. Years served in any relationship is nothing but numbers if it isn’t memorable years filled with lots of love and laughter. Weeping and sorrow may last the night but joy comes in the morning (Psalm 30:5)

  148. bee

    June 16, 2015 at 12:10 am

    If this is true, I know that Toke will be fine. She’s a Christian woman and her faith with lead her on.
    God’s speed Toke!

  149. Benita

    June 17, 2015 at 6:02 am

    Sincerely, this will teach toke to stop holier than thou vlogs. She talks about how to treat UR man, not sleep wi married men, be a strong babe et al. Girl, there is no hard and fast rule to life. You keep judging people now the drama has befallen you. Maje was dating another woman donkey years alongside u, what did u think, marriage will make him change. You r just naive. You kept talking about UR love for him, how many times did he talk about his love for u. All these ones were to look good and make UR friends jealous. Typical of newly married women. I just laugh. You were there make blogs another single former lover of UR husband was busy screwing his brains out. Sorry love, marriage doesn’t mean u are the loved one. The foundation was wrong in the beginning. A strong babe would ve walked, but u were interested in making news, celebrity suprise marriages and illusion of happiness . To the extent u started doling out advise. Next time you won’t judge. U will be there there will produce Brady bunch on your head. Let me tell you nigerian women, marriage is not the be all. It doesn’t make u the most loved , or the prefered. A man will always go where his heart is. It could be at home or outside. Only wise women discern which position they really are. Marriage doesn’t give UR that position. Enough said!!!!

    • lalaroses

      June 17, 2015 at 3:33 pm

      You said it all. I noticed the guy rarely talks about her, as if he married her out of obligation and for her glamorous brand, his heart was prolly with that ex who I noticed is not as “beautiful” as the world will accept….but its not about beauty…similar story with the Leila Lopez Miss Universe and the New York Giants star Osi Umenyiora, his heart is still with his ex, and he marries Leila for razzmatazz . I always say people preach about the area of their greatest weakness. To each their own. I am sure she is learning her lesson. These things happen to people all over the world, the fact that they are in spotlight makes it more intriguing. I wish them all the best.

  150. lalaroses

    June 17, 2015 at 3:54 pm

    Toke needs to humble herself, swallow her pride, don’t care what people say and get out of this situation and pray that she meets her true love some day. As for Maje, he has already done what he needs to do and shame on him for deceiving the poor toke all along. he is no different from bruce jenner or rachel dolezal…lying their lives away while their heart is actually somewhere else, or to be someone else. That’s life. It goes on. Hope they all recover from this mess.

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